Why Do I…?

Our favourite moment from the Lalalaletmeexplain episode!Make sure to check out the full episode.Lalalaletmeexplain is a relationship expert, dating coach, and best-selling author known for her no-nonsense approach to modern dating. 🔥 Some Of My Favourite Bits:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtomGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com© Why Do Men Podcast#WhyDoMenPodcast #RelationshipPodcast #DatingPodcast

We grow up believing connection should just… happen.That if you love someone enoughIf the relationship is right enoughIf you’re close enough…That spark should stay the same forever.But then real life kicks in.Stress.Routine.Pressure.Emotional distance.And slowly, the connection that once felt effortless starts to feel harder to hold onto.In this episode of Why Do I, I’m joined by Henika Patel, founder of the School of Sensual Arts.Henika helps us understand why closeness can shift in long-term relationships and why so many couples struggle to talk about it honestly.We unpack the difference between chasing intensity and building real connection…Why the early “fireworks” phase naturally changes over time… and how relationships can become stronger when we stop expecting love to always look the way it did at the start.If you’ve ever wondered why attraction changes over time…If you’ve ever felt confused by distance in a relationship…If you’ve ever loved someone deeply but struggled to feel close…This episode is for you.OH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enHenika: https://www.instagram.com/henika.x/?hl=en💎 This show is part of the ⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠ roster#WhyDoI #Relationships #Connection #Love

We grow up thinking our parents are just… parents.The safe one.The distant one.The provider.The peacemaker.The one who never talks about feelings.But then you get older and you realise…their relationship didn’t just shape them.It shaped you.The way you trust.The way you attach.The way you avoid.The way you love.In the second episode of Why Do I (Season 2), I’m joined by Julius Cowdrey. Julius opens up about growing up in the shadow of infidelity, emotional distance, and the silent rules many of us inherit from our parents without even realising.We talk about the ripple effect of: A father who won’t go deep…a mother who stays selfless for the “family unit”…and how that can later show up as avoidance, fear of being relied on, and a constant question of “am I good enough?”If you’ve ever felt your dad’s absence still living in your adult decisions…If you’ve ever repeated patterns you swore you wouldn’t…If you’ve ever wanted connection, but panicked the moment it got real…This one’s for you.OH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enJulius: https://www.instagram.com/jlcowdrey/?hl=en💎 This show is part of the ⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠ Roster#WhyDoI #Relationships #Healing #FamilyTrauma

After my conversation with Sasha Pallari about breakups that don’t make sense on paper, I found myself sitting with something deeper…What happens when you’re with someone who is objectively incredibleKind. Stable. Supportive. And yet something still feels missing?We talk a lot about red flags. But nobody prepares you for the green flag breakup.In this solo reflection, I open up about:• Staying in “almost right” relationships• Cognitive dissonance and emotional self-gaslighting• The sunk cost fallacy in love• My own breakup at 32 that completely shook my identity• Why leaving a good person doesn’t make you the villainIf you’ve ever felt ungrateful for being unhappy…If you’ve ever tried to logic your way into love…If you’ve ever stayed because it looked good on paper…This episode is for you.This is about emotional filters.This is about trusting your gut.This is about choosing truth over convenience.OH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enSasha: https://www.instagram.com/sashapallari/?hl=en💎 This show is part of the ⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠ roster#WhyDoI #Relationships #Breakups #SelfGrowth

If someone sees you.Understands you.Holds you.Chooses you.That’s enough… right?But what happens when the person who makes you feel the most seen you’ve ever felt… is also battling addiction?In this clip from Why Do I (Season 2), Sasha Pallari opens up about loving someone who could show up for her… but couldn’t show up for himself.We talk about:- Fire and ice love.- The heartbreak of asking, “Why didn’t he fight for me?”- Realising you can’t save someone from themselves.- And the painful truth that sometimes love isn’t enough.If you’ve ever loved someone through addiction…If you’ve ever tried to help someone heal…If you’ve ever had to walk away from someone you still love…This one’s for you.🎙️ Watch the full episode with Sasha Pallari on the channel now.OH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials 👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enSash: https://www.instagram.com/sashapallari/?hl=en💎 This show is part of the I.A.M Podcasts Roster#WhyDoI #Addiction #Relationships #Breakups

We grow up thinking love is supposed to feel a certain way...Butterflies.Intensity.Stability.Someone choosing you.But what happens when you’ve had the wedding… The divorce… The once-in-a-lifetime love… And you’re still asking, what do I actually want?In the first episode of Why Do I (Season 2), I’m joined by Sasha Pallari!!Sasha opens up about her marriage, her divorce and the complicated truth that sometimes love isn’t enough.If you’ve ever walked away from something that looked perfect on paper… If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re asking for too much… If you’ve ever loved someone deeply but known it wasn’t right…This one’s for you.Season 2 starts here!!OH YEAH! Before You Go - Connect With Us On Socials👇Pod: https://www.instagram.com/whydoiofficial/?hl=enTom: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enSash: https://www.instagram.com/sashapallari/?hl=en💎 This show is part of the I.A.M Podcasts Roster #WhyDoI #Relationships #Breakups

‘Why Do I…?’ is a podcast about the patterns we keep falling into in our relationships.The ones we do not always talk about.The ones we sometimes do not even notice.It explores where those behaviours come from, what they might be protecting, and what we could be avoiding when things start to feel uncomfortable.Each episode is a chance to sit with someone as they unpack the patterns they have recognised in themselves, and the ones they are still figuring out.There are no neat answers.No perfect endings.Just conversations and those quiet moments of recognition where you think, maybe that is me.🎙️ New long-form episodes every fortnight🧩 Short reflection episodes in betweenIf you have ever caught yourself wondering why you show up the way you do in relationships, this is the show for you.Enjoy Season 2!#WhyDoI #RelationshipPatterns #SelfAwareness

In our final short-form episode of Season 1, we reflect on a powerful conversation with LaLaLaLetMeExplain about why men blame women. This episode hit hard - from defensiveness and traditional gender roles to subtle misogyny and emotional growth, we dove into the uncomfortable truths that many men (myself included) are still unlearning. The reflection episode is a reminder that blame keeps us stuck - but reflection can set us free.Lastly - I hope you all loved Season 1 as much as we did. Thank you so much for all the support, it truly means the world. Stay tuned, because Season 2 is going to be even bigger!SOME OF MY FAVOURITE BITS:📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom⁠🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en⁠Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom⁠TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #Dating #lalalaletmeexplain

In this powerful clip from the full episode with lalalaletmeexplain, we dive into the complex dynamics of sex on the first date. From male validation and ego to the hidden power plays behind "the chase." 🎧 Catch the full episode now for the unfiltered conversationSOME OF MY FAVOURITE BITS:📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom⁠🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en⁠Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom⁠TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #Dating #lalalaletmeexplain

In this episode of Why Do Men, we're joined again by LaLaLaLetMeExplain to talk about why some men blame women for their pain, dating struggles, or dissatisfaction with life. We discuss how these attitudes show up in modern dating, the impact of misogyny, and how ideas around masculinity and feminism are often misunderstood. We also look at the role of emotional intelligence in relationships and what needs to change for things to move forward. As always, enjoy the episode and let us know your thoughts on this topic below :)Chapter Timestamps(00:00) - Exploring Men's Blame on Women(12:50) - Navigating Traditional Gender Roles in Relationships(20:52) - Unraveling Misogyny in Dating Culture(29:53) - Rising Right-Wing Misogyny in Relationships(36:24) - Navigating Gender Dynamics in Relationships(40:27) - Challenging Gender Dynamics in RelationshipsSOME OF MY FAVOURITE BITS:📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #Dating #lalalaletmeexplain

In this solo episode, I reflect on my conversation with Lucy Rout from Haystack Dating and unpack one of the biggest questions in modern dating: why aren't men approaching women anymore? From fear of rejection to changing gender dynamics and social media pressure, I share personal stories, real stats, and honest advice on how we can all create more meaningful connections - whether you're making the first move or waiting for one.If you enjoyed this solo episode, a like and subscribe goes a long way - it helps more than you know :)📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom⁠🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en⁠Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom⁠TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #HaystackDating #DatingApps #Rejection #Ghosting #Masculinity #datingpodcast

In this 5 minute clip - We tackle one of the most frustrating contradictions in modern dating: men say they want to meet someone “organically” but rarely make a move. From fear of rejection and blurred social cues to the pressure of busy lives and shifting dating norms, we unpack what’s really holding people back - and why both men and women might need to take the first step.If you enjoyed this clip - make sure to check out the full episode with Lucy :)More About Lucy:⁠https://www.instagram.com/lucyrout/?hl=en⁠⁠https://www.haystack-dating.com/⁠📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom⁠🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en⁠Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom⁠TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #HaystackDating #DatingApps #Rejection #Ghosting #Masculinity #datingpodcast #lucyrout

Why don’t men approach women anymore? Are dating apps ruining real connection? 👀 In this Episode of Why Do Men, we dive deep with Haystack Dating founder Lucy Rout to unpack fear of rejection, ghosting, gender roles, and the chaos of modern dating in 2025. From dating app burnout to IRL nerves - we’re asking the big questions about love, confidence and connection!https://www.instagram.com/lucyrout/?hl=enhttps://www.haystack-dating.com/📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #HaystackDating #DatingApps #Rejection #Ghosting #Masculinity #datingpodcast

Reflection Episode - Revisiting Love Bombing (with Sabrina Zohar)This is a solo reflection on our most popular episode yet - the one with Sabrina Zohar on love bombing!I wanted to go deeper into what came up for me after that chat. From my own experiences with coming on too strong, to what it really means when we mistake intensity for connection. We talk about nervous system triggers, chasing fantasy over real intimacy, and why so many of us (my past self included) confuse love with validation. If you’ve ever wondered why you rush in or fall fast - this one’s for you.Before You Go!📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom⁠⁠🔥 My Favourite Supplements: Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠⁠https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD⁠⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en⁠⁠Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom⁠⁠TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom⁠⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com🎧 This podcast is proudly built by ⁠⁠⁠⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠ - ⁠https://www.iampodcasts.co.uk/⁠© Why Do Men Podcast#sabrinazohar #whydomenlovebomb #relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud

In this short clip - Sabrina breaks down how to spot love bombing vs real connection and why setting boundaries early is the fastest way to see someone’s true intentions. If they push back, it was never about you. If they respect it, maybe it’s real. Make sure to check out the full episode of Why Do Men for more honest, unfiltered conversations on modern dating and emotional maturity.Before You Go!📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com© Why Do Men Podcast#sabrinazohar #whydomenlovebomb #relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud

In today's episode we are joined by dating and relationship coach Sabrina Zohar to unpack the psychology behind love bombing!We run through why some people go all in fast and then vanish just as quickly. We discuss the difference between intensity and intimacy, why chaos is often mistaken for chemistry, and how attachment styles play into our dating behaviour. A deeply honest and insightful conversation that will hopefully change the way you think about modern relationships.If you do enjoy this episode please leave a rating & subscribe - it helps more than you know :)CHAPTERS: (00:00) Understanding Love Bombing in Dating(06:47) Navigating Early Relationship Boundaries(09:37) Commitment(13:55) Authenticity in Dating(17:57) Understanding Love Bombing Dynamics in Relationships(22:54) The Dynamics of Love Bombing(26:06) Setting Boundaries and Breaking Patterns(32:24) Identifying Patterns and Inner Healing(34:59) Understanding and Breaking Relationship Patterns(38:44) Navigating Healing and Authenticity in Dating(44:03) Communication in Early Dating(51:27) Building a Community of AuthenticityBefore You Go!📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom⁠🔥 My Favourite Supplements: Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → ⁠https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPOD⁠Get in Touch: 💬Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=en⁠Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@stroudtom⁠TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom⁠📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com🎧 This podcast is proudly built by ⁠⁠⁠⁠I.A.M Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠ - https://www.iampodcasts.co.uk/© Why Do Men Podcast#sabrinazohar #whydomenlovebomb #relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud

In this 10-minute reflection episode, I unpack my powerful conversation with resilience coach Josh Connolly on why so many men suppress their emotions in relationships. I open up about my own struggles with emotional expression, childhood conditioning, and the pressure to be ‘strong.’ From somatic work to the role of men's groups, I explore how emotional honesty builds deeper connection and why vulnerability is the key to real intimacy.If you do enjoy this episode please leave a rating & subscribe - it helps more than you know :)📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com© Why Do Men Podcast#whydomensupressemotions #whydomenpodcast #joshconnolly

In this powerful moment from our full episode with Josh Connolly, we dive into why football matches have become one of the only socially accepted spaces for men to express emotion. Josh breaks down how male friendships often lack the space to truly feel - and why so many men end up crying over football, when really, it’s everything else in their life spilling out.If you do enjoy this clip please leave a rating & subscribe - it helps more than you know :)📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com© Why Do Men Podcast#whydomensupressemotions #whydomenpodcast #joshconnolly

In this episode, I’m joined by Josh Connolly - resilience coach, breathwork expert, and author of It’s Them, Not You.We chat about emotional suppression, father wounds, addiction, and why opening up still feels so hard for a lot of guys. Josh shares lessons from his own journey and the work he does helping people reconnect with themselves and express what they’ve been holding in.If you found it useful, hit subscribe, share it with someone, and drop us a review - it makes a big difference.Chapters:(00:03) Men's Emotional Expression in Relationships(06:32) Journey of Emotional Expression for Men(12:18) Exploring Somatic Practices for Men(24:59) Patterns of Self-Abandonment in Relationships(28:52) Emotional Intimacy and Vulnerability(33:24) Navigating Addiction and Boundaries in Relationships(41:32) Navigating Self-Acceptance and Personal Growth(47:09) Navigating Personal Growth and Relationships(55:38) Healing From Dysfunctional Relationships📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com© Why Do Men Podcast

In this solo episode of Why Do Men, we unpack the fear of commitment...Why do so many men struggle with it and where does it really come from?I reflect on how childhood, masculinity, dating culture, and emotional avoidance shape modern relationships. Whether you’re someone who fears commitment or dating someone who does, this episode dives deep into the psychology, myths, and solutions behind it all.👉 Make sure to go watch the full episode with David Chambers if you enjoyed this! Before You Go - Check out some of my favourite bits:📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom🔥 My Favourite Supplements:Science-backed supplements for your brain, body & gut → https://www.yourheights.com/WHYDOMENPODGet in Touch with me: 💬Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stroudtom/?hl=enThreads: https://www.threads.net/@stroudtomTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stroudtom📩 For Podcast Enquiries: wdmukpod@gmail.com© Why Do Men Podcast#relationships #moderndayrelationships #tomstroud #davidchambers