Congruent with Lisa Carpenter | The truth beneath success. Why it never feels like enough.

This week's episode addresses why so many women are stuck in the cycle of burnout and lack of energy. Episode 227 is a spicy one with an interesting perspective about how as a culture, women have embraced "burnout" and exhaustion as their status quo and normalized it. Lisa cuts to the heart of why women are stuck in this pattern and what it's going to take for to create change in your life if you want to have more energy, feel more joy and live with more fulfillment. Until you become more committed to how you want to feel, you'll continue to feel exhausted. It's going to feel hard before it feels easy, but what are the consequences if you do nothing? A lifetime of life living you... with no time, or energy to do the things you want to be doing. If you're a woman who is ready to do the work to create more time, energy and vitality in your life NOW is the time to sign up for The Energy Audit™. This 6-week program is full of easy, actionable tasks that will create more space, time and energy in your life, so you can focus more on the things you want to do, including prioritizing yourself. Join NOW at lisacarpenter.ca/energy-audit Doors close Friday, May 19th!!! To connect with Lisa find her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lisacarpenterinc/

In this impactful episode, I dive into the transformative world of self-leadership. Drawing from my personal experiences and years as a master life coach, I share how redefining leadership starts from within. Key Insights: Redefining Leadership: Explore the shift from traditional leadership to self-leadership, where the focus is on guiding ourselves with integrity and compassion. Prioritizing Self-Care: Learn why I take regular sabbaticals to recharge, enhancing my creativity and effectiveness as a leader. Living with Congruence: Discover how aligning your external actions with your internal values can combat imposter syndrome and build true confidence. What’s Coming Up: Get excited about the new changes and focus on self-leadership coming to the podcast this September, plus a sneak peek into the repurposed episodes packed with timeless wisdom. Connect and Grow with Lisa: From an exclusive retreat in Whistler to personal coaching opportunities, find out how you can work with me to elevate your life. Embrace your inner leader. This episode is a call to anyone ready to lead their life with authenticity and courage. Listen in, get inspired, and start leading from within. Thank you for tuning in and being part of our journey to living fully and leading boldly. Follow my journey and get daily insights on Instagram, especially during my upcoming travels. https://www.instagram.com/lisacarpenterinc/ Opportunities to Connect: Whistler Retreat: Immerse yourself in a transformative experience filled with growth and luxury. https://lisacarpenter.ca/retreat-2024/ Personal Coaching: Book a session to receive focused, personal guidance. https://lisacarpenter.ca/wwm/ Meet Lisa in Australia: Join me Down Under for meetups and group sessions. Email hello@lisacarpenter.ca for more information.

Welcome to another episode of the Full Frontal Living Podcast with me, your host, Lisa Carpenter. Today, we dive into why embracing imperfection is the key to genuine joy and fulfillment. What You’ll Discover in This Episode: The Joy of Breaking Rules: We discuss the liberation found in ditching the “perfect path” and crafting one that’s authentically yours, in both life and business  Celebrating Authenticity Over Perfection: From recording amidst life’s chaos to candidly capturing moments on the go, I stress the importance of authenticity over flawless production. Empowering Choices: I encourage you to take bold, imperfect steps. It’s about discovering what delights and fulfills you, not following a prescribed script.   Your Takeaway Actions: Question the Status Quo: Reflect on the 'rules' you live by. What could change if you chose what makes you happy over what’s expected? Embrace Your Flaws: Today, do one thing imperfectly on purpose. See what lessons and freedoms arise from this choice. Make Yourself the Priority: Never sideline your well-being. Your unique path to success is valid and valuable, just like you.   Share Your Story: Have you broken free from the shackles of perfection? Tag your stories with #FullFrontalLiving and join the movement toward authentic living. Interested in working together? Schedule a call today. https://lisacarpenter.ca/wwm Thanks for joining today’s conversation on Full Frontal Living. Take great care of yourself.

Why do high-achieving women struggle most with the very thing they think defines them: performance? Ciara Foy spent years believing success meant hustle, billable hours, and proving her worth through perfectionism. She thrived in Toronto's cutthroat Bay Street legal world, worked with two assistants (one for 9-5, another for 5-midnight), and equated exhaustion with excellence. On the outside, she was crushing it. On the inside, she was crumbling under an eating disorder, control issues, and the belief that rest meant weakness. Who is Ciara Foy? Ciara is a Registered Holistic Nutritionist and author of "Empowered by Food," specializing in helping women over 40 thrive through perimenopause with hormone-balancing nutrition and metabolic health strategies. After leaving her high-stress Bay Street executive career to reclaim her own health, Ciara discovered that conventional diet approaches fail perimenopausal women facing the perfect storm of declining estrogen, muscle loss, and metabolic shifts. Known for her warm yet no-nonsense approach, Ciara believes that while doctors treat disease, they weren't trained in metabolic optimization or prevention. Ciara's Story: From Perfectionism to Self-Preservation Ciara's definition of success has been rewritten more times than most people attempt in a lifetime. From corporate law clerk billing insane hours to stay-at-home mom drowning in isolation and postpartum depression, from building two full-service weight loss clinics to navigating divorce, health breakdowns, and devastating loss, Ciara has learned that high performance without boundaries isn't performance at all. It's just slow-motion burnout dressed up as ambition. In her 20s, success meant external validation through billable hours and perfectionism. It meant developing an eating disorder after getting fired, then proving everyone wrong by landing a role at one of Canada's top law firms. It meant saying yes to abandoning her law career dreams when her ex-husband suggested she stay home with their daughter, then feeling resentful and lost in the monotony of motherhood. The breaking point came when pregnancy forced her to confront the eating disorder head-on. She made a deal with God: help me overcome this, and I'll devote my life to helping other women do the same. That promise launched her into holistic nutrition, where knowledge became the key that unlocked freedom from food fear and perfectionist thinking. But the real transformation came in her 40s, when life handed her grief, loss, and circumstances that would have decimated the hustle-obsessed version of herself. When she lost her 11-month-old puppy Torrin recently, the pain was devastating. But instead of abandoning herself the way she once would have, Ciara held the line on the foundational habits that keep her whole: sleep, movement, three square meals. Not because she's superhuman, but because she's finally learned that high performance requires self-compassion, not just willpower. Today, at 49, Ciara defines success not by how much she can do, but by the freedom to choose how she shows up. She works with high-achieving women who, like her younger self, are running on fumes and calling it ambition. What we talk about in this episode: Why perfectionism is really about control, not excellence – Ciara reveals how her eating disorder emerged after getting fired, and why the belief "I have to be perfect to be loved" nearly destroyed her health and relationships. The cost of abandoning yourself for someone else's version of success – How leaving her law career dreams to become a stay-at-home mom left Ciara isolated, resentful, and 70 pounds heavier, searching for external validation she could no longer get from work. What high performance actually requires in your 40s and 50s – Forget hustle. Ciara explains why boundaries, sleep, self-compassion, and treating your body like you treat your babies are non-negotiables for sustainable success. How to stay in integrity with yourself when life falls apart – When devastating loss hit, Ciara didn't push through or perform her way out of grief. She held the line on foundational habits while giving herself permission to feel everything. Why knowledge is the key to food freedom – How understanding the "why" behind nutrition gave Ciara agency over her body and broke the all-or-nothing perfectionist patterns that kept her stuck. The difference between high performance and high hustle – Success used to mean billable hours and burning the candle at both ends. Now it means executing the things that matter at a very high level while having the courage to let everything else go. What it means to treat your body like your baby – Ciara's powerful reframe: your body relies on you the way your children do. Would you deprive your baby of sleep, nourishment, and care? Then why are you doing it to yourself? How to maintain muscle and metabolic health through perimenopause – Why eating three square meals during grief wasn't about willpower, it was about self-preservation and refusing to lose the strength she's worked decades to build. Why freedom is the ultimate success metric – After chasing external validation her entire life, Ciara now measures success by one thing: the ability to choose how, when, and with whom she shows up. This episode is for you if you've ever: Believed that success meant hustle, billable hours, and proving your worth through exhaustion Abandoned your own dreams or career to accommodate someone else's vision for your life Struggled with perfectionism, control issues, or the belief that you have to be perfect to be loved Found yourself numbing with food, scrolling, or other behaviors when the pressure became too much Felt resentful being everyone's rock while quietly crumbling inside Wondered if you're a high performer or just someone who's really good at running on fumes Sacrificed sleep, movement, or basic self-care because "there's too much to do" Lost yourself in motherhood, a relationship, or a role that looked good on the outside but felt empty inside Struggled to eat or care for yourself during grief, stress, or major life transitions Built impressive external success while feeling disconnected from your own body and needs Equated rest with weakness and boundaries with selfishness Wondered what high performance actually looks like in your 40s and 50s when hustle stops working How to redefine high performance without burning out Here's what most high-achieving women don't realize: the version of success you built in your 20s and 30s will absolutely destroy you in your 40s and beyond. The hustle, the perfectionism, the belief that rest is weakness – those patterns don't just stop working, they start actively harming you. Ciara's story shows us that real high performance isn't about how much you can do. It's about how well you can execute what actually matters while protecting the foundational habits that keep you whole. It's about having boundaries that aren't negotiable, even when life gets hard. Especially when life gets hard. Because when grief hits, when loss devastates you, when circumstances spiral beyond your control, you can't hustle your way out. You can't perfect your way through. You can only lean on the integrity you've built with yourself, the promises you've kept, the habits that hold you together when everything else falls apart. The cost of staying stuck in hustle-mode isn't just burnout. It's losing muscle you can't easily rebuild. It's teaching your body it can't trust you. It's arriving at 50 frail, exhausted, and wondering why success feels so hollow. Ready to stop confusing hustle with high performance? The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in over-functioning, the wounds driving your need to be perfect, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. You don't have to choose between your health and your ambition. You don't have to sacrifice sleep, strength, and presence to be successful. But you do have to redefine what high performance actually means. Book your free Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit Connect with Ciara Foy Instagram: @ciarafoyinc  Podcast: The Empowered Feminine  Book: "Empowered by Food" ------------------------------------ Success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. 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Why do I feel responsible for everything and everyone? You're successful. You've built something impressive. But you're also exhausted, overcommitted, and quietly resentful of all the responsibility you carry. On the outside, you look like you have it all together. On the inside, you're running on fumes and wondering how much longer you can keep this up. You tell yourself this is just who you are. The responsible one. The dependable one. The one everyone turns to. But what if the weight you're carrying isn't actually yours? What if you've been taking on everyone else's problems, emotions, and responsibilities because you never learned to discern what's truly yours to hold? Who is Ichel Francis? Ichel Francis is a master coach and founder of The Moon Circle Movement who blends spiritual depth with business strategy in a way that's both grounded and transformative. She works through private coaching, in-person intensives, retreats, and masterminds with visionary leaders and business owners who refuse to choose between inner work and outer results. Ichel runs two successful businesses and has spent years unraveling the patterns of over-functioning, perfectionism, and unworthiness that kept her exhausted despite her success. Ichel's Story: When Success Costs Everything Ichel grew up in a home where her father chased material success after growing up poor, while her mother carried religious beliefs that wealth made you a bad person. Her mother worked herself to the bone, never allowing herself to enjoy what they'd built, always waiting to be worthy of receiving. When her mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer, she had less than eight weeks to live. In those final weeks, she finally bought herself a designer purse, something she'd always wanted but never allowed herself to have. That purse sat beside her at home as she got sicker. She never used it. She'd spent her entire life waiting to be worthy, and by the time she gave herself permission, there was no time left. That loss shattered every illusion Ichel had about working hard now to enjoy life later. It became the catalyst for completely redefining what success meant. Not material achievement. Not relentless productivity. But space, expansion, and freedom. The ability to enjoy what you're building now, not someday when you've finally done enough to deserve it. For years after, Ichel still found herself running the same patterns. Over-functioning. Taking on everyone else's problems. Using "I don't have the bandwidth for this right now" as a get-out-of-jail-free card to avoid discomfort. Until she finally called herself out and asked: when will you have the bandwidth? At what point will you know you have enough? And she realized the answer was never, unless she chose differently. What we talk about in this episode: The real cost of over-functioning and why it's keeping you exhausted. Ichel breaks down how taking on everyone else's responsibilities teaches them to under-function, creating the exact dynamic you resent. When you're constantly trying to fix everyone and carry it all, you're not being helpful, you're avoiding the discomfort of letting others struggle through their own lessons. How to discern what's actually your responsibility versus what you've taken on. Most women were taught that things that weren't their responsibility needed to be their responsibility. This pattern gets passed down generation to generation. Ichel shares how to start asking: is this even mine? And what happens when you gently place it back down and back out of the room. The difference between surrender and avoidance (and why most high achievers confuse the two). If you're someone who runs toward pleasure and away from discomfort, you might think you're surrendering when you're actually just avoiding. Ichel explains how real surrender is sitting in the discomfort, not bouncing back to your comfortable set point, and why that's where the real growth happens. Why "I don't have the bandwidth" became her favorite excuse to avoid responsibility. For over a year, Ichel used this phrase to get out of everything she didn't want to deal with. Problems in her relationship, issues with her kids, finances, business challenges. Until she had to ask herself: when will you have the bandwidth? The answer forced her to stop running and start sitting with what she'd been avoiding. How to integrate intuition with structure when you're a logical, systems-oriented achiever. You don't have to choose between being strategic and being intuitive. Ichel is an INTJ who loves systems, processes, and predictability, and she's deeply intuitive. She shares how to mix creativity with structure, and why that combination creates a different level of success that most people never access. The practice of building self-trust when you've spent years ignoring your intuition. Self-trust isn't built by making big decisions with your gut. It starts with: which shirt jumps out at you when you open your closet? What does your body actually want to eat today? Does your body want rest or does it want to move? Start there. Don't start with "should I move to a new country" intuition. Start with the shirt. Why rigidity in any system (including lunar cycles, routines, or business strategies) will eventually blow up in your face. The universe has the last laugh when you try to control everything. Ichel thought she had life figured out with her five-year goals, ten-year plans, pristine house, perfect eating, and daily workouts. Then her mother's diagnosis blindsided her and she learned there is no control. Change is always happening. The question is: what kind of change do you want to invite? What it means to be congruent and why it's about being yourself everywhere, not code-switching based on who's in the room. For years, Ichel was a chameleon. Corporate version. Home version. Friends version. Exhausting. Until one day she decided: I'm just going to be me everywhere. If it bothers people, I can't do this anymore. Being congruent means not apologizing for who you are and not making yourself small so others feel comfortable. How to know when something is "enough" when you've spent years believing you have to do more to be more. Ichel's accountant asked her out of nowhere: how much money does one person actually need? She'd never asked herself the question. Most high achievers are chasing the end of a rainbow, always moving the target. Unless you define what enough looks like, you'll never feel successful no matter what you accomplish. The one truth about success Ichel wishes she'd trusted sooner: her version doesn't have to look like anyone else's. She spent years living someone else's life, the version she thought would make people proud or prove she was okay. It led to misery. Now she knows: you get to define what success looks like. And you get to change it. The plan is to deviate. That's the beauty of it. This episode is for you if you've ever: Felt responsible for fixing everyone and everything around you while quietly resenting it Told yourself "I don't have the bandwidth" to avoid dealing with hard things Worked yourself to exhaustion trying to prove you're worthy of what you've built Felt guilty for wanting material success or nice things for yourself Snapped at loved ones after long days of taking care of everyone else, then felt terrible about it Said yes to things you don't want to do because it's easier than disappointing people Thought you needed more credentials, more validation, or more help before you could really go for it Collapsed into bed exhausted but your mind won't stop racing about everything you're carrying Wondered "is this all there is?" even though you've accomplished so much Known you need to take better care of yourself but always run out of time and energy Built a life that looks successful on the outside but feels exhausting on the inside Been waiting to feel worthy enough to finally enjoy what you've created How to stop over-functioning and start trusting yourself again If you recognized yourself in Ichel's story, you're not alone. So many ambitious, capable women are drowning in responsibility they think is theirs, exhausting themselves trying to fix everyone, and quietly wondering when they'll finally get to rest. The truth is, you're not going to rest by doing more. You're not going to feel successful by accomplishing more. And you're not going to feel worthy by working harder to prove your value. You'll feel it when you finally stop carrying what isn't yours. When you discern between what's actually your responsibility and what you've taken on because you think being helpful means saving everyone. When you stop trying to eat for other people and let them feed themselves. Ready to stop carrying everyone else's weight? The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in over-functioning, the wounds driving your need to fix and control everything, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. This isn't about doing more. It's about putting down what was never yours to carry in the first place. Book your free Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit Connect with Ichel Francis Website: ichelfrancis.com Instagram: @ichelfrancis Podcast: The Aligned Alchemy Podcast

Why do high achievers start every year the same way - with bigger goals, higher standards, and more discipline - only to feel just as exhausted by February? Because you've been taught that change happens when the calendar flips. That success requires fixing what didn't work and finally getting it right. But here's what no one's telling you: real change doesn't start with another goal. It starts with an honest look at where you actually are. What This Episode Is About Most of us enter the New Year already thinking about what we should be doing differently. What needs to be fixed. What standards need to be higher. But this episode isn't about making you better. It's about walking you into a more honest relationship with yourself so you can actually create change that lasts. In this solo episode, I'm sharing how I approach the New Year with my clients, and it's the opposite of what you've been taught. We're looking back first, mining for data about what actually worked and what didn't, before we ever look forward. Because clarity creates better choices. And when you know better, you can do better. Lisa's Story: From Reckoning to Ownership I share my own journey through the past few years - 2023 as a year of reckoning that took me to my knees, 2024 as reclamation and navigating grief I'd never experienced before, and 2025 as recalibration. I talk openly about healing old abandonment wounds, rebuilding my business while stepping back to take care of myself, and what it's looked like to get back in the driver's seat. I also share my pattern of waiting for people to choose me instead of creating my own opportunities, and why my word for 2026 is "ownership." This isn't about perfection. It's about recognizing where I've been overriding my intuition and what needs to shift for me to step fully into the authority I've been building for over two decades. What we talk about in this episode: Why you don't need another goal, you need a more honest relationship with yourself. Most high achievers have been sold the myth that if you tick all the boxes, you'll finally feel the way you think you should feel. But achieving more things won't make you feel better about yourself if you don't feel better about yourself now. This episode walks you through reflection questions that create the clarity needed for real change. The questions that create pattern recognition about 2025. Where did you show up for yourself in ways you're proud of? Where did effort not equal fulfillment? What patterns continued despite your best intentions? What are you done tolerating? These aren't questions to complete, they're meant to disrupt and bring things to the surface. Why high achievers struggle to ask for help (and how it shows up differently in business vs. personal life). I share my own pattern of being great at asking for help personally but struggling professionally because I don't want friends to feel like I'm taking advantage of our relationship. This over-functioning pattern keeps many of us isolated and exhausted. What deserves acknowledgement that no one else saw. The private victories matter just as much as the public ones. The things you navigated that nobody on the outside saw. The ways you showed up for yourself when it would have been easier not to. These are the data points that reveal who you're becoming. Less resolutions, more reverence for the life you want to lead. Instead of asking "what do I need to fix," we're asking "what do I want more of?" What feels non-negotiable for your energy? Where have you been overriding your intuition? What would need to shift internally for you to feel successful in 2026 if nothing changed externally? How to redefine success so it's about how you feel, not what you achieve. Success is not a destination. It's a feeling you can choose to step into. I share how my definition of success has completely shifted from 2019 to now, and why it took me so long to realize that no amount of external achievement would make me feel the way I wanted to feel until I decided to choose to feel that way. The identity shift that comes before the outcome. Your identity - who you're being in the world, how you're showing up - comes before the results. If you want a different outcome in 2026, you have to become the person who has that outcome. I share my own identity shifts around money, numbers, and being smart that allowed my business revenue to expand. The future-pacing exercise that makes 2026 inevitable. Imagine it's the end of 2026. What would need to happen for you to look back and feel proud? What behaviors would you honor? What beliefs would you leave behind? What were you committed to that made the outcome inevitable? This isn't about perfection, it's about commitment. Why "ownership" and "fun" are my words for 2026. I share my practice of choosing a word or energy for the year (not a resolution), and why after years of being "intentional," I'm stepping into ownership. No more waiting for people to choose me or for opportunities to come to me. This is the year of creating my own stages and moving past fear. This episode is for you if you've ever: Started the New Year with big goals and strong discipline only to feel exhausted by February Achieved everything you thought you wanted but still don't feel the way you thought you would Found yourself spinning more plates than ever despite saying you'd do less Been everyone's rock while quietly crumbling on the inside Struggled to ask for help because you don't want to burden people or take advantage of relationships Overridden your intuition and talked yourself out of things you knew were right Wondered "is this all there is?" or "how much longer can I keep this up?" Defined success by external metrics (titles, money, achievements) but feel empty inside Known you should prioritize yourself but always run out of time and energy Waited for permission or for someone to choose you instead of creating your own opportunities Tolerated things in 2025 that you're absolutely done tolerating in 2026 Built a life that looks good on the outside but doesn't feel congruent on the inside How to Actually Create Change in 2026 (Without Another Resolution) Here's what most high achievers don't understand about the New Year: nothing changes when the calendar flips. You don't become a different person on January 1st. Real change starts with reflection, not resolution. If you're already thinking about what you should be doing differently in 2026, pause. Because the truth is, most of you don't need another goal. You need a more honest relationship with yourself. You need to look back at 2025 with curiosity instead of judgment, and mine for the data about what actually worked and what didn't. This episode walks you through powerful reflection questions designed to create clarity. Clarity creates better choices. When you know what patterns continued despite your best intentions, where your effort didn't equal fulfillment, and what you're done tolerating, you can actually make different decisions moving forward. The cost of skipping this reflection? Another year of chasing goals that don't align with who you actually are. Another year of achieving things that don't make you feel the way you thought they would. Another year of exhaustion without fulfillment. Ready to Stop Chasing Goals That Don't Actually Fill You Up? If you listened to this episode and recognized yourself in these patterns - the over-functioning, the waiting for permission, the achieving without feeling, the overriding your intuition - it's time for a reset. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in cycles of exhaustion and achievement without fulfillment, the identity beliefs driving your behavior, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. This isn't about adding another goal to your list. It's about getting honest about what's true for you and starting to live from that truth. Because when you're congruent, success stops being something you chase and becomes who you are. Book your free Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit Connect with Lisa Website: lisacarpenter.ca Podcast: lisacarpenter.ca/podcast Instagram: @lisacarpenterinc LinkedIn: Lisa Carpenter Walk the Camino with Lisa in September 2026 If you're feeling called to more in-person connection and real transformation, join Lisa and Sara Intonato in Spain for a walking retreat on the Camino de Santiago, September 25 - October 3, 2026. This isn't a vacation. It's a sacred journey to leave behind what's weighing you down and reconnect with yourself without the noise of the rest of the world. Walk over 100 kilometers, strip away the layers that aren't yours, and step into who you're becoming. Limited spaces available. Payment plans available now. Learn more: HERE This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good, it finally feels right.   If you listen on Spotify:  Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.

Why do successful people feel so exhausted? You've built something that matters. You've proven yourself over and over. But no matter how much you achieve, it never feels like enough. You're running on fumes, your mind won't stop racing, and you're quietly wondering how much longer you can keep this up. If that sounds familiar, this episode is your roadmap into 2026. This is the final episode of 2025, and instead of a typical conversation, Lisa Carpenter reflects on the year of transition that brought Full Frontal Living into its new identity: Congruent. She shares her gratitude for 338 episodes, the evolution of her work, and what's ahead in 2026. But more importantly, she's curated five of the most powerful episodes from this year to help you close out 2025 and step into the new year differently. These aren't just "best of" picks. They're the episodes that hit hardest for ambitious, Type A professionals, executives, and entrepreneurs who are tired of success that feels hollow. The ones who are overcommitted, overwhelmed, and ready to stop abandoning themselves in the name of achievement. Lisa's Year-End Reflection: From Full Frontal Living to Congruent This year marked a massive shift. When Lisa rebranded to Congruent, it wasn't just about a new name. It was about getting specific on who she's really here to serve: the high-achieving leaders who look like they have it all together on the outside but are crumbling on the inside. The ones who are exhausted but can't stop. The ones who snap at their loved ones, numb with food or wine, and collapse into bed too tired to sleep but too wired to rest. The rebrand was about naming the gap between external success and internal fulfillment, and creating a space where ambitious people can finally get honest about what success is actually costing them. Because you can't create peace while choosing chaos. You can't build connection while abandoning yourself to keep it.   The 5 Episodes Lisa Wants You to Revisit (Or Discover) for 2026 Episode 322: The 3 Biggest Mistakes People Make Trying to Protect Their Energy Most people think they're protecting their energy when they're actually just avoiding the real work. This episode reveals what's actually draining you and why your current strategy of saying no to everything isn't solving the problem. You'll learn the difference between energy protection and energy reclamation, and why boundaries without self-awareness just create new problems. Listen if: You're exhausted despite "setting boundaries," saying no feels impossible, or you're constantly running on fumes no matter how much you delegate. Episode 310: Why You Might Be Addicted to Achievement (And How to Let Peace In Without Slowing Down) This episode is for everyone terrified that slowing down means giving up. Lisa breaks down the difference between healthy ambition and achievement addiction, why "never enough" keeps you stuck, and how to let peace in without losing your drive. Because rest isn't the opposite of ambition. It's what makes sustainable success possible. Listen if: You're constantly moving goalposts, can't celebrate wins, feel guilty resting, or believe your worth is tied to your productivity. Episode 282: How to Love and Accept Your Body While Still Wanting to Change It Hating yourself into transformation doesn't work. This episode teaches you how to hold both compassion for where you are and desire for change at the same time. Lisa walks you through the both/and of body acceptance, why shame keeps you stuck, and how self-compassion is actually the fastest path to sustainable change. Listen if: You've been at war with your body, feel guilty wanting to change, or can't figure out how to be kind to yourself while still having goals. Episode 280: The Top Reasons You Fail to Achieve Your Goals This isn't another goal-setting framework. This episode exposes the hidden patterns sabotaging you before you even start. Lisa reveals why knowing better doesn't translate to doing better, the role of nervous system regulation in follow-through, and what actually needs to shift for you to stop self-sabotaging. Listen if: You set goals but never follow through, know what to do but can't seem to do it, or feel like you're constantly starting over. Episode 248: The Key to Freedom: Using Your Power of Choice in Everyday Life Freedom isn't something that happens when you finally achieve enough. It's available to you right now. This episode breaks down how to reclaim your power of choice in everyday moments, why you keep giving your power away, and what it takes to start living from agency instead of obligation. Listen if: You feel trapped by your circumstances, say yes when you mean no, or constantly feel like you "have to" instead of "choose to."   Today's Episode Is For You If You've Ever: Felt successful on the outside while quietly crumbling on the inside. Everyone thinks you have it all together, but you're exhausted, resentful, and wondering if this is all there is. Cried in the car after a big win because it didn't feel like success. You achieved the thing, but instead of celebration, you immediately moved the goalpost and criticized yourself for not doing better. Snapped at loved ones after long days, then felt guilty for not being present. You're so drained by the time you get home that you have nothing left for the people who matter most. Found yourself numbing with food, wine, or scrolling late at night. Because slowing down feels uncomfortable, and you'd rather not feel what's underneath. Collapsed into bed exhausted but your mind won't stop racing. Your body is done, but your brain is still running through everything you didn't finish and everything waiting for you tomorrow. Said yes to things you don't want to do because it feels easier than saying no. The guilt of disappointing someone else feels worse than abandoning yourself. Wondered "is this all there is?" or "how much longer can I keep this up?" You built the life everyone admires, but inside, it doesn't feel congruent. Known you should take better care of yourself but always run out of time and energy. You know better, but you can't seem to do better, and that gap is eating you alive. Built a life people admire but inside it doesn't feel congruent. The success looks good, but it doesn't feel good, and you're terrified to admit that out loud.   How to Stop Feeling Exhausted Despite Your Success Here's what most people get wrong: they think the answer is more rest, better boundaries, or finally achieving the next big thing. But exhaustion isn't just a time management problem. It's a nervous system problem. It's an identity problem. It's a "you're living out of alignment with who you actually are" problem. You can't think your way into feeling fulfilled. You can't goal-set your way out of burnout. And you sure as hell can't keep doing the same thing and expect different results. What you need is to get honest about the patterns running underneath everything. The ones keeping you overcommitted, overwhelmed, and wondering how much longer you can keep this up. The ones that make success feel hollow no matter what you achieve. That's what these five episodes will help you see. Not surface-level tips. Not productivity hacks. The actual context, the underlying operating system, that's been running your life without your permission. Because when you shift the context, the content takes care of itself.   Join Lisa on the Camino de Santiago in September 2026 Lisa has walked the Camino de Santiago twice, and in September 2026, she's doing something different. She's facilitating a group pilgrimage experience, co-hosting with her best friend Sara Intonato (who was featured on last week's episode). This isn't just a trip. It's a pilgrimage. Lisa is walking the same route that was such a massive part of her personal healing and growth journey in 2024. The route that cracked her open in all the right ways. The route that showed her what was possible when she got out of her own way. The route that showed her what she was holding onto, the pain she was attached to, and how to start to let it go so she could create the beautiful life she's living today. Now Lisa and Sara are bringing a group with them to have their own transformative experience. What you need to know about the Camino: The lessons you're meant to learn and the experiences you're meant to have will find you. You can't force them. You can't plan for them. But when you show up willing to be in relationship with yourself, when you create the space to actually listen, everything shifts. This is a chance to be in deep relationship with yourself while also being supported with powerful coaching to help you pull out the lessons and embody them in ways you haven't been able to access before. Because awareness without integration changes nothing. And this pilgrimage is designed to help you do both. If extraordinary experiences and personal growth are your goals for 2026, this is the perfect opportunity.Registration is open now.    Ready to Stop Running on Fumes and Start Leading Yourself Powerfully? If you're sitting here thinking, "I want my 2026 to be different. I'm done feeling like this," listen closely. You can't think your way into a different life. You can't goal-set your way into feeling fulfilled. And you sure as hell can't keep doing the same thing and expect different results. What you need is to get honest about the patterns running underneath everything. The ones keeping you exhausted, overcommitted, and wondering how much longer you can keep this up. The ones that make success feel hollow no matter what you achieve. That's what the Congruency Audit is for. It's a free 15-minute call where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We identify the exact pattern keeping you stuck, the cost of staying where you are, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels

Why do successful people feel the most overwhelmed during the holidays? You've built something impressive, you're capable of managing complex projects and leading teams, yet the moment the holidays arrive, you're barely hanging on. You're over-functioning for everyone else, saying yes when you mean no, and by the time you collapse into bed, your mind won't stop racing about everything you still need to do tomorrow. Who is Sara Intonato? Sara Intonato is the founder of Autism Changemakers, a parent coach, consultant, and bestselling author. She's also been a yoga teacher and nervous system practitioner for over 20 years. Her work is rooted in ancient, time-tested practices from her 11 trips to India to study Ashtanga yoga, supporting parents of nonspeaking autistic children to regulate their nervous systems in high-stakes moments where safety is a concern and regulation isn't optional. Sara's Story: Why Ancient Practices Matter in Our Instant Gratification World Sara took her first trip to India in her early 20s thinking she'd have a beautiful spiritual experience and get it out of her system. Instead, she discovered that to truly master something, there's no shortcut. You can't buy a certificate or complete a weekend training. You have to show up day after day, year after year, and let the practice change you. What makes Sara different from the trendy breathwork facilitators flooding the coaching space is her commitment to teaching these practices properly. In India, she learned that advanced breathwork practices were withheld from students until they had a strong foundation because introducing them too soon would be "crazy making." They would move energy around so profoundly that students wouldn't be able to manage it. This is exactly what Sara sees happening now in mainstream wellness culture. Coaches are throwing breathwork into their programs after minimal training, parents and professionals are trying to release trauma without knowing how to regulate what comes up, and people are more dysregulated than ever. Sara brings these ancient tools to her clients and students in bite-sized pieces that are safe and effective for all levels, because who needs more chaos in their life right now? What we talk about in this episode: Why the holidays trigger grief and overwhelm for high achievers. It's not just about being busy. The holidays stir up emotions that feel inconvenient, whether it's comparing your reality to what you thought life would look like, dealing with family dynamics that activate old wounds, or simply the pressure to make everything magical while you're running on fumes. This episode normalizes that you can feel successful and still struggle during this season. The one-minute breathing practice that will ground you anywhere, anytime. Equal breathing through the nose (four counts in, four counts out) for just one minute is enough to shift your nervous system from reactive to regulated. No special equipment, no mantras, no perfect conditions required. Sara explains exactly how to do this practice and why engaging your throat slightly (like you're gargling) activates your vagus nerve and creates deeper regulation. Why you can't help anyone when you're dysregulated. Sara works with parents managing aggressive behaviors and safety concerns with their children. The homework is always the same: regulate yourself first. When you're dysregulated, you escalate everyone around you. When you ground yourself, you create space for co-regulation. This applies whether you're parenting, leading a team, or trying to survive Christmas dinner with your in-laws. The ice cube trick that interrupts spiraling thoughts instantly. When you can't escape the room or take a minute to breathe, grab some ice cubes. Hold them for one minute. The intense sensation forces you into presence because you literally can't think about anything else. It's a pattern interrupt that brings you back to your body so you can respond instead of react. How to train your mind to concentrate using Zen Buddhist meditation. Set a timer for five minutes and count each breath (inhale one, exhale two, up to ten, then start over). Every time your mind wanders to Aunt Patty's comment or your to-do list, go back to one and start again. Don't be surprised if you don't get past two. This isn't about perfection, it's about observing where your mind goes without judgment and teaching it to concentrate on one thing: your breath. Why reactivity is destroying our ability to make good decisions. We live in an Amazon Prime culture where everything is instant. But this reactivity is getting in the way of our functioning. We think every thought and feeling requires immediate action. This practice teaches your nervous system that it's okay to sit with discomfort, to not scratch the itchy nose, to let your foot fall asleep during meditation. Everything will pass. You won't die from waiting. The real reason you can't feel holiday magic (and it's not the circumstances). Holiday magic is just presence. That's it. But how can you possibly enjoy being here now when your mind is in five different places? Sara shares how she creates magic by putting on Christmas music, baking, and allowing herself to just be in the moment because life will be plenty busy in January. The magic isn't external fairy dust, it's choosing to be present. What your kids will actually remember about this season. It's not how many vegetables they ate or how organized the gift wrapping was. They'll remember how you felt. Your energy is what people experience from you. If you're emanating stress and overwhelm, that's what everyone will carry from their interactions with you. The quality of your life, your relationships, your work changes drastically when you take the time to regulate yourself. This episode is for you if you've ever: Felt like you're barely hanging on through the holidays, one comment away from snapping Snapped at your kids or partner after a long day, then felt guilty for not being present Numbed with food, wine, or scrolling because slowing down feels uncomfortable Thought "I don't have time for mindfulness or nervous system practices" Believed meditation and breathwork are too complicated or not for people like you Been the strong one everyone leans on while you're quietly crumbling inside Said yes to holiday commitments when you meant no because it feels easier Collapsed into bed exhausted but your mind won't stop racing about tomorrow Wondered "how much longer can I keep this up?" Known you should take better care of yourself but always run out of time and energy Built a life people admire but feel like you're missing the magic everyone else seems to experience Felt reactive and stressed, robbing yourself and your family of presence and connection How to Stop Being Reactive and Start Being Present Here's what most people miss about nervous system regulation: they think it requires complicated practices, special training, or hours of time they don't have. So they do nothing. They stay in reactivity, they over-function for everyone else, and they wonder why the holidays feel so overwhelming instead of magical. But Sara's work proves that regulation doesn't require perfection or massive time investments. It requires one minute. Four counts in, four counts out. Ice cubes in your hands when you can't escape the room. Counting your breath when your mind is spinning. The cost of staying dysregulated isn't just that you feel stressed. It's that your children remember mom as a ball of stress. Your colleagues remember your overwhelm, not your competence. Your partner experiences your reactivity, not your love. You rob yourself of the presence and connection you're craving because you think you don't have time to regulate. Ready to stop feeling overwhelmed and start feeling present? If you're reading this and recognizing yourself, if you've been running on fumes for so long that you don't even remember what regulated feels like, it's time to stop. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in over-functioning and reactivity, the wounds driving your need to be strong for everyone else, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. This isn't about adding more to your plate. It's about understanding why you keep saying yes when you mean no, why you can't give yourself permission to rest, and what needs to shift so you can finally stop running and start being present. How To Thrive Through The Silly Season Workbook: https://lisacarpenter.ca/holidays/ Book your free Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit And if you know you need more than a 15-minute call, if you're craving a complete reset where you can step away from the noise and actually remember who you are beneath all the doing, Sara and I are taking a small group on a walking pilgrimage along the Camino in Spain in September 2026.  Learn more HERE This isn't a vacation. It's a sacred reset. Six days walking more than 100 kilometers with daily coaching, integration circles, yoga, breathwork, and deep conversations that help you release what's been weighing you down. Spaces are intentionally limited to ensure intimacy and depth of support. When it fills, it closes. Learn more at lisacarpenter.ca. Connect with Sara Intonato: Website: https://www.saraintonato.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sara.intonato/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-intonato-23036b172   If you listen on Spotify:  Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit. This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congrue

Why do I feel exhausted even though I'm successful? You've built something impressive. You've proven yourself over and over. But you're exhausted, your body is breaking down, and no matter how much you achieve, it never feels like enough. You're the strong one everyone leans on, but you're quietly wondering how much longer you can keep this up. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. This is the hidden cost of being strong, and it's exactly what today's guest, Alex Snider, lived through before everything came crashing down. Who is Alex Snider? Alex Snider is the founder of Leaders Who Build, a leadership development company working with founders and executives who are scaling fast but struggling to lead themselves through it. Alex helps her clients integrate strategy with self-awareness so they can grow their businesses without losing themselves in the process. She's a certified executive coach who knows this terrain intimately because she's walked through it herself. Alex's Story: When Strength Becomes Your Prison During COVID, Alex was tripling her company in 10 months. On the outside, she was crushing it. But her back was in constant pain for 12 months straight. Her business partnership had turned toxic. Her personal relationship was unhealthy. She was over-giving in every direction, having emotional reactions that would take her out for days, and her body was physically breaking down from carrying the weight of it all. Alex had gone from being hyper-independent and emotionally unavailable to swinging completely to the other extreme: over-functioning, people-pleasing, and seeking partnerships to fill the gaps she believed existed in herself. She was operating from scarcity, not abundance. She was trying to earn love by being helpful and valuable enough. And she was attracting emotionally unavailable people so she could over-compensate by being the caretaker. The breakthrough came when Alex realized she was having outsized emotional reactions because she had given every ounce of energy to everyone else. There was nothing left for her. She had to face the uncomfortable truth: her patterns of over-functioning weren't making her a better leader or partner. They were destroying her health, her relationships, and her ability to feel the success she'd built. What we talk about in this episode: How over-functioning creates under-functioning in others. When you're constantly doing everything, carrying all the weight, and being the strong one, you're actually teaching the people around you to do less. You create the exact dynamic you resent. What it's like to attract emotionally unavailable people when you're trying to earn love. Alex shares how her pattern of seeking partners from scarcity (looking for people to fill her perceived gaps) versus partnering from abundance completely shifted once she did the deep work on her worthiness. The moment you wish someone would save you while hating yourself for even thinking it. This is the rock bottom moment for high-functioning, capable people. When you're so exhausted that you just want someone to rescue you, and you despise yourself for having that thought because you're supposed to be strong. Why your "buttons" getting pushed reveals your unhealed wounds. Alex explains how the people closest to us push our buttons not because they're trying to hurt us, but because they're the only ones allowed close enough to reach those wounds. Her business partner was pushing the exact buttons related to her "not enough" story from childhood. How to set boundaries without over-explaining yourself. Learning to say no as a complete sentence. Learning to set a boundary and hold it without justifying, defending, or convincing. This is the work of self-respect. What self-trust actually means and how to rebuild it. Self-trust isn't built through grand gestures. It's built by keeping the small promises you make to yourself. Every time you break a promise to yourself, you're teaching yourself you don't matter. The shift from "not enough" to "I am so in love with myself." Alex shares what it's like on the other side of the deep emotional work: the peace, the clarity, the ability to move through the world without constantly proving yourself or seeking external validation. How success and freedom get redefined once you stop abandoning yourself. For Alex, freedom used to mean location independence. Now it means the freedom to prioritize her health, be where she wants when she wants, work with people she chooses, and have the bandwidth to do work that matters without worrying about compensation. The spiral metaphor: why it looks like you're going in circles but you're actually going up. Alex has a spiral tattooed on her wrist because from one angle, personal growth looks like you're just repeating the same patterns. But shift your perspective and you see you're actually ascending, going around and up with each iteration. This episode is for you if you've ever: Felt like you're everyone's rock but you have no one to lean on when you're falling apart Been the strong, capable one your entire life and secretly resented having to hold it all together Attracted emotionally unavailable people so you could be the caretaker and feel needed Achieved impressive milestones but still struggled to actually feel successful Wished someone would just save you, then immediately hated yourself for being weak enough to think it Had physical pain that wouldn't resolve no matter what you tried (and suspected it was related to emotional stress) Found yourself over-functioning in your work and relationships while others under-function Said yes to things you didn't want to do because it felt easier than setting a boundary Built something that looks successful on the outside but feels exhausting on the inside Known you need to take better care of yourself but always ran out of time and energy How to stop over-functioning and start living Alex's journey reveals something critical: you can't strategy your way out of patterns rooted in unworthiness. You can't hustle your way into feeling successful. And you can't keep abandoning yourself for achievement and expect to feel fulfilled. The real work is getting honest about why you're over-giving. What you're getting from being everyone's rock. What you're avoiding by staying busy and helpful and indispensable. And whether you're willing to do the uncomfortable work of learning to love yourself enough to stop. If you're ready to stop carrying it all and start building success that actually feels good, this conversation will show you what's possible on the other side. Ready to stop over-functioning and start feeling successful? The patterns Alex describes (over-functioning, people-pleasing, seeking external validation, struggling to feel your success) aren't character flaws. They're coping mechanisms you developed to stay safe. But they're costing you your health, your relationships, and your ability to enjoy the life you've built. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in over-functioning mode, the wounds driving your need to be everyone's rock, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good, it finally feels right. Book your free Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit Connect with Alex Snider Website: https://alexsnider.com/ LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/snideralex Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leaderswhobuild/   If you listen on Spotify:  Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.

Your body has been trying to tell you something for a while now. The persistent low mood you keep attributing to stress. The exhaustion that sleep doesn't fix. The feeling that no matter how well you take care of yourself, you're still running on fumes. What if it's not willpower you're missing? What if your body is finally saying no to a version of success that's costing you everything? Lisa Corduff's Story Lisa Corduff built a million-dollar business while her life was falling apart behind the scenes. Her husband Nick was struggling with addiction and mental health. She was solo parenting three young kids. And her business became the one place that felt purposeful when everything else was chaos. She was creating non-stop. Documenting everything. Showing up in all the places because that's what successful entrepreneurs do, right? The frantic energy matched what was happening in her real life. And then Nick died in 2019. Lisa was 40 years old with three kids aged 5, 7, and 8, and she kept going because that's what you do when you're the only parent and three kids are depending on you. But here's what nobody tells you about chronic stress: your body keeps the score. For years, Lisa would wake up every morning with her nervous system spiking, wondering "what's today going to bring?" She couldn't get back to sleep. Her system was wired for threat. And even after the acute crisis passed, her body remembered. This year, everything shifted. At 45, Lisa finally got answers she didn't know she needed - ADHD and autism diagnoses that suddenly made her entire life make sense. She discovered her estrogen levels were tanked despite doing everything "right" - morning walks, good food, sleep hygiene, all of it. She realized that what she'd been calling stress was actually perimenopause masked by legitimate life chaos. And she had to make a choice: keep running the frantic version of success she'd built, or completely redefine what success means when you're no longer willing to sacrifice your nervous system, your presence with your teenage kids, or your actual life for revenue targets. In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Lisa reveals: Why she went completely quiet this year after being one of the most visible entrepreneurs online for over a decade The moment she realized her persistent low mood wasn't just grief or stress - it was disappearing estrogen What getting diagnosed with ADHD and autism in her 40s taught her about the hustle she'd been celebrated for How chronic stress from years of managing addiction, solo parenting, and business building dysregulated her nervous system (and why it didn't matter how well she took care of herself) The shift from million-dollar years to redefining success around presence with her teenage kids Why she had to let go of the "prove yourself through content" model and become what she calls a "lighthouse voice" What it's really like to advocate for your own health when doctors dismiss perimenopausal women as overreacting to social media trends How neurodivergence (ADHD + autism) shows up differently in high-achieving women who've learned to mask The hidden cost of being everyone's rock while quietly crumbling inside Why grief and addiction are the "unsexy topics" we need to talk about more What happens when you finally honor your needs instead of overriding them with willpower How to know when it's time to let go even when everything in you wants to fight to hang on This episode is for you if you've ever: Felt like your body is screaming at you, but you keep pushing through with willpower Wondered why you're exhausted despite doing all the "right things" for your health Built impressive success, but it doesn't feel the way you thought it would Questioned whether the hustle is actually worth what it's costing you Felt trapped between the business you built and the life you actually want to live Attributed chronic stress symptoms to "just having a lot going on" instead of hormones Struggled with persistent low mood that nothing seems to fix Been told by doctors that your symptoms are "just stress" or "normal aging" Felt like you're the only parent carrying it all while trying to build something meaningful Wondered who you are when you're not performing or proving anymore Realized the version of success that got you here won't get you where you want to go Known you need to let go but everything in you wants to hold on tighter About Lisa Corduff Lisa Corduff is a successful entrepreneur, speaker, and writer currently exploring the complexities of "this moment in time" on her podcast Conversations with Lisa. A powerful storyteller, she teaches experts, coaches, thought-leaders, and business owners who want to stand out online how to expertly weave stories into their content for greater impact, connection, and trust. She believes storytelling is, as it always has been, an essential skill for our times. Connect with Lisa: Website: lisacorduff.com Instagram: @lisacorduff Facebook: Lisa Corduff Podcast: Conversations with Lisa Grief Notes is the perfect support on your grief journey What’s the Story teaches business owners how to grow their impact and make more sales using the power of storytelling Back to You in Midlife is eight powerful exercises for women who have found themselves lost and disconnected from themselves in midlife. Ready to stop overriding your body's messages and start honoring what it's trying to tell you? This conversation between Lisa Corduff and me isn't just about hormones or business strategy. It's about the wake-up call that comes when your body finally says no to a version of success built on chronic stress, over-functioning, and pushing through at all costs. Maybe you've been attributing your exhaustion to "just being busy." Maybe you've been telling yourself the persistent low mood will pass once things calm down. Maybe you've been white-knuckling your way through because you don't know another way to operate. But here's what Lisa and I both learned the hard way: you can't out-discipline a dysregulated nervous system. You can't out-supplement tanked hormones. And you can't build sustainable success while abandoning yourself in the process. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in chronic stress, the cost of continuing to override your body's messages, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that doesn't require you to sacrifice your health, your presence, or who you're becoming. Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good - it finally feels right. Success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.   If you listen on Spotify:  Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.

Everyone talks about self-love like it's a destination you reach after enough bubble baths and affirmations. But what if the real work of loving yourself is learning to stop abandoning who you are every time you enter a relationship? What if being "the loving one" has actually cost you more than you've been willing to admit? In this raw, solo episode, Lisa dismantles everything you thought you knew about unconditional love, self-love, and what it takes to be in a healthy relationship without losing yourself in the process. She challenges the narrative that many of us, especially women, were raised with: that being loving means holding it all together, forgiving everything, and sacrificing yourself to make it work. Drawing from her own journey of overgiving, abandoning herself, and ultimately setting boundaries in her current relationship after a major wake-up call, Lisa reveals why unconditional love has a place (with your children) but becomes toxic when applied to adult romantic relationships. She breaks down the difference between compassion for someone's humanity and tolerating harmful behavior, between loving someone deeply and staying when it costs you who you are. This isn't about becoming cold or withholding love. It's about understanding that healthy love, both with yourself and others, requires discernment, reciprocity, and boundaries. It's about learning to meet yourself with the same compassion you've been giving everyone else, and recognizing that the relationship you have with yourself is the blueprint for every relationship you'll ever have. In this episode, Lisa reveals: Why unconditional love in romantic relationships often means you're abandoning yourself (and calling it devotion) The specific cost of overgiving in relationships and how it erodes your self-trust How forgiveness without repair is just using spirituality to avoid reality The difference between loving someone's humanity and having conditions for access, partnership, and intimacy Why boundaries don't block love, they protect it (and make love sustainable) What healthy, mature love actually looks like: reciprocal, boundaried, grounded, accountable, spacious, and intentional How to recognize when you're mistaking tolerance for love and endurance for devotion The only real antidote to shame (and why most high-achievers struggle to give it to themselves) Why self-integrity, keeping promises to yourself, is the foundation of self-love and self-trust How to love someone deeply and still walk away if staying costs you who you are The reflection questions that will show you exactly where you're out of alignment in your relationships This episode is for you if you've ever: Found yourself overgiving in relationships, always being the one who repairs, carries, and sacrifices Believed that being loving meant forgiving everything without requiring accountability or repair Lost yourself in a relationship because you were so focused on not losing the other person Said yes to things you didn't want to do, shrinking yourself to be liked or chosen Felt resentful in your relationship but kept telling yourself you just need to be more loving Struggled to set boundaries because you equated boundaries with being cold or withholding Extended endless compassion to others but met yourself with criticism when you fell short Wondered why you can show up with such compassion for everyone else but can't seem to give it to yourself Built a relationship that looks good on the outside but inside you've abandoned who you are Knew you needed to leave a relationship but kept staying because you loved them (even though it was costing you everything) About Lisa Carpenter Lisa Carpenter is a Master Life Coach and host of the Congruent podcast. She works with ambitious, Type A professionals, executives, and entrepreneurs who look successful on the outside but feel exhausted, unfulfilled, or like it's never enough on the inside. Through her signature Congruency Loop™ process, Lisa helps clients stop living in Doing Mode and create success that feels as good as it looks. Find her at lisacarpenter.ca and on Instagram and LinkedIn @lisacarpentercoaching. Ready to stop abandoning yourself in the name of love? If you heard yourself in this episode, if you recognized the pattern of overgiving and calling it devotion, if you've been mistaking tolerance for love and endurance for commitment, it's time to get honest about what this is costing you. Because here's the truth: you can love someone with your whole heart and still feel unseen, unsafe, and disconnected. You can love someone deeply and still completely lose yourself in the process. And the highest form of love has to include you. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the relationships you've built and what you're actually feeling inside them. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in overgiving, the wounds driving your need to earn love through sacrifice, and what it's going to take for you to finally create relationships (including the one with yourself) that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside. In 15 minutes, we'll pinpoint where you're abandoning yourself, what's driving that pattern, and the single biggest shift that will change everything. Because you didn't come this far to keep losing yourself in every relationship you enter. Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the relationships you're in don't require you to disappear. Success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside starts with you including yourself in the love you give.   If you listen on Spotify:  Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.

You've done everything right. The degree, the career, the salary that finally exceeds what your parents made. You're checking all the boxes. But if you're honest, you still feel broke. Not because your bank account is empty, but because you never feel safe with money. You're controlling, budgeting, tracking every dollar, and somehow it still doesn't feel like enough. That constant financial anxiety? That's not about your numbers. It's about the unworthiness conversation running underneath every money decision you make. Lisa Chastain grew up blue-collar on a dirt road in Las Vegas, watching her dad never make more than $60,000 a year. She did what good girls do: got the degree, landed the job with the 401k and health insurance, bought a house at 24, married at 25, had her kid at 28. She was winning. Until she wasn't. When her husband lost his job nine months after she left her career to stay home, everything unraveled. The $100,000 in her 401k? Drained trying to hold it all together and start her financial advisor business. The perfect marriage? Hiding active addiction and chaos. The life that looked so good from the outside? Completely unsustainable on the inside. Lisa spent years trying to control her way to safety—budgeting harder, fixing her husband, making herself smaller, believing if she just did more, it would finally feel secure. But control was never the answer. The real work was healing the "not enough" conversation that made her use money to prove her worth, use debt to fill voids that weren't fillable with things, and stay in toxic situations because leaving felt like failure. Through divorce, a public rebound relationship with another addict, and what she calls her "come to Jesus moment," Lisa rebuilt her entire relationship with money. She stopped budgeting. She redefined success beyond bank account balances. She learned to use debt strategically instead of shamefully. And she made it her mission to help other women do the same—because financial shame keeps successful women stuck in scarcity longer than actual money problems ever could. Today, Lisa is a nationally recognized personal finance coach, bestselling author of Stop Budgeting, Start Living, host of The Real Money Podcast, and the woman teaching thousands of women how to stop controlling money and start trusting themselves with it.   In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Lisa reveals: Why budgeting is actually a control mechanism designed to keep women feeling ashamed of their financial decisions (and what to do instead) The hidden cost of financial control: how trying to manage every dollar keeps you feeling broke no matter how much you make Why debt isn't the problem—the unworthiness conversation driving your spending is How men are championed for using debt strategically while women are shamed for having $5,000 on a credit card The real reason successful women still live paycheck to paycheck despite good salaries: they're banking out of emotion, not data Why money amplifies who you already are (and what happens when you put money on top of an "unworthy" story) How to build self-trust with money through financial forecasting instead of white-knuckling a budget The generational shame women carry around money ownership and decision-making (and why it wasn't even legal for women to own their own accounts until less than 100 years ago) What redefining success actually looks like when you stop attaching it to external markers The exact moment Lisa realized she was the problem—and also the solution   This episode is for you if you've ever: Done everything "right" financially but still feel like you're one emergency away from falling apart Felt successful on paper but broke in your nervous system—constantly anxious about money no matter what your bank account says Controlled and budgeted your way through life only to realize you still don't feel safe with money Carried shame about debt, spending decisions, or financial mistakes that men would be championed for taking Made good money but somehow still felt like it was never enough Used spending or debt to fill a void that wasn't actually fillable with things Known you should feel more financially secure than you do, but the anxiety won't go away Realized you're trying to control money because you don't trust yourself with it   Guest Bio Lisa Chastain is a nationally recognized Personal Finance Coach and bestselling author with over 20 years of experience helping women take control of their money. Featured in CNBC, O – The Oprah Magazine, Fortune, Business Insider, and Forbes, Lisa is known for her fresh, no-shame approach to financial empowerment. After burning through $100,000 and nearly going broke, she rebuilt her life and made it her mission to help women fix their finances—without rigid budgets. In 2016, she launched her coaching business to teach women how to track money intentionally, invest wisely, and create sustainable wealth. Today, she's the host of The Real Money Podcast and the bestselling author of Stop Budgeting, Start Living, which challenges outdated money rules and inspires financial confidence. Lisa's work focuses on money mindset, leadership, and financial emotional intelligence, guiding clients and organizations to achieve long-term stability and freedom. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan, NBC News, MSN Money, Fortune, and Entrepreneur Magazine, and was named one of Las Vegas Women Magazine's "People to Watch." Find Lisa: Website: lisachastain.com Podcast: The Real Money Podcast: https://lisachastain.com/podcast/ Book: Stop Budgeting, Start Living: Transform Your Money Mindset, Transform Your Life (available on Amazon) Instagram: @realmoneywithlisa  90-Day Money Bootcamp launching quarterly 4-Day Intensive Healing Retreats   Ready to stop controlling money and start trusting yourself with it? If Lisa's story hit close to home, it's because you're carrying the same pattern: doing everything right, checking all the boxes, making good money, but still feeling broke, unsafe, and like it's never enough. Here's the truth: That anxiety isn't about your bank account balance. It's about the unworthiness conversation running underneath every financial decision you make. The shame you carry about debt. The belief that if you just budget harder, control tighter, manage better, you'll finally feel safe. But control is never the answer. Self-trust is. You're exhausted from white-knuckling your way through your financial life. You're collapsing into bed at night, mind racing about money, even though objectively you're doing fine. You snap at your partner about spending. You feel guilty every time you buy something for yourself. You've built a life that looks successful on the outside, but inside it doesn't feel congruent. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the financial success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in financial control instead of self-trust, the wounds driving your relationship with money, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. This isn't about budgeting harder. This isn't about more spreadsheets. This is about healing the "not enough" story that's been running your financial life since childhood—so you can finally step into the version of you who trusts herself with money, makes decisions from abundance instead of scarcity, and redefines success on your own terms. Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit If you listen on Spotify:  Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.

What if your greatest strength is actually your prison? What if the capability everyone admires, the drive that built your success, the resilience that got you through everything, is the very thing keeping you exhausted, overwhelmed, and unable to let anything be easy? Manja Horner learned early that she couldn't be a bother. With an older sister battling cancer and parents stretched beyond capacity, four-year-old Manja absorbed a profound lesson: be strong, be capable, never add to the burden. That pattern of over-functioning became her operating system, driving her to perfectionism, straight A's, a full-ride scholarship, and eventually a high-powered corporate career at BMO's Institute for Learning. On the outside, Manja was killing it. Executive track. Great salary. Respect. Security. But when she was asked to pour months of her life into a project she didn't believe in, something shifted. She walked away from the comfort, the salary, the stability, because her integrity mattered more than her safety. She sold a rental property to fund her business, had three small kids, and her husband, a police officer whose core values are security and stability, watched his wife blow up their predictable life. Fast forward to today: Manja runs a thriving learning and development company serving the skilled trades industry, she's pioneering AI applications to capture retiring tradespeople's wisdom, she's writing a book, raising three kids, doing somatic therapy, acupuncture, and EMDR to heal childhood wounds. She's accomplished, capable, and deeply successful. And her biggest challenge? Learning that ease is safe. Learning to soften without losing her edge. Learning that she doesn't have to make everything uncomfortable just because comfort feels dangerous. In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Manja reveals: The hidden cost of learning "don't be a bother" as a child and how it shows up as chronic over-functioning in adulthood Why perfectionism isn't about excellence, it's about not being judged (and how she's learning to iterate instead) The moment she walked away from corporate security because integrity mattered more than safety, and what that cost her marriage How being "intimidating" is often just armor for women who never learned they're allowed to take up space Why driven, ambitious women gravitate toward discomfort because ease actually doesn't feel safe in their nervous system The somatic reality of high-functioning freeze and what it takes to finally soften How therapy, EMDR, and the Big Leap helped her expand her capacity for joy, ease, and contentment Why "it is what it is" is a cop-out sentence that keeps you stuck in patterns you could actually change What it means to be the strong, capable one everyone relies on while quietly crumbling under the weight of your own standards The marriage work required when one partner's core value is security and the other can't stop shaking the cage This episode is for you if you've ever: Been told you're intimidating when you're just trying to belong Left a room wondering if you were "too much" or took up too much space Walked away from security because staying would have cost you your integrity Found yourself making things harder than they need to be because ease feels unsafe Collapsed into bed exhausted while your mind races through tomorrow's to-do list Snapped at the people you love most after a long day of holding it together for everyone else Wondered why you can't just relax, chill out, or enjoy the success you've built Been praised for your strength while secretly feeling trapped by your own capability Known you're over-functioning but can't figure out how to stop without everything falling apart Guest Bio Manja Horner is a learning experience strategist and trusted advisor to companies who want to transform their business with training and team procedures and processes in a seamless, digital and easy-to-implement system. As founder of Boost, she's on a mission to create amazing employee experiences and get results for leaders in the skilled trades. She helps clients in the skilled trades and construction create inspiring, enriching, and all-encompassing experiences for better employee retention, integration, and education. Manja is also the author of the forthcoming book Passing the Torch in the Trades and a former corporate learning executive at a leading financial institution who left security to build a business rooted in integrity and impact. Find Manja on: Instagram: @Manja_horner LinkedIn Boost   Ready to stop making everything harder than it needs to be? If Manja's story landed, it's because you recognize yourself in it. You're strong, capable, the one everyone turns to. You've built something impressive. But you're exhausted. You can't remember the last time something felt easy. And the idea of softening, of allowing ease, of not carrying it all? It terrifies you because doing feels safer than being. Here's what nobody tells you: Your strength isn't the problem. Your capability isn't the problem. The problem is that you learned a long time ago that being a burden wasn't safe, so you became the opposite. You became the rock. And now you're carrying weight that was never yours to carry. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and the exhaustion you're feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in over-functioning, the childhood wounds driving your need to never be a bother, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. This isn't about doing more or being better. This is about learning that ease is safe. That softening doesn't mean losing your edge. That you can be strong AND allow support. That you can be capable AND let things be easy. Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good, it finally feels right.   If you listen on Spotify:  Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.

You're over-giving because you're terrified no one will see your value. You know you're doing it. You're even aware it's exhausting you. But awareness without understanding why you do it? That just fuels the shame cycle. Emma came to this coaching session with a question about imposter syndrome. Twenty-five years of teaching, consistently getting great results with her clients, and still doubting whether she's doing enough or good enough. Still uncomfortable asking for money. Still over-giving in every session because maybe, just maybe, if she gives enough, they'll finally see her value. But here's what I don't coach to: I don't coach to imposter syndrome. I coach to the operating system underneath producing that symptom. Within minutes, we uncovered what was really running the show. Emma watched her mom overwork her entire childhood. Watched her put herself last, neglect her health, tie her worth to productivity, and never value herself. Emma loved her mom. So she learned this is what you do. You work until you're exhausted. You give until there's nothing left. You prove your value through doing. And now, decades later, Emma's middle-aged, looking in the mirror, and seeing her mom staring back at her.   In this coaching episode, you'll hear me guide Emma through: Why she's been working so hard to get her clients' acceptance and what part of her is driving that hustle for approval The exact moment she realized she's been modeling her mom's pattern of tying worth to productivity without even knowing she picked it up How loving someone who couldn't value themselves creates an unconscious loyalty to suffering—and why it feels like betrayal to treat yourself better than they treated themselves The practice of emotional neutrality when asking for money so she can witness the discomfort without letting it run her choices Why "I want more money" and "I want freedom" are abstract goals that keep high-achievers trapped in chasing their tail instead of actually creating what they want How to stop recreating your parent's life and become the conscious creator of your own by getting crystal clear on your values and boundaries The tool for parenting the part of you that innocently picked up misinformed stories about your value—so you can take different action even while feeling uncomfortable This episode is for you if: You've built success but still feel like you have to over-give to prove your value You're aware of your patterns but can't seem to change them, which just makes you feel more shame You watched a parent sacrifice themselves through overwork and now you're doing the same thing You're uncomfortable asking for money even though you deliver exceptional results You chase "more money" or "freedom" but never feel like you're actually getting there You want to understand what it's like to work with a Master Coach who sees the operating system underneath your surface symptoms This is what it sounds like to work with a coach who doesn't address what you think the problem is. I go after the beliefs and identity driving the behavior. If you've been telling yourself it's just imposter syndrome when it's actually about worthiness, tune in.   Ready to explore your own patterns? What pattern are you repeating that you watched growing up? What are you getting from over-giving, from tying your worth to productivity, from staying exhausted, that you won't admit? Emma came in thinking we'd coach on imposter syndrome. But the real work was uncovering the operating system underneath that was running her life. And I'm willing to bet there's an operating system running yours too. If you're done perpetuating the suffering, if you're ready to stop recreating what you watched and start becoming the conscious creator of your own life, book a free Congruency Audit with my team at lisacarpenter.ca/audit. We'll identify what's working, what's out of sync, and the single biggest opportunity to bring your life, work, and self back into congruence. What pattern are you ready to stop repeating?   Connect with Lisa: Website: lisacarpenter.ca Podcast: lisacarpenter.ca/podcast Coaching + Retreats: lisacarpenter.ca/coachingretreat   If you listen on Spotify:  Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.  

You've built something impressive. From the outside, it all looks good. But if you're honest with yourself, you've been playing small. Making things look perfect so no one sees the truth underneath. Smiling through the exhaustion. Saying "I'm just" when someone recognizes your power. Shrinking yourself so others feel comfortable. Today's guest knows this pattern intimately because she lived it for years. Sarah Albritton has spent over 30 years as the trusted catalyst for high-impact leaders who've achieved massive success but know something's still missing. She works with CEOs, founders, and senior executives who look unstoppable from the outside yet privately feel their compass spinning. Her clients include billion-dollar business leaders and visionary founders who've realized the old playbook isn't working anymore. But before she was coaching the world's most accomplished leaders, Sarah was the woman who made everything look perfect while quietly crumbling inside. The high achiever with imposter syndrome who spent 20 years in a marriage where she wasn't fully present. The capable woman who carried chronic back pain because her body was screaming what she wouldn't say out loud. The leader who walked into rooms full of elite coaches and heard herself say "I'm just a coach here, just like everybody else" in that high-pitched little voice, watching doors close behind people's eyes. Until the day she couldn't keep playing small anymore. In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Sarah reveals what it actually costs to make things look perfect when you're not being real. The physical pain her body carried from years of inauthenticity. The devastating betrayal when her entire friend group turned on her during her divorce, not just walking away but actively trying to destroy her. The moment at a coaching seminar when she caught herself shrinking and made the conscious choice to show up bigger. And how learning to treat her body as her hero instead of her villain changed everything. In this conversation, Sarah shares: The real cost of playing small: how making things look perfect on the outside creates chronic pain, exhaustion, and a complete erosion of self-trust Why imposter syndrome isn't humility, it's hiding your power, and the exact moment she chose to stop shrinking What happens to your body when you spend years being inauthentic (and why her chronic back pain disappeared the moment she got real) The difference between corporate leaders who've been conditioned not to trust themselves and entrepreneurs who struggle to trust anyone else Why "who, question mark, me, exclamation point" is the energy shift that changes everything The devastating cost of betrayal and how therapy helped her see that other people's reactions to her getting real had nothing to do with her What her 15-year-old son said that made her realize the gift of getting real: "When you decided to get real, you made it possible for the rest of us to get real" How she went from chasing dean positions and status to redefining success as "not needing a definition of success" Why humans are terrible judges of their own impact and what becomes available when you stop needing proof The work she's building now: Leading with Backbone, helping both business leaders and coaches show up courageously instead of hiding behind neutrality This episode is for you if you've ever: Caught yourself saying "I'm just" when someone recognized your power or capability Made everything look perfect on the outside while quietly crumbling on the inside Felt chronic pain, exhaustion, or physical symptoms you can't explain (and wondered if your body is trying to tell you something) Played small so others would feel comfortable, then resented yourself for shrinking Built a life that looks impressive but doesn't feel real, doesn't feel like you Lost trust in yourself after betrayal and wondered if you'll ever feel safe again Known you're capable of so much more but kept yourself small to stay safe Wondered what would happen if you actually showed up as big as you really are Sarah Albritton is a transformational coach and leadership catalyst who has spent over 30 years working with the world's most accomplished leaders. She's known for her rare ability to deliver what she calls "catalytic jolts of clarity," helping CEOs, founders, and senior executives torch limiting patterns and reclaim aligned leadership. Working from deep 1:1 coaching to transformative team sessions to soul-awakening retreats at her North Carolina farm, Sarah balances self-compassion with radical candor and a refusal to sugarcoat. Her new program, Leading with Backbone, helps both business leaders and coaches show up courageously with truth. Find her at sarahcalbritton.com and on LinkedIn and Instagram @sarahcalbritton. Ready to stop playing small? If Sarah's story hit close to home, it's because you're living some version of it right now. You've built something that looks good on the outside. People think you have it together. But you know the truth. You're playing smaller than you're capable of. Making things look perfect so no one sees how exhausted you really are. Shrinking yourself so others feel comfortable while your body carries the weight of everything you're not saying. Here's what that costs you: your energy, your presence, your health, your relationships, and your ability to actually feel the success you've built. You collapse into bed exhausted but can't sleep because your mind won't stop racing. You snap at the people you love most, then feel guilty for not being present. You know you should take better care of yourself but you always run out of time and energy. You've built a life people admire but inside it doesn't feel congruent. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in playing small, the wounds driving your need to make things look perfect, and what it's going to take for you to finally show up as big as you actually are. This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good, it finally feels right. Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit Success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.   If you listen on Spotify: Open the Spotify app on your phone. Search for Lisa Carpenter and open her podcast page. Tap the three dots under the podcast description. Choose Rate show from the menu. Select your star rating and tap Submit.

Hormones can change how you feel, but they don't change who you are. And no prescription can fix a life built on burnout and self-abandonment. In this episode, I'm getting real about what's happening in my own body right now, hormones out of whack again, depression, anxiety, fatigue, memory loss, and a complete loss of zest for life. My get-up and go has left the building. But here's what I know: what I'm feeling is real, but it doesn't make it true. I've been on HRT for years. I take amazing care of myself physically. I work with practitioners. I've done decades of emotional work. And I'm still navigating this. Because HRT can support your symptoms, but it's not a magic bullet for all the emotional work you've been avoiding. Taking physically good care of yourself doesn't mean you've taken emotionally good care of yourself. Your hormones don't tank out of nowhere—they reflect how you've been living. The chronic stress, the over-functioning, the self-abandonment, the patterns you've normalized for so long you don't even see them anymore. This episode is for high-achieving women in perimenopause, menopause, or post-menopause who are exhausted, overwhelmed, and wondering if they're losing their minds. If you're ready to blow up your life or feeling like a victim of your own body, this conversation will challenge everything you think you know about hormone health. I break down what hormones can do, what they can't do, and the deeper self-leadership work your body is demanding you finally pay attention to. Because hormone therapy can change your chemistry, but only you can change your capacity.   Key Takeaways The critical distinction: What you're feeling is real, but it doesn't make it true. Feelings are data, not facts Why HRT isn't enough: Hormone replacement can stabilize physiology but cannot regulate your nervous system. That's your job The real cause of hormone chaos: How chronic stress, over-functioning, emotional suppression, and self-abandonment drive hormonal decline Physical vs emotional self-care: Taking physically good care of yourself doesn't mean you've taken emotionally good care of yourself Common perimenopause symptoms: Depression, anxiety, brain fog, fatigue, dry eyes, memory loss, poor workout recovery, loss of zest for life The hormone-gut connection: Why your gut health directly impacts your hormones and moods. 95% of serotonin is made in your gut Foundations that matter: Sleep, protein and fiber at every meal, movement, minerals and hydration, downtime, and boundaries What separates women who blow up their lives from women who transform: Self-leadership, emotional responsibility, and the courage to examine your patterns The questions you need to ask yourself: What are you getting from staying in chaos? How long will you blame your hormones instead of admitting you're a big part of the problem? Peri/menopause as invitation: This phase is asking you to finally know yourself more deeply and address the emotional work you've been avoiding   Resources Mentioned Hormone & Health Practitioners: Ciara Foy (@ciarafoyinc) - Specializes in hormone health and weight management for high-achievers over 40 Jenn Pike (@jennpike) - Nutrition and exercise expert with extensive online resources Alyssa Morra (@alyssamorragutexpert) - Gut health specialist focused on digestive wellness and hormonal balance Take the Next Step If you're exhausted from feeling like a victim of your own body, if you recognize yourself in this episode and you're ready to lead yourself differently, book a free 15-minute Congruency Audit. We'll identify exactly where you're out of congruence with yourself and what needs to shift so you can navigate this phase with awareness instead of reactivity, with self-leadership instead of self-abandonment. Book your Congruency Audit

You're afraid of not feeling good enough. Meanwhile, you wake up every day already feeling that way. So what exactly are you protecting yourself from? In this live coaching episode, I work with Laurie-Ann Murabito, a successful speaking coach who's built a beautiful business but came to me feeling stuck. Not confident enough. Not getting the engagement she wanted. Not seeing the results she expected. So she stopped promoting her work and held back from the bigger vision she knew she was being called toward. Within minutes of our session, I exposed the pattern she was living: She was afraid of not feeling good enough, but she was already experiencing that feeling every single day. She was protecting herself from what she was already living. This is imposter syndrome in its most insidious form. Not the dramatic "I'm a fraud" moments, but the quiet, daily erosion of confidence that keeps accomplished people playing small. Laurie-Ann had all the evidence she needed that she was creating real results. Clients hiring her out of the blue after listening silently for months. People telling her she was their only choice. But she wasn't looking at that data. She was hanging her confidence on likes, comments, and downloads that would never be enough. Here's where the coaching got interesting: I asked her what she was getting from staying stuck that she wouldn't admit. What was the real payoff for playing small? Her answer shifted everything: "I get to stay right here. I don't have to step into that bigger role." This is the work I do. I don't coach to what you think the problem is. I coach to the operating system underneath that's producing all those symptoms. While most coaches would focus on confidence-building exercises or mindset mantras, I go after the unconscious pattern that's creating the lack of confidence in the first place. When Laurie-Ann described the vision she's been holding back from, building a world-class speaking and communication company, tears came. That's when I knew we hit the real issue. This wasn't about confidence. It was about identity. Who would she need to become to step into that vision? And what parts of herself would she need to stop being loyal to? I guided Laurie-Ann to see that she was choosing evidence that kept her small because looking at evidence of her real impact would require her to step up. And stepping up meant leaving behind the familiar version of herself that feels safe, even when it's exhausting. In this coaching episode, you'll hear me guide Laurie-Ann through: Why she was making her confidence conditional on external results instead of recognizing that doing the work itself was enough The unconscious payoff of staying stuck and how it was protecting her from having to step into a bigger role How she was choosing to look at data that supported staying small while ignoring evidence that she was creating real results The exact question that exposed the paradox: being afraid of what she was already experiencing every day The practice of naming the part of her that believes she's not enough so it stops running her life (meet Gertrude) The difference between acknowledging limiting voices and tolerating them How to stop protecting yourself from what you're already living This episode is for you if: You've built success but don't feel successful You're accomplished on the outside but struggling with confidence internally You have a bigger vision but keep finding reasons to stay where you are You're tired of waiting to feel ready before you take action You want to understand what it's like to work with me This is what it sounds like to work with a Master Coach who sees the operating system underneath your surface symptoms. If you've been holding back from something bigger, tune in. Ready to explore your own patterns? Book a free 15-minute Congruency Audit at lisacarpenter.ca/audit. We'll identify what's working, what's out of sync, and the single biggest opportunity to bring your life, work, and self back into congruence.

You tell yourself you're being strategic. That you're building collaborations, finding complementary skill sets, creating win-win partnerships. But what if the real reason you keep looking for someone else to do it with you is because you don't believe you're enough on your own? Andrea Janzen built a wildly successful leadership development company in one of the most male-dominated industries on the planet: construction. She's coached over 1,000 construction professionals, works with multinational companies, hosts the Ambition Theory Podcast, and is a Forbes contributor. On the outside, she's absolutely killing it. But for years, Andrea was running a story underneath all that success. A story that said she wasn't legitimate without an HR background. That she needed partners to fill her gaps. That her energy and authentic approach weren't enough to carry her business forward. The cost? She almost missed massive opportunities. She hid her greatest strengths. She exhausted herself trying to prove her worth. And even when she was achieving goals she'd journaled about years earlier, she couldn't let herself feel successful. Until a client said five words that changed everything: "We just want to work with you." In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Andrea reveals: The "not enough" story that drove her to seek business partners from scarcity, not strategy (and how to tell the difference) Why high achievers mistake imposter syndrome for missing credentials, when the real issue is hiding their genius The moment a client reflected back what she couldn't see in herself (and why we need mirrors when building something new) How over-functioning and resentment are your body's way of telling you you've abandoned personal responsibility Why she can journal about goals, achieve them years later, and still not feel successful (and what actually needs to shift) The practice of looking back at where you were five years ago as medicine for "never enough" How setting a 3pm work boundary and a shutdown ritual actually accelerated her business growth Why Santa now deposits $100/month for mandatory date nights (and what her kids are learning about prioritizing relationships) The difference between partnerships built from lack versus partnerships built from abundance Why solo time in nature, crime novels at the library, and protecting her energy are non-negotiables for showing up powerfully This episode is for you if you've ever: Told yourself you needed more credentials, certifications, or partners before you could really go for it Built something impressive but secretly felt like an imposter the entire time Looked for others to validate or legitimize what you're creating instead of trusting yourself Achieved goals you set years ago but moved the bar so fast you never celebrated Known you were over-functioning and carrying everything, then resented others for not stepping up Felt more comfortable being "strategic" about collaboration than admitting you're scared to do it alone Wondered if your authentic energy and approach could really be enough in a world that values traditional credentials   About Andrea Janzen: Andrea Janzen is a Certified Executive Coach with an MBA, the host of the Ambition Theory Podcast, a Forbes contributor, and a top-rated speaker. She is passionate about coaching construction professionals to develop themselves, set leadership goals, and get results. Since 2018, Andrea has coached and trained over 1,000 construction professionals. Before becoming a coach, Andrea was a marketing leader who worked on some of the world's best-known brands. Connect with Andrea: Ambition Theory Ambition Theory Podcast Leadership Accelerator for Women in Construction Building Better Report   Ready to stop hiding behind partnerships and step into what you're actually capable of? Here's what Andrea's story reveals: The "not enough" story doesn't go away with more credentials, more partners, or more proof. It goes away when you finally see what's been true all along, that your energy, your authentic approach, your unique way of seeing things, that's not a gap to fill. That's your genius. But most high achievers can't see this on their own. We need someone to hold up the mirror, to name the pattern we're running, to show us where we're hiding instead of leading. That's exactly what the Congruency Audit does. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact "not enough" story keeping you stuck, the ways you're over-functioning or seeking external validation instead of trusting yourself, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. If Andrea's story hit you somewhere deep, if you recognized yourself in the pattern of seeking partners from scarcity or achieving goals without feeling successful, this call is for you. Book your Congruency Audit This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good, it finally feels right.

What if the very thing you thought was keeping you safe was actually suffocating your soul? Tracy Goodwin had a gift she couldn't deny. She could hear things in people's voices that no one else could hear, seven layers of sound that revealed scars, wounds, and the real person buried beneath years of conditioning. But instead of stepping into that power, she played it safe. She taught traditional voice coaching while her radical insights screamed to get out. Then the hate came. International hate clubs. Requests to appear on national television to be humiliated on purpose. Daily emails telling her she was an "effing piece of" nothing, that she shouldn't exist, that she should be dead. Her life was literally threatened because she wouldn't accommodate someone's request, because she wouldn't conform to what others wanted her to be. So she went into hiding. She refinished furniture for years, sanding away layers of old paint and varnish while God sanded away her excuses. Until she heard the voice she'd been running from: "What are you doing? I didn't put you down there to finish furniture. I need you back in the game." Within 24 hours, the concept of psychology of the voice became crystal clear.   In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Tracy reveals: The self-inflicted torture of knowing your truth but staying paralyzed by fear and people-pleasing How childhood wounds of being silenced before age five show up in the way you communicate today The moment she realized furniture refinishing was a metaphor for her real work: sanding away the fabricated layers of who people think they're supposed to be Why staying safe in people-pleasing mode almost made her lose her mind The progression of redefining success from wanting to be a famous celebrity in her 20s, to chasing money in her 30s, to her mission at 50: touching every life that must hear from her before she's gone How she went from taking months to recover from conflict to catching herself in minutes The hardest practice of all: meeting yourself with compassion when you've spent a lifetime being as hard on yourself as the world has been on you Why your voice is the literal orchestra of your heart, and there is someone desperately waiting for your message The five core wounds that stop high performers from owning their greatness: fear of judgment, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, sense of belonging, and worthiness   This episode is for you if you've ever: Felt successful on the outside while quietly crumbling on the inside Known you had a gift but been too terrified to fully step into it Stayed small to keep others comfortable or avoid judgment Wondered "is this all there is?" while everyone else thinks you have it all figured out Struggled to give yourself the compassion you so freely give to others Been paralyzed by the gap between what you know you're capable of and what you're actually doing   Tracy Goodwin is a voice decoder, researcher, and voice behavioralist who works with the psychology of the voice. She helps high-performing leaders understand how their voice holds their scars, wounds, and power, ultimately getting them back to who they were put on this earth to be versus who the world told them to be. Find Tracy at: Instagram/TikTok: @‌captivatetherroom Website: Home LinkedIn: Tracy A. Goodwin   Ready to stop playing it safe with your own life? If Tracy's story hit you in the chest, if you recognized yourself in the pattern of knowing your truth but staying paralyzed by fear, it's time to stop hiding behind the version of success that's quietly killing you. The congruency audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in the "never enough" cycle, the wounds driving your over-responsibility, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. No more self-inflicted torture of knowing there's more but being too afraid to reach for it. No more settling for accomplishments that leave you empty. Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good, it finally feels right.

You’ve achieved more than most people, but if you’re honest, it’s come at a cost — to your health, your relationships, your energy, maybe even your sense of peace. And here’s the kicker: no matter how much you do, it never feels like enough. In this very first episode of Congruent, Lisa Carpenter pulls back the curtain on the truth about success. Why do so many high-achieving men and women deny or downplay their success? Why does “making it” rarely feel the way we imagined it would? And what does it actually take to create success that sustains you instead of drains you? Lisa shares her own story of chasing achievement while never feeling successful, and how a life-changing season forced her to embody everything she’d been teaching for over a decade. She reveals the hidden costs of “do-er mode,” the patterns that keep ambitious people stuck, and the shifts required to build a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.   What you’ll hear in this episode: Why success often comes with hidden costs. The gap between how others see you and how you see yourself. The real reason nothing ever feels like enough. The difference between numbing with busyness vs. living in congruence. What congruent success looks and feels like. What to expect from this podcast each week. If you’ve been chasing achievement but still feel unfulfilled, exhausted, or disconnected, this episode will help you see that you’re not broken — you’ve been conditioned. And there’s a different way forward. 👉 Ready to uncover where you’re out of alignment? Book your free 15-minute Congruency Audit. Subscribe now so you don’t miss next week’s episode: The Real Cost of Over-Doing (and How to Break the Cycle Without Losing Your Ambition).