Style Like a Mother

I'm back after a Year of the Snake shedding period, and starting up on Substack! Come party with me: https://substack.com/@laurenmessiah    Today's episode is inspired by a question from one of my Style Boss Academy students. She wanted to know how I was preparing my business for the Year of the Fire Horse (which starts on Feb 17th).   Inside the episode:   Why I Disappeared (and What Sparked This Episode) What Is the Year of the Fire Horse? Dates, Energy & Big Themes Looking Back: Year of the Snake—Shedding, Motherhood & Redefining Wealth Dreams, Money Beliefs & the New Mantra: ‘Being Effective Gets Me Paid’ Fire Horse Traits: Sovereignty, No Boxes, Visibility Business Shifts: High-Touch Coaching, Fewer Launches, More Freedom + Mastery Uncurated Visibility: Showing Up Unscripted (and the Spiritual Nudge to ‘Be Yourself’) Motherhood in Fire Horse Energy: Self-Directed Life Force & Creative Space Style as Spiritual Growth Let's connect: Have a question or want me to dive deeper into a topic from the episode? DM me on Instagram or email info@laurenmessiah.com  

Breaking Free from Unrealistic Celebrity Style Standards Pulling back the curtain on what makes your favorite celebrities so stylish 24/7. Spoiler Alert: It's an impossible standard that no woman should hold herself to. Inside this week's episode, we're setting a new style standard for ourselves. A standard that puts energy first and style second. Inside the episode: The influence celebrities have on our personal style Why the standards we're holding ourselves to are completely unrealistic   A behind-the-scenes look at celebrity style How to be at peace with your real-life style Watch the episode:  https://youtu.be/95DgXv_4Z3A  Let's connect: Have a question or want me to dive deeper into a topic from the episode? DM me on Instagram or email info@laurenmessiah.com  

Navigating Maternity Leave as an Entrepreneur This is the information I wish I had when I was an expecting entrepreneur. Inside this episode we'll walk through practical tips for preparing your business for motherhood, going on a PAID maternity leave as an entrepreneur, and navigating growing your business while pregnant. Inside the episode: How to balance your business while pregnant Tips on how to prepare your business for maternity leave and motherhood  How to get paid maternity leave as an entrepreneur  Watch the episode: https://youtu.be/_p87aakz6rQ  Let's connect:  Have a question or want me to dive deeper into a topic from the episode? DM me on Instagram or email info@laurenmessiah.com

Transform Your Life and Business by Being Cringe We're talking all things 'cringe' and how it impacts our lives and businesses. We often encounter cringe-worthy content on social media that triggers secondhand embarrassment. The fear of being cringe prevents us from starting new ventures, creating impactful work, and ultimately blocks our success. So let's cringe our way to the top!  Join the Challenge: https://style.laurenmessiah.com/offers/Ezjfxvi8/checkout  Inside the episode: How being cringe made me more money (and increased my business by 483%) All the ways cringe can lead to spiritual and personal growth  How YOU can cringe your way to the top inside my 30 day challenge  Watch the episode:  Let's connect:   Have a question or want me to dive deeper into a topic from the episode? DM me on Instagram or email info@laurenmessiah.com

What it’s like to navigate entrepreneurship before and after becoming a mother. From time freedom to identity shifts, spiritual growth, money changes, and how a change in lifestyle impacts ambition. Inside the episode: How becoming a mom changed my business, finances, and priorities Running a business without childcare Redefining success to go beyond revenue and designer bags The emotional and financial pressure of supporting a family while figuring out “what’s next”  Watch the episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I9n9RHSS5Jo  Let's connect:   Have a question or want me to dive deeper into a topic from the episode? DM me on Instagram or email info@laurenmessiah.com

If you’ve ever felt pressure to show up as the polished, filtered, “brand-friendly” version of yourself, this episode is for you.  What we talk about: The difference between realness vs. performative realness What social media used to feel like (the 2005 blogging era + drunk Twitter) Why people are craving authenticity more than ever The time I breastfed during a surprise "cameras on" podcast episode  How being your real self changes everything from dating to business Journaling Prompt: How can I return to realness in my life, my style, or my business? What does one small step toward being more myself look like today? Let's Connect:  Follow me on Instagram @laurenmessiah

Can you borrow energy from clothing and transmute it into your own? We're exploring that concept in this week's episode 'The Frequency of Style.'  What we talk about: The story behind my $4,000 Prada bag and why it was more than just a purchase How style operates on a frequency and what it means to “borrow” that energy Why a Zara outfit can make you feel just as powerful as Prada (but only when your energy is on point) How to go from borrowing energy and becoming it (and then transmuting everything to match it) How to use clothing, coaching, and creativity as stepping stones to your next level What it looks like when your style begins to match your frequency  A practical experiment to help you notice and embody the energy behind what you’re naturally drawn to Resources mentioned: Style Like a Mother Episode 2: The Prada Bag Story Bonus Episode: The Dragonflies Made Me Do It Follow me on Instagram @laurenmessiah

 Who Do You Want to Be? I almost didn’t record this episode. I was tired, just got back from traveling with Onyx (his first flight!), and after being stranded at LAX for 90 minutes without a car seat, the last thing I wanted to do was podcast. But a commitment is a commitment, and I made one to show up every week. This week’s episode was inspired by a DM from a listener who’s struggling with ruined clothes from baby messes, and feeling like she’s losing herself in motherhood. We talk about: - The difference between who you’re becoming and who you want to be- How your style can help you stay connected to yourself- Why your “fancy clothes” are meant to be lived in, not saved- Letting go of perfection and choosing presence If you’ve ever looked at your closet and thought, “What’s the point?” this one’s for you. Resources Mentioned: The Mommy Makeover Series on Instagram Submit a Question: DM me on Instagram @laurenmessiah or email info@laurenmessiah.com with your style, motherhood, or mindset questions.  

Episode 12:  The Missing Link: What My Hair Taught Me About Business This week’s episode is a special one, it’s the first time I’m recording on video! If you want to see my face while I talk, head over to my YouTube channel (@LaurenMassiah) and check it out. I don’t know if this video thing will be a regular thing, but for now, we’re rolling with it. This episode wasn’t planned at all. I had a whole calendar mapped out, but life threw me a curveball. I was challenged to say “yes” to things I’d normally say “no” to, and here we are, on video, talking about a topic I never thought I’d share: my hair journey and how it ties into business and motherhood. Buckle up, because this episode is raw, unstructured, and totally off the cuff.   Listen on Apple Podcasts  >> Listen on Spotify >>     What You’ll Hear in This Episode:   My Hair Journey: Growing up mixed race in the DMV (DC, Maryland, Virginia area), my hair was always a struggle. My mom, who isn’t Black, did her best, but she didn’t know how to handle my texture. From mayonnaise treatments to dreadlocks in college, to chemical relaxers and disastrous DIY experiments, my hair has been a lifelong challenge. It wasn’t until I discovered wigs and weaves that everything changed. That missing link opened up a whole new world for me. The Concept of the Missing Link: Whether it’s hair, business, or motherhood, there’s always a piece of information or guidance that can transform your journey. For me, discovering wigs and weaves was the missing link for my hair. In business, it was learning about marketing and sales. In motherhood, it’s understanding that you can’t do it all and need to prioritize. How to Find Your Missing Link: Stop beating yourself up for not knowing everything. Ask questions. Seek guidance. Pray, journal, or call in the answers from the universe. Once you identify what’s missing, you can take the next right step to get closer to your goals. Postpartum Hair Freedom: Since becoming a mom, I’ve been embracing my natural hair more and letting go of the need to hide behind extensions and wigs. It’s been freeing, and I’m learning to be okay with myself in this new chapter of life.   Episode Highlights:   -"Stop looking at other people and wondering what’s wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with you, you just haven’t gained the complete knowledge yet."-"If you change the question to start asking for all of the information, instead of beating your head against the wall, everything changes." -"Figure out where you want to go, ask what’s missing, and then call in the guide or the next right step to close the gap."   Resources Mentioned In This Episode: -YouTube Video Episode: If you want to see my face, then head over to my YouTube channel (@LaurenMassiah) and check it out.     Connect with Me: So I have to ask you... what’s your missing link? What’s that one thing you feel like you’re stuck on, and what’s stopping you from asking for help? Shoot me a DM on Instagram (@laurenmessiah) or email me at info@laurenmessiah.com. I’d love to hear your story. Follow the Style Like a Mother Podcast 🎧 to stay updated on new episodes and free gifts. ​ Follow @laurenmessiah for more insights on style, motherhood, and personal growth. ​   See you next time!​ XO, Lauren

Episode 11:  Start Now, Figure It Out Later Fire, Aim, Ready, not the other way around! I'm here to convince you to just go for it. If you're an entrepreneur, or anyone who has "given birth" to a business, a new identity, or a reinvention of yourself, this episode is for you. I'm tired of seeing people wait for the "perfect time" to start a business, a family, or anything that feels big and scary. That perfect time never comes! That's why I live by the motto Fire, Aim, Ready, not the other way around. In this week's episode, we're talking about getting it done and embracing the one philosophy that has served me so well in business and, now, in my life as a mom: Start Now, Figure It Out Later. All of the most impactful moments in my career happened because I started before things were perfect. As scary as these moments were, they always worked out better than I could have imagined. Listen on Apple Podcasts  >> Listen on Spotify >>     In this episode, I'm getting real about:   Why overthinking is just procrastination in a different outfit: I've trained over 7,000 stylists, and it's the most common thread I see holding people back. How I started my YouTube channel: It started because two friends told me to just do it. So I had my assistant, who is NOT a videographer, hold my old iPhone in my kitchen, and we just started shooting. No fancy equipment, no scripts, no studio. I just committed to showing up consistently. And that little channel? That channel now has around 90,000 subscribers. It's led to TV spots, press, and over 90% of my customers found me there. All because I just started.  The story behind Style Boss Academy: I launched the course before I ever made the course. I was totally done teaching stylists, I was burnt out. But the idea wouldn't leave me alone, so I went to the beach with my journal and mapped it all out. I had no videos, no curriculum, just an idea and a checkout page. I set this huge, scary money goal, and the pre-launch did almost DOUBLE that. The creation of this very podcast: I didn't get a fancy studio or mic. I'm literally sitting in a Zoom room on my roof talking into my phone because I just decided to get it done. Motherhood, the biggest Fire, Aim, Ready moment of my life: Getting pregnant with my son, naturally, at 43. A total surprise. I didn't have a birth plan, people kept asking me, “What’s your birth plan?” and I’d be like, "Uhh... give birth?". It forced me to let go of control and just go with the flow, and I'm honestly loving this new side of me.   Episode Highlights:   "Overthinking kills momentum. Getting in action is just going to snowball into more action."  "Start now, figure it out later. The finish is always freaking beautiful, even if the start is messy.""Perfect doesn’t exist. The stars are never perfectly aligned for you to make that big, scary decision.""We gotta do it messy. We gotta do it dirty. Because overthinking is just procrastination wearing a different outfit."   A very special announcement! Speaking of Style Boss Academy, the four-year pre-launch anniversary is coming up 🎉🎉 From October 27th to the 31st, I'm holding the first-ever sale on the program, with lots of fun surprises. Make sure you're subscribed to my emails and watching my Instagram stories so you don't miss it!      Connect with Me: So I have to ask you... what is that thing you've been sitting on that you could just start, like, today? Shoot me a DM on Instagram (@laurenmessiah) or email me at info@laurenmessiah.com. I’d love to hear your story. Follow the Style Like a Mother Podcast 🎧 to stay updated on new episodes and free gifts. ​ Follow @laurenmessiah for more insights on style, motherhood, and personal growth. ​   See you next time!​ XO, Lauren

Episode 10:  A Mother of a Vision Between career and motherhood, I want both! I’m casting a new vision, one that includes a $13M house, pancakes in the kitchen with my kids, and making more money as a mom than I ever did as a single, childless woman.In this week's episode, I'm sharing the story of how a vision I dared to have a decade ago completely shaped the life I'm living today. Now, I'm eight months postpartum, and I get to be a present mom and a badass entrepreneur. I am a 44-year-old woman who has built a career from absolutely nothing to massive success, and that’s a huge part of my identity that I’m not willing to give up. But I also want to be a full-time, fully present mother. I feel so lit up when I’m creating content for my business, and I feel just as lit up when I’m hanging out with my son, Onyx. So, I decided I would make my own path. So, I’m creating a new, even bigger mother of a vision. Listen on Apple Podcasts  >> Listen on Spotify >>     Here’s what I cover in this episode:   The Pants and Shirt Analogy: Why being asked to choose between career and motherhood is as ridiculous as choosing between pants or a shirt. You need both to function! Breaking the Either/Or Narrative: Society loves to pit working moms against stay-at-home moms, but I’m here to say, “Why not both?”  The Power of Vision: How casting a vision for your life can change everything. I share my personal story of creating a vision at 34 for the life I’m living now at 44, and how it all unfolded perfectly. Faith + Action = Magic: Vision boards are great, but you’ve got to take inspired action to make your dreams a reality. I share how I built my business step by step to align with my vision of being a present mom and a badass entrepreneur. Motherhood as a Spiritual Teacher: Motherhood has been the ultimate personal development journey for me. I share how becoming a mom has expanded my heart, my mind, and my perspective on life. Creating Time for Both: There’s always time if you make it. I share how I structure my days to balance work, motherhood, and everything in between. Daring to Dream Big: I’m casting a new vision, one that includes a $13M house, pancakes in the kitchen with my kids, and making more money as a mom than I ever did before.    Episode Highlights:   "If you can imagine it in your mind, it means that in some way it can become a reality." "Faith is fun when everything works out, but when you can’t see the working out, that’s where faith is actually faith." "Dare to create a mother of a vision, even if it doesn’t fit into other people’s narratives."  Resources Mentioned In This Episode:   ⬇️ **FREE DOWNLOAD**:  Boss Mom Time Blocking Template    Connect with Me: I want to hear from you! I'm challenging you to dare to create your own mother of a vision. Don't worry about the "how" right now, just get clear on the "what." Shoot me a DM on Instagram (@laurenmessiah) or email me at info@laurenmessiah.com. I’d love to hear your story. Follow the Style Like a Mother Podcast 🎧 to stay updated on new episodes and free gifts. ​ Follow @laurenmessiah for more insights on style, motherhood, and personal growth. ​   See you next time!​ XO, Lauren

My uterus has been through it ... Fibroids, endometriosis, and cysts. Add my age to the mix, and you have a recipe for not getting pregnant. Yet here I sit, a new mom at 44, to a beautiful baby boy. 80% of women will develop fibroids by the age of 50. 25-30% of women will experience symptomatic fibroids. The symptoms? Heavy periods, anemia, pelvic pain, back pain, abdominal bloating, and difficulty getting pregnant or carrying the baby to term. Every time I post about my fibroids journey online, I'm met with a flood of DMs, comments, and emails. Fellow sufferers want hope, to ask questions, and get advice from someone who has gone through it. I'm always happy to respond to these requests because fibroids are no joke. Then it hit me, now that I have a podcast, I can walk people through my entire journey. From natural remedies to surgery to spiritual solutions. So here it is, a bonus episode dedicated to my fibroids. Share with anyone who is suffering. I hope it helps. Listen on Apple Podcasts  >> Listen on Spotify >>    

Episode 9:  Baby, Take a Shower!  How To Get Ready with a Newborn Society tells us that being a hot mess mom is just part of the deal, right? One day, I decided to experiment. I got dressed, nothing fancy, just a cute outfit, a little makeup, and my jewelry. I took Onyx and my dog, Yohji, out for a walk to the coffee shop. And you know what happened? Nothing. Nobody held the door for me. Nobody offered to help as I juggled a stroller, a baby, a dog, and my tea. I thought, wow, does the world just hate moms? So the next day, I tried something different. I went out looking like a total mess, hair unbrushed, no makeup, wearing whatever I could grab. And suddenly, everyone wanted to help. People were holding doors, offering to carry things, and giving me those “Oh, you poor thing” looks. It hit me: when you look like you have it together, people assume you don’t need help. But when you look like you’re struggling, they rush to your aid. Society has glamorized the “hot mess mom” look, and while it’s funny and relatable sometimes, it’s not the vibe I want for you. Looking a mess is almost celebrated, but I think it gives women a free pass to look like garbage when they don’t even want to.   Listen on Apple Podcasts  >> Listen on Spotify >>     Here’s what I cover in this episode:   Why getting ready matters: I share the stats and research that prove how self-care routines like showering, grooming, and getting dressed can reduce stress, boost confidence, and even lower cortisol levels. Plus, I talk about how creating a morning rhythm can actually help regulate your baby’s mood (Yes, mama, your self-care helps your baby too!). Making time for yourself: I know what you’re thinking, “Lauren, I don’t have time!” But trust me, you do. I break down how to find those precious moments, whether it’s during your baby’s nap, while they’re in a pack-and-play, or by taking shifts with your partner.  Simplifying your routine: From easy hairstyles (hello, cornrows!) to a five-minute makeup routine, I share my hacks for looking polished without spending hours. I also talk about how I switched to clean beauty products and created a portable “getting ready station” with my trusty caboodle. Wardrobe hacks for moms: I get real about the postpartum closet struggle, clothes that don’t fit, decision fatigue, and the temptation to just wear the same thing every day. I share how I’ve edited my wardrobe, created go-to outfits, and embraced a “capsule-adjacent” approach to make getting dressed quick and stress-free. The magic of getting dressed: Did you know that what you wear can actually change how you feel and perform? It’s called enclothed cognition, and I explain how putting on real clothes, even if it’s just a cute matching pajama set, can make you feel more capable, focused, and confident.   Episode Highlights:   "Society glamorizes being a mess after you have kids, but feeling put together can fuel your confidence and provide structure in your day." "When you see a mother who is happy and dressed, society assumes she’s either lying about being happy or has a nanny and a rich husband. Why can’t we just celebrate her?" "Looking a mess is almost celebrated, but I think it gives women a free pass to look like garbage when they don’t even want to."  Resources Mentioned In This Episode:   ⬇️ **FREE DOWNLOAD**:  How to Get Ready with a Newborn: Your official get-ready guide with product recommendations.  Or you can download it for free at style.laurenmessiah.com/episode9      Connect with Me: Mama, I want to hear from you! How are you reclaiming your mornings and making time for self-care with your little one? Let me know! Shoot me a DM on Instagram (@laurenmessiah) or email me at info@laurenmessiah.com. I’d love to hear your story. Follow the Style Like a Mother Podcast 🎧 to stay updated on new episodes and free gifts. ​ Follow @laurenmessiah for more insights on style, motherhood, and personal growth. ​   See you next time!​ XO, Lauren

Episode 8:  Romanticizing the Night Shift Sleepless nights? Sign me up! Those first two weeks home with Onyx were rough. My hormones were crashing, and every evening, as soon as it was time to go to bed, I knew I wasn’t going to sleep. I’d be waking up every couple of hours to feed, swaddle, change diapers, and cry. It felt like an endless cycle, and I hated it. But one night, as I sat there in the dark, I had a thought: what if I stopped fighting the night shift? What if, instead of dreading it, I leaned into it? What if I made it something special, something I could actually enjoy? And that’s exactly what I did. I decided to romanticize the night shift, and it completely changed my experience. If you’re a new parent struggling with the night shift, this episode is for you. I am sharing all of my nighttime secrets. This may sound crazy, but they will have you loving the newborn stage. Yep, those 3am wake-ups will have you loving life.   Listen on Apple Podcasts  >> Listen on Spotify >>     In This Episode, We'll Cover:   Logistics of the Night Shift: How my husband and I took shifts to ensure we both got some uninterrupted sleep. The Sunset Scaries: How I overcame the dread of nighttime by shifting my energy and mindset. How I reframed the night shift to make it the highlight of my day. My Night Shift Essentials: Practical tips to create a comforting and enjoyable nighttime routine.   Episode Highlights:   “If you decide that it’s not going to suck, it’s not going to suck.” “Romanticizing those late-night feeds with your newborn changed the whole game for me.” "I'm not into roughing it. I'm into figuring it out so I can enjoy every stage of motherhood."    Resources Mentioned In This Episode:   ⬇️ **FREE DOWNLOAD**:  Romanticizing the Night Shift  Or you can download it for free at style.laurenmessiah.com/episode8      Connect with Me:   I’d love to hear how you’re romanticizing your life! Let me know! Shoot me a DM on Instagram (@laurenmessiah) or email me at info@laurenmessiah.com. I’d love to hear your story. Follow the Style Like a Mother Podcast 🎧 to stay updated on new episodes and free gifts. ​ Follow @laurenmessiah for more insights on style, motherhood, and personal growth. ​   See you next time!​ XO, Lauren

Episode 7:  When My Clothes Finally Fit, Will They Still Fit My Personality? Is that slight "no f*cks" personality shift a big shift when it comes to style? I had just given myself a style makeover before I found out I was pregnant. I was so excited about my new wardrobe, Vivienne Westwood corset pants, bold silhouettes, edgy pieces. Then, boom, pregnancy! None of it fit. And I kept wondering, when I can finally wear these clothes again, will I even want to? Will I be the mom wearing a Jean Paul Gaultier dress with boobs printed on it at summer camp? I went down a rabbit hole researching whether your personality changes after becoming a mother. I retook all my favorite personality tests, and guess what? My personality didn’t change. But even though my personality stayed the same, my style is constantly evolving. Why? In this episode, I share the research I did and the framework I created to help you embrace this new chapter of your life.   Listen on Apple Podcasts  >> Listen on Spotify >>     In This Episode, We'll Cover:   The Trippy Rooftop Moment: That time I felt like myself again… until I looked in the mirror.  Two Ways of Seeing Life: I share a fascinating article I found that changed everything for me. It explains that there are two camps of people: those who see themselves as the same person going through different stages of life, and those who see themselves as different people at each stage of life. I definitely fall into the second category. Personality vs. Style: Why your personality stays the same, but your style evolves. My "Three P's" Framework: Personality, Preference, and Pressure. I introduce a framework to help you understand why your style might feel off and how to recalibrate it. Embracing the Cocoon: Embracing the messy middle (aka the cocoon) before stepping into your new lifeline. Shopping Drama: A surprising shift in my style preferences (Balenciaga is out, Prada is in!), I share how my postpartum style journey has been full of twists and turns. The takeaway? It’s okay to let go of clothes that no longer align with the new you, even if they once felt perfect.   Episode Highlights:   "I see myself as a different person at each stage of life." "Your clothes, bags, and shoes will never evolve, they’re just things. You, however, will evolve and grow. You get to dress the grown, evolved version of yourself." "Your style is influenced by three P’s: personality (your stable core traits), preferences (what you’re drawn to), and pressure (external expectations). Balancing these is key to finding outfits that feel right."    Resources Mentioned In This Episode:   ⬇️ **FREE DOWNLOAD**:  The Identity Detector: Journaling prompts to help reshape your identity  Or you can download it for free at style.laurenmessiah.com/episode7  -The New Yorker Article: “Becoming You” -The Atlantic Article: Want to Change Your Personality? Have a Baby.    Connect with Me: I'm so curious to know what you think. Do you see yourself as a person going through different stages, or do you feel like you've lived different lives in one? Let me know! Shoot me a DM on Instagram (@laurenmessiah) or email me at info@laurenmessiah.com. I’d love to hear your story. Follow the Style Like a Mother Podcast 🎧 to stay updated on new episodes and free gifts. ​ Follow @laurenmessiah for more insights on style, motherhood, and personal growth. ​   See you next time!​ XO, Lauren  

Episode 6:  Attack of the Postpartum Body Snatchers Everyone talks about the baby weight, but nobody talks about the B.O. ... In this episode, we’re diving into a topic that no one really prepares you for: the postpartum beauty experience. From hair shedding to body odor, leaky boobs, and mood swings, we’re getting real about what happens to your body after giving birth. This isn’t here to scare you, it’s here to prepare you. Sure, you hear whispers about baby weight and leaky boobs, but the full picture? It’s a trip. And I’m here to give you the real deal, along with the products that saved me, and the tips that helped me feel like myself again.   Listen on Apple Podcasts  >> Listen on Spotify >>     Here’s what we’re diving into:   Hair Shedding: Why do they call it shedding? I'm practically bald. I’m sharing my go-to solutions to naturally promote hair growth, working with your hairstylist to find confidence-boosting hairstyles, and embracing cute hats, turbans, and headbands. If you’re feeling bold, maybe it’s time to try extensions or wigs.   Body Odor: Postpartum funk is no joke. I smelled like my cat peed under my armpits, seriously. I’ve been a natural deodorant girl for years, but postpartum hormones were like, “Bet I can outdo any deodorant you’ve got.” Enter: The best deodorant balm ever! Trust me, this deodorant is the bomb.  Boob Drama: Four days after giving birth, I woke up with what I can only describe as porn star boobs. They were huge, rock-hard, and painful. Then came the leaks, the clogs, and the blebs. I’m breaking down the essentials you need to survive the breastfeeding rollercoaster, including nursing pads, heating/cooling packs, and how to handle those dreaded blebs.  Night Sweats: I got lucky and dodged the night sweats, but I heard enough horror stories. Think soaking sheets and pajamas. I didn’t get them, but I’ve got tips from moms who did. Stretch Marks: I was religious about keeping my skin hydrated. I’m sharing what I did during pregnancy, what I’ve learned about stretch marks, and some tips that might help you care for your skin. Skin Issues: Pregnancy-safe skincare is a must. I’m sharing my favorite clean beauty products and why Credo Beauty is my go-to. Excessive Thirst: Breastfeeding will have you thirstier than ever. I’m talking hydration tips and the importance of electrolytes.   Episode Highlights:   "Your body hasn’t betrayed you, it’s just going through a process. None of this is permanent." "Hormones are a roller coaster and these are all problems that have a solution. And if the solution isn't there? Time is the solution." "When so much seems to be going 'wrong' with our body, it’s not actually wrong. It’s just part of the beautiful process of growing an entire human being."    Resources Mentioned In This Episode:   ⬇️ **FREE DOWNLOAD**:  Bounce Back My Ass: A Survival Guide  Or you can download it for free at style.laurenmessiah.com/episode6      Connect with Me: Have postpartum beauty struggles of your own? Let me know! Shoot me a DM on Instagram (@laurenmessiah) or email me at info@laurenmessiah.com. I’d love to hear your story. Follow the Style Like a Mother Podcast 🎧 to stay updated on new episodes and free gifts. ​ Follow @laurenmessiah for more insights on style, motherhood, and personal growth. ​   See you next time!​ XO, Lauren  

Episode 5:  The Stretchy Pants Surrender I was the stylist who swore by the mantra: “Leggings aren’t pants" until I became a mom  I lived by it, preached it, and believed it with every fiber of my being. But then, life happened. I became a mom, and let me tell you, those beliefs flew right out the window the second I got pregnant. Suddenly, soft pants became my lifeline.Becoming a mom can totally wreck your pants game. First trimester? Bloated. Postpartum? Rocking the pooch. Pants are tough, but they don’t have to be torture. In this episode, I’m sharing my journey of surrendering to stretchy pants and accepting my new body. Because let’s be real: postpartum pants struggles are real. From the frustration of trying to squeeze into pre-pregnancy jeans to the emotional spiral of tying your self-worth to your style, I’ve been there. Listen on Apple Podcasts  >> Listen on Spotify >>     Here’s what we’re diving into:   The Pants Struggle is Real: I dive deep into the emotional spiral that comes with trying to fit into pre-pregnancy jeans. From the frustration of buttons that won’t close to the self-worth issues tied to clothing sizes, I share my personal struggles and how they’ve shaped my perspective. The Stretchy Pants Surrender: Why soft pants (leggings, sweatpants, drawstring pants) are the ultimate lifesaver for moms (or anyone going through body changes). I break down the stigma around these pants and why it’s time to embrace them unapologetically. Body Changes are Normal: A reminder that your body is supposed to change, it’s part of being human. I share insights on how to shift your mindset from punishing yourself for these changes to celebrating the incredible things your body has done, like growing and birthing a whole human. Postpartum Pants Categories: I break down the best types of pants to get you through this stage of life, from chic leggings to stylish sweatpants and even drawstring jeans. Permission to Feel Good: You don’t have to wait until you “bounce back” to invest in clothes that fit and make you feel amazing. I talk about the importance of surrendering to this stage of life and giving yourself permission to feel good right now, even if your body is still changing. A New Perspective on Style: I share how my journey as a mom has transformed my approach to fashion. It’s not about perfection anymore, it’s about finding clothes that make you feel comfortable, confident, and aligned with your new identity. Practical Tips for Shopping: I offer actionable advice on how to shop for pants during transitional periods, including budget-friendly options, versatile styles, and how to prioritize comfort without sacrificing style.   Episode Highlights:   “You are worthy of new clothes no matter what stage your body is in.” ​ “Leggings are pants if you decide they’re pants. We’re not going with these fashion rules anymore, they’re limiting and judgy, and we’re letting those go.” “The sooner you accept that you’re having a normal human experience with your body changing, the sooner you can stop spiraling and start feeling good again.”​    Resources Mentioned In This Episode:   ⬇️ **FREE DOWNLOAD**:  Postpartum Pants Mini Guide  Or you can download it for free at style.laurenmessiah.com/episode5      Connect with Me: Are you on board with the stretchy pants surrender? Let me know!​ Shoot me a DM on Instagram (@laurenmessiah) or email me at info@laurenmessiah.com and tell me you surrender. I’d love to hear your thoughts. Follow the Style Like a Mother Podcast 🎧 to stay updated on new episodes and free gifts. ​ Follow @laurenmessiah for more insights on style, motherhood, and personal growth. ​   See you next time!​ XO, Lauren  

Episode 4:  Finding Inner Peace in a One-Piece Bathing suit or Buddha?  Body image after pregnancy isn’t always pretty. It’s messy, complicated, and often the last thing we want to “love” when we look in the mirror. In this week’s episode of Style Like a Mother, I’m getting real about my own body journey—from the sting of a childhood memory to the postpartum mirror check that damn near broke me. You’ll hear how pregnancy shifted my relationship with my body, why postpartum was a whole other story, and the breakthrough moment that helped me move from body rejection to true unconditional love. This isn’t about toxic positivity or “just be grateful.” It’s about redefining love for a body that doesn’t feel like yours anymore—and creating peace whether you’re rocking a bikini or hiding in a one piece. Listen on Apple Podcasts  >> Listen on Spotify >>   What you’ll hear in this episode: My complicated relationship with my body, from childhood to motherhood The shock of postpartum body changes (and why TV lies about “snapping back”) The difference between “body love” and unconditional love A surprising mirror moment with another mom that shifted everything Three unconventional body love letters that can change how you see yourself Resources and Links: Grab this week’s free download: Unconditional & Unconventional Body Love Letter Prompts  Let me know how this episode lands for you—DM me on Instagram @laurenmessiah  or email info@laurenmessiah.com   Connect with Me: I'm curious about what today's conversation brought up for you. Feel free to shoot me a DM over on Instagram or email me at info@laurenmessiah.com, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Follow the Style Like a Mother Podcast 🎧 to stay updated on new episodes and free gifts. ​ Follow @laurenmessiah for more insights on style, motherhood, and personal growth. ​ See you next time!​ XO, Lauren

Episode 3:  Having It All Without (gasp) a Nanny  Shock and horror when I tell folks I'm saying no to nannies and night nurses  Can you really have it all? And I mean ALL of it: the career, the relationship, the friendships, the beautiful home, the body, the hair, the nails... while also being a present mother who gets to enjoy every little piece of motherhood? And can you do it without, wait for it... having a nanny? I'm here to tell you, from my own "have it all experiment," that the answer is a big, resounding YES!In this episode of the Style Like a Mother podcast, I'm getting real about the unsolicited advice, the pressure to hire a nanny before my son was even born, and how I found my own way. I'll walk you through my strategies that allow me to run my businesses, coach my students, and launch new projects, all without missing out on my son's giggles and funny faces. I'm talking practical, actionable steps to redefine what "having it all" looks like for YOU. It's not about achieving some perfect, unattainable balance; it’s about creating a life that feels authentic and joyful. The real secret? Learning to be adaptable and go with the flow.   Listen on Apple Podcasts  >> Listen on Spotify >>     Here’s what we’re diving into:   My Nanny Story (or Lack Thereof): I’m sharing why I decided against hiring a nanny, despite the overwhelming societal pressure, especially in places like L.A.​ The "Having It All" Experiment: For the past six months, I’ve been on a mission to prove that you can maintain your spiritual practice, fitness, business, and personal life without a nanny. I get my nails done, see my friends, and haven't missed a moment of my son growing up. Busting Mom Stereotypes: For so long, we've been sold this either/or story. You're either a stay-at-home mom, or you're a "working mom" who kisses the baby on the forehead and dashes out the door, leaving a nanny to do the rest. But what if you don't fit into either of those boxes? What if you want to build your empire with your baby right there with you? Time Collapsing Strategies: Learn how I manage to run my business, coach students, and launch a new division—all while being a full-time mom. I'm giving you my secrets to collapsing time and getting more done. Redefining Your "All": I'll show you how to have your own version of "all" by making strategic adjustments, not sacrifices. Your life doesn't have to be perfectly balanced to be fulfilling. The Power of Flow: The real secret to making it all work? Being adaptable and learning to go with the flow, even when things get chaotic.   Episode Highlights:   "My plan was to give up nothing and still be there for my child."​ "If you tell me something's impossible, I am going to make it possible."  "I want to live the life of both. I don't want to live the life of either or. I want it all."​    Resources Mentioned In This Episode:   ⬇️ **FREE DOWNLOAD**:  The Boss Mom Time Blocking Template  Or you can download it for free at style.laurenmessiah.com/episode3      Connect with Me: I'm curious about what today's conversation brought up for you. Feel free to shoot me a DM over on Instagram or email me at info@laurenmessiah.com, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Follow the Style Like a Mother Podcast 🎧 to stay updated on new episodes and free gifts. ​ Follow @laurenmessiah for more insights on style, motherhood, and personal growth. ​   See you next time!​ XO, Lauren

✨Bonus Episode✨ The Dragonflies Made Me Do It Y'all, this is a special one, I bought the Prada bag. Yes, THE Prada bag!! If you heard my previous podcast episode, then you know I was on the fence about buying a gorgeous (out of my style comfort zone) Prada bag. This bonus episode is all about the wild signs (hello, dragonflies!) and psychic downloads that led me to this moment, is all about celebrating this moment, this new chapter, and the wild, magical journey that led me here. It’s not just a bag, it’s a portal, and a declaration of trust in myself.  Listen on Apple Podcasts  >> Listen on Spotify >>    Grab the Psychic Sidekick here https://joleemougey.com/freebies  Connect with Me:    Follow the Style Like a Mother Podcast 🎧 to stay updated on new episodes and free gifts. ​ Follow @laurenmessiah for more insights on style, motherhood, and personal growth.  Missed the previous episode? Go back and listen to Prada or Pre-School for the full backstory.     Thanks for tuning in, and I’ll see you in the next full episode!​ XO, Lauren