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💜 October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month -- First observed in October 1981 as a national “Day of Unity,” Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) is held each October as a way to unite advocates across the nation in their efforts to end domestic violence.Communities and advocacy organizations across the country connect with the public and one another throughout the month to raise awareness about the signs of abuse and ways to stop it, and to uplift survivor stories and provide additional resources to leaders and policymakers.National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)Text: START to 88788 https://www.thehotline.org/https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotlinehttps://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/lovelustfear exposes real stories about toxic dating and relationships. Every episode explores true dating and relationship stories—from the awkward and uncomfortable to the shocking and bizarre to the disturbing and downright dangerous. Host Jake Deptula (Strictly Stalking) welcomes storytellers into candid conversations, revealing the decisions they made and dilemmas they faced when better judgment got lost in a haze of desire. If you would like to share your story on lovelustfear or would like your story featured anonymously, please contact us at [email protected] links Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748/lovelustfear Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283 RSS feed https://audioboom.com/channels/5125912.rss social mediahttps://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/story submission information If you would like to consider being a guest on lovelustfear or would like your story featured anonymously, please contact us below.submission link | https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfearE-mail | [email protected] | https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/

What does coercive control look like when there are no visible bruises? How can power, religion, sexuality, mental health, isolation, and public perception become part of an abusive dynamic? And what happens when highly publicized cases are tried not only in courtrooms, but online?In this episode of LoveLustLaw, Attorney Michele Locke is joined by the Dirty Laundry Podcast Hosts Amanda Silver and Alex Howard, for a candid and wide-ranging conversation about coercive control, domestic abuse, mental health, faith, and the challenges of judging complicated cases from the outside.Using Netflix’s Death of a Pastor’s Wife and the Lindsay Clancy case as starting points, the conversation explores what these cases can – and cannot – tell us about the hidden dynamics that can exist behind closed doors.In this episode, we discuss:— What coercive control actually looks like and why abuse isn't always physical.— The allegations and relationship dynamics portrayed in Death of a Pastor’s Wife, including alleged grooming, sexual coercion, isolation, triangulation, public shaming, stalking, and cyberstalking.— The intersection of religion and power, including concerns about spiritual authority being used to influence intimate relationships and divorce decisions.— How shame, sexual expectations, and religious teachings can potentially become tools of control.— Mental health as a potential battleground, including allegations and questions surrounding diagnoses, treatment, medication, and who has influence over someone's care.— Why post-separation periods can be especially complicated, and the importance of safety planning when someone is attempting to leave a controlling relationship.— The importance of preserving texts, emails, recordings, social media posts, medical information, and other evidence when documenting concerning behaviour.— Legal developments surrounding coercive control, including Canada's emerging recognition of family violence involving coercive and controlling behavior.— The Lindsay Clancy trial, including the hung jury and the public debate surrounding mental health, postpartum crisis, and criminal responsibility.— Questions surrounding Patrick Clancy, the family's timeline and support system, and the limits of what the public can know from media coverage.— The significance of sealed evidence, including the 911 recording, and why missing pieces of evidence can make public conclusions especially difficult.— The danger of turning tragedy into an online courtroom, and why “keyboard warrior” judgment can do more harm than good.— How we can replace speculation and condemnation with curiosity, compassion, practical support, and constructive conversation.These cases have generated enormous public attention, but the bigger conversation is about something that happens far beyond the headlines: how people recognize coercive control, how victims seek help, how families and professionals respond, and how the legal system addresses behavior that may not leave obvious physical evidence.Michele, Amanda, and Alex also discuss an important question: What can we actually learn from these cases without pretending we know everything that happened behind closed doors?**DISCLAIMER** The information shared in this podcast is intended for entertainment purposes only. It should not be considered as professional legal advice or a substitute for seeking professional legal advice. Subscribe Here:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustlaw/id1819843688 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6BEWXKOaEo8lfK554a5NqE Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2789d9c8-b4ab-4b4a-847d-a469d89b1d0b/lovelustlaw YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lovelustlaw Want to reach out to me? You can email me at [email protected]. Want to find out what I'm up to? Follow me on socials (linked below).Just remember Michele is spelled with one L and you can thank my mother Margo for that :)LinksMichele Locke https://www.michelelocke.com/ https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/ https://www.tiktok.com/@attorneymichelelocke  https://www.linkedin.com/in/michele-locke/  https://www.youtube.com/@attorney-michelelocke  Dirty Laundry Podcast https://www.instagram.com/dirty.laundry.podcast/  https://www.youtube.com/@DirtyLaundryPodcast  Jake Deptulawww.instagram.com/jaked3000lovelustfear https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283 https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)Text: START to 88788 https://www.thehotline.org/https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotlinehttps://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/#narcissisticabuse #healingfromnarcissisticabuse #narcissistrecovery #narcissismawareness #truecrime #truecrimepodcast #truecrimecommunity #lindsayclancy #lindsayclancytrial #lindsayclancycase #postpartumpsychosis #postpartummentalhealth #deathofthepastorswife #micamiller #jpmiller #coercivecontrol #domesticabuse #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #hiddenabuse #relationshipabuse #toxicrelationships #gaslighting #stalking #cyberstalking #familylaw #familycourt #legalanalysis #crimeanalysis #relationshippsychology #mentalhealthawareness #divorce #abusiverelationships #lovelustlaw #dirtylaundrypodcast

In this deeply personal episode of LoveLustRaw, Michele opens up about the moments that changed her life, and the women who helped remind her that starting over is possible.Michele takes us from a hilarious and wildly awkward restaurant encounter into the much more vulnerable story behind her transformation. She reflects on once weighing nearly 300 pounds, undergoing gastric sleeve surgery, using Zepbound, and later having a 360 tummy tuck and inner thigh lift. Her transformation also involved two knee replacements, an ankle replacement, and three cervical fusions which allowed her to leave the sidelines and finally get back into the game of life. Along the way, Michele discovered that losing weight didn't automatically mean loving the woman in the mirror. Michele talks candidly about body dysmorphia, weight-loss plateaus, changing confidence, and the reality of “skinny privilege.”Then comes the harder story: after 22 years of marriage, Michele made the decision to leave in March 2024. She shares what escalating conflict, emotional strain, and controlling behavior felt like, and how the stress affected her physical health, including severe anemia and dangerously high blood pressure.Leaving wasn't the end of the story. It was the beginning of Michele finding herself again.She talks about rebuilding her health, rediscovering confidence, finding laughter and joy, and learning to give herself grace for the choices she made while simply trying to survive.Michele also pays tribute to a few of the women who inspired her. The most important influence came from her mother, Margo, whose strength shaped Michele from an early age and showed her how to survive anything life throws your way. To her mother Michele says “Thank You.”Michele also discusses more recent women that have been inspirations on her rebuilding journey post divorce. Women like Mackenzie Fultz aka Freedom Barbie, whose public journey and physical transformation have inspired her, and Brett Butler, a pioneering female comedian whose story and resilience have made an indelible mark on Michele’s journey of rebuilding, rediscovering, and finding joy again.In This Episode Michele's journey from nearly 300 pounds to a new relationship with her body Gastric sleeve, Zepbound, body contouring, and the realities of major weight loss Body dysmorphia and why transformation isn't always what you expect The complicated reality of “skinny privilege” Leaving a 22-year marriage and finding the courage to start over How chronic stress affected can affect health Learning to give yourself grace instead of living in regret The strength Michele learned from her mother The women who recently have inspired Michele: Mackenzie Fultz aka Freedom Barbie and Brett Butler Why laughter, resilience, and hope matter during reinvention The reminder that you can get out, you can heal, and you can begin again **DISCLAIMER** The information shared in this podcast is intended for entertainment purposes only. It should not be considered as professional legal advice or a substitute for seeking professional legal advice. Subscribe Here:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustlaw/id1819843688 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6BEWXKOaEo8lfK554a5NqE Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2789d9c8-b4ab-4b4a-847d-a469d89b1d0b/lovelustlaw YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lovelustlaw Want to reach out to me? You can email me at [email protected]. Want to find out what I'm up to? Follow me on socials (linked below).Just remember Michele is spelled with one L and you can thank my mother Margo for that :)LinksMichele Locke https://www.michelelocke.com/ https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/ https://www.tiktok.com/@attorneymichelelocke  https://www.linkedin.com/in/michele-locke/  https://www.youtube.com/@attorney-michelelocke  Jake Deptulawww.instagram.com/jaked3000lovelustfear https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283 https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)Text: START to 88788 https://www.thehotline.org/https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotlinehttps://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/#healingfromnarcissisticabuse #womenhealingwomen #selfloveafterabuse #findingyourvoice #boundariesarehealthy #traumarecovery #mentalhealthhealing #reclaimyourlife

What happens when a major fight, a career setback, and a question at a funeral force you to take an honest look at the life you're building?In this episode of LoveLustLaw, Michele Locke sits down with Mitchell Osmond of Dad Nation for a powerful conversation about marriage, personal transformation, emotional connection, and intimacy.Mitchell shares how losing a senior leadership role sent him into a difficult season of depression, weight gain, debt, and substance use. After a major fight with his wife—and a powerful question at a funeral, “Are you living a life worthy of imitation?”—he began an 18-month journey that included losing 60 pounds, paying off $100,000 in debt, getting sober, and rebuilding his marriage.Michele and Mitchell also explore why couples become emotionally disconnected, how communication breakdowns can contribute to marital conflict, why men can struggle to identify and express emotions,  practical ways couples can create greater intimacy and emotional safety,  and introduce Mitchell's Attraction Triangle: Seen, Heard, Safe.Key Takeaways Seen: Appreciation, acknowledgement, and affection. Heard: Use the Mirror → Summarize → Clarify active-listening loop. Safe: Build physical, financial, relational, and emotional security. Understand why emotional connection can matter more than simply trying to “solve” a problem. Learn how vulnerability and transparency can strengthen trust. Explore why respect and feeling valued can be especially important to men. Discover the “microwave vs. oven” analogy for intimacy. Try asking: “Do you want me to listen, or do you want me to help fix it?” **DISCLAIMER** The information shared in this podcast is intended for entertainment purposes only. It should not be considered as professional legal advice or a substitute for seeking professional legal advice. Subscribe Here:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustlaw/id1819843688 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6BEWXKOaEo8lfK554a5NqE Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2789d9c8-b4ab-4b4a-847d-a469d89b1d0b/lovelustlaw YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lovelustlaw Want to reach out to me? You can email me at [email protected]. Want to find out what I'm up to? Follow me on socials (linked below).Just remember Michele is spelled with one L and you can thank my mother Margo for that :)LinksMichele Locke https://www.michelelocke.com/ https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/ https://www.tiktok.com/@attorneymichelelocke  https://www.linkedin.com/in/michele-locke/  https://www.youtube.com/@attorney-michelelocke  Mitchell Osmond https://www.dadnationco.com/  https://www.instagram.com/dadnationco/  https://www.youtube.com/@dadnationco  Jake Deptulawww.instagram.com/jaked3000lovelustfear https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283 https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)Text: START to 88788  https://www.thehotline.org/ https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/ #marriageadvice #relationshipadvice #marriagepodcast #relationshippodcast #healthyrelationships #emotionalintimacy #emotionalconnection #marriagecommunication #couplescommunication #relationshipcommunication #mensmentalhealth #menswellness #personalgrowth #personaltransformation #selfimprovement #sobrietyjourney #marriagetransformation #rebuildingtrust #vulnerability #emotionalintelligence #intimacyinmarriage #healthycommunication #activeListening #emotionalSafety #marriagehelp #relationshiptips #husbandandwife #strongmarriage 

One juror. One holdout. No verdict.What happens when 11 jurors reportedly believe a defendant is not guilty by reason of insanity, while one juror refuses to agree?In this episode of LoveLustLaw, Attorney Michele Locke takes a closer look at the Lindsay Clancy trial and the legal and human questions left behind by a hung jury.Michele brings a unique perspective shaped by experience as a criminal defense attorney, magistrate, criminal jury foreman, and 22 years married to a highly regarded prosecutor who handled capital murder cases.She breaks down the insanity defense, reasonable doubt, jury deliberations, juror questions, and the Allen charge, while examining what the reported 11–1 split can - and cannot - tell us about the case. She also discusses the father's emotional 911 call and why the judge's decision to restrict its public release matters.But beyond the courtroom lies an even harder question: What does justice look like when severe mental illness, postpartum mental health, and an unimaginable crime collide?After a hung jury, is a retrial the right path - or does justice require something more?This is not just a conversation about a verdict. It’s a conversation about accountability, mental health, compassion, and what justice really means.**This episode contains discussions of child murder, assault, child abuse. Listener discretion is advised.In This Episode Why Michele Locke believes she is qualified to analyze criminal cases Her experience as a criminal defense attorney Working as a magistrate and the responsibilities that came with the role What she learned from serving as a criminal jury foreman Her 22-year experience observing high-profile criminal and capital cases An overview of the Lindsay Clancy trial What a hung jury means, and what it doesn't mean The reported 11–1 split over an insanity verdict How difficult it is to establish an insanity defense The emotional significance of the father's 911 call Why the judge's decision regarding release of the recording matters What juror questions can - and cannot - tell us The Allen charge and jury deliberations Why the length of deliberations isn't necessarily a roadmap to the verdict Postpartum mental health and criminal responsibility The difficult question of whether a retrial would constitute justice Topics: Lindsay Clancy trial, Lindsay Clancy verdict, insanity defense, hung jury, jury deliberations, Allen charge, postpartum mental health, criminal justice, reasonable doubt, true crime, legal analysis.#LindsayClancy #LindsayClancyTrial #InsanityDefense #HungJury #CriminalJustice #LoveLustLaw #MicheleLocke**DISCLAIMER** The information shared in this podcast is intended for entertainment purposes only. It should not be considered as professional legal advice or a substitute for seeking professional legal advice. Subscribe Here:Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustlaw/id1819843688 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6BEWXKOaEo8lfK554a5NqE Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2789d9c8-b4ab-4b4a-847d-a469d89b1d0b/lovelustlaw YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lovelustlaw Want to reach out to me? You can email me at [email protected]. Want to find out what I'm up to? Follow me on socials (linked below).Just remember Michele is spelled with one L and you can thank my mother Margo for that :)LinksMichele Locke https://www.michelelocke.com/ https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/ https://www.tiktok.com/@attorneymichelelocke  https://www.linkedin.com/in/michele-locke/  https://www.youtube.com/@attorney-michelelocke  Jake Deptulawww.instagram.com/jaked3000lovelustfear https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283 https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365)Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)Text: START to 88788 https://www.thehotline.org/https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotlinehttps://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/