Mum's True Tea w/Kendall Lasha

Summary In this episode of Mum's True Tea, I dive into the the controversial topic of 'no contact' trend that's impacting relationships between parents and their adult children. I discuss the double standard that exists in these dynamics, the influence of social media and therapy culture, and the importance of setting boundaries for mental health. Through personal anecdotes and observations, I am heavy on emphasizing the need for open conversations about the complexities of parent-child relationships and the societal pressures that often lead to misunderstandings and judgments. Chapters 00:00 Introduction "I Choose Peace over Disrespect" 02:54 The Double Standard of No Contact 05:46 The Impact of Social Media and Therapy 08:28 Boundaries and Parental Peace 10:43 The Trend of No Contact in Families 13:18 The Role of Respect in Parent-Child Relationships 15:55 Navigating Toxic Relationships 18:58 Judgment and Misunderstanding of Parents 21:27 The Importance of Sharing Parental Experiences 23:51 Conclusion: Choosing Peace Over Proximity   KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast   THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE! 

Join me as I discuss the emotional and psychological toll on Black women following the recent election results and how we need to Opt-Out of saving everyone else and heal from savior syndrome. We need to work hard at unraveling the encoding in our DNA that has made us the nurturers of others, learn to prioritize self-care, our mental well-being, and healing over the societal expectation to be saviors. The conversation explores the historical context of Black women's roles as caregivers and nurturers, the burden of resilience, and the importance of setting boundaries to protect mental health.   Chapters 00:00 Opting Out of the Savior Role 10:06 The Burden of Strength and Resilience 19:45 Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Self-Care   Takeaways We are opting out of being the savior. Black women are often expected to be strong and resilient, which dismisses their struggles. The recent election results have led to feelings of hopelessness among Black women. Self-care is not just about pampering; it's about true emotional and mental well-being. Black women are dying at alarming rates due to stress and neglect of self-care. Setting boundaries is essential for mental health and well-being. The historical context of Black women's roles impacts their current mental health. It's important to recognize who supports us in our lives. We need to stop making excuses for those who don't show up for us. Prioritizing ourselves is not selfish; it's necessary.   KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast   THANK YOU SO 

Summary In this conversation, I discuss the painful and often overlooked issue of parental alienation, which occurs when one parent manipulates their child against the other parent after a breakup or divorce. I share examples of what parental alienation looks like and share some of my personal experiences with this dynamic, highlighting the emotional toll it takes on both the alienated parent and the child. The conversation emphasizes the importance of healing, accountability, and the need for children to have a safe space to process their emotions without being influenced by either parent. Ultimately, it calls for parents to prioritize their children's wellbeing over their own grievances. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Parental Alienation 04:24 The Impact of Alienation on Children 08:29 The Role of Both Parents in Alienation 12:20 Healing and Moving Forward 15:10 Finding Support and Community   KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast   THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE!   

Summary Join me in this conversation as I discuss the complexities and challenges of single motherhood, emphasizing that many women find themselves in this role unexpectedly and without choice. Listen to me discuss the emotional toll, societal judgment, and the resilience required to navigate this journey as a single mom. This a conversation that aims to foster empathy and understanding for single mothers, encouraging support from those who may not fully grasp the struggles involved. Chapters 00:00 The Unexpected Journey to Single Motherhood 03:21 The Emotional Toll of Single Motherhood 07:59 Resilience and Strength in Adversity 12:43 Judgment and Misunderstanding of Single Mothers 15:34 Empathy and Support for Single Moms   KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast   THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE! 

Summary October is Domestic Violence Awareness month and In this episode I discuss the often-overlooked topic of parental abuse with my guest Alice Slaughter-Flowers who lost her sister Rosemary Pate to violence at the hands of her own son. Join me as we explore the realities of parents living in fear of their own children, living under constant mental distress because of their children, being abused verbally and physcially and even killed by their own children. We will discuss the cultural stigma surrounding this issue, the blame and judgement that mothers often face when trying to share their experiences, and the diverse factors that contribute to such dynamics. The conversation highlights the need for awareness, support, and resources for parents facing abuse, emphasizing that this is a serious issue that transcends socioeconomic status and family structure. If you are in need of help please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1*800*799*SAFE  Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Parental Abuse 01:50 The Reality of Parental Abuse 06:10 Cultural Perspectives on Abuse 12:10 The Role of Mental Health 18:16 The Stigma of Seeking Help 24:53 Understanding Parental Abuse Dynamics 30:42 Personal Stories of Abuse 36:32 The Need for Support and Resources   SUBSCRIBE TO MY NEWSLETTER VIA MY WEBSITE: https://mumstruetea.com/ YOU CAN FOLLOW ME ON ALL PLATFORMS: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mumstruetea FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MumsTrueTeaPodcast TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@MumsTrueTea THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE! 

Don't be mad sis. Hear me out in this candid episode, as I dive into the complex dynamics that arise when mothers treat their sons like emotional partners or even stand-in husbands. With heartfelt insight and a dash of real talk, I touch on how these blurred lines can hinder a son's emotional growth and create unhealthy co-dependency. Tune in as I discuss the importance of self-awareness for moms, the need for clear boundaries, and how both mothers and sons can work towards fostering independence and building healthier relationships for the future and for their mental well-being.   KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast   Thank you for tuning in!  

In this eye-opening episode of Mum's True Tea, I dive deep into the emotional toll that motherhood can take on mental health, including how it can lead to PTSD. I explore the backlash I received for speaking this truth, especially as a single mom. Society often paints motherhood as a joyful experience, but for many, it’s far from the truth. Single moms face intense financial, emotional, and physical burdens, often with little to no support from partners, family, or their community. We discuss the harsh realities of absent fathers and the lack of understanding from those who fail to recognize the struggles single moms endure. Plus, why men who despise single moms often have unresolved issues of their own. Let’s shed light on these tough truths and call for the support and empathy single mothers deserve.   Chapters 00:00 The Disdain and Lack of Support for Single Moms 06:02 The Sole Responsibility of Single Moms 10:38 The Truth About the Difficulties of Motherhood 15:26 Men Who Hate Single Moms: Unresolved Issues 18:19 The Need for Support and Understanding for Single Moms   KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast

In this episode I discuss how managing motherhood is more about moving through it and learning along the way. We don't really manage mothehood, motherhood manages us. Society often silences the struggles of mothers, but it's important to have support and express our true feelings about motherhood some days. It's okay to have regrets and struggles in motherhood. To navigate motherhood, it's important to let go of mom guilt, remove codependency, and embrace imperfections. Creating space and finding a community for moms who haven't had a great experience is crucial. Social media often portrays a perfect image of motherhood, but it's important to show self-compassion and prioritize self-care. Setting boundaries, managing time, and finding a supportive tribe are key to managing motherhood. Chapters 00:00 Moving Through Motherhood: Learning Along the Way 02:30 Embracing Imperfections: Letting Go of Mom Guilt 05:09 Creating a Supportive Community 06:55 Prioritizing Self-Care: Nurturing Yourself as a Mom 08:47 Protecting Your Mental and Emotional Well-Being 11:06 Embracing Imperfection and Celebrating Wins SUBSCRIBE TO MY NEWSLETTER VIA MY WEBSITE: https://mumstruetea.com/ KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast   THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE!

PART 2 Because of the feedback that I received, I went a little deeper on this conversation in hopes it will encourage someone. Welcome to Part 2 of this very personal Mum's True Tea w/Kendall Lasha episode as I discuss grieving the loss of an already estranged parent further and share some of the ways that I have been able to process such a loss. Come take a look and listen at some insight on navigating this form of grief and loss. ABOUT "MUM'S TRUE TEA" PODCAST: Just in case you didn't know "MUM'S TRUE TEA" is the Podcast where moms can spill the true tea on various thought-provoking topics and challenge beliefs about motherhood authentically, unapologetically, and without judgment. I’m your host, Kendall Lasha Williams. I wanted to create this community and safe space for moms who don’t always have that warm and fuzzy feeling we’re expected to have when it comes to motherhood. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Recap of Episode One 00:52 The Complexity of Grieving an Estranged Parent 02:18 Setting Boundaries and Dealing with Guilt 03:12 Exploring Personal Experiences and Emotions 06:00 Tools for Processing the Loss: Therapy and Writing 09:47 Self-Reflection and Finding Meaning in the Experience 10:15 Healing and Moving Forward 11:14 Conclusion and Call to Action   SUBSCRIBE TO MY NEWSLETTER VIA MY WEBSITE: https://mumstruetea.com/   KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast     THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE!

Summary On this very personal episode, I discuss the process of grieving the loss of an already estranged parent. This loss is a complex and emotional process. It is so important to allow yourself to grieve and process the emotions associated with losing a parent that was already gone from your life. It's a different pain when you have been abandoned by this parent and now they are gone. It's also important that you find healing and give yourself grace while navigating the loss of an estranged parent. They may have not been with us when we needed them, but I strongly believe they are with us now.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Processing the Loss of an Estranged Parent 01:48 The Absence of Father's Day Celebrations 05:56 Finding Comfort in the Belief of Parental Presence 07:25 Healing from the Absence and Abandonment KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast

Join me and my guest Nurse Practitioner Karin Hulon as we discuss perimenopause and menopause. We explore why there is a lack of conversation around these topics, particularly among black women, and the barriers that prevent women from seeking help and support. They also delve into the symptoms and changes that occur during perimenopause and menopause, including hormonal fluctuations, hot flashes, sleep disturbances, mood swings, weight changes, and vaginal dryness. The conversation highlights the importance of education, communication with partners and children, and finding effective treatments and support during this stage of life! You don't want to miss this grown woman conversation! Tune in and listen to episodes sharing real life experiences authentically and unapologetically!   Chapters 00:00 Introduction and the Lack of Conversation 04:39 Understanding Perimenopause 08:12 Symptoms and Changes in Perimenopause 26:52 Transitioning to Menopause 31:04 Importance of Education and Communication   KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast

Summary This episode is a heartfelt apology and reflection on neglecting oneself and not showing self-love and appreciation. The host acknowledges the trauma, heartbreak, and pain caused by not recognizing one's worth and settling for mediocrity. They apologize for prioritizing others over oneself, staying in toxic environments, and tolerating disrespect. The episode emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, practicing self-love, and embracing one's own worth and journey. Chapters 00:00 Apologizing for Neglecting Self-Love 03:13 Recognizing Worth and Stopping Settling 08:22 Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Well-Being 11:22 Embracing Self-Love and Journey   SUBSCRIBE TO MY NEWSLETTER VIA MY WEBSITE: https://mumstruetea.com/ YOU CAN FOLLOW ME ON ALL PLATFORMS: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mumstruetea FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MumsTrueTeaPodcast TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@MumsTrueTea THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME MOMS... IT'S GOING TO BE AN AMAZING RIDE! 

Join me as I unpack the complex topic of adult kids claiming that they are breaking generational curses. Are they truly breaking them, or merely creating new ones? This episode challenges the narrative and explores what genuine healing looks like and what generational curse breaking really looks like.  Please visit my website for more information and also subscribe to my newsletter: http://mumstruetea.com/ 🔔𝐃𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐛𝐬𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐛𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐲 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐥 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐮𝐩𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬. https://www.youtube.com/@MumsTrueTea/?sub_confirmation=1 🔗 Stay Connected With Me. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MumsTrueTeaPodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mumstruetea/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mumstruetea?lang=en Website: http://mumstruetea.com/ 📩 For business inquiries and appointments: info@mumstruetea.com ============================= 

Summary In this episode of 'Mum's True Tea,' Kendall Lasha discusses the often unspoken reality of child-to-parent abuse, drawing parallels between the struggles of motherhood and the concept of kryptonite from the Superman narrative. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing when children become toxic and the need for mothers to prioritize their own mental health and well-being. Through personal anecdotes and statistics, Kendall advocates for breaking the silence surrounding this issue and encourages mothers to seek support and empowerment. Takeaways Moms often need to take a breather for their own healing. Children can become a source of emotional pain for parents. The concept of kryptonite symbolizes how children can weaken parents. Child-to-parent abuse is a reality that is often overlooked. Silence about child-to-parent abuse can be harmful. Mothers are often expected to endure pain without speaking out. Financial and emotional abuse from children is a serious issue. Estrangement can be a necessary step for self-preservation. It's important to seek support and not feel alone in these struggles. Mothers should prioritize their mental health over societal expectations.   KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast

Summary In this episode of Mum’s True Tea, host Kendall Lasha discusses the absurd reasons adult children give for going no contact with their parents, particularly mothers. She critiques the influence of social media and modern therapy on parenting narratives, emphasizing that affection and involvement are often misinterpreted as control or abuse. Lasha argues that the blame for adult children's struggles is unfairly placed on parents, who often provided love and support. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing the emotional tools parents provide and the need to reclaim parental identity amidst societal pressures. Takeaways Moms are often blamed for their children's issues. Adult children use therapy as an excuse for estrangement. Affection from parents is misinterpreted as smothering. Generational wealth is misunderstood in parenting contexts. Social media influences perceptions of parenting negatively. Involvement in children's lives is not narcissism. Healing should focus on honesty, not manipulation. The phrase 'I didn't ask to be born' is problematic. Parents often struggle to provide while being blamed. True wealth includes emotional support and life skills. Chapters 00:00 The Blame Game: Parenting Under Scrutiny 02:46 The Ridiculous Reasons for Estrangement 05:31 Affection vs. Abuse: Misunderstandings in Parenting 08:43 The Impact of Generational Wealth and Stability 11:30 Social Media's Role in Parenting Narratives 14:07 The Misconceptions of Control and Involvement 17:15 The New Age of Therapy and Parenting Expectations 20:02 The Unasked Question: Why Did You Have Kids? 22:45 Healing from False Narratives 25:52 Reclaiming Parental Truths KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast

Summary In this conversation, Kendall Lasha addresses the often-overlooked issue of parental abuse, discussing the emotional, verbal, and physical abuse that mothers may endure from their children. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing this abuse, setting boundaries, and taking action to protect oneself. The conversation highlights the need for mothers to reclaim their dignity and safety, encouraging them to speak up, seek support, and prioritize their well-being. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Parental Abuse 05:36 Setting Boundaries and Protecting Yourself 10:03 Finding Support and Healing KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast   Grab my book  💚Grab My Book “Reclaiming Your Identity: A Mom’s Guide to Empowerment, Boundaries and Peace Amid Estrangement” Ebook + Paperback on MumsTrueTea.com or Amazon https://a.co/d/gn0MZBD 💚   THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR LISTENING!       

Summary In this episode of Mum's True Tea, host Kendall Williams discusses the emotional turmoil that comes with receiving unexpected communication from an estranged child. She emphasizes the importance of managing anxiety, setting boundaries, and protecting one's mental health while navigating these complex relationships. The conversation provides practical advice for mothers dealing with estrangement, focusing on the need for self-care and cautious communication. Chapters 00:00 My Estranged Child Reached Out Now WHAT?! 01:14 New Chapter 02:47 Understanding Emotional Responses and Setting Boundaries 05:56 Establishing Healthy Communication and Boundaries 07:31 Protecting Your Peace and Healing 09:44 Final Thoughts and Encouragement for Moms 10:28 _MTT- OUTRO video.mp4   KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast 💚Grab My Book “Reclaiming Your Identity: A Mom’s Guide to Empowerment, Boundaries and Peace Amid Estrangement” Ebook + Paperback on MumsTrueTea.com or Amazon https://a.co/d/gn0MZBD 💚

Summary In this episode of Mum's True Tea, host Kendall Lasha engages in a deep conversation with therapist Jeff James about the complex dynamics between black mothers and their sons. They explore the societal and systemic issues that contribute to the challenges faced by black families, the historical context of family structures, and the emotional responsibilities placed on children. The discussion also touches on the importance of accountability in relationships and the impact of parenting styles on the emotional health of children. In this conversation, Kendall Lasha and Jeffre James explore the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on the expectations individuals bring into them, the consequences of choices made, and the importance of communication. They discuss the roles of men and women, the impact of cultural dynamics, and the need for self-reflection and healing in order to break generational cycles. The conversation emphasizes the importance of building bridges rather than walls in relationships and the necessity of accountability and growth for both parents and children. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Conversation 02:21 Exploring the Blame on Black Moms 05:51 Systemic Issues Affecting Black Families 11:00 Historical Context of Black Family Dynamics 20:06 Consequences of Social Changes on Family Structure 22:18 Accountability in Relationships 25:09 The Impact of Parenting Styles 29:25 The Role of Fathers in Child Development 31:13 Understanding Relationship Dynamics 34:23 Consequences of Relationship Choices 39:25 The Importance of Fighting for Family 45:38 The Quest for Peace and Healing 48:31 Breaking Cycles: Generational Patterns 51:11 Cultural Reflections: Movies and Lessons 54:20 Understanding Consequences: Parenting and Feedback 01:01:21 Self-Reflection and Growth in Motherhood 01:05:24 Building Bridges: The Path to Healing   KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast     Join my Patreon for exclusives   THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR LISTENING!     

Summary In this episode of Mum's True Tea, Kendall Lasha delves into the complex dynamics between mothers and their children, particularly focusing on the rising trend of labeling mothers as narcissists. She challenges the audience to reflect on their perceptions of motherhood, the impact of therapy on familial relationships, and the importance of empathy and understanding in the healing process. Through personal anecdotes and thought-provoking questions, Kendall emphasizes the need for forgiveness, the recognition of mothers as individuals with their own traumas, and the responsibility each person has for their own healing journey. Takeaways All moms are not narcissists; this label is overused. Therapy should be a tool for healing, not a weapon. Mothers are human beings with their own struggles. Children often overlook their mothers' sacrifices. Forgiveness can be a personal choice, independent of apologies. Healing requires empathy for both oneself and others. Setting boundaries doesn't mean being cruel or judgmental. A good mother often goes unnoticed in her efforts. Self-reflection is crucial when feeling triggered. Healing should not lead to selfishness or heartlessness. KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast     Join my Patreon for exclusives   THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR LISTENING! 

Summary In this episode of Mum's True Tea, I am going to address some of the complex challenges parents face in today's world, particularly regarding respect and communication with their adult children, how keeping parents from grandkids is a form of punishment and what parents are really going through. As I read through a series of listener emails and direct messages, I will share my insight and advice on navigating issues of estrangement, disrespect, and the emotional toll of parenting. This conversation emphasizes the importance of creating supportive environments for parents and recognizing the generational differences that impact family dynamics. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Parental Challenges 02:49 Navigating Disrespect in Parent-Child Relationships 05:44 The Dynamics of Marriage and Parenting 08:15 Addressing Estrangement and Guilt 10:47 Creating a Safe Space for Parents 13:21 The Impact of Abuse on Parent-Child Relationships 16:23 Understanding Generational Differences in Parenting 19:04 The Role of Grandchildren in Family Dynamics 21:42 Empowerment and Support for Parents 24:58 Concluding Thoughts on Parental Relationships 32:13 _MTT- OUTRO video.mp4   KEEP UP WITH MUM'S TRUE TEA: WEBSITE: MumsTrueTea.com INSTAGRAM: @MumsTrueTea FACEBOOK: @MumsTrueTea TikTok: @MumsTrueTeaPodcast Fanbase: @MumsTrueTea   Join my Patreon for exclusives   THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR JOINING ME!