Different, Not Broken

I didn’t want to have this rant.I’m tired of needing to have this rant.Hi, I’m Lauren Howard. You can call me L2. Like other people do.In this episode of Different, Not Broken, I talk about ICE raids, fear, and what it feels like when people are genuinely afraid to exist in their own communities.I tell a personal story about someone I rely on every day being too scared to drive six minutes across her own neighbourhood — despite being a citizen — because ICE was crawling the area. And I unpack why “just comply” is a lie that doesn’t protect people when power isn’t being exercised responsibly.This episode is about fear that makes sense, exhaustion that isn’t a personal failure, and why mental health can’t be separated from the political reality we’re living inside.Later in the episode, I’m joined by Myah Knight for a deeper conversation about queer faith, religious trauma, and the kind of community people need when institutions become unsafe.You’ll hear:Why fear is a rational response to what’s happening right nowWhy “just comply” doesn’t actually keep people safeHow power shifts the goalposts until you’re always in the wrongWhat allostatic load is and why you’re exhausted even when you’re not doing muchHow queer faith and community can exist alongside religious traumaWhy needing support doesn’t mean you’re brokenOnce you’ve been inspired to brag, here’s where you can do it!https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/voicemailUseful stuffStuff that helps you become awesome even if you’re different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Chapters / Timestamps00:00 – Why I’m talking about ICE and fear01:06 – Being too scared to drive six minutes03:20 – Why “just comply” doesn’t protect you06:37 – What federal overreach actually looks like10:00 – Fear, abuse dynamics, and moving goalposts15:45 – Why you’re exhausted even when you’re doing nothing19:50 – Why I wanted Myah in this conversation20:30 – Queer faith, religious trauma, and healing37:25 – Small Talk listener question: dissociation or burnout?40:15 – What I want you to hear before you goMentioned in this episode:Wanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not BrokenBrag on yourselfWanna brag on yourself for something you've done which you're proud of? https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/voicemailBuild Your Better courseBuild your better course - https://stan.store/elletwo/p/build-your-betterJoin Quirky

I recognised him instantly.I’d never met him before.Hi, I’m Lauren Howard. You can call me L2. Like other people do.In this episode of Different, Not Broken, I tell the story of going to a startup funding event in Miami and unexpectedly sitting down next to someone I knew far too much about… despite never having spoken to him in my life.It turns out reality TV, social conditioning, and a neurodivergent brain make for a very specific kind of social experience.This episode is about what it’s like to hold a straight face while your brain is doing cartwheels, why masking often looks like politeness, and how much effort goes into pretending you don’t know what you know.You’ll hear:Why recognition doesn’t always come from real relationshipsWhat masking actually looks like in everyday social situationsWhy being “polite” is often a survival skillHow neurodivergent brains process people and patterns differentlyWhy explaining yourself gets exhausting fastOnce you’ve been inspired to brag, here’s where you can do it!https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/voicemailUseful stuffStuff that helps you become awesome even if you’re different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Chapters / Timestamps00:00 – I recognized him instantly01:12 – Reality TV, hate watching, and accidental expertise04:06 – Going to an event alone (never again)06:48 – Sitting down next to someone I shouldn’t know09:02 – Knowing too much and saying nothing12:31 – Masking as politeness15:18 – Why pretending not to know is exhausting18:44 – Listener brag: feeling hopeful about 202620:02 – A very important question for sleep scientists23:10 – Small Talk Listener Question: communicating needs without feeling difficultMentioned in this episode:Brag on yourselfWanna brag on yourself for something you've done which you're proud of? https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/voicemailJoin QuirkyWanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not BrokenBuild Your Better courseBuild your better course - https://stan.store/elletwo/p/build-your-better

I have a habit of saying the obvious things most workplaces avoid.Hi, I’m Lauren Howard. You can call me L2. Like other people do.In this episode of Different, Not Broken, I break down why basic human standards at work get treated like radical ideas, why return to office policies are deeply ableist, and why so much “innovative leadership” is really just common sense wrapped in better language.This episode is about simplifying what’s been overcomplicated for years.You’ll hear:Why psychological safety isn’t a perkHow bad management hides behind complexityThe real reason companies are pushing return to officeWhy clarity often gets mistaken for controversyWhat actually changes when you treat people like humansOnce you’ve been inspired to brag, here’s where you can do it!https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/voicemailUseful stuffStuff that helps you become awesome even if you’re different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Chapters / Timestamps00:00 – Why saying the obvious sounds “radical”02:08 – The bare minimum we’ve stopped expecting at work03:47 – Psychological safety isn’t a perk04:38 – Why return to office is deeply ableist06:36 – The real reason companies want people back in offices07:46 – Bad management disguised as productivity09:05 – Treat people like humans and they quit less10:36 – Listener brag: feeling on top of life11:15 – Why I hate “love languages”11:49 – The science and art of a crispy Coke13:49 – Big bubbles, bad Coke, and betrayal15:31 – Freestyle machines are not acceptable17:59 – Small Talk Listener Question: grieving a late neurodivergent diagnosisMentioned in this episode:Join QuirkyBrag on yourselfWanna brag on yourself for something you've done which you're proud of? https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/voicemailWanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not Broken

You’re not broken.But a lot of us were taught to believe we were.Hi, I’m Lauren Howard. You can call me L2. Like other people do. And in this episode of Different, Not Broken, I’m talking with Libby Alders, a pastoral chaplain who works at the intersection of faith, trauma, and identity, about what happens when religion stops being a source of comfort and starts quietly doing damage.We get into how harmful theology gets lodged in your nervous system, why so many neurodivergent and LGBTQIA people grow up feeling fundamentally wrong, and how community can heal or harm depending on who’s allowed to show up fully.This isn’t a debate about belief. It’s a conversation about safety. About moral injury. About certainty being weaponised. And about finding ways to make meaning without being told who you’re allowed to be.There’s swearing. There’s honesty. There’s a surprising amount of warmth for a conversation that doesn’t pull its punches.Once you’ve been inspired to brag, here’s where you can do it!https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/voicemailUseful stuffStuff that helps you become awesome even if you’re different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Timestamped summary00:00 “You’re Not Broken. You Were Taught Harmful Theology”04:18 Certainty, faith, and why curiosity matters09:32 Religion, trauma, and moral injury14:41 Neurodivergence, queerness, and conditional belonging20:06 Losing faith without losing yourself26:55 Finding safer community and meaningMentioned in this episode:Build Your Better courseBuild your better course - https://stan.store/elletwo/p/build-your-betterWanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not Broken

Can somebody please explain this timeline to me?Because I have a confession.Last week — not even sure which day, definitely one of the days ending in “y” — something happened.And I have no idea how.

Flying makes me anxious. Not the mild kind. The walls-closing-in, I-need-control kind.Hi, I'm Lauren Howard. You can call me L2. Like other people do. And in this episode of "Different, Not Broken" I talk about what it was like flying with someone who supported me without making a thing of it. No fuss. No questions. No spotlight. Just quiet, steady presence.We get into why that kind of support works so well, especially for anxious and neurodivergent people, and why “are you okay?” is often the least helpful thing you can say.Once you've been inspired to brag, here's where you can do it! - https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/voicemailUseful stuffStuff that helps you become awesome even if you're different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Timestamped summary00:00 "Therapist as Emotional Support"05:49 "Calm Support During Turbulence"07:26 "Weird Ears and Airplanes"12:32 Toilet Paper Holder Frustrations16:49 "Outgrowing Expectations and Tolerance"18:46 Sibling Conflict and ResolutionMentioned in this episode:Build Your Better courseBuild your better course - https://stan.store/elletwo/p/build-your-betterWanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not BrokenBrag on yourselfWanna brag on yourself for something you've done which you're proud of? https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/voicemail

Nobody tells you this part about being a parent.That every boundary you set comes with a quiet, gnawing guilt.Needing space. Wanting quiet. Asking not to be touched for five minutes.And immediately wondering if you’ll regret it forever.Hi, I'm Lauren Howard. You can call me L2. Like other people do.And in this episode of Different, Not Broken, I talk about the constant tug-of-war between your needs as a human and your guilt as a parent.Because even when your kids are healthy, safe, loved, and thriving, it can still feel like you’re failing someone all the time.Usually yourself. Sometimes them.Often both.I get into overstimulation, sensory overload, and why tiny, almost invisible things can feel completely unbearable when your fuse is already short.And I talk about that thought parents torture themselves with over and over again.What if this is the last time?This is a conversation for parents who love their kids deeply and still sometimes need room to breathe.Useful stuffStuff that helps you become awesome even if you’re different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Timestamped summary00:00 The chaos nobody prepares you for01:00 When your fuse feels dangerously short03:03 Overstimulation and sensory overload06:20 The tiny thing that breaks you10:45 “What if this is the last time?”14:50 The moment I knew I’d done something right27:30 Recording while being a parentMentioned in this episode:Wanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not Broken

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Nobody really explains this part of relationships either.That a lot of the friction isn’t about love, or communication, or effort.It’s about order.And chaos.And which one of you is quietly losing your mind because the other one will not, under any circumstances, make a plan.Hi, I’m Lauren Howard. You can call me L2. Like other people do.And in this episode of Different, Not Broken, I introduce you to the single most accurate relationship framework I’ve ever found.It comes from the greatest relationship philosopher of our time.Jim Henson.I’m talking Order Muppets and Chaos Muppets.Who they are.Why they keep finding each other.And why once you see it, you genuinely can’t unsee it.We get into partners, kids, siblings, colleagues, and the moment when an Order Muppet finally snaps and goes full feral Kermit.We talk about why chaos isn’t a flaw.Why order isn’t control.And why most conflict is really just two nervous systems speaking completely different languages.There’s also a listener question about masking.What it costs.Why it’s exhausting.And how to start noticing who you actually are underneath all the coping.It’s funny.It’s unreasonably accurate.And it will absolutely ruin the way you look at the people in your life, in the best possible way.If you’ve ever thought “why am I the only one holding this together?”Or “why does this person make everything harder?”Congratulations. You’re probably a Muppet.Let’s figure out which kind.Useful stuffStuff that helps you become awesome even if you’re different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Timestamped summary00:00 Are You an Order Muppet or a Chaos Muppet?02:18 Jim Henson’s accidental relationship genius05:04 Why opposites don’t just attract, they survive08:41 Families, kids, and chaos tolerance11:22 When Order Muppets finally lose their shit13:09 Listener question: masking and exhaustion14:05 How to start unmasking without blowing up your lifeMentioned in this episode:Build Your Better courseBuild your better course - https://stan.store/elletwo/p/build-your-betterBrag on yourselfWanna brag on yourself for something you've done which you're proud of? https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/voicemailWanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not Broken

Nobody tells you this part about being an adult.That most of your energy gets burned on decisions. Small ones. Constant ones. What to eat. What to say. How to say it nicely. Who not to upset. When to apologise. Again.Hi, I'm Lauren Howard. You can call me L2. Like other people do. And in this episode of "Different, Not Broken" I talk about the real gift overwhelmed people actually want. Not stuff. Not experiences. Not another thing you’re supposed to be grateful for. Just nothing. Relax, there's logic in here if you listen.I also get into something we’ve been quietly taught for years: that staying modest, keeping your head down, and not bragging will somehow pay off. To be honest, it usually hasn’t. And pretending otherwise hasn’t helped anyone.This is a conversation about decision fatigue, invisible labour, and why being good at things isn’t something you should apologise for. It’s funny, sharp, honest, and probably a bit too relatable if you’re the person everyone relies on.If you’re tired, capable, and done pretending you’re not — this one’s for you.Once you've been inspired to brag, here's where you can do it! - https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/voicemailUseful stuffStuff that helps you become awesome even if you're different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Timestamped summary00:00 "What I Really Want"*05:46 "Craving Decision-Free Solitude"06:18 "Adulting is Meal Planning"10:11 "Garbage Day Struggles"15:44 Boundaries on Personal Questions16:25 "Pets as Family"Mentioned in this episode:Wanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not BrokenWanna learn to write like me?Here's how you can!Writing CourseBuild Your Better courseBuild your better course - https://stan.store/elletwo/p/build-your-better

I need to go on the record.The Wet Bandits are NOT the villains in Home Alone.This episode is a full rewatch reckoning. The kind that hits you sideways once you’re an adult and can’t unsee what’s actually happening on screen. And we’re meant to call it festive.This is not a cosy nostalgia episode.It’s time to get a little uncomfortable and understand what's really going on with this movie and why I think it's more of a horror movie than a Christmas film.Merry Christmas, you filthy animals.

Team Difficult: Can I Get That on a T-Shirt?Hi, I'm Lauren Howard. You can call me L2. Like other people do. And in this episode of "Different, Not Broken"...You know that word you’ve heard muttered under their breath after a meeting, or the one you’ve seen tossed around as an insult every time you dared to challenge a Not-So-Great Idea™ at work? "Difficult."It’s the golden badge awarded when you stand your ground, ask questions, or refuse to shrink yourself to fit someone else’s comfort zone.Might as well print it on a shirt and wear it as a uniform. (Actually, that’s exactly what happened—and yes, the US trademark is real. Team Difficult is officially in session.)In this episode, I'm sharing my thoughts on the culture of workplace competition, the myth of “just be agreeable and you’ll get ahead,” and how the word “difficult” is actually code for “please be smaller so I can feel bigger.”If you’ve ever felt like you have to play the game—even when being “game” makes you miserable—or you’ve found yourself walking a fine line between champion and challenger, this episode is for you.If you’ve ever been told you’re “too much”—too loud, too opinionated, too different—or found yourself shrinking so someone else didn’t feel threatened, “Different, Not Broken” is here to remind you: You are NOT difficult, even when they say you are.You’re Team Difficult—and that’s something to celebrate.Useful stuffStuff that helps you become awesome even if you're different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Timestamped summary00:00 "Team Difficult Origins Explained"03:24 Gender Bias in Workplace Communication08:13 "Collaboration Over Competition"12:07 "Christmas Trees Have Backs"15:42 Burnout and Starting Over19:02 "Self-Blame in Tough Situations"20:42 Unsustainable Burnout Amid Life Challenges24:10 "This Might Break Him"Mentioned in this episode:Wanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not BrokenBrag on yourselfWanna brag on yourself for something you've done which you're proud of? https://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/voicemailBuild Your Better courseBuild your better course - https://stan.store/elletwo/p/build-your-better

Your emotional energy is not in your job description.There! I said it. Did you feel a little jolt of recognition, a sense of relief—or maybe a stab of rage?Hi, I'm Lauren Howard. You can call me L2. Like other people do. And in this episode of "Different, Not Broken" I'm asking if you’ve ever slogged through unbearable meetings, survived a boss who’d rather watch you squirm than support you, or felt your job siphoning off bits of your sanity day after day… this episode is your permission slip to stop surrendering your mental health on the altar of toxic work culture.If you’ve ever heard “No job is worth your mental health” and nodded vigorously, only to feel that familiar panic rising when rent is due and quitting might mean eviction, you’re in the right place. This episode won’t hand you Instagram-worthy mantras divorced from the realities of bills, healthcare, and responsibility. Instead, I'm calling bullshit on the “just quit” narrative, sharing the reality, along with some actionable insights, and the kinds of boundary-setting wisdom you wish someone told you before your workplace broke you—not because you were broken, but because you were different in a system built for sameness.You’ll find out:Why the burn-it-all-down mentality works for trust-fund babies but not so much for the rest of us.How your emotional labor is being quietly exploited—and how to reclaim it without burning bridges (or burning out).The single most important thing to do before leaving a toxic workplace (hint: it's not just quitting).How to spot the difference between jobs that are simply tough, and jobs that are actively toxic.What actually leads to burnout (spoiler: it’s almost never the actual work).Most importantly, you'll hear a deeply personal story of what happens when you reach your breaking point—and what you wish you knew before walking away. No job deserves your mental health. Listen now. Your sanity—and future self—will thank you.Useful stuffStuff that helps you become awesome even if you're different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Timestamped summary00:00 "No Job Over Mental Health"06:11 "Choosing Your Emotional Boundaries"08:49 "Leaving to Save My Sanity"12:49 "Questioning Corporate Processes"15:11 Corporate Misfit to Happy Entrepreneur19:46 Weekend Questions I Hate23:10 "Choosing Between Fun or Rest"25:27 Navigating Choices and ConversationsMentioned in this episode:Build Your Better courseBuild your better course - https://stan.store/elletwo/p/build-your-betterWanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not Broken

To be honest, I’ve hit my limit with holiday guilt and the weird pressure to act like everything’s cosy and magical just because the calendar says so. Holidays are made up. They only exist if you get paid time off or you genuinely enjoy them… and most people don’t.In this episode, I’m pulling the curtains back on the whole thing. The family expectations. The traditions no one even likes. The so-called “peacekeeping” that’s really just self-abandonment. This one’s a little ranty, a little chaotic, and probably the most comforting thing you’ll hear all season. Let’s talk about ditching guilt, skipping the bullshit, and building holidays that don’t make you want to scream.Mentioned in this episode:Wanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not Broken

I survived a healthcare conference in Las Vegas… and honestly, I’m still a little surprised. Hi, I'm Lauren Howard. You can call me L2. Like other people do. And in this episode of "Different, Not Broken" I'm sharing my story of peopling in sin city.Between the cigarette-tinged air, the giant hotel that somehow has no sunlight, the time-zone confusion, and the very real possibility that I could’ve wandered straight into a meetup hosted by people I’m literally in a legal dispute with, this trip shouldn’t have been fun — but weirdly, it was.In this episode, I talk about:• Why Vegas feels like a desert with no actual sun • How I almost RSVP’d myself straight into the lion’s den (yes, that lion) • My team acting like emotional support humans so I didn’t melt into a puddle in the middle of the crowd • The bizarre networking moments where founders, lawyers, and random strangers kept appearing out of nowhere• Why meeting listeners in real life makes me want to slide between the cracks of a sewer grate and disappear forever • And — shockingly — why I’d actually do this whole thing againAlso, Alison brings us another listener question in Small Talk all about productivity. Useful stuffStuff that helps you become awesome even if you're different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Timestamped summary00:00 "Time, Smoke, and Healthcare Irony"05:30 "Almost Entering the Lion's Den"07:12 "Introvert at the Party"13:12 "Dateline Rule: No Second Location"13:49 "Conference Reflections: Fun & Validation"17:11 "Overcoming Exhaustion and Enjoyment"20:20 Checklist Productivity vs Mental Effort23:55 Redefining Daily ProductivityMentioned in this episode:Build Your Better courseBuild your better course - https://stan.store/elletwo/p/build-your-betterWanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not Broken

I hate meetings. I hate them so much.Which is very awkward for someone who runs multiple businesses and technically needs them to function as an adult.In this episode I am unpacking why meetings make me irrationally angry even when they are useful, profitable, and with people I actually like. Why does my brain treat work like an interruption to my other work? Why do I get mad at my calendar for existing? And why do I wake up thinking I can cram 72 hours of tasks into an 8 hour day and then resent anyone who dares to speak to me?Brains are weird. Bodies are weird. Doors are definitely weird.Stuff that helps you become awesome even if you're different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Timestamped summary00:00 "Losing L2: Rediscovering Identity"05:35 Taking Back Power with elletwo.com09:16 Reflecting on Productive Conversations12:36 Doors, Narration, and Love16:02 "Hyper Awareness of Doors"16:53 "Awkward Doors and Thresholds"Mentioned in this episode:Wanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not Broken

Buying a car in Florida shouldn’t feel like psychological warfare, but apparently it does. I’m just trying to replace my family car without losing my mind — or my sense of humour — in the process. Between fake add-ons, hidden dealer fees, and salespeople who can’t stop lying, car shopping in Florida has become a full-time trust exercise. In this episode, I share what it’s really like for someone who barely leaves the house enough to justify owning shoes, to navigate car buying in Florida while trying to stay honest, barefoot, and only mildly unhinged.Stuff that helps you become awesome even if you're different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Timestamped summary00:00 "Car Shopping Misery"05:40 "Frustrations with Car Salesmen"06:59 Car Dealership Troubles11:09 "Shoes, Cars, & Parenting"15:31 "Pinstriping Package Scam"16:24 Therapy, Cars, and Existential Questions19:45 "Patient Isn't Always the Sick"25:25 Evaluating Therapy's Effectiveness26:11 "Therapy Communication and Trust"Thanks for listening, guys.LuvyameanitMentioned in this episode:Wanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not BrokenWanna learn to write like me?Here's how you can!Writing Course

It’s one thing to be a degree removed from a celebrity—it’s another to almost, possibly, maybe know how Bruce Lee died (except for the super weird turn of events that resemble a case for Mulder and Scully!)But that’s exactly where we find ourselves in this episode: one step away from unraveling a mystery that’s tiptoed through dinner parties, rumbled around old Hong Kong restaurants, and left one family with a conversation that’s been categorically “denied” for decades.Stuff that helps you become awesome even if you're different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Timestamped summary (use the chapters if you're on Apple Podcasts)00:00 Seattle's Gloom: Love and Misery03:46 Pathologists, Conferences, and Autopsies06:21 "Suspicion Surrounding Mysterious Death"11:24 "Managing Visible Disdain for Stupidity"13:06 "Bro's Face Speaks Volumes"Mentioned in this episode:Wanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not BrokenWanna learn to write like me?Here's how you can!Writing Course

So, picture this: I’m having lunch with my dad, we’re mid-bite, chatting about David Carradine, and out of nowhere he says, “You don’t usually die that way.” My dad’s a psychiatrist, by the way — which somehow makes that line both better and worse. That comment sent me down a totally unexpected rabbit hole into his past life as a medical researcher… and, apparently, a minor expert on autoerotic asphyxiation. Yeah. My childhood suddenly made a lot more sense.Stuff that helps you become awesome even if you're different: https://stan.store/elletwoMy grown up job: https://lbeehealth.com/Timestamped summary (use the chapters if you're on Apple Podcasts)00:00 "Different, Not Broken Podcast"05:00 "70s Study on Fatal Act"07:34 Psychiatrists and Strange Stories12:28 Navigating Awkward Social Transitions13:15 Interjecting in Conversations Respectfully16:50 "Celebrating Progress and Growth"Mentioned in this episode:Build Your Better courseBuild your better course - https://stan.store/elletwo/p/build-your-betterWanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not Broken

Ever find yourself carrying earplugs in every bag and pocket, just in case the world gets a little too… loud? Or maybe you’ve written letters to your doctor, explaining that “no, you don’t look autistic” is not the hot take they think it is? This is the episode for you.I had the absolute privilege of sitting down with Natalie Diggins, technologist, deep tech investor, and—most importantly—the author of The Autistic Adults Toolbox. I’m not even exaggerating when I say her book lives permanently on my desk, just waiting to solve another of life’s neurospicy puzzles.I didn’t tell her that before we interviewed, but, okay, surprise Natalie: you’re basically my lifeline on days when the world feels like a construction site inside my brain. I know some of you feel that too.Here’s what you’re going to get from this episode: Natalie doesn’t spend her time pontificating about “overcoming adversity” or “finding your purpose.” No, she gets down to the real stuff: reverse engineering a life that works for your brain, documenting every semi-absurd hack, and making sure sensory survival is always step one. You’ll hear how she wrote a pre-op letter for her surgeon (“Strangers touching me = nope”), only to find the medical world has a lot of catching up to do. A little bit of hope: not all doctors are stuck in the 1990s, but spoiler… plenty of them are.You’ll get the inside scoop on the magic tool-making mindset that yields everything from bespoke sensory plans to New York City restaurant negotiation tactics (earplug, anyone?), and what happens when you decide you can mask or unmask, by choice, not requirement. Natalie even breaks down her “hot meter” for dealing with the “you don’t look autistic” crowd.Why should you listen? Maybe you’re late-diagnosed, or you’re still in the “is it sensory? Is it burnout? Am I just quirky?” phase. Natalie’s journey is a cheat code for ditching shame, building support systems, and treating diagnosis as just another plot point—not the whole story. If you want to hear how anyone can build actual, actionable strategies for living well, even when your brain is extra spicy (and sometimes extra tired, extra loud, or extra meltdown-y), hit play.My helpful offers for other people with neurospicy brains - https://stan.store/elletwoMentioned in this episode:Wanna sponsor this podcasthttp://differentnotbrokenpodcast.com/sponsorsSponsor Different Not Broken