The Erotic Realm

What happens when sex education is left to shame, silence, and the internet?In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Mark Schoen — sex educator, filmmaker, and founder of SexSmartFilms — to explore what decades of teaching human sexuality have revealed about shame, censorship, and sexual freedom.We explore: What decades of sex education have taught Mark about desire. Banned books, censorship, and why sexual honesty still scares people. How film can teach what classrooms often miss. Cultural differences in sexual messaging. Mark’s work with William Masters, Betty Dodson, and his transgender film project.Research Article: X-Rated: Sexual Attitudes and Behaviors Associated With U.S. Adolescents’ Exposure to Sexually Explicit Media.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when someone experiences little to no sexual attraction — but still has a deeply erotic life?In this episode I’m joined by GoddessMey — a dominant, sadomasochist, and asexual-spectrum kinkster — to explore the intersection of asexuality and BDSM.We explore:Asexuality and erotic identity.Female dominance and power exchange.Sadism, masochism, and sensation.Ethical findom and consent.Redefining desire beyond attraction.Research Article: Asexuality: prevalence and associated factors in a national probability sample.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if leadership isn’t about control but responsibility?In this episode I’m joined by Leadfromfront — a 75-year-old retired CEO and Dominant — to explore the psychology of power, leadership, and ethical authority.We explore:Leadership vs domination in BDSM.Consent as the foundation of power.The difference between hurt and harm.Ethical sadism and attunement.Aging, desire, and erotic longevity.Research book: The Power Paradox: How We Gain and Lose Influence.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when a woman chooses her body, her career, and her desire — outside of expectation?In this episode I’m joined by Katija Cortez — a submissive, content creator, and professional girlfriend — to explore female autonomy, sterilisation, and the psychology of erotic agency.We explore:Sterilisation and voluntary childlessness.Stigma, autonomy, and cultural expectations.Sex work, desire, and emotional connection.The paradox of being both sovereign and submissive.How choice reshapes erotic identity.Research article: Stigma Management Among the Voluntarily Childless.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when sexual mastery becomes about presence, not performance?In this episode I’m joined by Kevin Anthony — sexologist, tantra counsellor, and men’s sexual mastery coach — to explore the psychology of masculinity, ejaculation, and erotic presence.We explore:Ejaculation, stamina, and sexual control.Masculinity and performance anxiety.Tantra as a lived erotic practice.Polyamory and emotional intelligence.Grief, loss, and erotic continuity.Research article: Men's gender role conflict: Psychological costs, consequences, and an agenda for change.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when the way your brain works becomes part of your erotic identity?In this episode I’m joined by Kritikl — a neurodivergent Dominant, sadist, rigger, and community space curator — to explore the intersection of autism, power, and desire.You may recognise his voice from the earlier Kink Intentions episode — and here, we go deeper into how his neurodivergence shapes the way he experiences connection, dominance, and kink.We explore:Neurodivergence and erotic identity.Pattern recognition as a form of connection.Dominance, sadism, and ethical power.Rope, sensory experience, and embodiment.Creating safe spaces for neurodivergent kinksters.Research Article: Autism, Sexuality, and BDSM.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when a man’s desire to surrender clashes with everything he’s been taught about masculinity?In this episode I’m joined by Jack — a submissive man, anthropologist, and writer — to explore the psychological tension between masculinity, shame, and submission.We unpack how cultural expectations shape men’s relationship to control, performance, and sexuality — and what happens when those expectations no longer fit. Drawing on lived experience and sociological insight, this conversation explores how submission can become a site of authenticity rather than weakness.We explore:The conflict between masculinity and submission. Shame, ejaculation, and the male erotic nervous system. Female-led relationships and long-term D/s dynamics. The difference between consent and compatibility. How men can redefine power through surrender.Research Article: Hegemonic Masculinity: Rethinking the Concept.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when kink is built around people first and power second?In this episode I’m joined by Master Cat NYC and Master Joshua NYC — leather educators and co-founders of The Kink Collective — to explore the psychology of ethical power in BDSM.With decades of experience in kink and leather communities, they share how their understanding of dominance, identity, and responsibility has evolved — and why they centre their work around the principle of people before kink.We explore:Ethical dominance and responsibility in power exchange.Leather culture and evolving erotic identity.Consent as a form of liberation.Triads, poly dynamics, and relational complexity.Building kink communities rooted in care and accountability.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the problem isn’t sexual desire — but the shame surrounding it?In this episode I’m joined by psychosexual and relationship therapist Silva Neves to explore one of the most misunderstood topics in modern sexuality: compulsive sexual behaviour.Rather than framing sexual compulsivity as “sex addiction,” Silva’s work examines how sexuality can become intertwined with emotional regulation, identity, shame, and relational needs.We explore:Why many sexologists reject the “sex addiction” narrative.How shame sustains compulsive sexual cycles.The difference between high desire and genuine compulsivity.Trauma, EMDR therapy, and erotic safety.What sexual integration actually looks like in therapy.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when someone refuses the rigid rules of gender — and instead creates their own embodiment of identity and desire?In this episode I’m joined by Dreamer — an altersex transgender woman, primal sadomasochist, leather Master, scientist, and educator — to explore the psychology of gender integration, power exchange, and erotic identity.Dreamer shares the deeply personal story of her gender transition, including her decision to undergo phallus-preserving vaginoplasty, a non-traditional form of gender-affirming surgery that reflects her unique experience of embodiment.We explore: What it means to identify as altersex. Thepsychological experience of gender transition. The difference between primal power and constructed authority. Leather culture, Mastery, and erotic truth. How embodiment shapes desire and power exchange.Research Article: Adult Development and Quality of Life of Transgender and Gender Nonconforming People.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when we start treating sex as a form of personal sovereignty?In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I’m joined by legendary intimacy expert Susan Bratton — author, educator, and one of the most influential voices in modern sexual communication.We explore:How patriarchal sexual scripts shape modern intimacy.The real difference between having sex and making love.How couples sustain passion after decades together.Why attention may be one of the most overlooked erotic resources.How sexual sovereignty transforms relationships.Research Article: The Female Sexual Response: A Different Model.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when a CEO discovers submission?In this episode I’m joined by Calliope — entrepreneur, writer, and high-functioning submissive — to explore the psychology of control, grief surrender, and curiosity inside modern BDSM.We explore:Submission for high-performing professionals.The psychology of control and surrender.Curiosity as a gateway into kink.Intellectual stimulation inside D/s dynamics.Grief, writing, and the role of community in healing.Research Article: Masochism as Escape from Self.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if dominance wasn’t about intimidation — but presence?In this episode I’m joined by Dominatrix Rin, professional Dominatrix and dungeon owner, to explore archetypal authority, ritual aesthetics, and the psychology of emotional power in BDSM.We explore:The Dominatrix as archetype and psychosexual authority.Berlin vs San Francisco kink culture.The dungeon as ritual container and transformational space.Emotional labor in professional domination.Ownership, care, and embodied attunement.Power as presence rather than performance.Research book: The History and Arts of the Dominatrix.Love Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can BDSM be a literary and philosophical pursuit?In this episode I sit down with Lenny, a 77 year old sadist, writer, and lifelong BDSM mentor whose journey explores the limits of pleasure, pain, and the mind’s role in eroticism.Lenny shares his experiences with hypnotic states, non-physical orgasms, and BDSM as a vehicle for transformation—both in real life and in literature.We discuss:The psychology of masochism and what pain really means in BDSM.Writing about dark desires and the philosophy of De Sade.Non-physical orgasms and how hypnosis can trigger deep pleasure.The intersection of tantra, breathwork, and erotic power exchange.Unusual fetishes he’s encountered including a garlic fetish!Research Paper: A Case of Female Orgasm Without Genital StimulationIf you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support M's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.Thanks for listening!EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if submission wasn’t about losing yourself — but about knowing yourself deeply?In this episode I’m joined by Sarah from Subinthecity — submissive, kink therapist, and educator — to explore feminist submission, sub frenzy, and integrative kink through a psychological lens.We explore:What sub frenzy really is — and how to navigate it safely.Feminist submission as sovereignty, not passivity.Erotic mismatch in D/s dynamics.Menstrual cycles and shifting kink desires.Shadow work and inner-child integration through power exchange.Research article: Reflections on a Career Dedicated to the Study of BDSM and Diverse SexualitiesLove Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when erotic obsession stops being fantasy — and starts rewriting your reality?Grab your FREE copy of The Venus Fly Trap here.In this episode of I’m joined by author Stephen Paul Edwards to explore the psychological depths of his book The Venus Fly Trap — a story described as equal parts Fifty Shades, Gone Girl, and a therapy session with the devil.In this episode, we explore:The psychology of erotic obsession.Fantasy vs manipulation in relationships.What destabilising attraction reveals about ourselves.Shame, secrecy, and the cost of silence.Why writing the truth can change the body — not just the mind.A live reading from the book.Research article: Confronting a traumatic event: Toward an understanding of inhibition and disease. Connect with Stephen:Instagram X FacebookLinkedInTikTok WebsiteLove Erotica? Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if male submission wasn’t about giving up power — but about choosing where it belongs?In this episode we explore the erotic realm of Taylor Ellwood, a submissive, men’s coach, and writer living in a 24/7 female-led dynamic, to explore masculinity, devotion, and sovereign submission through a psychological lens. In this episode, we explore:Why submission must be chosen, not defaulted into.The difference between “nice guy” behaviour and genuine devotion.Submission as discipline, not self-erasure.Masculinity beyond performance and dominance.How erotic polarity and meaning shape long-term D/s relationships.Research article: Perks, problems, and the people who play: A qualitative exploration of dominant and submissive BDSM rolesDon't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if pleasure wasn’t the opposite of responsibility — but one of its foundations?In this episode I’m joined by Tanya Griffin — entrepreneur, sexual wellness and harm-reduction educator, and flow-state practitioner — to explore the psychology of pleasure, altered states, and embodied leadership.In this episode, we explore:Pleasure as a measure of freedom, not indulgence.Flow states in sex, embodiment, and longevity.Intention vs. compulsion in erotic and altered states.Conscious use of cannabis and psychoactives in sexuality.Shame reduction as harm reduction — in sex and substances.Research article: Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience.Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if brattiness wasn’t resistance — but discernment?In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I’m joined by AngelSnowflake, a collared submissive and self-described brat, to explore the psychology of chosen submission, erotic paradox, and identity that refuses simplification.In this episode, we explore:Why submission must be earned to be real.Brattiness as emotional and relational literacy.Fluid desire and refusing fixed erotic labels.Collars as lived psychological commitments.Parallels between kink, roleplay, and character formation.Don't forget to go to callmephoenix.com and use the promo code IOBEYEMMA for $5 off any audio! use as many times as you like.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Erotic Mind & Why These Moments MatterIn this fifth episode of an end-of-year series, we explore more deeply the concept of peak erotic experiences—those rare, unforgettable moments of desire that linger long after they end and quietly reshape how we understand ourselves.Drawing on psychologist Jack Morin’s seminal work The Erotic Mind, this episode offers a psychological framework for understanding why certain erotic experiences feel transformative rather than merely pleasurable. Rather than focusing on acts, identities, or techniques, this series explores the inner architecture of desire: tension, risk, power, permission, and altered states of consciousness.The excerpts you’ll hear across this series are not full stories or performances, but distilled moments—glimpses into how the erotic mind works at its most alive.In this episode:What defines a peak erotic experience.Why orgasm or extremity alone don’t explain erotic intensity.Jack Morin’s psychological insights into desire, tension, and risk.How power, permission, and emotional exposure shape erotic experience.5 peak erotic experiences share by The Erotic Realm podcast guests.This episode is an invitation to listen slowly, psychologically, and with curiosity—not just to what is said, but to what shifts beneath it.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠Peak Erotic Experience 1: #33 The Lesbian Cuckcake: Iris on Poly Desire, Triad Love & HealingPeak Erotic Experience 2: #34 Master Xtac: The 12 Rules of Power, Leather Tradition & BDSM as a Sexual OrientationPeak Erotic Experience 3: #35 The Bisexual Switch: Sage on Embracing Both Sides of Power & DesirePeak Erotic Experience 4: #36 The Disciplinarian Domme: MistressBaton on Spanking, Sadism & the Psychology of PainPeak Erotic Experience 5: #37 From Pro-Domme to Submissive: Valkyrie on Regression, ABDL & Self-DominationThank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.