The Monarc Tapes

We all say we want community but do we want the work that comes with it?In this episode, we unpack the uncomfortable truth about community: it’s inconvenient. It demands your time, your vulnerability, and your presence even when it’s not easy or cute. Drawing on insights from bell hooks’ All About Love and Priya Parker’s The Art of Gathering, we explore how capitalism, hyperindividualism, and the pursuit of ease have distorted our understanding of what it means to belongThis episode is your invitation to rethink how you show up and what you’re willing to give up to build something real.

This one’s personal. We're talking about that phone. The one you’re probably holding right now. The one that’s rewired our brains, murdered our attention spans, and low-key made boredom extinct.In this episode, I unpack how social media addiction has reshaped the way we think, feel, and relate to ourselves. We get into dopamine culture, the lost art of boredom, and how our need to constantly feel stimulated might just be a soft, velvet-gloved symptom of something deeper like economic anxiety, the Gen Z identity crisis, and even the rise of the soft girl aesthetic as a quiet form of conservatism.This isn’t a digital detox sermon. It's more of a mirror. Maybe even a soft call to take your time and your mind back one scroll at a time.Listen in, laugh with me, and maybe... just maybe, put your phone down after.

I decided to journal about this after I saw a substack on “the weight of wanting love” the writer captured how the desire for love regardless of how you choose to navigate life will still creep up on you so beautifully . I have so much platonic love in my life and I’m extremely grateful but sometimes I feel so empty. When I look at my life, academically? I’m thriving. Physically? My body is tea, I’m healthy, financially I’m doing good, my friendships are going so well every single aspect of my life is going well expect the one that doesn’t exist, my romantic life. Just at a crossroads with whether or not I’m ready to go back to dating someone and allowing my self to fall in love again.

Welcome to your weekly dose of emotional fraud. In this episode, we’re romanticizing delusion, not because it’s healthy, but because reality is ghetto and I simply refuse to live there full-time.We’re talking curated chaos, spiritual gaslighting (the self-inflicted kind), and the art of lying to yourself just enough to keep functioning. From Franz Kafka’s existential dread to Rhonda Byrne’s manifestation Olympics, I’m unpacking why being a little bit delusional is actually a survival skill in this economy.Is it avoidance? Is it self-care? Is it unhinged? Yes. But it’s also cheaper than therapy.So grab your rose-colored glasses, sprinkle some Law of Assumption on your coffee, and join me as I explain why being the main character in your own hallucination might just be the healthiest thing you do all week.

Growing up in a house full of boys felt like a crash course in survival feelings got benched, softness was suspect, and being "girly" was basically a liability. From navigating old family dynamics to unlearning toxic ideas about emotion and strength, I’m taking you through the beautiful, messy journey of coming home to myself. If you’ve ever felt like you had to choose between being strong or being soft… this one's for you my angel <3

So, my ex decided to send me an email and honestly, I wasn’t sure what I was expecting. Whatever it was, it definitely wasn’t what I needed. Instead of getting lost in the nostalgia or drama, I realized something: I don’t find comfort in familiarity anymore. The real peace? It’s in solitude, in being alone but not lonely.In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when you realize you’ve outgrown your past and the comfort zones that kept you stuck. I’m sharing how I chose to embrace solitude instead of falling back into old habits, and how it’s been a journey of rediscovering myself, outside of being in a relationship.We dive into learning to love your own company, letting go of the past, and figuring out how to move forward on your own terms.So if you’ve ever found yourself stuck in the familiarity of an old relationship or comfort zone, grab your favorite drink and join me for this real talk on stepping into a new chapter

“I’m dying and I think you are too” is an ode to a version of myself I subconsciously forced into a corner and instead of embracing her. I created a mask to hide who she is, who I am. I want to express myself but ive become so limited because ive created this perceptionand ive allowed people to limit my existence to that perception and I have no one to blame but myself.I was so focused on creating that perception I became a prisoner to my creation.My egoWith how ive explained everything an ego death sounds terrifying but ive come to realise that maybe it's a beautiful thing im choosing to see this as an opportunity to embrace whatever change is coming my way. Your ego isn’t abad thing. Make peace with it and accept it’s who you are and it won’t control or make you a prisoner of it.