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Should parents set a curfew for their teens—or is it better to allow for more flexibility? And if setting a curfew, what is the “right” time for teens to be home?  In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron unpack one of the most common questions parents face about raising teenagers: when, why, and how to set curfews.They discuss the benefits of curfews—providing structure, ensuring safety, and helping teens develop responsibility—while also considering the challenges, including power struggles, and the ability for teens to call and text ready to negotiate. The episode also dives into what parents should do when teens repeatedly break curfew, and how to use these moments as opportunities to teach accountability instead of fueling endless confrontations.Together, Dr. Allen and Dr. Caron explore:The crucial elements for raising a teenWhy curfews can support safety and responsibilityHow to make a curfew work for your family and teenBalancing independence with structure as teens growHow to handle repeated curfew-breakingUsing curfews as a tool for communication and care, not controlHere are some highlights from this episode:00:00 – Should Parents Set Curfews for Teens… or Not?03:20 – Building the Foundation of a Healthy Parent–Teen Relationship04:34 – What Curfews Are Really About05:24 – The Key Benefits of Setting Curfews07:41 – Thinking About Curfews as a Helpful Guideline08:48 – When Teens Push Back Against Boundaries10:48 – Do Curfews Actually Work for Every Teen?11:32 – Why Parenting Is Never One-Size-Fits-All12:22 – Practical Tips for Setting a Teen Curfew15:26 – The Importance of Clear Expectations17:07 – Flexibility in Parenting: Loosening or Tightening Limits17:29 – What to Do When Teens Break Curfew21:42 – How to Respond If Curfew Is Broken Repeatedly23:14 – What If Your Teen Refuses to Follow Curfew?26:51 – One Crucial Step to Check Before Setting a CurfewIf you’ve ever questioned whether curfews really work—or worried about how to enforce one without damaging your relationship—this episode will give you practical, research-based strategies to set boundaries while keeping trust and connection strong.👉 Subscribe for more expert parenting insights on raising confident, resilient teens.Follow us on instagram @theparentingpairVisit www.theparentingpair.com to learn more.

Setbacks and tough decisions can feel overwhelming when they affect your child’s or teen’s path—but it’s key to bear in mind: they don’t define their future.In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron discuss how parents can navigate challenges without falling into common traps like catastrophizing or comparing their kids to others.They introduce two powerful concepts—multifinality (different outcomes from the same starting point) and equifinality (different paths leading to similar outcomes)—to help parents reframe setbacks and keep perspective when times feel uncertain. The conversation also highlights why being a steady, supportive presence matters more than rushing in to fix everything.Together, they consider:Why setbacks and struggles don’t dictate your teen’s destinyHow multifinality and equifinality can reframe your perspectiveThe risks of catastrophizing when your teen strugglesWhy comparing your child to others creates unnecessary anxietyThe importance of being steady and present as a parentOne thing you can control during tough parenting seasonsHere are some highlights from the episode:00:00 – Painful Experiences Don’t Define Your Teen’s Future00:56 – Why Setbacks Trigger Anxiety for Parents01:47 – Hopeful Aspect of 2 Key Psychological Concepts01:54 – Understanding Multifinality in Teen Development02:16 – Understanding Equifinality in Teen Development03:46 – Why Parents Jump to Conclusions Too Quickly06:08 – Catastrophizing: A Common Trap When Kids Struggle07:06 – Clarifying Your True Role as a Parent07:36 – Being a Calm Presence While Raising Teens10:49 – Why Comparing Your Teen Creates More Harm Than Good12:23 – Why Development Is Never One-Size-Fits-All14:06 – A Practical Tip for Supporting Your Teen Through Struggles15:18 – The One Thing Parents Can Control in Hard TimesIf you’ve ever felt anxious about your teen’s setbacks or worried about their long-term path, this episode offers practical insights and reassurance to help you parent with confidence and perspective.To learn more about the “thinking traps” mentioned in this episode, click here for our podcast on Three Common Thinking Mistakes Parents Make and What to Do Instead: https://share.transistor.fm/s/3a9b4ec3👉 Subscribe for more expert conversations on raising resilient, confident teens.Follow us on instagram @theparentingpairVisit www.theparentingpair.com to learn more.

Teen depression is a serious matter and understanding the difference between expected mood shifts in adolescence vs. signs of depression is a  challenge that many families face—In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron unpack how parents can identify the signs of depression in teens and tweens, and what steps to take to provide meaningful support.The conversation explores how to distinguish regular ups and downs from more serious struggles using the FID approach, how parents can talk to their children without judgment or pressure, and ways that parents can more strongly encourage getting help while maintaining their relationship. Dr. Allen and Dr. Caron also share practical strategies for behavioral activation, knowing when to seek professional help, and how to balance guidance with giving teens space to express themselves.Together they explore:Key signs that suggest an onset of depression versus expected mood shifts in teens and tweensHow parents can support without overwhelmingConcrete ways to create a safe, steady, and supportive home environmentThe importance of self-care for parents supporting a struggling teenHow to keep communication open and nurturingStrategies for taking a stronger approach to help your teen battle depressionKey highlights from this episode:0:00 – A Key Symptom of Depression02:17 – FID: A Strategy to Recognize Depression in Teens & Tweens05:29 – Understanding Anhedonia07:48 – Why Action Creates Motivation, (not the other way around)08:23 – Behavioral Activation to Combat Depression09:38 – Understanding the Difficulty Behind Depression10:52 – Does this Boost or Drain your Teen? 11:40- Helping Teens Notice Boosts and Drains for Themselves14:00 – Moving Beyond Curiosity- What To Do Now15:00 – Parents’ Key Role 16:42 – Validate Feelings and Encourage Activation (with options)19:04 – Protecting the Parent-Teen Relationship22:41 – Irritability as a Symptom of Depression & the Impact on Parents23:01 – Daily Strategies for Parents’ Self CareIf you’ve ever worried about your teen feeling down, isolated, or depressed, this episode will give you the tools to better understand what’s happening and how to respond with empathy, clarity, and confidence.👉 Subscribe for more expert advice on parenting teens with compassion and resilience.https://www.instagram.com/theparentingpair 🎬. Watch on our YouTube channelhttps://www.youtube.com/@TheParentingPair🌐 Visit https://www.theparentingpair.com to listen and learn more.

Raising a teen on the autism spectrum often means balancing worries, hopes, and the constant pull of “shoulds.”  In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Annalise Caron and Dr. Suzanne Allen sit down with Dr. Lauren Turner Brown, an autism expert, to unpack the pressures of parenting a neurodivergent child, especially the weight of all the “shoulds” parents carry—the belief that our kids should be more independent, should socialize in certain ways, or should want the same things as their peers. Instead, she invites parents to pause, notice whose expectations are at play, and instead lean into what actually suits and supports a teen's unique path.Together, they explore:Why transitions aren’t always what we think they are.How to reframe transitions as opportunities for growth and stability.Why “social success” looks different for every child, and how to honor your teen’s own goals.The power of clear, explicit communication for daily tasks and relationships.How relationships are two-sided, and the adjustments parents and siblings can make to improve connection.The importance of prioritizing life skills alongside academics.Whether your teen is autistic, neurodivergent, or simply facing the ups and downs of adolescence, this episode offers grounded, compassionate strategies for navigating the complexities of adolescence, letting go of unrealistic “shoulds” and building stronger, more supportive connections at home and at school.Highlights from this episode:00:00 – Autism & Back-to-School: A Fresh Perspective02:15 – Parenting Pressure: Letting Go of the “Shoulds”03:21 –  Autism and Transitions05:18 – Strategies to Help Kids Manage School Breaks With Less Structure07:23 – Autism and Friendships: Navigating Social Life11:00 – How Interest Based Activities Can Promote Social Interactions11:51 – Is This Lower Social Interest or a Sign of Depression?14:08 – When to Promote Social Skills in Autistic Teens17:15 – The Benefits of Neurodivergent Friendships 18:13 – How to Think about Independence & Teens with Autism21:25 – From Abstract to Concrete: Language That Helps24:08 – What Autistic Teens Wish Adults or Parents Understood 26:27 – Guidance That Helps Parents Support Neurodivergent Kids👉 Subscribe for more expert conversations on parenting teens with clarity, compassion, and confidence.https://www.instagram.com/theparentingpair 🎬. Watch on our YouTube channelhttps://www.youtube.com/@TheParentingPair🌐 Visit https://www.theparentingpair.com to listen and learn more.

In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron discuss how parents can help their teens navigate unfair situations in school, sports, and daily life.  They consider different ways to manage disappointment, and how to consider the gains (vs. losses) of how they could respond. From being overlooked by a teacher, to losing a spot on a team, unfairness is a part of  growing up, and of living life.  Dr. Allen and Dr. Caron offer practical strategies for validating your teen’s feelings, guiding them in considering the options, and also recognizing when the best response is to let go and accept a situation that may feel unfair.Together, they explore:Making sense of your role as a parent: advocate vs. coachThe gains and losses of intervening vs. holding backHow to validate feelings without jumping to fixesHow acceptance can be an “active (and effective) choice” and not “giving up”Balancing support with independence as teens growParent self-care:  venting safely and seeking support A quick & helpful radical acceptance practice you can try todayIf you’ve ever worried about your teen feeling discouraged, left out, or defeated by unfair situations, this episode will give you tools to support them, model acceptance, and help them grow stronger through life’s challenges.Key Topics Discussed00:00 – When unfairness touches your teen’s life02:31 – How parents usually get affected by their teen’s distress04:55 – Supporting your teen: Step in or Step back?07:05 – Considering the possible benefits of “not intervening”07:55 – One “mantra” for parents to stay steady – “Be the Buddha in the road”09:43 – A second “mantra” to consider – “It’s theirs”11:45 – Let your teen vent and get in touch with their emotions13:50 – Teaching acceptance: when to let go and move on16:08 – Key takeaways for parents16:48 – How to deal with our own emotions, as parents19:14 – Daily habits to protect ourselves -as adults- from big emotions20:18 – The practice of radical acceptance and half smile🎬. Watch on our YouTube channelhttps://www.youtube.com/@TheParentingPair👉 Follow us for more tips and support on parenting teenshttps://www.instagram.com/theparentingpair 🌐 Visit https://www.theparentingpair.com to listen and learn more.

In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron thoughtfully discuss sexual assault prevention for teens and young adults. As teens and young adults head to college and/or spend more time with friends in new environments, parents can worry about how to best prepare them for real-world risks of assault, while also supporting their growing independence. This episode helps parents gain a nuanced understanding of current factors related to sexual assault and ways to minimize risk. Suggestions are provided regarding how to communicate with their teens and empower them to make planful, confident, and informed choices.Dr. Allen and Dr. Caron explore:• Why open conversations about safety are critical for teens• How to talk about sexual assault prevention in a clear, age-appropriate way• The role of alcohol and parties, and its relation to risk of assault• Strategies for setting boundaries and recognising red flags• What healthy peer support and bystander intervention look like• Actionable suggestions that parents can share with teens.Here are some highlights from this episode:00:00 – College parties can be fun and risky at the same time03:08 – How Dialectical Thinking helps parents handle tough topics with teens05:10 – Campuses tend to be very safe, except for sexual assaults09:00 – Five strategies a teen can do to minimize risk10:43 – The importance of protecting your drink and how to do so12:15 – What healthy peer support looks like14:42 – Teaching teens to speak up and step in16:28 – How to protect friends and peers, safely18:33 – Recap of 5 strategies to decrease risk of sexual assault19:48 – Sexual assault prevention starts at home21:32 – Dialectical thinking helps parent-teen communication and problem solving23:15 – Acknowledging difficult subjects when feeling unpreparedIf you’ve ever worried about your teen being vulnerable in college or social settings, this episode will give you actionable tools to keep them safe and empowered.⬇️ For downloadable resources for teens/young adults and parents, based on this episode:📝 Tip Sheet for Parents: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGxSkkYrF4/p5LmYFhAgSxHrXLxER54fA/view?utm_content=DAGxSkkYrF4&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=h2f7135e34d📝 Tip Sheet for Teens/Young Adults: https://www.canva.com/design/DAGxSmKgl5M/sypKA3FbWrFbS5n2Ds2Keg/view?utm_content=DAGxSmKgl5M&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=uniquelinks&utlId=hd70254b9fa#ParentingTips #TeenSafety #CollegePrep #ConsentEducation #ParentingPodcast #RaisingTeens #TeenWellbeing #SexualAssaultPrevention #parentingsupport 👉 Follow us for more tips and support on parenting teenshttps://www.instagram.com/theparentingpair 🌐 Visit https://www.theparentingpair.com to listen and learn more.

In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron unpack how parents and teens experience stress—both healthy and unhealthy—offering practical insights and actionable advice for families who want to build resilience and balance at home.Together, they explore:How the way we think about stress shapes how we manage itWhy some stress is healthy and helps kids growWhen stress tips into overload and becomes unhealthyThe warning signs of burnout in teensThe role of comparison and perfectionism in fueling stressPractical tools to prioritise and scale back commitmentsHow parents can model healthy stress managementIf you’ve ever worried about your teen being overbooked, anxious, or struggling to keep up with unrealistic expectations, this episode will give you tools to reframe stress, set healthy boundaries, and support your teen’s well-being.🎧 Listen now and discover how to raise more resilient, confident, and balanced teens.👉 Don’t forget to subscribe and follow us for more parenting tips, expert insights, and real talk about raising teens in today’s world. / theparentingpair  🌐 Visit https://www.theparentingpair.com _______________________________________________________________________________________________The Parenting Pair podcast is designed for informational and educational purposes only.  Do not rely on the information presented in this podcast as a substitute or replacement for professional -- psychological or medical -- advice, diagnosis, or treatment.  If you have concerns about you or a family member's well being, please contact a licensed mental health professional or physician_______________________________________________________________________________________________Chapters:00:00 – Back-to-school stress for parents and teens02:14 – The way we think about stress shapes how we manage it03:41 – Why some stress is healthy and helps kids grow 04:50 – Real-life examples of healthy stress in teens and tweens 06:40 – How parents can reframe stress for their kids 08:30 – Temporary healthy stress vs. unhealthy stress10:05 – Unhealthy stress and achievement overload 11:33 – Comparison, Perfectionism and Unhealthy Stress 15:30 – Warning signs of unhealthy stress: sleep, irritability, burnout18:20 – Tool: The 24-hour reality check for overloaded schedules 21:00 – Deciding what to scale back and saying no23:06 – Shifting the community narrative and supporting kids’ well-being 25:50 – Parents modeling healthy stress management

In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron unpack the myths and realities around teens and marijuana. With cannabis now legal in many states, parents are left wondering what’s normal experimentation, what’s risky, and how to talk about it without shutting their teen down.Together, they explore:How marijuana affects the developing teen brainWhy legalization and changing norms can give teens mixed messagesThe difference between occasional use and patterns that raise red flags How to have open, curious conversations that keep your teen talkingStrategies for setting boundaries while maintaining trust and connectionIf you’ve ever worried about your teen and marijuana—or just want to be prepared for the conversation—this episode will give you clarity, language, and compassion to navigate it with confidence.Here are some highlights from this episode:0:00 Parenting in the era of legal weed1:14 Listener question: Teen thinks marijuana is safe3:35 Risk-taking in adolescence6:08 How marijuana affects the teen brain10:08 Short-term vs. long-term risks10:48 “Weed helps me” – tips for talking with your teen14:30 Parent use vs. teen use15:22 Why today’s marijuana is stronger17:04 Edibles, vaping & hidden dangers20:51 Delta-8 vs. Delta-9: what parents should know24:15 Talking with other parents about marijuana26:44 Heavy teen use & when to seek help30:11 What now: Conversations & safety plans32:13 Final advice for parents

Should you track your teen’s location? From apps like Life360 to Find My iPhone, GPS tracking can offer parents peace of mind — but it can also raise big questions about trust, privacy, and independence. In this thoughtful conversation, Dr. Annalise Caron and Dr. Suzanne Allen explore the pros and cons of location tracking for teens and tweens.You’ll hear:What parents gain (and lose) when tracking their teen’s whereaboutsHow tracking can affect a teen’s sense of autonomy, trust, and responsibilityWhen GPS tracking might strengthen your relationship — and when it might strain itWhy transparency and open discussion matterPractical ideas for setting boundaries, using tracking selectively, and preparing for the transition to young adulthoodWhether you currently use a location tracking app or are just considering it, this episode will help you reflect on your family’s needs, manage your own anxiety, and make intentional choices about digital safety and independence.Here are some highlights from this episode:00:00 – Intro: Should Parents Track Their Teens?02:17 – Gains for Parents from GPS Tracking05:22 – Potential Gains for Teens from GPS Tracking07:43 – Losses for Teens: Privacy, Trust, and Independence11:33 – Losses for Parents: Tolerating Uncertainty13:10 – Parallels with School Grade Tracking Apps15:47 – Tracking Is Not All-or-Nothing: Finding a Middle Ground18:30 – Transparency with Teens About Tracking20:06 – Modeling Digital Boundaries & Talking About Snap Map23:27 – What Now: Reflecting on Gains & Losses24:20 – Parent-to-Parent Support, College Years ConsiderationsDon’t forget to share this episode with fellow parents—because thoughtful conversations about technology and autonomy can shape healthier, more trusting relationships with your teens.

The Power of Apologizing: How Genuine Apologies Strengthen Your Relationship with Your TeenIn this new episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Annalise Caron and Dr. Suzanne Allen explore the vital role of apologies in parenting—why saying “I'm sorry” can be a powerful tool for building trust, respect, and emotional health with your teens. They discuss common barriers that prevent parents from apologizing effectively, and share practical strategies to overcome these “apology traps” to foster more authentic, compassionate connections.Join us as we delve into:-- Why parents often hesitate to apologize and how it impacts your authority and your teen’s perception of respect-- The misconception that apologizing equals losing control, and how genuine apologies can actually empower your relationship-- How to avoid “tit for tat” and “double dipping” traps—apologizing without expecting anything in return or pairing apologies with blame-- Simple, effective ways to apologize—whether face-to-face, via text, or with a quick note—that feel authentic and respectful-- The importance of timing, patience, and repair in the apology process—when to revisit and how to show accountability over time-- How practicing honest apologies now can positively influence your teen’s future relationships and emotional resilienceHere are some highlights from the episode:00:00 – Why Parents Need to Apologize for Stronger Relationships02:50 – The “Losing Authority” Trap—Why Apologizing Can Actually Boost Respect05:20 – Avoiding “Tit for Tat” and “Double Dipping” Traps in Apologies11:51 – Self Reflection and How to Keep Apologies Genuine and Effective17:22 – When and How to Revisit Apologies for Lasting Impact18:42 – Repairing and Strengthening Your Bond with Your Teen Helps Their Future RelationshipsTune in for practical advice on how to own your mistakes with confidence, foster mutual respect, and create a family culture rooted in honesty and care. Don’t forget to share this episode with fellow parents—because heartfelt apologies are a cornerstone of loving, resilient relationships.

In this engaging episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron explore common thinking traps—those unhelpful patterns of thought that can cloud our judgment, increase stress, and hinder positive interactions with our teens. They discuss how becoming aware of these traps and learning to shift our thinking can lead to more balanced, calm, and effective parenting.Join us as we delve into:What thinking traps are, including the ‘shoulds,’ mental filters, and jumping to conclusions, and how they subtly influence our perceptions and reactionsHow these thought patterns can intensify worries, create misunderstandings, and impact our emotional well-beingPractical strategies for parents to recognize and challenge these traps—using questions like “What else could be true?” to broaden perspective and reduce automatic negative thoughtsThe importance of self-compassion and gentle language shifts, such as replacing ‘shoulds’ with softer alternatives like ‘I wish’ or ‘prefer,’ to foster patience and understandingTips for staying present and focused on the facts, especially during stressful or uncertain moments with your teenWhether you're dealing with everyday frustrations or navigating complex issues, understanding and managing your thinking traps can help you respond with greater clarity, patience, and connection—strengthening your relationship with your teen and supporting your mental health.Here are some highlights from the episode:00:00 – Welcome: Are You Spiraling About Your Teen?01:00 – What Are Thinking Traps & Why They Matter in Parenting03:00 – Dr. Allen Catches a Thinking Trap in the Checkout Line05:24 – Trap #1: “Should” Thinking – The Fast Track to Frustration for Parents09:34 – Trap #2: Mental Filter – You Only See What’s Going Wrong for you or your Teen16:26 – Trap #3: Jumping to Conclusions – From One Mistake to Worst-Case Scenario20:23 – One Powerful Question to Reframe Your Thoughts and Open to New PossibilitiesTune in for practical insights and tools to cultivate a more mindful, balanced approach to parenting. And don’t forget to share this episode with fellow parents—because shifting our thoughts is key to building a calmer, more compassionate family life.

In this insightful episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron explore the concept of vulnerability factors—those circumstances and experiences that influence how we and our teens respond to stress, frustration, and everyday challenges. They discuss how recognizing and managing these factors can help reduce emotional reactivity, foster patience, and improve parent-teen interactions.Join us as we delve into:What vulnerability factors are, from chronic issues like systemic racism or health challenges to more changeable influences such as sleep deprivation, hunger, or stressHow vulnerability factors affect our mood and reactions in real-time, often amplifying stress and frustrationPractical strategies for parents to support themselves—like taking breaks, practicing self-compassion, and humor—to better handle difficult momentsThe importance of self-awareness and apologies when vulnerability factors lead to overreactionsHow to implement prevention by tending to physical and emotional needs—getting enough rest, eating well, exercising, and managing stress—to build resilience for both parents and teensWhether you're navigating a tough morning or facing ongoing challenges, understanding vulnerability factors can help you respond with patience, compassion, and clarity—strengthening your relationship with your teen and supporting your own well-being.Tune in for practical tips on managing your vulnerability factors and fostering a calmer, more connected family dynamic.Here are some highlights from the episode:00:00 – Intro: What Are Vulnerability Factors in Parenting and Teen/Tween Life?02:16 – Chronic vs. Everyday Vulnerability Factors03:50 – Why Parents Overlook Teen and Tween Vulnerability Factors05:16 – A Morning Meltdown: Swim Practice & Parental Spiral11:53 – In-the-Moment Coping Tools for Stressed Parents14:00 – Giving Your Teen or Tween the Benefit of the Doubt16:50 – Prevention: How Parents Can “Cope Ahead”20:34 – Modeling Repair & Using Humor After a Parenting MisstepAnd as always, share this episode with fellow parents who may find it helpful—because caring for ourselves is essential to caring for our teens.Watch on YouTube:  The Parenting PairConnect with us:📩 Email: hello@theparentingpair.com📱 Instagram: @‌theparentingpair

Episode 11: Should I Push My Anxious Teen… or Let It Go and Pull Back?What should parents do when a teen says, "I can't do it" — whether it's going to school, trying out for a team, or facing a social situation? In this episode, child and adolescent clinical psychologists, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron, dive deep into this common parenting dilemma: Should you push your teen to do hard things—or back off?This insightful episode explores how to support adolescents facing anxiety, avoidance, or depression with empathy, strategy, and connection. Drawing from evidence-based practices like exposure therapy, the hosts offer four essential parenting principles to help you encourage your child without adding pressure or power struggles.You'll learn:Why anxiety is a normal part of adolescent development—and when it becomes a concernHow to tell the difference between helpful encouragement and unhelpful pushingHelpful strategy #1 “Zooming out” if your teen is melting down.Helpful strategy #2  Compassion (for yourself and your teen) is a superpower during anxious moments.Helpful Strategy #3: Regulate Yourself!  Parental emotional reactions impact teen behavior and resilienceHelpful Strategy #4:  Stay on the same team with your teen—even when your teen doesn’t act like a teammateWhen to consider seeking professional mental health supportWhether you're dealing with school refusal, performance anxiety, or general emotional overwhelm, this episode gives you actionable tools and a calming framework for parenting with connection and confidence.Watch on YouTube:  The Parenting PairConnect with us:📩 Email: hello@theparentingpair.com📱 Instagram: @‌theparentingpair🎙️ If this episode resonates with you or someone you know, please share it. Let’s build a more connected, compassionate parenting community—one episode at a time.

5 Mindset Shifts to Worry Less About Other Parents’ JudgmentsDo you ever find yourself second-guessing your parenting decisions… not because they feel wrong, but because you’re worried what other parents might think?Yeah — us too.In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron dive into five powerful mindset shifts to help you stop spiraling and start parenting from a place of confidence, clarity, and calm.You’ll learn:✔️ How to connect with your best self as a parent✔️ Why judgment is unavoidable — and fleeting✔️ How to stop wasting energy trying to mind-read other parents✔️ Why “your family, your call” is the healthiest mantra you can adopt✔️ The power of showing kindness to other families — and yourself🎯 Whether you’ve been side-eyed at the pickup line, judged over a playdate rule, or just feel pressure to “get it all right,” this episode is a breath of fresh air.🧠 You’ll leave with practical tools, real-world examples, and permission to parent with confidence — even when your approach looks different.⏱️ Chapters:00:00 – Why parents feel judged—and why it matters00:56 – Mindset Shift #1: Reconnect with your best parenting self03:53 – Mindset Shift #2: Accept that judgment is fleeting05:37 – Mindset Shift #3: You’re not a mind reader08:09 – Mindset Shift #4: Your family, your call11:03 – Mindset Shift #5: Extend kindness to other parents13:25 – Reflection: How these shifts can help15:17 – What now: Modeling confidence for your teen📩 Got a question for a future episode? Email us at hello@theparentingpair.com💬 Let’s keep the conversation going!DM us on Instagram @‌TheParentingPair or visit our website The Parenting PairWatch on our YOUTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheParentingPair✨ Stay tuned — upcoming episodes will explore anxiety and depression in teens, based on your requests.#ParentingPodcast #MindsetShifts #ADHDParenting #TeenParenting #MomLife #DadLife #ParentingConfidence #YourFamilyYourCall #TheParentingPairPodcast

In this engaging episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron explore the many benefits and challenges of youth sports. They discuss how sports can boost confidence, teach important life skills like resilience, teamwork, and serve as a supportive environment outside of school.Join us as we cover:The value of sports for fun, social connection, and emotional growthHow sports help develop self-efficacy and critical thinking in children and teensPractical ways parents can support their kids during games and practicesThe impact of parents' sideline behaviors, including facial expressions and tone of voiceThe importance of fostering autonomy and choice in sports participationHow to advocate for a positive, healthy sports culture that prioritizes growth over winning at all costsTime stamps to quickly reference key moments:00:00 – Intro: Why sports matter04:00 – How sports build self-efficacy09:45 – Parents as real-time supporters14:30 – Dangers of sideline coaching21:10 – Autonomy and early specialization27:30 – What to say (and not say) after games33:00 – Final takeaways for sports parentsWhether you're a seasoned sports parent or just starting out, this episode offers valuable insights on how to nurture your child's love of sports while supporting their emotional and social development. Plus, tips on creating a supportive environment that encourages decision-making, reduces stress, and celebrates effort and progress.Share this episode with fellow parents, coaches, and community members committed to making youth sports a positive experience for every child!https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1StHYrzPfd2cSH7Sepnt8M9bU4UkG2gSf?usp=drive_linkOr watch on our YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/@TheParentingPair

In this insightful episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron delve into the rapidly evolving world of online gambling and sports betting and what parents need to know. Instead of a listener question, they share vivid stories and expert insights—like the rise of sports betting apps and the subtle ways gambling infiltrates teen life—to help caregivers better understand how these behaviors develop and impact young people.Join us as we discuss:How recent legal changes and the proliferation of betting apps have made gambling more accessible to teens and young adults.The ways gambling and loot boxes in video games create habits that can lead to problematic behavior.Practical signs to watch for, such as increased irritability, money loss, or withdrawal from activities.How to approach open, non-judgmental conversations with your teen about gambling risks.Why understanding these behaviors with compassion can help reduce shame and foster healthier choices.Whether you're a parent, educator, or concerned caregiver, these insights can help you recognize the signs and support your teen in making informed, safe decisions. Tune in to learn how to navigate this complex landscape with awareness and empathy—because informed conversations can make all the difference. If you have concerns that you or a family member may have a gambling problem or addiction, you or your loved one can call or text 1-800-GAMBLER for private and confidential information and support.Be sure to share this episode with anyone who wants to understand the new world of teen gambling better!

In this enlightening episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron explore creative metaphors to help parents and caregivers better understand ADHD. They share powerful visual stories—like the "race car brain" created by Ned Hallowell and a "sailboat in the storm"—to illustrate how ADHD affects motivation, attention, and executive functioning.Join us as we discuss:How the "race car brain" analogy explains the speed and impulsivity often seen in children with ADHDThe "sailboat" metaphor to understand the challenges of motivation and follow-through in teensWhy these metaphors can foster compassion and reduce judgment for both kids and parentsThe importance of recognizing strengths alongside challenges in ADHDPractical ways to share these stories with teachers, coaches, and family members to create understanding and supportWhether you're a parent, teacher, or simply curious, these metaphors can help you see ADHD from a new perspective—one rooted in compassion and insight. Tune in for a fresh take on understanding ADHD and how to support kids with these these incredible brains.Don't forget to share this episode with anyone who might benefit from a new way of thinking about ADHD!Mentioned in the podcast- the incredible videos from Jessica McCabe of "How to ADHD."  Check them out!

In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Suzanne Allen and Dr. Annalise Caron dive into the complex world of parenting children and teens with ADHD. They explore common parent feelings—from exhaustion and frustration to dark thoughts—and emphasize the importance of self-compassion and understanding.Join us as we discuss:How ADHD symptoms can look different during puberty and adolescence, especially in girls.The difference between knowing what to do and being able to do it, with relatable stories and insights.Practical ways to support your child's growth, resilience, and self-understanding.The significance of parent self-care, seeking support, and fostering a compassionate mindset.Tips for managing societal judgments and building a supportive community.This episode offers empathetic guidance and real-world advice for parents, caregivers, and anyone supporting a young person with ADHD. Remember, you're not alone—support, understanding, and patience can make a world of difference.Tune in now to learn how to nurture your child's potential while taking care of yourself along the way. And don't forget to share this episode with friends or family who might find it helpful!

Navigating Hard Conversations: Talking to Teens About Family IllnessesTeenagers are incredible observers — even when we think they’re not noticing, they probably are. In this heartfelt episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, we explore the importance of honest, relationship-building conversations when a parent or family member faces a significant medical illness.Join us as we discuss:💬 Why being transparent with teens about health issues can foster trust and connection🤔 How to approach tough conversations with clarity and care, especially around diagnoses like Parkinson’s or other serious conditions💡 The benefits of sharing age-appropriate information and inviting questions—helping your teen feel less alone and more supported🌱 Why embracing the hard moments and talking openly can strengthen family bonds and build resilienceWhether you’re navigating a health crisis or just want to learn how to talk to your teen about difficult topics, this episode offers practical tips and compassionate insights to guide you through those challenging discussions.Tune in for honest advice, real stories, and a reminder that even the hardest conversations can bring us closer together.🎧 Listen now and discover how to turn tough talks into opportunities for connection and growth.

In this essential episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, Dr. Annalise Caron and Dr. Suzanne Allen tackle one of the most difficult—and important—questions parents ask: What should I do if my teen talks about suicide?Drawing on clinical expertise, they break down:Why talking about suicide doesn’t increase risk—and how it can actually be protective.Common signs that a teen may be struggling, even if they don’t say the word “suicide”.What to say in the moment if you are concerned or your teen shares this with you.How to offer presence, hope, and support without needing all the answers.The power of circling back if a first conversation didn’t go well.This conversation is about building greater understanding, openness and connection—so you can show up for your teen when it matters most.Important Reminder: This episode is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re concerned about your child’s safety or mental health, seek support from a qualified professional.