Parenting Beyond Meltdowns | Neurodivergent, ADHD, ODD, PDA, Defiant, Build Connection, Emotional Regulation, Dysregulated

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide! Mama, Do you ever feel like no matter how hard you try to stay calm, you still end the day feeling exhausted and defeated? Are you tired of feeling like your strong-willed or neurodivergent child’s behavior determines your peace? Do you catch yourself snapping, shutting down, or overexplaining even when you know what you “should” do? Wonder why faith alone doesn’t seem to calm your reactions in the moment? Episode Highlights / Overview In this episode, we’re uncovering why trying harder isn’t bringing you more calm and what’s really happening inside your body when your child’s behavior sets off that stress response. You’ll learn how emotional regulation begins in your nervous system, not your willpower, and how understanding that changes everything about how you parent. We’ll talk about what dysregulation looks like, why your body moves into protection mode, and how to find peace again through simple, faith-centered regulation practices. This episode is especially for mamas raising a strong-willed or neurodivergent child whether ADHD, ASD, ODD, or PDA who want to move beyond meltdowns and defiance and start building connection through calm. You’ll discover that peace isn’t something you earn; it’s something you return to when you slow down, breathe, and let the Father meet you in the chaos. Let this conversation remind you that you’re not failing you’re learning how to partner with how God designed your body so you can parent from peace, not pressure. Faith Anchor   “Be still, and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10  Stillness isn’t about doing nothing; it’s about surrendering control and trusting that His peace is already within your reach. Challenge of the Week This week, when you feel that familiar tension rising the clenched jaw, racing heart, or urge to react pause and whisper, “Father, help me release this pressure and receive Your peace.” Let that breath be your anchor, reminding you that calm isn’t found in trying harder but in returning to Him. Links & Resources Free Workshop: https://amandacalfee.com/workshop Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas Essential Oils: Young Living Wishlist     Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.  

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide!   Mama, Do you ever feel like you’re walking on eggshells bracing for the next meltdown or moment of defiance? Wonder why you react so quickly, even when you promised yourself you’d stay calm? Feel like no matter how hard you pray or try, peace still feels out of reach? Wish you could understand what’s really happening inside of you when you feel completely dysregulated?   In this episode, Finding Peace in the Chaos: What’s Really Going On Beneath the Meltdowns & Dysregulation, we’re unpacking what’s truly happening inside of you when parenting feels overwhelming. When you’re raising a strong-willed or neurodivergent child, moments of defiance, meltdowns, or emotional intensity can leave you questioning your patience, your peace, and even your faith. But what’s really going on isn’t about failure it’s about dysregulation and the way your nervous system responds to constant stress. You’ll discover that your reactions aren’t a sign of weakness or lack of faith they’re signals from your body, designed by God, asking for safety and calm. We’ll talk about how to recognize those cues, practice emotional regulation, and rebuild connection with your child even when things feel chaotic. If you’ve been carrying the weight of everyone’s emotions and wondering why peace feels so hard to find, this episode will help you see that you’re not broken, your child isn’t broken, and peace is still possible — because it begins with anchoring your heart and body in God’s steady presence.   Faith Anchor “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14:27 Even when your emotions feel dysregulated, God’s peace is constant. He doesn’t ask you to control the storm only to trust Him in the middle of it.   Challenge of the Week: When things start to spiral this week, pause and ask, “What might my body be needing right now?” A deep breath, a quiet prayer, or a few moments of stillness may be the doorway back to peace.   Links & Resources: Free Workshop: https://amandacalfee.com/workshop Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amandacalfeecoaching@gmail.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas Essential Oils: Shop Young Living Favorites   Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide! Mama, Are you seeing more meltdowns or defiant behavior since as winter break wraps up? Does getting your strong-willed or neurodivergent child back into routine feel harder than you expected? Do you feel torn between wanting structure and needing rest for both of you? Are you wondering how to rebuild emotional regulation and connection when everything feels off track? In this episode, we’re talking about what happens after the holidays when routines are off, emotions are high, and peace feels hard to find. If your strong-willed or neurodivergent child (ADHD, Autism, PDA, ODD, or ASD) has been struggling with transitions, defiance, or meltdowns lately, this conversation is for you. You’ll discover 5 gentle, faith-filled tips to help your family restore emotional regulation and rebuild rhythm without guilt or pressure. Together, we’ll talk about what’s really going on in your child’s nervous system, how to create safety through predictable rhythms, and how to anchor yourself in peace before responding to your child’s behavior. Whether your child is struggling to return to school routines or your home just feels dysregulated after the holiday chaos, this episode will remind you that nothing has gone wrong you’re simply rebuilding. Peace isn’t found in perfection, mama it’s found in presence. Faith Anchor  “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28  When your child feels dysregulated, remember that rest isn’t just about sleep or stillness it’s about finding soul-level peace in His presence first. Challenge of the Week This week, choose one small rhythm to gently rebuild...maybe bedtime routines, consistent mealtimes, or a quiet morning moment with your child. As you do, pray: “Father, help me rebuild our rhythm with grace and patience. Let peace lead our home.” Sweet friend, you don’t have to rush to fix everything or prove you’ve got it all together. You are doing sacred work as you help your child rebuild peace one gentle step at a time. You’re not behind...you’re rebuilding, with the Father right beside you. Links & Resources Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas YL Essential Oils: Anchored Mamas Must Haves Seeking Scripture: https://seekingscripture.com/   Disclaimer I am not a doctor, therapist, or medical professional. The information shared in this podcast, my coaching, and any Young Living recommendations are for educational and faith-based encouragement only. Nothing shared is intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental health condition. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider or licensed therapist for concerns regarding your or your child’s health, emotions, or well-being.  

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide!   Mama,  Are you noticing more meltdowns, defiant moments, or tears since the holidays ended? Does your home feel a little “off” like everyone’s trying to find their rhythm again? Do you ever wonder if you’ve lost the progress you were making with your strong-willed or neurodivergent child? Wish you could believe that nothing’s gone wrong that this messy, dysregulated season is completely normal?   Episode Highlights  In this episode, Amanda offers gentle encouragement for the mama who feels weary and off balance after the holiday season. If you’re seeing more meltdowns or defiant behavior from your strong-willed or neurodivergent child, take heart this isn’t a setback. Breaks, vacations, and schedule changes can be incredibly dysregulating for kids with ADHD, ASD, PDA, or other neurodivergent traits and for you as a parent, too. Instead of rushing to fix the chaos or force structure back into place, Amanda invites you to pause, breathe, and remember that peace isn’t found in perfection it’s found in presence, emotional regulation and building connection. This short episode is a reminder that your child’s meltdowns and your own fatigue are signs of a nervous system seeking safety, not failure. You’ll walk away feeling seen, grounded, and reassured that you can approach this season with grace instead of guilt. You don’t have to fix everything right now you just have to stay anchored and let the Father restore your rhythm. Faith Anchor: “He makes the storm calm, so that its waves are still.” Psalm 107:29 (NKJV) Even when life feels chaotic and unsteady, God is the calm that holds you steady through the waves of transition. Challenge of the Week: When meltdowns rise or routines fall apart this week, pause for one slow breath and whisper, “Lord, thank You that peace doesn’t depend on my schedule You are my rhythm.” Let that truth anchor your heart in the middle of the mess.   Links & Resources Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/insider-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas   Closing Encouragement Mama, nothing has gone wrong. The meltdowns, the messy mornings, the slow starts they’re simply part of the rebalancing that comes after busy seasons. You’re not behind. Take one gentle breath, rest in His peace, and remember: you and your child are learning to find calm together.  

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide!   Mama, Do Any of These Sound Like You? Do the holidays leave you feeling emotionally drained instead of peaceful? Does the pressure to “keep everyone happy” make you lose sight of what matters most? Wish you could stay calm when meltdowns happen and actually enjoy your child in the moment? Long for the reminder that your presence, not perfection, is what truly brings peace into your home? Episode Highlights In this heartfelt holiday episode, Amanda shares gentle encouragement for the mama whose holidays don’t look picture-perfect especially if you’re parenting a strong-willed or neurodivergent child is being defiant. The noise, the change in routines, and the expectations can feel like too much for both you and your child. But there’s hope. In this episode, you’ll be reminded that peace isn’t found in perfect plans it’s found in presence. You’ll learn how to breathe through the chaos, invite Jesus into overstimulating moments, and anchor your heart in truth even when meltdowns happen. Amanda helps you see that your calm is more powerful than control, and your steady presence can create connection and safety in ways words can’t for your strong-willed or neurodivergent child (ADHD, ODD, PDA, ASD). If you’ve been craving rest, reassurance, and a reminder that you’re not alone in this season this short episode will feel like a deep breath for your heart.   Faith Anchor: “The Lord gives strength to His people; the Lord blesses His people with peace.” Psalm 29:11 Even when the noise and chaos rise, His peace is already within you because His presence never leaves you.   Challenge of the Week: This week, when emotions run high, pause before reacting. Take one slow breath and whisper, “Emmanuel ...God is with me.” Let that truth reshape how you show up grounded, calm, and fully present.   Links & Resources Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/insider-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas  

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide.  Mama,  Have you ever walked into a family gathering already bracing for judgment about your child’s behavior? Do you find yourself explaining your parenting decisions again and again only to feel misunderstood or dismissed? Wish you could protect your peace when others gossip, criticize, or just don’t “get” your neurodivergent or strong-willed child? Are you praying for strength to forgive, move forward, and not let their opinions define your worth?   Episode Highlights  In this episode, we’re getting real about what it feels like when family doesn’t understand your strong-willed or neurodivergent child (ODD, PDA, ADHD, ASD) and how to protect your peace in the middle of that pain. Amanda shares a personal story of family rejection and how God gently turned heartbreak into healing. You’ll learn how to stay grounded in truth, regulate your emotions when conflict rises, and rebuild connection in safe, faith-filled spaces. Through heartfelt encouragement and practical emotional regulation tools, you’ll discover that being misunderstood doesn’t mean you’re unloved sometimes, it’s simply God’s protection over your peace. If you’ve ever felt unseen, rejected, or weary from trying to make others understand your child, this conversation will remind you that your worth isn’t based on acceptance it’s anchored in identity.   Faith Anchor: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18 (NIV) When others push you away, the Father draws near. He sees your heart, your child, and your efforts even when others misunderstand.   Challenge of the Week: If there’s a situation that still stirs up hurt, anger, or bitterness in your heart take it to the Father this week. Set aside a few quiet minutes and tell Him exactly how you feel. Don’t filter it or tidy it up. Just be honest. Then pray: “Father, I come to you with a heart ready to give this pain. Can you please show me how to see this through Your eyes. Help me release the weight of what I can’t control and anchor my heart in You.”   Links & Resources: Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3 % of Podcasts Worldwide! Mama, • Do the holidays leave you feeling more exhausted than joyful? • Wish you could stay calm when your strong-willed or neurodivergent child feels overwhelmed by the chaos? • Find yourself trying to keep everyone happy while ignoring what you and your child really need? • Long to protect your peace without disappointing your family or breaking traditions? In this episode, we’re talking about what it really looks like to prepare for peace during a season that can feel anything but peaceful. You’ll learn six practical emotional-regulation tips to help you and your child navigate holiday overwhelm with calm, connection, and confidence. We’ll explore how to identify triggers early, simplify your schedule, and let go of unrealistic expectations so that your family can enjoy meaningful moments without meltdowns. If you’re parenting a strong-willed or neurodivergent child (who has ADHD, Autism (ASD), PDA, or ODD), these tools will help you build connection instead of conflict while anchoring your heart in faith and the Father’s peace. Because true holiday joy doesn’t come from performance it flows from presence.   Faith Anchor + Reflection “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in You.” — Isaiah 26 : 3 (NIV) Peace isn’t something you have to create; it’s a promise you can receive when you fix your thoughts on the Father instead of the pressure.   Challenge of the Week When holiday stress starts to rise, pause and ask: “What would peace look like right now—for me and for my child?” Take one deep breath, simplify one task, or say one “holy no” that protects your calm. Let peace not performance lead your home this week.   Links & Resources Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas  

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide!   Have you ever felt judged or misunderstood by someone who doesn’t truly know your heart or your child’s? Do comments from others ever leave you questioning your worth as a mama, even when you know you’re trying your best? Are you carrying emotional weight from people’s opinions, assumptions, or labels that don’t reflect who you really are? Have you ever prayed, “Lord, help me release what others are placing on me,” because the pressure feels heavy? In this episode, I’m coming to you from a very real, very tender place. This wasn’t the episode I planned to record today but after a long, emotionally heavy day filled with unexpected challenges and hurtful words, I felt led to show up exactly as I was. Not polished. Not prepared. Just honest. Because sometimes, life hits hard in ways that have nothing to do with meltdowns, defiance, or the strong-willed or neurodivergent child you’re raising and everything to do with circumstances completely outside your home. In this raw and vulnerable conversation, I share the kind of encouragement I needed myself: grounding truth, emotional regulation reminders, and a faith-centered reset for the moments when someone else’s words shake you more than you expected. You’ll be reminded that other people’s judgments do not define who you are as a mama or your strong-willed or neurodivergent child (ADHD, ODD, PDA, ASD). In this episode, you’ll find a soft place to land a moment to breathe, release the emotional weight you’ve been carrying, and remember that the Holy Spirit meets you right in the middle of your worn-out, overwhelmed places. My hope is that you walk away feeling seen, steadied, and anchored in truth on the days when life feels heavier than your heart knows how to hold.   Challenge of the Week: Grab a journal and ask the Father to tell you who He says you are. Write down every truth He speaks to your heart. Then, on another page, release the words or judgments that others have placed on you and ask Him to rewrite them with His truth. Links & Resources Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas    

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide! Do any of these sound familiar? Do you feel pressure to make the holidays look “perfect” for everyone else even when you’re running on empty? Have you ever felt torn between keeping the peace and protecting your child’s peace? Do you long to just enjoy the day without walking on eggshells, explaining your parenting, or managing everyone’s emotions? Wish you could show up calm, grounded, and anchored in who you are in the Father  instead of trying to perform for others? Episode Highlights In this episode, we’re slowing down to talk about what it means to build connection while prioritizing peace over performance especially during busy family gatherings. As a Christian mama raising a strong-willed or neurodivergent child, the holidays can bring joy… and pressure. You might face unsolicited advice, judgment, or tension around how your child behaves  and how you “should” respond. But friend, you don’t have to prove, perform, or please anyone. You’ll learn how to regulate your emotions in the moment, focus on your child’s sense of safety and connection, and create a calm, grounded atmosphere anchored in the Father’s peace. Whether your child has ADHD, Autism, ODD, PDA, or simply big emotions, this episode will remind you that peace isn’t something you chase it’s something you carry through the Holy Spirit. Take a deep breath, release the pressure, and remember: you’re not here to perform you’re here to love well. Faith Anchor “The Lord will give strength to His people; the Lord will bless His people with peace.” — Psalm 29:11 (ESV) You already carry the peace of the Lord within you, mama. When expectations rise and emotions run high, pause and breathe His peace anchors you even in the noise. Blessing: Father as we walk into this Thanksgiving, fill our hearts with peace that steadies us when expectations rise. Remind us that we don’t have to prove ourselves that our only job is to stay anchored in Your love. When things feel heavy or hard, whisper to our spirit, “You and your child are safe with Me.” Let Your presence bring calm, connection, and gratitude to our homes and environments today. In Yahusha’s Mighty Name, Amen. Links & Resources Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas Final Encouragement Peace isn’t found in doing everything “right.” It’s found in resting in the One who’s already made you whole.You are doing sacred work, mama showing up, loving your child, and reflecting His peace one moment at a time.  

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide! Do you ever… • Feel torn between keeping family happy and doing what’s best for your strong-willed or neurodivergent child? • Worry about how others will react to your child’s behavior at family gatherings? • Feel that quiet nudge from the Holy Spirit but doubt your strength to follow it when others push back? • Wish you could walk into the holidays grounded, confident, and at peace no matter what others say or expect? Episode Highlights In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to choose peace over pressure when family expectations collide with your child’s needs. You’ll hear a personal story about the tension between pleasing others and protecting your child’s peace and how to recognize that still, small voice guiding you toward what’s best. Together, we’ll walk through practical ways to set boundaries, build connection with your child, importance of emotional regulation, and anchoring your heart in truth when others don’t understand your parenting choices. You’ll learn how to stay calm and confident even when family members question your approach, how to create emotional safety for your child with ADHD, Autism (ASD), ODD, PDA, or sensory challenges, and how to hold onto peace when the pressure to “keep everyone happy” starts to rise. Whether you’re navigating meltdowns, managing defiant behavior, or simply craving a more connected, grace-filled holiday, this episode will remind you that you are the expert on your child and the Father’s peace is always stronger than people’s opinions. This Thanksgiving, you can protect your peace, parent with compassion, and walk in confidence knowing you are led by love, not guilt. Faith Anchor “The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is safe.”  Proverbs 29:25 When you trust the Father’s guidance more than people’s expectations, you step out of fear and into freedom. True peace comes from knowing that your worth and your child’s isn’t determined by anyone else’s approval. Challenge of the Week This week, take time to pray over your plans before the holiday. Ask the Father to show you what peace looks like for your family this year. Write down one simple boundary that would help protect that peace maybe it’s saying no, stepping out for a break, or letting your child play in another room. Then, ask Him to give you the courage to follow through when the pressure rises.   Remember, peace doesn’t always mean everyone’s happy sometimes it just means you stayed anchored in love and obedience to the Father. Links & Resources Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas  

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide! Ever replayed a moment after your child’s meltdown and thought, “Why did I do that again?” Do you wish you could respond with peace instead of guilt after losing your cool? Wonder how to rebuild connection when emotions run high for both you and your child? Episode Highlights In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most healing, hope-filled parts of parenting strong-willed and neurodivergent kids — repair. No matter how much you work on emotional regulation, you’ll still have moments when things don’t go as planned. But peace doesn’t come from perfection — it comes from reconnection. Amanda shares what real repair looks like after a rupture, how to restore emotional safety, and how to rebuild trust and connection with your child, even when meltdowns, defiance, or sensory overload happen. You’ll learn how to: Recognize what’s happening inside of you before trying to fix what’s happening around you. Use the 3 R’s of Repair — Regulate, Reconnect, Reflect — to restore safety and model humility. Respond to your child with compassion and confidence, even when they’re overwhelmed by ADHD, Autism (ASD), ODD, or PDA-related challenges. Apply the Creation Cycle to renew your mind and partner with the Holy Spirit in the middle of hard moments. Because here’s the truth, mama it’s not the meltdown that defines your relationship, but how you reconnect afterward. Faith Anchor “Because of the Lord’s great love, we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning.” — Lamentations 3:22–23 Just like God’s mercies are new every morning, you get to mirror that same grace with your child. Every repair moment is a chance to show them what unconditional love looks like connection after chaos, mercy after rupture. Challenge of the Week This week, when a hard moment happens: 1️⃣ Pause and regulate yourself first. 2️⃣ Return to your child and name what happened gently. 3️⃣ Remind them of your love, even if they’re not ready to receive it yet. Then, reflect on what shifted - not what went wrong, but how choosing repair created safety for both of you. Links & Resources Join the Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas Final Note You’re not called to perfect parenting you’re called to faithful connection. Every time you choose repair over shame, you’re reflecting the Father’s heart and modeling the kind of grace that changes generations.

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is ranked in the Top 3% of podcasts globally!  Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same cycle — your child melts down, you react, and afterward you think, “Why did I do that again?” If so, this episode will speak straight to your heart. We’re diving into a powerful concept called the Hero, Victim, and Villain lens and how it can completely change the way you approach parenting your strong-willed or neurodivergent child. When meltdowns happen, it’s easy to slip into old patterns: feeling powerless (the Victim), trying to control (the Villain), or losing hope altogether. But what if you could step into a new story one where you become the Hero? In this episode, you’ll learn how to: Recognize when you’re parenting from fear, shame, or frustration Understand how emotional regulation helps you respond instead of react Rebuild peace and connection with your child, even during the hardest moments Partner with the Holy Spirit to take your thoughts captive and renew your mind We’ll walk through real-life examples like handling defiant behavior, PDA-style refusals, or emotional meltdowns common in kids with ADHD, Autism (ASD), or ODD  in a way that protects your peace and builds lasting connection. Because here’s the truth: you can’t always control the chaos, but you can anchor yourself in calm. You can create emotional safety for both you and your child no matter how strong-willed, neurodivergent, or overwhelmed you both feel in the moment. Mama, this isn’t about perfection. It’s about choosing peace, walking in grace, and remembering that with God’s help… you can be the calm in your child’s storm. Listen now to learn: The difference between reacting in fear and responding in faith How to identify whether you’re in the Hero, Victim, or Villain role What emotional regulation looks like in real-life parenting moments How to rebuild trust and connection with your child when things go wrong Faith Anchor: “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” Galatians 5:22–23    Challenge of the Week:  This week, I want to challenge you to notice which story you’re living from when things get hard. When your strong-willed or neurodivergent child has a meltdown, pause for a moment and ask yourself: “Am I showing up as the Victim, the Villain, or the Hero?” “What thought is driving my reaction right now?” Then, take a deep breath and pray: “Father, help me take this thought captive. Help me see my child — and myself — the way You do.” Your only goal is awareness. You don’t have to get it perfect — just start noticing. Because every time you pause, reflect, and invite God into the moment, you’re strengthening your emotional regulation and creating space for deeper connection with your child.   Links & Resources: Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas Megan Fate Marshman Quote  

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide!  Do you ever feel like you’re living in constant reaction mode just trying to survive one meltdown, defiant moment, or emotional storm after another? In this episode, we’re diving into The Creation Cycle — the #1 tool that will help you renew your mind, regulate your emotions, and rebuild connection with your strong-willed or neurodivergent child (ASD, ADHD,ODD, PDA, Autism). You’ll learn how your thoughts, feelings, and actions work together and how shifting your thoughts can change the atmosphere of your entire home. This simple, faith-based framework will help you take your thoughts captive, calm the chaos, and parent with confidence and compassion even when big emotions rise. In This Episode, You’ll Discover: What the Creation Cycle is and how it helps you partner with God to renew your mind The difference between un-captured/un-renewed (false self) and renewed (true self) thoughts How to identify the patterns keeping you stuck in survival mode How to process emotions with grace so you can respond from love, not reactivity Real-life examples of what this looks like for moms of strong-willed, defiant, or neurodivergent kids Faith Anchor “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind…” — Romans 12:2 “Take every thought captive to make it obedient to Christ.” — 2 Corinthians 10:5 Encouragement for the Week You don’t have to keep reacting from fear or frustration. You can renew your mind, regulate your emotions, and rebuild connection one faith-filled thought at a time. Challenge of the Week: This week, I want you to: Do a Thought Download. Get every thought out of your head and onto paper. Pick one thought or emotion that feels the most charged. Run it through your Creation Cycle. Then ask yourself: “What do I want to believe on purpose?” Write that new thought down every day and practice it until it becomes the truth you live from. Thought: What am I thinking? Feeling: What emotion does that thought create in me? Action: What do I do when I feel that way? Result: What does that action create in my life—internally and externally? Links & Resources Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas  

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is Ranked in the Top 3% of Podcasts Worldwide!  Mama, what if your actions could tell you everything you need to know about your thoughts, your feelings, and even your true identity in Messiah? In today’s episode, we’re talking about the choices we make—the ones that keep us stuck and the ones that move us forward—so you can step fully into being the mama the Father created you to be. In This Episode This week, we’re exploring the action part of the Creation Cycle—how your daily choices flow directly from your thoughts, emotions, and identity in Christ. You’ll learn: What buffering looks like (and how it keeps you stuck in survival mode). How to recognize when you’re living from your false self (old man) instead of your true self (new man). Why emotional regulation matters when raising a strong-willed or neurodivergent child (ADHD, ASD, ODD, PDA). What it means to take faith-filled action—even when it feels uncomfortable. How to let the Father renew your mind so your actions reflect who He says you are. Faith Anchor “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” — Romans 12:2 Taking action in faith isn’t about striving harder—it’s about surrendering deeper. When we act from our renewed identity, our choices begin to reflect love, patience, and connection instead of fear, frustration, or control. Key Takeaways Buffering (scrolling, snacking, overworking, etc.) is how we often avoid emotions—but awareness helps us face what’s really going on. True Self vs. False Self: Your true self lives from love, grace, and abundance; your false self reacts from fear, lack, and self-protection. Faith-Filled Action: Growth happens when we take imperfect action—when we show up with courage even in the middle of hard moments. Emotional Regulation: You can’t control your child’s behavior, but you can control how you respond. This is what rebuilds connection and peace at home. Challenge of the Week Identify one area of your life where you’ve been buffering or numbing out—maybe through social media, food, or busyness. This week, instead of avoiding the emotion, pause and allow it.Then take one small action that aligns with your true self—something that moves you closer to peace, presence, and connection with your child. Ask yourself: “Am I acting from fear, or am I acting from love?” Every time you choose love, you’re becoming more of who the Father created you to be. Favorite Quote from This Episode “Your child doesn’t have to change for you to reclaim your peace. When you regulate your emotions and act from your true identity, you become the calm in your child’s storm.” Listen & Connect If this episode encouraged you, share it with another mama who’s walking through the storms of parenting a strong-willed or neurodivergent child. Don’t forget to leave a review on Apple Podcasts—it helps other moms find Parenting Beyond Meltdowns and reminds them they’re not alone.   Links & Resources Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas  

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is ranked in the Top 3% of podcasts globally! If you have a child strong-willed or neurodivergent child with ADHD, Autism, ODD, PDA you are in the right place! Mama, have you ever felt like you’re carrying emotional weight that never seems to go away? Like no matter how much you pray or think positive thoughts, it still sits heavy in your chest? In this episode, we’ll talk about how to process your emotions all the way through, so they stop living rent-free in your body—and you can finally breathe again. In This Episode Over the last few episodes, we’ve talked about becoming aware of what you’re feeling and allowing emotions without judgment. Today, we take the next step—learning how to process those emotions so they stop living rent-free in your body and start making space for peace, healing, and deeper connection with your child. You’ll learn: Why emotions are simply energy in motion—and how to let them pass through. What it practically looks like to sit with an emotion instead of resisting it. How trapped emotions can keep us feeling heavy and stagnant. Practical ways to process emotions through movement, writing, and connection. How releasing your emotions brings more peace to your home and your heart. Faith Anchor: God Created Us with Emotions The Bible shows again and again that feelings aren’t something to hide or be ashamed of—they are part of how God designed us to connect with Him and others. Verses Showing It’s Okay to Have Feelings & Emotions John 11:35 – “Jesus wept.” → Even Jesus, the Son of God, expressed deep sorrow and grief. Psalm 42:11 (NIV) – “Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.” → David honestly shared his sadness while still turning toward hope. Ecclesiastes 3:4 (NIV) – “A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” → The Word affirms that all emotions—joy and sorrow alike—have their place. Mark 14:33–34 (NIV) – “He took Peter, James and John along with him, and he began to be deeply distressed and troubled. ‘My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death,’ he said to them. ‘Stay here and keep watch.’” → Jesus openly expressed anguish in the Garden of Gethsemane. Psalm 34:18 (NIV) – “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” → The Father draws near to us in our most painful emotions. Romans 12:15 (NIV) – “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” → Emotions are part of our shared human experience, and the Father calls us to honor them together. When we process our emotions with the Father instead of pushing them away, He transforms what once felt heavy into something holy. The same emotions that once buried us can become the soil where healing grows. Recap Emotions aren’t meant to stay trapped inside. They’re like clouds passing over the sun or waves rolling through the ocean—they move when we let them. When we process emotions instead of carrying them like a backpack full of rocks, we create space for more peace, connection, and joy. Challenge of the Week When you notice an emotion this week: Pause and describe it—what does it feel like in your body? If it had a color, shape, or texture, what would it be? Choose one physical action to help release it: a walk, a cry, dancing, or a hug. Invite the Father into that moment—ask Him what He’s teaching you and thank Him for helping you release it. Join the Anchored Mama Insiders List Want more encouragement like this? Join my Insiders List for faith-filled reminders, emotional regulation tips, and practical tools to help you stay anchored in who God says you are. Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas    

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is ranked in the Top 3% of podcasts globally!  Ever feel like your emotions take over the moment your child melts down? You try to push them away, but they only come back stronger. In this episode, Amanda Calfee, Christian life coach and creator of The Anchored Mama Approach, teaches you how to allow emotions without being ruled by them so you can stay calm, connected, and confident—even when chaos hits. You’ll learn how: ✨ Your thoughts create your feelings (and how to recognize repeating thought patterns) ✨ Resisting emotions can actually make them stronger ✨ Allowing emotions opens the door to peace, connection, and freedom ✨ Jesus modeled the full range of human emotion—and invites you to do the same If you’ve ever felt hijacked by your feelings or disconnected from your strong-willed or neurodivergent child, this conversation will show you how to invite God into your emotional life and stop letting guilt or shame run the show. Bible Verses Mentioned John 11:35 – “Jesus wept.” → Used to show that even Jesus experienced and expressed emotion. Mark 14:33–34 – “He took Peter, James and John along with him, and he began to be deeply distressed and troubled. ‘My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death,’ he said to them.” → Used to illustrate that Jesus felt deep anguish and didn’t hide it. Psalm 62:8 – “Trust in Him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to Him, for God is our refuge.” → Emphasizes that God invites us to bring our emotions to Him rather than suppress them. Challenge of the Week — Allowing Emotions This week, when you feel a strong emotion rise up, practice allowing it instead of reacting or suppressing it. Steps to practice: 1️⃣ Pause and name what you’re feeling. 2️⃣ Take a deep breath and say, “It’s safe for me to feel this.” 3️⃣ Notice what happens when you stop fighting the emotion and simply let it exist. 📝 Bonus Tip: Write a quick note each time you try this — you’ll start seeing how much lighter it feels when you stop resisting your emotions. Links & Resources Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is ranked in the Top 3% of podcasts globally!  Does it ever feel like your child’s meltdowns hijack your whole mood? One moment you’re calm, the next you’re snapping, and then comes the guilt. You’re not alone, mama — and you’re not broken. In this first part of our two-episode series, we’re unpacking the first step to emotional resilience as a Christian mom: awareness. You’ll learn how to recognize the repetitive thoughts you carry and the emotions they create, so you can stop feeling overwhelmed and start walking in peace. This episode will help you: Understand the link between your thoughts and emotions. Learn why emotions aren’t the enemy but powerful messengers. Begin noticing your inner dialogue without judgment. Take on a simple 3-minute daily challenge to grow awareness. If you’re parenting a strong-willed or neurodivergent child — whether that’s ADHD, PDA, ODD, Autism, or ASD — this first step is crucial. Emotional regulation doesn’t begin with fixing your child’s behavior. It begins with understanding your own thought life and emotions. Challenge of the Week: Each day this week, set a timer for 3 minutes and ask yourself two questions: What am I thinking right now? What emotion is that thought creating? No judgment, just awareness. This is your first step toward peace, connection, and resilience in parenting.   Links & Resources: Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com   Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is ranked in the Top 3% of podcasts globally!    Have you ever felt like your thoughts are hijacking your parenting leaving you overwhelmed, reactive, and stuck in survival mode? In this episode, we’re diving into three powerful anchors for your thought life that will help you take your thoughts captive, so you can show up calmer and more connected with your strong-willed or neurodivergent child (whether ADHD, ASD, ODD, or PDA). You’ll learn how your thoughts shape your feelings, your actions, and ultimately the atmosphere in your home. Instead of being run by fear, shame, or others’ opinions, you’ll discover practical tools to declutter your mind and anchor your thoughts in truth—so meltdowns no longer have the power to hijack your peace.   What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why awareness of your thoughts is the first step to transformation. How to use a “thought download” to declutter your mind and release negative loops. Why other people’s opinions don’t define you—or your child. Biblical encouragement on renewing your mind (Romans 12:2) and speaking life over your parenting. A faith-rooted perspective on shifting from chaos to calm, even when meltdowns happen.   Faith Anchor Romans 12:2 reminds us: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Mama, you don’t have to let your thoughts run wild—you can anchor them in truth and take back your peace.   Episode Challenge This week, try a “thought download.” Write down every thought swirling in your mind about parenting, meltdowns, and your child. Then ask: Does this thought serve me and the relationship I want with my child? Release what doesn’t, and choose one life-giving thought to carry forward.   Links & Resources Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is ranked in the Top 3% of podcasts globally!    What comes to mind when you hear the word obedience? For many mamas, it feels tied to pressure, rules, and the belief that if our child doesn’t obey instantly, we must be failing. But what if that way of thinking is actually breaking connection with your strong-willed or neurodivergent child? In this episode, I’m rethinking obedience through a biblical lens — and exploring how connection, trust, and the Holy Spirit reshape the way we show up as moms, especially when raising kids with ASD, ADHD, ODD, or PDA. We’ll cover: The traditional view of obedience — and why it often leaves kids feeling unseen or discouraged. A deeper dive into Scripture and how relationship always comes before obedience. The role of the Holy Spirit in guiding us away from fear-based parenting and toward love and trust.   What you’ll walk away with: A fresh perspective on obedience that prioritizes your child’s heart over fear and control. Permission to meet your child at their developmental level — whether they’re strong-willed, neurodivergent, or both. Practical and faith-filled encouragement to lean into the Holy Spirit’s whisper instead of the world’s pressure. Bible Verses Referenced: Luke 22:39–45  Ephesians 6:1–4 Colossians 3:21    Resources & Links: Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas

Parenting Beyond Meltdowns is ranked in the Top 3% of podcasts globally!  Mama, Is your child just strong-willed, or could something deeper be going on... In this episode, we’ll unpack the difference between a strong-willed child and a neurodivergent child, and why the distinction matters—but not in the way you might think. Because at the end of the day, your child’s identity isn’t found in a label. And yours isn’t defined by their meltdowns. 💜 We’ll talk about: The difference between strong-willed traits and neurodivergent challenges. Why regulation and connection matter more than labels. How to anchor yourself so you can show up with peace, regardless of diagnosis. Whether you’re navigating ADHD, ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder), PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder), or just a whole lot of strong-willed energy, this conversation will give you hope and perspective.   Scriptures referenced: Psalm 139:14 — “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Isaiah 43:1 says, “Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.” Cleveland Clinic List Referenced: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/23154-neurodivergent   Resources & Links: Join Insiders List: https://amandacalfee.com/page/insider-list Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/amandacalfee/ Email: amanda@amandacalfee.com Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/anchoredmamas