Unspoken Emotions

In this episode, Rachel sits down with Jenny Briggs, whose daughter Sarah was diagnosed with a rare genetic anomaly and autism. Jenny opens up about the raw, unspoken reality of realizing your child's future will look vastly different from what you imagined. We discuss the heavy burden of parent guilt, the necessity of grieving the expected child, and the profound shift from trying to fix a child to simply joining them in their world.   KEY TAKEAWAYS  Your grief is valid: It is completely okay to love your child fiercely while simultaneously grieving the version of motherhood and the future you originally pictured.  Connection over correction: Instead of constantly trying to stop repetitive or atypical behaviors, use them as a doorway. Joining a child in their current world builds trust and leads to a genuine connection. Throw away the timeline: Standard developmental milestones can become a source of profound stress. Progress is still progress, even if it happens years later than expected. Celebrate the micro-wins. Comparison is isolating: Looking at neurotypical peers or even other neurodivergent children can quickly lead to feelings of inadequacy and loneliness.  Self-compassion fuels creativity: You cannot parent effectively if you are drowning in guilt. Acknowledging your difficult emotions and forgiving yourself allows you to be more present, creative, and resilient for your child. BEST MOMENTS  "I'm not a bad person. It's okay. I can love my child and be grieving what I thought I was going to have." "We were trying to meet her where she was, and we weren't stopping her repetitive behaviors. We were using those as the doorway to connection." "If you ask her a question, she might take 20 or 30 seconds to answer you. And you might have no acknowledgment from her that she has heard you or is planning on answering... If I don't count, three seconds feels like an eternity of being ignored." "I had this vision in my head then that I kept telling myself... 'someday we'll look back at this time and laugh because we will be in a different place, and we will say remember when Sarah didn't like to eat?' And that is true." "It has stretched my being, my soul, my spirit, my heart, my creativity more than anything ever has." To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  GUEST LINKS Website: https://www.watchingsarahrise.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferbriggsauthor Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jennifercelestebriggsauthor Book Link: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1647428246/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio HOST BIO   Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

In this poignant episode, Rachel explores the deeply personal story of Lisa Alexander, whose father, a large-scale drug trafficker known as Whitey, disappeared for 30 years. Lisa grew up believing her father was dead, only to discover decades later that he was alive and had been living under an assumed identity.  KEY TAKEAWAYS The Impact of Ambiguous Loss: Growing up with a missing parent creates a profound sense of uncertainty that can be more challenging to navigate than a clear death. Identity and Resilience: Lisa’s story highlights how a traumatic childhood can shape one’s identity and the immense strength required to build a positive life despite such a background. The Complexity of Reconnection: Finding a long-lost parent, especially under dramatic circumstances, brings a whirlwind of conflicting emotions, from shock and joy to anger and resentment. Choosing Peace Over Bitterness: Despite the trauma and betrayal, Lisa emphasizes the importance of choosing forgiveness and moving forward rather than being consumed by bitterness. The Power of Truth: Discovering the truth about her father’s life, including his work for the FBI, provided Lisa with a necessary, though complex, sense of closure. BEST MOMENTS "My dad was justhe was justhe went by 'Whitey' in Winnipeg. And he was just larger than life, and he did everything his own way." "I thought he'd forgotten about me. And he did show up that night. I remember I was in bed already, and he brought me a doll." "God, I love you. And that little girl got what she was looking for her whole life." "I’d rather be better than bitter, you know." "You’ve got to keep on moving on." To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

In this deeply emotional episode, Rachel sits down with Susan Bloom, a woman who spent over five years as the unwavering caregiver for her husband as he battled a rare autoimmune disease and subsequent blood cancer. Susan eventually found her path to healing and helping others through Equine Gestalt therapy. KEY TAKEAWAYS The invisible toll of caregiving is staggering: Over the course of her husband's illness, Susan drove more than 57,000 miles to take him to various specialists and hospitals across multiple states. Being "the strong one" often means suppressing your own reality: Living in a conservative rural community and being the daughter of a doctor, Susan felt she couldn't safely vocalize her struggles and shoved her own emotions down to remain a pillar of strength for her family and town. Medical crises compound in unimaginable ways: Susan was diagnosed with breast cancer just eight months before her husband passed, requiring her to manage her own lumpectomy and daily radiation treatments alongside his out-of-town chemotherapy appointments. There is profound relief in surrendering control: Susan experienced a turning point when she finally accepted that she could not fix her husband's terminal illness, choosing instead to mentally package her need to control the outcome and "send it back to the universe". Healing requires deliberate, active work: To process the years of accumulated trauma and grief, Susan trained as an Equine Gestaltist; she now uses her 100-acre ranch and her horses to help others navigate their own emotional pain. BEST MOMENTS "I shoved everything down. I was the strong person, not only for my family, but for everyone in the community because he was really well known." "I sat out in front of the house in my Jeep and I thought, I just want this to be over. I want him to be well again. And in that moment it occurred to me that there was another outcome, that it could be over." "When I was diagnosed with breast cancer in November of '18... I mean literally Rachel, I was like, oh well, I don't really have time for this." "I just decided that I will learn my lesson and I'll send it back to the universe." To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

In this moving episode, Rachel speaks with Gareth Riddy, whose life has been a series of profound transformations. Gareth opens up about a childhood marked by illness and a deep-seated sense of powerlessness, which eventually led him down a path of addiction as a means of escape.  KEY TAKEAWAYS Childhood experiences shape our emotional landscape: Gareth’s early struggles with asthma and frequent hospitalizations fostered a sense of helplessness and shame that influenced his later coping mechanisms. Physical empowerment can spark emotional change: Finding control over his body through fitness was a crucial first step for Gareth in realizing he wasn't just a victim of his circumstances. Trauma can be a catalyst for growth: Gareth views his most painful experiences, including his cancer battle, as "gifts" that provided him with a deeper appreciation for life and a new career path. Grief and guilt are often intertwined: Gareth shares how the guilt he felt after his mother’s passing unknowingly drove his work for years until he learned to process those emotions directly. Emotional healing is about completion: Gareth defines healing as the process of metabolizing suppressed emotions and "completing the incomplete" to free up energy in the nervous system. BEST MOMENTS "There was never any before illness because I was born a little bit ill." "The biggest, most painful moments of my life held the biggest gifts every single time." "You can't outthink how you feel." "Emotional healing to me today just means completing the incomplete... metabolizing the physical tension and charge of what that emotion is." "I tell people I'm an emotional laxative... I help people let go of old emotional shit so they stop spraying it over their future." To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

In this moving episode, Rachel sits down with Claire Adamou to discuss a form of grief that often goes unnoticed: identity erosion. Claire candidly shares her experience of losing herself within a high-control marriage where her confidence, ambition, and even her parenting were systematically critiqued. KEY TAKEAWAYS The "Functioning" Grief: Grief doesn't always look like crying; sometimes it looks like being "reasonable," coping, and functioning while you are internally dying. The Weight of Coercive Control: Emotional abuse and control can slowly diminish a person’s intuition and self-trust, making them a "shell" of their former selves. Defining "The Anchor": Moving forward requires "cutting the anchor," letting go of the past's toxicity rather than dragging it into your future. Seasonal Friendships: It is healthy to recognize that some relationships are only meant for a specific season, especially if they no longer provide psychological safety. Survival as a Catalyst: True change often begins the moment you realize that staying in your current environment is more painful than the fear of the unknown. BEST MOMENTS There is a particular kind of grief that doesn't look like grief. It looks like functioning. It looks like coping... until one day you realize you're no longer living, you're just enduring." "I didn't just leave a marriage; I left a version of me that had just gone so quiet, so silent." "How fast can you move forward when you've got this big bloody anchor that you're dragging behind you with all of this baggage?" "I've had people say, 'Is it the same you as prior to your marriage?' and I go, 'It's like me, but on speed.'" "The moment you start asking, 'Is this still me?' you're already beginning to come back." To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

In this heartfelt episode, Rachel welcomes Sarah Co, who shares her deeply personal journey of grief following the loss of her daughter, Jasmine, shortly after birth. Sarah opens up about the complexities of navigating life after such a profound loss, discussing the challenges of balancing her grief with her responsibilities as a mother to her living son. Sarah reflects on the importance of community support, the therapeutic power of writing, and the ways she honors Jasmine's memory, including celebrating her birthday and incorporating her into family life. KEY TAKEAWAYS The Complexity of Grief: Grief is a deeply personal experience that can be difficult to articulate, especially for those who have not experienced a similar loss. Ongoing Connection: The importance of remembering and honoring lost loved ones is emphasized. Celebrating milestones, such as birthdays, can be both painful and meaningful. Support Systems: Finding a supportive community is crucial for those navigating grief. Connecting with others who have experienced similar losses can provide comfort and validation, helping individuals feel less isolated in their pain. The Power of Expression: Writing and sharing personal stories can be therapeutic. It allows individuals to process their emotions and connect with others, fostering a sense of community among those who have faced similar challenges. Misunderstandings of Grief: There is a lack of understanding about the long-lasting nature of grief, particularly surrounding the loss of a child. Many people may unintentionally say hurtful things. BEST MOMENTS "I think the biggest thing for me is that I think she was incredibly strong and a fighter for, you know, making it as far as she did with the condition that she had." "You have to learn to move forward with your grief. You're never leaving them behind. You're never replacing them." "I just want her to know that everything I do is for her... she's not just a footnote in our story. She's an active part of our everyday life." "Grief doesn't follow a calendar. It shows up in songs, scents, moments, memories." "I think it's just nice when people do remember those days or take the time to say, how are you doing?" To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

In this episode, Rachel sits down with author and motivational speaker Craig Satkovsky to explore a life defined by radical survival and profound rebuilding. Craig opens up about the emotional battles often hidden beneath a person's visible strength, from surviving childhood molestation and teenage drug addiction to facing a series of life-threatening cancer diagnoses in his adult years. KEY TAKEAWAYS The Power of "Dark Work": True healing requires looking directly at past traumas - what Craig calls "dark work" to remove the emotional attachment from the story rather than just trying to forget it. Self-Accountability in Healing: Rebuilding your life is an individual responsibility. Craig emphasizes that while seeking help is vital, you must ultimately be the hero of your own journey. Regulating Biochemistry: Craig shares how he utilized mindset, frequency, and epigenetics to manage physical and mental pain, transitioning from a state of being "medicated" to being "coherent." Vulnerability as a Superpower: Especially for men, the willingness to be vulnerable and humble is a strength that prevents the "machismo" that often leads to internal collapse. Living in the Present: By letting go of the "old version" of himself, Craig illustrates that the future is just a theory. True life and peace are found only by showing up fully in the present moment. BEST MOMENTS "It’s always better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener at war. I believe we’re at war with ourselves every day mentally." "You have to go 'in-sane' in order to straighten your mind out." "The person you’ve always wanted to become is waiting for you to show up." "I used to think I was a liability until I realized I was an asset." "I’m here to disturb the comfortable and comfort the disturbed." To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠

In this episode, Rachel delves into the complexities of silence and its impact on mental health, particularly in the context of Time to Talk Day. Rachel explores why many individuals resort to silence as a survival strategy, highlighting that it often stems from past experiences where speaking up felt dangerous or led to dismissal.  KEY TAKEAWAYS Silence as a Protection Mechanism: Silence is not a personality trait but a survival strategy learned when speaking felt dangerous.  Impact of Unspoken Emotions: Unexpressed feelings do not disappear; they manifest physically and emotionally, leading to issues like tension, anxiety, and burnout.  The Importance of Connection: Humans are not designed to carry burdens in isolation. Genuine connection and being witnessed in our struggles are essential for emotional regulation and healing. Small Steps Toward Expression: Opening up doesn’t require perfect words or grand gestures. It can start with one honest sentence to a safe person, emphasizing that the act of speaking is more important than the content of the message. Valuing Your Voice: Everyone deserves to be known and heard. Time to Talk Day is about recognizing the validity of your feelings and the potential for connection, encouraging individuals to take small steps toward sharing their truths. BEST MOMENTS "Silence is not a personality trait. It's a protection mechanism." "You learned silence because at some point, speaking felt dangerous." "Humans aren't designed to carry everything in isolation. We regulate through connection." "Silence doesn't mean you're coping. It often means you're coping alone." "Talking doesn't mean telling everyone everything... It starts small. One honest sentence." To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

In this deeply moving episode, Rachel sits down with Jess Marie, host of the Unapologetically Overcoming podcast, to explore the complex and often disenfranchised journey of sibling loss. Following the sudden death of her younger sister, Hillary, Jess found her world and her identity completely reshaped. Jess shares the raw reality of moving from being the "positive advice-giver" to a person navigating intense anger, shame, and a total loss of self. KEY TAKEAWAYS Grief Reshapes Identity: Losing a sibling often means losing a primary witness to your life and a key part of your own identity The Power of Silent Presence: Often, the most helpful support isn't found in "tidy explanations" or advice, but in friends who are willing to sit in silence so the griever isn't alone. Disenfranchised Sibling Grief: Sibling loss is frequently overlooked or minimized, with survivors often told to "be strong for their parents," which can lead to suppressed emotions and delayed processing. Permission to Experience Joy: It is vital to understand that feeling happy or experiencing joy does not mean you have stopped grieving or forgotten the person you lost. Honesty Over Performance: Vulnerability, such as Jess's choice to share her struggles on social media, can break the cycle of performance and allow for true connection with others who feel alone in their pain. BEST MOMENTS  "Grief is not something that people talk about a lot... people are uncomfortable talking about it, they don't know what to say, they don't know what to do." "It’s okay to not say anything... sometimes just having someone there with you so you’re not alone is enough." "I lost the identity of who I was... Who am I now that I'm not Hillary's big sister?" "We walk around pretending to be versions of ourselves that we’re not because we think that’s how we’re supposed to show up in the world." "Just because you’re happy doesn’t mean that you’re not grieving anymore... it’s okay to be happy even when you’re grieving." To connect with Jess Marie: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/unapologetically-overcoming/id1625971200 To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

In this poignant episode, Rachel explores the heavy reality of Divorce Day in the UK, the first working day of January. While the date is often associated with legal filings, Rachel dives deeper into the emotional exhaustion and silent withdrawals that happen long before any paperwork is signed. Rachel discusses the unique pressure of the holiday season, the Christmas pretending that eventually gives way to a quiet realization that something is fundamentally broken.  KEY TAKEAWAYS Divorce Day's Seasonal Significance: Falling on the first working day of January, this day marks the moment many people stop "pretending" after the holidays and realize they can no longer carry the weight of an unhappy relationship. The "Silent Withdrawal": Relationships rarely end with an explosion; they often end through a slow process of no longer sharing small things or raising concerns because it feels "pointless". Guilt vs. Loyalty: Staying in a toxic or draining relationship out of a sense of duty is often "self-abandonment" rather than true loyalty or commitment. Redefining Stability for Children: Children don't necessarily need "perfect" families; they need emotionally healthy parents who model honesty and self-respect. Grief and Relief Coexist: It is possible to feel both heartbroken over a lost future and deeply relieved to be leaving a painful situation at the same time. BEST MOMENTS "You're not asking for too much; you’re just asking the wrong person." "Divorce rarely starts with paperwork. It starts with emotional exhaustion." "Staying doesn't always mean commitment. Sometimes it means fear wearing loyalty’s clothes." "Relief doesn't cancel grief. Strength doesn’t erase sadness." "Rebuilding yourself isn't about becoming someone new. It's about returning to who you were before you learned to shrink." To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

In this illuminating episode, Rachel sits down with Charlotte Haggie, a resilience specialist for high-achieving working mothers. Charlotte shares her personal journey from a "frenetic" corporate life to a more grounded, authentic existence, illustrating that the "perform-to-belong" rules many high-achievers live by are not only exhausting but can be safely dismantled.  KEY TAKEAWAYS  The "Perform to Belong" Trap: Many high-achievers live by unwritten rules where their sense of belonging is tied directly to their performance and success. The Power of Curiosity: Transformation starts with being curious about your own internal landscape and questioning why you feel driven to behave in certain ways. Internal vs. External Chaos: Internal peace is the foundation for a sustainable external life; without it, external success often feels like a fragile facade. Self-Trust is a Skill: Building self-trust happens through small, consistent acts—like drinking a glass of water every morning—which prove to your nervous system that you can follow through for yourself. Co-Regulation as a Gift: By mastering your own internal state, you can positively influence the nervous systems of those around you, especially your children. BEST MOMENTS "Something feels tight, rushed, or anxious—like you're holding your breath through your own life."  "We think that this is just the way that life is... that I'm going to walk out of my gate, smile, and put on this facade, and yet inside there is this chaos." "The interesting thing about the false identities that drive this behavior is that they convince you that they're actually serving you."  "I'm not scared of dying; I'm scared of feeling like this for the rest of my life."  "If I can regulate myself, I can co-regulate with my children... that is such a beautiful gift we can give the world."  To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

In this episode, Rachel engages in a heartfelt conversation with Valerie Rubin, an attachment specialist with an anxious style and a trauma-informed somatic coach. Valerie shares her personal journey of navigating anxious attachment, chronic pain, and the complexities of relationships with emotionally unavailable partners. KEY TAKEAWAYS Anxious Attachment is Common: Approximately 50% of people in the United States struggle with anxious attachment, yet many feel isolated in their experiences. Healing is a Journey: Healing from anxious attachment is not a linear process and does not mean being completely "healed." It involves understanding and addressing deep-rooted patterns, often linked to childhood experiences and trauma. Body and Mind Connection: Anxious attachment manifests physically in the body, leading to issues such as chronic pain and anxiety. Healing requires addressing both the mind and body, utilizing techniques like somatic therapy and vagus nerve stimulation to create a sense of safety. Choosing Yourself: Choosing oneself involves setting boundaries and recognizing one's needs. It can feel uncomfortable and anxiety-inducing, especially after a lifetime of prioritizing connection with others over self-care. Compassion and Patience: It's essential to practice self-compassion and patience throughout the healing process. Acknowledging that feelings of anxiety and fear are normal and that growth takes time is crucial for developing a healthier relationship with oneself and others. BEST MOMENTS "People carry so much shame and feel like something is wrong with me because they struggle with having an anxious attachment or feeling pulled toward people they know aren't good for them." "Anxious attachment is literally just a symptom of the dysregulation in your body. It's a reflection of how you were treated growing up." "Our nervous system is looking for the familiar. It will always go toward a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven." "There are so many people going through the same or have been or maybe have been through the other side now. It's... a massive statistic for the U.S. as well, unbelievable." "When we start to do these small moments, this communicates to your body, your brain, and your nervous system that I'm someone worth caring for." To Connect With Val Website: https://www.valrubin.com/ Her podcast - The Anxiety Recovery Podcast: https://spotify.link/75rKte7pRJb Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/?hl=en To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

In this episode, Rachel engages in a heartfelt conversation with therapist and coach Blair Pfeiffer, who shares her deeply personal journey of navigating childhood differences, a violent relationship, and the complexities of unexpected motherhood through open adoption. Blair reflects on her late diagnosis of ADHD in her late 30s, coinciding with the onset of perimenopause, which brought clarity to her past struggles and experiences.  KEY TAKEAWAYS Validation Through Diagnosis: Receiving a late diagnosis of ADHD in her late 30s provided a sense of validation and clarity, helping to explain lifelong struggles and experiences that had previously felt isolating and confusing. Importance of Supportive Relationships: Building strong friendships and support systems was crucial during challenging times, such as navigating a violent relationship and an unexpected pregnancy. Therapeutic Fit Matters: Finding the right therapist is essential for effective therapy. It's important to keep searching until a good match is found, as the therapeutic relationship can significantly impact healing and personal development. Empowerment Through Vulnerability: Sharing personal experiences in therapy can foster deeper connections and understanding between the therapist and client, allowing for more effective communication and healing. Navigating Life Changes: Major life events, such as pregnancy and the transition into perimenopause, can be overwhelming but also provide opportunities for growth and self-discovery, especially when supported by understanding and compassionate individuals. BEST MOMENTS "I was a shell of myself. I really wasn't fully who I was... I was severely depressed and I had PTSD." "I always knew I had ADHD... but never got treated for it, never got medicated for it." "I didn't want her to have to struggle because I was struggling. I wanted her to have a fulfilling life." "If at any point this isn't a good fit, you let me know." "I was like, I could help people. I'm going to go back to school. I'm going to become a therapist."  TO CONNECT WITH BLAIR https://www.instagram.com/blairpfeiffercoaching/  To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

In this heartfelt episode, Rachel reflects on the transformative lesson she learned in 2025 about self-abandonment and the importance of prioritizing oneself. As she prepares for the new year, Rachel shares personal stories and insights from her life and those of her clients, illustrating how women often neglect their own needs while caring for others. Through poignant anecdotes, she emphasizes that self-respect, self-love, and setting boundaries are essential for emotional well-being.  KEY TAKEAWAYS Self-Abandonment vs. Self-Care: The episode emphasizes the importance of recognizing self-abandonment, which often masquerades as generosity or duty. Personal Stories as Lessons: Through various personal anecdotes, the discussion illustrates how different women experience self-abandonment in their lives. These stories serve as mirrors for listeners to reflect on their own behaviors and the impact of neglecting their needs. The Power of Promises: A key resolution shared is the promise not to abandon oneself in 2026. This involves making conscious choices to prioritize self-care, set boundaries, and recognize that one's needs and emotions are valid and important. Imagining a Better Future: The episode encourages listeners to envision a future where they have not abandoned themselves. It paints a picture of a fulfilling life where individuals feel whole, present, and able to give to others without resentment or depletion. Community and Support: The call to action invites listeners to share their own experiences of self-abandonment and their journey towards self-acceptance. This fosters a sense of community and support, reinforcing that they are not alone in their struggles. BEST MOMENTS "A promise that I will not abandon myself anymore. Not for family, not for friends, not for work, and not for guilt." "I realized I treat my cleaner better than I treat myself." "I don't think I live in my own life anymore." "Your needs are not optional. Your emotions are not inconvenient." "I realized I was waiting for permission that only I could give myself."  To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

In this episode, Rachel is joined by renowned somatic psychotherapist and author Tracy Whitton to explore the profound journey of nervous system healing. Tracy shares her deeply personal story of "falling apart" on the inside while maintaining a high-functioning exterior, a state many women find themselves in today. After facing consecutive life-threatening illnesses with her children and the onset of perimenopause, Tracy reached a breaking point that forced her to apply her own somatic expertise to her recovery.  KEY TAKEAWAYS Survival Mode is Exhausting but Protective: Tracy describes living in a "fawn" and "flight" response where she felt a constant sense of impending doom and hyper-vigilance, often putting on a "mask" or "suit" to function in the world while collapsing internally. Implicit Memory and Guilt: Many parents carry "implicit memories"—sensations or feelings of dread not tied to a specific date—that can manifest as intense guilt or a feeling of failing their children, even when circumstances are outside their control. The Body Speaks in Sensation: Healing requires moving from "wild mind" (the stressed sympathetic state) to "wise mind" (the regulated parasympathetic state) by learning to interpret the body's sensations as messages rather than threats. Consistency Over Intensity: Tracy emphasizes that small, 1% shifts made daily through consistent practices like walking and meditation are more effective for long-term nervous system regulation than occasional intense efforts. The Power of "Leaning In": Instead of running from or judging difficult emotions like anger or sadness, Tracy teaches the practice of "leaning in" to the discomfort and wrapping it in a sense of tenderness and care to allow it to pass. BEST MOMENTS "My body speaks in sensation, and I am listening." "Your body isn't failing you. It's just communicating, and we just have to get that language right." "I went in fighting, kicking, and screaming, and then I realized the gifts of surrender." "The first 100 words of text on the page... my body felt like it was on the floor... I didn't know if I could go on." "It's about having that wise mind... It's okay for me to feel sad about that. It's okay for me to feel anger." To Connect With Tracey Insta: @stillness_through_movement Book on amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/j0PqQbo Web: www.stmt.com.au To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

WARNING: THIS EPISODE CONTAINS EXPLICIT GRAPHICAL CONTENT  In this poignant episode, Rachel engages in a deeply moving conversation with Samantha Dale, the best friend and sister figure of Suzanne Capper, a 16-year-old girl who was brutally tortured and murdered in December 1992. Samantha shares cherished memories of Suzanne, highlighting her vibrant spirit and infectious laughter, before delving into the harrowing details of the events leading up to Suzanne's death. KEY TAKEAWAYS Graphic Content Warning: The podcast episode discusses the horrific torture and murder of 16-year-old Suzanne Capper, with graphic descriptions that may be distressing for listeners. Suzanne's Character: Suzanne is remembered as a bright and gentle teenager with aspirations of fame. She had a vibrant personality, loved music, and enjoyed typical teenage activities, showcasing her infectious giggle and a mix of girly and tomboy traits. Friendship Dynamics: The relationship between Suzanne and her best friend, Samantha, evolved as they grew older. Samantha distanced herself from Suzanne due to concerns about the company Suzanne was keeping. Systemic Failures: There were significant failings by social services, schools, and the community in recognizing and addressing the warning signs surrounding Suzanne's troubled home life and the dangerous individuals she became involved with. The Impact of Trauma: Samantha discusses the long-lasting effects of guilt and trauma stemming from Suzanne's murder. She reflects on her journey of self-forgiveness and the importance of addressing buried emotions. BEST MOMENTS "She was always longing to fit in anywhere she could go, really, looking for love. And she was very naive." "I carried a hell of a lot of guilt... I know now I can tell my younger self that I wasn't responsible for what happened to Suzanne." "They tortured her for seven days... They made her shave her hair off and then made her clean it up afterwards." "How does a child even begin to make sense of something so unimaginable?" "To think I'm a grown woman and what she went through, most grown men wouldn't have been able to put up... She was a warrior." FIND SAMANTHA’S BOOK HERE https://www.amazon.co.uk/stores/Samantha-Dale/author/B0G6TJZSGB?ref=ap_rdr&shoppingPortalEnabled=true To connect with your host, follow Me HERE:  Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO  Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

Ready to lighten the weight you’ve been carrying? Rachel invites you to join her 6-week emotional reset programme - Breakthrough .It’s a deeply supportive journey designed for women who’ve been silently carrying unspoken emotions and are ready to reconnect with peace, confidence, and self-trust again. If something inside you knows it’s time, email rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk with the word “Breakthrough.”Quote “podcast” for 10% off your place in the next cohort. In this episode, Rachel dives into the silent, corrosive emotion of resentment and the hidden toll it takes on busy, strong women. Rachel shares her deeply personal story of keeping a physical "Resentment Jar" where she secretly stored all the things she swallowed instead of saying out loud, from unwashed mugs to a desire for support.  KEY TAKEAWAYS Resentment is a Quiet, Poisonous Hum: It's the feeling you get when you're doing everything, but no one notices, often manifesting as a quiet, poisonous hum that sits under your ribs. The "Good Girl" Syndrome: Strong women often believe they "just cope" and "don't make a fuss," leading them to swallow their feelings to "keep the peace," which ultimately leads to resentment. The Physical Cost of Suppression: When you swallow a feeling that needs to be said, your body floods with stress chemicals, just like when you're in danger. These chemicals stay in your body, making you feel "tight, sore, and so bloody exhausting". Suppression Leads to Anxiety and Sleep Issues: Studies show that when women keep stuffing their feelings down, anxiety symptoms "go through the roof" and their sleep gets "properly wrecked". The 7-Minute Release Practice: The episode offers a gentle, body-based practice to allow emotions to move through you, starting with identifying where the feeling lives in your body and using deep, sighing breaths and movement to release it. BEST MOMENTS "That quiet, poisonous hum that sits under your ribs when you feel like you're doing everything and nobody even notices. You know the one: resentment." "Good girls just don't make a fuss, right? Strong women just cope. They find a way, they make a way. Mums just get on with it. That's what we do." "It was safer at that time than speaking." "My shoulders dropped, my jaw unclenched. I cried like a baby in the dark and it sort of felt like the first honest breath I'd taken in years." "You're not a horrible person for feeling resentful. You're a woman who's been carrying the world on her shoulders and pretending it's light." To connect with your host follow Me HERE: Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

Ready to lighten the weight you’ve been carrying?Rachel invites you to join her 6-week emotional reset programme - Breakthrough.It’s a deeply supportive journey designed for women who’ve been silently carrying unspoken emotions and are ready to reconnect with peace, confidence, and self-trust again. If something inside you knows it’s time, email rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk with the word “Breakthrough.”Quote “podcast” for 10% off your place in the next cohort. In this episode, Rachel speaks with Carolina Gonzalez, a certified meditation and mindfulness teacher based in Sydney, Australia. Carolina shares her transformative journey from chaos to clarity, detailing the challenges she faced during her marriage breakdown and the loss of her mother to terminal cancer.  KEY TAKEAWAYS Embracing Impermanence: Life is inherently unpredictable and fragile. Understanding this can empower individuals to take risks, express themselves authentically, and live fully without the fear of wanting things to be a certain way. The Power of Mindfulness: Mindfulness teaches that there is always a space between a trigger and our response. This awareness allows individuals to choose how they react to situations. Small Steps Matter: Meditation and mindfulness do not require extensive time commitments. Even a few minutes of intentional breathing or self-reflection can create significant positive changes in one’s mental state and overall well-being. Seeking Help is Courageous: Expressing emotions and asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. It’s important to reach out to others when feeling lost or overwhelmed, as support can be crucial in navigating difficult times. Universal Connection Through Suffering: Everyone experiences pain and suffering in their unique journeys. Recognizing this shared human experience can foster compassion and empathy. BEST MOMENTS "Life has a way to show us that we have no control over external factors." "It's about really sitting with them... you dip in a little bit in the pain and you feel it and you come back." "The way you feel is not who you are; you are so much more than that." "It's okay to feel how they are... you don't need to know where you're heading." "When we learn to love ourselves, then we can also learn to love others from a deeper part of us." To connect with your guest Carolina Gonzalez: Website: www.carolinagonzalezmindfulness.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carolina.gonzalez.minfulness To connect with your host follow Me HERE: Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

Ready to lighten the weight you’ve been carrying?Rachel invites you to join her 6-week emotional reset programme - Breakthrough.It’s a deeply supportive journey designed for women who’ve been silently carrying unspoken emotions and are ready to reconnect with peace, confidence, and self-trust again. If something inside you knows it’s time, email rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk with the word “Breakthrough.”Quote “podcast” for 10% off your place in the next cohort. In this heartfelt episode, Rachel offers a soothing 15-minute guided practice designed to help listeners reconnect with their bodies and emotions. Following a powerful discussion on guilt from the previous week, Rachel emphasises the importance of acknowledging and normalising our hidden feelings. Through deep breathing exercises and mindful awareness, listeners are encouraged to explore their physical sensations and emotions, allowing for a soft release of tension.  KEY TAKEAWAYS Emotional Acknowledgement: The podcast emphasises the importance of recognising and naming emotions that are often kept hidden, such as guilt, to foster healing and connection. Mindful Breathing: A guided breathing exercise is introduced as a practical tool to help listeners calm their minds and bodies, encouraging them to breathe deeply and focus on their physical sensations. Body Awareness: Listeners are encouraged to identify where they feel tension or discomfort in their bodies, promoting self-awareness and the understanding that it's okay to feel these sensations. Gentle Release: The practice includes a method for gently releasing tension by visualising it softening and allowing it to leave the body, reinforcing the idea of self-compassion and kindness. Ongoing Support: The episode highlights the availability of a six-week breakthrough program for those seeking deeper emotional work, emphasising that there is no rush and that individuals can join when they feel ready. BEST MOMENTS "This is exactly why I show up here each week, to name the emotions we usually keep tucked away, to make them feel normal and human, and okay to talk about." "You just looked in instead of looking away, and that alone starts the shift. You're doing really, really well, and I'm so proud of you." "This practice is something you can do every single day, whether you're in bed, in the school car park, or even on the loo with the door locked." "Your nervous system is learning that it's safe to trust you again." "You deserve to feel this calm every single day, not just in those stolen moments." To connect with your host follow Me HERE: Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.

Ready to lighten the weight you’ve been carrying? Rachel invites you to join her 6-week emotional reset programme - Breakthrough. It’s a deeply supportive journey designed for women who’ve been silently carrying unspoken emotions and are ready to reconnect with peace, confidence, and self-trust again. If something inside you knows it’s time, email rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk with the word “Breakthrough.”Quote “podcast” for 10% off your place in the next cohort. In this deeply personal solo episodeRachel Elimelech opens her heart to explore one of the heaviest emotions we can carry - Guilt. Not the fleeting kind that comes from forgetting a text or saying the wrong thing, but the soul-deep guilt that settles in your body and shapes your entire life. Rachel speaks vulnerably about how unspoken guilt after trauma can manifest physically through exhaustion, anxiety, tension, and illness. And how our bodies hold on to what our voices never say. KEY TAKEAWAYS Trauma-Related Guilt is the "Guilt of Hindsight": This deep-seated guilt is not about small mistakes, but about what the mind thinks "should have been done differently”. Guilt is the Mind's Response to Lost Control: The mind writes the story of guilt when the heart is hurting, trying to make sense of the senseless and restore a sense of predictability and control lost during a traumatic event, even if self-blame is destructive. Emotional Silence Has a Real Physiological Cost: Suppressing emotions forces the body into a state of "survival mode," which is physiological and not just a metaphor.  "Armour" is Protection, Not True Strength: The coping mechanism of building "armour" around emotional pain. Healing Begins When Guilt is Brought to Light: Emotional release starts not by forcing forgiveness, but by bringing the guilt into the light and allowing it to be witnessed, as "guilt cannot survive where truth is spoken".  BEST MOMENTS "Guilt that sits on your chest like a heavy stone and whispers to you every now and again things like, 'you should have known' or 'you should have protected'." "The world doesn't always understand this kind of guilt, because it isn't logical, it's emotional. It doesn't come from the mind, it comes from the heart." "Guilt is the story the mind writes when the heart is hurting. It tries to make sense of the senseless." "The body holds what the voice cannot speak. This isn't a metaphor, it's physiological, it's absolutely real." "Healing happens in connection because guilt cannot survive where truth is spoken." TO CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST, FOLLOW ME HERE: Insta:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/rachel_unspokenemotions/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠www.tiktok.com/@rachel.unspoken.em⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠⁠rachel@unspokenemotions.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/rachel.elimelech⁠⁠   To Buy Rachel a Coffee: ⁠⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/unspokenemotions⁠⁠  LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachel-elimelech-a07a1a46/⁠⁠  HOST BIO Rachel Elimelech is the warm, courageous voice behind Unspoken Emotions - a podcast that gives voice to the feelings we so often keep buried. A qualified Solicitor and Higher Court Advocate, Rachel combines professional insight with deeply personal lived experience - from surviving sexual abuse, loss, and single parenthood to rebuilding her life with quiet strength and unwavering resilience. Her journey from teenage single mum to respected legal professional has shaped her gift for deep connection. With empathy and authenticity, Rachel creates a safe, judgment-free space where guests are invited to speak the unspoken - grief, guilt, shame, anger, fear - and begin to let go of what no longer serves them. Through honest, unfiltered conversations, Unspoken Emotions explores how real people have turned pain into purpose and silence into healing. Rachel believes that healing begins the moment we speak the truth of our experiences - and that none of us should carry our emotions alone.