The Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast

In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy podcast, hosts Michael Preston, Michael Barnett, and Dr. Sylvina Irwin delve into the intricacies of transitioning from stage one to stage two of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). They discuss the importance of understanding the different goals of each stage, the role of the therapist, and the significance of heightening emotional experiences. The conversation emphasizes the need to explore attachment fears and working models, highlighting how partners can provide support during this process. The hosts share insights on how to elicit deep emotional experiences and the healing power of vulnerability in relationships, ultimately aiming to create lasting change through secure attachments.To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websiteswww.michaelbarnettlpc.comwww.drsilvinairwin.comwww.eftcla.orgTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.comFor more info on Michael's Tango Course visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoAttribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by ⁠Blue Dot Sessionsdfrv4qmi

In this episode, EFT trainers and supervisors delve into critical aspects of practicing EFT, from handling client risks during stages two and three to maintaining self-care as a therapist. Discover practical strategies, the importance of supervision, and how to keep couples engaged and resilient post-therapy.Key TopicsNavigating client backslides and reactivity in stage two — importance of stability and understanding intervention limits.The role of supervision in deepening EFT skills and supporting complex cases.Strategies for ensuring long-term change: protective routines, meaningful life rituals, and ongoing reflection.Self-care essentials for EFT therapists: balancing work demands with personal resilience, creative outlets, and community support.Benefits and logistics of live sessions: how they provide insight, reinforce learning, and empower clients.Handling high-escalation moments: engaging couples in intense emotional episodes safely and effectively.Maintaining client gains after treatment: consolidating skills and life integration practices.The significance of therapists’ ongoing growth and the value of peer support and supervision.To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websiteswww.michaelbarnettlpc.comwww.drsilvinairwin.comwww.eftcla.orgTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.comTo join the Waitlist for the Michael's Tango Deliberate Practice Group visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangowaitlistAttribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by ⁠Blue Dot Sessionsdfrv4qmi

In this episode, Michael Preston, Dr. Silvina Irwin, and Michael Barnett tackle questions the came up at a recent Externship in Los Angeles. Whether you're grappling with attachment styles, client setbacks, or pivotal relational moments, this episode offers nuanced insights to deepen your understanding and clinical skills.To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websiteswww.michaelbarnettlpc.comwww.drsilvinairwin.comwww.eftcla.orgTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.comFor more info on Michael's Tango Course visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoAttribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by ⁠Blue Dot Sessionsdfrv4qmi

In this episode, we explore the intricacies of 'move four' and its implications, delving into the strategic aims and potential outcomes. The conversation highlights the importance of creating safe spaces and the dynamics of partnership exposure, offering insights into the dance of professional relationships.To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websiteswww.michaelbarnettlpc.comwww.drsilvinairwin.comwww.eftcla.orgTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.comFor more info on Michael's Tango Course visit www.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoAttribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions

In this episode, we explore the intricacies of Tango Move 3 in Stage One, addressing audience questions and delving into the therapist's self-awareness. We discuss the challenges of enactments, the importance of understanding blocks, and the opportunities for growth in therapeutic settings. Takeaways: Understanding Tango Stage One is crucial for therapists.Audience questions provide valuable insights into common challenges.Therapist self-awareness is key to effective therapy.Enactments can sometimes land flat, requiring reflection.Blocks in therapy can be opportunities for growth.New therapists should embrace learning from mistakes.Therapeutic growth often comes from unexpected moments.Packaging enactments is an important skill for therapists.Coherent understanding aids in effective therapy.Sideways moments can lead to profound growth.To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websiteswww.michaelbarnettlpc.comwww.drsilvinairwin.comwww.eftcla.orgTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.comFor more info on Michael's Tango Course visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoAttribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions

In this episode, we explore community-driven questions, focusing on Move 2 of the Tango in Emotionally Focused Therapy.We discuss the importance of hightening emotion and addressing self of therapists tolerance levels. The discussion highlights the significance of developing new skill as well as therapists being able to accept where they are in their own emotional process. To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websiteswww.michaelbarnettlpc.comwww.drsilvinairwin.comwww.eftcla.orgTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.comFor more info on Michael's Tango Course visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoAttribution:Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot Palms Down by <a href="https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/356196">Blue Dot Sessions</a>

In this episode, we explore community-driven questions, focusing on Move 1 of the Tango in Emotionally Focused Therapy.We discuss the importance of understanding multiple perspectives in systemic issues. The discussion highlights the significance of integrating diverse viewpoints to move forward effectively.To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites www.michaelbarnettlpc.comwww.drsilvinairwin.comwww.eftcla.orgTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.comFor more info on Michael's Tango Course visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoAttribution: Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot ⁠⁠https://app.sessions.blue/browse/trac....

In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy podcast, hosts Michael Preston, Michael Barnett, and Dr. Silvina Irwin delve into the intricacies of EFT, focusing on the 'Tango' moves in therapy. They explore how these moves help couples connect emotionally and create new relational experiences. The conversation highlights the importance of vulnerability, emotional engagement, and the systemic nature of EFT, providing listeners with insights into the therapeutic process and its impact on relationships.To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett and Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites www.michaelbarnettlpc.com or www.drsilvinairwin.comTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.comFor more info on Michael's Tango Course visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoAttribution: Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot⁠.

This EFT Podcast Mini episode introduces Dr. Silvina Irwin to the show.We are so excited to have Dr. Irwin lend her wisdom to the show. She will be joining us as a regular co-host to the show. She has been and EFT Trainer in Los Angels for nearly a decade and helped bring EFT trainings to the Spanish speaking community!Learn more about her in today's episode!Leave a comment to join us in welcome Dr. Silvina Irwin to The Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast!Learn More about Dr. Irwin and her work @ www.drsilvinairwin.com

In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett discuss the intricacies of the EFT Tango, focusing on moves one and two. They explore the goals and processes involved in these stages, emphasising the importance of understanding the dynamics between partners and the emotional narratives that drive their interactions. The conversation highlights the significance of creating a safe space for clients to explore their emotions and the role of repetition in therapy.To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett visit his websitewww.michaelbarnettlpc.comTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.comFor more info on Michael's Tango Course visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoAttribution: Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot⁠https://app.sessions.blue/browse/trac..⁠.

In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett discuss the intricacies of EFT and its impact on relationships. They explore various techniques and share personal insights to help listeners better understand and apply EFT in their own lives.LINKS:To join EFTLCA for their Externship in November check out EFTCLA's website or visit Dr. Silvina Irwin's websitewww.drsilvinairwin.comTo learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett visit his websitewww.michaelbarnettlpc.comTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.comFor more info on Michael's Tango Course visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangoAttribution: Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dothttps://app.sessions.blue/browse/trac...

In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett delve into the intricacies of Stage 1 of the EFT Tango. We explore how EFT Therapists use the Tango in stage 1 to help couples identify core emotional processes that organize their negative interaction cycle. Out conversation highlights the profound impact of attachment theory in therapy and offers insights into facilitating deep, meaningful change in relationships. Join us as we unpack the steps to help couples move from distress to secure attachment.LINKS: To join EFTLCA for their Externship in November check out EFTCLA's website or visit Dr. Silvina Irwin's websiteeftcla.orgdrsilvinairwin.comTo learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett visit his websitemichaelbarnettlpc.comTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.michaelprestonlpc.com

In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett explore the intricate process of EFT, focusing on the stages and steps involved in therapy. They discuss the importance of understanding the EFT process model, the role of the Tango, and how therapists can guide clients through emotional experiences to foster secure attachments.LINKS:To join EFTLCA for their Externship in November check out EFTCLA's website or visit Dr. Silvina Irwin's websiteeftcla.orgdrsilvinairwin.comTo learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett visit his website michaelbarnettlpc.comTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.michaelprestonlpc.comSteps as Guideposts for therapeutic progress document:https://docs.google.com/document/d/1UyE3zvesgZumexJzzmPdd1L4Ik_2YTds/edit?usp=drive_link&ouid=113919720137459051708&rtpof=true&sd=true

In this episode, we delve into the transformative power of vulnerability and attachment in therapy. Join hosts Michael Barnett and Michael Preston as they explore how authentic connections and emotional fluency can lead to profound personal growth and relational healing. Discover how therapy helps individuals embrace their authentic selves, fostering deeper trust and emotional security in relationships. Tune in to learn how these therapeutic processes can create relationships that not only heal but thrive.LINKS: To join EFTLCA for their Externship in November check out Dr. Silvina Irwin's website or Michael Barnett's websitewww.drsilvinairwin.com. www.michaelbarnettlpc.comor. www.EFTLCA.orgTo learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website. www.michaelprestonlpc.com

For More Information on joining Michael Barnett, Dr. Irwin, and Michael Preston at the EFTCLA Externship in November visit www.drsilvinairwin.com or www.eftcla.orgJoin hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett as they delve into the intricacies of Stage Two in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). This episode explores the profound impact of addressing attachment fears and needs, and how therapists can guide couples through deep emotional healing. Discover the importance of the therapist-client relationship and the transformative power of vulnerability in therapy.Key Topics:Understanding Stage Two in EFT The role of attachment fears and needs Therapist-client dynamics in emotional healing The significance of vulnerability and trustHighlights:Michael Barnett shares insights on the challenges therapists face in guiding clients through deep emotional work. Michael Preston discusses the importance of creating a safe space for clients to explore their attachment fears. The hosts emphasize the transformative potential of EFT in fostering long-lasting relationship changes.To work with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit www.michaelprestonlpc.comTo learn more about working or training with Michael Barnett visit www.michaelbarnettlpc.com

SummaryIn this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett discuss the importance of de-escalation in relationships, the markers that indicate progress, and the significance of vulnerability and emotional availability between partners. The conversation emphasizes the transition to Stage Two of therapy, highlighting the need for stability and understanding before moving forward.Takeaways: - Stage One is crucial for building a solid relationship foundation. - De-escalation involves recognizing and addressing emotional patterns. - Vulnerability is key to deepening emotional connections. - Couples often rush to Stage Two without fully completing Stage One. - Markers of de-escalation include improved communication and emotional awareness.- Therapists should ensure couples are ready before moving to Stage Two. - Emotional availability and responsiveness are essential for relationship security. - Real-life examples illustrate the dynamics of therapy in action.- Both partners must engage in the process for effective therapy. - Transitioning to Stage Two requires stability and mutual understanding.Attribution: Intro MusicPalms Down by Blue Dot https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/332341

Welcome to the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast! In this episode, hosts Michael Barnett and Michael Preston dive deep into the foundational elements of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), focusing specifically on Stage One of couples therapy.Join us as we explore: The unique challenges couples face when conflict disrupts their connection. The importance of understanding the emotional cycles that couples create. The significance of de-escalation and how it serves as a gateway to deeper emotional healing.Whether you're a therapist looking to enhance your practice or a couple seeking to understand your relationship dynamics, this episode offers valuable insights into the art and science of EFT. Don't forget to subscribe for more episodes and visit our websites for training and supervision opportunities!Hosts:Michael Barnett: michaelbarnettlpc.comMichael Preston: michaelprestonlpc.comTune in and take the first step towards a deeper understanding of your emotional connections!

In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett delve into the foundational aspects of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) through the lens of attachment theory. They explore how attachment influences emotional connections in relationships, the importance of significant others in the therapeutic process, and the biological underpinnings of attachment. The conversation emphasizes the depth of emotional experiences in therapy, the role of distress as a gateway to healing, and the transformative power of understanding and navigating attachment dynamics. The hosts aim to provide listeners with a comprehensive understanding of how these elements interconnect within the EFT framework, ultimately guiding therapists in their practice.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Connection02:21 Understanding Attachment Theory04:44 The Importance of Depth Psychotherapy08:34 The Role of Attachment in Healing10:52 Navigating Personal Histories14:19 The Biological Basis of Attachment17:32 The Impact of Early Relationships20:10 The Power of Significant Others21:04 The Foundation of Attachment and Emotional Safety22:55 Navigating Emotional Scars in Relationships24:25 The Power of Distress in Therapy26:08 Entering the Distress: A Therapeutic Approach28:18 Building Emotional Awareness and Connection30:08 The Interconnection of Stages in EFT31:55 The Role of Emotion in Attachment Therapy35:23 Understanding and Expressing Distress39:32 The Revolutionary Experience of Connection

KEYWORDS: Emotionally Focused Therapy, EFT, couples therapy, emotional connection, therapy podcast, relationship dynamics, attachment theory, therapy community, emotional healing, psychotherapy SUMMARY: In the first episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett introduce the concept of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and share their personal journeys in the field. They discuss the importance of community in EFT, the challenges of learning the model, and the significance of connection in therapy. The episode outlines the structure of EFT, including the assessment phase, stage one (de-escalation), and stage two (Restructuring Bonds), and Stage 3 (Consolidation), emphasizing the need for therapists to navigate the complexities of couples therapy. The hosts aim to demystify the model and provide listeners with practical insights and tools for effective therapy.TAKEAWAYSEFT is a journey that requires community support.Building relationships is central to the EFT model.The assessment phase is crucial for understanding clients' stories.Stage one focuses on de-escalating conflict in couples.Stage two involves deepening emotional connections.Therapists must navigate the complexities of modern relationships.Connection is a fundamental human need in therapy.EFT provides a structured approach to therapy.Understanding attachment is key to effective therapy.The podcast aims to simplify and clarify the EFT model.Exploring the Heart of Emotionally Focused TherapyBuilding Community in EFT"EFT is both simple and difficult.""We have a map and we have a path.""We are part of a system now."TITLESIntroduction to the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast 03:02The Journey of Emotionally Focused Therapy 05:49Building Community in EFT 08:30The Art and Science of EFT 10:36Navigating Complexity in Couples Therapy 11:30 The Evolution of Therapy Practices 14:19 Learning and Mastering EFT 16:10 The Artistic Nature of Therapy 18:18 Challenges in Modern Therapy 21:06The Gold Standard of Couples Therapy 22:31 Understanding Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) 23:37The Assessment Phase in EFT 30:09Exploring Individual Histories and Attachment 35:45 Stage One: De-escalation and Understanding Cycles 40:02Stage Two: Deep Emotional Work and Healing 44:29 Consolidating Learning and Moving Forward

Welcome to the Emotionally Focused Podcast! Join EFT Trainer Michael Barnett and EFT Supervisor Michael Preston for the initial season of The EFT Podcast: Foundations. Together we will be exploring the Art, Heart, and Science of Emotionally Focused Therapy. Come Join us for the conversation.The Emotionally Focused Podcast Season 1 Foundations, will air on Tuesday July 1st @ 8:00am EST. New Episode will be published every other week at the same time! Follow the show to stay in the know!