SeductionEd | Mastering Human Dynamics

In this episode of SeductionEd, I sit down with Eve Solara, an author, survivor, and spiritual guide whose work I discovered on Substack at a moment when her words landed exactly when I needed them.This is not a conversation about pick up tactics or surface level attraction. It is a deep exploration of magnetism, alignment, intuition, and the unseen forces that shape how we connect with others.Eve shares her story of survival through domestic violence, homelessness, and a life threatening medical crisis that forced her to stop living in two separate worlds. One spiritual. One practical. What followed was a decision to live fully and honestly in her truth, including openly discussing her connection to angels and the guidance she receives.We talk about what it means to trust intuition without losing discernment. How free will interacts with spiritual guidance. Why attraction and seduction are inseparable from purpose and alignment. And how magnetism is not something you perform, but something that emerges when you stop betraying yourself.We also explore difficult questions. Can spiritual guidance be misused. Why asking better questions matters more than chasing outcomes. How past trauma shapes the persona we lead with. And why seduction, at its core, is about connection rather than conquest.This episode is for anyone who feels like they are searching. Searching for clarity. For meaning. For direction. For a way to connect without losing themselves.This is SeductionEd at its most open ended. A conversation at the intersection of spirituality, psychology, and human connection.You can subscribe to Eve’s Substack here: And you can get Eve’s book here: Manifesting With AngelsIf someone should check out this episode, please share.Thanks for reading SeductionEd! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

Seduction is not modern. It is not a trend. It is ancient, primal, and woven into every era of human history. From royal courts to Instagram stories, seduction has always been about power, presence, and emotional influence. The tools may evolve, but the psychology behind it stays the same.In this episode I take you on a trip through the past and into the present. We start with Casanova, a man people label a player even though his real gift was emotional intimacy. He listened. He paid attention. He created experiences that felt personal. That is real seduction.Then we study Cleopatra. She did not just seduce men. She seduced entire empires. She used strategy, intelligence, and self control to influence some of the most powerful leaders in the world.Lord Byron enters the story as the poetic storm. A man whose emotional chaos somehow became emotional intensity. Women did not just like him. They obsessed over him. Then we visit the myth of Don Juan, the archetype of boldness and fearlessness. His seduction was in his audacity.All of these figures have one thing in common. They triggered emotion. They stood out. They were unforgettable.Then we jump forward to today. Seduction now lives in DMs, curated feeds, comments, and algorithms. Nick Cannon is a modern example of seductive clarity. He does not pretend to be monogamous. He leads with transparency and purpose. Women either align or they do not. That is seduction through direction.Future represents the opposite strategy. Distance, mystery, emotional contrast. Women chase the feeling he creates, even when the access is low and the chaos is high. He seduces through absence as much as through presence.What has changed? The platforms. What has not changed? The psychology. Mystery, confidence, emotional control, and narrative framing still rule everything. People fall in love with the story they tell themselves about you. Your job is to shape that story with intention.The real question is simple. Who are you in all of this. Are you the sniper like Casanova. The strategist like Cleopatra. The poetic storm like Byron. The phantom like Don Juan. The visionary like Nick Cannon. The unapologetic force like Future. Or are you building your own archetype.Seduction is not about pretending to be someone else. It is about being so intentionally yourself that people cannot look away. That is the power. That is the craft. That is Seduction Tech.If this episode sparked something in you, share it with someone who needs to understand their own power. And make sure you are subscribed so you never miss the next lesson.Thanks for reading SeductionEd! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

You know the text will not lead anywhere good.You know she is either unavailable, emotionally dangerous, or simply not for you.But your body does not care what your mind knows.This SeductionEd episode delivers one of the most primitive yet effective strategies for emotional control when the urge to reach out feels overwhelming.This is not spiritual. This is biological.Keu Reyes breaks down why post-nut clarity is not a meme. It is a mechanism.Hormones spike. Emotions swell. Logic disappears.But with one act — raw, simple, and primal — you can interrupt the loop and return to yourself before you give away your power.In This Episode• What to do the moment before you text her• How sexual tension disguises itself as emotional need• Why your hormones are writing the message, not your brain• The psychological shift that happens after release• A practical tool to separate fantasy from actionBacked by SciencePfaus (2009) on dopamine and sexual behaviorAnticipation increases urgency. Release reduces emotional compulsion.Exton et al. (2001)Ejaculation reduces testosterone and prolactin spikes, calming obsessive thoughts.Baumeister & Tice (1993) on self-regulation failureImpulse often wins when emotional load is high.Zeigarnik Effect (1927)Unresolved emotional tension creates mental loops that persist until interrupted.Call to ActionIf you are about to reach out to someone who has no space for you, try this first.You might realize it was not her you wanted. It was relief.🎧 Listen on all platforms📱 Download the Seduction PRM App to track emotional patterns🌐 More at SeductionEd.comShare this with someone who may need this:Thanks for reading SeductionEd! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

In this episode I take you inside the Seduction Funnel, the same system I built after years of making mistakes, rushing steps, ignoring red flags, and leaving everything up to luck. Once I finally understood that seduction works almost exactly like sales, everything clicked. You are the product. You are the service. And if you do not understand your own funnel, you cannot improve what you are doing.I walk through each stage from awareness all the way to retention. Awareness is where she simply knows you exist. Curiosity is where the hook happens. Then comes data gathering, which is the same thing social platforms do with us. You start learning who she is, what she likes, how she thinks. After that comes construction. That is where you build the foundation instead of rushing into outcomes. Then you hit objection identification, which is crucial because every connection has friction. You need to see the real issue behind what she is asking.From there we move into invitations. Low key, high key, and what I call the no key invitation. Each one reveals something different about interest and timing. After the invitation comes escalation. This is where your intelligence matters because reading cues is everything. If you get this wrong, things get awkward. If you get it right, everything moves naturally. And then we finish at retention. This is where you decide if this is someone you even want in your life. Alignment, values, red flags, all of it matters here.I built this system because I kept hitting the same walls. I did not understand the data I was collecting. I did not understand the objections. And I did not understand why certain connections failed early. Creating the Seduction Funnel changed that. It lets you see the entire workflow so you can improve each stage instead of blaming luck.If you want the funnel diagram, go to SeductionEd.com and comment funnel in the chat. I will send it to you so you can customize your own style, your own hook, and your own approach. I respond to every message because I know what it feels like to have questions and nobody to ask.If this episode helps you, share it with someone who needs it. And make sure you are subscribed so you do not miss the next one.Thanks for reading SeductionEd! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

This episode cuts into one of the most misunderstood forces in attraction. People think women trust the man who never lies. That is not true. They trust the man who is consistent. They trust the man whose character does not switch without warning. They trust the man they can predict, even when that prediction is that he is flawed. Consistency creates safety. Inconsistency creates emotional threat.I break down why a liar who lies the same way every time can be more trustworthy than the man who tries to be good but shifts depending on his mood. Trust is not about morality. It is about pattern recognition. Women do not fear bad men. They fear unpredictable men.This episode explains why your character, your emotional stability, and your repeatable patterns do more seduction work than any line you could deliver. And how to build the kind of presence that women instinctively lean toward, even when they tell themselves they should not.Thanks for reading SeductionEd! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

In this episode, I share something deeper than a tactic. This is not about text strategy or charm. This is about energy. The kind you can feel before you speak. The kind that enters the room before you do.I’ve been experimenting with presence. Real magnetism. That unspoken pull we all feel when someone walks in and turns heads without a word. I believe that kind of attraction is not a gift. It is a skill. And it starts with learning how to project your energy with intention.You’ve probably felt this before.You look across a room.You lock eyes with someone who was not looking at you, until you made them feel it.That is real. And it is trainable.In this episode, I break down how I’ve been building this energetic force on purpose. I share one of the most powerful and simple exercises for amplifying your magnetic field. It does not require style, money, or beauty. It only requires presence and precision.But be careful.Because when you become magnetic, you do not only attract what you want.You attract everything.And a true seducer is not someone who is just attractive.It is someone who knows how to filter, aim, and own the attention they summon.In This Episode• The difference between energy and charm• How to make someone look at you using pure intention• Why magnetism pulls both what you want and what you do not• A daily exercise to sharpen presence and energetic control• Why attraction starts before words, looks, or statusScientific Context* Quantum Field Theory confirms that all matter is energy at its core. Even thoughts and emotions emit measurable electromagnetic fields (McCraty et al., HeartMath Institute).* The Observer Effect in physics shows that focused attention can influence outcomes.* Mirror Neurons (Rizzolatti et al., 1990s) reveal that the human brain reacts to intention even before action, creating subconscious interaction loops.* Charisma Research (Antonakis et al., 2011) proves that presence and emotional signaling impact influence more than language alone.* Electrostatic Discharge in physics explains that human bodies carry and emit electrical energy, meaning we are physical conductors of force.Final WordYou do not need more attention.You need to become the kind of person that attention recognizes.Practice with presence.Command with silence.Attract without asking.🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms📱 Track your energy and emotional dynamics with the Seduction PRM App🌐 Visit SeductionEd.com for more episodes and toolsThanks for reading SeductionEd! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

This episode flips the usual SeductionEd formula.No strategies. No advice. No systems.Just a raw question.Why is it that the one you truly want always feels just out of reach—while the ones you’re not interested in are the ones who show up?In this personal monologue, Keu Reyes opens up about an emotional wall he has hit. Despite years of experience studying seduction systems, emotional strategy, and subconscious triggers, there is one loop he has not been able to close: the seduction that never fully began, yet never ends.This is about the woman who doesn’t say no—but never says yes.The emotional limbo that keeps the door cracked open.The fantasy that keeps reactivating because there was no closure.And the illusion of hope that lives in silence.In This Episode:• Why some people never fully reject you but never fully accept you either• How emotional projection fuels obsession• The psychological toll of the “almost” connection• Why loops without resolution keep you stuck longer than heartbreak• A direct question to listeners: how do you get over someone when nothing ever really happened?Research and Studies Mentioned or Related:* The Zeigarnik Effect (Bluma Zeigarnik, 1927): People remember incomplete or interrupted tasks better than completed ones. Emotional loops work the same way.* Attachment Theory (Bowlby, Ainsworth): Dismissive-avoidant or fearful-avoidant patterns often trigger obsessive longing in anxious types.* Intermittent Reinforcement (Skinner): The most addictive pattern is inconsistent reward. If someone gives you just enough to stay hopeful—but never follows through—it creates psychological dependency.* Rejection Sensitivity (Downey & Feldman, 1996): People who have high emotional investment in acceptance may misinterpret ambiguous cues as signs of potential, not closure.* Fantasy Bonding (Robert Firestone): When we create an emotional connection to an imagined version of someone, it becomes harder to release—even if no real relationship ever existed.Call to Action:This time, you are the expert.Have you been in this situation?Did you ever escape it?What helped you?Drop your story, your advice, or your framework in the comments or DM. What works for one of us might free someone else.🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple, and everywhere podcasts are available📲 Track emotional loops and contact dynamics in the Seduction PRM App🌐 More at SeductionEd.comShare with someone who can help.Thanks for reading SeductionEd! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

We talk about heartbreak like it’s one thing. One feeling. One shape of pain.But that’s a lie.In this episode of SeductionEd, Keu Reyes unpacks the truth most people avoid:Heartbreak has many faces. Some are slow fades. Others are emotional collisions.Some are disappointments disguised as loss. Others are deep biochemical withdrawals that feel like dying.This is not just emotional. This is chemical.Heartbreak is a biological injury.And the worst ones stay alive in your system not because of love, but because your brain never got the chance to finish the story.In This Episode• The difference between disappointment and true heartbreak• How heartbreak mimics viral infection and trauma loops• Why betrayal leaves a deeper imprint than slow disconnection• How the brain stores emotional pain like unresolved tasks• Why you should stop trying to “heal” and instead learn to carry the scarScientific and Psychological Sources Referenced* Zeigarnik Effect (Bluma Zeigarnik, 1927): The brain retains unfinished experiences more vividly, which is why abrupt heartbreak creates obsessive loops.* Helen Fisher’s fMRI studies on love and rejection: Heartbreak activates the same brain regions as physical pain and drug withdrawal.* Panksepp’s Separation Distress Theory: Emotional bonds use the same neural circuitry as survival mechanisms, so loss triggers panic and protest responses.* Kübler-Ross Model (1969): The Five Stages of Grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—are not exclusive to death. Romantic heartbreaks follow this emotional architecture.* Coan, Schaefer, and Davidson (2006): Social rejection affects the anterior cingulate cortex, the same region responsible for registering physical pain.Core MessageNot all heartbreak is about love.Some is about identity collapse.Some is about broken expectations.And some is about chemical imbalance that your body processes like withdrawal.You will not heal by forcing yourself to feel better.You will not win by pretending you are unaffected.You will survive by recognizing the loop, owning the scar, and giving up the illusion of erasing the past.🎧 Available now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms📲 Track heartbreak loops and emotional scars using the Seduction PRM App🌐 Explore more at SeductionEd.comShare with someone who needs this.Thanks for reading SeductionEd! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

In this deeply personal SeductionEd episode, Keu Reyes explores one of the most painful and common illusions in modern relationships… the heartbreak that comes not from rejection, but from realizing that the person you fell for only existed in your imagination.This is not a podcast about tactics. This is about the subconscious narratives we write, the stories we project, and the emotional damage caused by unverified hope.You’ll hear Keu dissect his own patterns of idealization, expectation, and emotional projection. He breaks down how we often:* Fill in gaps with fantasies* Ignore red flags because they don’t match our storyline* Confuse potential with reality* Fall in love with futures that were never promisedWhat begins as seduction becomes self-seduction. And the pain that follows isn’t just disappointment, it’s the psychological crash of colliding imagination with truth.Topics Covered• The neurobiology of imagination and romantic projection• Why idealization activates dopamine pathways• How unmet expectations become emotional trauma• The psychology of ignoring who someone is in favor of who you hope they are• The importance of emotional realism in early attractionRelated Studies and Concepts* Zaki & Ochsner (2012): The neuroscience of empathy and projection shows how we “fill in” emotional gaps based on our own desires.* Helen Fisher’s research on the dopamine high of romantic potential, not reality.* The Zeigarnik Effect: unfinished stories and emotional loops stay open in the brain, keeping us obsessed.* Cognitive Dissonance Theory (Festinger, 1957): explains the pain of holding onto a belief even when the facts contradict it.Call to ActionIf you’ve ever loved someone more in your head than in reality, this episode is for you.Listen. Reflect. And maybe, detach.🎧 Available now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms📡 Full archive at SeductionEd.com📱 Download the Seduction PRM App to track your emotional patterns and evolve your attraction strategyIf someone you know should read this, share.Thanks for reading SeductionEd! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

This Is Not a Dating BookMy new book, Evolutionary Seduction, is finally out after a long and intensive research process. But let’s be clear: this isn’t a dating or relationship guide. This book is about a scientifically backed theory that I believe is fundamental to our existence: without seduction, we would not be humans.Seduction as Natural SelectionThe core theory of the book is that seduction is natural selection’s way of “weaning out the weak”. It is the essential process through which we procreate.This isn’t unique to us. You can see it all over the animal kingdom. The only difference is that humans are “just more civilized about it”. At the end of the day, seduction is a fundamental biological function of connection, attraction, and reproduction.Why Do We Behave This Way?I am passionate about understanding our own behavior. If you are like me and want to understand:* Why we behave the way we do* What attracts us to certain things* Why we are drawn to “good or bad people”...then this is the book for you. It’s meant to “open up a lot of questions”. While I present this as a theory , my goal is to give you a sense of how biology plays a massive part in all of our decisions, every single day.Get the BookA lot of research went into this, though I couldn’t fit it all in. While research in this specific area can be limited or dated , I believe this book “does a good job in encapsulating what seduction really is as far as scientific, biological function of humanity”.If you’re up for it, go to Amazon and get it. I am always open for feedback as I continue to look for more research.Thanks for reading SeductionEd! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

What does it truly mean to be a man in 2025?In this provocative Seduction Tech episode, I bring together two powerful voices with completely different philosophies on masculinity and desire.Franziska Zaar, a Berlin-based relationship coach who helps men step into their empowered masculine energy, and Taylor Ashton Ellwood, founder of Sovereign Submission, a men’s coach who teaches the art of conscious surrender, meet for the first time in a rare philosophical duel.This conversation explores polarity, leadership, biology, dominance, devotion, and the very essence of attraction between men and women.We dive deep into:* Whether men have lost their strength or are simply evolving into a new form of power.* The fine line between leadership and control.* How biology shapes attraction and why hormones still influence modern love.* The difference between conscious submission and weakness.* Why dominance without presence is performance, not power.* The hidden psychology behind attraction, chaos, and childhood wounds.* The spiritual intersection of masculinity, surrender, and devotion.Both guests bring their truth. Franziska believes men are losing their internal compass because they have forgotten the natural polarity that creates attraction. Taylor believes that true masculine strength is found through surrender, presence, and emotional integrity.Through this dialogue, we uncover that dominance and submission are not opposites but reflections of the same inner mastery: self-awareness.I also bring my own experiences into the mix, discussing how chaos, peace, and childhood conditioning shape the way men love and lead.This episode challenges the cultural stereotypes of masculinity and opens a new conversation about what it means to embody power in the modern world.Referenced Concepts and Ideas (for listeners who want to explore deeper):* Robert Bly’s “Iron John” and the myth of the Wild Man as the untamed masculine spirit.* Carl Jung’s exploration of the shadow and anima, revealing how suppressed instincts manifest in relationships.* John Bowlby’s attachment theory, explaining how early childhood bonds shape our need for approval and control.* Testosterone and oxytocin studies on how hormones influence male and female behavior (Archer, 2006; Taylor et al., 2000).* Carl Rogers’ ideas on authenticity and congruence, aligning with Taylor’s vision of sovereignty in submission.Closing Reflection:The truth is that both paths lead to mastery.Some men find their strength in stillness, others in command.The polarity between dominance and submission is not a battle to win, but a dance to understand.Whether you resonate with Franziska’s call for the revival of masculine leadership or with Taylor’s vision of conscious surrender, this episode will make you rethink everything you know about attraction, power, and seduction.Listen, question, and see which truth stirs your blood.You can reach Taylor through his website SovereignSubmission.com and Sovereign Submission here on Substack.You can reach Franziska through her website https://www.franziska-zaar.de and through her Polarity Love on Substack.Thanks for reading Seduction Tech! This post is public so feel free to share it.Thanks for reading Seduction Tech! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

Most men have never truly been alone.We are born into connection. First to our mothers, then to girlfriends, wives, and companions. From one emotional tether to the next, we move through life without ever sitting long enough with ourselves to hear what silence has to say.I used to be one of those men.My seduction was not about sport or validation. It was about survival. I was not chasing women; I was running from the emptiness that lived in the spaces between them. Every time a relationship ended, I rushed into the next. The silence was unbearable. The stillness felt like death.But over time, I learned that being alone is not punishment. It is calibration.The Psychology of AvoidancePsychologists have long studied this phenomenon. What I described, jumping from one relationship to the next, aligns with what attachment theory calls anxious-preoccupied attachment. It develops early in life when a child’s emotional security depends too heavily on another person’s presence.According to John Bowlby, the father of attachment theory, and later Mary Ainsworth, people who form this attachment style often fear abandonment so deeply that they unconsciously prioritize connection over autonomy.When relationships end, men like this do not just lose a partner. They lose their identity.The Biology of ConnectionFrom a biological standpoint, loneliness is not just emotional; it is chemical.In 2004, researchers Naomi Eisenberger and Matthew Lieberman at UCLA discovered that social rejection activates the same neural pathways as physical pain, particularly the anterior cingulate cortex. This means that when someone leaves you, your brain reacts as if you were physically wounded.So what do we do?We sedate that pain.Some drink. Some chase. Some scroll. And others, like I once did, look for another person to fill the space before the echo of loss has even settled.It is not weakness. It is wiring.But wiring can be rewritten.The Hidden Seduction of SolitudeThe greatest seduction is not what you do to others; it is what you discover within yourself.When you are alone, no one is there to blame. Not your mother. Not your ex. Not life.Just you and your reflection, the man behind all the noise.This is where real seduction begins. Because when you stop needing to be chosen, you start becoming magnetic.Carl Jung wrote that loneliness is not about having no one around, but about being unable to communicate what matters most. That is why most men chase women, not for companionship, but for translation. They want someone to interpret their silence, to give meaning to the parts of themselves they have never faced.But when you face those parts alone, when you learn to love your own company, you break the addiction to validation. You reclaim your freedom to choose, not out of fear, but out of awareness.The ExperimentIf you have never spent time completely alone, try this:* Three days.* No texting. No scrolling. No dating apps.* No alcohol or distractions.Just you, your thoughts, and a notebook.By the second day, your brain will panic. You will feel restless. That is withdrawal, not from people, but from attention.And if you push through, you will meet a version of yourself who does not need anyone to complete him. Only to complement him.Closing ReflectionI used to think being alone meant being unloved.Now I see it as a form of purification, the solitude that burns away illusion.If you cannot stand the thought of being alone with yourself, you are not ready to be with anyone else. Because otherwise, you are not offering love; you are outsourcing self-acceptance.The man who learns to seduce himself no longer begs to be desired.He becomes desire.Further ReflectionSpend one evening this week alone. No music, no phone, no screens. Just silence.Ask yourself: When was the last time I was truly alone without trying to escape it?Write down what comes up. The discomfort, the noise in your head, the thoughts that surface when there is no one left to impress or perform for. That is your raw self, unfiltered and unarmored.If you want to go deeper, reread this piece after that moment of solitude. You will notice that some lines hit differently. That is because solitude changes the frequency of your awareness. It helps you see how much of your desire is shaped by distraction, and how much power you actually hold when you stop chasing it.Being alone is not absence. It is the space where attraction begins again, this time from within.If you want to explore these ideas more deeply, here are a few powerful sources that inspired parts of this episode:* John Bowlby’s work on attachment theory (Attachment and Loss) explains how our early bonds shape the way we love, cling, and sometimes fear being alone as adults.* Mary Ainsworth’s studies on attachment styles (Patterns of Attachment) explore the patterns we repeat in relationships without realizing it.* Naomi Eisenberger and Matthew Lieberman’s research from UCLA showed how emotional pain activates the same regions of the brain as physical pain, proving that heartbreak literally hurts.* Carl Jung’s reflections on the self and solitude (Memories, Dreams, Reflections) describe how facing our inner world can transform loneliness into awakening.Each of these works adds another layer to understanding the psychology, biology, and spirituality of seduction, not only between people but also within ourselves.If someone you know should check this out, please share.Thanks for reading Seduction Tech! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

In this episode of Seduction Tech, I sit down with Mistress Audry Lu Black, a professional dominatrix and educator with more than twenty-five years of experience in behavioral modification and long-term power exchange relationships.This conversation goes far beyond whips and leather. Audry explains how consensual dominance and submission are built on communication, neuroscience, and trust. We explore the psychology of control, the biology of arousal, and how pain and pleasure share the same neural circuits that create addiction, release dopamine, and trigger mindfulness-like states.Studies from the Journal of Sexual Medicine and Frontiers in Psychology have shown that people involved in BDSM often report lower stress, higher relationship satisfaction, and stronger emotional regulation than average. Mistress Audry explains why controlled intensity forces presence. In her words, “Subspace feels like meditation. The mind shuts up and the body finally speaks.”We discuss how the BDSM community uses Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) as a model for ethics and why every couple, even so-called “vanilla” ones, can benefit from its structure of negotiation, aftercare, and awareness. She breaks down the difference between intimacy and intensity, why role-play is a powerful tool for connection, and how honest communication can revive a relationship that has lost its spark.This is not a conversation about shock value. It is a masterclass on human behavior, self-knowledge, and emotional intelligence disguised as a discussion about sex.Listen if you are curious about:• How operant conditioning shapes attraction and pleasure• Why submission can be a path to freedom• How dopamine, cortisol, and adrenaline work together in arousal cycles• The psychological parallels between kink and meditation• What “aftercare” teaches us about empathy and presenceMistress Audry Lu Black also shares practical advice for couples, solo explorers, and anyone wanting to understand power dynamics in love and life.Connect with her on Substack and find her podcast Placemaker for Perversion for deeper discussions about desire, spirituality, and psychology.Thanks for reading Seduction Tech! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

In this episode of the Seduction Tech Podcast, I sit down with DeMarco, who many of you may recognize from the reality series Super Sized Salon. On the show, he was in a relationship with the late Jamie Lopez, founder of Babydoll Beauty Couture, a salon that empowered plus-size women to feel beautiful, confident, and respected.Before I get into the conversation, I want to share something personal. I had the pleasure of meeting Jamie in person. She was Puerto Rican, like me, and we connected through culture and a shared belief that life continues beyond the physical realm for eternity. Her passing was a devastating loss, not only to those who knew her, but to everyone she inspired through her work and her message.The Backstory: Jamie and DeMarcoJamie was a visionary. She created Babydoll Beauty Couture as a safe and empowering space for plus-size women to be seen and celebrated. She took something personal, her own experience of feeling unseen, and turned it into a movement that celebrated beauty in every form.When Super Sized Salon began, Jamie was engaged to DeMarco, and their relationship quickly became a major part of the story. It was passionate, complicated, and human. As the pressures of fame, business, and personal issues grew, their connection began to fracture.By the end of the season, Jamie made a bold and emotional statement. Wearing the same white wedding dress she had bought for her wedding, she hosted what she called a “Freedom Wedding.” It was not about marriage. It was about release. She confronted DeMarco, closed that chapter of her life, and chose herself.That moment represented more than reality television. It was symbolic of something we all experience when love, loyalty, and purpose collide. It was about choosing self-respect over attachment and freedom over comfort.For DeMarco, that experience became a lesson in accountability and self-awareness. In this episode, he opens up about that relationship, what he learned, and how it changed him.The Conversation: Beyond Body TypesIn our talk, we dive into the psychology of attraction, energy, and connection, especially when it comes to dating women who do not fit the traditional beauty standard. We explore how confidence can be more attractive than looks, and how social media has warped people’s understanding of what real desire looks like.We also get into the difference between being thick and being big, and why many men misunderstand or avoid that conversation. DeMarco speaks openly about what drew him to Jamie, what he learned from their relationship, and how it shaped his growth as a man.This episode is not about labeling or judgment. It is about awareness and understanding the layers of attraction that go far beyond physical appearance.Why This Conversation MattersThis conversation is important because it touches on something most people avoid. It is about what happens when emotion, ambition, and self-discovery collide. It is about how love can build you up and also challenge who you think you are.Jamie’s story was about belief in herself and the courage to take back control of her life. DeMarco’s story is about learning accountability and maturity through experience. Together, their story is a reflection of the complex balance between love, purpose, and personal evolution.For men, this episode is a reminder that emotional awareness and self-discipline are not weaknesses. They are the foundation of real strength. Attraction means nothing if you lose yourself in the process.What You Will Hear in This Episode* The real difference between thick and big, and why it matters* The psychology of attraction beyond appearances* How confidence and self-awareness amplify connection* What DeMarco learned from his relationships* How social pressure shapes dating preferences* Why emotional maturity is key to sustaining real love* How to recognize when love becomes distractionFinal ThoughtsJamie Lopez left behind a legacy that continues to inspire anyone who has ever felt unseen. She built something powerful out of pain and turned her truth into an example of strength. Meeting her was an honor, and this conversation with DeMarco reminded me why these stories matter.Seduction Tech is not about quick tips or empty strategies. It is about understanding human psychology, attraction, and self-mastery. It is about helping men develop emotional intelligence, focus, and clarity so they can lead with strength and purpose in every area of life. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

Have you ever felt someone’s eyes on you, turned around, and caught them staring? That moment has always fascinated me. It is more than intuition. It is biology, psychology, and energy working together. In this episode of Seduction Tech, I explore what I call invisible seduction, the science and presence behind attraction that happens before touch, before conversation, before logic even enters the room.Humans are wired to sense when they are being watched. Studies from the University of London (Conty et al., 2010) and the University of Sydney (Clifford et al., 2015) show that the superior temporal sulcus (STS), a region in the brain, activates specifically when someone looks directly at us. Even if that gaze is detected from the corner of your eye, your body reacts. You can feel attention before you consciously know it is there. That is not magic. That is survival.But here is what most people do not realize: that awareness can be trained.Your gaze carries energy. Your emotional state radiates from you like an electromagnetic field. Research from the HeartMath Institute shows that the human heart emits measurable energy that changes depending on emotion. Calm confidence and grounded desire create a different signal than anxiety or need. People can feel that.So when I talk about seduction, I am not talking about lines, tricks, or manipulation. I am talking about energetic calibration, about mastering the space between you and another person without saying a single word.In this episode, I break down:* The neuroscience behind why we can feel someone’s gaze* How your emotional state becomes a silent broadcast that people sense instantly* Why attention is a currency and how to direct it with intention* The difference between watching and witnessing, between pressure and presence* How I use awareness training and energetic projection to shift an interaction before it beginsSeduction, to me, is energy management. It is learning to control your internal frequency so that your presence naturally pulls others in. Once you understand that attraction starts before contact, everything changes.Listen to the full episode on SeductionTech.com, Spotify, or Apple Podcasts.Follow me @qreyes on X for more on the science, psychology, and spirit of seduction.And subscribe to the Seduction Tech Youtube Channel.If you know someone who would enjoy this, please share.Thanks for reading Seduction Tech! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

In this episode of Seduction Tech, I sit down with writer and coach Mav Hamilton, the sharp mind behind Mavericks Manor. Mav has built a reputation for calling out the lies men tell themselves and exposing the brutal realities of modern dating. His words cut through the noise of PUA gimmicks and hollow motivational quotes, offering men clarity, conviction, and a path to real success.We cover:* Why men sabotage themselves in dating and life* The balance between confidence and humility that women can sense instantly* Why rejection, heartbreak, and failure are essential for growth* The truth about “bad boys” and why women chase them* How to play to your strengths instead of trying to be everything* Why honesty, conviction, and options give men real leverageThis is not a soft conversation. It is a raw and unfiltered look at the realities of seduction, attraction, and manhood in today’s world. If you are tired of gimmicks and want to understand what actually works, this conversation will change the way you see yourself, women, and the game.Listen now and rethink everything you thought you knew about seduction.Aside from here on Substack, you can find Mav on the following platforms: * Discord* Instagram* Threads* TikTok* YouTube* Medium* WebsiteIf someone you know would find this episode helpful, please share.Thanks for reading Seduction Tech! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

Stable relationships are comfortable. They feel good. They feel safe…BUT… there’s a hidden danger in that fleeting comfort: You can slowly lose yourself and not even notice, until it’s too late.When you have a significant other that provides a reason to rest, as well as provides a reason for you to share your valuable time, it’s not unlikely that some sacrifices will need to be made in order to reach those relationship compromises and responsibilities. What usually ends up in the chopping block is self-development.We may get into relationships and get so focused in nurturing that connection, that we lose focus on what made us attract this person in the first place. In this episode I discuss the 3 main reasons (and of course, there are many more) that some men let themselves go down a slippery slope of mediocrity and dissatisfaction.Whether you’re in a relationship or not, you must always follow the path of the greatest result, rather than the path of least resistance.If you take the time to study your situation, the first thing you may find is that you’re exhausted. Our already-limited energy is spent in completing tasks for the relationship as a priority. So once this finite energy is depleted, it’s difficult to get up and exercise, go to the gym, or even just have robust daily physical activity. Relationships take a lot of effort and energy, and that’s energy not being spent on taking care of yourself.Another factor is an attachment issue. Whether it’s from you towards her, or her towards you, the destructiveness of both possibilities meet the same fate. They both stop you from being able to move freely and take care of business. So, if she doesn’t want you to go to the gym, perhaps she’ll throw a bit of indirect guilt your way. Or, vise versa.This type of attachment doesn’t just affect you in the physical sense of not being able to engage in a healthy workout routine, but if you look deeper, it’s probably affecting other areas in your life, as well. Be honest with yourself, and be careful of these behaviors, from either side, in any relationship.The third reason is lack of motivation. But not because you’re not a motivated person, but because you’ve lost your why. You lost the reason you would want to become better. You don’t need to impress her. She says she loves your beer belly, and you believe it. It feels good to be accepted with flaws and all, so you lay there believing that you don’t need to do better, when deep inside, you know you’re lying to yourself. You know you would love to be in tip top shape. You would love for her to take you around her friends with pride… like, “yeah, that’s my man!” But comfort and excuses have become your modus operandi. You have dug yourself a hole that’s quite difficult to climb out of, if at all.The above are the reasons for this self-failure. But the solution lies within YOU. You already know what you need to do! You’ve never forgotten that. Maybe you keep telling yourself every day that “you’ll start on Monday,” but, weeks and years go by, and that proverbial Monday never gets here. Stop waiting until Monday. The time is now. You’re reading this because you needed to read this. This is resonating with you because you know it’s time to take action.Or… you can just simply keep believing the lie that “you’re good enough already.”It’s all up to you.If you know know someone who should read this, please share.Thanks for reading Seduction Tech! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

What if strength wasn’t about control, but about surrender? In this Seduction Tech episode, I sit down with Taylor Ellwood, who is a men’s coach, writer, and explorer of “sovereign submission,” in order to unpack a taboo subject: the power of men who embrace submission.Taylor shares his journey from heartbreak to men’s work, his critique of performative dominance, and how living as a submissive man brought him clarity, empowerment, and deeper intimacy. We dive into:* The difference between being “nice” and being truly submissive* Why vulnerability and surrender can be forms of strength* How rituals and service redefine pleasure and masculinity* The line between ego-driven sex and service-driven intimacy* Why men must speak up for their true desiresWhether you reject the label or feel a hidden resonance with it, this conversation will challenge your assumptions and open new possibilities for how masculinity, power, and desire can be lived.You can connect with Taylor through the following platforms:Substack and his website TheMensMysteries.comYou can also follow Taylor on Instagram or check out a full list of other platforms here.Thanks for reading Seduction Tech! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

Have you ever heard the parable of the two bulls? One young and impatient, the other seasoned and wise. The story, famously retold in the 1988 movie Colors, holds one of the greatest lessons in seduction: patience.In this episode of Seduction Tech, I break down why the slow approach is the most powerful strategy in attraction. We explore:* The Two Bulls Parable and why it is more relevant today than ever* Why rushing to close kills seduction while patience multiplies your chances* How long-term thinking opens more doors than quick wins* The discipline of waiting and why it feels uncomfortable but pays off* Real-world strategies to hold back, stop forcing outcomes, and let desire build naturallySeduction is not a sprint. It is a slow walk down the hill. Learn why patience creates the kind of attraction that lasts, while impatience leaves you with nothing.If someone needs to hear this, share it…Thanks for reading Seduction Tech! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com

What does seduction really look like when the filters, dating rules, and surface games are stripped away?In this episode of Seduction Tech, I sit down with Jax, a writer and creator who has lived inside the worlds most men only fantasize about. From yachts and luxury mansions to the emptiness of sugar babying and the struggles of navigating male attention, Jax shares unfiltered truths about attraction, respect, and survival.This is not theory. It is lived experience.We discuss:* Why money and status cannot replace real seduction* How powerful men often use wealth to hide sadness and insecurity* The difference between empty attention and genuine connection* Why listening is one of the most underrated seductive skills* The dangers of trauma bonds and toxic love* How honesty fuels real intimacy and even deeper orgasms* Why boundaries and self respect matter more than gifts or lifestyleJax also opens up about gender identity, attraction across the spectrum, and the role of honesty in desire. It is a conversation that pushes past cliches and enters the raw reality of seduction, power, and relationships today.If you are a man trying to understand what truly matters to women, or if you are someone curious about the intersection of money, intimacy, and psychology, this episode will challenge your perspective.You can follow Jax’s thoughts on Substack, and her travel adventures on Instagram.🎧 Listen now on SeductionTech.com, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and every major platform.📱 Track your own interactions with the Seduction PRM App, available now in the App Store.If someone should listen to this… please share!Thanks for reading Seduction Tech! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seductioned.substack.com