Proxy with Yowei Shaw

Once upon a time, Yowei felt embarrassed to have a boyfriend—not because of him, but because of what it said about her. New episodes of Proxy return April 21.This story comes from the Love Letters podcast. Listen to more of their episodes here. New to Proxy? Start with Bisexual Wife Guy — it’s one of the clearest examples of what this show does.

When Andrea Dunlop's sister was investigated for Munchausen by proxy abuse, it tore her family apart. In this episode of Nobody Should Believe Me, Andrea tries to understand what happened by talking to a proxy family who went through something similar.New episodes of Proxy return April 21.Listen to Nobody Should Believe Me and the latest season here. New to Proxy? Start with Bisexual Wife Guy — it’s one of the clearest examples of what this show does.

Nicole is an organizer who's good at channeling her anger. The problem is she can't always downshift. New episodes return April 21.From the episode:  Learn more about Deborah Gould, a Professor and Chair of Sociology at UC Santa Cruz Read Debbie's book Moving Politics: Emotion and ACT UP's Fight Against AIDS For liner notes and reading recs from Debbie and Nicole, sign up for our newsletter by becoming a free member of our Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/ProxyPodcast Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: Bob and the Forgiveness Spell (wanting to let go of something, but not knowing how) Amanda and the Nonstop Narrator (when your inner voice won’t leave you alone)

Erin wants to forgive the person she's holding a grudge against, but doesn't know how. Is it possible to just disappear resentment?New episodes of Proxy return April 21.From the episode:  Find Robert Enright's forgiveness program and other free resources at the International Forgiveness Institute: www.internationalforgiveness.com Read Bob's book Forgiveness Is A Choice: A Step-By-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope Learn more about Bob and his research Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: JC's Kids Won't Talk To Her (when your version of a relationship doesn't match theirs) Bisexual Wife Guy (what it takes to move on from a breakup without closure)

Yaroslava’s town in Ukraine was taken by Russians. She's now safe in the US. But how do you make a new life when you feel guilty about not being home?New episodes of Proxy return April 21.From the episode:  Learn more about Dignity Beyond Borders at www.dignitybeyondborders.org and follow them on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn @dignitybeyondborders Follow Yaroslava on Instagram @yasiiaaaa Watch Sariyah Abuzant's film "FordDat" at https://vimeo.com/1101397354?fl=pl&fe=sh Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: Zakiya Used to Be So Fun (missing a version of yourself you can’t quite get back) Mic Chooses the Wrong Life (being pulled toward a life that doesn’t exist anymore)

A historic step in extrovert-introvert relations i.e. a proxy bloodbath roundtable with 2 extroverts and 2 introverts airing our grievances about each other. New episodes of Proxy return April 21.From the episode:  Learn more about Aparna Nancherla, read her book Unreliable Narrator, and follow her on Instagram @aparnapkin Learn more about Ryan Letts at Pando Integration Coaching Learn more about Jennifer Kahnweiler, listen to her podcast Introvert Ally, and read her book The Genius of Opposites Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: Alex and the Impossible Ask (when you're embarrassed to ask for what you need in a relationship) Amanda and the Nonstop Narrator (how the way we talk to ourselves shapes who we are)

At the heart of many family estrangements lies a mystery. Adult kids insist they’ve told their parents why they’re walking away, while parents say they don’t understand. Why is it sometimes so hard for parents to hear their kids? And how to get through?New episodes of Proxy return April 21.From the episode:  Learn more about Becca Bland and her work with families and people surviving estrangement Learn more about Joshua Coleman, subscribe to his newsletter Family Troubles, and read his book New Rules of Estrangement Learn more about reporter Kim Nederveen Pieterse This is a special membership campaign episode! Help us get to 1500 paying Patreon members by Oct. 9th to cover the costs of making another year of emotional investigative journalism! Proxy is an independent podcast and we rely mostly on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ and help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon starting at $5 a month. You’ll get exclusive premium episodes, ad-free episodes, and access to the chat. To just get our newsletter, join our Patreon for free 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: Yaroslava Can’t Go Back Home (grieving relationships that have changed in ways you can’t undo) Is It Time to Break Up the Band? (when a relationship is stuck but not over)

The case of the mom who doesn’t understand, and the daughter who’s done explaining.New episodes of Proxy return April 21.From the episode:  Learn more about Chess Dugas, subscribe to her YouTube channel The Scapegoat Club, and follow her on TikTok Learn more about Joshua Coleman, subscribe to his newsletter Family Troubles, and read his book New Rules of Estrangement Learn more about reporter Kim Nederveen Pieterse Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: An Estrangement Mystery (wanting to understand why a relationship ended—and not being able to) Bob and the Forgiveness Spell (wanting to let go of something, but not knowing how)

Alex used to host a huge podcast (Reply All). He now makes a new independent show and loves doing it. Only problem is, Alex now has to ask for money all the time to survive, which he hates.New episodes of Proxy return April 21.From the episode:  Listen to Alex Goldman's new podcast Hyperfixed Learn more about Haley Bash and Donor Organizer Hub, a support network for people who fundraise for under-resourced causes The Accidental Fundraiser, Haley's step-by-step guide to raising money for your cause Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: The First Ever Extrovert–Introvert Cage Match (when friends just have very different ways of being) Bisexual Wife Guy (when a relationship ends without clear answers)

Ever since the election, Sandy Ernest Allen has been clocking a strange silence from cis people about trans rights. So Sandy reached into the void to hear what the silence had to say.From the episode:  Learn more about Sandy Ernest Allen and his work Sandy's newsletter What's Helping Today For suggestions on how to support trans people, read"To Cis People Who Feel Despair" Follow Sandy on Bluesky @sandyernestallen and see the post Support Sandy's writing with a tip: https://buymeacoffee.com/sandyallen Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: Nicole Can’t Stop Being Aggro (when the world feels overwhelming—and it starts to take over how you feel) Yaroslava Can't Go Home (grieving a life that's changed in ways you can't undo)

Anya Kamenetz was having trouble coping with the state of the world. So she decided to report on those feelings. In this conversation, Anya shares what she learned from talking to scientists, activists, and thinkers about our collective emotions - why we feel the things we do, the limits of those feelings, and how to move through them to take action. From the episode:  Learn more about Anya Kamenetz and her work Read Anya's newsletter The Golden Hour Listen to We Are the Great Turning, a podcast Anya produced with eco-spiritual teacher Joanna Macy about love, courage, and connection in the climate crisis Proxy is an independent podcast and we rely mostly on listeners. To support emotional investigative journalism™️ and help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon starting at $5 a month. You’ll get ad-free listening, access to our group Zoom hangs, and bonus episodes, like this extended conversation with Anya Kamenetz. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: Nicole Can’t Stop Being Aggro (when the world feels overwhelming and it starts to take over how you feel) Yaroslava Can’t Go Back Home (grieving a life that’s changed in ways you can’t undo)

The case of the people person who fell out of love with people. From the episode:  Learn more about Zakiya Gibbons Follow Zakiya on Instagram @zak_sauce Learn more about Dr. William Chopik and his research Follow Bill on Bluesky @Chops310 or X @Chops310 Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: The First Ever Extrovert–Introvert Cage Match (when you feel out of sync with the people around you) Bisexual Wife Guy (when a relationship raises unexpected questions about who you are)

The case of Amanda, a writer whose internal monologue won't stop narrating her life, instead of just letting her live it.From the episode:  Read Amanda Montell's books The Age of Magical Overthinking, Cultish, and Wordslut Listen to Amanda's podcasts Magical Overthinkers and Sounds Like a Cult Follow Amanda on Instagram @amanda_montell Learn more about Jonathan Adler's work Follow Jonathan on X @JonathanMAdler, Bluesky @jadler.bsky.social, and LinkedIn Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf you liked this, try: Bisexual Wife Guy (when you keep replaying a breakup in your head) Nicole Can’t Stop Being Aggro (when anger is easier to feel than grief)

The case of Brian, a journalist whose mother-in-law has Alzheimer's. Even though Brian knows she can’t help misremembering things, he can’t stop losing his patience with her, and with himself. From the episode:  Listen to Brian Reed's podcast Question Everything Follow Brian on Instagram @brihreed and X @BriHReed Caregiving resources from Claudia Drossel Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: Bob and the Forgiveness Spell (wanting to feel differently but not being able to) Amanda and the Nonstop Narrator (when you can’t stop your internal monoogue, even when you know better)

The case of Evan and Chris, best friends who love playing music together. But after the band suffers a terrible tragedy, they find themselves unable to regain their momentum. We pair them up with another musician who’s all too familiar with the neverending drama that comes with being in a band with friends. From the episode:  Listen to The Superweaks and the single "Blindside" from their new record The Superweaks Superweekly Supercast episode where Yowei stumbles into the case Follow them on Instagram @thesuperweaks Read Ryan Dusick's memoir Harder to Breathe: A Memoir of Making Maroon, Losing It All, and Finding Recovery Learn more about Ryan and follow him on Instagram @ryan_michael_dusick Listen to The Harder To Breathe Podcast  The Music Industry Therapist Collective Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: Alex and the Impossible Ask (when a relationship asks for something you don’t know how to give) Brian Can’t Stop Fact-Checking His Mother-in-Law (when resentment builds over time)

For a long time, Yowei saw her introversion as a character flaw to fix. She gets advice from comedian (and fellow introvert) Aparna Nancherla about how to stop wishing for personality puberty to hit.From the episode:  Read Aparna's book Unreliable Narrator: Me, Myself, and Imposter Syndrome Learn more about Aparna Follow her on Instagram @aparnapkin Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, by Susan Cain Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our lunch Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: The First Ever Extrovert–Introvert Cage Match (feeling like you’re too much or not enough around others) Bisexual Wife Guy (trying to understand what role you played in a relationship that ended)

The case of Mic, who feels like he defied his fate and now has no purpose in life. We find someone uniquely able to help him break out of his regret loop. From the episode:  Follow Mic Nguyen on Instagram @nicepantsbro and subscribe to his podcast Asian Not Asian Read Amy Summerville's paper, one of the most cited articles on regret Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: Zakiya Used to Be So Fun (missing a version of yourself you used to be) Amanda and the Nonstop Narrator (when your mind won’t stop telling a story about your life)

The case of George, the bisexual wife guy who got dumped. In this episode, we find a proxy to stand in for a listener's ex - another queer woman who left her straight relationship.New episodes return April 21.From the episode:  Listen to Hanna’s podcasts Radio Atlantic and Chutzpod! Follow her on X @hannarosin and Instagram @hannarosin Our Path, a listener-recommended support group for for straight partners of LGBTQ+ folks Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our lunch Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf this episode resonated, you might also try: Alex and the Impossible Ask (wanting something from someone who can’t give it) Bob and the Forgiveness Spell (when moving on doesn’t come easily)

Yowei shares exciting show news and goes on a self-delusion bender with the team at Proxy HQ. Is she being delusional? Or is delusion just necessary for starting any new project?From the episode:  Useful Delusions: The Power & Paradox of the Self-Deceiving Brain, by Shankar Vedantam Radiotopia from PRX Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.com

The story of someone who suffered alone in secret for 8 years with a problem he was too afraid to Google -  and then he stumbled into a support group. In this episode, we dive into the emotional dynamics of support groups with Jason Yu. Why did support groups help him, when nothing else did?From the episode:  Listen to Jason Yu's podcast Fidget Follow Fidget on Instagram @fidgetpodcast The TLC Foundation, an organization for body-focused repetitive behaviors Jason's book recs for learning how to build community: The Art of Gathering and How We Show Up Proxy is an independent podcast, supported mostly by listeners. If you want to help the show keep going, consider joining our Patreon. Membership starts at $5 a month and includes bonus episodes, ad-free-listening, and access to our group Zoom hangs. You can also join for free to get the newsletter 🍏Follow us on Instagram: @proxypodcast @yoweishawGet in touch at proxythepod@gmail.comIf you want to hear how this plays out in a real story, try Amanda and the Nonstop Narrator (when you’re stuck in your own head and wondering how you come across to other people).