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Doppelgängers Salma Hindy and Sarah Arabic (who share the SAME 9/11 birthday) finally sit down face-to-face to talk about everything sex. Sarah grew up in Baghdad with no sex education and a family that never spoke about periods, pleasure, or intimacy. After moving to Dubai for college, she found freedom in her dorm room, exploring porn as an unexpected form of sex education. At 18, she discovered her first orgasm through Tumblr blogs, teaching herself piece by piece. Later, she earned a mast...
What happens when the person you love turns out to be violent, racist, and determined to ruin you? This week, Algerian-American comedian Hedya joins Salma to share her shocking journey of falling for a man who seemed like home after years of family tension and cultural expectations, only to find herself trapped in a cycle of abuse. During the pandemic lockdown, he pushed her, dragged her out of the kitchen, and even locked her on the balcony. Yet two days later, she found herself baking him l...
What really makes love last? And how do you find a partner when family, community, and faith are all part of the puzzle? In this episode, Salma sits down with her older sister and mentor, Yasmin Elhady: comedian, lawyer, community leader, and one of the hosts of Hulu’s Muslim Matchmaker. Yasmin has matched over 58 couples and shares her expertise on it all: The 3 things every relationship needsWhy couples therapy doesn’t work without a foundationBeing “relationship young” and learning through...
Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of rape, alcoholism, domestic violence, and abuse. Please listen with care. This week, Salma sits down with trauma-informed divorce coach Sarzana Zafar - divorced twice (because once is boring) - to unpack the father wound and consent. Sarzana shares her journey from growing up with an alcoholic father in a Muslim community that judged and shamed instead of helping, to being date-raped at 19 when her repeated “no”s were ignored. What followed...
For the Love of Sex: Lover Girl with a Body Count of 100+ This week, Salma sits down with Yasmine, a Karachi-born lover girl who has lived, loved, and - by her own account - slept with half of Dubai. With a body count well over 100, Yasmine opens up about her wildest experiences: from sex parties, kinks, and threesomes (including one she literally walked out of mid-session), to discovering the healing power of an open relationship. Raised under a mother who shamed her body and nitpicked every...
Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault, Sexual Coercion Iranian-American Sasha got her first period because of 9/11 (yes, really). Growing up in the Midwest to a cultural - NOT religious - family, her life became a crash course in contradictions: purity rings and sex-ed teachers calling girls “hoes,” a mom who said virgins are chocolates in fancy wrappers, dating a man she wasn’t attracted to for three years, being sexually assaulted by him, and hearing her mom respond, “It’s your fault.” She chased...
Growing up Pakistani-American in a conservative Muslim household, Hina learned early that her body was something to hide, police, and feel shame about. From a traumatic first period experience and relentless bullying, to chronic friend-zoning and a lifetime of sexualization, she spent decades feeling like sex was a party she’d never be invited to. In this raw and powerful conversation, Hina opens up about: Navigating vaginismus and pelvic floor therapy while breaking the silence in Muslim spa...
Palestinian comedian Maysoon Zayid waited until marriage to have sex (at 33 years old). Then life came at her fast. In this raw and hilarious conversation with Salma Hindy, Maysoon opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of her romantic life and how living with cerebral palsy shaped her journey. From dating a Broadway River Dancer, to enduring miscarriages and finding relief after divorce, she reflects on the freedom of middle age and what it really means to reclaim one’s story. LINK TO ...
From early childhood experiences, finding out about sex, vaginismus, first experiences with girls, fantasy boy crushes, celibacy to Ayahausca and beyond, Salma Hindy shares her entire sexual journey and the intention of this podcast. GUEST CALL OUT. Anonymity guaranteed. If you would like to be a guest on this pod, please email thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen@gmail.com with a short synopsis of your story. Instagram: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmu...
Find out about Salma Hindy's FIRSTS First exposure to Sex EdFirst time truly learning Sex EdFirst time having sex and losing virginityFirst time learning about Vaginismus Instagram: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen YouTube: @thesecretsexlivesofmuslimwomen HOST'S INSTAGRAM: @salma.hindy HOST'S TIKTOK: @salma.hindy