Trin Told Me

Can you keep a guy interested without having sex with him? Spoiler: YES. 💋In this episode, we’re talking about how to build attraction, chemistry, emotional connection, and sexual tension without ever feeling like you have to cross your own boundaries to keep someone around.We get into the difference between a guy genuinely liking *you* versus simply wanting something physical, how to create anticipation without sex, and what to say when someone starts pressuring you or making you feel guilty for saying no. Because your boundaries aren't something you have to earn the right to have—and the right person isn't going to require you to abandon them just to keep their attention.Then we answer some of your questions about waiting until marriage, first kisses, guys with different expectations around physical intimacy, confusing touch, consent, and knowing when a situation needs to be brought to a trusted adult. We also talk about recognizing when someone is testing your boundaries and why you're ALWAYS allowed to say no, change your mind, or leave—even if you previously said yes.And obviously, we had to put ourselves to the test with STAY, WALK, OR TALK IT OUT: What if he respects your no immediately? Keeps asking after you've said no? Hits you with the dreaded “if you loved me, you would”? Supports your decision to wait? Gets annoyed when you set a boundary? We're giving our verdict on all of it.Whether you're waiting until marriage, waiting for the right person, not ready yet, or simply don't want to—you never owe someone access to your body to earn their love or attention.The person who's right for you won't need you to sacrifice your boundaries to keep them interested. 💗Welcome back, queens. Let's talk about it.

My twin KJ and I tried something new: I read your DMs out loud and we both write our advice on a card — no peeking, no cheating — then reveal to see if twin telepathy is real or if we're actually two different people lol. This episode we get into a friend acting way too comfortable around a crush, a "joke" from a guy friend that actually hurt, the ick that keeps ruining my talking stages, and figuring out if a guy who's amazing in person but dry over text actually likes you. We also do story time on a theme park love triangle gone wrong, quick hits on cuddling and dead-end snap streaks, and our game "Would She Say It or Would I?" — guessing red flag vs. no big deal on stuff like liked exes' photos at 2am, "I don't like labels," and being told you're "not like other girls." Ending it soft with something I needed to hear during a hard season, in case you do too.Send me your story or question — KJ and I might answer it blind on the next one.

DOUBLE TROUBLE IS OFFICIALLY HERE 😭🎀 KJ is now officially joining me as the co-host of the podcast, and I’m SO excited for this new era.In this episode, we’re basically catching you up on everything going on in our lives right now — traveling, Nashville, cruises, New York Fashion Week, our upcoming Salem trip, our current Starbucks obsessions, and all of the random chaos happening behind the scenes.But then we get into some of your questions, and girl… we cover A LOT.We talk about intimacy, how past experiences can affect the way your body responds in relationships, somatic healing, learning to listen to yourself, and why there is absolutely NO timeline you need to follow when it comes to being intimate with someone. You never owe somebody access to you just because you’re dating them, because everyone else is doing it, or because you feel like you “should” be ready.We also get into friendships and GIRL CODE 👀 — dating a friend’s ex, when something crosses a boundary, being honest with your friends even when they don’t necessarily want to hear it, and why I genuinely think female friendships are one of the most important relationships we can have in our lives.Then we answer more of your college and relationship questions: how to tell if a guy actually has genuine intentions, red flags to watch for, dealing with homesickness, keeping long-distance friendships alive, and why having your own community and your own life makes dating SO much healthier.This episode is basically girl talk, life updates, relationship advice, friendship advice, healing, college chaos, and KJ and I talking way too much all rolled into one. 😭💗And I think one of the biggest reminders from this episode is this: you do not have to rush your life. Not intimacy. Not relationships. Not friendships. Not figuring yourself out. Listen to yourself, communicate, protect the relationships that genuinely pour into you, and let yourself grow at your own pace.Love you girlies. Welcome to the new podcast era. 💋SUBMISSIONS- ⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog⁠ STREAM MY SONG "UNDERCOVER-⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/track/7ylgLLPbyYy6Xe1nYFr8b0?si=780b1d9d21c14d2b⁠⁠CHAPTERS00:00 — Double Trouble Begins03:02 — KJ Is Officially Joining the Podcast05:58 — Life Updates + Our Recent Travels08:58 — Starbucks Pumpkin Season Is HERE11:55 — Nashville, Minnesota & Cruise Adventures14:59 — New York Fashion Week + Our Salem Trip17:53 — Answering Your Intimacy & Relationship Questions19:24 — Somatic Healing, Trauma & Listening to Your Body25:31 — Relationships, Boundaries & Communication36:45 — Is This Violating Girl Code?44:56 — Why Female Friendships Matter SO Much46:32 — Dating & Relationships in College53:07 — How to Deal With Homesickness56:47 — Making Long-Distance Friendships Last61:20 — How to Tell If His Intentions Are Genuine64:00 — Closing Thoughts + What’s Coming Next#GirlTalk #RelationshipAdvice #DatingAdvice #GirlCode #FemaleFriendships #CollegeAdvice #SelfLove #Podcast #Intimacy #FriendshipAdvice

High school dating is genuinely its own universe 😭💗 and in this episode, KJ and I are breaking down EVERYTHING I wish someone had explained to me when I was younger.We’re talking about what high school boys are actually thinking, how to tell if a guy likes you, the different types of guys you’ll meet, first relationships, first kisses, communication, intimacy, peer pressure, trust, and all of the confusing little situations that feel like the end of the world when you’re experiencing them for the first time.We also categorize the different types of high school boys — from the egomaniacs I would personally tell you to RUN from, to the shy kings, to my personal pick for an actual relationship: the nonchalant chiller guys. 😭But more than anything, I want this episode to remind you that you do not have to rush your high school experience. You don't need a boyfriend just because your friends have one. You don't have to kiss someone because everyone else already has. And you NEVER have to become intimate with someone because you feel behind or pressured.Your first experiences are YOURS. There is no timeline you need to follow.We also talk about how important communication and trust are when you do get into a relationship, how to recognize when someone genuinely likes you, and why understanding your own boundaries is way more important than trying to impress a teenage boy who probably has approximately three thoughts bouncing around his head at any given moment. 💀High school love can be exciting, dramatic, confusing, heartbreaking and SO fun all at once. Cherish it, learn from it, and please don't waste your entire high school experience trying to get one random boy to choose you.Choose yourself first. 🎀CHAPTERS00:00 — Introduction + Album Update04:55 — Dating in High School: What We Wish We Knew14:52 — Understanding How High School Boys Think25:03 — The Different Types of High School Boys34:49 — Who Should You Actually Date?35:18 — Intimacy, Trust & Communication41:42 — Peer Pressure & Feeling “Behind”45:29 — How to Tell if He Actually Likes You48:01 — High School Dating: Would You Rather?58:27 — Looking Back at Our High School Experiences#HighSchoolAdvice #DatingAdvice #TeenDating #HighSchoolDating #RelationshipAdvice #TeenRelationships #FirstRelationship #DatingTips #GirlTalk #HighSchoolSUBMISSIONS- ⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog⁠SHOP MY SWIMWEAR COLLECTION- ⁠⁠https://mysecretswim.com/⁠⁠ STREAM MY SONG "UNDERCOVER-⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/track/7ylgLLPbyYy6Xe1nYFr8b0?si=780b1d9d21c14d2b⁠⁠

College is one of the first times in your life where you suddenly have SO much freedom… and absolutely no idea what you’re supposed to do with it. In this episode, I’m giving you all of the college advice I wish every girl heard before freshman year. We’re talking about making friends, finding your people, dating in college, hookup culture, partying safely, relationships, breakups, mental health, ADHD, confidence, and learning how to actually take care of yourself when you’re finally on your own.I also want to talk about something I think gets forgotten in all the excitement around college: you do not have to lose yourself just because everyone around you is changing.You don’t have to participate in hookup culture because everyone else is. You don’t have to party every night to have the “college experience.” You don’t have to stay friends with people who make you feel lonely. And you definitely don’t have to lower your standards just because dating in college can feel like the Wild West. College is supposed to be a time where you figure out who YOU are — not a four-year audition to get everyone around you to like you.So whether you’re an incoming freshman, already in college, or just entering a new chapter of independence, I hope this episode feels like having an older sister sitting down and telling you everything you actually need to know. Welcome to your college era, girlie. Let’s make it a good one. SUBMISSIONS- ⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe4SUs6-mRnrR17Pr1P4rXSzKRHZzmBgK0QXQwMYwxRwO3EPg/viewform?usp=dialog⁠SHOP MY SWIMWEAR COLLECTION- ⁠⁠https://mysecretswim.com/⁠⁠ STREAM MY SONG "UNDERCOVER-⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/track/7ylgLLPbyYy6Xe1nYFr8b0?si=780b1d9d21c14d2b⁠⁠