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Why do so many women work harder… and still end up underpaid?In this episode, Betsy sits down with Bhavana Smith, founder of Until There Are Nine, to talk about negotiation, self-advocacy, promotions, and the quiet ways women are taught to stay grateful instead of ask for more. Bhavana shares the personal experience that changed everything for her — a job conversation that led to an almost 70% increase in salary and sparked the mission behind her work helping women advocate for the pay and recognition they’ve earned.She explains why the gender pay gap is not always about one big obvious moment, but often a pattern: women not negotiating, not understanding pay ranges, not speaking up early enough, or assuming good work will naturally lead to better compensation. Betsy and Bhavana also unpack the role managers play, why timing matters more than people realize, and how visibility across an organization impacts promotions and raises.You’ll LearnWhy women often advocate well for everyone except themselves How timing and company context can make or break the conversation Why raises and promotions are often decided before review season How to build visibility without feeling like you’re braggingWhy companies need clearer compensation strategy and transparencyHow to make a fact-based case for more money and growthLinksUntil There Are NineLoud & Lifted Podcast

Overview : This is your Quick Lift recap of the conversation with Dr. Amy Diehl—focused on glass walls: the hidden barriers that block women’s access to opportunity, influence, and leadership in ways that aren’t always obvious (until you’re the one hitting them).We cover the six gender bias barriers from Glass Walls—from “default male privilege” and constrained expectations, to the more overt stuff like hostility—plus what leaders and allies can do to actually change the environment.We cover:The 6 bias barriers and how they show up in real workplace momentsWhy “insufficient support” is a system problem (not a personal flaw)How devaluation and hostility can quietly shape promotion pathsWhat to do as a leader: language, processes, and accountability movesAction steps:Leaders: In your next talent discussion, ask: “What evidence are we using—would we say this the same way about a man?”Allies: If she’s not in the room, be the one who names the miss (“We’re holding her to a different standard.”).Women: Track patterns (credit, feedback, access) and bring data + a clear ask to your manager.Resources:Purchase Glass Walls Amy Diehl’s website + tools

You can be the best in the world at something… and still battle self-doubt, comparison, and “do I belong here?” thoughts. In this under-10-minute Quick Lift, We are breaking down the most actionable lessons from Olympic gold medalist Charlotte Worthington—so you can use them in your next big meeting, pitch, or hard conversation.In this Quick Lift, you’ll take away:A 10-second pressure reset you can use before high-stakes momentsA simple way to “rehearse” your mindset so you’re not surprised by anxious thoughtsA process-over-outcome focus to stay present and performA reframe for comparison that builds confidence and community: swap comparison for admirationFollow Loud & Lifted for more confidence tools, career growth for women, and real conversations about women in leadership.Follow Charlotte!

Ever notice how the higher you achieve, the louder the expectations get? Olympic gold medalist Charlotte Worthington gets it—because she’s lived it in the most high-stakes arena possible.In this episode, Charlotte shares how she built mental toughness in a sport that’s equal parts fearless and strategic, why confidence is a practice (not a personality trait), and the simple mindset shift that changed everything for her: swap comparison for admiration.You’ll hear about:How Charlotte went from new BMX rider to Olympic track fast (without “waiting until she was ready”)The tools she uses to stay calm under pressure: breathing + visualization + thought rehearsalWhy “I have to be the best in the room” is a trap (and what to do instead)Individual sport vs. team energy—and how she learned to drop ego and embrace supportThe confidence reframe every woman in leadership needs: comparison → admirationLinks / ResourcesFollow Charlotte on Instagram: @ChazWertherBook mentioned: Ego Is the Enemy by Ryan HolidayLoud & Lifted Links

Episode OverviewThis quick recap pulls the most actionable ideas from my conversation with Dr. Alison Fragale, author of Likeable Badass—so you can earn more respect (status), influence outcomes, and still feel like yourself doing it.Be warm → get overlooked.Be strong → get judged. Show confidence → get questioned. …So let’s fix the game instead of blaming you.SummaryIn this Quick Lift, we break down Alison’s core concept: people make fast judgments about you based on warmth and competence. When you intentionally signal both, you build status—and status becomes influence. The best part? The move is usually adding clarity and confidence, not subtracting kindness.Key TakeawaysStatus is built (not granted): Warmth + Competence → Respect → InfluencePower vs. status: A title can give power, but respect creates leverage“Too nice” isn’t a personality problem: it’s usually a signal problem (they’re not seeing enough competence/confidence)Self-promotion without backlash: Brag + Thank (claim impact + share credit)Tough conversations land better when you think in a relationship timeline: past + present + future signalsQuick Lift Moves (try these this week)Pick one signal to turn up:Warmth: give public credit, a real check-in, a specific complimentCompetence: crisp POV, decisive language, bring the solutionUse this sentence starter in meetings:“My recommendation is ___, because ___.”Try Brag + Thank once (email, meeting, weekly update, LinkedIn):“I’m proud of . Huge thanks to for __.”Links & ResourcesAlison's site: https://www.alisonfragale.com/ Alison's Instagram: @alisonfragale Buy Likeable Badass: https://amzn.to/4628vSU Loud & Lifted Podcast: https://www.loudandliftedpodcast.com/ Sign up for L&L newsletter: https://loud-lifted.kit.com/profile/links

Women in leadership often get stuck in the likability vs. competence double bind—and it can stall career growth for women even when performance is strong. In this episode, organizational psychologist Dr. Alison Fragale shares the “Likeable Badass” approach to build leadership confidence, strengthen executive presence, and increase influence at work—without shrinking, over-explaining, or apologizing for being direct.If you’ve ever softened your message, over-explained, or held back from advocating for yourself because you didn’t want to be “that person”… this episode is for you. Alison breaks down why the likability-competence tradeoff shows up so often for women, and the practical shifts that help you build influence without contorting yourself into someone else’s comfort zone.TakeawaysStop aiming to be liked. Aim to be respected and trusted—there’s a difference, and it changes your results.Status isn’t about ego. It’s how your value becomes visible (and rewarded).Warmth without strength gets you overlooked. Strength without warmth can trigger backlash. The goal is both.Self-advocacy doesn’t need to feel salesy—it needs to be clear, specific, and connected to outcomes.Use cleaner language. Less apologizing, fewer “justs,” and no pre-defending your point before you make it.Links & ResourcesDr. Alison Fragale Likeable Badass (book)Follow Alison on InstagramLoud & Lifted Podcast: https://www.loudandliftedpodcast.com/ Sign up for L&L newsletter: https://loud-lifted.kit.com/profile/linksGuest BioDr. Alison Fragale is an organizational psychologist, professor at the University of North Carolina Kenan-Flagler Business School, and bestselling author of Likeable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve. Her academic research on status, power, negotiation, and influence have been published in her field’s top academic journals as well as national media outlets, including The Wall Street Journal and The New York Times. She is a sought-after keynote speaker who uses behavioral science to help individuals, especially women, excel. Prior to her academic career, Alison worked as a consultant for McKinsey and Company, Inc.She holds a B.A. in Mathematics and Economics from Dartmouth College and a Ph.D. in Organizational Behavior from the Stanford University Graduate School of Business.

Micromanagers, Narcissists, and Bullies — and how to protect your peace without losing your edge.Have you ever worked for someone who monitors you like a toddler near an open staircase? You don’t get bonus points for suffering quietly.In this Loud & Lifted: Quick Lift, Betsy recaps insights from "The Management Guru" Lynda Harvey to give you a playbook for the three most draining leadership personalities. We break down exactly how to spot them and the specific, repeatable moves you can use this week to protect your confidence.In this episode, we cover:The Micromanager: Distinguishing between "trust issues" vs. "power trips"—and the "Train Your Boss" method to stop the hovering before it starts.The Narcissist: Why you can't win by confronting them, and how to use the "Gray Rock" method to disappear from their drama radar.The Bully: The difference between tough leadership and abuse, and how to "document like a detective" to protect your career record.Key Takeaway: If leadership protects the bully, that’s the culture. Learn when to stay and fight, and when to protect your next move.

Bad bosses don’t just ruin your day—they can destroy your confidence and make you question your sanity.If you’re dealing with a toxic work environment, a micromanaging boss, or constant gaslighting, this episode is your survival guide.We are joined by Lynda Harvey (aka the Management Guru) to break down the three most common toxic manager types: the Micromanager, the Narcissist, and the Bully. We share the exact scripts and strategies you need to "train your boss," protect your peace with the Gray Rock method, and know exactly when it’s time to exit.In this episode, you’ll learn:The 3 Toxic Archetypes: How to spot toxic boss behavior before it breaks you.The "Train Your Boss" Technique: Proactive steps to stop a micromanaging boss in their tracks (like calling them before they call you).Narcissist Neutralization: Using the "Gray Rock" theory to handle gaslighting, lack of accountability, and credit-stealingDocument or Depart: The "detective" method for handling workplace bullying and when to go to HR (or the EEOC).Chapters01:04 Meet Lynda Harvey (Management Guru)03:28 The micromanager that broke the system6:29 Why she started training managers8:06 The 3 toxic boss types8:24 The real problem: managers aren’t trained9:08 How bad managers get created10:15 Micromanagers: control + mistrust12:38 Two micromanagers (including the “necessary evil”)13:51 How to manage a micromanager (observe + get ahead)15:35 If they don’t change: your decision point17:21 Narcissistic bosses (men + women)18:15 Narcissist patterns: blame, gaslight, control19:33 When you outshine them: isolation + stolen credit23:16 Gray rock: stay boring, stay safe24:31 Documentation that protects you26:51 Script your responses (3 options)28:17 Bully bosses: what counts (and why it’s messy)30:03 Document like a detective (proof matters)31:47 Direct conversation vs. escalation34:07 Escalate: HR, EEOC, and exit plan35:00 The big takeaway (and what to do next)35:54 Managing high performers37:31 One-size leadership doesn’t workAbout the Guest: Lynda Harvey teaches leaders and employees how to speak fluent corporate and navigate toxic work culture without losing their edge.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lynda.leads/?hl=enTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lynda.leadsLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lyndaharvey01/Stay Connected with Loud & Lifted:Website: https://www.loudandliftedpodcast.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loudandliftedpodcast/Sign up for email: https://loud-lifted.kit.com/402d3a8d4a

High-performing women are wired to fix things fast. But when something isn’t working, we often default to: “It’s me. I need to try harder.”In this Quick Lift, we are breaking down three takeaways from the conversation with Kehla G that will help you step back, quiet the noise, and make decisions that feel clear—not chaotic.Quick Lift Takeaways: ■ Orientation: Step back and look at the whole ecosystem before you “fix” anything ■ Coherence: The answer is often subtraction—simplify the sequence and reconnect the system ■ Intuition + Precision: Intuition needs space; precision keeps it clean (“do less, say less”)Try this this week:Orientation Reset (2 min): What am I assuming? What else could be true?Subtraction Challenge: Remove one layer (meeting, platform, project, over-explaining)48-hour Quiet the Noise Experiment: Unfollow, unsubscribe, remove an app, or stop doom scrollingLinksFull episode with Kehla G More about Kehla GLoud & Lifted newsletter sign up

Kehla G joins us for a real-talk conversation on what it looks like to lead (and build) when the pressure is real—without spiraling into more hustle, more noise, and more “I must not be enough.”We talk about orientation (where you’re standing when you try to solve a problem), why the solution is often taking things away, and how to reconnect with your intuition by clearing the mental and digital clutter.Kehla also breaks down Human Design + Gene Keys in a way that actually makes sense for corporate women who already know tools like DISC and StrengthsFinder—and want a deeper, steadier kind of self-trust.You’ll Learn / We Cover■ Why “trust your gut” isn’t helpful without space to actually hear it■ How to quiet outside noise (and the internal noise you’ve learned to live with)■ What coherence really feels like—and how to know when you’re not in it■ Precision as a power move: doing less, saying less, choosing smarter■ A practical way to make decisions that feel like you (not chaotic, not forced)■ Why success (and survival) isn’t one-dimensional—and how a holistic lens helps leadersLinksKehla G websiteKehla G InstagramFree gift! Your Business ReorientedPrevious podcast mentioned: Beyond Personality Test: The Power of Human Design and TeamsLoud & Lifted InstagramSign up for the Loud & Lifted Newsletter

You’ve heard of glass ceilings—but what if the bigger career blocker is glass walls? In this conversation, researcher and author Dr. Amy Diehl explains why women often don’t just hit barriers at the top… they hit invisible walls every direction they turn—blocking access to roles, relationships, and real influence.Amy breaks down the six glass walls from her book Glass Walls and shares practical ways leaders, allies, and women can respond—without pretending bias is “all in your head.”In this episode, you’ll learn:Why glass walls can be more limiting than glass ceilings (and why they’re harder to spot)The 6 glass walls that make up workplace gender bias:Male privilegeDisproportionate constraintsInsufficient supportDevaluationHostilityAcquiescenceWhat “he-peating” is (and how allies can interrupt it in real time)How women get trapped in the “too confident vs. not confident enough” double bindWhy women get disproportionately stuck doing “office housework” (and what leaders should change)The “Flip it to test it” bias check you can use immediatelyHow to depersonalize bias, build support, and keep options on the table so you’re never stuckLinks & Resources:Amy Diehl websiteBook: Glass WallsFollow / Connect:Follow: Amy DiehlFollow: Loud & Lifted

In this solo episode,we are looking back at Season 1 of Loud & Lifted and pulling out the big themes that kept showing up in every conversation with women in leadership — from founders and executives to small business owners. Think of this as your 2025 rewind: what actually matters if you want to grow your career, expand your impact, and stop playing small?This episode walks through the patterns we saw across the season and connect the dots into a simple, usable roadmap you can take into the next year. No fluff, no clichés — just real talk, honest stories, and practical moves you can actually try this week.We’ll dig into:Confidence on purpose – how the women this season built it, not “found” itGrowth doesn’t happen in your comfort zone – and what it really takes to step outYour personal brand is already talking - you need to decide what it’s sayingBeing intentional about exposure – getting in the right rooms, with the right peopleCommunity, support, and sponsors – why you cannot do big things aloneIf you’ve missed episodes, this is your shortcut. If you’ve listened to them all, this is your playbook for applying what you heard so you can become more visible, more confident, and more in control of your next move.

Replay tough conversations on a loop in your head? In this under-10-minute Quick Lift, Betsy Hamm recaps communication expert Sarita Maybin’s simple scripts for saying the hard thing without being the office villain. You’ll learn how to use Sarita’s AIR framework (Awareness, Impact, Request), swap blamey “you” statements for confident “I/we” language, and upgrade one everyday line like “I noticed…” / “I’m wondering…” so you sound clear, not cruel.Perfect for women in leadership who want more confidence, stronger executive presence, and fewer 3 a.m. “I wish I’d said that differently” replays.

Communication expert Sarita Maybin shows women in leadership how to deliver tough truths with tact—without damaging trust. We unpack her simple AIR framework (Awareness, Impact, Request), share credibility-saving phrasing, and quick rules for high-tech communication. ). If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t want to sound harsh,” or “I’m tired of being walked on,” this one’s for you. This episode is packed with tips growing your leadership confidence, navigating conflict, or building executive presence, this episode is your new playbook.You’ll learn:AIR: a 3-step script for hard conversations“We/ I” language swaps that sound firm—never harshThe top 10 positive communication phrases (with starters like “Would you be open to…?”)Listening under pressure: “How do you mean?” and other curiosity promptsEmail kindness checks (please/thank you), when to move tough topics off email, and how to follow up in writing

Episode OverviewOn this female leadership podcast mini, we distill Katherine Naylor Pullman’s playbook for women supporting women into quick, actionable moves. Learn how to take educated risks without the “resume jumper” stigma, transform performative networking into friendship-first community, and use a weekly coffee-chat habit to future-proof your career. We cover mentorship that multiplies (“I’ll work for you one day”), how to separate feedback from criticism, and why asking for help is a leadership skill—especially while balancing motherhood and career. If you’re focused on career growth for women and building belonging that lasts, this Quick Lift is your 10-minute momentum boost.Highlights: Brave, Non-Linear Careers & “Educated Risks”Mentorship That Multiplies: “I’ll Work for You One Day” Belonging > Networking: The Power of Third Places Ask for Help & Ditch the Superwoman Script

Join us for an inspiring conversation with Katherine Naylor Pullman as she shares her insights on bold career moves and the power of mentorship among women. In this empowering episode, we explore how women can uplift each other in the workplace, break barriers, and achieve their professional dreams. Katherine discusses her own journey, the challenges she faced, and the mentors who helped shape her path. Discover practical tips on finding a mentor, becoming one, and navigating your career with confidence. Whether you're just starting out or looking to make a significant change, this video is packed with valuable advice and encouragement for women everywhere. Don't miss this opportunity to learn from a leader dedicated to helping women thrive! Subscribe for more inspiring stories and career advice! #WomenHelpingWomen #Mentorship #CareerAdvice #KatherineNaylorPullmanHighlightsNonlinear careers: making confident, educated jumpsMentorship that multiplies (and why it matters in your 20s)Friendship-powered networking vs. performative eventsFeedback > criticism: how to tell the differenceWeekly coffee chats as your career “getaway car”Balancing motherhood and career with a real-life support tribe

On this women in leadership Quick Lift, career strategist Sonja Price shows how to reinvent without “starting over,” build a market-savvy career roadmap, and lead through change with courage and executive presence. You’ll learn fast frameworks to translate transferable skills across industries, a 15-minute career roadmap sprint, a 10-breath reset to steady the room, and a visibility checklist so decision-makers notice your results. Perfect for female leaders ready to level up performance, image, and exposure—without losing their authenticity.

Episode OverviewWomen in leadership are navigating constant change—and thriving when they treat it like a wave to surf, not a storm to fear. In this female leadership podcast episode, career strategist Sonja Price shows how to reinvent without starting over, build a career roadmap, and lead through uncertainty with courage, nervous-system tools, and executive presence. We reframe “job-hopping” as upward, strategic movement, and dig into how to stabilize yourself (and your team) when the ground keeps shifting.What we coverAuthentic Reinvention: Translate your full toolkit across roles/industries—no reset required.Career Roadmap + Market Reality: Align passion with real opportunities (who’s hiring, what they pay, lifestyle fit).Strategic Mobility: Turn “job-hopper” fears into a narrative of momentum and value creation.Leading Through Change: Courage + authenticity; shift from victim → visionary. Use breathwork and brief resets to regulate your nervous system so you can surf the wave instead of wiping out.Visibility that Pays: Perform at the next level now—and make sure decision-makers see it.Outcomes you’ll leave withA simple, start-today career roadmap.Language to translate transferable skills.A change toolkit: 10-breath reset, meeting openers to calm a room, and a reframe audit for tough transitions.A quick visibility checklist to get sponsors noticing wins

Episode Overview In under 10 minutes, we turn Melanie Lippman’s image strategy into action you can use before your next meeting. You’ll learn how to build a brand-first wardrobe (not trend-first), use color to create connection, pass the Zoom 10-second check, codify your Style Code to kill decision fatigue, and show up as the most authentic, magnetic version of you—IRL and on camera. This is executive presence from closet to conference room: simple systems, repeatable confidence, and an outfit that reads “leader” before you say a word.

On this podcast episode, Image Strategist Melanie Lippman helps women in leadership build executive presence and a memorable personal brand—without dressing like everyone else. She introduces her Style Code framework, shows why color creates connection (and all-black can build walls), and explains how to swap “corporate armor” for credibility, warmth, and authenticity—on camera and in real life. This episode is perfect for leaders who want practical, repeatable outfit formulas that align with their brand. If you are a woman that cares about personal branding, executive presence, and practical career growth, this one’s your new uniform.You’ll LearnHow to define your brand words and make every outfit a brand-first decisionThe Style Code framework (your quick path to repeatable outfit formulas)Why color builds connection—and when all-black sends the wrong signalFast Zoom rules: frame, neckline, texture, and light that flatter on cameraHow to swap corporate armor for credibility + approachabilityThe mindset shift: clothes as a leadership tool, not a costume