MetaMoms: A Polyfamory Podcast

Today we're talking about one of the most misunderstood relationships in polyamory — the metamour, or your partner's partner. We kick things off with a little game of 'how well do we know each other', then we get into our own metamour journey; the messy beginning, the lessons, the unexpected beauty of it, and what we wish someone had told us at the start. We also answer your questions from Instagram. Whether you're polyamorous, polyam-curious, or just someone who loves a good story time, this one's for you.

Alysia is back, baby! 🎉 This week on MetaMoms, we’re diving headfirst into some of your unexpected relationship curveballs — monogamous and polyamorous alike. We listen to your voicemails, offer some completely unsolicited advice, and reflect on the moments that make love, partnership, and communication so unexpectedly complicated.After the first one, we get real vulnerable and paused to privately navigate a real-life trigger moment between the two of us. With a little communication, a little grace (and a lot of honesty), we worked through it and kept the conversation going — because that’s what relationships are all about. It’s reflective, funny, and deeply human and we’re proud to sit in that growth with you all. Thank you as always for being here. We love you!

This episode is a little different. Tyler and I are finally, sitting down together to unpack the ending of our PolyFamily season on TLC—an ending that left everyone (including us) with more questions than answers. We talk candidly about the re-enacted, on-camera disagreement that became a major turning point: my decision to date outside the quad. What viewers saw was only a fraction of what had really happened beneath the surface. We open up about how we navigated a major shift in our relationship dynamic, the immense fear that comes with redefining boundaries in real time, and what it feels like when the relationship structure you thought was solid suddenly starts evolving. There were growing pains. There were moments of doubt. And there were hard truths we had to face—both individually and together.This episode is about how our views on love, partnership, and commitment have changed, what we’ve learned since filming wrapped, and how we’re continuing to grow through discomfort instead of running from it.If you were left hanging by the finale…If you’ve ever questioned the “rules” of relationships…If you’ve ever had to choose growth even when it felt terrifying…This conversation is for you.No scripts. No producers. Just honesty, reflection, and the messy reality of evolving love.

It’s never too late to celebrate the people we love, so we’re finally surprising Alysia with your birthday voicemails! (Spoiler alert: she cries.)From there, we rewind a bit to share how we planned an over-the-top birthday surprise while Alysia and Tyler were in California… and how, despite our best intentions, it didn’t quite go according to plan. Because honestly? That tracks.Then we pivot from the past to the present and into a conversation we know many families avoid. We finally finished our will and trust, and we’re sharing what the process was like for us as a polyamorous family. What worked, what surprised us, what we wish we’d known going in, and why being prepared is one of the most loving things you can do for the people you care about.We walk through our experience, our recommendations, and our learning curve — with transparency, humor, and a reminder that preparation doesn’t have to be scary.⚠️ Disclaimer: We are not lawyers, and nothing in this episode is legal advice. We’re simply sharing our personal experience in hopes that it helps others start their own conversations.If you’re curious about the platform we used, you can explore it here:👉https://trustandwill.com/?utm_source=amt&utm_medium=influencer&utm_campaign=&utm_content=Q22025Love shows up in many forms.. sometimes it sounds like birthday voicemails, and sometimes it looks like signing paperwork you’ve been putting off. This episode has a little bit of both.

This is technically a Holiday Special but not the kind you might be used to.We kick things off with a game, sharing classic family holiday traditions and unpacking which ones we keep, which ones we’ve let go of, and how they look in our non-traditional family. We reflect honestly on how the holidays actually went for us this year and the why behind some of the choices we make for our family.We talk about flexibility around traditions, extending grace when things shift, and releasing the pressure to do holidays “the right way.” We also share how we approach Christmas gifts as a quad—how we plan ahead, stay organized, and keep things meaningful without breaking the bank.We share about the recent passing of Tyler’s father and our plans to attend the funeral, holding space for grief in the midst of a season that often expects joy. And because life is never just one thing, we end on a happy note with an exciting Doug update! Apologies about the audio in advance, out WiFi was a bit unstable so we worked with it as best that we could! See you all next time ;)

In this episode of MetaMoms, we’re cozied up in our Christmas jammies talking about how to navigate polyamory while mentally unwell (festive, we know)! This week, we get hilariously honest about jealousy, dysregulation, therapy mishaps, and the questionable coping skills that got us through but definitely didn’t get us any awards.We open up about what it’s been like to love inside a polyamorous quad during chaos and grief, and how we’ve learned to play to each partner’s strengths—because sometimes the real romance is knowing who’s best equipped to deal with your emotional tornado on any given day. We also share the resources that helped (shoutout to our quad book club), the ones that absolutely flopped, and the internal pep talks we give our brains when they’re acting like spicy toddlers.It’s warm, honest, and messy as always. The pajamas were cozy, but trust: the tea stayed piping hot.Thanks for being here with us through it all.

In this impromptu episode, we finally got the guys to join us for a little Q&A! We kicked things off with a round of “Most Likely To”, plenty of laughs, a little chaos, and maybe a few surprising answers. Then we dove into some of your most frequently asked questions.This was our first time recording with all four of us, and of course, the second mic decided not to cooperate — so the audio isn’t perfect (we’re learning as we go!). Thank you for rolling with it and supporting us through all the growing pains — it truly means so much. 💛Also, a quick update! We’re moving our episode drops to Wednesdays so I can fully enjoy family time on Sundays (and maybe get a little extra rest too). Thanks for being here and growing with us every step of the way.

This week’s episode starts with a plot twist.. the mysterious story of Doug, the random cat who started sneaking into our house through the doggy door over two years ago… and basically never left. We’re talking all his sneaky moves, dramatic moments, and recent shenanigans before jumping straight into your randomly asked questions (Q&A starts around the 15-minute mark if you wanna skip Doug’s villain origin story 😏).You all came THROUGH with the questions — from my girlfriend experience, to how we split household chores, to how we talk to family and friends about our dynamic, and even how we feel when people approach us in public 👀We couldn’t even get through them all… so yep, Part 2 is officially happening.

Things are getting messy on this episode of Metamoms. We’re finally pulling back the curtain on our time on reality TV. From 1.5 years of build up to 6 months of weekend shoots to surviving it all while deep in the throes of postpartum depression, this is the raw, unfiltered version of what it really felt like to "share our story".We talk about the exhaustion, the emotions we didn’t expect, and the ways we fought to stay authentic in a business built on editing, retakes, and storylines. We share how the experience completely changed the way we watch reality TV now, what we notice, what we believe, and what we’ll never see the same again.It’s heartfelt, chaotic, and a little bit reckless in the best way. We spill the beans (maybe too many of them), we laugh, we cringe, and we give credit where it’s due — especially to our incredible crew, who helped us survive the wildest six months of our lives.⚠️ Disclaimer: Everything shared in this episode reflects our own personal experiences and opinions, all alleged, of course. Nothing said here should be taken as fact, legal evidence, or gospel truth… though we promise, it’s one hell of a story.Grab your coping mechanism of choice, because this episode is part therapy session, part confession booth, and entirely too honest for our own good.

This week, we’re diving into the wild world of legal gray areas — where you can wipe butts, pack lunches, and survive toddler meltdowns, but still not technically be “Mom.” 🙃 We vent (loudly) about the total nonsense of doing all the parenting without the paperwork, and the creative, slightly rebellious ways we’ve found to make our family feel legit anyway.From navigating birth certificates to plotting how to change the actual law (because why not?), we’re pulling back the curtain on what it really takes to protect a polyamorous family. Plus, we spill about the awkward hilarity of introducing ourselves at the kids’ school — hi, yes, we’re the extra moms at the play.We wrap with tips for protecting your own crew or backing up families like ours in their fight for recognition — because love deserves better legal representation, dammit.Disclaimer: We are not professionals and have occasional mom brain, please do your won research! Resources:Take the survey: https://www.open-love.orgThe Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition (PLAC): https://polyamorylegal.org/?utm_source=chatgpt.comNon-Profit legal services: https://chosenfamilylawcenter.org/poly-families-project

We’ve talked about the negative reactions to coming out — now let’s flip the script. What happens when friends get curious… and want to play?In this episode of Metamoms, we dive into awkward flirty nights, questionable decisions from our swinging days, and the messy, hilarious, sometimes painful moments that come when curiosity meets desire. We also tackle jealousy head-on and get real about facing your human emotions without shame. Expect laughs, cringe, and some hard-earned wisdom about navigating boundaries, friendship, and intimacy.This episode is rated R. It includes discussions of sexual content, swinging, adult relationships, and explicit language. Listener discretion is advised.Kids books about non traditional families: And That’s Their Family by Kailee Colemanhttps://www.kcolemanbooks.com/shop/p/and-thats-their-family-hardcover-free-shippingUnder One Sky by Kristal Glimmershttps://a.co/d/gAaqr97How Many Grown Ups Do You Have? by Polina Buchanhttps://a.co/d/4QgPbliLove Makes a Family by Sophie BeerBooks for Adults:Polyamory & Parenthood by Jessica Dayloverhttps://a.co/d/51o2xktThe Ethical Slut by Janet Hardyhttps://a.co/d/atenFzPPolySecure by Jessica Fernhttps://a.co/d/8C8J3t2The Non-Monogamy Journal by Lola Phoenix https://a.co/d/4zfYVr4The Anxious Persons Guide to Non-Monogamy by Lola Phoenixhttps://a.co/d/aSKP7rcSupporting Someone Polyamorous by Lola Phoenixhttps://a.co/d/hvDxqfdNon Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberghttps://a.co/d/8C8J3t2

In this episode, we share how we landed our parental names, we rewind to the wild world of giving birth during Covid times, where masks, visitor limits, and FaceTime introductions were just the beginning. Plus the chaos of scheduling doctors appointments with four parents in the mix and how naming the kids became a group project with veto power (and wasn't afraid to use it).A little proof that parenting in plural can be just as joyful as it is complicated.

In this episode, we dive into the conversation that led us to growing our family, from initial resistance to the unexpected two vasectomy reversals that made it possible. We open up about what shifted out hearts, how we defined what "family really means to use and the contract that was proposed about having children together. It's a story about choices, change, and the unique path that brought us from 2 kids, to 5.

This week we’re digging into the receipts—literally. We share a painfully cringy old text where someone finally admitted their feelings (spoiler: secondhand embarrassment is real). From there, we get honest about how we broke down hierarchy in our relationship, what it was like to tell our kids about polyamory, and the messy ripple effects—estranged relationships, fallouts, and all.It’s emotional, it’s vulnerable, and yes, we still manage to laugh at ourselves along the way. Because if you can’t roast your own awkward text history, what are you even doing?

Buckle up, because this one’s for the grown-ups. In this episode, we straight up overshare about how we found ourselves in the swinging scene,  a few spicy stories, and all the dirty details about the night our quad first met. How we realized that we weren’t just “fun friends” and we get real about coming out, cringe-worthy “rules” we tried (and broke), the jealousy/insecurity rollercoaster, and how we accidentally stumbled into polyamory before we even knew the word. Spoiler: it’s equal parts hilarious and humbling.

In this episode we’re talking all about life before the quad—meeting our spouses, falling in love, getting engaged, getting married, and we spill a little tea along the way. You didn’t come here for neat and tidy, right? Between 5 kids, 4 adults, 3 dogs, 3 cats, 3 horses, 2 chickens, a rabbit, and a TV show, we’re basically a farm, a circus, and a rom-com at the same time. This has been so much fun to record so far and we're so thankful for your love and support.