Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self Love Podcast for Women

With special guest: my Sister!!! For my 28th birthday, I sat down with my 18-year-old sister to share 28 truths about confidence, dating, boys, people, and being a woman with self-worth.This conversation moves from chaotic sister humor to the deeper realities of building confidence as a woman. We talk about why most mistakes get made after midnight, how everything feels more dramatic in the dark, and why intensity is not the same thing as compatibility. We unpack the difference between attraction and anxiety, and why calm, secure love can is often the healthiest.Beyond dating and relationships, we get into the foundations of self-love: choosing your environment wisely, eating consistently, setting boundaries without over-explaining, and remembering that no one is coming to save you. We talk about body image, spotlight syndrome, conquering insecurities, being the average of the people you spend time with, getting to know your mom as a person, and why embarrassment is a choice.I hope this Mary’s Cup of Tea episode feels like a confidence pep talk from your virtual big sister.Remember: “The worst thing in the world can happen, but the next day the sun will come up. And you will eat your toast. And you will drink your tea.”Hope this episode is somehow entertaining and somewhat useful to your self-love journey.If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread women empowerment and self-love!Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.Follow Mary Jelkovsky on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastMentioned In This Episode...Mary’s Self-Love Playlist: maryscupoftea.com/playlist Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

When the external world feels heavy, your internal world must stay regulated. Self-care is not about escaping reality. It’s about standing steadily inside it. This conversation is about how to stay emotionally regulated when the noise feels constant and the news cycle never ends.We’ll talk about protecting your energy, being intentional with your attention, and practicing self-care through boundaries with yourself. If your mental health has felt stretched thin by the state of the world, this episode offers perspective and encouragement.You will learn about…how social media functions similarly to propagandawhy energy management might be better than time managementhow I approach giving and charitable contributionthe idea of “joy stacking” as a form of self carewhy eye contact is a form of resistancesmall rituals that help you come back home to yourselfRemember: self-care is not disengagement from the world, it is how you stay resourced enough to meet it. Real self-care supports your mental health AND lets you contribute to causes you care about.If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Your support expands our self-love circle and shows others that mental health matters.Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.Follow Mary's self care journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastMentioned In This Episode...A Small Light series on Prime Video“I’m Russian. Here’s how propaganda really works” by Silent East Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Many women talk about anxiety as if it’s a personality trait, but Dr. Ellen Vora offers a different lens: anxiety could be a mind-body signal that something in your mental health ecosystem needs support. In this conversation, we unpack what women misunderstand about anxiety, why mental health is deeply physical, and how to stop seeing anxiety as a personal flaw.You will learn…the difference between “false anxiety” vs. “true anxiety” (and why that distinction changes everything)is it the mind-body connection or the body-mind connection?how women’s bodies, hormones, and cultural stressors create a unique anxiety landscapethe drawbacks of traditional cognitive behavioral therapyphysical ways to take care of your mental health Remember: Anxiety doesn’t automatically mean something is mentally wrong with you. Often it’s your physical body asking for care, and sometimes it’s your inner compass asking for honesty. Either way, you deserve support that helps you feel safer in your body and steadier in your mental health.Dr. Ellen Vora is a board-certified psychiatrist who takes a functional medicine approach to mental health. Dr. Vora received her B.A. from Yale University and her M.D. from Columbia University. She’s also the bestselling author of The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body’s Fear Response where she shares a whole-person perspective on anxiety, mental health, and overall well-being– especially for women.Follow Dr. Ellen on Instagram: @ellenvoramd Get Dr. Ellen’s book, The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body’s Fear ResponseAnd if you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @ellenvoramdMentioned In This Episode...Quit Like a Woman by Holly WhitakerHealing Back Pain: The Mind-Body Connection by Dr. John SarnoThe Way Out by Alan Gordonresearch on Ketamine-assisted therapyWizard of Oz & Dark Side of the Moon Pink Floyd Theory EXPLAINED Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Sometimes the parts of us we’re trying hardest to fix are the ones working the hardest to protect us. Inspired by one of the best mental health books I’ve read recently, this episode offers a compassionate framework for understanding your inner world without pathologizing it.If you’ve ever felt conflicted, inconsistent, or torn in different directions, this conversation is for you. It explores why inner tension does not mean you are failing at mental health. It might actually make a lot of sense. This episode reviews my biggest takeaways from the book No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz.We’ll explore ideas like:Why there are no bad parts — only misunderstood onesHow self-compassion creates internal safety instead of controlThe difference between being protector-led vs. Self-ledWhy mental health isn’t about eliminating inner conflict, but learning how to relate to itWhat it looks like to stay engaged with the world while still protecting your energy We also touch on something many of us struggle with: how to care deeply about the world without letting its weight completely overwhelm you. And why true self love does not require numbing out, bypassing reality, or carrying everything alone.Remember: Every part of your personality that you do not love will become hostile. The goal is not to get rid of parts of yourself, but to change how you relate to them.If you’re enjoying this self love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Your support helps spread conversations about mental health, confidence, and self-love in a way that feels real and sustainable.Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.Follow Mary's self love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastMentioned In This Episode...No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz “How to talk to the worst parts of yourself” TEDx talk by Karen Faith Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

WOW!!! This just might be the most enlightening, inspiring interview on Mary’s Cup of Tea, thanks to our guest, Samantha Chung. Rooted in self-love and self-worth, Sam’s approach to manifestation is deep yet simple, grounded yet expansive, firm yet deeply compassionate.Contrary to popular belief, isn’t about positive thinking, vision boards, or proving your worth — it’s about the relationship you have with yourself. Sam explains why healing shame, releasing self-criticism, and relating to yourself with compassion is what actually changes what you attract.You will learn about...the surprising link between loving yourself and manifesting your dreamshow to reconcile manifestation teachings with privilege, access, and real-world limitationswhy Sam hates the word “manifestation” and the connotations it comes withhow to repair a punitive, damaged relationship with yourselfwhy self-compassion will not you complacentwhat body-image struggles reveal about safety, control, and self worthhow to face your own unworthiness and make contact with a deeply supportive part of yourselfthe ONLY emotion that lowers your vibrationaccess the emotional experience you think money, love, or success will finally give yousee manifestation as a lifestyle rooted in self-love, not a method to fix yourselfRemember: Manifestation doesn't work without self-worth. It's not about getting or achieving something, it's about who you become along the way.Samantha Chung is a transformational life and mindset coach, viral content creator, and host of the top-ranking podcast Spiraling Higher. She is on a mission to help people break free from their conditioned narratives and awaken to their most authentic, limitless selves. Her paradigm-shifting perspectives have inspired millions to step into self-love and embody their highest potential. Today, she’s here to help you do the same.Follow Sam on Instagram: @simplifying.samLearn more about Sam’s private coaching here.Share this self love podcast with the women in your life or on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @simplifying.sam Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Self love isn’t just about accepting yourself as you are or chasing a better version of yourself. It’s about learning how to hold contradictory parts of yourself with self compassion and curiosity.This conversation explores self love, confidence, mental health, body image, and self-awareness through the lens of growth, rest, insecurity, joy, and becoming. If you’re in your late 20s, or going through a big life transition, this episode is for you.You will learn how to…reframe the way you think about insecuritiesquestion diet culture, beauty standards, productivity, and comparisonunderstand how pleasure can coexist with painRemember: self love is not about reaching a healed or perfected version of yourself. It’s about staying honest, present, and compassionate through every season of becoming.If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to continue spreading the gift of self love.Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastMentioned In This Episode...Beauty Sick by Dr. Renee EngelnNo Bad Parts by Dr. Richard SchwartzFlesh World, Substack by Jessica DeFino Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Astrology can be a grounding, practical tool for self-love and mental health, especially for women navigating change. Daniela from Cosmic Latte joins me to break down rising signs, moon energy, and Saturn returns—and how understanding your zodiac chart can help you meet yourself with more compassion, confidence, and care. Whether you’re looking to add a little whimsy to your life or fully devote yourself to the stars, this episode is equal parts fun and educational.You will learn about...why most daily horoscopes are incorrectthe importance of knowing your rising signhow the moon influences mood, energy, and confidencehow astrology can help you build routines that support your mental healthwhat a Saturn return brings up in your late 20s (and why it’s not all doom)the astrology of weekdays i.e. how to plan your week around the planets Remember: Self-love isn’t about fixing yourself—it’s about understanding yourself and letting that understanding soften the way you show up. Daniela Karpenos is a New York-based astrologer and founder of Cosmic Latte, a community of 200,000+ unique souls worldwide devoted to feeding spiritual curiosity, creativity, and connection. With her Leo sun flair and Cancer moon intuition, she shares playful astrology content to help you discover your “you-niverse.”Get your personalized eclipse guidebook from The Cosmic Latte here!Or book a private astrology reading with Daniela at thecosmiclatte.com and follow her on Instagram @thecosmiclatteMentioned In This Episode...The Astrology of Days GuideStardust (moon + cycle tracking app)No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz If you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @cosmiclatte so we can share this self-love journey with you! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

A vision board can be a powerful tool for self love when created intentionally. In this episode, Mary shares how to approach vision boarding as a self-love practice rooted in intention, self worth, and presence rather than pressure, perfection, or productivity.If you want Mary’s vision board template, you can get instant access at maryscupoftea.com/vision and follow along.Instead of focusing on how your life should look, this process invites you to reconnect with how you want it to feel — offering a refreshing approach to self love that prioritizes intention over outcome, being happy in your life (not just happy with it), and learning to enjoy the process of becoming someone you’re proud of.Tune in to learn…How to make a digital vision board that feels supportive instead of overwhelmingWhy intentions are much better than traditional goal-settingHow to manifest from self compassion rather than controlThe difference between being “happy with your life” vs. being happy in itWhat a vision board becomes when it’s rooted in self-worth, not pressure Remember: Your vision board is not a contract — it’s a conversation with your future self. What’s meant for you is already unfolding, and your only responsibility is to stay present, responsive, and kind to yourself along the way.If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to continue spreading the gift of self love.Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself. Follow Mary's self-love journey on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

As women, we’re often praised for being “good” — benevolent, proper, generous, and agreeable. But that version of goodness often comes at the expense of your mental health. And it requires a type of self-abandonment which leaves little room for complexity, creativity, or truth.Poet and writer Joy Sullivan joins Mary to explore why being “good” can be antithetical to being fully human. Together, they unpack purity culture (both religious and progressive), moral performance, and the shame that follows many women. They also explore Joy’s viral essay Tiny Evils and why allowing ourselves small, imperfect, human transgressions can actually reconnect us to creativity.You will learn how to…Question moral perfection without abandoning integrityUnderstand why goodness is often performativeReclaim creativity as survival, not productivityWrite and create with confidence and without censoring your vulnerabilityRemember: You don’t have to be flawless to be worthy. Your self worth is inherent. If you can love yourself as you are, your creativity will skyrocket.Joy Sullivan is a poet, teacher, and author of the national bestseller, *Instructions for Traveling West.* She received a Masters in poetry from Miami University and has served as the poet-in-residence for the Wexner Center for the Arts. Her work has appeared in places like Goop, Oprah Daily, and The Sunday Paper.In addition to leading international writing retreats, Joy has guest-lectured in classrooms from Stanford University to Florida International University and is the founder of Sustenance, a community designed to help writers revitalize and nourish their craft. Read her thoughts on the creative life in her Substack newsletter, Necessary SaltFollow Joy on Instagram: **@**joysullivanGet Joy’s poetry book *Instructions for Traveling West.*Learn more about Joy’s writing community, Sustenance, here.And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @joysullivan so other women can find this self-love podcast.Mentioned in This Episode…Tiny Evils by Joy SullivanGlamour UK featureMiranda JulyEllen BassAda Limón Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode, Mary explores seven principles of self love, using her Self-Love Tree framework as a calm and grounding guide for your year-end reflection and renewal.You will learn how to…Understand the roots of self-love: self-esteem, self-compassion, and self-worthApply the Self-Love Tree framework to your spiritual, emotional, mental, physical, social, romantic, and existential wellbeingCreate your own personalized self-love template to support next year’s intentionsMay you always ground yourself in your own unique individual framework for self love, whether that's a tree or something else you want to plant.If you enjoyed this episode, share it with your friends to spread the self love tea!Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books: 1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Mary talks with licensed psychotherapist Whitney Goodman about the harmful effects of toxic positivity on our mental health. We’ve all heard it, seen it, and experienced it — those moments when someone brushes off your pain and tells you to “just think positive!” It’s dismissive, overwhelming, and the opposite of self compassion.Whitney shares with us about... what toxic positivity is and the different areas it shows up in (specifically how it appears in religion, workplace, health, grief, etc)how toxic positivity differs from true self compassionthe antidote to toxic positivity how to talk to your loved ones when they are experiencing painself talk tools that will support your mental health without the pressure to have a positive mindset 24/7Whitney Goodman is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the hugely popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit, the founder of Calling Home, author of Toxic Positivity, and owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center, a private online therapy practice in Florida. Her work deeply resonates with women who are navigating boundaries, complex family systems, and the pressure to stay “positive” no matter what.Whitney earned her undergraduate degree at Tulane University and her graduate degree in Counseling Psychology from The University of Miami. She has advanced training in couples work, trauma, family dynamics, and chronic illness. Her writing appears in Psychology Today and she has been featured in The New York Times, Teen Vogue, NY Magazine, InStyle, and Good Morning America.A millennial therapist committed to making mental health information accessible, Whitney believes authenticity and emotional expression are essential to living a grounded, meaningful life. Her transparency around her own humanity helps normalize the full spectrum of feelings we all experience.Remember: “Happiness and positivity have become both a goal and an obligation.” But you don’t have to buy into that—real well-being honors your full emotional landscape and protects your mental health.Follow Whitney on Instagram: @sitwithwhitGet Whitney’s book Toxic Positivity here.And if you're enjoying this self love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @sitwithwhit.  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

If decision fatigue has you spiraling, this episode will help you reconnect with your needs, wants, desires, and values. Mary shares 7 steps for soothing anxiety, finding clarity, and making choices with confidence and from a place of self-love. You will learn how to... - Stop outsourcing your life to other people’s opinions - Regulate your nervous system so you can make decisions from a place of confidence and self love - Clarify your values and return to your own inner guidance Remember: self love isn’t about making the “perfect” choice. It’s about making the choice that honors who you are right now. This episode is a self-love reminder for women who feel stuck or overwhelmed by decision fatigue. If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to continue spreading the gift of self love. Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books: 1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself. Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast Mentioned In This Episode: Podcast Interview: Why Self Worth Starts in Your Body with Beatriz Victoria Albina Book: Stop Emotional Outsourcing by Béa Victoria Albina Mary’s viral video: “What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do” Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Relationship conflict doesn’t have to feel like walking on eggshells. With the right tools and a sense of confidence and self trust, even the messiest moments can become turning points for deeper intimacy. This conversation with relationship expert Baya Voce is packed with research-backed relationship advice that helps you understand why you fight the way you do—and how to shift patterns that have followed you for years. You will learn... what healthy fighting look like and how to navigate conflict with confidencethe different types of toxic tendencies many of us default to when triggereddo men and women differ when it comes to default patterns?Gottman’s 4 Horsemen, the subtle-but-deadly behaviors that quietly erode connectionwhat to do when you’ve asked your partner to change, but they can’t or won’thow to decide whether to stay in or leave a relationship Remember: A healthy relationship isn’t defined by “never fighting.” It’s about navigating conflict with confidence, a regulated nervous system, and trust in your ability to repair. Baya Voce is a relationship repair expert helping couples fight better and make up faster. She holds an MSW from Columbia University, is in ongoing supervision with Esther Perel, and is trained and mentored by Terry Real. Baya collaborates with Columbia University, MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies), and Rick Doblin on pioneering research into MDMA-assisted couples therapy. She regularly speaks at SXSW, and with over 5 million views, her TEDx talk on loneliness highlights the often-overlooked impact of relational disconnection. Follow Baya on Instagram: @bayavoceBaya’s Workbook on How To Bridge the “Effort Gap” in Your Relationship Get Baya’s free guide on what to say to your partner after a fight And if you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life to spread the gift of self love! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @bayavoce   Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

If intuitive eating feels harder during the holidays, you’re not alone. Between buffet tables, endless trigger foods, family comments, and social anxiety, it’s easy to slip into old, disordered eating habits. In this solo episode, Mary shares a simple but powerful intuitive eating tip that can help you feel less crazy around food. This mindset shift will help you approach holiday eating from a place of self compassion and self trust.This episode isn’t about what’s on your plate — it’s about how you relate to it. Because when food becomes tangled up with guilt, rules, or anxiety, it takes away from your ability to be present in the moment. Instead of succumbing to diet culture, use this intuitive eating tip to rebuild your sense of safety around food and feel more full, whole, and complete.If you’ve ever found yourself circling the snack table, cutting slivers of dessert, or trying to outsmart your hunger, this one’s going to hit home.You deserve to be fed, nourished, and loved.Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastIf you’re enjoying our self love podcast, please review the show and share it with the women in your life. Your support not only helps the show grow, but also spreads the message of self love– from intuitive eating to positive body image to self compassion as a whole. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

People mistakenly believe that self worth lives in the mind. Like if you just think confident thoughts or repeat affirmations like “I’m a worthy woman,” it’ll magically click. But if you’ve ever tried to think your way into feeling like you are enough, you’ve probably noticed… it doesn’t last. That’s because true self worth doesn’t start in your head — it starts in your body.In this episode, Mary talks with Beatriz Victoria Albina, a Somatic Life Coach and author of End Emotional Outsourcing, to explore how reconnecting with your body can transform your relationship with yourself. Béa explains that so many women have been taught to “emotionally outsource” — to base their worth on other people’s validation, approval, or emotions. Traditionally, this has been labeled as codependency, but Béa offers a more compassionate lens that helps us understand why we do it and how to heal.Together, they unpack what emotional outsourcing really means, how to regulate your nervous system, and how to come back home to yourself. This conversation will help you move beyond people pleasing and perfectionism and into a sense of embodied safety — where self worth isn’t something you have to prove, but something you feel.In this episode, you will learn…why and how self worth starts in the bodywhat emotional outsourcing is and how it differs from codependencyhow to break free from self abandonment and practice self compassionways to stop chronically people pleasing and detach from others’ emotions Beatriz Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, author of "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits" (published Sept 30) and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Born in Mar del Plata, Argentina, Béa grew up in the great state of Rhode Island. She has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives with her wife, Billey Albina and their handsome all-black cat Wade.🌿 Order Béa’s book End Emotional Outsourcing → beatrizalbina.com/book/🧘‍♀️ Try her free meditations → beatrizalbina.com/free-meditations/💌 Follow Béa on IG → @beatrizvictoriaalbinanp💖 Tag @maryspodcast and share this episode with the women in your life to spread the gift of self love! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Self love isn’t a one-time epiphany; it’s a lifelong practice of coming home to yourself. True self-love is rooted in deep self-awareness — because you can’t fully love yourself without first knowing yourself.This Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea episode brings together some of my favorite clips about healing through self-love. My hope is that these reminders meet you exactly where you are and offer a gentle nudge to keep showing up for yourself, even when the path feels messy or uncertain.In this episode, you’ll hear about:why the cure to burnout is NOT self carehow to detach your self worth from your productivitytools for healing from heartbreak and breakupsa simple trick for practicing compassionate self talkthe power of slowing down and restinghow to hold onto hope when everything sucksways to reconnect with yourself when you feel lostsimple, grounded ways to prioritize self love every daymindset shifts for self love, confidence, and knowing that you are enough Whether you’re coming out of burnout, trying to separate your worth from your work, or putting yourself back together after heartbreak, this episode is your reminder that self-love isn’t selfish. It’s essential. ✨ Deepen your self love journey with the full episodes featured:#237: 7 Self-Love Lessons I’m Taking Into My 27th Birthday#243: How to stay hopeful, soulful, and joyful with Victoria Hutchins#217: The Mistake We Make with Self-Love#180: Detaching Self-Worth from Productivity#138: Healing from Heartbreak#223: Dear Mary, how do I know if I’m on the right path?How to Love Yourself Through Trauma, Grief, and Chronic PainEp. 177: The Power of Slowing DownEp. 209: The Cure for Burnout is Not Self-Care with Amelia NagoskiEp. 156: Compassionate Self Talk#212: How To Be Honest with Yourself#122: Your Self-Love Survival Guide for When Everything Sucks#186: 5 Habits that Have Made Me a Better Person Listen to the other episodes in this Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea Series:Eating Disorder Recovery Tools for Women Who Are DONE with Diet CultureBody Love & Self Worth for Women Who Hate Beauty StandardsFemale Friendships Advice for Women Who Crave Deeper ConnectionHealthy Relationship Advice for Women Who Value Love That LastsPowerful Mental Health & Mindset Shifts for Women Who Feel LostConfidence Practices for Women Who Want to Trust Themselves AgainSelf Love Reminders for Women Who Are Ready for Healing Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastIf you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to continue spreading the self love tea! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Confidence isn’t something you either have or you don’t — it’s something you practice, lose, question, rebuild, and redefine a hundred times over.This “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” episode brings together some of the most powerful confidence advice. Whether you’re rebuilding your self confidence after a setback, learning to trust yourself again, or simply trying to quiet that inner critic, this episode is your reminder that confidence is a practice. It’s for women who want to embody AUTHENTIC confidence.We will unpack…signs that you’re struggling with self confidencemindset shifts that will help you feel more confidentwhy your insecurities might secretly be your strengthsadvice from my teen sister (aka my confidence icon) on embracing your uniquenesshow to stop comparing yourself to other versions of youways to deal with criticism and rejectionhow the language we use shapes our worldviewwhy affirmations don’t work (and what to do instead)what purpose means in the context of self lovehow to deal with uncertainty and self doubtWhether you’re looking to boost your confidence or learn to trust yourself again, let this episode be a reminder of your self worth.If you want to dive deeper into the confidence tips, here are the full episodes:Full episodes:Ep. 167: 5 Signs You’re Struggling with Self ConfidenceEp. 251: Delusional Mindset Shifts that Will Instantly Boost Your ConfidenceEp. 197: The Only Way to Conquer InsecuritiesConfidence Advice for Teen Girls Feat. My 17-Year-Old Sister (video)Ep. 127: Nervous About Your Purpose? Listen to this.Ep. 189: 5 Thought Patterns Keeping You Stuck in a Negative MindsetEp. 202: Dealing with CriticismEp. 69: Is Diet Culture a Cult? with Amanda MontellEp. 183: The Best Book on CommunicationHow To Build Confidence Through Mindfulness with Dr. Ellen LangerEp. 66: Dealing with Uncertainty, Fear, and DoubtEp. 57: Why Affirmations Don’t Work (and What to Do Instead)Ep. 135: On Being a Multi-Passionate, Empathetic Creative with Arielle Estoria💡 If you’re enjoying this self love podcast, share it with the women in your life!Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.Follow Mary Jelkovsky on Instagram: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Taking care of your mental health is never one-size-fits-all, especially for women who experience self-criticism, overwhelm, and constant comparison.This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series, where I gathered some of the most powerful conversations we’ve had across 250+ episodes. Today’s episode focuses on mental health and positive mindset shifts for women who are ready to get unstuck.You’ll hear clips on…motivating yourself with self compassion vs. self criticismletting go of control and perfectionismwhy women must approach mindset work through a feminist perspectivehow to redefine success on your termshealing your relationship to money and abundancethe underrated power of enthusiasmmantras to carry you through hard timeshow to process emotions effectivelycoping with feeling lost or “behind” in lifeusing the power of your mindset to cope with mental health strugglesLet this compilation be one giant reminder that you are enough and you are not alone. This self love podcast is here to support your mental health and mindset.✨ Deepen your journey with the full episodes on our self-love podcast:Ep 101: Stop Judging YourselfEp. 250: Productivity Meets Self-Compassion: Overcome Overwhelm with Oliver BurkemanEp. 207: Why Women Are Trapped in the Virgin/Mother/Whore Paradigm & How to Break Free w/ Kara Loewentheil, J.D.Ep 98: How to Cope with Capitalism and Embrace Courageous Living with Rha GoddessEp 189: 5 Thought Patterns Keeping You Stuck in a Negative MindsetEp. 53: Money, Abundance, and Alignment with Melyssa GriffinEp 195: The Most Underrated EmotionEp 134: How to Stop Struggling and Start LivingEp 90: To My PerfectionistsEp 226: 5 Mantras to Get You Through Hard TimesEp 224: How to Process Feelings and Emotions EffectivelyEp 233: Motivating Yourself with Self CompassionEp 163: Feeling Lost? Listen to this.Ep 185: Feeling Behind in Life? This one's for you.💡 If you’re enjoying this self love podcast, please share it with a friend who could use a gentle reminder that they’re not alone.Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.Follow Mary Jelkovsky on Instagram: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Healthy relationships are such a big part of self-love.But love, dating, and long-term partnership can feel complicated — especially when it comes to intimacy, communication, and navigating conflict. In this self-love podcast episode, we’re diving into relationship advice for women who value love that lasts.This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series, where I pulled together some of the most powerful conversations we’ve had across 250+ episodes. Today’s episode focuses on relationship advice. Whether you’re single, dating, married, or hoping for long-term partnership, you deserve safe, healthy love.You will hear about…early-stage dating advice from me and my husbandkeeping intimacy and sexual connection alive in long-term relationshipseasy ways to build eroticism and closeness with your partnerhow to create an egalitarian partnershipnavigating conflict, fighting fair, and communicating effectivelyrecognizing and healing from toxic dynamicscoping with heartbreak and learning to enjoy being singlebuilding up your self-worth to attract healthy, stable loveWhether you’re looking to boost your confidence in dating or strengthen your long-term partnership, tune in for practical, heartfelt relationship advice rooted in women empowerment.May this be a reminder that healthy relationships — romantic or otherwise — are a key part of self-love.If you want to dive deeper into relationships, intimacy, and healing, here are the full episodes:#199: Celebrating 1 Year Married w/ Husband! Dating and Relationship Advice#128: Making Your Relationship Last with Dr. Alexandra Solomon#194: How to Love Someone Without Losing Yourself with Dr. Alexandra SolomonHow to Feel Sexy in a Long-Term Relationship with Sexologist Shan Boodram#147: Make Your Relationship(s) Better with These 2 Tips#38: Sex, Orgasms, & Masturbation with Emily Nagoski#239: My Unfiltered Opinions on Marriage, Dating, and Love#168: Imbalances in Relationships & How to Fix Them with Eve Rodsky#203: Coping with Getting Ghosted and Family Estrangement w/ Minaa B., LMSW#157: Wedding Reflections w/ my HUSBAND!#175: When It Feels “Too Good To Be True”The #1 Relationship Tip That Transformed My Marriage, Family, and Friendships#73: Healing from Toxic Relationships, Embracing Sobriety, and Growing Up Asian-American with Kelly Uchima#138: Healing from Heartbreak#238: The Art of Moving On… Breakup Advice with Kendra AllenDeepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:The Gift of Self-Love – An interactive workbook that helps you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.100 Days of Self-Love – A guided self-love journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and embrace who you areFollow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastIf you’re enjoying this self love podcast, share it with your partner, friends, or anyone you want to nudge toward better relationships — and maybe try the eye-gazing challenge while you’re at it! ;) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This self love podcast is ALL about women empowerment, and friendships are such a key part of that.But female friendships in particular can feel complicated, especially as women navigate a world that often undervalues their emotional needs and social bonds. In this self-love podcast episode, we’re diving into friendship, connection, and how women can cultivate meaningful relationships in adulthood.This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series where you’ll hear a compilation of clips from our self-love podcast. Today’s episode focuses on friendships, connection, and the joy of being close to like-hearted women.You will hear about…how to make new friends as an adultways to get closer with your existing friendsbreaking past surface-level “catch-up culture” and building rituals that matterthe different types of friendships women can cultivate and why quality mattersnavigating conflict in female friendships with compassionovercoming fear of rejection and people-pleasing in relationshipswhy in-person gathering is an important part of community-buildingwhy asking for help is a powerful way to strengthen bondsWhether you already have great girl friends and want to get closer or are looking to find your people, this episode will help you with the who/ what/ where/ how and why.May this be a reminder that meaningful relationships are a key part of self-love and women’s empowerment.If you want to dive deeper into female friendships and building your support system, here are the full episodes:#236: Making Friends as an Adult – Where, How, and Why#236: How To Make Adult Friendships Easier with Kat VellosKat’s blog post about my neighbor’s BBQ#159: How To Make Your Friendships StrongerFeeling Lost After Eating Disorder Recovery and Befriending Like-Minded Women with Jessi Jean#230: Bestie Break-Ups and Why Female Friendships Feel So Fragile with Danielle Bayard Jackson#219: Should Your Partner Be Your Best Friend? with Rhaina Cohen#231: Meet My Bestie Dahli Durley! Neurodivergence, Retreat Reflections, and 2025 Goals#146: Overcoming Rejection and People Not Liking You#165: People-Pleasing Thought Patterns & How to Break Them with Béa Victoria Albina#190: How to Ask for & Receive HELP without Feeling Guilty#188: 12 Lessons Learned in 2023 (on Marriage, Family, and Friendships)Let these conversations be your friendly nudge to show up for the women who matter in your life. Because the people around you can make or break your self love journey.Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastIf you’re enjoying this self-love podcast, share it with the women in your life to support womens empowerment and promote self love. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.