The Highly Sensitive Woman | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem

How often has it felt risky to show up as your true self? For many highly sensitive women, all emotions spill out in tears. While that can feel vulnerable or even “too much,” your tears aren’t a weakness; they’re proof of your authenticity.   The three key practices that help highly sensitive women feel safe being their true selves:   🩵 Redefine what tears mean: they’re a release valve 🩵 Create inner safety first: learn simple practices to ground yourself and calm your nervous system 🩵 Communicate with others: naming your emotions helps build compassion and connection   Your emotions aren’t something to hide, they’re part of your courage, presence, and humanity.   Want to connect and learn more about embracing your tears?   ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

If you’ve ever walked into a room and felt your senses go into overdrive - the noise, the chatter, the energy - it can feel like too much. Before long, your body is overwhelmed, your inner critic is loud, and you leave drained and disappointed.   In this episode of The Highly Sensitive Woman, I’m sharing a personal story from a women’s retreat and three practical tips to help you protect your energy, manage sensory overload, and approach these moments with more self-kindness.   You’ll learn: ✨ How to notice and name which sense is being overstimulated ✨ Simple ways to give your body and mind a restorative break ✨ Why releasing shame after the fact helps preserve your energy   Whether you choose to leave, step away for a break, or stay and soak up the experience, you’ll walk away from this episode with encouragement and maybe even the permission you didn’t know you needed to take up space and honor your needs without apology.   Want to connect and learn more about protecting your energy to limit sensory overload?   ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?    ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

Have you ever tried to use the wrong tool for the job? It might work for a while, but eventually things fall apart. The tool itself isn’t broken; it’s just being used in a way for which it wasn’t designed.   That’s exactly what happens for highly sensitive women when we try to operate like the other 80% of the population. Instead of honoring the way we’re wired, we push ourselves to fit in, and when it doesn’t work, we turn on ourselves with criticism.   In this episode of The Highly Sensitive Woman, I’m exploring how self-criticism quietly drains your confidence, why it shows up so often for HSPs, and what it costs us emotionally, practically, and relationally. Most importantly, I’ll share how you can begin shifting that inner voice from criticism to curiosity, and from self-doubt to self-trust.   What you’ll learn in this episode:   🌟 Why using the wrong “tool” is the perfect metaphor for self-criticism 🌟 The sneaky ways self-criticism convinces us it’s helpful 🌟 The hidden costs of misusing your sensitivity 🌟 A practical reframe to quiet your critical voice and rebuild confidence 🌟 Simple steps to honor your sensitivity and thrive   If you’re ready to stop misusing your strengths and start honoring the way you’re designed, this episode will give you both encouragement and the practical steps to begin.    Want to connect and learn more about quieting the critical voice and building confidence from a place of self-compassion?   ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

Have you ever agreed to something you didn’t want to do, stayed quiet when something bothered you, or found yourself overexplaining your “no” just to soften the impact? These small moments might seem harmless, but over time they can lead to frustration, disconnection, and deep resentment in your relationships.   In this episode of The Highly Sensitive Woman, I’m exploring how weak boundaries quietly create resentment, and why strengthening your boundaries is actually a pathway to more authentic, fulfilling connections.   You’ll learn:   🩵 Why resentment is often a signal of crossed boundaries 🩵 The subtle, everyday signs of weak boundaries you might not even notice 🩵 How honoring your limits strengthens relationships instead of damaging them 🩵 Practical steps to set boundaries without guilt or overexplaining   If you’ve ever felt depleted, frustrated, or unappreciated in your relationships, this episode will help you recognize what’s really happening underneath and give you the tools to start creating more space for yourself and for deeper connection with others.   Want to connect and learn more about setting boundaries?   ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

Sometimes the smallest change in how we see things can make the biggest difference. What if someone’s sharp tone wasn’t about you at all? What if “different” didn’t mean “wrong”? Our perspective can either weigh us down or set us free.   In this episode, I’m sharing 4 gentle perspective shifts that will help you lighten your emotional load and bring more peace to your daily life.   I’m discussing:   ✨ Why noticing subtle cues is a gift and how to stop carrying meaning that isn’t yours ✨ A freeing reminder that different doesn’t equal wrong ✨ How to release ownership of other people’s reactions ✨ The surprising peace that comes from choosing neutral   Want to connect and learn more about shifting your perspective?   ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

Have you ever been complimented on something -  an outfit, a choice, a way of being - and deep down thought, “This isn’t even me”?   As highly sensitive women, we’re often praised for the roles we play: the versions of ourselves carefully constructed to gain approval, keep the peace, or fit in. But what happens when the life you’re living doesn’t actually feel like yours?   In this episode, I’m peeling back the layers of people-pleasing and performance to help you reconnect with the real you, the one who’s been there all along. Together, we’ll explore why it can feel so hard to know ourselves as HSPs, and I’ll share gentle, practical ways to tune into your truth and start becoming who you’ve always been.   What You’ll Learn in This Episode:   ✨ Why highly sensitive women often lose touch with their authentic selves ✨ How to use a “Not Me” list to get clear on what doesn’t belong to you ✨ Ways to spot subtle moments when you’re performing instead of being ✨ How to trust your body’s wisdom when making decisions ✨ The power of reconnecting with forgotten joys to rediscover your inner compass   Becoming who you’ve always been isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about peeling back what isn’t you — and remembering who you’ve always been underneath.   Want to connect and learn more about becoming who you’ve always been?   ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

Are you stuck in “just one more” podcast, book, or course, waiting until you feel perfectly ready? As highly sensitive women, we often love to be prepared, and we’re really good at it.   In this episode, I'm talking about how perfectionism keeps highly sensitive women playing small, and the gentle, doable steps you can take to grow… even when it feels messy.   You’ll walk away with tangible tools, reflection prompts, and a reminder that courage isn’t about being ready; it’s about moving forward even when you’re not.   What You’ll Learn:   🩵 The surprising reason perfectionism feels safe for highly sensitive women 🩵 How to reframe your comfort zone as a place of rest, not residence 🩵 4 subtle signs perfectionism might be running the show 🩵 Three gentle practices to help you take brave, imperfect action 🩵 Reflection prompts to help you uncover where you’re hiding in preparation   Links & Resources Mentioned in This Episode:   Episode 3: Don’t Let Overwhelm Steal Your Joy. 6 Strategies to Increase Distress Tolerance and Reduce Anxiety   Episode 14: Expand Your Capacity by Protecting Your Energy   Episode 23: Overstimulated? 6 Tactical Ways to Calm Your Senses   If this episode spoke to you, share it with a friend who might need the encouragement. And if you take one brave action this week, I’d love to hear about it so we can celebrate together! Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com

Have you ever been in a space where everything suddenly feels like too much? The lights. The noise. The energy. As a highly sensitive woman, sensory overload might not be occasional — it might be part of your daily life.   In this episode, I’m sharing six nervous system-friendly tools you can use in the moment to soothe your senses and bring yourself back into regulation without needing to push through or shut down. These aren’t the same tips you’ve heard over and over… they’re simple, accessible, and truly effective.   If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed in a grocery store, a crowded gathering, or even just your own home, this episode will leave you feeling supported and empowered.   What You’ll Learn: 🩵 Why sensory overload isn’t a sign of weakness, but a message from your nervous system 🩵 A powerful mindset shift that can reframe how you view overstimulation 🩵 Six real-time sensory regulation tools You’re not “too sensitive.” You’re deeply in tune with your environment — and that’s a gift. These tools are here to help you honor that sensitivity, not fight against it. If this episode resonated with you, share it with another sensitive soul who might need it today. And if you haven’t yet, I’d love for you to leave a review — your words help others find this space, too. Want to connect and learn more about regulating your senses?   ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?    ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

Do you feel guilty saying “no”? Are you constantly putting other people’s needs ahead of your own? As a highly sensitive woman, you might be caught in the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing, unclear boundaries, and inner turmoil. But here’s the truth: setting healthy boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s the key to protecting your energy and creating the peace you’ve been craving. In this episode, I’m breaking down: Why highly sensitive women often become people-pleasers. The real cost of living without boundaries—resentment, stress, and emotional exhaustion. What healthy boundaries really look like (hint: they build deeper, more trusting connections). Simple, practical strategies to start setting boundaries without guilt. How to deal with pushback and unlock the freedom that comes with protecting your peace. You’ll walk away with clear steps to begin honoring your needs and creating a life that feels aligned, calm, and authentic. If you’re ready for personalized support, schedule a consultation with me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com. Together, we’ll create a plan to help you set boundaries with confidence and finally step into the life you deserve.

In this heartfelt and empowering episode, I’m getting real about what it means to be a highly sensitive woman. From personal experiences to powerful insights, I’m sharing why sensitivity is not something that needs to be fixed, but rather, something to be celebrated.   We’ll explore how the world has conditioned many of us to believe our deep emotions and big feelings are flaws, and I’ll offer a different perspective: one where your sensitivity is your strength.   What You’ll Learn: 🩵 The truth behind emotional depth and why it’s a sign of emotional intelligence 🩵 How your sensitivity fuels empathy and powerful connection 🩵 The link between sensitivity, intuition, and creativity 🩵 Why highly sensitive women are thoughtful, wise decision-makers 🩵 How sensitivity paves the way for deep, meaningful relationships If you’ve ever wished you could tone it down or wondered if you were just “too much,” this episode is for you.   Let’s Connect: If this episode resonated with you, I’d love to hear from you! Reach out on Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya, share your thoughts in a review, or send this to a fellow sensitive soul who needs to hear it.

Because sometimes we all need a moment to catch our breath, The Highly Sensitive Woman podcast is taking a break. I'll be back on July 24th with new episodes. Until then, listen to some of your favorites or get caught up on episodes you may have missed.   Want to connect with me and other Highly Sensitive Women?   ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

How often do you let other people decide how your time together will unfold — what you’ll do, when you’ll do it, even what you’ll talk about? You show up, but you leave feeling empty, unfulfilled, and disconnected — like you can’t fully be yourself. Today, I’m pulling back the curtain on how this subtle form of people-pleasing keeps you from building the deep, meaningful connections you truly crave — and what to do instead. In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most overlooked ways people-pleasing shows up — by constantly deferring to what others want, especially in your relationships. Whether it’s family, friends, or romantic partners, this pattern of keeping your desires hidden prevents others from truly knowing — and accepting — the real you.   I’ll share a personal story of how I broke that cycle with an incredibly vulnerable conversation, how I prepared for it, and how even when it didn’t go perfectly, it was still completely worth it. Because when you plant seeds of authenticity, that’s when real connection begins.   If You’ve Ever… ✔️ Felt unseen or unfulfilled after spending time with someone ✔️ Struggled to express your wants, needs, or preferences ✔️ Worried that speaking up might rock the boat or cause rejection …this episode is for you.   Let’s Connect: If today’s conversation resonated with you, I’d love to hear your thoughts or experiences. Reach out on Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya, Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya, or info@lifecoachallyssya.com and let me know how you’re creating more authentic connections in your life.  

We all experience those moments when self-doubt creeps in — sometimes it’s triggered by a specific event, and other times it shows up uninvited, with no clear reason at all. The important part is what happens next. Do we let that doubt take over, or do we make a conscious choice to shift toward confidence? In this episode, we’re diving into practical ways to help you do just that. In this Part 2 episode, I’m sharing five more simple, yet powerful tactics you can use today to boost your confidence and reignite your self-belief. Whether you’re stuck in a low-confidence moment or simply want to feel even better, these tools are designed to meet you where you are. In this episode, you’ll learn: ✨ The science-backed power of Power Posing — and how standing like an “X” for just two minutes can change your mood and presence ✨ How to build trust with yourself by setting and keeping small promises — even something as simple as drinking a glass of water or limiting your social media time ✨ The magic of revisiting compliments and creating a “You Did That” celebration list to remind yourself of your wins ✨ Why doing one thing you're good at — no matter how small — can instantly remind you of your capability ✨ The reflective power of writing a letter to your younger or future self, and how this practice can help you find compassion and clarity Remember: Not every tool will feel doable all the time, and that’s okay. The key is to explore, experiment, and discover what works for you — today, and as you continue to grow. If you missed Part 1, be sure to go back and check out the first five confidence-boosting tactics I shared! You’ve got this — and you’re more capable than you think.   Want to connect and learn more about boosting your confidence?   ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

Do you ever feel like you aren’t good enough? We all have those moments, sometimes because something happened and sometimes there’s no explanation for it, but it’s what we do next that determines if we continue down the low-confidence spiral or shift in the other direction with confidence boosters. In Part 1, I’m sharing 5 tactics you can do today to invigorate you and foster a sense of self-assurance.   Want to connect and learn more about boosting your confidence? ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  I’m offering Buy One, Get One FREE individual coaching sessions purchased 5/1/25-6/30/25. ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

I used to go through life with an undercurrent of irritation all of the time, and didn’t really understand why. Then I heard this quote from Neil Strauss: “Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.” The concept was enlightening, and I also wasn’t sure how to start saying what I wanted because I’d rarely done it.   In this episode, you’ll learn:   🩵 How to check in with yourself before speaking up 🩵 The importance of expressing your desires up front 🩵 Why stating things clearly matters 🩵 What asking for the other person’s feedback looks like 🩵 How regular conversations about expectations makes it easier   You deserve to state your expectations in every area of your life and let go of the resentment you’ve been carrying around for far too long.   Want to connect and learn more about expressing your expectations to avoid resentment? ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya     Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  I’m offering Buy One, Get One FREE individual coaching sessions purchased 5/1/25-6/30/25. ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

When old thought patterns creep back in, try not to panic because it’s a totally normal part of life and you're just learning to dance to the new soundtrack you’re creating for yourself. In this episode, I’m going behind the scenes of being human and reminding you that you are not alone when it feels like you’ve stumbled backward. In truth, a stronger, more confident you is emerging.    Want to be entered in the drawing to win one of my favorite books? 1) Leave a review 2) Share the podcast on social media 3) Email screenshots of both of those things to info@lifecoachallyssya.com  Drawing June 13th, 2025   Want to connect and learn more from behind the scenes of being human? ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  I’m offering Buy One, Get One FREE individual coaching sessions purchased 5/1/25-6/30/25. ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com. 

Have you felt misunderstood your entire life, so you stay guarded when interacting with people, waiting until you feel safe to open up and show them the real you? Being rejected is painful, and so is going through life guarded, pretending to be a version of yourself that isn’t entirely authentic. Letting your guard down is risky, and you might get rejected. There’s also the possibility that by showing others who you really are, you create an opportunity for relationship trust and the type of connections you crave. In this episode, I offer tips for revealing your thoughts by revisiting topics in conversations, whether during the same gathering or at a later date. And I share how taking the lead could change the dynamics of the relationship.   Want to be entered in the drawing to win one of my favorite books? 1) Leave a review 2) Share the podcast on social media 3) Email screenshots of both of those things to info@lifecoachallyssya.com    Want to connect and learn more about taking risks to create relationship trust? ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  I’m offering Buy One, Get One FREE individual coaching sessions purchased 5/1/25-6/30/25. ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

Do you ever say No to an invitation because you fear you won’t have enough energy to do it, even though you would rather say Yes? What we do before and during an activity makes a huge difference in our enjoyment of the experience. In this episode, I’m sharing how you can expand your capacity to do more by offering ways to protect your energy, because when you preserve your energy, you get to have experiences you never thought were possible.  Listen in as I discuss: 🩵 Creating a morning routine that feels right for you and sets the tone for the day 🩵 Planning ahead to create comfort and reduce stress during the experience 🩵 Asking yourself, in the moment, what you really want or need Also hear how one of my clients enjoyed time with her family in a way she's never experienced.   Want to be entered in the drawing to win one of my favorite books? 1) Leave a review 2) Share the podcast on social media 3) Email screenshots of both of those things to info@lifecoachallyssya.com    Want to connect and learn more about expanding your capacity by protecting your energy? ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  I’m offering Buy One, Get One FREE individual coaching sessions purchased 5/1/25-6/30/25. ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

Most of us go through life trying to avoid the pain of rejection, judgment and failure, not realizing that our comfort zone isn’t so cozy, and that by not pushing beyond those limits, we are guaranteeing rejection, judgment, and failure. Inside this episode, you’ll discover there’s discomfort outside your comfort zone and there’s a lot of discomfort inside your comfort zone too, and we’ll begin exploring what could be possible if you allowed yourself to tolerate the discomfort that comes outside those self-imposed boundaries.   Want to connect and learn more about living beyond your comfort zone? ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  I’m offering Buy One, Get One FREE individual coaching sessions purchased 5/1/25-6/30/25. ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.

If you spend hours, days, weeks, or maybe even years replaying conversations and interactions in your mind, you are not alone. In this episode, I share how ruminating robs us of time and so much more.    Key takeaways: 🩵 Ruminating takes a TON of energy 🩵 We are innately selfish creatures, and that’s not a bad thing 🩵 You are already living your worst fear 🩵 Ruminating robs you of the connection you are craving   Want to connect and learn more about how to stop ruminating? ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on this week’s post on: Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya   Ready to begin your journey of self-acceptance?  I’m offering Buy One, Get One FREE individual coaching sessions purchased 5/1/25-6/30/25. ➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@lifecoachallyssya.com.