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Episode OverviewThis quick recap pulls the most actionable ideas from my conversation with Dr. Alison Fragale, author of Likeable Badass—so you can earn more respect (status), influence outcomes, and still feel like yourself doing it.Be warm → get overlooked.Be strong → get judged. Show confidence → get questioned. …So let’s fix the game instead of blaming you.SummaryIn this Quick Lift, we break down Alison’s core concept: people make fast judgments about you based on warmth and competence. When you intentionally signal both, you build status—and status becomes influence. The best part? The move is usually adding clarity and confidence, not subtracting kindness.Key TakeawaysStatus is built (not granted): Warmth + Competence → Respect → InfluencePower vs. status: A title can give power, but respect creates leverage“Too nice” isn’t a personality problem: it’s usually a signal problem (they’re not seeing enough competence/confidence)Self-promotion without backlash: Brag + Thank (claim impact + share credit)Tough conversations land better when you think in a relationship timeline: past + present + future signalsQuick Lift Moves (try these this week)Pick one signal to turn up:Warmth: give public credit, a real check-in, a specific complimentCompetence: crisp POV, decisive language, bring the solutionUse this sentence starter in meetings:“My recommendation is ___, because ___.”Try Brag + Thank once (email, meeting, weekly update, LinkedIn):“I’m proud of . Huge thanks to for __.”Links & ResourcesAlison's site: https://www.alisonfragale.com/ Alison's Instagram: @alisonfragale Buy Likeable Badass: https://amzn.to/4628vSU Loud & Lifted Podcast: https://www.loudandliftedpodcast.com/ Sign up for L&L newsletter: https://loud-lifted.kit.com/profile/links

Women in leadership often get stuck in the likability vs. competence double bind—and it can stall career growth for women even when performance is strong. In this episode, organizational psychologist Dr. Alison Fragale shares the “Likeable Badass” approach to build leadership confidence, strengthen executive presence, and increase influence at work—without shrinking, over-explaining, or apologizing for being direct.If you’ve ever softened your message, over-explained, or held back from advocating for yourself because you didn’t want to be “that person”… this episode is for you. Alison breaks down why the likability-competence tradeoff shows up so often for women, and the practical shifts that help you build influence without contorting yourself into someone else’s comfort zone.TakeawaysStop aiming to be liked. Aim to be respected and trusted—there’s a difference, and it changes your results.Status isn’t about ego. It’s how your value becomes visible (and rewarded).Warmth without strength gets you overlooked. Strength without warmth can trigger backlash. The goal is both.Self-advocacy doesn’t need to feel salesy—it needs to be clear, specific, and connected to outcomes.Use cleaner language. Less apologizing, fewer “justs,” and no pre-defending your point before you make it.Links & ResourcesDr. Alison Fragale Likeable Badass (book)Follow Alison on InstagramLoud & Lifted Podcast: https://www.loudandliftedpodcast.com/ Sign up for L&L newsletter: https://loud-lifted.kit.com/profile/linksGuest BioDr. Alison Fragale is an organizational psychologist, professor at the University of North Carolina Kenan-Flagler Business School, and bestselling author of Likeable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve. Her academic research on status, power, negotiation, and influence have been published in her field’s top academic journals as well as national media outlets, including The Wall Street Journal and The New York Times. She is a sought-after keynote speaker who uses behavioral science to help individuals, especially women, excel. Prior to her academic career, Alison worked as a consultant for McKinsey and Company, Inc.She holds a B.A. in Mathematics and Economics from Dartmouth College and a Ph.D. in Organizational Behavior from the Stanford University Graduate School of Business.

Micromanagers, Narcissists, and Bullies — and how to protect your peace without losing your edge.Have you ever worked for someone who monitors you like a toddler near an open staircase? You don’t get bonus points for suffering quietly.In this Loud & Lifted: Quick Lift, Betsy recaps insights from "The Management Guru" Lynda Harvey to give you a playbook for the three most draining leadership personalities. We break down exactly how to spot them and the specific, repeatable moves you can use this week to protect your confidence.In this episode, we cover:The Micromanager: Distinguishing between "trust issues" vs. "power trips"—and the "Train Your Boss" method to stop the hovering before it starts.The Narcissist: Why you can't win by confronting them, and how to use the "Gray Rock" method to disappear from their drama radar.The Bully: The difference between tough leadership and abuse, and how to "document like a detective" to protect your career record.Key Takeaway: If leadership protects the bully, that’s the culture. Learn when to stay and fight, and when to protect your next move.

Bad bosses don’t just ruin your day—they can destroy your confidence and make you question your sanity.If you’re dealing with a toxic work environment, a micromanaging boss, or constant gaslighting, this episode is your survival guide.We are joined by Lynda Harvey (aka the Management Guru) to break down the three most common toxic manager types: the Micromanager, the Narcissist, and the Bully. We share the exact scripts and strategies you need to "train your boss," protect your peace with the Gray Rock method, and know exactly when it’s time to exit.In this episode, you’ll learn:The 3 Toxic Archetypes: How to spot toxic boss behavior before it breaks you.The "Train Your Boss" Technique: Proactive steps to stop a micromanaging boss in their tracks (like calling them before they call you).Narcissist Neutralization: Using the "Gray Rock" theory to handle gaslighting, lack of accountability, and credit-stealingDocument or Depart: The "detective" method for handling workplace bullying and when to go to HR (or the EEOC).Chapters01:04 Meet Lynda Harvey (Management Guru)03:28 The micromanager that broke the system6:29 Why she started training managers8:06 The 3 toxic boss types8:24 The real problem: managers aren’t trained9:08 How bad managers get created10:15 Micromanagers: control + mistrust12:38 Two micromanagers (including the “necessary evil”)13:51 How to manage a micromanager (observe + get ahead)15:35 If they don’t change: your decision point17:21 Narcissistic bosses (men + women)18:15 Narcissist patterns: blame, gaslight, control19:33 When you outshine them: isolation + stolen credit23:16 Gray rock: stay boring, stay safe24:31 Documentation that protects you26:51 Script your responses (3 options)28:17 Bully bosses: what counts (and why it’s messy)30:03 Document like a detective (proof matters)31:47 Direct conversation vs. escalation34:07 Escalate: HR, EEOC, and exit plan35:00 The big takeaway (and what to do next)35:54 Managing high performers37:31 One-size leadership doesn’t workAbout the Guest: Lynda Harvey teaches leaders and employees how to speak fluent corporate and navigate toxic work culture without losing their edge.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lynda.leads/?hl=enTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lynda.leadsLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lyndaharvey01/Stay Connected with Loud & Lifted:Website: https://www.loudandliftedpodcast.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loudandliftedpodcast/Sign up for email: https://loud-lifted.kit.com/402d3a8d4a

In this solo episode,we are looking back at Season 1 of Loud & Lifted and pulling out the big themes that kept showing up in every conversation with women in leadership — from founders and executives to small business owners. Think of this as your 2025 rewind: what actually matters if you want to grow your career, expand your impact, and stop playing small?This episode walks through the patterns we saw across the season and connect the dots into a simple, usable roadmap you can take into the next year. No fluff, no clichés — just real talk, honest stories, and practical moves you can actually try this week.We’ll dig into:Confidence on purpose – how the women this season built it, not “found” itGrowth doesn’t happen in your comfort zone – and what it really takes to step outYour personal brand is already talking - you need to decide what it’s sayingBeing intentional about exposure – getting in the right rooms, with the right peopleCommunity, support, and sponsors – why you cannot do big things aloneIf you’ve missed episodes, this is your shortcut. If you’ve listened to them all, this is your playbook for applying what you heard so you can become more visible, more confident, and more in control of your next move.

Replay tough conversations on a loop in your head? In this under-10-minute Quick Lift, Betsy Hamm recaps communication expert Sarita Maybin’s simple scripts for saying the hard thing without being the office villain. You’ll learn how to use Sarita’s AIR framework (Awareness, Impact, Request), swap blamey “you” statements for confident “I/we” language, and upgrade one everyday line like “I noticed…” / “I’m wondering…” so you sound clear, not cruel.Perfect for women in leadership who want more confidence, stronger executive presence, and fewer 3 a.m. “I wish I’d said that differently” replays.

Communication expert Sarita Maybin shows women in leadership how to deliver tough truths with tact—without damaging trust. We unpack her simple AIR framework (Awareness, Impact, Request), share credibility-saving phrasing, and quick rules for high-tech communication. ). If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t want to sound harsh,” or “I’m tired of being walked on,” this one’s for you. This episode is packed with tips growing your leadership confidence, navigating conflict, or building executive presence, this episode is your new playbook.You’ll learn:AIR: a 3-step script for hard conversations“We/ I” language swaps that sound firm—never harshThe top 10 positive communication phrases (with starters like “Would you be open to…?”)Listening under pressure: “How do you mean?” and other curiosity promptsEmail kindness checks (please/thank you), when to move tough topics off email, and how to follow up in writing

Episode OverviewOn this female leadership podcast mini, we distill Katherine Naylor Pullman’s playbook for women supporting women into quick, actionable moves. Learn how to take educated risks without the “resume jumper” stigma, transform performative networking into friendship-first community, and use a weekly coffee-chat habit to future-proof your career. We cover mentorship that multiplies (“I’ll work for you one day”), how to separate feedback from criticism, and why asking for help is a leadership skill—especially while balancing motherhood and career. If you’re focused on career growth for women and building belonging that lasts, this Quick Lift is your 10-minute momentum boost.Highlights: Brave, Non-Linear Careers & “Educated Risks”Mentorship That Multiplies: “I’ll Work for You One Day” Belonging > Networking: The Power of Third Places Ask for Help & Ditch the Superwoman Script

Join us for an inspiring conversation with Katherine Naylor Pullman as she shares her insights on bold career moves and the power of mentorship among women. In this empowering episode, we explore how women can uplift each other in the workplace, break barriers, and achieve their professional dreams. Katherine discusses her own journey, the challenges she faced, and the mentors who helped shape her path. Discover practical tips on finding a mentor, becoming one, and navigating your career with confidence. Whether you're just starting out or looking to make a significant change, this video is packed with valuable advice and encouragement for women everywhere. Don't miss this opportunity to learn from a leader dedicated to helping women thrive! Subscribe for more inspiring stories and career advice! #WomenHelpingWomen #Mentorship #CareerAdvice #KatherineNaylorPullmanHighlightsNonlinear careers: making confident, educated jumpsMentorship that multiplies (and why it matters in your 20s)Friendship-powered networking vs. performative eventsFeedback > criticism: how to tell the differenceWeekly coffee chats as your career “getaway car”Balancing motherhood and career with a real-life support tribe

On this women in leadership Quick Lift, career strategist Sonja Price shows how to reinvent without “starting over,” build a market-savvy career roadmap, and lead through change with courage and executive presence. You’ll learn fast frameworks to translate transferable skills across industries, a 15-minute career roadmap sprint, a 10-breath reset to steady the room, and a visibility checklist so decision-makers notice your results. Perfect for female leaders ready to level up performance, image, and exposure—without losing their authenticity.

Episode OverviewWomen in leadership are navigating constant change—and thriving when they treat it like a wave to surf, not a storm to fear. In this female leadership podcast episode, career strategist Sonja Price shows how to reinvent without starting over, build a career roadmap, and lead through uncertainty with courage, nervous-system tools, and executive presence. We reframe “job-hopping” as upward, strategic movement, and dig into how to stabilize yourself (and your team) when the ground keeps shifting.What we coverAuthentic Reinvention: Translate your full toolkit across roles/industries—no reset required.Career Roadmap + Market Reality: Align passion with real opportunities (who’s hiring, what they pay, lifestyle fit).Strategic Mobility: Turn “job-hopper” fears into a narrative of momentum and value creation.Leading Through Change: Courage + authenticity; shift from victim → visionary. Use breathwork and brief resets to regulate your nervous system so you can surf the wave instead of wiping out.Visibility that Pays: Perform at the next level now—and make sure decision-makers see it.Outcomes you’ll leave withA simple, start-today career roadmap.Language to translate transferable skills.A change toolkit: 10-breath reset, meeting openers to calm a room, and a reframe audit for tough transitions.A quick visibility checklist to get sponsors noticing wins

Episode Overview In under 10 minutes, we turn Melanie Lippman’s image strategy into action you can use before your next meeting. You’ll learn how to build a brand-first wardrobe (not trend-first), use color to create connection, pass the Zoom 10-second check, codify your Style Code to kill decision fatigue, and show up as the most authentic, magnetic version of you—IRL and on camera. This is executive presence from closet to conference room: simple systems, repeatable confidence, and an outfit that reads “leader” before you say a word.

On this podcast episode, Image Strategist Melanie Lippman helps women in leadership build executive presence and a memorable personal brand—without dressing like everyone else. She introduces her Style Code framework, shows why color creates connection (and all-black can build walls), and explains how to swap “corporate armor” for credibility, warmth, and authenticity—on camera and in real life. This episode is perfect for leaders who want practical, repeatable outfit formulas that align with their brand. If you are a woman that cares about personal branding, executive presence, and practical career growth, this one’s your new uniform.You’ll LearnHow to define your brand words and make every outfit a brand-first decisionThe Style Code framework (your quick path to repeatable outfit formulas)Why color builds connection—and when all-black sends the wrong signalFast Zoom rules: frame, neckline, texture, and light that flatter on cameraHow to swap corporate armor for credibility + approachabilityThe mindset shift: clothes as a leadership tool, not a costume

In under 10 minutes, we pull the most actionable moves from Mita Mallick’s The Devil Emails at Midnight—so you can navigate bad-boss dynamics and sharpen your own leadership in the process. We cover the core lever of self-awareness (and one habit to fix now), how to shut down disrespect in real time, why you can’t outwork a bully (but you can out-plan one), and the exact re-engagement script for a checked-out teammate. You’ll leave with a simple framework: document and get allies, decide your path (escalate, transfer, or exit), set an expiration date if you’re stuck, and rebuild confidence outside of work. No drama—just scripts, choices, and leadership that protects your peace while raising the bar.

On this female leadership podcast episode of Loud & Lifted, Betsy sits down with author and marketing exec Mita Mallick to unpack her book The Devil Emails at Midnight—a candid look at 13 bad-boss archetypes and the moment she realized she’d been one, too. Mita challenges every current and aspiring leader to avoid these pitfalls and rewrite their leadership playbook. We’ll explore why setting communication boundaries matters, how to spot “bad boss” tendencies in ourselves, and how good leadership can literally change lives.This conversation is equal parts eye-opening and action-oriented—perfect for anyone determined to lead with purpose and keep the “devil” from showing up in their own inbox.Listeners will learn:How to identify common “bad boss” patterns—and quick resets to course-correct.A simple self-audit to build self-awareness and prevent toxic habits.Scripts for tough conversations (managing up, coaching peers, and setting boundaries)..Practical ways to create psychological safety and champion sticking up for yourself or those around you.

In this Quick Lift for our female leadership podcast, Betsy recaps Patty Sibbach and Kathy Anderson-Martin’s “Triple Threat” approach for women in leadership: be authentic, stay active, and lead with an ageless mindset. From clarifying what truly matters to building sustainable wellness habits, Patty and Kathy show how women supporting women can fuel leadership confidence and real career momentum in the second half of life. You’ll hear how investing in health, focusing on priorities, and leading with intention can transform your next chapter—at work and at home.Listeners will learn:Why authenticity falters when mind, body, and spirit are on empty—and how to refuel with simple habits.How to “major on the majors,” give yourself grace, and stop sweating the small stuff.Practical wellness routines and a fresh perspective on aging that make every birthday worth celebrating—and every week more impactful.

In this high-energy conversation, Betsy welcomes powerhouse duo Patty Sibbach and Kathy Anderson-Martin—two leaders who have turned decades of corporate leadership, health and wellness expertise, and real-life grit into a message every woman needs. Together, they unpack their Triple Threat framework: Authentic, Active, Ageless. Listeners will discover how to embrace the real you, stay energized in body and purpose, and rewrite the rules of aging. With a blend of laughter, practical advice, and real talk, this episode offers tools to help women lead and live boldly at any stage of life.Key Takeaways:How authenticity creates deeper connections and fearless leadershipSmall, sustainable habits to stay active in mind and bodyMindset shifts that make “ageless” more than a number—it’s a lifestyleWhy embracing all three is the secret to thriving personally and professionallyThis episode is packed with real talk, laughter, and actionable wisdom for anyone ready to thrive—at every age and stage.

In this Quick Lift, Betsy shares highlights from her conversation with leadership coach, podcast host, and author Lyndsay Dowd, who believes in building career security—not just job security—and creating cultures where leaders empower their people instead of micromanaging them.From practical action items you can implement today to timeless reminders about trust, exposure, and recognition, this episode is packed with fuel for leaders and professionals who want to grow their influence and lead with heart.What You’ll Learn in This Quick Lift:Why career security—not job security—is the real safety net for your future.The role of exposure in expanding your influence and opportunities.How trust—not control—is the true currency of great leadership.Why “soft skills” aren’t soft at all—they’re the power skills that set magnetic leaders apart.Whether you’re leading a team, building your brand, or carving out your own career path, Lyndsay’s wisdom and Betsy’s actionable takeaways will help you strengthen your leadership heartbeat—one small step at a time.

What if we stopped chasing job security and started building career security?In this episode of Loud & Lifted, Betsy Hamm sits down with Lyndsay Dowd, award-winning sales leader, culture consultant, and author of Top Down Culture. With her signature “heartbeat for hire” approach, Lyndsay is reshaping how leaders think about trust, exposure, and the true power skills it takes to inspire a team.We dig into:Why your career security depends on building your personal brand—not your title or company.How to cultivate exposure outside of your reporting chain with intentional networking and aspirational connections.Why trust is the real currency of leadership, and how to create space for your team to thrive.The importance of power skills—and why they determine your legacy as a leader.How leaders can celebrate their people, stop micromanaging, and build teams that shine.This is a must-listen for anyone ready to lead with confidence, authenticity, and a culture-first mindset.

In this Quick Lift, Betsy Hamm recaps her conversation with leadership strategist Linda Strange to break down one of the most important career lessons that too often goes unsaid: success isn’t just about performance. It’s about P.I.E.—Performance, Image, and Exposure.We cover why focusing only on your performance can stall your career, and how elevating your image and building exposure are the keys to moving forward. From cultivating executive presence to shaping how others talk about you when you’re not in the room, this recap is packed with actionable advice to help you get intentional about your next move.Whether you’re a young professional just starting out or a seasoned leader looking to level up, this episode is your roadmap to making sure your hard work gets noticed—and rewarded..This is a career strategy you can’t afford to skip.