Boysober

It’s the holidays, which is the perfect time to force your family to overshare on mic. That’s what Hope is doing this week with her mom Sharon, who opens up about her own path through love, heartbreak, and the patterns the women in their family keep repeating.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It feels like everything is expensive these days. So what does that mean for dating? Comedian Esmond Fountain shares his own experience of struggling to find love when his bank account was basically zero.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Your boyfriend might not be embarrassing, but the way you talk and post about him probably is. For too long, women have been taught to flaunt their relationships to prove their worth. In this live episode of Boysober, Hope talks to creator Kate Glavan about rewriting that script, and how she had to unlearn the rules of dating to figure out what she actually wanted. To hear more from Kate, don't forget to check out the return of her hit podcast Seamossgirlies when it returns in January!   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why is living alone so glamorized? Especially when there's a more affordable and less lonely option to live in an intentional community. That’s the message Gillian Morris is preaching. Gillian has lived communally for 10 years in various environments, and is even working to raise her child in one as a single mother. What does that mean exactly and why could it be the answer to so many of society’s shortcomings? To learn more about communal living, check out Gillian's Substack Supernuclear.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Being in a committed relationship doesn’t mean you have to stop being curious. That’s what Michelle MiJung Kim realized once she married her husband. As a queer woman, Michelle felt it was important to continue exploring her sexuality even while in a stable relationship. So when she asked to open the marriage, Michelle started her journey to find out what she needed to be happy. To hear more about the story that inspired this episode, check out Michelle's podcast I Feel That Way Too.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Consider this your fertility Q&A, minus the misinformation you might see on social media. Hope sits down with Dr. Lucky Sekhon to talk egg freezing: When is the right time to do it? What's a man's responsibility in all this? And most importantly, how can we plan for the future without freaking out about it? To learn more, be sure to pre-order Dr. Lucky's book The Lucky Egg (out Jan. 13, 2026).   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Can men and women really just be friends? That’s the question at the heart of this week's Boysober Rom-Com Roundtable. Comedians Nikki Martin and Andy Spector help break down the iconic When Harry Met Sally—and all the messy, funny, and heartfelt truths about love and friendship it brings up.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Boysober has always been about healing the parts of ourselves we’d rather ignore. This week, Hope explores an unconventional way to heal… with clown class. What seems silly at first becomes a powerful lesson in vulnerability and forgiveness.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There are no rules when it comes to dating. Tiff Baira, TikTok's cupid and author of the new Modern Dating for Dummies, joins the pod to break down the difference between situationships and flings, healing after heartbreak, and the kinds of dating advice we should ignore online.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Love bombers, mama’s boys… and oh god, another musician?! We’ve all got our list of dating red flags—but that doesn’t mean we always listen to it. This week, we’re diving into your wildest dealbreaker dating stories, the warning signs you ignored, and the hilarious (and painful) lessons that followed.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Hope's friend Storrey brings us a tale about a recent tumultuous relationship involving a finance bro, Miami, and some power play.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to the start of Boysober October! To kick off the anniversary of Hope's flirtation with celibacy and decentering men, comedian Annabel Meschke joins the pod and reveals why she stopped being Hope's "sponsor." Plus, we hear from the listeners and their own boysober journeys!   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What really happens at a sex party? Hope shares her personal experience attending one hosted by NSFW, and debriefs with club founder Daniel Saynt about the party’s surprisingly healing effect.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Writer-comedian Keara Sullivan is a woman who stands on business. She knows who she is, goes after what she wants, and doesn’t easily crash out over a man. She self-describes as perpetually yet happily single, but lately a little manifestation might be changing that.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

So far, we've mostly been talking about the "boy" part of boysober. The sex, the romance, the relationships. But there's another aspect to knowing yourself... and it's understanding that friendships are just as important as romantic relationships. This week, Hope talks with "Bad Friend" author Michelle Elman about the heartbreak of her own friend breakups.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do you do when you’re longing for touch? Glynnis MacNicol followed her intuition to get what she needed — by booking a flight to Paris. Now, she shares how her desires have shifted.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What is “good sex,” and how do we have it? You don’t have to figure it out all on your own. This week, we have someone who can help: Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons, author of “Good Sex: Stories, Science and Strategies for Sexual Liberation.”   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you’re familiar with Jensen McRae’s music, you know it’s filled with details of past loves: navy bedsheets, pilgrim ashtrays, trips out east. Her songs hit you to your core — but who were the loves that inspired them? The singer-songwriter talks about some of her past relationships that inspired hit songs like "Massachusetts," why we should have realistic expectations in romantic relationships, and what it’s like now dating as a public figure.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days may arguably be one of the best romantic comedies to exist. Matthew McConaughey shirtless. Kate Hudson's perfect mix of crazy and cute. The sexual tension between the two! But how has the classic rom-com shaped our idea of love? Comedians Brandon Follick and Ai Vy Lu'u join Boysober's first-ever Rom-Com Roundtable to break it down.   To hear more of Brandon and Ai Vy, check out their new podcast Everybody Wants To Be My Friend.   Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s said that you don’t get to choose your family. But what if you can? Actor-singer and “Gaydar” host Anania shares her personal journey with discovering her own identity, coming out, expressing herself through drag, and finding a supportive chosen family.     Do you have a boysober story to share? We'd love to hear from you! Email us a voice note at boysoberpodcast@gmail.com, or leave a voicemail at (518) 83-SOBER. Please say your name before leaving your message, and don’t forget to include your phone number in case we want to follow up. By leaving a voicemail, you are giving Boysober permission and license to use some or all of your message in our show. But if you want to be anonymous, please state that in your call.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.