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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 218 - "Relationship Connection Series: Supportive connection with others" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideAs a culture we often use the word love when we actually mean like, appreciate, care and sometimes even descriptors that lie in the unsupportive end of the relationship spectrum. On our last episode we discussed the unsupportive end of the spectrum and the behaviors that are associated with it. This episode, join us as we get into the the supportive end of the spectrum, the behaviors that are present and what is needed to truly to improve our relationship with others.In this episode we cover:Ooooppps, Serena's done it again and now we're getting uncomfortableI love you but I don't like you...is it true?Why we use the word loveGetting clear on the difference between the person and the behaviorThe layers of the supportive connection with others spectrumSupportive behaviors that impact the relationship's needsSupportive behaviors that impact your needsWhy there aren't healing behaviors for these layers in the relationship connection spectrumCultivating the loving relationship that works for both peopleDose the intensity and depth of relationship determine the level it sits at?Episode References:The previous Relationship Connection Series episodes:Episode 215 - Relationship Connection Series: What are the needs that are essential to any supportive relationship (The Relationship Needs)?Episode 216 - Relationship Connection Series: The Relationship Needs Part 2Episode 217 - Relationship Connection Series: Unsupportive connection with othersThe Selfirst episode - Episode 20 - Selfirst Series: What is Selfirst? Let's get specific…The Self Connection Spectrum episodes:Episode 211 - Self Love Series: Unsupportive self connectionEpisode 212 - Self Love Series: Supportive self connectionEpisode 213 - Self Love Series: The behaviors that can heal your self love woundsThe Empowerment Ecosystem episodes -Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachEpisode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachEpisode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor ApproachEpisode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering oneThe Drama Triangle episodes:Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachEpisode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachEpisode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachEpisode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulNotes:The quote Claire was thinking of was from How To Lose a Guy in 10 Days "I love you Benky... but I don't have to like you right now."https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hisYunuK3lcPodcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideFind our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 217 - "Relationship Connection Series: Unsupportive connection with others" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideActions speak louder than words, we've all heard the phrase before and many of us think we believe that sentiment. Yet when we are assessing our own relationships, the actions (or inactions) of others often don't hold as much weight as they should. Join us on today's episode where we are looking at our connection with others and how to use this as a tool to access which of our relationships are actually working, how people really feel about us, how we really feel about others and how to begin moving our relationships in the direction we want it to.In this episode we cover:What is the relationship connection spectrum and why is it importantWhy consistency is such an important factorUnsupportive connection with othersDetermining how someone actually feels towards you and your relationshipWhat can keep us from recognizing or acknowledging these unsupportive behaviorsThe difference between love the feeling and love the verbUnsupportive behaviors that impact the relationship's needsUnsupportive behaviors that impact your needsPutting the unsupportive behaviors into perspectiveTwo of the most important tools to use in the process of moving through the spectrumThe hope for our relationshipsDetermining how you actually feels towards others and your relationshipEpisode References:The previous Relationship Connection Series episodes:Episode 214 - Relationship Connection Series: What are the needs that are essential to any supportive relationship (The Relationship Needs)?Episode 215 - Relationship Connection Series: The Relationship Needs Part 2The Drama Triangle episodes:Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachEpisode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachEpisode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachEpisode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulThe episode about interconnectedness - Episode 202 - What is interconnectedness and why is it so critical to getting our needs met?Notes:“Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.” - Prentis HemphillPodcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideFind our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 216 - "Relationship Connection Series: The Relationship Needs Part 2" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideOften times our relationships are treated like an artificial plant that just exists because we want it to...and then we wonder why the relationship didn't last. As we learned on the previous episode, like us, our relationships have needs to which need to be nourished in order for them to survive and grow. This week we're pickup up where we left off on our last episode and continuing to share the essential needs that every relationship has. Join us to discover the energy and effort we need to put into our relationships to not only sustain them but to help them grow and thrive. In this episode we cover:A quick review of the relationship needs we've already coveredThe importance of communication in relationships and what elements we don't always considerShowing you understand and care by asking questionsWhat is honesty and do we actually want this in our relationshipsThe different types of connection and intimacyWhat is security and safety in relationshipsThe line between compromising and compromising ourselvesThe different aspects of learning and growth in relationshipsDealing with conflict resolution in relationshipsFinding balance with relationship equityThe different kinds of labor and the two that cause the biggest issues in relationshipsRelationship compatibility, what are the dealbreakersOptional relationship dependent needsThe two aspects that go into meeting our relationship needsWhy relationships are NOT 50/50Episode References:Part 1 - Episode 214 - Relationship Connection Series: What are the needs that are essential to any supportive relationship (The Relationship Needs)The episode where we talk about honesty - Episode 146 - How honest should you be with children?The Boundaries Series -Episode 101 - Boundaries Series: What exactly ARE boundaries?Episode 102 - Boundaries Series: How to know what your boundaries areEpisode 103 - Boundaries Series: How to communicate your boundariesThe ideal world episode - Episode 195 - Why there is no such thing as win-lose in relationshipsThe apology blueprint episode - Episode 156 - The 6 essential parts of an effective apologyNotes:Download The Apology Blueprint PDF here: https://theuniversalneeds.com/ApologyPodcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideFind our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 215 - "Relationship Connection Series: What are the needs that are essential to any supportive relationship (The Relationship Needs)?" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideDid you know our relationships have their own needs? Many relationships are focused on the needs of the people involved and not on the needs of the relationship. Tune into today's episode where we discuss the difference between our individual needs and the needs of our relationships and share the essential needs that every relationship has.In this episode we cover:What causes the most issues in relationshipsThe the 3 entities that comprise all relationshipsThe difference between our needs and the relationships needsThe difference between connection and a relationshipThe essential needs for all mutually supportive relationshipsBuilding trust in our relationshipsHow effort shows up in relationshipsSupporting the people within our relationships without rescuing themTaking responsibility in our relationshipsWhen adult/child dynamics show up in adult relationshipsThe importance of time and space in relationshipsEpisode References:Self Love Series:Episode 211 - Self Love Series: Unsupportive self connectionEpisode 212 - Self Love Series: Supportive self connectionEpisode 213 - Self Love Series: The behaviors that can heal your self love woundsThe Shapes Series - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachEpisode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachEpisode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachEpisode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulEpisode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachEpisode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachEpisode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor ApproachEpisode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering oneEpisode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of moviesThe relationship orbits episode - Episode 154 - What are your relationship orbits, and how can they protect you?Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideFind our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

***Trigger Warning: Domestic Violence - 39:00-39:44Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 214 - "Self Love Series - What do to when wounds pop up along the way?" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideAs we've talked about in previous episodes, it takes mindful effort and work to achieve self love. When we feel as though we may be moving backwards on our journey, it can have us questioning where we're truly at. The good news is, not everything is as it appears on the surface. Join us as we continue our series on self love and discuss how to use the antidotes found in our self connection layers to heal our past wounds and become more solid in our self love journey.In this episode we cover:Why Claire is now accessorizing with a crownWhen life happens along our self love journeyThe main indicator that a past wound needs healingThe antidote and healing our past woundsHealing through the layers of self connectionHow to get the donkey out of the wellSurpassing the experience to get to the goalSwitching focus from working the process to enjoying itTrigger Warning - Domestic Violence - 39:00-39:44Looking at the bigger picture - our client's experience as she goes through this processSome context for our next episodes about the relationship connection journeyJoe questions his love of SerenaThe experience of love we know vs the experience of love that is possibleThe difference between loving energy and being in relationshipEpisode References:The tah-dah list episode - Episode 153 - The power of whimsy when meeting your needsPodcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideFind our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.