The Erotic Realm

What happens when we stop leaving desire to chance — and start setting intentions for it instead?This episode opens Season Two of The Erotic Realm with a powerful New Year ritual. Four real kinksters step into the studio to openly share their erotic and kink intentions for the year ahead — what they want to explore, deepen, confront, or finally give themselves permission to desire.And this is only the beginning.Each of these guests will return at the end of the year so we can reflect on what actually shifted, what surprised them, and what happens when desire is treated as something we can consciously engage with, rather than wait on.Because we set goals for our careers, relationships, bodies, and finances.But when it comes to erotic desire, most of us were never taught how to set direction — only how to judge it, suppress it, or worry when it changes.This episode explores why intentionality matters in erotic psychology, and how attention — not pressure — shapes desire over time.In this episode:Four kinksters share their real erotic goals for the year aheadWhy desire responds to attention, not forceErotic intention-setting as psychological and relational self-leadershipPlus: I introduce The Desire Diary — a psychological tool designed to help you track, understand, and work with your desire over time. Available now via this link or simply grab the Softcover here or Hardcover Here.Set intentions for your own desire and follow this year-long erotic experiment alongside us!Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Erotic Mind & Why These Moments MatterIn this fourth episode of an end-of-year series, we explore more deeply the concept of peak erotic experiences—those rare, unforgettable moments of desire that linger long after they end and quietly reshape how we understand ourselves.Drawing on psychologist Jack Morin’s seminal work The Erotic Mind, this episode offers a psychological framework for understanding why certain erotic experiences feel transformative rather than merely pleasurable. Rather than focusing on acts, identities, or techniques, this series explores the inner architecture of desire: tension, risk, power, permission, and altered states of consciousness.The excerpts you’ll hear across this series are not full stories or performances, but distilled moments—glimpses into how the erotic mind works at its most alive.In this episode:What defines a peak erotic experience.Why orgasm or extremity alone don’t explain erotic intensity.Jack Morin’s psychological insights into desire, tension, and risk.How power, permission, and emotional exposure shape erotic experience.5 peak erotic experiences share by The Erotic Realm podcast guests.This episode is an invitation to listen slowly, psychologically, and with curiosity—not just to what is said, but to what shifts beneath it.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠Peak Erotic Experience 1: #27 The Fetish Lens: Erotic Photography & the Art of Visual Desire with Fet-Erotica.Peak Erotic Experience 2: #28 Erotic Resistance: Politics of Pleasure & Submissive Power with Auntie Vice.Peak Erotic Experience 3: #29 The Whip Master: Ritual, Rhythm & Erotic Precision with Dex.Peak Erotic Experience 4: #31 Master MissMarie: 40 Years of Domination, Devotion & Queer Power.Peak Erotic Experience 5: #32 The Trans Cuckquean: MelissaBound on Erotic Surrender & Submissive Wisdom.Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Erotic Mind & Why These Moments MatterIn this third episode of an end-of-year series, we explore more deeply the concept of peak erotic experiences—those rare, unforgettable moments of desire that linger long after they end and quietly reshape how we understand ourselves.Drawing on psychologist Jack Morin’s seminal work The Erotic Mind, this episode offers a psychological framework for understanding why certain erotic experiences feel transformative rather than merely pleasurable. Rather than focusing on acts, identities, or techniques, this series explores the inner architecture of desire: tension, risk, power, permission, and altered states of consciousness.The excerpts you’ll hear across this series are not full stories or performances, but distilled moments—glimpses into how the erotic mind works at its most alive.In this episode:What defines a peak erotic experience.Why orgasm or extremity alone don’t explain erotic intensity.Jack Morin’s psychological insights into desire, tension, and risk.How power, permission, and emotional exposure shape erotic experience.5 peak erotic experiences share by The Erotic Realm podcast guests.This episode is an invitation to listen slowly, psychologically, and with curiosity—not just to what is said, but to what shifts beneath it.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠Peak Erotic Experience 1: Erotic Realm Episode 17 here.Peak Erotic Experience 2: Erotic Realm Episode 21 here.Peak Erotic Experience 3: Erotic Realm Episode 22 here.Peak Erotic Experience 4: Erotic Realm Episode 23 here.Peak Erotic Experience 5: Erotic Realm Episode 26 here.Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when masculinity is no longer defined by control — but by how power is held, shared, or even surrendered?In this thematic episode, The Erotic Realm explores the second gendered arc to emerge from its first year of conversations: men rethinking dominance, vulnerability, and erotic leadership in a culture that often mistakes sensitivity or submission for weakness.Drawing on episodes with romantic Dominants, queer sadists, male submissives, and emotionally devoted partners, this episode examines masculinity as an ethical and erotic practice — one that includes authority and surrender.Male guests speak openly about redefining dominance as responsibility, submission as devotion, and vulnerability as strength — pushing back against cultural narratives that flatten masculinity into performance or aggression.Following The Feminist Submissives, this episode completes the gendered inquiry within the wider thematic series. Together, these arcs reveal that the erotic psyche is not divided by gender — but by how we relate to power, trust, and care.Dominance as stewardship, not entitlement.Male submission and vulnerability beyond weakness narratives.Challenging performative and “toxic” masculinity models.Reflections from the first year of The Erotic Realm.Guest 1: #26 Healthy Masculinity & Queer Dominance: Biker Bear on Sadism, Power & PlayGuest 2: #34 Master Xtac: The 12 Rules of Power, Leather Tradition & BDSM as a Sexual OrientationGuest 3: #40 The Humiliated Devotee: Petitmortician on Cuckolding, Worship & the Psychology of Submission.Guest 4: #24 The Romantic Master: Arcane on Dominance & Devotion in a 24/7 M/s Bond (Part 2 of 2)Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Erotic Mind & Why These Moments MatterIn this second episode of an end-of-year series, we explore more deeply the concept of peak erotic experiences—those rare, unforgettable moments of desire that linger long after they end and quietly reshape how we understand ourselves.Drawing on psychologist Jack Morin’s seminal work The Erotic Mind, this episode offers a psychological framework for understanding why certain erotic experiences feel transformative rather than merely pleasurable. Rather than focusing on acts, identities, or techniques, this series explores the inner architecture of desire: tension, risk, power, permission, and altered states of consciousness.The excerpts you’ll hear across this series are not full stories or performances, but distilled moments—glimpses into how the erotic mind works at its most alive.In this episode:What defines a peak erotic experience.Why orgasm or extremity alone don’t explain erotic intensity.Jack Morin’s psychological insights into desire, tension, and risk.How power, permission, and emotional exposure shape erotic experience.5 peak erotic experiences share by The Erotic Realm podcast guests.This episode is an invitation to listen slowly, psychologically, and with curiosity—not just to what is said, but to what shifts beneath it.Peak Erotic Experience 1: Erotic Realm Episode 10 here.Peak Erotic Experience 2: Erotic Realm Episode 11 here.Peak Erotic Experience 3: Erotic Realm Episode 12 here.Peak Erotic Experience 4: Erotic Realm Episode 14 here.Peak Erotic Experience 5: Erotic Realm Episode 15 here.Peak Erotic Experience 5: Erotic Realm Episode 16 here.Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Women can have power - and exchange it too.In this special thematic episode, The Erotic Realm explores a recurring pattern from its first year of conversations: women who experience surrender not as weakness, but as a conscious, embodied act of power.Drawing on stories from feminist slaves, sacred submissives, trans and queer women, and those reclaiming desire later in life, this episode reframes submission as choice — a form of erotic agency rooted in trust, embodiment, and self-knowledge.This is the first in a limited series examining the major psychological and cultural themes that emerged across Season One. While later episodes will explore masculinity and other shared arcs, this episode stays firmly with women — and with the radical act of choosing to yield.Feminist submission as agency, not erasure. Yielding as trust, embodiment, and reclamation. Women reclaiming power through conscious surrender. Reflections drawn from the first year of The Erotic Realm.Guest 1: #23 The Feminist Slave: Daphne’s Side of a 24/7 M/s Bond Episode here.Guest 2: #28 Erotic Resistance: Politics of Pleasure & Submissive Power with Auntie Vice Episode here.Guest 3: #17 Sex Magic, Shadow Work, and Sacred Kink: Magdalena on Leather, Pleasure, and Surrender Episode here.Guest 4: #42 Ask A Sub: Lina Dune on Feminist Submission, CNC & the Art of Surrender Episode here.Guest 5: #51 Feminist Submission, Masochism and Kink Education with AncillaL here.Guest 6:#45 The Psychology of Erotica: Aurore on Writing Desire, Healing Shame & Feminist Submission Episode here.Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Erotic Mind & Why These Moments MatterIn this first episode of an end-of-year series, we explore more deeply the concept of peak erotic experiences—those rare, unforgettable moments of desire that linger long after they end and quietly reshape how we understand ourselves.Drawing on psychologist Jack Morin’s seminal work The Erotic Mind, this episode offers a psychological framework for understanding why certain erotic experiences feel transformative rather than merely pleasurable. Rather than focusing on acts, identities, or techniques, this series explores the inner architecture of desire: tension, risk, power, permission, and altered states of consciousness.The excerpts you’ll hear across this series are not full stories or performances, but distilled moments—glimpses into how the erotic mind works at its most alive.In this episode:What defines a peak erotic experience.Why orgasm or extremity alone don’t explain erotic intensity.Jack Morin’s psychological insights into desire, tension, and risk.How power, permission, and emotional exposure shape erotic experience.5 peak erotic experiences share by The Erotic Realm podcast guests.This episode is an invitation to listen slowly, psychologically, and with curiosity—not just to what is said, but to what shifts beneath it.Peak Erotic Experience 1: Erotic Realm Episode 3 here.Peak Erotic Experience 2: Erotic Realm Episode 4 here.Peak Erotic Experience 3: Erotic Realm Episode 7 here.Peak Erotic Experience 4: Erotic Realm Episode 8 here.Peak Erotic Experience 5: Erotic Realm Episode 9 here.Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when erotic curiosity, psychology, and lived experience collide?In this special solo episode, M reflects on turning 40 and one year of The Erotic Realm Podcast — sharing the personal, psychological, and erotic motivations behind creating a platform devoted to desire, power, and the erotic mind.In this episode, we explore:Why desire is as unique as personality.How power and eroticism shape identity across a lifetime.Midlife as a psychological turning point, not a crisis.What listening to hundreds of erotic stories has revealed.Autism, kink, and why structure can feel safer than spontaneity.How M became a Sexologist.What's next for The Erotic Realm and the Psychology of Desire.Research article: "Comforting, Reassuring, and…Hot": A Qualitative Exploration of Engaging in Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and (Sado)masochism and Kink from the Perspective of Autistic Adults.This episode is both a celebration and a thesis — a reflection on what the first year of The Erotic Realm has taught me, and where the psychology of desire is heading next.Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here.Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here.Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What do kinksters confess live at a kink festival?Recorded live at a real kink festival, this fourth and final episode in the series of the special edition of The Erotic Realm invites you into the world’s first anonymous kink confessional booth—where people step behind the curtain to whisper their erotic truths.We explore:• What people confess when given total erotic anonymity.• How shame, curiosity, and power shape desire in public spaces.• Real power-exchange relationships as they unfold in real time.• The raw psychology of kinksters inside a living, breathing event.In the background you’ll hear music. Laughter. Conversations. People playing, watching, wandering.In the booth, you’ll hear anonymous confessions of darker desires.This is the soundscape of a living, breathing kink event. Unfiltered, immersive, alive.Some listeners will find headphones are a must for this episode, and they will deepen the intimacy—like you’re leaning in to overhear something you were never meant to hear.Love this project? Support future episodes by becoming a paid subscriber here or at psychologyofdesire.substack.com.Want The Erotic Confessional at your local kink event? Reach out here: emma@psychologyofdesire.comThe Erotic Realm Confessional — Where you confess your desires.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here to receive the Female Orgasm Case File direct to your inboxWhat happens when a woman discovers she can climax again… and again… and again?In this episode, Thinker — a bisexual sensualist and rope bottom — joins M to explore hyper-orgasmic sexuality, erotic sensitivity, and what it means to reclaim pleasure after decades of repression.We discuss: • The four levels of orgasm and how she moves through them. • The psychology of erotic sensitivity and hyper-climaxing. • How religious repression shaped (and delayed) her erotic awakening. • Why mindfulness expands arousal and deepens sensation. • The emotional landscape of reclaiming desire after silence.Research article: Effects of mindfulness training on body awareness to sexual stimuli: implications for female sexual dysfunction.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What can decades of lived BDSM history teach us about power, desire and the erotic mind?We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.This week we go all the way back to episode 3 and explore The Hedonist Mentor: Kinkalong on 40 Years of BDSM, Bisexuality & Erotic PsychologyIn this episode, we delve into the rich experiences and wisdom of Marc, a bisexual hedonist, switch, and mentor with decades of involvement in the kink community.We discuss:The evolution of the kink scene over the past few decades.The intersection of bisexuality and mental health in navigating identity.Lessons learned from living the lifestyle as a mentor and switch.Balancing power dynamics in relationships with his Domme wife.And much more...Research paper: Disclosure and Concealment of Sexual Orientation and the Mental Health of Non-Gay-Identified, Behaviorally-Bisexual Men.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What do kinksters confess live at a kink festival?Recorded live at a real kink festival, this third in the series of the special edition of The Erotic Realm invites you into the world’s first anonymous kink confessional booth—where people step behind the curtain to whisper their erotic truths.We explore:• What people confess when given total erotic anonymity.• How shame, curiosity, and power shape desire in public spaces.• Real power-exchange relationships as they unfold in real time.• The raw psychology of kinksters inside a living, breathing event.In the background you’ll hear music. Laughter. Conversations. People playing, watching, wandering.In the booth, you’ll hear anonymous confessions of darker desires.This is the soundscape of a living, breathing kink event. Unfiltered, immersive, alive.Some listeners will find headphones are a must for this episode, and they will deepen the intimacy—like you’re leaning in to overhear something you were never meant to hear.Love this project? Support future episodes by becoming a paid subscriber here or at psychologyofdesire.substack.com.Want The Erotic Confessional at your local kink event? Reach out here: emma@psychologyofdesire.comThe Erotic Realm Confessional — Where you confess your desires.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How can a feminist enjoy submission?We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.This week we explore Feminist Submission, Masochism and Kink Education with AncillaL.In this episode of The Erotic Realm Podcast, I sit down with Ancilla, a 33-year-old polyamorous writer, masochist, and slave who has dedicated her life to exploring power exchange, pain, and the art of kink education. Ancilla’s journey intersects with her roles as a emotional masochist, and educator, creating a deeply personal and transformative story.We discuss:The strength in submission and what it means to her as a slave.The psychology of pain and how masochism connects to altered states and self-discovery.Her groundbreaking Sextbook Initiative and its mission to make kink education accessible and actionable.Balancing feminism and masochism in the kink world.And much more...Research article: No Pain, No Gain?: Therapeutic and Relational Benefits of Subspace in BDSM Contexts.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when women stop apologizing for wanting each other? In this episode, Skirt Club founder Genevieve LeJeune joins M to explore the psychology, culture, and community behind the world’s largest movement for bisexual and bicurious women.We discuss: • The psychology of bisexuality and fluid erotic identity. • Skirt Club’s role in liberating women from sexual shame. • How curiosity becomes the first step toward freedom. • Bisexual invisibility and stigma in queer and kink spaces. • What Kinsey and modern science reveal about female desire.Research book: Bi: The Hidden Culture, History & Science of BisexualityInterested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.This week we explore the most common fetish out there- feet. Welcome to The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins with Feetfixations.Support The Erotic Realm for the price of a coffee a month by becoming a paid subscriber on Substack — and help this independent project keep exploring the science, symbolism, and stories of desire into 2026 and beyond.What is it about feet?In this episode we explore the psychology, sensuality, and stigma of foot fetishes with 53-year-old fetishist and photographer Larry.We discuss:Early foot memories.Where he thinks his fetish comes from.The different types of foot fetishists.The visual appeal of soles.The neuroscience behind foot-based arousal.and more!Research Article: Relative prevalence of different fetishes.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What do kinksters confess live at a kink festival?Recorded live at a real kink festival, this second special edition of The Erotic Realm invites you into the world’s first anonymous kink confessional booth—where people step behind the curtain to whisper their erotic truths.We explore:• What people confess when given total erotic anonymity.• How shame, curiosity, and power shape desire in public spaces.• Real power-exchange relationships as they unfold in real time.• The raw psychology of kinksters inside a living, breathing event.In the background you’ll hear music. Laughter. Conversations. People playing, watching, wandering.In the booth, you’ll hear anonymous confessions of darker desires.This is the soundscape of a living, breathing kink event. Unfiltered, immersive, alive.Some listeners will find headphones are a must for this episode, and they will deepen the intimacy—like you’re leaning in to overhear something you were never meant to hear.Love this project? Support future episodes by becoming a paid subscriber here or at psychologyofdesire.substack.com.Want The Erotic Confessional at your local kink event? Reach out here: emma@psychologyofdesire.comThe Erotic Realm Confessional — Where you confess your desires.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.This week we explore one of the most-shared episodes of the year, Shapeshifting Desire: Primal Play, BDSM as Healing, and the Erotic Self.Support The Erotic Realm for the price of a coffee a month by becoming a paid subscriber on Substack — and help this independent project keep exploring the science, symbolism, and stories of desire into 2026 and beyond.What does it mean to be a shapeshifter in kink?In this episode I explore with Kite, a primal, brat, little, and wolf whose erotic journey has been one of transformation and healing. We explore how BDSM can help rewrite personal narratives, offer deep emotional release, and unlock new levels of self-awareness.We discuss:The psychology of primal play, bratting, and sensation play.BDSM as a tool for mental and emotional healing.How playing with pain, power, and pleasure can reshape identity.The scientific research on BDSM’s positive psychological effects.Finding a kinky life partner and sharing intimate moments with the world.Research Paper: Effects of BDSM Practices and Their Implications for Psychological and Psychotherapeutic Work: A Systematic Literature ReviewThe Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What do kinksters confess live at a kink festival?Recorded live at a real kink festival, this special edition of The Erotic Realm invites you into the world’s first anonymous kink confessional booth—where people step behind the curtain to whisper their erotic truths.We explore:• What people confess when given total erotic anonymity.• How shame, curiosity, and power shape desire in public spaces.• Real power-exchange relationships as they unfold in real time.• The raw psychology of kinksters inside a living, breathing event.In the background you’ll hear music. Laughter. Conversations. People playing, watching, wandering.In the booth, you’ll hear anonymous confessions of darker desires.This is the soundscape of a living, breathing kink event. Unfiltered, immersive, alive.Some listeners will find headphones are a must for this episode, and they will deepen the intimacy—like you’re leaning in to overhear something you were never meant to hear.Love this project? Support future episodes by becoming a paid subscriber here or at psychologyofdesire.substack.com.Want The Erotic Confessional at your local kink event? Reach out here: emma@psychologyofdesire.comThe Erotic Realm Confessional — Where you confess your desires.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.We begin with one of the most-loved episodes of the year, The Psychology of Erotica with Aurore.Support The Erotic Realm for the price of a coffee a month by becoming a paid subscriber on Substack — and help this independent project keep exploring the science, symbolism, and stories of desire into 2026 and beyond.Why do we write what we desire?In this literary deep-dive, Carly — founder of Aurore — joins me to explore erotic storytelling as a path to self-discovery, healing, and expression.We discuss:The transition from dominance to submissionReclaiming power after abuseFeminism, shame & desireThe psychology behind erotic writingAURORE’s birth as a confessional communityResearch Article: Relationship between Sexual Fantasy, Sexual Communication, Personality Traits and Sexual Satisfaction in Married Individuals.The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can jealousy become devotion?In this episode, CuckofanAngel joins M to explore the psychology of cuckolding — a world where jealousy transforms into desire, surrender becomes power, and love deepens through erotic vulnerability.We discuss: • The psychology of desire, jealousy, and erotic surrender. • How cuckolding transforms power into intimacy. • The emotional alchemy of humiliation, empathy, and arousal. • What research reveals about the benefits of erotic transparency. • A message for men seeking freedom through surrender.Research article: The Psychology of Gay Men’s Cuckolding FantasiesInterested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,EmmaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.