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Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez. On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak. And on Fridays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions!
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1The Reset You Actually Need – Day 4
We’re often told to fix our mindset first, to think more positively, feel more motivated, or “get our head right.”
In Day 4 of The Reset You Actually Need, we flip that idea on its head and explore why disciplining the body is often the fastest way to change the mind.
This episode breaks down:
Why changing your physical state contributes to motivation and confidence
How physical routines regulate your mood and improve mental clarity
Ideas for you that you can start implementing today
How small, repeatable behaviours create psychological momentum
This isn’t about extreme routines or rigid self-control.
It’s about understanding that the brain takes its cues from the body and that mental resilience is often built through physical consistency.
This episode will show you why action at the level of the body is the reset you’ve been missing.
Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you reset your mindset, rebuild self-trust, and move differently through the year ahead.
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The Reset You Actually Need – Day 3
So many people believe their struggles are just “part of who they are.”
In Day 3 of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack the personality traits people often romanticise - like being chaotic, overly self-sacrificing, emotionally intense, or the crazy party animal, and how these traits quietly sabotage growth, consistency, and self-trust.
This episode explores:
Why you cling onto certain traits as your armour even though they conflict with the person you are trying to become
The psychology behind identifying too strongly with struggle
How to evolve your identity without losing your edge
If you’ve ever described yourself as “so chaotic,” “bad with routine,” or “a perfectionist,” this episode will help you see where personality ends and self-sabotage begins.
This isn’t about becoming boring or losing what makes you you.
It’s about upgrading the parts of your identity that are no longer serving your future.
Part of a 10-day mini-series designed to reset your mindset, standards, and sense of self for the year ahead.
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The Reset You Actually Need – Day 2
Feeling like you need to change everything to finally feel better?
In Day 2 of The Reset You Actually Need, we explore why most people don’t actually need a dramatic reinvention they need higher standards for what they allow, tolerate, and repeatedly recover from.
This episode breaks down:
Why dissatisfaction is often a standards issue, not a life problem
How low standards quietly drain energy, confidence
Why raising standards isn’t about being rigid or “too much”
How to upgrade your internal rules without changing your entire life
If you’ve been fantasising about starting over, quitting everything, or becoming someone else, this conversation will help you see what actually needs to change.
This is a grounded, psychology-led reset for people who want improvement without chaos.
This episode is part of a 10-day mini-series designed to help you start the year with clarity, calm confidence, and better self-leadership.
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Bonjour 2026!
Its that time again where we hit the ground running with a January mini series. For the next 10 days (week days that is) I will be releasing a slightly shorter episode daily to get you into a healthier and more balanced headspace to feel like yourself and on the right path for the year and for any other time.
Today I discuss why it is that you can feel so stuck and how that impacts your ability to move forward with problem solving and goal setting, and how changing your state can help move you forward in the calmest way possible.
Enjoy my little beans!
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In this encore episode, I break down 5 tips on how you can better structure your goals and stick to them.
Brain fact: Narcolepsy
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In this encore episode, I talk about Narcissism. What actually makes someone a narcissist? And what’s the REAL difference between covert and overt narcissism? I break down the traits to look out for to how to actually deal with a narcissist in your life. Especially when it’s someone close, like a parent or in-law...
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Your self-worth sets the tone for everything. From your relationships to your career. In this Encore Episode, I break down six powerful, science-backed strategies to help you raise your self-worth, strengthen your identity, and stop depending on external validation for confidence. Whether you’ve been stuck in cycles of comparison, people-pleasing, or self-doubt, these tools will help you build inner trust and finally feel good in your own skin.
We explore why self-worth is different from self-esteem, how your thoughts shape your identity, and what to do when you don’t feel “good enough.” You’ll also get actionable steps to start rewiring the way you see yourself without needing approval from anyone else. This one’s for anyone who’s ready to stop shrinking and start owning their space.
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In this episode I answer 3 of your voicemail questions! If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com
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Brain Fact of the week: Changing your surroundings to improve your focus
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Welcome to today's podcast episode where I answer your questions! With 300,000 new listeners this year, I am answering more and more of your questions to help you find resolutions. This episode I answer questions on complex friendships, phone anxiety and feeling stuck in a year of 'almosts.'
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In this episode I give you 5 actionable steps to declutter your life and mind before the New Year.
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Do you find yourself obsessively replaying conversations, worrying about what you should’ve said, or overanalysing situations long after they’ve passed? You’re not alone, and your brain might be stuck in a loop it doesn’t know how to exit.
In this episode, I break down the psychology and neuroscience of rumination, why it happens, and how to stop the mental spiral before it drags you down. You'll learn the difference between productive reflection and toxic overthinking, and how to retrain your brain to let go.
Topics include:
Why the brain loves repeating negative thoughts
The role of your default mode network in overthinking
How to interrupt obsessive mental loops in real time
Cognitive strategies to move on and reclaim your peace
Simple tools to manage regret, self-blame, and “what if” thinking
If you’ve ever laid awake at night overanalysing a conversation or can’t seem to let go of something that already happened, this episode is MADE for you.
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Brain Fact of the week: Munchausen Syndrome by proxy
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Are you holding on too tightly to outcomes and wondering why things keep slipping away? In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly why desperation leads to delusion and how to shift out of it. You’ll learn 9 powerful steps to detach with intention, stop sabotaging your own success, and finally become magnetic to the things you want most. Whether it’s relationships, career goals, or clarity in your life, detachment isn’t about not caring, it’s about choosing peace over panic.
I'll unpack the psychology behind why chasing can push things further away, how to rewire your need for control, and how to recognise the signs of obsession disguised as ambition.
If you’re tired of the constant overthinking, anxiety, or low-key obsession with getting it "right," this one’s for you.
Included in this ep:
The psychology of detachment
Why desperation warps reality
How to get what you want by caring less
9 actionable mindset shifts you can start today
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Beans! I am doing a Sydney Live Show in February, tickets are on sale here. In this Head Noise Episode I answer all your Voice Message Questions! If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com
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Brain Fact of the week: Water Intoxication.
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this one helps me get more collected
رابطه بین حس بویایی و مغز ،در این پادکست راجب حس عجیب بویایی و یاداوری صحبت میکنه . میکدولا و هیپوکامپ ،نزدیکی موقعیت این دوو بخش مغز چقد تاثیر گذاره .
oh my friggen good gid **god am I going through a mid life crisis but...... and then I jstvist it for formerly intellectual female. pretty good riddance sure. wtf like wtf!?!?!!?!? sorry sw÷Etienne but you seem strong and I was strong but holy shit. bags.
absolutely obsessed with this chick, she is the bomb!!!!
About the end story, I wanna tell her she is not the only one. Do not stop caring about yourself. You deserve the best.
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Thank you, I'm just about to move my business to another city.
Hello it’s about 1 week that I can’t play your podcasts any more! Is there any problem?
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Omg majdub means crazy in arabic :(
Thanks for this! I definitely have some elements of imposter syndrome and am driven by a fear of failure rather than a need to succeed, even at this stage in my career where I should know better! This was super helpful and articulated some things that I can work on. PS. This was my first time listening to your show, I have a playlist full of your content to work through now!
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Hi, beautiful legend! Can I have an address or a link to the guy who you said you are doing Botox with? Thanks for all of your helpful podcasts, You should know you are the one who makes me more confident in my hard lonely time. love love love
thank you.
omfg I really relate with my exphyco. the worst thing is she reaching out having one-sided conversation. then get text to say wow great conversation. to me total bullshit. get out of my space.
loving the podcast, can you slow down your speed talking a touch please.
zThanks girls!! happy new year!