Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self Love Podcast for Women

If intuitive eating feels harder during the holidays, you’re not alone. Between buffet tables, endless trigger foods, family comments, and social anxiety, it’s easy to slip into old, disordered eating habits. In this solo episode, Mary shares a simple but powerful intuitive eating tip that can help you feel less crazy around food. This mindset shift will help you approach holiday eating from a place of self compassion and self trust.This episode isn’t about what’s on your plate — it’s about how you relate to it. Because when food becomes tangled up with guilt, rules, or anxiety, it takes away from your ability to be present in the moment. Instead of succumbing to diet culture, use this intuitive eating tip to rebuild your sense of safety around food and feel more full, whole, and complete.If you’ve ever found yourself circling the snack table, cutting slivers of dessert, or trying to outsmart your hunger, this one’s going to hit home.You deserve to be fed, nourished, and loved.Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastIf you’re enjoying our self love podcast, please review the show and share it with the women in your life. Your support not only helps the show grow, but also spreads the message of self love– from intuitive eating to positive body image to self compassion as a whole. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

People mistakenly believe that self worth lives in the mind. Like if you just think confident thoughts or repeat affirmations like “I’m a worthy woman,” it’ll magically click. But if you’ve ever tried to think your way into feeling like you are enough, you’ve probably noticed… it doesn’t last. That’s because true self worth doesn’t start in your head — it starts in your body.In this episode, Mary talks with Beatriz Victoria Albina, a Somatic Life Coach and author of End Emotional Outsourcing, to explore how reconnecting with your body can transform your relationship with yourself. Béa explains that so many women have been taught to “emotionally outsource” — to base their worth on other people’s validation, approval, or emotions. Traditionally, this has been labeled as codependency, but Béa offers a more compassionate lens that helps us understand why we do it and how to heal.Together, they unpack what emotional outsourcing really means, how to regulate your nervous system, and how to come back home to yourself. This conversation will help you move beyond people pleasing and perfectionism and into a sense of embodied safety — where self worth isn’t something you have to prove, but something you feel.In this episode, you will learn…why and how self worth starts in the bodywhat emotional outsourcing is and how it differs from codependencyhow to break free from self abandonment and practice self compassionways to stop chronically people pleasing and detach from others’ emotions Beatriz Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, author of "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits" (published Sept 30) and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Born in Mar del Plata, Argentina, Béa grew up in the great state of Rhode Island. She has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives with her wife, Billey Albina and their handsome all-black cat Wade.🌿 Order Béa’s book End Emotional Outsourcing → beatrizalbina.com/book/🧘‍♀️ Try her free meditations → beatrizalbina.com/free-meditations/💌 Follow Béa on IG → @beatrizvictoriaalbinanp💖 Tag @maryspodcast and share this episode with the women in your life to spread the gift of self love! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Self love isn’t a one-time epiphany; it’s a lifelong practice of coming home to yourself. True self-love is rooted in deep self-awareness — because you can’t fully love yourself without first knowing yourself.This Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea episode brings together some of my favorite clips about healing through self-love. My hope is that these reminders meet you exactly where you are and offer a gentle nudge to keep showing up for yourself, even when the path feels messy or uncertain.In this episode, you’ll hear about:why the cure to burnout is NOT self carehow to detach your self worth from your productivitytools for healing from heartbreak and breakupsa simple trick for practicing compassionate self talkthe power of slowing down and restinghow to hold onto hope when everything sucksways to reconnect with yourself when you feel lostsimple, grounded ways to prioritize self love every daymindset shifts for self love, confidence, and knowing that you are enough Whether you’re coming out of burnout, trying to separate your worth from your work, or putting yourself back together after heartbreak, this episode is your reminder that self-love isn’t selfish. It’s essential. ✨ Deepen your self love journey with the full episodes featured:#237: 7 Self-Love Lessons I’m Taking Into My 27th Birthday#243: How to stay hopeful, soulful, and joyful with Victoria Hutchins#217: The Mistake We Make with Self-Love#180: Detaching Self-Worth from Productivity#138: Healing from Heartbreak#223: Dear Mary, how do I know if I’m on the right path?How to Love Yourself Through Trauma, Grief, and Chronic PainEp. 177: The Power of Slowing DownEp. 209: The Cure for Burnout is Not Self-Care with Amelia NagoskiEp. 156: Compassionate Self Talk#212: How To Be Honest with Yourself#122: Your Self-Love Survival Guide for When Everything Sucks#186: 5 Habits that Have Made Me a Better Person Listen to the other episodes in this Best of Mary’s Cup of Tea Series:Eating Disorder Recovery Tools for Women Who Are DONE with Diet CultureBody Love & Self Worth for Women Who Hate Beauty StandardsFemale Friendships Advice for Women Who Crave Deeper ConnectionHealthy Relationship Advice for Women Who Value Love That LastsMental Health & Mindset Shifts for Women Who Feel StuckConfidence Practices for Women Who Want to Trust Themselves AgainSelf Love Reminders for Women Who Are Ready for Healing Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastIf you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to continue spreading the self love tea! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Confidence isn’t something you either have or you don’t — it’s something you practice, lose, question, rebuild, and redefine a hundred times over.This “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” episode brings together some of the most powerful confidence advice. Whether you’re rebuilding your self confidence after a setback, learning to trust yourself again, or simply trying to quiet that inner critic, this episode is your reminder that confidence is a practice. It’s for women who want to embody AUTHENTIC confidence.We will unpack…signs that you’re struggling with self confidencemindset shifts that will help you feel more confidentwhy your insecurities might secretly be your strengthsadvice from my teen sister (aka my confidence icon) on embracing your uniquenesshow to stop comparing yourself to other versions of youways to deal with criticism and rejectionhow the language we use shapes our worldviewwhy affirmations don’t work (and what to do instead)what purpose means in the context of self lovehow to deal with uncertainty and self doubtWhether you’re looking to boost your confidence or learn to trust yourself again, let this episode be a reminder of your self worth.If you want to dive deeper into the confidence tips, here are the full episodes:Full episodes:Ep. 167: 5 Signs You’re Struggling with Self ConfidenceEp. 251: Delusional Mindset Shifts that Will Instantly Boost Your ConfidenceEp. 197: The Only Way to Conquer InsecuritiesConfidence Advice for Teen Girls Feat. My 17-Year-Old Sister (video)Ep. 127: Nervous About Your Purpose? Listen to this.Ep. 189: 5 Thought Patterns Keeping You Stuck in a Negative MindsetEp. 202: Dealing with CriticismEp. 69: Is Diet Culture a Cult? with Amanda MontellEp. 183: The Best Book on CommunicationHow To Build Confidence Through Mindfulness with Dr. Ellen LangerEp. 66: Dealing with Uncertainty, Fear, and DoubtEp. 57: Why Affirmations Don’t Work (and What to Do Instead)Ep. 135: On Being a Multi-Passionate, Empathetic Creative with Arielle Estoria💡 If you’re enjoying this self love podcast, share it with the women in your life!Deepen your self love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.Follow Mary Jelkovsky on Instagram: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Taking care of your mental health is never one-size-fits-all, especially for women who experience self-criticism, overwhelm, and constant comparison.This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series, where I gathered some of the most powerful conversations we’ve had across 250+ episodes. Today’s episode focuses on mental health and positive mindset shifts for women who are ready to get unstuck.You’ll hear clips on…motivating yourself with self compassion vs. self criticismletting go of control and perfectionismwhy women must approach mindset work through a feminist perspectivehow to redefine success on your termshealing your relationship to money and abundancethe underrated power of enthusiasmmantras to carry you through hard timeshow to process emotions effectivelycoping with feeling lost or “behind” in lifeusing the power of your mindset to cope with mental health strugglesLet this compilation be one giant reminder that you are enough and you are not alone. This self love podcast is here to support your mental health and mindset.✨ Deepen your journey with the full episodes on our self-love podcast:Ep 101: Stop Judging YourselfEp. 250: Productivity Meets Self-Compassion: Overcome Overwhelm with Oliver BurkemanEp. 207: Why Women Are Trapped in the Virgin/Mother/Whore Paradigm & How to Break Free w/ Kara Loewentheil, J.D.Ep 98: How to Cope with Capitalism and Embrace Courageous Living with Rha GoddessEp 189: 5 Thought Patterns Keeping You Stuck in a Negative MindsetEp. 53: Money, Abundance, and Alignment with Melyssa GriffinEp 195: The Most Underrated EmotionEp 134: How to Stop Struggling and Start LivingEp 90: To My PerfectionistsEp 226: 5 Mantras to Get You Through Hard TimesEp 224: How to Process Feelings and Emotions EffectivelyEp 233: Motivating Yourself with Self CompassionEp 163: Feeling Lost? Listen to this.Ep 185: Feeling Behind in Life? This one's for you.💡 If you’re enjoying this self love podcast, please share it with a friend who could use a gentle reminder that they’re not alone.Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.Follow Mary Jelkovsky on Instagram: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Healthy relationships are such a big part of self-love.But love, dating, and long-term partnership can feel complicated — especially when it comes to intimacy, communication, and navigating conflict. In this self-love podcast episode, we’re diving into relationship advice for women who value love that lasts.This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series, where I pulled together some of the most powerful conversations we’ve had across 250+ episodes. Today’s episode focuses on relationship advice. Whether you’re single, dating, married, or hoping for long-term partnership, you deserve safe, healthy love.You will hear about…early-stage dating advice from me and my husbandkeeping intimacy and sexual connection alive in long-term relationshipseasy ways to build eroticism and closeness with your partnerhow to create an egalitarian partnershipnavigating conflict, fighting fair, and communicating effectivelyrecognizing and healing from toxic dynamicscoping with heartbreak and learning to enjoy being singlebuilding up your self-worth to attract healthy, stable loveWhether you’re looking to boost your confidence in dating or strengthen your long-term partnership, tune in for practical, heartfelt relationship advice rooted in women empowerment.May this be a reminder that healthy relationships — romantic or otherwise — are a key part of self-love.If you want to dive deeper into relationships, intimacy, and healing, here are the full episodes:#199: Celebrating 1 Year Married w/ Husband! Dating and Relationship Advice#128: Making Your Relationship Last with Dr. Alexandra Solomon#194: How to Love Someone Without Losing Yourself with Dr. Alexandra SolomonHow to Feel Sexy in a Long-Term Relationship with Sexologist Shan Boodram#147: Make Your Relationship(s) Better with These 2 Tips#38: Sex, Orgasms, & Masturbation with Emily Nagoski#239: My Unfiltered Opinions on Marriage, Dating, and Love#168: Imbalances in Relationships & How to Fix Them with Eve Rodsky#203: Coping with Getting Ghosted and Family Estrangement w/ Minaa B., LMSW#157: Wedding Reflections w/ my HUSBAND!#175: When It Feels “Too Good To Be True”The #1 Relationship Tip That Transformed My Marriage, Family, and Friendships#73: Healing from Toxic Relationships, Embracing Sobriety, and Growing Up Asian-American with Kelly Uchima#138: Healing from Heartbreak#238: The Art of Moving On… Breakup Advice with Kendra AllenDeepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:The Gift of Self-Love – An interactive workbook that helps you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.100 Days of Self-Love – A guided self-love journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and embrace who you areFollow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastIf you’re enjoying this self love podcast, share it with your partner, friends, or anyone you want to nudge toward better relationships — and maybe try the eye-gazing challenge while you’re at it! ;) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This self love podcast is ALL about women empowerment, and friendships are such a key part of that.But female friendships in particular can feel complicated, especially as women navigate a world that often undervalues their emotional needs and social bonds. In this self-love podcast episode, we’re diving into friendship, connection, and how women can cultivate meaningful relationships in adulthood.This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series where you’ll hear a compilation of clips from our self-love podcast. Today’s episode focuses on friendships, connection, and the joy of being close to like-hearted women.You will hear about…how to make new friends as an adultways to get closer with your existing friendsbreaking past surface-level “catch-up culture” and building rituals that matterthe different types of friendships women can cultivate and why quality mattersnavigating conflict in female friendships with compassionovercoming fear of rejection and people-pleasing in relationshipswhy in-person gathering is an important part of community-buildingwhy asking for help is a powerful way to strengthen bondsWhether you already have great girl friends and want to get closer or are looking to find your people, this episode will help you with the who/ what/ where/ how and why.May this be a reminder that meaningful relationships are a key part of self-love and women’s empowerment.If you want to dive deeper into female friendships and building your support system, here are the full episodes:#236: Making Friends as an Adult – Where, How, and Why#236: How To Make Adult Friendships Easier with Kat VellosKat’s blog post about my neighbor’s BBQ#159: How To Make Your Friendships StrongerFeeling Lost After Eating Disorder Recovery and Befriending Like-Minded Women with Jessi Jean#230: Bestie Break-Ups and Why Female Friendships Feel So Fragile with Danielle Bayard Jackson#219: Should Your Partner Be Your Best Friend? with Rhaina Cohen#231: Meet My Bestie Dahli Durley! Neurodivergence, Retreat Reflections, and 2025 Goals#146: Overcoming Rejection and People Not Liking You#165: People-Pleasing Thought Patterns & How to Break Them with Béa Victoria Albina#190: How to Ask for & Receive HELP without Feeling Guilty#188: 12 Lessons Learned in 2023 (on Marriage, Family, and Friendships)Let these conversations be your friendly nudge to show up for the women who matter in your life. Because the people around you can make or break your self love journey.Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastIf you’re enjoying this self-love podcast, share it with the women in your life to support womens empowerment and promote self love. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Body love can feel impossible in a world obsessed with beauty standards, especially for women. In this self love podcast episode, we’re diving into body love, self worth, and how women can navigate a world that often undervalues them.This is part of our “Best Of Mary’s Cup of Tea” series where you’ll hear a compilation of clips from our self love podcast. Today’s topic addresses how to love yourself beyond your appearance and approach body image challenges with self compassion.You will hear about…how to be body positive and navigate health challenges with self compassiondetaching your self worth from beauty standards and external validationthe slew of socio-cultural forces that make body love really fckn hard for womenhow to decide what clothes to wear when you’re having a bad body image daybody shame in the bedroomdealing with weight gainpractical ways to cultivate body love and self worth Whether you’re starting your journey toward body love or just need a refresher, these conversations will remind you that your self worth is not determined by your appearance.If you want to dive deeper into your body love journey, here are the links to the full episodes:Can Food Freedom Coexist with Chronic Conditions (PCOS, Celiacs, Crohns, IBS, etc)? with Abbie AttwoodHow to Be Body Positive AND Pursue HealthConquering Summer Body Image StrugglesHow Women's Body Image is Plagued by "Beauty Sickness" w/ Dr. Renee EngelnYour Summer Body (a Pep Talk for Body Love)Where Beauty Standards Come From and How to Stop Self-Objectification with Dr. Lindsay KiteHow to Love Yourself Through Bad Body Image DaysFeeling Like Your Body Betrayed You with Grief Expert Ashley LemieuxConquering Body Shame in the BedroomDealing with Weight GainDeepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself.Follow Mary Jelkovsky on Instagram: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastIf you’re enjoying this self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to challenge beauty standards, inspire body love, and spread the gift of self love. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Eating disorder recovery is possible, even if it feels difficult at times. So many women struggle in silence with disordered eating and the constant pressure of diet culture, even if they’re not formally diagnosed with an eating disorder.In this special “Best Of” episode, I’m sharing some of the most powerful moments from our self-love podcast. And today’s topic is eating disorder recovery, breaking free from diet culture and leaning into intuitive eating. You’ll hear bits and pieces of my personal eating disorder story, what helped me recover from bulimia, as well as advice from therapists and dietitians.You will hear about...how diet culture works in insidious waysmy experience with an eating disorder (bulimia + binge eating)the root cause of binge eating and how to break the cyclewhat finally helped me overcome binge eatingwhy intuitive eating works is so much more liberating than any diet or weight loss program Whether you are just beginning your eating disorder recovery journey or you’ve been working at it for years, these conversations will remind you that recovery is not only possible—it’s worth it.Here are the links to the full episodes:Sneaky Eating Disorder Habits You Might Still Struggle WithThe Spiritual Side of Eating Disorder Recovery with Dr. Anita JohnstonHow Diet Culture Hijacks Women’s Wellness with Christy Harrison, MPHGiving Up Fitness Influencing (Christy Harrison Interviews Mary Jelkovsky)My Entire Eating Disorder Story: the Dark Side of Bikini CompetitionsWhy Binge Eating Isn’t Really About Food with Nutritionist and Therapist Ryann PrenticeHow Intuitive Eating Helped Heal with Elyse Resch, MS, RDNAn Intuitive Eating Mindset Hack: Balance vs. Harmony If you’re enjoying our self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to combat diet culture, promote positive body image, and spread the gift of self love.Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook to help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts for calming self-criticism and learning to love yourself. Follow Mary Jelkovsky on Instagram: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Many women phase bad body image days, especially in a world that equates beauty with self worth.If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and struggled to feel comfortable in your skin, then this episode is for you. The relationship between body image and self-love is complex, but I’m here to remind you that body love is possible.By shifting our focus from our body image to how our bodies feel, we can reject beauty standards and build our self esteem.Tune in to learn...why the phrase “body image” or “body positivity” is a bit misleadinga somatic exercise that will instantly help you love yourselfone question to ask yourself to invite in more confidence and self-loveThis episode is not just about body love; it's a heartfelt discussion on self confidence, self esteem, and reclaiming self worth beyond our bodies.Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastIf you enjoyed this episode, share it with the women in your life to help spread this self love tea!🫖 P.S. This self love podcast episode pairs beautifully with: Mary’s TEDx Talk about body-image Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Diet culture has a sneaky way of showing up everywhere. From weightloss plans disguised as “lifestyle changes” to wellness trends promising to heal everything from your skin to your soul. In this encore episode, I’m joined by Christy Harrison, MPH, RD—author of The Wellness Trap and Anti-Diet—to unpack how diet culture infiltrates the wellness world and impacts women’s health in ways that are anything but healthy.Christy explains how the multi-billion-dollar wellness industry often sells us pseudoscience, dubious diagnoses, and rigid food rules that can lead to disordered eating, body image issues, and mental health struggles. We talk about why so many people—especially women—get caught in this cycle, how eating disorders aren’t always obvious, and why scientific literacy is one of the most powerful tools for protecting your health.You will learn... Why diet culture’s obsession with weight loss harms physical and mental healthHow wellness trends exploit fear to sell ineffective or harmful solutionsThe connection between restrictive eating, binge eating, bulimia, and long-term health issuesWhy women are extra susceptible to falling into diet culture and wellness trendsHow social media and our political climate contributes to wellness mis- and dis-informationRemember: Your worth isn’t measured by your weight, your diet, or how “well” you follow health trends. Real wellness is about freedom and self compassion.Christy Harrison, MPH, RD, is a registered dietitian nutritionist, certified intuitive eating counselor, and journalist who has been covering food, nutrition, and health for more than 20 years. She is the author of two books, The Wellness Trapand Anti-Diet, and host of the podcasts Rethinking Wellness and Food Psych. Christy’s decades of work in journalism, nutrition, and intuitive eating have helped thousands break free from the false promises of diet culture and find a more compassionate, evidence-based approach to food and health. Whether you’ve struggled with dieting, fallen into the wellness trap, or simply want to support women’s health in a more sustainable way, this conversation will help you see wellness culture in a whole new light.Get Christy’s latest book: The Wellness Trap: Break Free from Diet Culture, Disinformation, and Dubious Diagnoses and Find Your True Well-BeingLearn more about Christy at christyharrison.com and follow her on Instagram @chr1styharrisonMentioned in This Episode: Fears About Food Additives, article by Christy Harrison Is Red Food Dye Dangerous?If you’re enjoying this self love podcast, share it with the women in your life to combat diet culture, promote body positivity, and spread self love. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You can’t truly love yourself if you’re lying to yourself.And you certainly can’t find peace in a version of you that’s not real.Because when you try to love a version of yourself that isn’t true, it feels empty. It’s like people-pleasing: if you sacrifice authenticity for approval, then who are they really approving of? Not the real you. And the same goes for self-approval. If we dress up a lie and call it self love, we’re building a facade that will inevitably crumble.Self love requires radical self honesty.In this episode, you will learn…Why women, in particular, tend to lie to themselves (even more than they lie to others)What all major religions and spiritual teachings say about truth-telling3 simple but profound ways to use honesty as a daily practice of loving yourselfWe’ll also explore ideas from authors like bell hooks, George Saunders, Don Miguel Ruiz, and Tara Brach, whose teachings remind us that honesty is the foundation of love.If you’ve ever felt like self-love doesn’t “work” for you, or that you’re doing everything but still feel disconnected, this episode might reveal why and inspire you to honestly love yourself.Remember: telling the truth isn’t about sharing every secret, it’s about staying rooted in what’s real. And what’s real—no matter how messy—is worthy of self love.Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastIf you’re enjoying this self-love podcast, share it with the women in your life. Your support helps keep this show—and the message of self-love, confidence, and mental health—alive and thriving.🫖 P.S. This self-love podcast episode pairs beautifully with:Ep. 212: How To Be Honest With YourselfEp. 213: Sick of People-Pleasing? Listen to this.Ep. 242: How To Stop Comparing Your Current Self to Your Past Self Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

A lack of self-confidence doesn’t always scream at you—sometimes it whispers in the background of your day. Today,  Mary shares 5 not-so-obvious signs that your self-confidence might be quietly taking a hit… signs she’s personally working through, too.These confidence red flags are common, especially amongst women. From seeking validation in the wrong places to constantly doubting your decisions, exploring self-confidence struggles can also help you shift them. If you’re ready to stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting your own inner wisdom, this episode is for you.You will learn how to... stop trying to fill inner voids with external things (AKA build self-worth from within)start trusting yourself more, even when life feels uncertainbreak out of a victim mindset and reassure yourself that you are enough Because here’s the truth about confidence: no amount of success, praise, or “shiny new thing” will give you lasting confidence or a truly positive mindset. You’re the only one who can create those feelings within yourself. And while that might sound daunting, it’s also incredibly empowering.And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. If you’re enjoying this self-love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Just don't say Mary's Cup of Tea is the best self-love podcast for women ;) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ever wonder how some people move through life with ease, even when everything feels uncertain? According to Harvard psychologist Dr. Ellen Langer, it’s not about control—it’s about mindfulness. Mindfulness can be a vehicle to confidence, happiness and inner peace.Dr. Ellen shares with us her refreshingly practical take on mindfulness—not as meditation, but as a way of engaging with the world that leads to more confidence and self-trust. You’ll hear her thoughts on why stress is optional, how to stop overthinking, and how letting go of “right vs. wrong” thinking can open up space for happiness.You will learn how to... move through life more mindfully confidently make decisionsbe more comfortable with uncertainty break out of black-and-white thinking embrace your individualityRemember: Self-confidence doesn’t come from knowing. Rather, confidence comes from noticing.Ellen Langer earned her Ph.D. at Yale University in Social and Clinical Psychology and joined the faculty at Harvard in 1977. She is considered the mother of mindfulness and has written five books on the topic starting with her best-seller, Mindfulness, and her newest book, The Mindful Body: Thinking Our Way to Chronic Health. The Langer Lab conducts research on health, happiness, decision- making, education, business and culture all through the lens of mindfulness. Because of this research, among other honors, Professor Langer has earned three Distinguished Scientist Awards, The Staats Award for Unifying Psychology, a Guggenheim Fellowship, and The Liberty Science Genius Award. If you’re enjoying this self-love podcast, send it to a friend or share a screenshot on social media! Your support helps keep this podcast—and the message of self-love, confidence, and mental health—alive and thriving. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

If you are someone who loves building healthy relationships, communication skills, and personal growth, then this episode is for you.A few years ago in couples therapy, I learned one simple relationship tip that completely changed the way I communicate, especially during conflict. It’s something I come back to again and again, whether I’m arguing with my husband or navigating tension with a family member.This advice is so powerful because it works outside of romantic partnerships too—whether you're navigating tension with a friend, a family member, or anyone you love and respect.In this episode, I’m walking you through the exact phrase my therapist said that stopped me in my tracks, helped my husband and I reconnect, and later, helped my sister and I move from feeling misunderstood to finally hearing each other.But first, a big disclaimer: this tip only works with emotionally intelligent, securely attached people. It’s not for those in abusive dynamics or with people who are committed to misunderstanding you. If that’s something you’ve struggled with, I hope this episode gives you clarity on when to apply healthy communication tools—and when to have the self-worth to step away.You’ll learn:Why being “right” is overrated in relationshipsHow to shift from objective truth to subjective experiencesWhat emotionally-intelligent conflict resolution actually sounds likeHow to move from defensiveness to connection in under 10 minutesWhether you're in a long-term relationship or just want to improve how you show up for the people you love, this episode will give you the mindset shift you didn’t know you needed.Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastIf you’re enjoying this self-love podcast, share it with the women in your life to spread the gift of self-love!Mentioned In This Episode...Ep. 170: Intentional Wedding Planning and Artful Gathering with Priya ParkerEp. 257: Me and My Sister Recap Our Trip to France Ep. 258: Confidence Advice for Teen Girls (feat. My Amazing Sister)Ep. 258: Confidence Advice for Teen Girls (feat. My Amazing Sister)Podcast Episode with relationship therapist, Terry RealEp. 183: The Best Communication Book Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Are you ready for a confidence pep talk from my wise little sister?! Though she’s only 17, her perspective on mental health, body-image, and self-love is relatable to teens and adults alike. Whether you’re a big sister, auntie, parent, caretaker, or teen, you’ll walk away with a confidence boost and encouragement for self-love. We talk about what it’s like growing up today—from social media pressure, identity struggles, family dynamics, and bullying at school. But we also unpack the beautiful parts: the power of a positive mindset and how even the messiest moments can spark personal growth.You will learn about... the challenges teenagers face these days and how adults can show up for them why feeling lost is actually a good thing our crunchy mom and how that’s impacted me and my sister’s body-image how to deal with the grief of an absent or emotionally unavailable parent with self-compassion ways to cultivate confidence and a positive mindset as a teen girl what it’s like growing up in an immigrant household what helps cope with bullying how caretakers can support a teens with mental health strugglesWhether you're struggling with your own self-esteem or supporting a teen who is, this episode reminds us that confidence isn’t about being perfect. It’s something all of us must practice. And sometimes, the people we think we’re teaching (like little sisters) end up being our greatest teachers. Remember: If you’re having a hard time with confidence, self-esteem, or mental health in general, please reach out to someone you trust. Talking about it is the first step to healing—and you never have to do it alone.And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on Instagram! Sharing helps the message of self-love reach more women and girls around the world. For more empowering conversations on self-love, confidence, relationships, body-image, mindset and mental health, please explore past episodes of Mary’s Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this special episode, I sit down with my little sister to reflect on our unforgettable trip to France. Though my self-esteem was tested, it was a journey that made me and my sister closer than ever. From the cobblestone streets of Paris to the Mediterranean breeze in Nice, we share how travel can shape your confidence, challenge your mindset, and create memories you’ll never forget. You will hear about… the sister fights we had in France (and how we repaired)our best and worst moments from the trip, including my “haircut from hell” that totally tested my self-esteemwhat I learned about my perfectionism and personal growthmy sister’s relationship with art, her supportive art teacher, and how creative expression has shaped her self-esteem and sense of identity how it feels to turn 17 and the pressure of feeling like you have to figure out who you’re supposed to beThough this podcast is usually about self-love, body image, and confidence for women, I hope you enjoy this conversation with my sister. We learned so much about each other, the beauty and complexity of family, and how embracing imperfections can lead to genuine connection. Traveling together magnified our insecurities but also opened our hearts to more empathy and understanding—both for ourselves and for each other.Remember: you don’t have to have everything perfectly planned out to be worthy of love, adventure, and self-compassion, and connection. Growth happens in the messy, unpolished moments, not just the picture-perfect ones. Your self-esteem might waver, and your confidence might crack, but you are enough exactly as you are.Mentioned In This Episode... Google map with all of our France recommendations Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Let’s dive into some unconscious ways us women tend to sabotage our self-love—especially in times of collective stress, societal pressure, and emotional overwhelm. In a world that constantly demands more from women—more productivity, more perfection, more performance—it’s no wonder we struggle to stay connected to our own self-worth.If you’ve ever felt reactive, rushed, or stuck in regret, this conversation will give you the mindset shifts and grounding reminders you need to return to yourself.You will learn how to...Stay rooted in self-worth when the world feels like it’s on fireRecognize the difference between reacting and respondingFree yourself from the cycles of rushing and regrettingThis self-love podcast episode is meant to help you reflect rather than react, slow down instead of rushing, and trust yourself instead of spiraling in regret.We often think of self-love as something fluffy or indulgent, but the truth is: it’s crucial. It’s the foundation for how we show up in the world, how we treat others, and how we protect our peace. As you’ll hear in this episode, the more you cultivate self-love, the less reactive you become. The more grounded you are, the less likely you are to betray yourself in moments of stress or uncertainty.Remember: self-love isn’t a luxury—it’s the foundation of personal and collective healing.If you enjoyed this self-love podcast, share it with your friends to spread the gift of self-love!Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:*The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.*100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcastMentioned In This Episode…Joy Sullivan’s newsletter “Women at the Protest”Meditations for Mortals by Oliver BurkemanEp. 250 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: Productivity Advice Meets Self-Compassion with Oliver Burkeman Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ruthie Lindsey joins us for a powerful and tender conversation about healing, self-compassion, and what it truly means to love yourself. As a speaker and author, Ruthie shares her journey of navigating chronic pain, deep grief, and religious trauma. Her story reminds us that even in the most painful chapters of life, there is beauty to be found—and that healing is possible when we learn to come home to ourselves.In this episode, you’ll hear:How Ruthie “came back to life” after both physical and emotional traumaThe ongoing journey of processing grief, including the loss of her father and how it shaped her healingThe challenges of living with chronic pain while still choosing to love your bodyWhat “embodied healing” means and feels likeEmbodiment practices that help you process and release traumaHow religious trauma shapes our relationship with ourselves and how to rediscover spirituality on your own termsWhat it looks like to reparent yourself and love yourself through the processThis episode is especially meaningful for women who are on a healing journey whether it’s navigating grief, mental health, faith shifts, body image struggles, or simply trying to feel more comfortable in your body. Ruthie offers a compassionate reminder that you don’t need to be “fixed” to be worthy. You just need to show up with presence, honesty, and a willingness to love yourself as you are. You are enough.Follow Ruthie on Instagram: @ruthielindsey Check out her upcoming workshops and retreats.If this episode resonates with you, screenshot and share it on social media! Tag @maryspodcast and @ruthielindsey so we can thank you for spreading the love.Mentioned in this episode:Watch the toddler video we talked about Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This is a “reverse interview” where Jessi Jean interviews Mary about the aftermath of ED recovery. Let’s unpack a feeling many of us know all too well—feeling lost, lonely, and realizing that making friends as an adult is HARD. We chat about how healing your relationship with food and body image can throw you into an existential crisis. You might have also asked yourself, "WTF just happened?" or "Who am I?" after ED recovery. How do you move forward when (thankfully) food and body-image no longer control your life?Mary shares her journey from battling disordered eating and body-image issues to becoming a self-love queen, hosting retreats, writing books, and blowing up on social media. We break down the nuances of ED recovery, followed by the awkward "I'm lost" phase, why building community as an adult is so damn hard, and how to actually do it.This conversation is for anyone feeling lonely, lost, or in need of community.Tune in to hear…01:37 Mary's Journey to ED Recovery and Self-Love04:01 The Concept of Being 'Recovered' from an Eating Disorder07:48 Navigating Identity and Purpose After ED Recovery17:50 Building Community and Friendships as an Adult33:55 Advice for Making Your Friendships Stronger39:00 What It Means to Act “As If” to Create a More Positive Mindset39:17 The Importance of Low Expectations in Friendships46:36 What is a Self-Love Retreat? Why Did Mary Start Hosting Self-Love Retreats?53:15 The Power of In-Person Connections and GatheringsWhether you're trying to level up your relationships, figure out who you are, or start a self-love journey, this episode is packed with practical tips, personal stories, and wisdom from two women who are very much so still figuring it out.If you enjoyed this conversation, share it with your friends to spread the gift of self-love! We love women empowering women!Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.