Go Have Good Sex featuring The Christian Sexpert

A lot of men think their marriage is safe because they’re a “good guy.”They don’t cheat. They don’t yell. They don’t hit her.So why doesn’t she want sex?In this episode, we’re breaking down what a safe marriage actually means—and why the absence of harm is not the same thing as the presence of safety.Because if a woman doesn’t feel emotionally, relationally, and sexually safe, her desire isn’t going to show up… no matter how “good” her husband is.We’ll talk about:Why safety directly impacts desireSigns a marriage might not feel as safe as it looksAnd how to start creating an environment where intimacy can actually thriveIf you’ve ever wondered why the spark feels gone—or why sex feels like a struggle—this episode will help you understand what’s really going on beneath the surface.Because you don’t fix desire by forcing it.You build a marriage where desire feels safe to exist.And as always… go have good sex.Resources referenced in this episode:Marital Coercion ft Nat LaJune31 Days of IntimacySmall Moments of ConnectionSex Drive Divide MasterclassTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

If you don’t talk to your kids about sex… someone else will.And chances are, they’re not going to do it with your values.In this episode, I’m joined by Kristen Miele, founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, to talk about how to raise sexually healthy kids without shame, fear, or awkward one-time “talks" - all from a Biblical world view, but without the shame and guilt of purity culture.We’re covering the real-life situations parents are facing right now—like how to talk about porn, what to do if your child is exposed before you’re ready, how to approach masturbation and sexting, and how to set boundaries around phones and privacy.We also tackle the questions so many Christian parents are asking but don’t know where to start:Does talking about sex make kids more curious?What if I didn’t start these conversations early?How do I talk about porn, sextortion, and more?This episode will help you move from avoidance and anxiety to confidence and clarity—so you can guide your kids toward a healthy, shame-free understanding of sex.Resources referenced in this episode:Get lifetime access to the Sex Ed Reclaimed curriculum here(aff link)Raising Sexually Healthy Kids ft Dr. Ashley HudsonTalking to Your Kids About Sex ft Dr. Ashley HudsonTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

What if the things you were taught about sex in church… are the very things making it harder to enjoy it in your marriage?In Part 2 of this series, we’re tackling three more damaging myths that quietly shape expectations, fuel shame, and leave couples feeling disconnected:That sex is only for procreationThat having more sex will magically fix your marriageThat struggling with sex means something is fundamentally brokenThese beliefs sound spiritual on the surface—but in real marriages, they often lead to pressure, disappointment, and silence.In this episode, we’re unpacking what Scripture actually supports, what healthy intimacy really looks like, and why good sex is built on more than just frequency.Because sex was never meant to be a duty, a quick fix, or a measuring stick for your marriage.It was meant to be a celebration of the intimacy you’ve already built.If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing in this area—or just confused about what’s “normal”—this conversation is going to bring clarity, freedom, and a whole lot of truth.Things referenced in this episode:31 Days of IntimacyTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Trying for a baby can put a spotlight on every part of your marriage—especially your sex life.What once felt spontaneous, playful, and connecting can quickly become scheduled, stressful, and painfully outcome-focused. And when month after month doesn’t go the way you hoped, sex can start to feel more like pressure than pleasure.In this episode, Kimberly Koll, LPC/LMHC discusses the realities of intimacy and infertility.We cover:How infertility changes the emotional and physical experience of sexWhy desire often drops (for both spouses) during this seasonThe grief, pressure, and performance anxiety couples don’t talk aboutHow to reconnect with your spouse when sex starts to feel clinicalIf you’ve ever felt like your sex life disappeared into ovulation tracking, doctor’s appointments, and disappointment… you are not alone.There is a way to stay connected—even here.Connect with Kimberly:WebsiteTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

What if some of your core beliefs about sex in Christian marriage simply aren't true?For YEARS evangelical culture has repeated the same messages about men, women, and desire: Men are the only visually stimulated creatures. Men "need" sex constantly. And women are supposed to just tolerate it.But when you look at scientific research, Scripture, and real life, those myths start to fall apart.In this episode I'm breaking down 3 of the most common myths and why they are causing harm.You’ll learn:Why the “men are more visual” narrative isn’t supported by researchWhether God actually created men to need sex every 3 daysWhy the Bible paints a very different picture of women’s sexual desireBecause good theology shouldn't lead to bad sex.Resources referenced in this episode:Neural substrates of sexual arousal are not sex dependent by Ekaterina Mitricheva, Rui Kimura, Nikos K. Logothetis, & Hamid R. NooriTo learn more about the 1 Samuel 21 passageIntimate Conversations JournalTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Role play isn’t about pretending you’re someone else—it’s about giving your marriage permission to explore, play, and reconnect.In this episode, I explore why role play can be a powerful tool for married couples. From flirty scenarios to power dynamics like doctor/patient, role play allows couples to safely explore curiosity, communication, and desire inside the safety of marriage.As adults, we were never meant to outgrow play. When we create space for playful exploration in our marriage, we are opening ourselves to powerful discoveries about ourselves and our spouses at the same time. Play allows us to explore consent, fantasy, and emotional needs we may not otherwise have language for.If you’ve ever thought role play sounded awkward, embarrassing, or “too spicy,” this episode might just change your mind.Because sometimes playing pretend is exactly what your marriage needs.

When it comes to sex, there's a lot of talk about "spicing things up." But what if you don't need another date night, a weekend away, a new toy, or more lingerie?What if all you need is more play?In this episode we are diving deep into the sort of ideas that originally made me go viral: Simple, accessible ways to turn your bedroom into the playground of your marriage.These aren’t gimmicks.They’re intentional, creative, connection-building ways to engage with your spouse that:Lower performance pressureIncrease laughterBuild anticipationReduce awkwardnessCreate novelty without requiring purchasesIf your intimacy has started to feel predictable…If one of you carries the mental load of initiation…If sex has become a checklist item instead of a celebration…This episode will give you practical ways to shift the dynamic.So you can go have good sex.Resources referenced in this episode:Spinner Board(aff link)Twister(aff link)PatreonTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

We’ve been told that date night is the cure for everything.Disconnected? Date night.Not having sex? Date night.Feeling like roommates? Definitely date night.But what if date night isn’t the problem - and was never the solution?In this episode we're going to talk about why a once a month night out isn't intimacy - it's performance, and performance doesn't build connection and never builds safety.I break down:Why scheduled romance can actually increase pressureHow “checking the box” slowly erodes real connectionThe difference between shared experiences and actual intimacyWhy sex doesn’t flow naturally from forced funWhat to build instead if you want a marriage that feels aliveIntimacy is not built in restaurants.It’s built in everyday interactions, emotional safety, shared play, honest communication, and the kind of connection that doesn’t turn on and off with a reservation time.If you’ve been doing date night faithfully but still feel disconnected, this episode will feel like a deep exhale.Maybe it’s time to ditch date night — and build something better.Resources referenced in this episode:The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work by Gottman(aff link)31 Days of IntimacySmall Moments of ConnectionTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

When did your marriage start feeling like a to-do list?Laundry. Logistics. Parenting. Work. Bills. Repeat. (And WHY do these people need to eat every single day!?)Somewhere along the way, creativity quietly packed its bags — and without it, intimacy starts to feel like just another obligation.In this episode, we’re talking about why creativity isn’t childish… it’s foundational. We unpack how couples drift into “roommate mode,” why creativity and recreation are essential types of intimacy, and how laughter, flirting, and shared fun actually protect your sex life.Because here’s the truth:If your marriage feels like work, your bedroom eventually will too.You’ll walk away with practical ways to reintroduce creativity — even if you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, or feeling disconnected.Marriage isn’t meant to be managed.It’s meant to be enjoyed.Go have good sex.✨✨✨Resources for the episode:Andrea Nelson Art
Conversation Cards(aff link)As a side note - if you also hate meal planning, try out Plan to Eat. I use this for our family and LOVE IT. (aff link)Fair Play Book(aff link)Fair Play Cards(aff link)Fair Play episodeVisual Timer(aff link)Don’t Get Got(aff link)PatreonTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ Note: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

In this episode I chat with Nicole Lee, LMFT to unpack what’s actually happening when social media, online gaming, or constant scrolling starts to feel like emotional distance inside a relationship.Drawing from Nicole’s doctoral research, this conversation explores how perceived partner escapism—not just screen time—can significantly impact relationship satisfaction. Her study found that when one partner perceives the other as using social or interactive media to escape, relationship satisfaction drops by more than 22%.This episode isn’t about demonizing phones or shaming habits. It’s about perception, meaning-making, and emotional presence—and why couples often fight about time when the real issue is disconnection.We discuss:What escapism actually is and how it shows up in modern marriagesWhy perception matters more than minutes spent scrollingHow social media and other forms of escapism impact intimacy and conflictWhy men and women often experience and report relationship satisfaction differentlyHow mental load, emotional labor, and “pphubbing” fuel resentmentPractical ways couples can replace the scroll with real connectionIf you’ve ever felt ignored, deprioritized, or like your spouse is emotionally somewhere else—even when they’re right next to you—this episode will help you name what’s happening and start repairing connection without blame or shame.Because presence isn’t about being in the same room.It’s about being with each other.Resources from this episode:Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari1+1=3, You, Me, & Our Relationship by Nicole Lee1+1=3, You, My, & Our Sex Life by Nicole Lee31 Days of IntimacySmall Moments of ConnectionTo connect with Nicole:WebsiteFacebookInstagramTikTokTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Talking about sex shouldn't feel scarier than the act itself - but for many couples, it does.In this solo episode, I explore why sexual communication feels so difficult for so many married couples, especially those shaped by silence, shame, or “don’t ask, don’t tell” messages around intimacy. If you love your spouse but freeze, fight, or shut down when sex comes up, this episode is for you.You’ll learn why avoiding these conversations doesn’t protect your relationship, how emotional safety impacts desire, and where to start if you’ve never talked about sex before—without pressure or overwhelm.This episode is especially for couples who want deeper connection but don’t know how to begin the conversation.Resources for this episode:She Deserves Better, by Sheila Wray GregoireIntimate ConversationsCoaching with Angela, The Christian SexpertTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

When a woman consistently avoids sex in marriage, she is accused of rebellion, sin, manipulation, or blamed for all manner of things.In this episode, I unpack one of the foundations of my work: Healthy women, in safe marriages, don't turn down good sex for no reason. Rather than placing blame, or spiritualizing obligation, let's frame sex avoidance as what it really is: Information. Your body is offering you data about safety, pleasure, pressure, and connection.Let's talk about what "healthy" actually means, why safety is so much more than "he doesn't hit me," and how unwanted or not pleasurable sex will eventually destroy a libido. I'm all about challenging lazy theology, entitlement disguised as reverent faith, and inviting couples to replace pressure with curiosity.If you've ever lamented the disappearance your desire, or felt ashamed for a body that never experienced sex the way it was "supposed to" - this episode is for you.Because the goal of marriage isn't sex at any cost.It is intimacy that invites sex worth wanting.Resources to go along with this episode:The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Gottman(aff link)Intimate Conversations, a sex journal by The Christian SexpertTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

When your hormones shift, it’s easy to feel like your body is betraying you—but what if God designed midlife as an invitation, not a punishment?In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Tanya Paynter, a Naturopathic Doctor and founder of Psalm Medical, who blends faith and functional medicine to help women experience true whole-person healing. Together, we’re unpacking how menopause and perimenopause affect your hormones, energy, and desire—and how spiritual practices can help restore balance in every part of your being.We talk about:The spiritual roots of stress and their impact on hormones and libidoWhy faith and medicine aren’t at odds—they’re meant to work togetherThe physiological power of Sabbath rest, prayer, and forgivenessHow to discern when your symptoms are hormonal vs. emotional or spiritualSimple, faith-rooted steps to start feeling more connected to your body—and your spouse—againIf you’ve been wondering why your drive has changed, why you’re tired all the time, or how to reconnect with both your body and your faith in this new season, this conversation will help you see midlife as a moment of divine restoration, not decline.To connect with Dr. Paynter:WebsiteFacebookInstagramYouTubePodcastTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Have you ever felt emotionally attached to someone you weren’t actually in a relationship with? Or caught yourself romanticizing a past connection—while feeling dissatisfied in your current one?In this episode, Angela sits down with journalist and author Amanda McCracken to talk about limerence—an intense state of longing that can masquerade as love, but often thrives on fantasy, distance, and emotional safety rather than real intimacy.As part of her research for When Longing Becomes Your Lover, Amanda revisited old letters and memorabilia from past relationships and noticed how nostalgia reignited emotional attachment—even showing up in her dreams. Together, Angela and Amanda explore how longing for the past, parasocial relationships, and modern romantic fantasy can quietly undermine present-day connection, including marriage.This conversation is not about shame or fear—it’s about awareness, naming what’s happening in our inner worlds, and choosing presence over fantasy.In this episode, we discuss:What limerence is—and how it differs from love, attraction, or commitmentHow nostalgia rewrites the past and fuels dissatisfaction in the presentThe rise of BookTok, romantasy, and parasocial relationshipsWhy fantasy relationships require no vulnerability or accountabilityHow limerence can exist inside marriage—even “good” marriagesHow Purity Culture contributed to longing & limerencePractical ways to disrupt limerence without shaming yourselfIf this episode feels uncomfortable or hits close to home, that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It may simply mean something important is being named for the first time.Gentle note to listeners:If this episode feels uncomfortable or hits close to home, that doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It may simply mean something important is being named for the first time.About our guestAmanda McCracken is an award-winning journalist and the author of When Longing Becomes Your Lover. Her work explores limerence, longing, dating culture, and emotional vulnerability in a world shaped by fantasy and avoidance. You can learn more about Amanda and her book in the links below.Want more support?If you’re noticing unexplained dissatisfaction in your marriage or struggling to stay present in your relationship, Angela offers coaching and tools designed to help couples build real, sustainable intimacy—emotional, spiritual, and sexual.Resources & Links:When Longing Becomes Your Lover by Amanda McCrackenLove and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love by Dorothy TennovSmitten, by Dr. Tom BellamyAmanda's WebsiteFacebookInstagramTikTokTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

In this season finale of Go Have Good Sex, Angela sits down with Erin Pritchard for a powerful conversation on the Fair Play method, the mental load, and how emotional labor shapes the health—and heat—of a marriage.If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the invisible weight of planning, remembering, and managing everything, this episode will feel like someone finally turned the lights on. Erin breaks down what true partnership looks like, why “helping out” isn’t the same as sharing the load, and how redistributing responsibilities creates more peace, connection, and yes… better intimacy.We also tackle the pushback Christian women often hear:“That’s just secular thinking wrapped in Christian language.”(Spoiler: wanting a fair, balanced marriage is both biblical and beautiful.)As we close out Season 1, thank you for being part of these honest, healing, and sometimes spicy conversations. Get ready—Season 2 drops January 2026, and we’re coming back with even more truth, humor, and tools to help you build a marriage full of connection, joy, and good sex.Until then… Go Have Good Sex.To connect with Erin:WebsiteInstagramFacebookMentioned in the episode:Fair Play BookFair Play DeckSecular Thinking Video from AngelaThe Making of Biblical Womanhood by Beth Allison BarrThe Bible vs Biblical Womanhood by Philip Barton PayneTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Genesis 2:24 tells us, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”But somewhere along the way, a lot of parents—and even some churches—forgot that verse applies after the wedding too.The holidays can magnify the tension between wanting to honor your family and needing to protect your peace. From unspoken expectations to guilt trips about where you spend Christmas morning, too many Christian couples find themselves fighting each other instead of standing together.In this episode, Angela (The Christian Sexpert) is joined by Ashley Odom Rodrigues, a licensed therapist, certified sex therapist, and PhD student studying generational resiliency in women’s intimate lives. They unpack the difference between boundaries and ultimatums, how to practically set boundaries as a united couple, and what to do when your parents get mad.Because loving your family doesn’t mean letting them run your marriage—and peace is holy, too.To connect with Ashley:WebsiteFacebookInstagramTikTokAs mentioned in the episode:Calling HomeTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

What happens when you’re the one who wants sex more—and your husband doesn’t?In this powerful, faith-filled conversation, Angela (The Christian Sexpert) sits down with Alanna Roberts, founder of Boudoir by Raw, a faith-based boudoir photography brand helping women reconnect with their God-given identity. Together, they unpack what it means to be a high-drive wife—and how to navigate desire differences, rejection, and chronic pain with honesty, grace, and creativity.Alanna shares what she’s learned as a wife and minister married to someone who also lives with chronic pain—how their intimacy has evolved, and how creativity became their key to connection. The two talk openly about why sexual rejection can feel so personal, how to reframe it, and why desire is not something to hide or be ashamed of.If you’ve ever struggled with mismatched drives or felt unseen in your desire, this conversation will remind you: your sexuality isn’t too much—it’s part of how God designed you for connection.And if you and your spouse are navigating differences in drive, health, or physical ability, Angela offers 1:1 coaching to help couples build a sex life that honors both of your needs—without pressure, shame, or guilt.Because healthy people in safe marriages don’t turn down good sex—they learn to make it work for both of them.He’s not broken. You’re not too much. There’s room for both of you in grace.To connect with AlannaWebsiteTikTokInstagramFacebookThings mentioned in the episode:🍆 Romantic Blessings - Shop for spicy toys and accessories in a completely nudity free, Christian based environment. Use code SPERT10 for 10% off your purchase.🍑 Intimate Conversations - a guided sex journal to help you go deeper in your sexual and non-sexual intimacy*The Bible version used in this episode was ESVTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

Purity culture doesn’t just shape how we see sex—it shapes how we see ourselves as women, wives, and mothers.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Ashley Hudson, therapist, coach, and founder of Pearl in Process, to talk about how “good girl theology” follows women long after the wedding night. Together we unpack how purity culture influences pregnancy, birth, and postpartum—the moments when women are most vulnerable and most in need of grace.With warmth, humor, and clinical insight, Dr. Ashley helps us explore:💔 Why Christian women often feel guilt or shame after giving birth🧠 How spiritual beliefs impact body trust and postpartum recovery💪 What true healing looks like when faith and freedom finally meetIf you’ve ever felt pressure to be the “perfect Christian mom,” this conversation will help you breathe again.Trigger warning for topics of purity culture & abuse.To connect with Dr. Ashley:WebsiteInstagramFacebookTikTokTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ $TheChristianSexpertNote: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.

For too many Christian couples, “sex as a duty” has been taught as holy—but neuroscience tells a different story. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Karianne Bilsky, a licensed psychologist and trauma specialist, to unpack how obligation-based sex affects the brain, nervous system, and long-term intimacy.Together they explore how coercive teachings—like “you owe your spouse sex”—can trigger stress responses, shut down desire, and rewire the brain away from pleasure and connection. Dr. Bilsky explains how safety, consent, and authentic choice are not only biblical but biologically essential for thriving intimacy.If you’ve ever wondered why “just doing it” doesn’t create closeness, or why your body resists even when your heart wants connection, this episode will help you understand the neurological and spiritual cost of obligation—and how to rebuild intimacy that is chosen, safe, and joyfully mutual.Topics Include:The neuroscience of desire vs. dutyHow religious coercion impacts the nervous systemTrauma-informed approaches to healing sexual disconnectionWhy safety and consent are prerequisites for pleasureMoving from “performing intimacy” to experiencing itAs an added bonus, my Patreon members will receive an additional interview with Dr. Bilsky, where we discuss what female arousal feels like in the body, and how to cultivate it!Here is more information on things mentioned in the episode:Come As You Are by Emily NagoskiRub Me the Right Way: Massage episode ft Maude CarterBetty Martin & the Wheel of ConsentBeyond “Duty Sex”: Betty Martin’s Revolutionary Framework on Sex Therapy 101 with Cami Hurst

When most people hear “human trafficking,” they picture kidnappings, foreign crime rings, and dramatic movie rescues. But the truth is often far more ordinary—and far more heartbreaking.In this episode, I sit down with Kathy Bryan, a passionate advocate and expert on anti-trafficking work and founder of The Genesis Project, to unpack what trafficking actually looks like in America today. Together, they challenge common myths, explore how traffickers exploit vulnerabilities, and reveal why prevention starts with healthy relationships and informed communities.They discuss:How trafficking often happens within families or romantic relationshipsThe myths media has taught us—and the truths survivors live every dayThe emotional, relational, and spiritual toll on victims and advocatesWhat real prevention and long-term support look likeIf you’ve ever wondered what trafficking really is—and what role we each play in ending it—this conversation will open your eyes and your heart.And, obviously, a trigger warning for abuse and related issues.To connect:The Genesis Project WebsiteInstagramFacebookAs mentioned in the episode:Aaron Crowley TikTokAaron Crowley InstagramFight the New DrugVideo from Dr. Ashley HudsonTo support me, The Christian Sexpert, make sure you are checking out all of my resources, and of course, a Cash App gift helps me do all these things you love! ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠Book Coaching with Angela Facebook TikTok Instagram YouTube Podcast Patreon CashApp⁠⁠ Note: These show notes contain external links to products and services. The Christian Sexpert may receive a commission for purchases made through these links.