Conversations with Shloimie

In this conversation, Shlomo Rappoport interviews Alex Rand, a therapist and educator, discussing various aspects of psychology, addiction, and the therapeutic process. They explore the differences in teaching diverse populations, the role of humor in therapy, and the importance of attachment in mental health. Alex shares his journey to becoming a therapist, his experiences with addiction treatment, and the dynamics of couples therapy. The conversation emphasizes the significance of self-love and the ongoing journey of personal growth through therapy. - Teaching diverse populations offers unique challenges and insights.- Humor can be a powerful tool in therapy and personal life.- The journey to becoming a therapist often involves personal growth.- Addiction can be viewed through the lens of attachment theory.- Group therapy provides a unique space for relational healing.- 12-step programs are not the only path to recovery.- Therapy is a tool for ongoing personal development.- Healthy relationships require work and understanding.- Self-love is crucial for personal growth and healing.- Therapists must reflect on their own triggers in client relationships. keywordspsychology, therapy, addiction, attachment, humor, teaching, group therapy, couples therapy, self-love, mental health

In this conversation, Dr. Elka Jacobs-Pinson shares her extensive experience in psychotherapy, discussing the evolution of therapeutic practices, the importance of integrating past experiences, and the role of self-acceptance in personal growth. She emphasizes that therapy is not just about feelings but also about processing information and learning from experiences. The discussion touches on the necessity of support and validation, the impact of parental anxiety on children, and the balance between therapy and independence. Dr. Jacobs-Pinson also highlights the significance of hobbies and curiosity in maintaining mental well-being, concluding with a message that everyone faces challenges, and it's essential to recognize that we are not alone in our struggles.Takeaways- Therapy integrates past experiences into a cohesive self-understanding.- Nothing is wasted; every experience contributes to personal growth.- Art therapy can be a powerful tool for healing and expression.- The evolution of psychotherapy reflects changing societal needs.- Information processing is as crucial as emotional understanding in therapy.- Not everyone needs therapy, but everyone needs support and validation.- Parental anxiety can impact children's resilience and coping skills.- Therapy should empower clients to become independent and self-sufficient.- Self-acceptance is a key component of personal growth and healing.- Long-term therapy can lead to profound transformations, even if not immediately visible.Keywords:therapy, psychotherapy, self-acceptance, resilience, EMDR, IFS, mental health, art therapy, personal growth, parental anxiety

SummaryIn this conversation, Dr. Akiva Perlman discusses the complexities of sex addiction, emphasizing that it often stems from deeper issues of self-worth and connection rather than mere sexual behavior. He explores the impact of shame, particularly in religious communities, and the importance of understanding sexuality as a relational issue. The dialogue also touches on the journey of self-discovery, the significance of love and acceptance, and the need for a more nuanced approach to sexuality and addiction.TakeawaysSex addiction is often more about emotional connection than sexual behavior.Shame and guilt are significant factors in sexual struggles, especially in religious contexts.Understanding one's self-worth is crucial in addressing sexual addiction.Sexuality should be viewed through a relational lens, not just a behavioral one.The journey of self-discovery is essential for personal growth and healing.Acknowledging and facing shame can lead to healthier relationships with oneself and others.Parents should foster an environment of understanding and acceptance regarding sexual struggles.Life is a continuous journey of growth, not a destination to reach.Love and compassion towards oneself are vital in overcoming struggles.The conversation around sexuality needs to evolve beyond black-and-white narratives.Sound bites"Sex addiction has very little to do with sex.""Sexuality is attachment, it is relational.""Life is a journey, not a destination."Keywordssex addiction, healthy sexuality, shame, self-worth, vulnerability, intimacy, relational issues, mental health, therapy, community

SummaryIn this conversation, Shlomo Rappoport and Dr. Akiva Perlman explore the dynamics of mentorship, the role of teaching in therapy, and the evolving landscape of mental health practice. They discuss the importance of genuine connection in therapeutic relationships, the challenges faced by new therapists in a crowded field, and the need for a deeper, experiential approach to therapy in a world saturated with information.TakeawaysThe importance of genuine connection in mentorship and teaching.Titles can create barriers in relationships; authenticity is key.Teaching is a journey of mutual engagement and learning.Therapists often face loneliness despite their roles as mentors.The need for community and belonging in the therapeutic process.Therapy is evolving; clients seek experiences over mere knowledge.The field of therapy is becoming more crowded and competitive.New therapists should be open to diverse experiences and learning opportunities.The role of a therapist is not just about knowledge but also about humanity.The future of therapy may involve navigating new technologies and societal changes.Sound bites"I want a journey with you.""I chose passion over riches.""It's a very different world."Keywordstherapy, mentorship, teaching, relationships, trauma, social work, personal growth, mental health, education, community

SummaryIn this conversation, Shlomo Rappoport speaks with Devora Shabtai, the Director of Specialty Programming at Beachway Therapy Center, about the complexities of rehab for addiction and trauma. They discuss the importance of understanding the rehab experience, the role of family involvement, cultural influences, and the significance of peer relationships. The conversation emphasizes that rehab is not a quick fix but the beginning of a longer journey towards recovery, highlighting the need for ongoing support and aftercare. They also touch on the financial realities of rehab and the importance of choosing the right program for individual needs.TakeawaysRehab is the beginning of a longer process.Cultural identity plays a significant role in the rehab experience.Family involvement is crucial for successful recovery.Rehab is not a quick fix; it requires ongoing support.Peer relationships can have both positive and negative impacts in rehab.Understanding the individual needs of clients is essential.The cost of rehab can be a barrier to access.Aftercare is critical for sustained recovery.Psychedelics are not a one-size-fits-all solution in treatment.The journey of recovery is more important than the outcome.Keywordsrehab, addiction, trauma, family involvement, cultural influences, peer relationships, sexuality, aftercare, mental health, recovery, jewish, shabbos,"Understanding individual needs is essential.""The cost of rehab can be a barrier to access."ContactDevora Shabtai @ Devora.s@beachway.com

SummaryIn this conversation, Shloimie and Chaya Leah discuss her journey as a Jewish educator and podcaster, navigating the complexities of her identity as a Chabad woman in a liberal Jewish world. She reflects on the impact of politics, the Holocaust, and anti-Semitism on Jewish identity, as well as the importance of community and family. The podcast 'Ask a Jew' serves as a platform for open dialogue about these issues, emphasizing the need for unity and understanding within the Jewish community. In this conversation, Chaya Leah discusses the fears and challenges faced by the younger generation, including loneliness and financial insecurity. She reflects on the lack of optimism in today's world compared to the past and emphasizes the importance of community and relationships. The discussion also touches on the crisis of meaning, particularly regarding parenthood, and the role of humor in Jewish identity. Chaya Leah shares personal anecdotes about family dynamics, the significance of mourning and memory, and the need for courageous leadership within the Jewish community. Ultimately, she encourages individuals to take initiative in building their lives and communities.Takeaways- Chaya Leah's journey reflects a blend of Chabad and liberal Jewish values.- The podcast 'Ask a Jew' serves as a platform for discussing Jewish identity.- Living between two worlds can be both challenging and enriching.- Political engagement is crucial for modern Jewish identity.- The Holocaust's impact on Jewish identity is profound and ongoing.- Anti-Semitism remains a significant concern for the Jewish community.- October 7th has reshaped conversations around Jewish identity and unity.- The importance of community and family in Jewish life is emphasized.- Navigating differences in Jewish identity is essential for unity.- The future of Jewish identity will require open dialogue and understanding. - Young people fear loneliness and financial insecurity.- The current generation lacks mechanisms for building friendships.- There is a crisis of meaning regarding parenthood.- Humor plays a crucial role in Jewish identity and healing.- Family dynamics often avoid deep emotional conversations.- Mourning and memory are essential for healing.- Courageous leadership is needed in the Jewish community.- Institutionalizing days of mourning can help process trauma.- Community and relationships are vital for a fulfilling life.- Individuals should take initiative to create their own community.KeywordsChaya Leah, Sufrin, Jewish identity, Haredi community, liberal Judaism, podcast, Ask a Jew, anti-Semitism, Holocaust, October 7th, Jewish unity, youth fears, community, optimism, climate change, parenting crisis, humor, Jewish identity, emotional expression, mourning, leadership

CONTENT WARNING: This episode discusses the sensitive topic of Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) and its prevention. The discussion is focused solely on education, awareness, statistics, and proactive safety measures. We do not share graphic details or survivor stories. Listener discretion is strongly advised.In this conversation, Dr. Shani Verschleiser, a trauma therapist and co-founder of MagenU, discusses the critical issues surrounding childhood sexual abuse and the importance of prevention. She emphasizes the need for trauma-informed care, the role of parents in educating their children about safety, and the significance of building trust and healthy boundaries. The discussion also covers the prevalence of abuse, community perspectives, and the necessity of open conversations about sensitive topics. Dr. Verschleiser provides practical advice for parents and educators on how to create safe environments for children and foster open communication about their experiences and feelings.TakeawaysTrauma-informed care is essential in therapy.Childhood sexual abuse is more common than many realize.Understanding the nuances of abuse is crucial for prevention.Parents play a vital role in educating their children about safety.Building trust with children is key to prevention efforts.Children need to know they can talk to trusted adults.Modeling healthy boundaries is important for children.Prevention education should start early and be age-appropriate.Community involvement is necessary for effective prevention.Self-awareness in parents enhances their ability to protect children.DISCLAIMER: This podcast and all its content are for educational and informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional legal, medical, mental health, or crisis advice. Always consult with qualified professionals for guidance specific to your situation.IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW NEEDS IMMEDIATE HELP:MagenU.orgNational Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE

SummaryIn this Conversation with Shloimie , Leigh Ioffe, the founder and director of Long Short Road (https://thelongshortroad.com), shares the raw story behind her mission to save lives. She breaks down what suicide really is - a desperate response to unbearable pain - and why empathy connection and presence matter more than anything. We dive into the hidden struggles teenagers and adults face behind closed doors and screens, how parents and schools can create safe spaces for honesty, and why every therapist needs real suicide prevention tools. Leigh also spotlights the warm line as a lifeline of hope reminding us that healing is possible and history is not destiny.Takeaways- Suicide affects all demographics, not just specific groups.- People often mask their pain, making it hard to identify struggles.- Suicidal ideation exists on a spectrum, from passive thoughts to active plans.- Empathy is crucial in supporting those who are struggling.- Parents must work on their own distress tolerance to support their children.- Social media can exacerbate feelings of isolation and inadequacy.- Schools need to create safe environments for students to disclose struggles.- Therapists should be educated on suicide prevention and crisis management.- The warm line provides a supportive resource for those in distress.- History is not destiny; recovery and healing are possible.titles- Breaking the Silence on Suicide Prevention- Understanding the Spectrum of Suicidal IdeationSound Bites"The journey is important.""We need to do better.""History is not destiny."Show Notes:- Helping the Suicidal Person by Stacey Freedenthal - Suicide Assessment and Treatment Planning: A Strengths-Based Approach, John Sommers-Flanagan - The Whole Brain Child Series by Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson (it's four books, which can be read independently or as a series)- Suicide in Schools: A Practitioner's Guide to Multi-level Prevention, Assessment, Intervention, and Postvention, by Dr. Jonathan Singer and Dr. Terri A. Erbacher- Pat Ogden--talks about "borrowing a person's nervous system"- A Drop of Light: www.preventfrumsuicide.org- Jonathan Haidt - The Anxious Generation- Rethinking Suicide by Craig J. Bryan

SummaryIn this conversation, Suri Fisch, a licensed clinical social worker, discusses her work with incest survivors and the importance of psychodrama in healing trauma. She emphasizes the need for community support, the significance of naming incest, and the role of somatic experiences in therapy. Suri also addresses the myths surrounding sexual abuse survivors and the importance of open conversations about sexuality and prevention. Her insights highlight the necessity of creating safe spaces for both survivors and therapists, as well as the need for healing within the community.Sound Bites"It's important to call it incest.""Healing happens between human and human.""Healing is a community effort."TakeawaysSuri Fisch emphasizes the importance of psychodrama in healing trauma.Naming incest is crucial for survivors' healing.Community support plays a vital role in the healing process.Somatic experiences are integral to therapy.Strength-based approaches can enhance therapeutic outcomes.Resistance in therapy often indicates the client's readiness.Open conversations about sexuality are essential for prevention.Survivors often have a yearning for connection with their abuser.Peer support can be a powerful tool in healing.Healing is a community effort that requires collective awareness.

SummaryIn this conversation, Shlomo and David Rappoport explore the profound themes of trust, identity, and spirituality. They discuss how childhood experiences shape our understanding of trust and the expectations placed upon individuals within the Jewish community. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of choice in framing one's relationship with God and the significance of gratitude in cultivating a positive outlook on life. Practical habits for maintaining balance and finding meaning are also highlighted, culminating in a reflection on the power of perception and the journey towards emotional well-being.TakeawaysTrust is foundational for happiness and relationships.Childhood experiences shape our understanding of trust.We can reframe our perceptions as adults.Judaism emphasizes both obligation and relationship with God.Practicing gratitude shifts our perspective on life.Life is full of both good and bad experiences.We have the power to choose how we interpret events.Healthy attachment is crucial for emotional well-being.Daily habits can help maintain balance in life.Finding meaning in life is a personal journey.

SummaryIn this conversation, Shlomo Rappoport and Berry Farkash delve into the complexities of sexuality, relationships, and the importance of open communication, particularly for young adults. They emphasize the need for safe spaces where individuals can express their feelings and struggles without fear of judgment. The discussion highlights the role of parents and educators in guiding youth through their emotional landscapes, the significance of mindfulness and meditation, and the ongoing journey of self-discovery and healing. The speakers advocate for normalizing conversations around sexuality and mental health to foster understanding and connection in relationships.The importance of open conversations about sexuality.Creating a safe environment for children to express themselves.Understanding the emotional struggles of young adults.Normalizing discussions around sexuality and mental health.The role of parents in guiding their children through challenges.The impact of loneliness on young people's choices.Encouraging healthy distractions and coping mechanisms.The significance of mindfulness and meditation in healing.Building trust and safety in relationships is crucial.Recognizing the journey of self-discovery and growth.

Dr. Augenbaum's Parenting Book - Inside Outside Parenting - mentioned in the podcast:https://mosaicapress.com/product/inside-outside-parentingSummaryIn this conversation, Dr. Shalom Augenbaum shares his journey from becoming a doctor to his experiences in therapy and social work. He reflects on the importance of identity beyond titles, the challenges of transitioning from private practice to agency work, and the impact of personal experiences on his professional life. Dr. Augenbaum discusses the significance of community, connection, and the role of Hasidic thought in his personal growth. He also delves into the complexities of grief, the loss of his son, and the process of finding meaning in pain, ultimately emphasizing the importance of humility and understanding in the therapeutic relationship.Takeaways- Identity is shaped by more than just titles and credentials.- The importance of being among colleagues for personal and professional growth.- High school experiences can significantly impact one's identity.- Leadership roles can lead to feelings of loneliness.- Experiences in Yeshiva can shape one's understanding of spirituality.- Writing can be a powerful tool for processing personal experiences.- Discipline is essential but can lead to tunnel vision.- Transitioning to a new community can be challenging yet rewarding.- Grief and loss can profoundly affect one's professional life.- Finding meaning in pain can lead to personal growth.Highlights"I learned most from my students.""The pain itself is connection.""Divorce is an identity shaker."

In this conversation, Shlomo Rappoport and Levi Dubinsky delve into sensitive topics surrounding sexual abuse, mental health, and the importance of education and prevention. Levi shares his personal journey from a rabbinical role to becoming a therapist, emphasizing the need for understanding and support for victims of abuse. They discuss the complexities of family dynamics, the impact of trauma, and the healing process, highlighting the importance of open communication and education for parents and children. The conversation concludes with a message of hope and the importance of compassion towards others.Levi Dubinsky shares his journey from rabbi to therapist. Education and open communication are crucial in preventing abuse.Most sexual abuse occurs by someone the victim knows.Grooming is a common tactic used by abusers to gain trust.Parents must be aware of their children's emotional needs.Dissociation is a common coping mechanism for trauma survivors. Healing is a journey that requires support and understanding.Complex PTSD can arise from prolonged abuse and betrayal.Family dynamics play a significant role in the healing process.Compassion and understanding are essential when dealing with others' pain.

In this conversation with Shloimie, Rabbi Berry Farkash shares his journey as a Shliach and psychotherapist, discussing the unique traumas faced by the Chabad community. He emphasizes the importance of addressing grief, the impact of childhood experiences, and the necessity of open communication about sexuality and mental health. Rabbi Farkash advocates for artistic expression as a means of healing and encourages community support to navigate the struggles of modern life. The discussion highlights the need for empathy, understanding, and connection in overcoming personal and collective challenges.TakeawaysRabbi Berry Farkash is a Shliach and psychotherapist.The journey of becoming a Shliach is deeply personal and influenced by upbringing.Trauma in the Chabad experience often stems from isolation and neglect.Therapy can provide healing for those affected by trauma.Experiential healing allows individuals to confront emotional baggage.Grief impacts development and relationships in profound ways.Family dynamics play a crucial role in processing grief.Holding space for others is essential in therapeutic settings.Becoming a therapist was a natural progression for Rabbi Farkash.Chabad traumas are often linked to significant events like Gimel Tammuz.Imposter syndrome is prevalent among Shluchim and community members.Current struggles in the Frum community include internet addiction and mental health issues.Healthy communication about sexuality is vital for youth.Demystifying sexuality can help reduce shame and stigma.Artistic expression can be a powerful tool for healing.To reach out to Rabbi Berry Farkash for a session please email sbfarkash@gmail.comPlease also look up Cascades Healing Center Meditations to hear some powerful meditations that Rabbi Farkash made for the public.

In this conversation, Shlomo and Esriel Rappoport discuss various themes surrounding personal growth, the impact of reading, the complexities of trauma, and the intertwining of coaching and therapy. They emphasize the importance of understanding one's purpose, the psychological aspects of addiction, and the significance of having a mission statement in both life and business. The dialogue also touches on the role of spirituality in coaching and the necessity of integrating learning into daily life. The Rappoports share insights on morning routines and habits that contribute to emotional well-being and personal fulfillment. TakeawaysReading is a tool for personal growth and understanding.Trauma influences our behaviors and decisions.Investing can be driven by emotional needs rather than logic.Addiction often stems from a desire to fill a void.Finding one's purpose is essential for fulfillment.Spirituality can enhance coaching practices.A clear mission statement guides personal and professional decisions.Morning routines can set a positive tone for the day.Integration of learning into life is crucial for growth.Self-awareness is key to understanding one's motivations.

In this conversation, Michoel Muchnik and Shlomo Rappoport delve into the profound impact of inner child healing, trauma, and the transformative power of art in therapy. They explore how emotional experiences from childhood shape adult relationships and self-perception, emphasizing the importance of expressing and processing these feelings. The discussion highlights the use of colors and sensory experiences in healing, the significance of connecting with one's inner strength, and the role of spirituality in personal growth. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to embrace their journey of self-discovery and healing.Michoel Muchnik also shares about his artistic journey, from his childhood creativity influenced by his family to his transition into Jewish art. He discusses the impact of the counterculture movement on his artistic development and how a spiritual awakening led him to explore macrobiotics. Michoel emphasizes the healing power of art, both for himself and others, and his work in publishing children's literature. He also highlights the importance of connecting with younger generations and the role of somatic art workshops in facilitating inner work and personal growth. 

In this conversation, Shlomo and Esriel Rappoport delve into their childhood experiences, particularly their upbringing in a Chabad environment in Switzerland. They reflect on the complexities of their memories, the impact of loss in their family, and how these experiences shaped their identities. The discussion transitions into their career paths, exploring themes of personal development, the challenges of navigating business, and the importance of finding one's purpose and power in life. The brothers share insights on grief, family dynamics, and the journey of helping others while grappling with their own experiences.TakeawaysThe importance of creating distance to gain perspective.Childhood experiences can shape our identities in profound ways.Loss can leave a lasting impact on our emotional landscape.Finding one's purpose often involves reflecting on personal experiences.Helping others can be a source of fulfillment and energy.Memories of joy can sometimes fade in the shadow of negative experiences.The journey of self-discovery is ongoing and complex.Business success can be intertwined with personal growth and development.Navigating grief requires acknowledging and processing emotions.Clarity in one's situation is essential for personal and professional growth.

In this conversation, Shlomo Rappoport and Ezzy Shusterman explore themes of identity, loss, and healing. Ezzy shares his personal journey from childhood trauma, including the loss of his mother, to his current role as a therapist. They discuss the importance of self-acceptance, the challenges of navigating personal struggles, and the transformative power of therapy, including somatic approaches. The conversation emphasizes the ongoing nature of healing and the significance of nurturing one's core wounds while recognizing that everyone has their own battles, regardless of outward appearances.

In this conversation, Shlomo Rappoport and Sholly Levy explore their childhood experiences, the challenges of growing up in a small community, and the journey of finding one's identity. They discuss their time in Yeshiva, the importance of community engagement, and the impact of personal loss. Sholly shares his current projects and aspirations, emphasizing the significance of building a legacy in memory of his sister. He shares his journey from managing a busy glasses store to becoming an entrepreneur. He discusses the challenges of balancing work and family life, the impact of a life-altering medical challenge, and the importance of self-reflection and personal growth. Finally Sholly emphasizes the significance of building a support system through community and coaching, and the necessity of consistency in self-improvement. He also highlights the importance of health awareness, sharing his personal experience with cancer and advocating for regular check-ups.

SummaryIn this conversation Shloimie sits down with Mendel who shares his journey of moving to Maui to establish a Jewish community center and farm. He discusses the challenges and joys of farming, the importance of community, and his passion for astrology. The dialogue explores how astrology can provide insights into personal development and relationships, emphasizing the uniqueness of each individual. Mendel reflects on the intersection of astrology and psychology, and how understanding these concepts can enhance interpersonal connections and self-awareness.