Surrogacy Daddy

It's time to go home! Just like in a Christmas story, the family finally gathers around the tree. But in stories, there are often difficult trials. This story is no exception.----Sources:Article: The art of not sweeping behind one's door: understanding men's repertoire of domestic inaction thanks to Christine Delphy, by Laura Carpentier-Goffre, 2022Study: Surrogate mothers 10 years on: A longitudinal study of psychological well-being and relationships with the parents and child, Jadva, V., Imrie, S., & Golombok, S., 2015, Human Reproduction, v. 30Report: Sexist acts during gynecological and obstetric care, HCE, 2018Article: Médiapart: Sexism, racism, and homophobia: the High Council for Equality lives the opposite of what it preachesArticle: Médiapart: The High Council for Equality is bogged down in crisisComic book: Women don't die by chance, by Rotman, Ferné, and BouillonEssay: Creating a different kind of family, Gabrielle RichardStudy: Maternal mortality in France, Santé Publique France, ENCMM 2016-2018----To go further:CLARA AssociationAPGL AssociationMes Deux Papas AssociationADFH AssociationCollectif Familles Association----Mixed by Les Belles Fréquences. Copyright: “Beautiful Daughter,” by Jason Shaw; “A Jolly Good Christmas” by The Jangle Book; “Deck the Halls” by Martin Riopel; “The Lost City” by Tewar; “Birth of Life” by SoundDesign; “Get the Pressure” by Klimenko Music. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's the long-awaited moment! (And what a long wait it has been!!) Everything converges on this moment lasting just a few hours: the birth. And yet... we prepare so little for it, especially as men. What are the particularities of a birth in a surrogacy process? What about the first separation?----Sources: Essay: Faire famille autrement (Building a Family Differently), by Gabrielle RichardEssay: Pourquoi m’as-tu abandonné (Why Did You Abandon Me), by Jean-Charles BouchouxEssay: Rupture(s) (Breakup(s), by Claire MarinPodcast: France Inter, In Utero, by Zoé Varier----To learn more:CLARA AssociationAPGL AssociationMes Deux Papas AssociationADFH AssociationCollectif Familles Association----Mixed by Les Belles Fréquences. Copyright: “Beautiful Daughter,” by Jason Shaw; “An Epic Journey,” by Elliott; “Southern Grit,” by Justin Breame; “A Sprinkling of Magic,” by Porter Productions; “Pagoda,” by Marc Walloch. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Clearly, no one knows how to be a dad. And yet, when a male couple becomes parents, they have to figure it out, because there is no woman in the household forced to fill in the gaps. And this is far from easy when the short length of paternity leave keeps them away from the crib...----Sources: ·     Les couilles sur la table, Tuaillon·     Les enfants vont bien, Démettre·     Parentalité(s), Bouychou·     Faites des gosses, Revol·     Chroniques du sexisme ordinaire, Marine-Pétroline·     Papatriarcat, Rostein·     Mansplaining, Messias·     Fils à Papa(s), Beaugrand·     Fallait le dire, Emma·     L’arnaque des nouveaux pères, Jourdain et Daudin, 2024·     The Second Shift, Hochschild et Machung, 1989·     Espaces et temps de la « production d’enfants », Boulet, 2020·     Les étudiant-e-s parents, Gaide, 2020·     Qui lave le linge sale de la famille ?, de Stambolis-Ruhstorfer et Gross, 2021·     Être en couple gay, Courduriès, 2019·     RFAS 2025-3 : “Les encadrements de la paternité”·     L’art de ne pas balayer derrière sa porte, Carpentier-Goffre, 2022·     Les « nouveaux pères » trop pépères, Le Monde, 2024·     Les chiffres-clés de l’inégalité en France et dans le monde, Oxfam·     MHB, liste des entreprises qui participent au financement des GPA Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are a thousand ways to experience pregnancy. But for intended parents who go through surrogacy, it is usually at a distance. How can we cope with the thousands of miles that separate us for nine months from what matters most to us in the world?----Sources:Article: Escrow account fraud, CNN July 19, 2024Broadcast: Le Lobby Radio Campus Paris June 28, 2024----To learn more:CLARA AssociationAPGL AssociationMes Deux Papas AssociationADFH AssociationCollectif Familles Association----Mixed by Les Belles Fréquences. Copyright: “Beautiful Daughter,” “Forever Believe” by Jason Shaw; “The Sun The Moon” by Big Score Audio, “Feel Good Anthem” by INPLUSMUSIC, “Neon Future” by Remember The Future, “Loading Screen” by Grayson DeSmet, “Solemn Silent Night” by Sunshine Music Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In surrogacy, the contract between the Surrogate and the Intended Parents is a key document that clarifies the rights and obligations of each party. Why does it raise so many questions among opponents? What does it actually contain, in detail? We reveal it all in this episode.----Sources:Study: Fatal workplace accidents in FranceStudy: Why women have abortions in the USStudy: Assisted reproductive technology and perinatal risksStudy: Maternal mortality in FranceArticle: Maternal mortality in the United StatesASRM, SEEDS, how to become a surrogate mother in the US: see episode 6----To learn more:CLARA AssociationAPGL AssociationMes Deux Papas AssociationADFH AssociationCollectif Familles Association----Mixed by Les Belles Fréquences. Copyright: “Beautiful Daughter,” “Forever Believe” by Jason Shaw; ‘Unchangeable’ by Swan Productions, “Embers of Eternity” by 407 music Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Assisted Reproductive Technology (ART) is always part of a surrogacy process. Who is involved? What are the steps involved? How does one choose an egg donor? What are the ethical and social issues involved?Note: this is the English version of the French podcast "Papa GPA". Same author, same content, same structure, just... in English!----Sources:Film: GattacaFrench Podcast: Les Pieds sur terre, the long wait for black women----To find out more:Association CLARAAssociation APGLAssociation Mes Deux PapasAssociation ADFHAssociation Collectif Familles----Mixed by Les Belles Fréquences. Copyright: “Beautiful Daughter”, “Forever Believe” by Jason Shaw ; “Violet Letter” by Aulx Studio, “Peaceful Paradise” by Taizo Audio Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How does one find a surrogate? And above all, how does one ensure it is being done ethically? What are the conditions, assessments, steps and procedures? What role does the agency play in all this? What are the safeguards?Note: this is the English version of the French podcast "Papa GPA". Same author, same content, same structure, just... in English!----Sources:Asso Men Having Babies (international)Asso CLARA (France)Asso APGL (France)Asso Mes Deux Papas (France)Asso ADFH (France)Association Collectif Familles (France)Asso Familles Arc en Ciel (Switzerland)Asso Famiglie Arcobaleno (Italy)Asso Galehi (Spain)Asso FFLAG (Great Britain)... other associations exist in these countries and beyond. Thank you to them.SEEDS committee and recommendations (USA)ASRM Committee and recommendations (USA)Study: Analysis of sociodemographic profiles and motivations of surrogates, José Ángel Martínez-López----Mixed by Les Belles Fréquences. Copyright: “Beautiful Daughter”, “Forever Believe” by Jason Shaw ; “Kill The Noise” by Black Rhomb, “Emotional Labyrinth” by Tiny Music Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why do we say “surrogate”? How do we talk about all these new roles and relationships? And by the way, where is the mother? We don't have the words to convey the strength and subtleties of our journeys. And that sometimes creates a certain confusion that is not without impact.Note: this is the English version of the French podcast "Papa GPA". Same author, same content, same structure, just... in English!----Sources:Letter from a surrogate to the child she carried: Instagram, @julhac, published on 14/02/2022Article: Donald Winnicott, The primary maternal preoccupation. in: From Pediatrics to PsychoanalysisAdditional article: John Bowlby: Attachment theorySeminar in Grenoble Alpes: see Episode 04----To find out more:Association CLARAAssociation APGLAssociation Mes Deux PapasAssociation ADFHAssociation Collectif Familles----Mixed by Les Belles Fréquences. Copyright: “Beautiful Daughter”, “Forever Believe” by Jason Shaw ; “Old School Cartoons” by Good News Tunes, “Letters to Mountains” by Mad Horse Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One topic that systematically comes up when talking about surrogacy is "money". How much does it cost? Who are the people who can afford it? Is it ethical to pay such an amount? Is a woman necessarily exploited if she accepts? But behind the questions of money, it is in fact often about power. And... who has the power?Note: this is the English version of the French podcast "Papa GPA". Same author, same content, same structure, just... in English!----Sources:Study: HETSL, “Le genre de l'argent” (Caroline Henchoz & Stéphanie Monay; study in progress)Study: Maison des Sciences de l'Homme Alpes, “La GPA vue par les féministes françaises” (data-set; Marlène Jouan & Margot Lherbet; study to be published soon)Additional column: Le Monde “GPA: il faut dépasser le débat binaire, entre idéologie et symbolisme” (Margot Lherbet, Samir Hamamah, François Olivennes)Essay: A Different Voice, Carol Gilligan (on “care”)Additional manual: A Companion to Feminist Philosophy, Alison Jaggar and Iris Young; Article “Care”, Andrea MaihoferAdditional essay: Key texts in feminist philosophy - Patriarchy, knowledge, justice, Manon GarciaAdditional article: Le Monde, Women faced with separation during their cancerEssay: “Faire famille autrement”, Gabrielle RichardInterview: BFMTV: Raphaël Glucksmann on surrogacyEssay: “L'idéologie allemande”, Karl Marx, Friedrich Engels and Joseph Weydemeyer----To go further:Association CLARAAssociation APGLAssociation Mes Deux PapasAssociation ADFHAssociation Collectif Familles----Mixed by Les Belles Fréquences. Copyright: "Beautiful Daughter", "Forever Believe" by Jason Shaw ; "Captured moment" by One Wave, "Gazing to the night sky", by E.Middleton and "Running In A Dream" by Sound&Visi Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Over a meal with friends, we learn the basics of a surrogacy: which partners and service providers to bring together and in which countries it is possible.Note: this is the English version of the French podcast "Papa GPA". Same author, same content, same structure, just... in English!----Sources:Definition of altruistic surrogacy: Asso CLARA - “Qu'est-ce qu'une GPA”Surrogate mother article in France: France Bleu - Un couple condamnéInstagram account: Dads.IssuesLawyer interviewed about Canada: Rachel West----To go further:Association CLARAAssociation APGLAssociation Mes Deux PapasAssociation ADFHAssociation Collectif Familles ----Mixed by Les Belles Fréquences. Copyright: “Beautiful Daughter”, “Forever Believe”, “Travel Light” by Jason Shaw; “Like We Do It” by Grace Mesa Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As a gay cisgender male wanting to become a parent, what are the possible paths? Why don't more gay couples adopt in France? How did the narrator and his husband come to choose surrogacy?Note: this is the English version of the French podcast "Papa GPA". Same author, same content, same structure, just... in English!-----Sources:Report: CIIVISEAdoption: Procedures for an approval requestRadio Interview: France BleueAdditional article: Libération - Adoption: an “unspoken rule” associated gay couples with “atypical” childrenAdditional article: Vice - The obstacle course for adopting a child when you are gayReport and summary article: APGL (summary article) + Report on adoption (full PDF)Article: APGL, The changes planned by the adoption bill for queer families----To find out more:CLARA associationAPGL associationMy Two Dads associationADFH associationCollectif Familles Association----Mixed by Les Belles Fréquences. Copyright: “Beautiful Daughter”, “Forever Believe”, “Atlantis” by Jason Shaw; “Floodgates” by Marc Walloch Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We are hearing more and more about surrogacy, and yet few people know the reality of these journeys, whether for the women who make them possible or for the parents who benefit from them. To ask the right questions about surrogacy, particularly ethical ones, it is necessary to understand the basics. This first introductory episode situates the narrator in his story and explains to whom it is addressed and what will be covered in future episodes.Note: this is the English version of the French podcast "Papa GPA". Same author, same content, same structure, just... in English!----Sources:Survey cited: 59% of French people support surrogacyAdditional IFOP+ADFH poll: The position of public opinion on surrogacy----To go further:CLARA AssociationAPGL AssociationMy Two Dads AssociationADFH AssociationCollectif Familles Association----Mixed by Les Belles Fréquences. Copyright: “Beautiful Daughter”, “Forever Believe”, “Kicked Up Pumps” and “Namaste” by Jason Shaw Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.