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This Is Why He Killed Himself
This Is Why He Killed Himself
Author: Jay Alderton
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This Is Why He Killed Himself is a raw, unfiltered podcast that explores the silent struggles of men in their 40s and 50s. From identity loss and divorce to emotional suppression and physical decline.
Hosted by Jay Alderton, each episode exposes the real reasons behind male suicide and what we can do about it.
No fluff. No filters. Just honest talk for the men who look “fine” but feel like they’re falling apart.
This isn’t about death, it’s about giving men a reason to stay.
Hosted by Jay Alderton, each episode exposes the real reasons behind male suicide and what we can do about it.
No fluff. No filters. Just honest talk for the men who look “fine” but feel like they’re falling apart.
This isn’t about death, it’s about giving men a reason to stay.
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We’ve spent nine episodes unpacking the pain men carry.Now it’s time to confront the bigger problem:The world still isn’t built to help men through it.In this final episode, we get brutally honest about:Why awareness campaigns miss the markWhat men actually need (and rarely get)Why the “strong one” is still suffering in silenceAnd how we start building spaces, conversations, and support that actually workMen don’t need another slogan.They need connection, honesty, and real options.If this series made you think, don’t let it end here.Share it. Start something. Be the man who makes it safe for others to stay.This is “This Is Why He Killed Himself.”And this?This is how we start to change the world for men who still feel invisible in it.
When was the last time you went to the doctor… before something broke?In this episode, we explore men's deadly habit of ignoring warning signs physically, mentally, and emotionally, until it’s too late.We cover:Why men wait until crisis to get checkedThe real cost of ignoring “small” symptomsHow strength becomes silenceAnd how asking for help early is the move that keeps you aliveYou’re not soft for getting checked.You’re smart!If this hits you or someone you love, don’t wait.Share it. Talk about it. Book the appointment.This is how we stop losing men to the sh*t they thought they could push through.
He seemed fine.No signs. No breakdown. No drama.And then one day, he was gone.In this episode, we confront the reality of silent suicidality, the kind of pain that hides behind a smile, a routine, a “busy week.”We explore:Why men in deep pain often look “functional”How strength becomes a maskWhat silent despair actually looks likeAnd how one honest sentence can change everythingIf you’ve been quietly fading… this is your sign to speak.If someone you love has gone quiet… this is your sign to reach out.If this moved you, don’t keep it to yourself.Send it. Share it. Say the thing that’s been too hard to say.This is how we save lives, one real word at a time.
There’s a moment in every man’s 40s when his body starts to change, and it hits harder than anyone prepares you for.In this episode, we unpack:The slow, quiet decline of strength, energy, and driveHow physical change chips away at confidence and identityWhy so many men retreat into silence instead of asking for helpAnd how to rebuild power, presence, and purpose, one rep at a timeThis isn’t about six-packs…It’s about not recognising the man in the mirror anymore and choosing to do something about it.If this struck a chord, share it with a man who needs to hear it.This is how we help each other rise, one honest conversation at a time.
What happens when the life you built, marriage, family, identity, suddenly collapses?In this episode, we explore what no one talks about:The quiet devastation of separationThe loss of identity when your role as partner and parent is ripped awayThe silent grief of fatherhood at a distanceAnd the slow, painful question every man asks: “Who am I now?”This isn’t just about divorce.It’s about losing your purpose and how to rebuild it before you disappear.If this hit home, share it with a mate who’s been through it, or is going through it now.This conversation might be the one thing that pulls him back.
When life gets hard, most men don’t open up.They shut down.In this episode, we unpack the coping tools men reach for when the pain feels too much.Alcohol, overwork, scrolling, porn, gambling...Not because they’re weak, but because they were never shown how to heal.We explore:Why numbing feels like relief, but slowly disconnects you from everythingHow survival mode quietly becomes self-destructionWhat healthy coping actually looks likeAnd how to start building tools that help you feel again, without falling apartYou don’t need to burn your life down to change it.You just need to stop running from it.If this hit home, share it with a man who needs to hear it.Because silence around this stuff? That’s what keeps us stuck.
If you’ve ever felt like less of a man because of money…If your self-worth sinks when your bank balance does…If you've ever sat in your car thinking, “What am I even doing this for?”this episode is for you.We explore:The silent shame of financial pressureWhy so many men link their identity to incomeThe hidden cost of tying your worth to your walletAnd how to separate who you are… from what you earnMoney doesn’t just affect your lifestyle. It attacks your sense of self.But you are more than your job title. More than your payslip.And your value was never meant to be measured in digits.If this hit home, share it with a man who needs to hear it.Because silence around this subject?It’s killing good men.
“I don’t really have any close friends anymore.”Not in a dramatic way. Just… quietly true.In this episode, we explore the silent epidemic of male loneliness in midlife and how men in their 40s often find themselves surrounded by people, yet emotionally alone.We cover:Why meaningful friendships fade as life gets busierHow isolation doesn’t look like loneliness—but feels like itWhy so many men struggle to rebuild connectionAnd what it actually takes to create real brotherhood againThis isn’t just about friendship. It’s about survival.Because without connection, we don’t just get lonely, we lose ourselves.If this hit home, share it with a mate who needs to hear it.This is how we stop losing good men in silence.
“Man up.”“Don’t be soft.”“Keep it together.”Most men in their 40s were raised on these phrases. They were meant to toughen us up… but instead, they taught us to shut down.In this episode, we dig into the unwritten rules that shaped how men were taught to handle emotion and why those same rules are now quietly breaking us.We unpack:The price of bottling it all upWhy silence is mistaken for strengthThe shame that keeps men from asking for helpAnd what real strength looks like in today’s worldIf you’ve ever felt like you’re not allowed to struggle, speak, or feel, this one’s for you.You’re not weak. You’re not broken. You’re just unpractised.And that can change.If this resonated, send it to a man who needs to hear it.This is how we rewrite the story, one honest word at a time.
"I feel like I’m being crushed from both sides."Welcome to This Is Why He Killed HimselfA podcast about the silent struggles men face in midlife.In this first episode, we unpack The Pressure Sandwich EffectThe invisible weight that hits men in their 40s when they’re pulled between ageing parents, dependent kids, and careers that no longer fulfil them.We talk about:What it feels like to be the “go-to guy” when no one checks in on youWhy burnout in men hides in plain sightThe quiet grief of success that no longer fitsHow midlife isn’t a crisis, it’s a call to evolveIf you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I’m fine” when you’re clearly not, this one’s for you.You’re not broken.You’re not weak.You’re just carrying too much, for too long, alone.If this resonates, share it with someone who needs to hear it.This is how we change the story, one conversation at a time.




