Don’t Scare the Newbies!

After a small disruption caused by one highly mischievous microphone cable, kirizal and S are back with a new episode talking all about contraception. Appropriately enough, kirizal was ovulating during this recording, and it shows. W/we run through a few of the different methods and chat about O/our feelings and experiences of them (including kirizal's many, many side effect horror stories), share about O/our experiences of both getting sterilised (just to be absolutely sure). Plus, experiences of being childfree, a little bit on breeding kinks, and your regularly scheduled episode of 'put 50p in the feminist' as kirizal rants about the patriarchy... again.Content Note: Discussion of abortion, drug use and addiction, trying to conceive, and lots of medical stuff. Plus, brief mention of fantasies involving sexual violence (kirizal really will get that in anywhere).Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials (and book!) at www.kirizal.comSupport U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbiesAnd to keep track of the events kirizal will be selling books at, follow:BofTD 14th Nov: https://instagram.com/theboftd?psln=aWMyZXExdml3M2RnBBB 12th Dec: https://instagram.com/birminghambizarre?rpxt=MWIzMTRmcG92NWt6eg%3D%3D

In case you hadn't heard them yapping about it already, kirizal wrote a book. Actually, two books. 274k words in about six weeks, and as they settle into a well earned break from writing, W/we thought W/we should tell you all about it! On this episode, kirizal and S talk about the writing process, what goes into indie publishing, what kirizal loves about the pitch black genre, and how an outline for some dark, smutty fiction morphed into the most personal writing they have ever done delving into trauma, body image, faith, and redemption.Content Note: Discussion of violence, torture, sexual violence, fantasies involving sexual assault, childhood trauma, kink shaming, body image and weight loss. If you're concerned about spoilers, W/we kept them light - expect discussion of the worldbuilding and character backstories, and a little general discussion of overall character arcs, but not much more detail than you'd get from the blurb and trigger warnings in the book.Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials (and book!) at www.kirizal.comSupport U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbiesAnd to keep track of the events kirizal will be selling books at, follow:BofTD 14th Nov: https://instagram.com/theboftd?psln=aWMyZXExdml3M2RnBBB 12th Dec: https://instagram.com/birminghambizarre?rpxt=MWIzMTRmcG92NWt6eg%3D%3D

Mx requested something that wasn't arty and pretentious for O/our next episode, and kirizal delivered. This week, W/we're talking about 365 Days. Is a movie with only one scene of light bondage really a kinky movie? In this movie, most of the kink is non-diagetic so W/we're talking female gaze, book boyfriends, and lots of delicious tropes. Plus - why does sadness, angst, and tragedy often pop up in the darker end of romance, and why are toxic relationships on the page and on screen so relentlessly hot? Expect some feral grunting, and somehow Mx picks up a contact high from kirizal's painkillers. Content Note: Discussion of sexual assault and kidnappingFollow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials (and book!) at www.kirizal.comSupport U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies

After your first long, hard, two week wait for new DSTN!, W/we’re talking orgasm control and denial! kirizal and S chat about what orgasm control does for O/our dynamic, why it’s fun (and awful), and some important safety talk. Plus - O/our previous masturbation habits, and a morbid lil diversion to talk about death (cheery!)Content Note: Discussion of death and bereavementFollow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials (and book!) at www.kirizal.comSupport U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies

In an extra lengthy, rambly special, kirizal and S reflect on one year of hosting an award winning podcast. From how Don't Scare the Newbies! started and S's anxious dog reaction to the early analytics, to O/our favourite episodes and some lowlights (audio issues, UGH!). W/we chat about how much W/we appreciate O/our lovely audience, and then dive into a Q&A with questions you sent in!This episode also includes a little announcement about the future of DSTN! - but don't worry, W/we're not stopping any time soon!Content Note: Discussion of consensual non-consent play and non-consensual fantasy scenariosFollow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials at www.kirizal.comSupport U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies