Uncoupled & Unfiltered

On this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, I sit down with Anne K. Wintemute, Co-Founder and CEO of Aimee Says—an innovative AI-powered support tool designed for survivors of relationship abuse and domestic violence.We explore what makes this tool so powerful, how it supports survivors in moments of confusion or overwhelm, and the ways it helps people find their voice, advocate for themselves, and regain a sense of grounding when everything feels like it’s spinning.Key Topics Covered:Why Aimee Says was created and the critical gap it fills for survivors—one that existing resources and systems often fail to address.How Aimee Says differs from tools like ChatGPT, and why it’s specifically designed with survivor safety, validation, and advocacy in mind.How post-separation abuse is rarely researched or meaningfully addressed, and why survivors are so often expected to “move on” while the abuse continues.The reality that the burden of proof so often falls on the victim—not the perpetrator—and how easily emotions can take over during testimony. We discuss how this AI tool helps survivors stay grounded, clear, and regulated when it matters most.Using Aimee Says to navigate complex dynamics with court-appointed minor’s counsel or custodial evaluators.How Aimee Says can support survivors in rebuilding trust in new relationships, recognizing triggers, and navigating healthy relationship dynamics moving forward.“The antidote to chaos is clarity.” - Anne K. WintemuteAbout Our Guest: Anne K WintemuteAnne K. Wintemute is the Co-Founder and CEO of Aimee Says, an AI-powered support tool created for survivors of relationship abuse and domestic violence. With deep expertise in post-separation abuse and survivor advocacy, Anne developed Aimee Says to address critical gaps in existing support systems and help survivors find clarity, grounding, and their voice. She is a frequent speaker and advocate at the intersection of trauma-informed care, technology, and survivor empowerment.Who This Episode Is For:Survivors of relationship abuse or domestic violence who are seeking clarity, validation, and tools to help them find their voice.Anyone navigating the family court system, including interactions with custodial evaluators or court-appointed minors’ counsel.Advocates, therapists, and legal professionals who want to better understand survivor-centered, trauma-informed support tools.Individuals are rebuilding trust after abusive relationships and learning how to navigate new dynamics with greater confidence and self-awareness.Anyone interested in how ethical, purpose-driven AI can be used to support healing, advocacy, and personal empowerment.Connect with Anne K. Wintemute:Website:  https://www.aimeesays.com/en/home LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anne-wintemute-897077106/ Connect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Substack: https://substack.com/@thriveagaindc Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 🎧 Listen, Subscribe & ShareFollow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show.

On this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, I sit down with Dr. Kerry McAvoy, a retired clinical psychologist, author, leading expert on narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, and a survivor of narcissistic abuse herself.We explore what narcissism truly is, why this form of abuse is uniquely destabilizing, how to recognize the signs, what to watch for, and how to protect yourself — including how to reclaim and rebuild your life after the relationship ends.This is NOT a breakup story. It’s a survival conversation.Key Topics Covered:A clinical definition of narcissism, and how it differs from ordinary selfishness — including distinctions between narcissism, psychopathy, and sociopathyHow victims are selected, and why survivors are often among the strongest, most capable individuals — contrary to common misconceptionsWhat a relationship with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) looks and feels like from the insideWhat makes narcissistic abuse uniquely harrowing, and how it can permanently rewire victims’ brain functioning long after the relationship endsWhy survivors often stay longer than outsiders expect — and why “just leaving” is rarely simpleHow abuse frequently escalates after the relationship ends, and the forms it takes Why being targeted does not end with separation — even when the abuser remarries or appears to move onPractical strategies to reclaim your life rather than living in fear of the next reaction or moveDating after narcissistic abuse, including warning signs to recognize early and when to walk away“If you feel like everything is risky, like you're walking on water and you're trying to manage another person's emotional response, I think that's a sign that something's wrong.” - Dr. Kerry McAvoyAbout Our Guest: Dr. Kerry McAvoyDr. Kerry McAvoy is a retired clinical psychologist, author, and leading expert on narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships with over 25 years of clinical experience. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast, where she combines research-backed insight with personal experience to help survivors understand abusive dynamics and reclaim their lives. Her memoir Love You More offers a candid look at her own journey through narcissistic abuse, and her work — including books and courses — provides practical guidance for those healing from trauma and confusion caused by manipulative partners.Who This Episode Is For:Survivors of narcissistic abuse seeking clarity, validation, and language for their experienceAnyone navigating separation, divorce, or post-separation conflict with a high-conflict or narcissistic partnerThose questioning whether what they experienced was “really abuse.”Professionals, friends, or family members wanting a deeper understanding of narcissistic dynamicsSurvivors preparing to date again and hoping to recognize red flags earlyAnyone rebuilding their sense of self after a relationship that distorted realityBig Five Personality Test - to assess your personality style. Narcissistic abuse survivors tend to score high on agreeableness and conscientiousness.“Is It Toxic or Troubled” survey with a free online self-paced course to help those with a troubling relationship, be it a romantic partner, a friend, a co-worker, or a family member. Connect with Dr. Kerry McAvoy:Website Facebook Instagram YouTube Tiktok Book: Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossConnect with Ksenia Muench:WebsiteInstagram LinkedIn Substack Email 🎧 Listen, Subscribe & ShareFollow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show.

On this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, I’m joined by Dr. Marni Feuerman, a distinguished psychotherapist based in South Florida and widely recognized for her expertise in relationships. Together, we dive into why exes can be so tempting—whether it’s the same ex or the same pattern in a different face. We unpack why we tend to idolize past partners, explore the personality traits that make some people more likely to return to an ex, and discuss how to break the cycle and move forward in a healthier, more intentional way.Key Topics Covered:Why exes can be so tempting—and why the pull can feel so strongWhen going back to an ex might be a good idea… and when it’s a clear mistakeHow personal growth (or the lack of it) impacts your decision-making about revisiting past relationshipsThe boundaries you need to set to move on and break the cycle trulyThe personality traits and attachment styles that make some people more likely to repeat old relationship patternsHow loneliness, fear of being single, and emotional vulnerability impact decisions about reconnecting with an exThe role social media and digital contact play in reigniting old relationshipsSelf-reflection questions to help identify unresolved feelings and determine whether revisiting an ex is healthy or harmfulAbout Our Guest: Dr. Marni FeuermanDr. Marni Feuerman is a distinguished psychotherapist based in South Florida, specializing in relationships and personal growth. She is widely recognized for her expertise in helping individuals and couples navigate breakups, understand attachment patterns, and build healthier relationship habits. With years of clinical experience and a compassionate, insightful approach, Dr. Feuerman provides practical guidance for creating meaningful connections and breaking repetitive relationship cycles.Who This Episode Is For:Anyone struggling with the pull of an ex or wondering why past relationships feel so temptingPeople who have found themselves repeating old relationship patterns and want to understand whyThose navigating breakups or divorces and seeking clarity on moving forward in a healthy wayListeners are curious about how attachment styles, personal growth, and emotions influence decisions about reconnecting with an exAnyone looking for practical strategies and boundaries to break the cycle and build healthier future relationships“Time is your friend in these circumstances. You should not need to rush anything, especially with a new partner or making a decision.” - Dr.  Marni FeuermanConnect with Dr.  Marni Feuerman:Website:  https://thetalkingsolution.com/ , https://www.drmarnionline.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarnifeuerman/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrMarniFeuerman Connect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 🎧 Listen, Subscribe & ShareFollow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show.

In today’s episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, we sit down with Rene Garcia, a men’s divorce and recovery coach who helps men rediscover their identity and masculinity after divorce.This fascinating conversation offers women a rare glimpse into the male perspective—what men are truly thinking, feeling, and experiencing during and after divorce, but often don’t share.If you’ve ever been curious about what’s really going on inside a man’s mind after a relationship ends—and how we can begin to bridge that gap—this episode is for you.Prepare yourself for an unfiltered discussion.Key Topics Covered:Inside the male mindset during and after divorce: emotional, mental, and identity shifts from a man’s perspectiveWhy men are often less emotionally prepared for divorce than womenDivorce recovery timeline for men: what healing realistically looks likeCustody battles and co-parenting challenges men face after divorceDating after divorce for men: common mistakes and changes needed for successHow men rebuild confidence, self-worth, and masculinity after divorceWhat men wish women understood about their experience during separation and divorceHow to connect with our guest, Rene Garcia, men’s divorce and recovery coach“The hard part is the divorce. The loss is what scares me at night. But the recovery is a lot easier. It is so much easier than guys think, because they start realizing that they can focus on themselves.” - Rene GarciaAbout Our Guest: Rene GarciaRene Garcia is the founder of Men’s Divorce Coaching (MeDiCo), a divorce and recovery coach who helps men navigate the emotional, strategic, and personal challenges that come with divorce and post‑divorce life. Through one‑on‑one coaching, group support, and a structured recovery framework, Rene works with men worldwide on rebuilding confidence, identity, decision‑making, and future relationships after divorce. Who This Episode Is ForWomen who want a deeper understanding of what men experience during and after divorceMen navigating separation, custody challenges, or rebuilding their lives post-divorceAnyone curious about male emotional processing, dating after divorce, or long-term relationship recoveryListeners seeking unfiltered insight into the male perspective on divorce and healingConnect with Rene Garcia:Website:  www.mensdivorcecoaching.com Connect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 🎧 Listen, Subscribe & ShareFollow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show.

On this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, we explore modern dating, healthy relationships, and how to raise your standards without building emotional walls.I’m joined by renowned dating coach and relationship expert Evan Marc Katz, author of four books and host of the Love U Podcast with nearly 3 million downloads. His work has been featured on The Today Show, The New York Times, and The Wall Street Journal.Together, we break down how to recognize healthy love, shift dating patterns, and choose the relationship you truly deserve.Key Topics Covered:Overcoming trust issues and dating after disappointmentWhy “mixed signals” usually aren’t confusing—and what they really meanHow to tell if he’s looking for short-term fun versus long-term commitmentDo men actually listen to what women say in dating and relationships?The difference between being ready to date and simply craving validationThe hard dating truths divorced women often avoid—but need to hearThe most common red flags women ignore early onWhy dating apps are a necessary part of modern datingIntimacy early in dating and how to know when the timing is rightThe best dating advice people hate hearing—but works“It’s not right versus wrong, it’s effective versus ineffective. If what you’re doing is working for you, then keep doing it.” - Evan Marc KatzAbout Our Guest: Evan Marc KatzRenowned dating coach and relationship expert Evan Marc Katz, who’s helped thousands of smart, successful women find lasting love. He is the author of four books, his Love U Podcast has nearly 3 million downloads, and he has been featured in hundreds of media outlets, including Today, the New York Times, and the Wall St. Journal.Who This Episode Is For:Women navigating modern dating and relationship burnoutAnyone struggling with trust issues or mixed signalsDivorced or newly single women reentering the dating worldThose questioning whether a relationship has real long-term potentialListeners are ready to raise their standards and choose healthier loveConnect with Evan Marc Katz:Website:  https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog Connect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 🎧 Listen, Subscribe & ShareFollow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show.

On this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, we sit down with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby—licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, board-certified life coach, and founder of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching—to venture down a dark and winding tunnel: rebound relationships. Together, we explore what makes rebounds so powerful, unpack the biological forces driving them, and examine how to survive the heartbreak that often follows when the adventure ends.If you think a rebound could never happen to you, think again. It’s not about how smart, experienced, or “healed” you are—these relationships have a way of sneaking in. This episode helps you recognize the signs, understand the dynamics, and navigate rebounds with clarity and compassion.Key Topics Covered:What a rebound relationship is—and the key identifiers that help you recognize oneWhy rebound relationships are so irresistibleWhy do rebounds hurt more and feel more devastating than the long-term marriage or partnership you leftThe biology behind rebound dynamics and how your body responds when you’re in onePractical tips for healing and recovering from the heartacheCasual sex and its impact on womenWhether physical and sexual attraction can grow if it isn’t present at the beginningWhat a truly healthy relationship feels likeIMPORTANT: Not all therapists are the same, and not all are equipped to help you effectively process and heal from heartache.“If somebody can't answer why their relationship ended and how they co‑created what happened, it's very likely they will drag the same things into whatever partnership they get into again.” - Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyAbout Our Guest: Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyDr. Lisa Marie Bobby is a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and board-certified life coach. She is the founder of Growing Self Counseling & Coaching, where she helps individuals and couples build healthy, meaningful relationships and navigate major life transitions. Known for blending evidence-based psychology with warmth and real-world insight, Dr. Bobby is also a sought-after speaker, author, and podcast host dedicated to helping people create lives—and relationships—that truly work.Who This Episode Is For:Anyone who has found themselves in a rebound relationship—or worries they might be in one nowPeople who have separated or divorced and believe they don’t fall into the rebound categoryThose who consider themselves self-aware or “healed,” yet want to understand why rebounds still happenListeners seeking clarity on what healthy love actually feels like before entering their next relationshipAt Growing Self, we have a team of amazing clinicians who specialize in love, happiness, and success, many of whom have expertise in Heartbreak Recovery and Divorce Counseling. Check it out by clicking on this link: https://www.growingself.com/divorce-counseling/ Connect with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby:Website: www.growingself.com Social Media: @growing_selfConnect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 🎧 Listen, Subscribe & ShareFollow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show.

In this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, we explore a more positive side of divorce. While high-conflict divorce can be messy and emotionally draining, not every breakup stays that way. Host Ksenia Muench sits down with Doug Sandler to hear his personal story—from the challenges he faced during his difficult divorce to how he eventually found resolution and growth. This episode offers insights into navigating breakups, coping with divorce, and finding hope even in tough times. Listen in to discover Doug’s journey and see that not every divorce ends in heartbreak.Key Topics Covered:The pivotal moment that sparked change during a difficult divorce.How support from friends, mediators, or time helped navigate challenges.Letting go of limiting beliefs and shifting perspectives on an ex-partner.The role of empathy and understanding in fostering civility.Changes in communication and the importance of setting respectful boundaries.Choosing civility over conflict, even when anger resurfaces.Differentiating between forgiveness and cooperation in co-parenting or separation.Personal growth and lessons learned through the divorce process.Advice for navigating the “ugly” phase of a breakup.Reflection on what truly matters in moving forward after divorce.“To stay together and be miserable makes no sense. Either figure out how to be happy or move on and be happy. Those are really your only two choices.” - Doug SandlerAbout Our Guest: Doug SandlerDoug Sandler is an entrepreneur, bestselling author (Nice Guys Finish First), and podcast host (The Nice Guys on Business). With over 30 years of experience, he helps people build meaningful connections, navigate challenging conversations, and grow personally and professionally—even through difficult life transitions like divorce.Who This Episode Is For:Individuals going through a divorce are looking for guidance and hope.People seeking strategies to communicate more respectfully and maintain civility with an ex.Anyone interested in personal growth and learning from the challenges of breakups.Listeners curious about real-life stories of transformation and finding resolution after divorce.Connect with Doug Sandler:Website:  https://www.dougsandler.com/ , https://turnkeypodcast.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/doug-sandler/ Connect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 🎧 Listen, Subscribe & ShareFollow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show.

In this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, we sit down with Vikki Stark, psychotherapist and author of Runaway Husbands, to explore why some men emotionally or physically disappear during marriage or divorce.We unpack what defines a runaway husband, the role of emotional avoidance, fear of conflict, and identity loss, and how sudden withdrawal and lack of closure impact spouses, families, and children. This conversation offers insight for anyone navigating divorce, separation, or emotional abandonment—and a deeper understanding of men’s emotional coping in modern relationships.Key Topics Covered:What the “Runaway Husbands” phenomenon really meansWhy do some men emotionally or physically disappear during marriage or divorceEmotional avoidance, conflict fear, and identity loss in menThe psychological impact of abandonment on spouses and familiesWhether runaway husbands are becoming more common todayWhy closure is often missing—and how to heal without itWhat women wish they had understood sooner about emotional withdrawalHow to move forward after a sudden separation or divorceWho This Episode Is For:Women experiencing sudden separation or divorceAnyone dealing with emotional abandonment or lack of closureListeners interested in relationship psychology and divorce recoveryThose seeking clarity around men’s emotional behavior in relationships“Life will go on, and you will have a new chapter, and it might be a very nice chapter.” - Vikki StarkAbout Our Guest: Vikki StarkVikki Stark is a psychotherapist and author specializing in relationships, marriage breakdown, and emotional abandonment. Her work focuses on helping individuals understand the dynamics of sudden marital disengagement and healing after divorce.Connect with Vikki Stark:Website:  https://www.vikkistark.com/ Connect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 🎧 Listen, Subscribe & ShareFollow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show.

In today’s episode, we explore the often-confusing intersection between civil divorce and Catholic annulment, unpacking what each process truly means—and what it does not. We discuss the legal, emotional, and spiritual weight carried by both, especially when faith, identity, and high-conflict relationships are involved. This conversation centers on clarity, boundaries, and honoring lived experience in the midst of profound change.Key Topics Covered:Divorce and annulment serve different purposes ⁃ Divorce provides legal closure around property, finances, and custody. ⁃ A Catholic annulment is a spiritual process declaring a sacramental marriage invalid from the start. ⁃ One does not replace or override the other.Both processes carry deep emotional weight ⁃ Divorce can trigger grief, anger, guilt, relief, or ongoing pain, especially with children involved. ⁃ Annulment may feel like erasure, rejection, or betrayal, particularly for non-initiators. ⁃ All emotional responses are valid and deserve compassion.Annulment cannot be enforced through civil law ⁃ Courts have no jurisdiction over Church annulments. ⁃ A spouse cannot legally require an annulment as part of a divorce settlement. ⁃ Using annulment as leverage is manipulation, not a legal or moral obligation.High-conflict dynamics can weaponize faith ⁃ Annulment may be used to protect reputation or shift blame. ⁃ It can rewrite shared history and compound emotional harm. ⁃ Ongoing contact, especially through co-parenting, can slow healing.Your lived experience remains valid ⁃ Church decisions are made by human institutions and are not infallible. ⁃ An annulment outcome does not define your worth or negate your memories. ⁃ Healing comes from truth, clarity, and self-protection—not control.“Annulment does not erase memories, children, or emotional bonds. It's a spiritual declaration, not a reset button.” - Ksenia MuenchGrab this handy tool to see the differences side by sideLegal Divorce Vs Catholic Annulment Connect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 🎧 Listen, Subscribe & ShareFollow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show.

Today’s episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered dives into entrepreneurship with the founder and the managing partner of Esse Law, Shaheen Sheik-Sadhal. We talk about the right corp structure for your goals, financing, do’s and don’ts for investors, exit strategy, and much more.Did you know that out of $330 billion invested (yes, BILLIONS), only 2% was invested into female-founded businesses?Tune in to find out more.Key Topics Covered:Legal Structure for your business. ⁃ We discuss legal business structures that go over the differences between when you are doing it on your own and when you are looking for investors. ⁃ We cover the mistakes new founders make and some practical advice on what founders should do before raising money.Looking for Capital ⁃ In this part of the conversation, we go over what investors are looking for before writing a check. ⁃ Shaheen covers what a good pitch looks like and why it is important to present in a concise manner: Investors invest in YOU. ⁃ “Fun” fact: men founders get funded more easily compared to their female counterparts - why do you think that is?Exit strategy ⁃ We discuss when it may be the right time to exit, and the answer may surprise you. ⁃ Shaheen goes over the proper planning strategy prior to your planned departure.Final Thoughts ⁃ We are having some fun with a rapid Q&A session with our guest. ⁃ We cover key takeaways for the brave souls who want to make a difference in this world and how to do it right. ⁃ Connect with our guest.“You have to be brave and optimistic, but not overly confident… If you can feel like you're on purpose and either that you are being inspired or that you're inspiring other people - If you can make it something larger than just yourself, it will get you through some of those darker, tougher times.” - Shaheen Sheik-SadhalConnect with Shaheen Sheik-Sadhal:Website:  https://esselaw.com/ Connect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 🎧 Listen, Subscribe & ShareFollow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show.

Life after divorce doesn’t end when the paperwork is finalized. In this episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, we explore how divorce can become a catalyst for emotional healing, personal growth, and empowered relationships.I’m joined by JJ Flizanes, empowerment strategist, relationship and wellness expert, and podcast host, who shares powerful insights on emotional awareness, identity shifts, and intentional healing after divorce.In This Episode, We Cover:Why the emotional aftermath of divorce can last for yearsThe anatomy of emotion and why emotional reactions are normalWhy therapy alone isn’t always effectiveHow divorce reshapes identity and creates emotional blocksWays to release emotional patterns and rebuild self-trustLetting go of the “old self” and stepping into a new identityMoving from survival mode to true empowermentShifting focus from lack to possibility14-day Manifestation Challenge starting January 5thhttps://jj-flizanes.mykajabi.com/14-day-manifestation-challenge-1Bonus Resource:A downloadable worksheet is available to help you reflect on emotional patterns, reconnect with yourself, and begin the healing process discussed in this episode.Life After Divorce Worksheet “Your comfort zone keeps you comfortable, but if you want more or better, you have to pass through the comfort zone into something scary.” - JJ FlizanesConnect with JJ Flizanes:Website: https://jjflizanes.com/ Connect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 🎧 Listen, Subscribe & ShareFollow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show.

In today’s episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered, I explore why more women are choosing to stay single—and why this shift is accelerating. Current statistics show that over 37% of women are opting out of romantic partnerships, with projections suggesting that number could reach 50% by 2035. So what’s driving this change?I share my personal story that led me to opt out of dating, and unpack more reasons behind this shift. The biggest threat to men's loneliness is not another man, but a woman who is fed up with half efforts, not being seen or heard, and who finally knows her worth and chooses herself.Whether you’re single by choice, happily in a relationship, or feeling frustrated by today’s dating dynamics, this episode is for you. Get comfortable—and let’s get into it.Topics Covered in This Episode:Why women are choosing to stay singleModern dating challenges and dating fatigueEmotional labor and relationship imbalanceWomen, independence, and self-prioritizationRedefining love, fulfillment, and partnershipPerfect For Listeners Interested In:Women and singlenessModern dating cultureRelationships and emotional healthPersonal growth and independenceFeminine empowerment and choice“Why we're choosing to stay single? Because it feels lighter. It feels more peaceful. There is no drama.” - Ksenia MuenchConnect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 🎧 Listen, Subscribe & ShareFollow Uncoupled and Unfiltered on Spotify, Prime, and Apple Podcasts for weekly conversations about divorce, relationships, dating, and self-discovery. If this episode resonated, please rate, review, and share to help others find the show.

Today’s episode of Uncoupled and Unfiltered uses the metaphor of a toxic relationship to unpack what happens when your car turns out to be a “lemon.” Ksenia sits down with lemon law attorney Michelle Fonseca-Kamana of West Coast Lemons APC to explain how lemon laws actually work, what qualifies as a defect, and the myths that confuse most buyers.Michelle breaks down why repeated repair attempts matter, how safety issues can fast-track your rights, and why documentation is your strongest protection. They also discuss attorney fees, strict timelines, and the risks of used cars, “as is” sales, and new or experimental brands.It’s an empowering conversation that helps consumers, especially women who are often dismissed at dealerships, understand their rights, protect themselves, and walk away from bad cars before they become toxic relationships.Key Topics Covered:Lemon Car “red flags.” ⁃ The Lemon Law is legally defined ⁃ What makes your car a lemon? ⁃ Does having a warranty mean you can’t file your case under Lemon Law?“Breakup” Process ⁃ We are discussing steps to take once you think your car is a lemon. ⁃ How long does the process usually take? It really depends. ⁃ Worst car manufacturer to deal with. ⁃ The most frequent car brands with a lemon.“Rebound” Rides ⁃ Are there “healthier” car brands to try post lemon “breakup”? ⁃ We dive into tips on how to avoid getting another lemon. ⁃ We also break down new vs certified pre-owned vs pre-owned: know the difference and don’t believe everything you hear at a dealership.Final Thoughts ⁃ Our guest shares things she wishes you knew about cars. ⁃ Tips on how to be effective and get the results you want when working with a lemon law attorney. ⁃ Reach out to West Coast Lemon APC to get the exclusive Car Buying 101 guide.“Knowledge gives you confidence. Once you have that roadmap, you’re better able to stand up for yourself at the dealership.” - Michelle Fonseca-KamanaConnect with Michelle Fonseca-Kamana:Website:  https://westcoastlemons.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-fonseca-kamana-lemonlawattorney/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/westcoastlemons/?hl=en Connect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 

In today’s episode, I’m getting a little personal and diving into the often-overlooked topic of boundaries in the dating world—yes, those things we all pretend to have until feelings get involved. I’m sharing my own experiences and breaking down what dating single moms can really look like. Spoiler: it’s not always snack time and superhero movies… but sometimes it is. We’ll also get into why some people tap out before they even tap in, and trust me, the reasons can be wild. It’s all real talk, a little laughter, and hopefully a clearer picture of what you’re signing up for—or running from.Key Topics Covered:Current Dating Culture ⁃ Dating after divorce is unavoidable unless you decide to swear it off for good. ⁃ How to lose a guy in 10 days today.Dating Single Moms ⁃ Is it a fun time or a boundary? ⁃ Why dating single moms is a privilege. ⁃ Why dating single moms is a no-fly zone.Boundaries in Dating ⁃ Why I don’t date single dads, and it has nothing to do with the children. ⁃ Why ex ex-partners always have a special place in our hearts when we share children? ⁃ It is never over with the ex-partner if you have a cordial and mutually respectful co-parenting relationship.Lessons Learned ⁃ I talk about emotionally processing statements that can be hurtful or offensive. ⁃ I discuss how to filter out and let go of things that are not relevant or have no impact on our lives. ⁃ I cover how these experiences teach us to establish stronger boundaries and help us elevate.“Dating is an inevitable part of after-divorce life, unless you decided to swear off dating for good, which is not that challenging, considering how messed up dating culture is today.” - Ksenia MuenchConnect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com

Today we’re sitting down with the incredible Life Coach, Jacqueline Hawk Crichton, who helps us explore what truly happens when we give ourselves permission to ask — to ask for what we want, to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be seen and heard.Have you ever wondered what might have happened if you had simply asked? Because now you know what happens when you don’t — you’re living that version of your life today.In this conversation, we’ll dive into how to overcome the fear of being labeled as “too much,” “harsh,” or “entitled,” and how to face the fear of rejection head-on. We’ll also explore how to stop standing in our own way so we can reach our goals and create the life we dream of.So get comfy, grab a snack, and let’s dive in!Key Topics Covered:Psychology and Mindset of Asking ⁃ Common fears behind asking ⁃ Is there a difference between a powerful ask to advocate for yourself and being entitled?Effective Way of Asking ⁃ Core principles of the ask ⁃ Does reading your audience in terms of timing and context matter? Or is it using, looking for a way to hide? ⁃ Common mistakes to avoidHow the ability to ask can change your life ⁃ Professional career growth ⁃ Personal fulfilling relationships ⁃ The outcome of the divorce settlementQuestions to ponder  ⁃ What is the best ask you have ever made? ⁃ Is there an ask you regret? ⁃ Would you rather ask or regret not asking?Final Thoughts ⁃ The struggle to ask is real ⁃ We all seem as if we are waiting for permission without realizing we already have it ⁃ How to learn to feel empowered to advocate for yourself, and why it is easier as we get older“We will regret more not asking for something than if we do.” - Jacqueline Hawk CrichtonConnect with Jacqueline Hawk Crichton:Website:  https://www.soarcc.com/ Connect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 

In this episode, I’m diving into answering a million-dollar question - Is It Truly ever Over?The divorce papers are signed, the court dates are behind you, and legally — it’s over. But what happens when your ex just won’t let go? Today, we are unpacking one of the most difficult and emotionally challenging realities: life after a high-conflict divorce, especially when one person can’t — or won’t — move on even if on the surface it looks like they have.We explore what “final” really means when you're dealing with an obsessive ex, the signs of post-divorce harassment or emotional entanglement, and how to protect your peace, your boundaries, and your future. From co-parenting challenges to stalking, manipulation, or continued legal threats, the fight can often continue long after the ink is dry.If your divorce is final but the drama continues, this episode is here to remind you that you’re not alone.Key Topics Covered:Forced Presence of Ex ⁃ When your ex continues to show up in your life despite the divorce being final. ⁃ How do they create situations where you’re forced to interact or respond?Tactics used to maintain engagement and control ⁃ What “no-contact” ideally looks like — and why it’s hard in high-conflict cases. ⁃ Indirect contact through mutual friends, kids, or social media. ⁃ Provoking responses through others or triggering situations. ⁃ Unspoken threats Obsession vs Closure ⁃ Signs that your ex is not just angry — but obsessed. ⁃ What if it looks like they have moved on, but still won’t let you go?Why? ⁃ Does WHY really matter? ⁃ Shifting focus from their motives to your protection.Light at the end of the tunnel ⁃ The slow burn of situations improving over time in high-conflict divorces. ⁃ What you can do to protect yourself. ⁃ Advice from listeners?“Will it ever stop? It will take years and a lot of actions on her part—creating distance, managing her responses, and letting her boundaries evolve and adjust based on her former spouse’s actions.” - Ksenia MuenchConnect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 

Have you ever found yourself wondering, “Will it ever be me?”—when it comes to love, relationships, and finding the right person? If so, this episode is for you.Today, we’re joined by Christina Gonzales Hicks, who shares her unique dating journey. Together, we dive deep into what it means to rediscover yourself, align with your highest good, and attract the love you truly deserve.In this episode, we talk about green and red flags in dating, advice we wish we hadn’t taken, and much more.Key Topics Covered:Christina’s story ⁃ Divorce and dating with a twistThe inner work: making powerful internal shifts ⁃ Rediscovering yourself ⁃ Staying authentic and aligned with your core values ⁃ Understanding the balance between masculine and feminine energyNavigating the challenges of modern dating culture ⁃ How to avoid getting stuck in unfulfilling dating dynamics ⁃ Spotting the right person and knowing when it’s realGAME Time  ⁃ In this part of the interview, I ask our guest rapid-fire, simple questions that reveal some secrets women don’t want you to know, what matters to us, some icks, and more.Final Thoughts ⁃ Don’t give up - live in the moment and know it is like riding a train: you know your stop is coming up.“One of the best pieces of advice I got was to do things that you enjoy... because a lot of times where you end up meeting someone that you really want to be with is on whatever you like to do for fun.” - Christina Gonzales HicksConnect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 

In this episode, I’m stepping outside my usual comfort zone and doing something I don’t do often — sharing a personal story. It’s a moment in my life that changed the way I see the world, and more importantly, the people in it. Sometimes, it takes a simple experience to truly reveal the character of those around you — who’s genuinely there for you and who only shows up when it’s convenient.This story is one of those turning points — a situation that, in a way, 'fixed' my vision and helped me see everything more clearly. If you've ever had an eye-opening moment like that, I think you’ll relate.So, tune in to hear what happened, how it shifted my perspective, and why I believe these experiences, though painful, are necessary. And if you’ve gone through something similar, I’d love to hear your story too.Key Topics Covered:Compliments ⁃ Do we know how to accept a compliment? ⁃ Is it cheesy or sincere?Responses Incoming ⁃ Responses are split into camps of “heck yeah” and “ewww” ⁃ Who is your friend and who is your foe?Teenager perspective ⁃ Take compliments at face value  ⁃ Your true friends celebrate happy moments with you ⁃ Foes make you feel less thanDivorce and friends ⁃ Your experiences update your social circle, with people dropping out and new people coming in ⁃ Is having a small circle of friends good or bad? ⁃ What kind of experiences fix your vision?“We learn from mistakes way more than we learn from victories.” - Ksenia MuenchConnect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 

In this episode, we sit down with Ruchita Shah, Senior Director at CBIZ Forensic Consulting Group, to uncover how forensic accounting can bring truth and clarity to complex divorces. With years of experience tracing hidden assets and analyzing marital finances, Ruchita reveals how a forensic CPA helps ensure fair settlements and financial transparency when trust has broken down.We discuss what red flags may signal the need for a forensic expert, how lifestyle analysis shapes spousal support, and why documentation and early action are key to protecting your financial future. Through real-world examples and practical advice, Ruchita shows how understanding your numbers can be one of the most empowering steps in your divorce journey.Key Topics Covered:○ Forensic accounting 101 ⁃ Understanding the role of a forensic CPA in divorce litigation ⁃ Differences between traditional and forensic CPAs ⁃ How financial investigations help achieve transparency and closure○ Lifestyle analysis and marital standard of living ⁃ How lifestyle assessments shape spousal support and property division ⁃ Income-based vs. expense-based lifestyle methods ⁃ Why clarity about marital expenses helps both spouses○ Spotting financial red flags ⁃ Common signs that a forensic investigation may be needed ⁃ When income and lifestyle don’t align ⁃ Evaluating if an investigation is worth the cost and peace of mind○ The forensic process ⁃ Step-by-step breakdown of how CPAs review disclosures, tax returns, and records ⁃ How assumptions are made when data is incomplete ⁃ Working under an attorney's direction and collaborating with opposing experts○ Protecting yourself during a divorce ⁃ What to gather early: tax returns, bank statements, and key financial documents ⁃ Why you should file a support order as soon as possible ⁃ Importance of transparency, responsiveness, and involving a financial advisor early“It’s not just us accountants who learn from lifestyle analysis — it’s the clients too. They realize, often for the first time, what their true expenses are and what their life really costs.” - Ruchita ShahConnect with Ruchita Shah:Website: https://www.cbiz.com/about/people/ruchita-shah LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ruchita-shahcpa/ Connect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com 

In this episode, I’m taking you on an adventure to uncover what a divorce team really is—and why having one can make all the difference in your journey.Divorce is not just a legal process; it’s an emotional, financial, and often spiritual transformation. And unless you’ve walked through it before, this stage—the “D” step—can leave you feeling completely overwhelmed, like a deer caught in the headlights. Today you’ll learn who should be on your team, what roles they play, and how each person can help you move forward with more clarity and confidence. By the end of this episode, you’ll see why you don’t have to face this alone.Key Topics Covered:Divorce Team - What it looks like - Why do you need a divorce team when you decide to go through with a D wordWho should you approach first? - Let’s talk about the order in which it is best to contact the team - What roles do each expert play in the divorce saga?Common misconceptions - My attorney is all I need. - I just know stuff, and I can handle it. - It is not going to be that bad.Results - Proactive vs reactive - More money in your pocket - More time in your day for: • You • Your family • Your dream life/career“Abuse can be very insidious. It’s not always visible. It doesn't always leave bruises.” - Ksenia MuenchConnect with Ksenia Muench:Website: https://www.thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thriveagaindivorcecoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kvmuench/ Email: ksenia@thriveagaindivorcecoaching.com