Trin Told Me

I’m getting real in this episode… like sleepover-at-his-house real.We’re talking about what actually goes down when you spend the night at a guy’s place—the expectations, the pressure, the unspoken energy—and how to walk into it feeling confident, prepared, and fully in control of yourself. I share my own stories, what I’ve learned the hard way, and the things I wish someone told me before I ever showed up with an overnight bag.We also get into boundaries (how to set them and actually stick to them), safety tips you should never ignore, and the truth about how guys think in these moments. Because once you understand their mindset, you move differently… softer, smarter, more powerful.And of course, I’m taking you into my Coachella experience—what it’s really like your first time, what to expect, and how to stay safe while still having the time of your life.This episode is your guide to navigating dating, sleepovers, and big social moments without losing yourself in the process. It’s about choosing you, protecting your energy, and leaving every situation feeling like you’re the prize.Because you are. AlwaysSUBMISSIONS- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog

In this episode, I’m giving you the ultimate big sister guide to navigating relationships, confidence, and what to actually expect when you go over to a boy’s house for the first time.We’re talking about everything—from how to know if you should even go, to getting ready, making a great impression, and the little things that make you feel confident and in control. I also share the subtle red flags to watch for, how to protect your energy, and how to move in a way that keeps you feeling safe, respected, and completely yourself.Of course, we keep it fun too—stories, games, and all the little moments that make these experiences unforgettable.SUBMISSIONS- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog

In this episode, I’m getting real about body confidence… especially during the times it feels the hardest-summer, bikinis, and intimacy.Because the truth is, almost every girl has had that moment of standing in front of the mirror, picking herself apart, wondering if she’s “good enough” to be seen. And I’ve been there too.I’m sharing my own experiences with insecurity, the thoughts I had to unlearn, and the mindset shifts that actually helped me feel confident in my body—not just when I look “perfect,” but in my everyday life.We’re talking about how to walk into summer feeling free, how to feel comfortable being seen, and how to stop letting insecurity control your experiences. I also give practical tips, affirmations, and little mental rewires that have genuinely changed the way I see myself.This episode is your reminder that confidence isn’t about having the “perfect” body… it’s about finally feeling at home in the one you already have. 💌SUBMISSIONS- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog

In this episode, I’m opening up in a way I haven’t before… taking you with me through one of the most emotional seasons of my life—my first heartbreak.I went back into my old journal entries, the raw, unfiltered thoughts I wrote when everything felt heavy, confusing, and honestly… a little broken. And now, I’m reading them from a healed version of me.We’re talking about what heartbreak really does to you, how it changes the way you see love, and how I slowly found my way back to myself. I share the lessons I didn’t understand at the time, but now realize were shaping me into someone stronger, softer, and more whole.If you’re going through a breakup, missing someone, or just trying to feel like yourself again… this episode is for you.You’re not alone in this. And I promise—there is a version of you on the other side of this that feels lighter, wiser, and so deeply in love with her own life again.

In this episode, I’m getting real about the things men don’t openly say—but absolutely show through their behavior. I break down the psychology behind how men think, what they’re actually drawn to, and the subtle patterns that can either raise your value… or lower it without you realizing.We talk about men’s emotional needs, their vulnerabilities, and why attraction isn’t built on being “perfect” or overly giving—but on self-respect, patience, and knowing how to move with intention. I share the small shifts that completely change how you’re perceived, from how you give your time and energy to how you create anticipation and connection.I also dive into protecting yourself—how to spot manipulation, set boundaries, and stay grounded in your worth so you’re not overextending for someone who hasn’t earned you. Because the goal isn’t just to attract a man… it’s to keep your power while doing it.This episode is your reminder that confidence is quiet, value is felt, and the right person will rise to meet you—not the other way around.

In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly how to get a prom date in five days—yes, five. I walk you through a step-by-step game plan using confidence, psychology, and a little bit of manifestation magic to help you actually attract the person you want, instead of chasing them.I talk about how to shift your energy, how to make someone see you differently, and the subtle things that create attraction without you even realizing it. From visualization techniques to playful strategies that make you stand out, I’m giving you everything I would do if I had to secure a date on a deadline.But we’re also going deeper. Because getting the date isn’t the real win—it’s becoming the version of you that feels chosen, confident, and magnetic no matter what. I touch on the internal work behind love, how to rebuild your confidence after a breakup, and why self-worth is the foundation of any relationship.This episode is part strategy, part glow-up, and part big sister advice. If you’ve ever wanted someone to see you in a different light—or you just want to walk into prom season feeling like that girl—this one’s for you.SUBMISSIONS- ⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog

In this episode of Trin Told Me, I’m getting into something we’ve all dealt with at some point… the friend zone.I talk about how to tell if a guy friend actually likes you, how to friend zone someone without completely ruining the relationship, and what to do if you’re the one stuck in the friend zone and want out. I also share some funny, slightly chaotic stories from my own life (because of course I’ve been through this), and break down the psychology behind attraction, boundaries, and emotional connection.We get into how to subtly shift energy, create romantic association, and why things like confidence, perception, and timing matter so much. Whether you’re trying to keep things platonic or turn a friendship into something more, this episode is your guide to navigating it all without losing yourself in the process.Let’s be honest… the friend zone is confusing—but once you understand it, you can actually control how the situation plays out.SUBMISSIONS- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog

In this episode of Trin Told Me, KJ and I are getting real about the party scene and everything we wish we knew before we started going out. We share some of our own experiences from parties, mixers, and nights out, and talk about what actually happens when alcohol gets involved — from how it affects your judgment and memory to why it’s so important to know your limits.We also dive into practical tips for partying responsibly, staying safe at events, and avoiding situations that can turn a fun night into a bad one. From watching your drink and sticking with your friends to making sure your phone is charged and trusting your instincts, we’re sharing the little things that can make a huge difference when you’re out.This episode is basically a big sister conversation about how to have fun, enjoy the party, and still stay in control of your night.SUBMISSIONS- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialogUSE MY DISCOUNT CODE THET15- https://www.aelfriceden.com/.

In this episode of Trin Told Me, I’m diving into manifestation and how to align your energy with what you want most—whether that’s attracting your crush or calling in something bigger for your life. I break down some of my favorite manifestation techniques that help reprogram the subconscious and strengthen belief in your desires.We talk about powerful methods like sleep visualization, scripting, the O Method, the 369 technique, and the whisper method—each one designed to help you focus your emotional energy and bring your intentions into reality. I also explain why detachment is such a key part of manifestation and how believing it’s already yours changes the way the universe responds to you.If you’ve ever wondered how to shift your mindset, raise your energy, and manifest the things (and people) you want in your life, this episode is for you. Let’s tap into the power of belief, intention, and a little bit of magic.SUBMISSIONS- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialogBUY MY BOOK- https://www.amazon.com/How-Get-Guy-10-Days/dp/B0FH2X7VWV

In this episode, I’m opening up about one of the most confusing and transformative times in a girl’s life: puberty. I share my personal experience going through puberty earlier than many of my peers, from getting my first training bra to navigating body changes, new hygiene routines, and getting my period at a young age. I talk honestly about how awkward and isolating those moments can feel when your body starts changing before everyone else’s.Along the way, I break down the science behind puberty and explain what’s actually happening inside our bodies when hormones like estrogen and progesterone begin to rise. I walk through the common signs of puberty, why things like body odor and mood swings start happening, and how to manage these changes with practical self-care habits.We also dive into the emotional side of growing up — why puberty can make you feel overwhelmed, sensitive, or even a little “crazy” sometimes, and why those feelings are completely normal. I even explore the idea of “second puberty,” the hormonal and body shifts many women notice in early adulthood as they transition from teenage years into their adult bodies.This episode is a big sister guide to understanding your body, embracing the changes that come with growing up, and remembering that everyone develops at their own pace.SUBMISSIONS- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialogNEWS SEGMENT- https://www.wfla.com/video/celebrating-your-best-self-bloom/11579834/DISCORD- https://discord.com/channels/@me

In this episode of Trin Told Me, I’m joined by Chloe Madison from Unbothered for the ultimate big sister talk.We’re getting into all the things you usually have to learn the hard way—boys, rejection, making the wrong choices, getting in trouble, and figuring out your own path in life. This is one of those conversations where nothing is sugarcoated, but everything is coming from a place of wanting you to do better, feel better, and move smarter.We talk about what rejection really means (and why it’s not what you think), how to handle situations with guys without losing yourself, and how some of your biggest “mistakes” end up being the things that shape you the most.If you’ve ever felt lost, embarrassed, heartbroken, or like you’re learning everything the hard way… this episode is for you.Think of this as the advice we wish someone sat us down and told us earlierUNBOTHERED POD- https://share.google/5i6XvQU6sJZBXe96mSUBMISSIONS- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog

In this episode of Trin Told Me, I’m talking about something a lot of us go through but don’t always know how to handle—bullying and mental health.I open up about my own experiences with being bullied and how isolating it can feel when you don’t think anyone understands. We get into the psychology behind why people bully in the first place, and how sometimes the people hurting you are dealing with things you can’t see. Not to excuse it—but to help you stop internalizing it.I also walk you through real ways to cope when you’re going through it—how to reframe negative thoughts, protect your self-worth, and channel your emotions into something that actually helps you heal instead of hurting you more. We talk about reaching out for support, finding safe spaces, and reminding yourself that you are not what anyone says about you.If you’ve ever felt picked on, misunderstood, or just not enough… this episode is for you.You’re not alone in this. And you’re not the problemsubmissions- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialogdiscord- https://discord.gg/fkATATeV

In this episode of Trin Told Me, I’m diving into something we’ve all felt but don’t always know how to navigate… confessing your feelings.I talk about the real truth behind telling someone you like them—when to do it, when to wait, and how timing can completely change the outcome. Because it’s not just about saying the words… it’s about the energy, the build-up, and whether you’ve created a space where those feelings can actually land.I break down the psychology of attraction and how to naturally make someone feel seen, appreciated, and special—without forcing anything. I also share how confidence shifts everything, why assuming they already like you changes your entire vibe, and how to stop putting people on pedestals when you are the prize.We get into different ways to confess—whether you’re more playful, bold, or soft—and how to choose a style that feels authentic to you. And of course, I talk about rejection… and why it has nothing to do with your worth, even if it feels personal in the moment.At the end of the day, this episode is about trusting yourself, protecting your energy, and remembering that the right person won’t need to be convinced—they’ll meet you right where you are.So if you’ve been wondering whether to say something… this is your sign to do it with confidence, clarity, and a little bit of magic.SUBMISSIONS- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog

There’s something soft and electric about having a crush… like your heart is learning a new rhythm and your mind won’t stop replaying the “what ifs.” In this episode of Trent Told Me, I’m diving into exactly how to turn that energy into something real.We’re talking confidence—the kind that doesn’t beg to be chosen, but knows it already is. I’ll walk you through the subtle signs your crush might be feeling you too (yes, the nervous smiles and stolen glances mean something), and how to build that spark into an actual connection through conversation, presence, and a little bit of boldness.I’m also sharing my own story—because trust me, I’ve been there. From awkward moments to finally figuring out what actually works, I break it all down into simple, real steps you can use in your own life.But more than anything, this episode is your reminder: attraction isn’t about changing who you are—it’s about owning who you are. We’ll also get into the importance of communication, boundaries, and consent, because real connection always comes from mutual understanding and respect.So if you’ve got someone on your mind… this is your sign to stop overthinking and start stepping into your powerSUBMISSIONS- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog

In this episode of Trin Told Me, I’m talking about the real reasons someone might not like you back—and why it often has nothing to do with your worth.I break down the psychology of attraction, obsession, and emotional energy, and explain how giving too much of yourself too quickly can actually push someone away instead of drawing them closer. We talk about how emotional states transfer between people, why attraction thrives in ease instead of anxiety, and how obsession can quietly destroy polarity and desire.I also explore attachment styles, the importance of maintaining your own identity in relationships, and why self-validation is the foundation of healthy attraction. I share the common mistakes people make when they like someone, and how losing yourself in another person can make you feel less chosen—not more.Most importantly, I talk about how to reclaim your energy, rebuild your sense of self, and stop seeking reassurance from people who aren’t aligned with you. Because the truth is, attraction doesn’t grow from chasing—it grows from presence, confidence, and emotional stability.If you’ve ever wondered why someone pulled away, or how to stop obsessing over someone who isn’t choosing you, this episode will help you come back home to yourself.Love you. Mean it.

In this episode of Trin Told Me, I’m talking about first dates — the nerves, the excitement, and how to actually walk into one feeling confident instead of anxious.I break down why first dates feel so intimidating and how so much of that anxiety comes down to self-worth and overthinking. I share how I personally prepare before a date — from choosing an outfit that makes me feel powerful to doing my makeup in a way that feels like me, not like I’m trying too hard.We talk about how to break the tension naturally, how to keep conversation flowing without it feeling like an interview, and why asking deeper questions creates emotional connection way faster than surface-level small talk. I also explain why compliments should focus on identity and character, not just looks — and how maintaining a little mystery actually increases attraction.I get into the psychology of desire, why you shouldn’t rush physical intimacy on the first date, and why letting a man pursue and prove his interest changes everything. Most importantly, I remind you that dating isn’t about impressing someone — it’s about deciding if they impress you.If you’ve ever felt nervous before a first date or questioned your worth walking into one, this episode is for you. Confidence isn’t about being perfect. It’s about knowing you’re valuable before you even sit down at the table.Love you. Mean it.SUBMISSIONS HERE- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog

In this episode of Trin Told Me, I’m talking about the real psychological impact of dating apps—what they do to our self-worth, how they rewire the way we see connection, and why so many people walk away feeling frustrated, insecure, or emotionally drained.I share my own experiences using dating apps, what initially makes them so appealing, and why that quick hit of validation can slowly turn into dependency. We get into the psychology behind instant gratification, comparison, and why swiping can make genuine connection feel harder instead of easier.I also talk about why your value can’t come from matches, messages, or attention from strangers—and how to start building validation through self-trust, mastery, and confidence outside of dating apps. If you’ve ever felt discouraged, disposable, or confused while dating online, this episode is meant to help you step back and reconnect with yourself.At the end of the episode, I answer listener questions about relationships, boundaries, and self-respect, and leave you with a reminder that real love starts with how you treat yourself.Whether you’re currently on dating apps, taking a break from them, or questioning if they’re even for you—this episode is an honest conversation about choosing genuine connection over constant validation.SUBMISSIONS- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog

Valentine’s Day is coming up, and in this episode of Trin Told Me, I’m talking about everything—how to get a Valentine, how to move through dating with confidence, and how to protect your self-worth no matter your relationship status.I share my own experiences, the psychology behind attraction, and the exact mindset shifts that actually make a difference when it comes to love. We talk about researching your “target,” making the first move without feeling awkward, and using everyday moments and events as low-pressure ways to get closer to someone you like. I also break down why confidence and scarcity are so powerful in dating—and how assuming you’re already chosen can completely change the way people respond to you.This episode includes a Freaky Forecast where I explain what different Valentine’s gifts say about the person giving them, plus a real-life love story analysis that highlights the subtle signs of mutual attraction people usually miss.Whether you’re single, talking to someone, healing from a breakup, or just trying to love yourself a little more, this episode is here to remind you that you don’t need a Valentine to have an amazing day—but when you do have confidence, love tends to find you anyway.SUBMISSIONS- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog

In this episode, I talk about red flags in relationships, especially when it comes to cheating, and why learning to see the signs early can save you so much time, energy, and heartbreak. I share a personal experience from high school when I was cheated on, the red flags I ignored, and what that situation taught me about self-worth, intuition, and emotional boundaries.We get into how insecurity shows up as jealousy and control, what manipulation and gaslighting actually look like in real life, and why being dismissed or blamed in a relationship is never okay. I also share my thoughts on catching a cheater, not through confrontation or spiraling, but through awareness, silence, and trusting your gut.This episode is for anyone who’s ever questioned themselves, stayed too long, or felt like something was off but couldn’t explain why. You deserve a partner who listens to you, respects you, and adds peace to your life, not confusion. Your intuition isn’t dramatic. It’s protective.Submissions- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog

In this episode of Trin Told Me, I’m breaking down the idea of “dating leagues” and why they’re not real—they’re a mindset. We talk about how believing someone is “out of your league” is usually the very thing keeping you from them, and why the only real separation is the story you tell yourself.I share how your frequency shapes your life, why confidence is assumed beauty, and how attraction works when you stop chasing and start positioning yourself to be seen. We get into self-love, mystery, and the mindset shift of assuming you already have what you desire instead of wanting it from a place of lack.I also walk you through a simple, step-by-step formula for getting the attention of someone you think is out of reach—without forcing, begging, or shrinking yourself. This episode is about showing up as your best self, trusting your worth, and remembering that love responds to confidence, not insecurity.If you’ve ever felt like someone was “too good” for you, this episode is your reminder: leagues aren’t real, but your self-belief is. And that changes everythingSUBMISSIONS- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog