Fashion is my Foreplay

This week on Fashion Is My Foreplay, I’m joined by Ben, the creator of Brighton’s brand new monthly queer night: Dirty Talk This episode is a little different, more of an event special, where we talk all about what Dirty Talk is, why Brighton needs more queer nightlife spaces, and what you can expect from the launch night this Friday 6th February at CHALK.We cover:– The vision behind Dirty Talk– Drag, pole, go-go dancers + runway moments– Building inclusive, accessible queer spaces– Brighton nightlife culture – What to wear, who it’s for, and why you should come danceDirty Talk Launch Night📍 CHALK, Brighton🗓 Friday 6th February🎟 Tickets: https://www.fatsoma.com/e/cyajde51/dirty-talk-01Follow the event: @dirtytalk.btnhttps://www.instagram.com/dirtytalk.btnContent Warnings:Adult themes, mild sexual humour/language, queer nightlife discussion.Follow the pod: @fashionismyforeplayGuest enquiries: fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com

PART 2 of my conversation with Violet (@imissviolet) goes deeper, into politics, protest culture, trans survival, sexuality, confidence, and what it actually means to build a livable future while you’re exhausted.We talk about:– Protest culture, burnout & why communities turn on themselves– ACT UP, AIDS history & what’s been erased from collective memory– Being trans in the current political climate– Experiencing hate crime & navigating safety– Gray sexuality, desire, communication & sex as “drag”– Confidence, self-love, affirmations & building yourself up– Foreplay as ritual, music, comfort & careThis episode is raw, funny, heavy at times, and deeply human. This is PART 2 of a two-part conversation.If you haven’t listened to PART 1 yet, start there first.Content Warnings (PART 2):Adult themes, sex & sexuality, gender identity & trans experience, hate crime discussion, political content, protest & activism, mental health, medical discussion (endometriosis, HPV), strong language.Follow us:Host: @fashionismyforeplayGuest: @imissviolet Listen on Spotify & watch on YouTube — search Fashion Is My ForeplayGuest enquiries: fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com

Welcome back to Fashion Is My Foreplay, and we’re kicking off with Violet (@imissviolet) for a chaotic, honest, hilarious conversation that covers everything from London Fashion Week shows to identity, hormones, dating, and why pretending to be “normal” is overrated.We talk about:– How we met through the Dr Noki /fashion show circuit– Modeling, TikTok, agencies & unexpected fashion moments– Burnout, politics, community, and creating more than you consume– Gender fluidity, pronouns, hormones & the reality of being perceived– ADHD/autism, oversharing, and being real online– Dating, falling fast, open relationships & communicationThis is PART 1 — PART 2 is coming next week!Content Warnings (PART 1):Adult themes, sex & relationships, gender identity / trans experience, body image, mental health, eating disorder mention, neurodiversity discussion, discussion of surgery (FFS), and some strong language.Follow us:Host: @fashionismyforeplayGuest: @imissviolet🎧 Listen + watch: Spotify & YouTube (search Fashion Is My Foreplay)💌 Guest enquiries: fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com

I’m back ✨After a short (and very unplanned) break thanks to tech chaos, Christmas, and life doing its thing, I’m finally back behind the mic with a little welcome-back mini episode.In this solo chat, I catch you up on where I’ve been, what’s been going on in my life, why consistency sometimes disappears when you’re doing everything yourself, and what’s coming next for Fashion Is My Foreplay.We talk:– Taking breaks without guilt– Sex, confidence, exes (because of course)– Body image, saggy tits & still feeling sexy– Manifesting, vision boards & New Year “resolutions”– Money, credit scores & getting your shit together (slowly)– Why the pod is my main focus this yearThis episode is messy, honest, funny, and very much a “hi, this is where I’m at” reset, and now that my laptop is fixed, you’ll be hearing a lot more from me very soon.If you’ve missed the pod, I’ve missed you xXx🔗 WHERE TO FIND & FOLLOW MEPodcast:🎧 Fashion Is My Foreplay — available on Spotify & YouTubeInstagram:📸 @fashionismyforeplayTikTok:🎥 @fashionismyforeplayEmail / Guest Enquiries:💌 fashionismyforeplay@gmail.comDMs are open. Chaos is welcome. Stories encouraged.

This week I’m joined by Sabry El Klifi (@sabryelklifi), Brighton-based fashion lover, model, stylist and content creator. To talk about style, confidence and why fashion is so much more than just clothes.We chat about how we met over those glasses, building a personal brand on Instagram, and the love, hate relationship with social media. Sabry opens up about growing up in France, moving to London and then Brighton, and how fashion became his daily therapy and creative outlet, helping him through low moments, breakups and rebuilding confidence.We talk about main character energy, compliments, not fitting in, buying with a vision, and why feeling sexy is an energy, not how much skin you show. And of course, we finish with my signature questions, including what makes him feel sexiest (spoiler: an oversized blazer).⚠️ Content warning: Adult themes, sex and sexuality, body confidence, social media pressures.Follow Sabry: @sabryelklifi Follow the podcast: @fashionismyforeplay on Instagram & TikTok

This week I’m joined by the incredible Katie France London, the designer behind the iconic heart bags you’ve seen all over Instagram, including my own blue & orange one-off piece.We talk about how her brand began with kids’ clothing, how inclusivity led her to designing bags, and why accessories were can be the first tool for confidence when clothing didn’t feel available. Katie opens up about imposter syndrome, the power of colour, building confidence through dopamine dressing, and how she grew her loyal community online.We also talk about content creation, small business collaboration, vintage fabric sourcing, and how her bags have found their way onto the runway at London Fashion Week.And of course, we finish with the classic questions.⚠️ Content warning: Adult themes, discussions of body confidence and sexuality.📌 Follow & Support Katie:Website: https://www.katiefrancelondon.co.uk/?srsltid=AfmBOortndBJznUtaLdtSjLF1m46UYwUpBdSeQOQB1SPhyrRxpSP2Rh0Instagram: @katiefrance.londonFollow the pod on Instagram & TikTok: @fashionismyforeplay

In this episode, I’m joined by dancer, fitness instructor, and Brighton icon Luke Haley, who opens up about finding their people through dance, discovering their identity, and building confidence through performance.We talk about Luke’s journey from growing up in a conservative area to training at the BRIT School and Laine Theatre Arts, coming to terms with being non-binary, and finding freedom in Brighton’s queer scene.From go-go dancing and thrifted fashion to sex, self-expression, and body confidence, Luke embodies what Fashion Is My Foreplay is all about: owning who you are and turning it into art.Follow Luke - @lukey_haley https://www.instagram.com/lukey_haley?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of gender identity, sexuality, and adult themes.

In Part 2 of my chat with hair artist and author Vicki Lord, we dive even deeper, into dating, ADHD, self-pleasure, and what truly makes a woman good in bed.We talk about her new book "Lets talk... Sex, cuts and blowdries", why dating yourself is essential, and how confidence and connection are at the heart of great sex. From the female orgasm to self-love, this episode is raw, real, and full of laughter.And, of course, we end with my signature questions, “What item of clothing makes you feel sexiest?” and “What’s your favourite form of foreplay?”⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of sex, self-pleasure, female anatomy, dating, ADHD, and adult themes.💇‍♀️ Follow Vicki: ⁠@vickilordhair⁠📚 Publisher: ⁠@byjpmartin⁠🎧  Let's talk... Sex, cuts and blow-dries: Choosing the chair instead of the closet (out October 22nd) – available on Amazon: ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FRRSG1G3?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&bestFormat=true&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAad-7etM9WBCgXsXIspFEt9O85EMfQ8CAjri2-ig1HkYOxIESqQFFJt6ZudwQw_aem_4b-S7nr_ZBhjTElmj1e86w

In this episode, I talk with hair artist and author Vicki Lord about her brand-new memoir Let's talk... Sex, cuts and blow-dries: Choosing the chair instead of the closet (out in print October 22nd). A raw memoir about love, sexuality, ADHD, and self-discovery.Vicki opens up about her journey from hairdresser to writer, from suppressing her sexuality for 30 years to living loudly and proudly as a lesbian at 50.We talk about hair as a crown of identity, ADHD and relationships, the cycles of love, and the healing power of writing. Vicki shares how her book became therapy, and how talking about sex, confidence, and women’s pleasure can help others feel less alone.Vicki’s openness and humour make this one of the most honest episodes yet.⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of sex, sexuality, ADHD, relationships, and self-pleasure.💇‍♀️ Follow Vicki: @vickilordhair📚 Publisher: @byjpmartin🎧  Let's talk... Sex, cuts and blow-dries: Choosing the chair instead of the closet (out October 22nd) – available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FRRSG1G3?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&bestFormat=true&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAad-7etM9WBCgXsXIspFEt9O85EMfQ8CAjri2-ig1HkYOxIESqQFFJt6ZudwQw_aem_4b-S7nr_ZBhjTElmj1e86w

This is Part 2 of my two-part mini-series , the one where I tell my sex story.In this episode, I open up about my views on sex, confidence, and sex work. Why I believe in being open, unfiltered, and sex-positive. I talk about how my relationship with sex has changed from teenage insecurity to full empowerment, how ADHD and mindset affect intimacy, and why I support decriminalising sex work for safety and respect.This conversation is about owning your body, knowing your worth, and removing the shame around female sexuality.I want to hear your thoughts and questions for an upcoming Q&A episode, so DM me @FashionIsMyForeplay or email me fashionismyforeplay@gmail.comMentions and signpostingUK Online Safety Act (2023) — context on current sex work and online restrictionsNew Zealand Prostitution Reform Act (2003) — example of decriminalisation done safelyOrganisations advocating for sex workers’ rights:@sexworkerrightsuk@swasnetwork@englishcollectiveofprostitutesADHD + Sex resources: “How ADHD Affects Sex and Intimacy” (ADDitude Magazine)⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of sex, sex work, ADHD, unhealthy relationships, sexual shame, and gender/sexuality.

In this episode, I sit down with Jordan Chan, activist, Mr Gay Britain finalist, and Chair of Swale Pride, to talk about his journey from surviving brutal bullying in rural Kent to leading change for the queer community.Jordan opens up about his experiences with identity, activism, and the power of visibility. We talk about the Red Ribbon Calendar, his latest charity project raising money for the Terrence Higgins Trust and The Sussex Beacon, both supporting people living with HIV.This episode dives into community, stigma, safe sex, and representation, from the 80s AIDS epidemic to queer joy in shows like It’s A Sin, Pose, Heartstopper, and Love, Simon.🎗️ Featured Links & Recommendations:📸 Jordan’s Instagram: @jordanwch_92🗓️ Buy the Red Ribbon Calendar: https://payhip.com/b/M5bjs?utm_id=1344207247310791_v2_s01_e1001&fbclid=PAZnRzaANQDX1leHRuA2FlbQIxMQABpw1CmbGMmX9kHKSibo_SaypTxCRy5WYy1F7bP_l950PslwsgstimgTc13gsE_aem__0xPNX4TFL1x2xDKoO9Qxw🏳️‍🌈 @swalepride_official💖 @thtorguk | @sussexbeacon📷 @mwordsphotography🎬 TV & Film Recs: It’s A Sin, Pose, Pride, Heartstopper, Queer As Folk, Love Simon⚠️ Content warning: Discussions include bullying, homophobia, HIV/AIDS, stigma, and sexual health.

In this first of a two-part special, I share my journey into the fashion industry, how becoming a mum pushed me to find my identity beyond parenting, and how that led me into design, styling, production, and eventually hosting this podcast.From my early days creating children’s clothing on Instagram, to studying fashion at UCA, becoming a Dazed finalist, working backstage at London Fashion Weeks, and freelancing across styling and production, this episode is all about the highs, lows, and lessons of finding my place in fashion.Next week, in Part 2, I’ll share the other side of the story, my history with sex and why I bring both worlds together on Fashion Is My Foreplay.Follow me on Instagram/ TikTok/ YouTube @fashionismyforeplay

In this episode of Fashion Is My Foreplay, I sit down with my mum for an unfiltered conversation about sex-positive parenting and what it means to raise five daughters with honesty, openness, and without shame.We talk about her own childhood, teaching without judgement, navigating slut shaming, body confidence, eating disorders, and the challenges of generational cycles around food and image. We also dive into the male gaze, teenage rebellion, and how dress and identity become a form of expression.This one’s raw, real, and deeply personal, exploring how parenting shapes confidence, sexuality, and the way we see ourselves.⚠️ Content warning: This episode includes discussions of homophobia, sexual assault, abortion, eating disorders, and porn.Follow Emma on Instagram: ⁠@_.emma.laing._Follow me on Insta/TikTok/YouTube @fashionismyforeplay for more unfiltered chats.

Note: This episode has some tech issues with microphone quality, but it’s been fixed for future recordings. Also, a content warning: we discuss sensitive topics including sex, fetishisation, and violence against trans women.In this episode of Fashion Is My Foreplay, I sit down with Zorana Dawn (@zoranadawnart) a Brighton-based burlesque and drag performer, character artist, and fashion chameleon.Originally from Serbia, Zorana’s world is filled with colour, pattern, self-expression, and unapologetic confidence. We talk about:✨ Fashion as performance, from the stage to the bedroom✨ Burlesque, drag, body glitter, and a wardrobe full of jumpsuits✨ The fetishisation and dangers trans women face in dating and hookups✨ How transition changed her body, sex life, and self-acceptance✨ Why self-love, lingerie, and touch are central to her life and relationshipsZorana’s story is bold, honest, and glitter-covered, just like her.Follow Zorana on Instagram: @zoranadawnartFollow me on Insta/TikTok/YouTube @fashionismyforeplay for more unfiltered chats.

In this episode of Fashion Is My Foreplay, I sit down with Rebecca, the face behind Vixn. A bold, Brighton-based activewear brand that’s about more than just leggings.We dive into gym fitness and body confidence, the power of pole, and how dopamine dressing can transform not only how you look, but how you show up  for yourself. Rebecca talks about confidence in the gym setting, from feeling strong to feeling sexy, and how the right clothes can enhance your training, boost your mood, and make you walk in with your head higher.She also shares her vision for Vixn, what’s next for the brand, and the realities of building a business in the activewear space.This one’s about sweat, style, and unapologetic self-belief.Follow Vixn here: @vixnfitness Follow me on Insta/TikTok/YouTube @fashionismyforeplay for more unfiltered chats.

Welcome to the first full episode of Fashion Is My Foreplay. Where I tell you exactly why I started this podcast, how fashion and sex shaped my identity, and how it all ties into my past.I’m sharing why I started this podcast, how fashion shaped my identity, and why the world of style is just as seductive, chaotic, and political as anything we label “taboo.”In this episode:My background in the fashion industryWhy I talk openly about sex, gender and identity How I use fashion as a form of expression, survival, and foreplayNew episodes weeklyShare if it made you laugh, gasp, or question everythingSubscribe and step into something unapologetic🔗 Follow on Instagram, TikTok & YouTube: @fashionismyforeplay📩 For press & collabs: fashionismyforeplay@gmail.com⚠️ This podcast discusses sex, sex work, and adult themes. Listener discretion is advised.

Welcome to Fashion Is My Foreplay, the podcast where fashion, sex, identity, and way-too-much-information collide.This short trailer is your first taste of what’s to come: stories, interviews, deep chats, wild opinions, and unapologetic realness from a stylist, designer, and sex-positive storyteller navigating life with ADHD, eyeliner, and no filter.Expect weekly episodes with guests, behind-the-scenes secrets, and absolutely no shame.Follow now so you don’t miss the first full episode.And yes... it’s as chaotic, stylish, and unfiltered as you hoped.🔗 Follow the pod on Instagram, TikTok & YouTube: @fashionismyforeplay📩 For press & collabs: fashionismyforeplay@gmail.comhttps://linktr.ee/parrybette⚠️ This podcast discusses sex, sex work, and adult themes. Listener discretion is advised.