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When I was 12 years old, there were a few truths I clung to in order to make my socially unsuccessful life bearable. I did not have many friends due to my erratic and frankly off-putting nature--which I am now grateful for--but back then, it served only to keep me on the outskirts of social life, and therefore, on the outskirts of reality itself. When you lack friendship, you learn that it’s not just comradery you are missing out on, but a fundamental tether and attachment to sanity. Friends, romantic partners, and close emotional connections of all sorts serve to mirror your experience back to you, giving you the building blocks with which you construct the world and make a barrier between “normal” and “abnormal” thoughts and behavior. When you lack those connections, you need to fashion your own anchor to society by less conventional means, unless you want to be set adrift in total isolation. Before I get into what I made my anchor out of, I want to reiterate that I was 12 years old, and unconfined by even the most basic social pressures that are put upon us by friends and colleagues. The thing I loved, cherished, and gleaned my world view from was the comedy stylings of Dane Cook.I want to say this in no uncertain terms (and frankly, I want credit for being brave enough to state this publicly)--Dane Cook was the most important thing in my life at this time. I had almost nothing in common with my classmates, I spoke with a lateral lisp that not only made me sound different, but would cause flecks of spit to rocket out of my mouth, especially when I was excited about something I was talking about. My spitting issue persists into adulthood, and even now, after years of speech therapy, when I’m performing standup and I’m on a roll, sometimes I will see a fleck of spit travel from my mouth in slow motion, and arc through a pure, translucent beam of light to settle, as perfectly as if my saliva had a laser-guided tracking system, on the face of someone in the front row. My speech, coupled with my inability to remain silent, left me out of many fundamental conversations which could lead me to have conventional taste. I didn’t like any of the popular movies, didn’t listen to popular music, and opted to dress like my dad rather than my classmates, which left me looking like a 12-year-old metrosexual, my faux hawk jutting upward like a radio tower sending off signals to ward off friendship. But my classmates liked Dane Cook, and I liked Dane Cook, and that meant the world to me.Dane Cook is a comedian who gained prominence in the late 90s and early 2000s. His mixture of storytelling with absurd, act-out heavy material, garnered him an enormous following back in the early days of the internet where going “viral” was not even a coined term yet. His material was incredibly quotable, and he had an enormous fan base of young people. I remember distinctly quoting his material to other kids who were fans of his, and the immediate recognition and connection were a rare glimmer of light in the starless night of my preteens. My admiration for Dane Cook was not based on a deep knowledge and understanding of standup comedy--rather, it was a purely visceral experience that had an added context of providing a social function which was, in those days, extremely valuable to me.Later that year, I made a friend: Evan. He was strange like me, and we shared a love of Adult Swim. There were wonderful years of childhood where a friendship could be built on pretenses that were totally insubstantial. As adults, we choose the people in our lives with the discernment of a jeweler trying to find flaws in a diamond. Back then, all we needed to establish was that we had the same favorite color as someone else before diving into a life-altering social connection with them.Evan had an older brother, Noah, who was the first snob I ever encountered. He was a strange kind of snob--a type that can be hard to identify at first glance. He loved punk rock, played the bass when everyone else his age was learning the guitar, and had long hair that he made sure was covering his eyes at all times. He would have his friends over, and they would listen to bands like Leftover Crack and Fugazi. I would often catch Noah in the hallway to ask him about music he liked, and I would try and remember as many names as I could so I could look them up on LimeWire later and listen to them after clicking several links that ended up leading to snuff films. I miss the early internet.One day, when I was hanging out with Evan, he told me Noah had started doing improv. I didn’t know what improv was, but it sounded like what all my favorite comedians did--go on stage and say funny things off the top of their heads. (I, like a surprising amount of comedy fans, didn’t know then that stand up is pre-written.) After learning this, I rushed into Noah’s room before Evan could stop me. Bursting through the door, I saw he was on a swivel chair while his friend Alex was in the bed. They both had guitars in their hands and looked so, so cool. I was nervous, especially considering the unwelcoming way they were both looking at me, but I wanted to connect with them. And now that I’d learned Noah was involved with comedy, I blurted out, “Do you like Dane Cook?” Noah’s friend, Alex, 17 with muscle development so advanced for his age it seemed that he was destined to either play pro sports or go to prison, burst out laughing at my question. But Noah’s reaction was much more grave and unsettling. He lowered his head so his hair hung like tattered curtains over his eyes, and he said in a low and ominous half-whisper, “Dane Cook sucks.”Alex released another torrent of laughter while I stood, awestruck, unable to comprehend the words that had just been spoken. How could Dane Cook suck? He’d made me laugh like a billion times. Had Noah even seen the bit where he pretends to be a snake? Had he heard him impersonate the voice of a Burger King drive-through employee where he gets the distortion perfect? It simply couldn’t be.“Dane Cook is so funny,” I said, a tremble building in my voice.“He fucking blows, man,” Alex said, finally getting ahold of himself. I felt a rage boil inside me. I left and slammed the door behind me, and I stewed about the interaction for months afterward. What I didn’t realize then is that I had just had my first experience with a snob, and years later I would not only forgive Noah, but thank him. Because even though I don’t completely agree with his assessments on comedy, I did learn a lot from him and his people about developing taste--and in turn, identity.I want to be clear about my definition of snob here. I’m not referring to someone who prefers the most expensive version of things and disregards affordable alternatives. This is the cartoon image of a snob, monocle in hand, saying a Patek Philippe Nautilus should be in rose gold rather than steel. The kind of snobs I’m referring to would tell you that a $30 Casio is a much better choice than a $12,000 Hublot. These kinds of snobs are people who are dedicated to doing research and deep dives into a specific topic, and through their devotion, they develop strong opinions that someone who is not well-versed in the topic would never have. Indulge me while I continue to use the wristwatch comparison for a moment (something I am a snob about.)You see, Hublot is a widely-known watch brand, and with its luxury price tag it would be easy for an average person to think it’s a brand that rivals Rolex in design and function. But when you start learning about the luxury segment of wristwatches, one of the first things you learn is that Hublot is a vacuum of design, has poor resale quality, and benefits much more from successful marketing than from the quality of its product. Long story short, it wouldn’t be a bad watch if it wasn’t five figures and looked like something...well, looked like something Dane Cook would wear, honestly.With that brief summary, you can understand where I’m coming from when it comes to critiquing Hublot. Now imagine we’re at a store. You see a Hublot, point at it, and say, “that watch looks cool,” only to be greeted with my squinty, incredulous stare, before I ear-beat you about how that’s actually a bad watch, an awful watch. If you wore that watch around watch nerds, we would laugh at you before reaching for our inhalers and pushing up our glasses with tape around the frame. Those kinds of reactions from snobs have given them a bad reputation. They are thought of as existing in a world so esoteric that they’re disconnected from society as a whole. The battle cries of “let people enjoy things,” and “ease up a little,” and “stop foaming at the mouth and barking every time you see a MVMT watch” are used to discredit and undermine snob opinions. Well, let me say this: as offputting as snobs can be, there is something much more insidious and harmful sitting in wait behind them. And if you remove snobs from society, there will be nothing stopping it--SLOP.Here is my theory: I propose that anti-snob propaganda is fueled by the increasing desire to get us all to consume slop products, slop food, and slop entertainment. If studios had it their way, we would all be watching When Harry Met Sally 12, an entirely AI remake where Sally fakes an orgasm, then looks directly into camera and says, “that’s how betting with DraftKings makes me feel.”Slop content, whether it be on TikTok or television, is always the most readily-available, highly-marketed choice out there. Marvel movies, remakes, and general AI and CGI garbage gets pushed on us incessantly--not because it’s the highest-quality material, but because it is the most profitable for the corporations producing it. No compelling actors, no original content, and no concise storyline are all money-saving features, and there is only one thing stopping us from buying a ticket for the movie that’s being shoved down our throats or buying the clothes that will rip apart in

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Hello SubStack! Just a few things up top. I will be doing standup in Seattle 1/9-10, LA 1/25 and DC 1/30-31. If I’m not coming to your city, please join my email list. You can find all that at this link. Important linkAlso, if you join the paid tier, it’s just 5 a month or 50 for the year and I’m going to put a lot of fun stuff on there! Ok sorry here we goHow are we feeling? It’s been a little since I’ve posted a proper piece of writing on Substack. I took some deliberate time off where I decided to store up my creative juices and do what I enjoy most: drinking heavily and watching sensory overload videos designed to give babies dopamine issues. I came out of this fugue state about two days ago, my nails long, my eyeballs on fire, and my brain completely depleted of any chemical that might cause a reaction that could be subjectively categorized as “joy.” After several IV drips and a journey to a faith healer who deemed me a “lost cause,” I thought it was time to pick myself up by the velcro straps of my light-up shoes and make a New Years resolution!Now, from what I’ve seen from friends and family, New Year’s resolutions can generally be put into two categories: 1. Get jacked, and 2. Work more.These categories I’ve constructed are more broad than they seem. Reading more is a form of getting jacked--mentally jacked. Journaling is a form of working more--emotionally working more. If you’ve decided to make a resolution along those lines, that’s great! Enjoy two months of journaling until you realise there is only so much you can write about your ex and only so much you can read about your ex’s narcissism before you’re writing detailed breakdowns of their attachment styles and showing up to their work trying to give them a surrealist painting that encapsulates their negative mental patterns. When the security guard is throwing you out, you can yell, with total certainty, “No! You don’t understand! They’re crazy!”Once the restraining order is filed, you will need to find a more attainable goal like losing weight. But you’ll soon remember that big asses are in, and then you’ll change your goal to gaining weight, until you realize the importance of hip-to-waist ratio, at which point you will enter the quantum mechanics of modern exercise where you are simultaneously trying to gain and lose weight in a Schrodinger’s ass dilemma. Then you’ll give up on all that and decide “maybe I’m perfect just the way I am,” until next year, when you’ll wonder, “If I’m perfect, why do I spend so much time in the Hooters bathroom screaming?” at which point you’ll decide that what you need is another New Year’s resolution!People will try everything from modern, scientifically-studied nootropics, to old-school, classic, tried-and-true nootropics (cocaine) to muster more willpower to follow through with their resolution. To get this Substack finished I took about two grams of pure Bolivian nootrophic straight to the dome. Here’s the issue: let’s say you stick to your goals. You lose weight, read more, and finally start using separate razors for your face and body--what then? While many people could benefit from eating healthier or learning more, I have found these resolutions are a roundabout means to get to a similar end: “I want to change the way the world relates to me.”If you’re thinner, the world will greet you as a thin person. If you’re smarter, doors will open for you because you will be perceived as smarter. This makes a ton of sense, but as a person who willed myself into losing weight and gaining muscle in my early 20s, let me tell you--it doesn’t work as well as you think it will. Don’t get me wrong, it’s part of the puzzle, but people continue to have a huge blindspot in terms of resolutions that I’d like to discuss here. Instead of making resolutions that change you, how about making a resolution that changes your relationship with the world?Personally, I never hear New Year’s resolutions along the lines of “I’d like to do more favors for my friends.” What the hell happened to favors, anyway? Try asking a friend to take you to the airport, and they go, “Ubers are cheap.” Yeah, you want to know why Ubers are cheap? Because they’re piloted by Bulgarian indentured servants. Now take me to LAX before I hire a robot to deliver an IED to your apartment. The economic environment is plunging us all into becoming self-centered automatons, ordering DoorDash while we complain that Netflix slop isn’t as good as the slop they used to make. I think the key to happiness is to break this cycle as much as possible, but there’s a problem--people have armored themselves in ‘self care’ to uphold their complicity in their own atomisation.That’s right, some people are afraid to go against the term “self care” in its misused, mutated form we see today, but I will stare down that evil, demented teddy bear and hug it into submission. It would be insulting to your intelligence as a reader to go on about how I “don’t think taking care of yourself is a bad thing.” Obviously I don’t--you’re not a baby, let’s stop wasting time. Many deeply selfish people hide behind the idea of self care as an excuse for not being a member of society, and I’m over it. Helping other people, whether it’s by helping friends with a project or participating in outreach organizations, can be just as energizing as sitting in a bathtub filled with rose petals while you stare longingly at a picture of Paul Walker. Do both, find a balance. Do not go gently into that good night of solipsism and streaming services.What people fail to realize is that building community is hard work, and therefore, in my opinion, should be prioritized in your resolution. Personally, I will be resolving to do more food sorting for an organization known as “Community Fridge,” as well as trying to get shredded. Community Fridge is awesome because you meet other people who sort food, while also doing something good for a cause bigger than yourself. Imagine how cool it will be when I’m doing all that while also being 10% body fat. Who can stop me then? No one, that’s who.Your resolution doesn’t have to be as powerful or noble as mine. Make your resolution to go to the bar with friends once a week. At this point in society, that is a far more impressive task than journaling 200 pages a day. People get stuck in a self contained loop of self improvement, then feel hollow if and when their goals are completed. What I’m saying is: having abs is cool, but it’s even more cool to have friends around to tell you, “hey, put your shirt back on.”Thank you for reading! Join the paid tier to read more, see me live, join my email list, and as always, have a good one! This is a public episode. 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There are a few things I do every day. I write, I drink a full bottle of Bombay Sapphire and I go to the park. The park is about 80 yards by 80 yards, with a large modern jungle gym that takes up about a third of it. It’s one of those sleek multi-colored metal and plastic behemoths that replace the old wooden ones after too many children end up at the emergency room because they’ve gotten so many splinters they’re essentially more tree then child. There’s an area of the park that is supposed to be grassy, but due to harsh dog paws has given way to large spots of dirt that look like craters on an irrigated moon.There are a dozen huge trees that give shade to much of the park. I go there so often I know which spots will be covered and which will be in the sun at any time of day. If I don’t want direct sun I can’t go to the workout area between the hours of 9 am and 11 am, but outside of those hours, the pull up bar, even bars, Plyometric platform, weird platform on a spring that no one uses, and weird manual elliptical that people try to use and stop because it’s stupid, are covered by beautiful, natural shade. This is where I spend much of my time at the park. Gripping metal and hoisting my chin over a bar, doing leg lifts, or watching as men of all walks of life do the same. You never see women at the pull up bar at the park. I always hear men complain that women are wearing outfits that are too revealing at the gym, and to that I say, come with me to the park. You will be free from temptation unless you are attracted to a 60-year-old man with the body of a Marvel hero doing dips and listening to Louis Farrakhan on a JBL speaker.I love working out at the park for many reasons. Taking advantage of this country’s dwindling public utilities brings me a lot of joy, being outside is wonderful, and I love the characters that come around. You might think there would be a lot of crazy people working out at the park, and you’d be right--but what might surprise you is the level of decorum. You see, lifting etiquette is a relic of gym culture that is being obliterated by modern gyms, but at the park it’s a different story. Here, everyone is a little afraid of everyone else, because if you’re working out at the park, chances are you’re a little out of your mind. If someone is spending too much time at the pullup bar and you ask if you can work in (lifting jargon for using a piece of equipment someone else is using for a prolonged period of time so you don’t have to wait,) they almost always happily accommodate--out of respect for the art and tradition of physique development, or fear that you have a homemade knife on you.I went to a commercial gym with a friend recently where we had a much different experience. EOS Fitness is hell on earth for lifting etiquette. You could shoot a video of how not to act at a gym there, especially during peak hours, which seem to last from 6 am to 10 pm. People left weights out of the rack, people stayed on machines for thirty minutes at a time, people ran open air cock fighting rings--the place was a mess. My friend Anna wanted me to help her learn how to use certain pieces of equipment there, and I happily obliged. I love going to the gym with my friends--it makes me feel like a tour guide in a scary underground cave. I get to say things like, “I know this seems scary, but if you stay on the path, this will be safe and enjoyable. Also, don’t touch that. Don’t touch anything, for the love of god.”We finished warming up in the upstairs area before making our way down to the much scarier weightlifting section. This gym is packed with people, but it feels more claustrophobic because there is zero consideration for other people there. Dudes are camping out at bench presses, and eating full meals in between sets. Women are having phone calls at the abductor machine. Everything was going fine until we had to go to do hip thrusts. There is an entire section for legs that is even scarier than the normal gym--a full room of barbell platforms that are always in use, and a smell that would make a plumber call for backup. There was a hip thrust machine open, but it was loaded with weight, so I started to unload it. I got the second plate off when I heard something that made me jump.“Hey!” barked a man who quickly walked from the other end of the gym. I think he wanted to run, but his body was hypertrophied to the point of near immobility. He was a gym rat. I’ve known gym rats, been friends with them, loved them, but there was something different about this man. He walked up to me and my friend.“No, I’m still using this.” He said it so matter-of-factly, as if he weren’t talking to us, but rather barking orders at subordinates.“Oh, that’s okay,” I said, “Can we work in?”I was definitely too friendly for what he was giving us, but I had just never experienced this level of glassy-eyed rudeness before. To me, the gym is a fun place where everyone has the same goal: to move our bodies, which have become sedentary from watching 500 45-second videos a day. The man just looked up at me as he put the 45 back on the machine. No.I was floored. I literally didn’t know you could say no to a request to work in. I was about to say something I most likely would have regretted when Anna said, “let’s just do something else.” I walked away, but that interaction has haunted me since.Let me explain something: there are different tiers of gyms. If you are at a serious powerlifting gym, there are different rules than at a cheap commercial gym. At a serious gym, you might be on a specific timing regimen for each set, so someone working in wouldn’t make any sense. But what this man did was the equivalent of going to a public basketball court and doing shooting practice, then when other people show up and ask if it’s cool to play, you answer, “no.”This interaction was this man’s fault, without a doubt, but his actions are heavily influenced and encouraged by his environment. I would like to take you on a little journey into the mind of a meathead. There is a conflict with the modern meathead, and one that is very difficult to rectify. They are hyper dedicated to lifting, but not in a lifting community. Back in the day, to learn about how to lift, you would need to find other people who lifted. There were books on the subject, but pictures could only do so much. You had to talk to more experienced lifters, and through talking to them, you would also pick up habits of decorum that are extremely valuable when it comes to community building. If you’re taking four sets of dumbbells and hogging them, everyone in the gym is going to think you’re an asshole, but I’m sure a lot of people no longer know they’re doing something wrong. It wouldn’t even be worth explaining to that guy that what he’s doing is wrong, because there is no community to keep him accountable. For etiquette to be followed, there needs to be a culture in place so that when you correct someone’s behavior, there is a precedent to back you up. At modern commercial gyms, that culture has deteriorated.What EOS and many other gyms do is sell as many memberships as possible regardless of capacity. Because the memberships are cheap and people are broke, they don’t have any other option but to brave the disgusting landscape created by a cultureless workout space. The gym can’t kick anyone out or reprimand them out of fear of losing clients and getting bad reviews, so the gym sucks and will keep sucking, because people follow what is happening around them. If one person is hogging an area and you can’t do the exercise you want, and later you have the chance to hog an area, you’re of course going to do it. Many would say, “so go to a more expensive gym,” and yes, more expensive gyms are cleaner and people are generally neater. But if it’s always the case that more expensive means more organized, why is the pullup bar at the park so respectful?I have a theory that because the park is a public utility, there is a level of gratitude from people who workout there for the exercise space. Obviously this isn’t across the board, but barring people who are going through mental health episodes, I’ve found people at the park to be much more conscientious than almost everyone at commercial gyms. At EOS you pay your $30 and think, “well, if I’m paying for this place, I’m not going to clean up after myself--that’s the gym’s job.” At the park we understand the pullup bar is all we have, and we get to use it for free, so we better take care of it. This isn’t the case for other free things, but that’s because the pullup bar has a second aspect that makes the whole system work: culture.There needs to be a community for public utilities to work. When something is free, the thing that keeps people in line is other people making sure no one abuses it. That’s something we need more of in society. Many people take a passive role in their lives to avoid confrontation, and I think we have gone too far in that direction. You should pick your battles, but you need to fight a few battles. When someone hogs the pullup bar and doesn’t let me work in, I better tell them, “hey, that’s not how this space works.” Otherwise, the space won’t exist anymore, and it’ll just become a bar in the middle of the park. EOS Fitness is not my battleground--I think it’s lost due to the soulless, corporate ethos that pervades the space, but the pullup bar at the park is where I plant my flag. Where do you plant yours? It can be a library or a basketball court or a bagel shop, but it better be somewhere.Thank you for reading See me live in Portland, Los Angeles, Seattle, and Washington DC. 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On a brisk November day in upstate Maine, the Harrington family worked in quiet happy synchronicity to prepare their Thanksgiving day meal. Tammy and Susan worked over the stove, putting the final touches on plating a perfect golden brown turkey. Tammy’s husband, Patrick, worked on a bowl of spiked apple cider like a mad scientist. Even Grandma Joan, who had been slipping mentally in her later years, was helping to set the table. Each place setting got two spoons and no knives, but if that was the price for old Joan to be included, so be it. Susan’s kitchen was spacious and immaculate--high tech gas burning stove, tasteful blue backsplash against white tiles, and several hidden compartments in which guns of various calibers were stored, in case the war broke out.On top of the general pleasantness of family bonding, there was another reason everyone was so cheerful, and moving with a bouncing glee like elves in a workshop. Robert had not shown up. It was tense for a moment when everyone arrived, but Tammy sat everyone down and told them all not to engage with Robert if he started spouting his wacky ideas, especially Abby, who was on winter break from university.“Listen, I love you all, and I love our Robert, but I just do not want a repeat of last Thanksgiving. I can’t take it. If Robert starts sharing his...opinions, just don’t engage. There is no need to make this holiday ugly.”“Why do we do this?” Abby protested. “Why do we let him hold us hostage like this? What, just because he’s brainwashed we have to walk on eggshells?”There was a heavy silence that emanated throughout the living room. It was shared even by Tammy’s three young children, who didn’t fully understand what the grownups were talking about, but knew it was no good. Tammy had a feeling Abby would dissent--university was good for a young woman, but in a circumstance like this, she knew Abby’s opinionated nature may be a problem.“Listen, I understand what you mean. I’ve lived with him longer than you, but we’re family. Family is important. It’s the fundamental building block of society, and we will need family with what’s going to come in the next few years.”The family nodded in agreement. Even Abby was compelled by her plea.Now, dinner was set, and the chances of Robert showing up were dwindling by the moment. Maybe he was deterred by last Thanksgiving. Maybe arguing with the whole lot of the Harringtons made him weary of family gatherings. As they all sat and began to bow their heads, the front door opened, and a familiar voice pierced their tranquility like an arrow through chainmail.“Hey! Sorry I’m late!”The grace was postponed--everyone got up and immediately performed their duty of small talk and pleasantry with Robert. “How’ve you been?” and “how’s the city?” were greeted with “Great!” and “Hectic, but you know.” Everything seemed to be ok. Robert was pleasant, amicable, even extending an olive branch to Abby by asking her how university was treating her, to which she responded a terse, “Fine.”Robert grabbed a cup of the spiked cider and sat down. Now the real test was upon him, and Tammy cautiously resumed her call to grace.“Okay everyone, bow your heads...if you want to, that is. If you don’t, it’s ok. Just keep looking forward...quietly.”Abby rolled her eyes in disgust at the accommodations to Robert, but to everyone’s surprise, Robert was the first to close his eyes and bow his head. Tammy was startled at the gesture, and it took her a moment to gather herself and begin.“Um, okay. We are gathered here today to share a meal, as a family. May this meal nourish our bodies, like the stream nourishes the land. May we use the powerful energy to do good on this earth--this flat, flat earth. May the Jewish overlords who control the weather allow us to play outside today, and may the robots pretending to be human beings, like Bernie Sanders and Pedro Pascal, be sent into the fiery pits of the scrap yard. This is a day for family.” She looked up to see if Robert would mount a protest, but his head was still bowed and his face was serene. She smiled and went on. “Not the fake families of crisis actors who pretend to be victims of staged mass shootings perpetrated by the government to try and take away our rights as American citizens. I mean real families, like ours…amen.”“Amen,” the family chorused, none louder than Robert. Tammy was almost crying tears of joy as she said, “Okay, let’s eat.”The meal carried on wonderfully. Patrick talked about his new truck, Susan announced they she was trying for another kid--”we’re naming this one Adolf, let’s see what the government has to say about that”--and the kids finished eating quickly to play their favorite game, Ruby Ridge.“Come out with your hands up!” One of them shouted from behind a sofa in the living room.“No! My sovereignty is more important than your arbitrary misinterpretation of the Constitution,” another shouted in the living room.Through all of this, Robert sat quietly, nodding and smiling. But something was off. Tammy noticed he had stolen away six times for more cider, staggering back to the table after the last trip. She braced herself as Patrick continued his story.“So, I told the principal, so what if he brought a gun to school? We teach our kids about guns, they know how to handle them. Maybe a properly-armed student body is the best deterrent for a mass shooting,” he said, taking a bite of turkey so the rest of the table could nod in agreement. Tammy noticed that only Robert sat still.“I mean, we convinced them our boys didn’t need the stupid measles vaccine, so this should be no problem,” Patrick continued.“Vaccines,” Grandma Joan said, rolling her eyes. “I never got them, and neither did my second husband, or first husband. When they told me they both died of polio, I knew instantly it was a simple government operation to make sure I didn’t breed. Well, look who got the last laugh,” she said, winking at Patrick.“Well,” Robert started, and the table fell silent. “I think some vaccines work.” Robert’s tone, soaked in alcohol, still had the tinges of apprehension, as if he didn’t even really want to say what he said, but he had to.“Yeah, they work when it comes to putting nanobots in our bloodstream and tracking our location,” Patrick retorted. His tone was playful, but had an undertone of malice.“I don’t think they put nanobots in us,” Robert declared.“And I don’t think we should be talking about this right now!” Tammy pleaded.Abby leaned forward. “Uncle Robert, what do you think about public roads?”“Abby!” Tammy shouted. “There is no need to instigate at the dinner table.”“Come on--we’re all grownups, we can have a civil conversation,” Abby said.Robert looked at her, his vision clearly blurring and refocusing, before he said, “I think they’re good.”“You son of a bitch!” Patrick yelled. He needed to be restrained by Susan to stop him from lunging at Robert. “I’m sorry, I’m sorry,” Patrick said, settling back in his seat.The children were looking now. Tammy shot a glance at Abby. “Why did you do that?” she hissed.“At university, they teach us it’s important to have uncomfortable conversations with our small minded family members,” Abby replied.“Small minded? That’s not even a real university, it’s a militia in the woods,” Robert said haughtily.Now it was Abby’s turn to stand up. “College accreditation is communism!”“You don’t even know what communism is! Last year you said public tap water was communist,” Robert said.“And I bet you love that fluoride, don’t you, Commie?”“Stop it! Stop it!”All eyes turned to look at the speaker. This time, it wasn’t Tammy trying to keep the peace--it was Susan’s six-year-old son, Stevebannon. “I don’t want you to fight, it makes me sad. I don’t want to be sad, I want to be happy. We should be happy, and together, for when the wolves come.”Everyone sat down. There were tears in Tammy’s eyes, and Robert’s too. They went over to the boy. His father picked him up, and Robert tussled his hair.“Youre right” Abby said. “I’m sorry, we should be getting along. Thanksgiving is about togetherness.”“Thanksgiving is about family,” Robert added.“Exactly, Thanksgiving is about acknowledging that the United States government planned and executed 9/11,” Stevebannon added.“Yeah,” Robert said. “And we can all agree on that.”The End This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dandonohue.substack.com/subscribe

Two days ago, I released a twenty four-minute, eight second-long standup comedy special on YouTube. This is the link. For purposes of algorithmic maximization, do me a favor and watch it all the way through, then play it on your phone and watch it all the way through, then make sure any time you’re out and about you take your friends’ phones and play my special on their device. When they ask, “Why are you silently playing through an entire comedy special while interacting with every interstitial ad?” you just say, “Because I support comedy, damn it!”Do you see what I just did there? I exaggerated my desire for you to watch my special as a way to cope with the material reality of the fact that I desperately DO want you to watch it. The earnest part of my psyche is often at odds with the sarcastic, but this special has turned their regular scuffles into a full-blown nuclear war. I would like to talk a little bit about this internal discord, not just for my own benefit, but because it is something that has been quietly plaguing many people who produce comedy, music, art, casual ribbon dancing videos, competitive ribbon dancing videos, or who perform the lost art of marionette love making.Part One:I became aware of many of my favorite standup comedians through the wonderful Comedy Central Half Hours, which would play on the weekends and gave me something to do while I spent time not hanging out with other kids or having enriching experiences. The format was simple: they filled a theater with people, had three or four comedians go up one by one, and recorded it for viewing on the network. Back then, I never considered how someone “got” a Comedy Central half hour. I imagined it was via some omnipotent comedy god who anointed only the most deserving comedians with this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. Now that I’ve been doing standup for a while, I know that’s not the case. I’m positive there were endless politics and double crossing and back stabbing that happened in the process of jockeying for one of these spots. A lot of people like to think that before social media, only the most deserving artists got opportunities, but that is simply not the case. The road that weaves through the entertainment industry is scattered with carcasses of those who were undeniably talented but didn’t look right or sound right, were the wrong race or age, or pissed off the wrong producer by saying, “I think a 14-year-old is too young to date.”The benefit of the Comedy Central special wasn’t that it was a perfect system--it was that it promoted itself by the virtue of it being on TV, at a time when people still watched TV. The artist was under little pressure to “promote” their work because what could they do to promote it? Aside from going out in the street and screaming at people to tune in, there wasn’t much for them to do except sit back and hope people enjoyed their work.Part Two:I would like to say that I have “taken the career path” of an online comedian, but that isn’t the whole truth. The whole truth is that social media was the only place I could turn in hopes of following my dreams of being a touring comedian. I tried the other paths: acting, getting in at clubs, and making human sacrifices in order to appease the ghost of Rodney Dangerfield. Casting directors said no, club bookers said no, and that guy I tried to sacrifice was way too fast to catch. I was left with posting short videos online, and post short videos online I did. I was lucky--I was able to post my way into a decent career without having to do prank videos where I replace old peoples’ insulin with Astroglide gel, but it comes with a cost. Whether it’s the fault of an unjust system or my own shortcomings (it’s probably the shortcomings,) I don’t have anyone helping me promote my standup, tour dates, or acting but me. This sounds normal, but what happens when people who follow you for one thing, are suddenly inundated by requests to see you live or follow your Substack? (Thank you, by the way.) It causes this whiplash effect that frankly, I don’t like. I like giving people what they want. I like my page to be videos that I think are funny for the sake of fun rather than a marketing ploy to watch my special or see me live, but it’s my only option. All I hope is that people don’t judge me too harshly for inundating them, and understand that while the promo for my standup might be annoying, if it doesn’t work out the promo for my DJing will be so, so much worse.Before we have a little fun, let me just say this: I think the best way to promote something is to be honest. I will be honest here and say that I think the special is very good. I think it’s worth your time. Okay, now that that’s over, let’s go over some of my favorite comments I’ve gotten so far.Starting off hot. You know, a lot of people would feel judged by a comment like this, but I would actually like to take this opportunity to apologize to this person. You see, standup comedy requires exaggerated storytelling. I know I said I “got ready for bed” with a woman, but in reality, I’ve never been in the same room as a woman unchaperoned. I have what I call my “Female Purity Bodyguard.” His name is Chuck, and his job is to make sure that I am never alone in the same room as a woman, ESPECIALLY late at night. In the story it’s me and my girlfriend, but in reality, it was me, my girlfriend, and Chuck sleeping in between us so no funny business happened. I would like to make it clear that I think premarital sex is nasty and abhorent, which is why I ALWAYS sleep with Chuck.Okay, this one was confusing. At no time did I mention Margaret Thatcher in my standup or otherwise. I think it’s a jab at me because of my Irish last name, and I must say, bravo. Negative comments about my standup don’t really get to me. I think this special is good, and you won’t change my mind on that. The one way you can get to me is by insinuating that my video is a safe space for Margaret Thatcher praise. This is made even more strange by the fact that this person has a Betsy Ross flag picture and a handle with the word “patriot” in it. Are we bending the knee to the monarchy now? I hate to say it, but… seems a little bit Canadian to me, partner.Okay. While the Margaret Thatcher comment upset me, this one incensed me. That sweater is top tier--everyone thinks so. You can be a sweater contrarian all you want, but you’re just going for shock laughs, and I won’t stand for it. Me and that sweater have been through a lot together, and I hope only one day I am man enough to grow into it.All that being said, thank you for reading, and please, please, please watch the special and give me a comment like, “Came here from your Subtack and I loved this special and your sweater and I don’t like Margaret Thatcher. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dandonohue.substack.com/subscribe

If I were to take account of my thoughts on a given day, I would say a good 15% of them would be dedicated to resenting my current situation and contemplating all the things I deserve but don’t have. Aside from that, I’d say another 15% goes to hating myself, 20% goes to what kind of food I should eat next, and the remaining 50% goes to thinking about this one-armed monkey named Xing Xing who is a little standoffish, but you know he has a good heart.I’d like to talk about that first 15%, and how it can fester and grow until it consumes your entire psyche, making you miss out on some potentially interesting things in your life.Last weekend, I was lucky enough to take part in the New York Comedy Festival. I flew into JFK a few days early to do standup and get a feel for the scene out there. On the day I flew in, Zohran Mamdani won the mayoral election, and there was a general buzz of excitement when you talked to anyone under the age of 60 who did not own a Fortune 500 company that manufactures industrial child-crushing machines. I got a call that night from the manager of The Stand comedy club, who said that if I could get to Manhattan by 8PM, I could do a spot on his show. I hopped on a train and was shaking with excitement, which worked well because the person to the left of me was shaking with heroin withdrawals, and the woman to the right of me was shaking because she was afraid of the two insane people sitting to her left. I got out of the train and bolted down the sidewalk towards The Stand.It was a cool November night, and the streets were cluttered with people digging their hands in their coat pockets and hiking their shoulders up as if they were trying to bury their heads deep into their chest cavity for warmth. Yes, yes! I thought to myself as I turned the corner and saw the outside of The Stand. The front of the club looks like the exterior of any upscale restaurant, but when you head inside and to the back there are two rooms--a small upstairs room, and a beautiful downstairs club which offers some of the best audiences I’ve ever seen. Regulars at The Stand have been spoiled by great lineups and food so good it has no business being served in a comedy club. Soon that crowd would be mine, I thought as I walked toward the entrance. Then it happened. I froze, and ducked into an alleyway. I stood there, taking deep breaths and excusing myself to the rats I was intruding on who were eating cheese and playing dice. I don’t know how to describe these episodes that I occasionally suffer. They’re not panic attacks--I don’t feel like I’m having a heart attack, and they’re much less physically taxing. I’ve come to call them “ego tremors.” When I am feeling particularly out of my element or embarrassed, it feels as though a surge of electricity passes through my body, and I need to take a moment to collect myself. I thought years of standup comedy would minimize this reaction, but all it’s done is gotten me accustomed to it. I no longer see this reaction as alien, I see it as an old friend clocking into work with me.Nice to see you, spasm! Hope you’re not working overtime tonight! I’d like to sleep a little.I collected myself and started to make sense of the feeling I was experiencing. I had become scared that I was unwanted at the club. Not by the manager, or the other comedians, but by an overarching energetic force that I feel inside any new environment I need to acquaint myself with. This leads me to being nervous and standoffish, and unfortunately being nervous and standoffish is the best way to make a bad impression. I constantly worry I’m not doing the right things in my career, and when I meet new people in comedy who I perceive are doing better than me, shame starts punching me in the stomach like an old-school mobster, trying to collect a debt of my own creation. “Have you had enough?” it asks me. “Good, now you better be as successful as Matt Rife by next week--it’d be a shame if I had to come back and do this constantly throughout your life.”A lot of comedians in New York have elicited this feeling in me, and as I walked into The Stand it felt like they were all there, comfortable and smiling, having already done ten shows that night and ready to do ten more. There isn’t as much stage time in LA, especially for me, and that gives me an inferiority complex. The manager at The Stand, Joe, acts as if he knows everything I am thinking, and works tirelessly to dispel my self flagellating thoughts. As I walked past the host’s stand, into the dining area that contains a beautiful bar and a brick pizza oven, he walked up to me with a big smile.“Dan, I got you going up after Neal Brennan! You’re good with that?”“Yeah, absolutely,” I said. What I was thinking was, Joe, I will literally go up after a dog trained to do backflips if it means I get to do stage time. Getting to go up after Neal Brennan is like the highlight of my month, thank you, thank you so much. But you don’t want to be too desperate.Joe went off to do some logistical planning with the late night lineup, and I was left standing with my bags in hand, looking around desperately for someone I knew, or somewhere I could be alone. I didn’t recognize any of the comedians at the “comics table,” a booth reserved for those performing on the shows that night. I had seen some of them on shows, but I was in no state to make a clunky introduction, so I opted to sit alone. My thoughts turned dark. I mulled over everything about me that made me unlikable, and then, at the bottom of my spiral, someone started walking over to me, and I breathed a sigh of relief.Michael Longfellow looks like the perfect lead for a teen thriller about vampires who skateboard. We did standup in Los Angeles together before he was inevitably swept up in the arms of the industry. Michael is funny, and not just “he understands the craft of standup comedy” funny. I’m talking really funny, in his bones funny, like “something really bad must have happened to you as a kid” funny. We hadn’t seen each other for a while, and we talked for a long time. Sometimes, someone says exactly what you need in the moment, and in that moment Michael told me, “Yeah, I’ve been feeling stressed lately.”I hate to say this, and I wish it wasn’t true, but sometimes what I need is someone who I think is better than me to tell me that their life isn’t perfect. Now, Michael just completed a multi-year stint on SNL and is touring at a pace I can only dream of, but it still made me feel good to know that he could have problems too. When I said bye to Michael, I did all I could to convey that not only was I so happy to see him, but also his vulnerability helped my own mental state immensely, which for guys means I said, “Dude seeing you was sick, noogie noogie noogie.”I descended to the basement, where yet another scene which seemed to be directed by a higher power was unfolding. Neal Brennan was having a rough set. Neal Brennan has multiple Netflix specials, was the co-creator of the Chapelle Show, and is one of my biggest influences in comedy. The crowd was sparse at that hour, and they were out for blood. Neal, like a character in a zombie movie sacrificing himself for the group, was chastising them for their seeming enjoyment of watching people bomb.“Look at you, trying not to laugh, it’s disgusting.” I was laughing, and they were warming up, if only slightly. He got off stage, and as he passed me he looked at me and said, “Yikes.”Yikes was right. My set was equally tepid, but far less heroic. I gave my act 110% to try and placate the audience, who glared at me as if I were their hostage. I stepped off stage sweating, feeling bruised but not broken, and I wish I had known then that going up that night would lead to something great the very next night.The next night, my friend Lucas Zelnick, who looks like the bully in a teen thriller about skateboarding vampires (I guess I have a type?) was showing me around the Comedy Cellar. The Cellar is four different rooms where the greatest comedians of all time developed their acts. That night I saw Nikki Glaser run her SNL monologue. Lucas is a rising star at the Cellar, which makes sense because I saw his set that night, and he made the crowd laugh so hard it looked like he was doing physical damage to the room. While Lucas was giving me a tour of the place, showing me one of the smaller rooms, I saw Neal again in the stairway.I was now confronted with one of the most challenging aspects of communication for me--introducing myself to someone I have a connection to, but don’t know personally. This happens more often when you see a woman you’re interested in, and it’s usually more perfunctory. “Hey, haven’t I seen you at that one bar that everyone in the city goes to? Wow, what a connection we’ve just made, let’s start a life together.” This type of interaction is much more difficult man-to-man, but I gave it a shot.“Hey! We were on the same show last night,” I blurted out. Sometimes that’s all it takes. Neal smiled. “Yeah, god damn, what was that?” We chatted about the room and the audience, and soon he had to excuse himself to do his set. This might seem small to you, but there are a few things I want to do in comedy, and talking to Neal was one of them. Once I’ve arm wrestled Kumail Nanjiani and fist fought Jerry Seinfeld I might retire.I flew back from New York with a new understanding of my social hang-ups. I often feel as though I need to conquer my fear, stomp it out, strangle it, and become a new person in its absence. Now, I think the better thing to do is sit down and have a talk with your fear. Say, “Okay fear, I know you have some points, but we have a couple of people to talk to, and if you let us do that I promise you we can hyperventilate in the car.” There will always be a part of me that will feel inadequate and scared, and maybe that’s good. What’s the alternative--total confidence? Which could very quickly lead to megalomania, narcissism, and wearing

“Hey Dan, we’re going to cancel the late show--not enough tickets sold. Sorry buddy.”I sit in a greenroom on a maroon couch that was most likely a completely different color when it was carried into this comedy club several decades ago. It might have been bright red when the first ass, belonging to some vaudeville performer, imprinted itself on its cushion. I’ll bet even back then performers would often be told something similar, like “Hey hep-cat, we had to 86 the late show. Not enough swingers and kittens doing the Charleston through the front door.”For a stand up comedian, there are generally two shows a night: the early show and the late show. The club will cancel a show if the ticket sales aren’t enough to justify the cost of staying open, but they don’t make this decision until they’re absolutely sure they can’t make any money. It’s cruel, but it’s an old cruelty, like illness or being forced to listen to a coworkers favorite music. I feel as though I’m playing part in an ancient tradition of performers as I meekly accept what the manager has just told me.“Yeah sure, no problem, the early show is going to be fun,” I say, as he gives me a sympathetic nod and exits, closing the door behind him, trapping me in the strange mildewed air of the green room. The smell is thick with the flop sweat of countless acts before me. I sit and think about how I’ve failed before I’ve even gotten on stage, failed in the ever present challenge of every live performer in history. I’ve failed to sell enough tickets.There was a time in my career when I didn’t consider ticket sales. I was a beautiful little minnow swimming through the murky waters of comedy, where all was new and nothing was expected of me. I would show up to a venue and the booker would say, “sorry, we didn’t sell a lot of tickets,” and I’d say, “who cares, there’s a microphone, right? What’s there to worry about?” Little did I know that the booker most likely went home after those shows and drank even more hand sanitizer than show bookers usually drink. My first experience wrangling an audience came in 2022, and god, did it hurt.I had just amassed a decent-sized following by posting myself telling jokes while washing dishes in my sink. My minor success, coupled with my ever-expanding ego, turned me into the most volatile and damaged archetype possible: a man who is drunk on a very, very, small amount of power.My arrogance ballooned to maximum capacity when famous booker Frank P messaged me. He asked if I wanted to headline an iconic Los Angeles venue. I said yes immediately. I had headlined in San Diego before, and, even though the venue I performed at drew its own crowd, I felt that I was responsible for at least a few ticket sales. When I was done messaging Frank I posted a story that said I would be headlining in LA and everyone should buy tickets now.I put my phone down, put my head on my pillow, and fantasized about the virtual stampede that was now taking place to buy tickets. LA was a huge city, and certainly a high percentage of the people who follow me would rush to buy tickets. The website might crash, the venue might need to add seats, I might need to start a charity in order to launder the money that will undoubtedly be injected into my pockets in one month’s time. I didn’t think much about the show after that, seeing a sell-out as an inevitability. Three weeks passed, and I received a text message from the booker. I’ve received this message many times and in many forms since then, and no matter how many times it flashes across my screen, it always causes a pit of unfathomable depth to form in my stomach.“Hey Dan, we only have three tickets sold for your show. Could you maybe post about it again?”I studied the words to be sure I read them right. Three tickets? Did he mean three hundred? Was the message intended for a lesser act, like Jeff Dunham and his puppets? How will the puppets react? I bet Peanut will have ALOT to say about this one.Unfortunately I read the message correctly, and more unfortunately, Jeff Dunham manages to sell more tickets than me to this day, just because he’s more talented and likable. The world is as cruel as it is unfair.I went back on Instagram, more desperate this time. I used the word please about five times.“Hey, please buy tickets now. We need to get an idea of how many people are going, so please get your tickets now and please tell your friends before I “please” myself in the head with a gun,” I wrote.Under pressure, I am an incredible and persuasive writer. Unfortunately, my message went unheeded, and I arrived at the venue with six tickets sold. As though having three more people than expected had the potential of raising my spirits, the booker informed me that the other three were comped tickets he gave to tourists who he met at a spin class. I did my act in front of three audience members and three fitness enthusiasts, all of them brought together by a shared desire to politely nod as I told jokes and looked out at the mostly empty room. Going into my closer, I watched a janitor start sweeping, getting an early jump on a purposeless night of work. The venue was just as clean as when I found it.I greeted the three audience members. They were very nice and told me they had a great time. This was surprising because I could see their faces the entire show and their expressions told a different story. The stationary cyclists were equally, and eventually more enthusiastic than the people who came to see me on purpose. I waved goodbye to the tragedy-stricken-family-sized crowd and went back to my car. The car is a wonderful place to scream because of its soundproof nature, but you have to be careful of the fact that the front window is see through. Otherwise you run the risk of screaming in anger, then opening your eyes to see all six recent audience members staring at you with grave concern. You may then have to smile and wave, thinking you’re putting the car in reverse, slamming into the car in front of you, then driving away.That booker stopped booking me, and I embarked on my long journey of acceptance, perseverance, and tampered expectations. I learned that having a following does not mean you have a bunch of people who are willing to pay money, leave their homes, and see you. My videos are luckily humor-based (at least, when I write them well,) so it’s not like I have zero crossover. Maybe somewhere there is a person who makes taxidermy “how-to” videos who wants to cross over into standup. He would most likely have a harder time making that switch, even though his material would be easier to write. That being said, I struggle to sell tickets compared to other standup comedians with similar or smaller followings, and that can be hard to accept.I began to go on the road under similarly-false preconceptions about what followers mean. I would go to a city where I had ten thousand followers, and ten would show up. The ten that did show up got a good show. I have been doing standup for much longer than I’ve been making videos, but nevertheless, it’s hard to perform in rooms so small you don’t have to move your head to see everyone. If you’re selling a bunch of tickets on the road, you have the potential to have fun when you fly out to perform. You can afford to bring your friends, and afford to buy those friends matching sequin jumpsuits that you require them to wear at all times. Real fun. But if you don’t sell a lot of tickets, your experience is wildly different.I get on the plane to my shows nervous about whether I will make enough money to justify the flight, and I stay in the hotel the comedy club provides, if the comedy club provides accommodations. If I’m left to get my own hotel, I look for the cheapest place that hasn’t been mentioned in an article about a local homicide in the last six months. Because of that rule, Motel 6 is almost always out of the question.Leading up to the show, I am checking and refreshing the ticket count about ten times an hour, imagining what performing in front of the meager number will feel like. After shows, I am constantly trying to think up ways I can charm the manager so they will have me back at the club. I’ve considered resorting to doing magic tricks for them.Not all the shows on my last tour were poorly sold, but enough were to give me a sense of fear over my upcoming tour. I want to be clear: I have no issue performing for small crowds. I’ve performed for a single couple before, and will happily do it again (as long as it’s not the same couple--they left halfway through my set. I don’t know why they left, though I assume we can take agoraphobia off the table.)My fear as it relates to ticket sales is not selling enough to stay on the road. There is a limit to what a booking agent is willing to do for you. I have a wonderful booking agent, so wonderful that I know he has better things to do with his time than gamble on having me as a client for the rest of his life (but Ben, if you’re reading this, please keep believing in me. I will make over $2,000 in a year some day, you just wait.) So my fear is ever-present and has been for the last two years. You might think my anxiety is unsustainable, but almost every performer feels this way. Just look at every career comedian, who hasn’t died from overdose or suicide, or their wife killing them...okay, maybe it is unsustainable.Every comedian feels this way, even the famous ones. My friend Laura Peek, who is extremely funny and professional but is not yet a celebrity, was recently talking to Mark Normand, a famous comedian. She was telling him that she was worried about ticket sales in Chicago, and Mark looked at her and said, “hey...me too! Comedy!”It’s hard to imagine a man who regularly sells out theaters being worried about anything other than what kind of wrap to get around his solid-gold Porsche, but they have anxiety too. You don’t get into comedy because you have a healthy relationship to rejection and acceptance--you me

Starting in late October, I will embark on my 2025 tour. Tickets are available for Sacramento, San Francisco, New York, Cleveland, and Boston, with more to be added soon. Buy tickets here. My first time touring was winter of last year, and as a way to ready myself for my upcoming travel, as well as subtly incentivize you to buy tickets (if you don’t, it’s fine--just get ready for months of angsty substack posts about destitution and hopelessness,) I’d like to tell you a little bit about what I learned on the road last year.It’s currently 5AM in Hollywood, a part of Los Angeles which is talked about incessantly outside the city while being ignored by the local government like a stuttering stepchild. I live near the Walk of Fame, a tourist attraction that somehow has less culture than Times Square. I stand with a backpack slung across my shoulder, on a corner just a few streets down from the stars with names like Bill Cosby, Chris Brown, and Benito Mussolini written on them. I am waiting to be picked up by my friend, AJ, who is as reliable as a well trained horse, and as intelligent as a horse that has been taught to count by tapping its hoof on the ground. I met AJ in Boston. He’s a large vegetarian, and like most mammalian herbivores, he holds in his eyes a kind of vacant knowingness. I don’t like using Uber, and I’m waiting for AJ to pick me up because Los Angeles refuses to have readily-available public transportation to the airport. Instead, LAX has a beautiful, intelligent system of transport already in place. The way LAX works--and this is really brilliant--is that you drive your car directly into four lanes of perpetually-gridlocked traffic that flows around one horseshoe. As you keep driving at two miles per hour, the traffic gets increasingly lighter because people decide to take their own lives instead of following through with their original plan of going to Jacksonville, Florida. Because you have to drive there, I opt to pay my friends to bring me to the airport. AJ was an obvious choice for me because he has a job as a delivery driver, which means he is already used to waking up early and has a saint’s patience when it comes to traffic. AJ has continued to be a fixture of my life on tour. Every time I wake up at 5AM, even if it’s just because I can’t sleep, I half expect a rickety old Prius to come creaking along my street to pick me up. The car rides with AJ to the airport have been lovely because we’re both generally delirious from sleep deprivation, which means laughs are easy to come by.“AJ, turn down this alleyway,” I say as we drive, with mischief in my eyes that are underscored by dark bags.“Why?” he replies, playing along.“AJ, I have a business opportunity down that alleyway that will revolutionize both of our financial futures.”“Are you going to buy fentanyl from a guy in that alleyway?”“Yes.”And we both giggle like idiots.After stepping out of AJ’s Prius, the sun only a suggestion on the horizon, I say goodbye, and turn toward the terminal with either excitement or dread, depending on what airline I was able to afford for this trip. If it’s Delta, it means I sold enough tickets the last go around to justify comfort. More often it’s Spirit or Frontier, but I’ve taken flights on even more obscure airlines. Have you ever taken a direct flight to Cleveland courtesy of Kyrgyzstan Airlines? The flight is smooth, but the only thing you can watch on the headrest TVs is an obscure horseback sport called Kok boru.I try to be friendly towards TSA. Sometimes it’s reciprocated, but often it’s met with the blank stare of a farmer looking at a cow that just mooed. Once I’m through, I walk into a world of chance. I never know exactly what I’m flying to. I’d like to share both a positive and negative experience, using Pittsburgh and Whistler as examples.A love letter to Pittsburgh:For cities in the United States, sometimes a bad reputation is the only thing that can save you. Nashville, to me, is getting uglier by the second. What was once a thriving artistic sanctuary, is now just a place where you’re forced to watch endless bachelorette parties parade across your condo window as you finish your work call with your managers at the “Buy and Pollute All The Clean Water In The World” start-up. This is because Nashville is known to be cool, and corporate money sniffs out cool like a pig sniffs out truffles. Because you rarely hear people clamoring to move to Pittsburgh, it has been temporarily saved from this level of development. I’m sure the city has changed significantly over the years, but when I drove into the city, a level of comfort washed over me like warm, if not a little polluted, river water. Pittsburgh was gorgeous. When I was there, I performed at a venue called the Bottlerocket Social Hall. It is the best venue I have ever performed at. The night of my show, I got to the venue early and went to the nearest coffee shop. It was called Grim Wizard, and it’s a goth coffee shop that plays heavy metal instead of Nora Jones. Don’t like that? Go to Starbucks, snowflake--we’ll be over here drinking espresso and playing Ozzy Osbourne pinball. This was the first of many small businesses I encountered in Pittsburgh that actually felt like someone’s passion. Not a cookie-cutter coffee shop made so a rich guy’s wife has something to do with her miserable, Percocet-fueled life. It had real, honest-to-goodness vision. There was also a goth weightlifting gym called Death Comes Lifting. Do you know the sign of a good local economy? Industrious goths.When I got hungry, I went to a diner where seven men, still in their reflective construction vests, were sitting in a row at the counter. I assumed they were doing road work and pot hole fill-ins, which is desperately needed in Pittsburgh. The roads look like the face of a life long frycook. There was one exhausted-looking server, and one overly-energetic chef you could see through a little window where he would plop down plates like a Vegas dealer distributing cards in a game of Blackjack. When I walked in, the server looked at me, made no attempt to alter her facial expression, and nodded to a stool. I sat down and proceeded to eat the best, cheapest breakfast I’ve ever had, while listening to the road crew talk to each other, picking up several new racial slurs on the way. I walked away from the diner with a full belly and a lot of questions about what a “gourd salesman” was.Maybe it was a fluke--I was only there for a day and a night in total--but it felt like the city of Pittsburgh greeted me with open, heavily-tattooed arms. As the sun went down that night, a crackling liveliness seemed to emerge like fireflies on the sidewalks, and every bar had a bartender who you knew at least five regulars had quietly fallen in love with. Do bar owners specifically select women and men who are easy to go head over heels for, or is it something about their control over alcohol that gives bartenders their evil, seductive charm?The show was perfect. The microphone cut out several times, which gave me something to talk about for about ten minutes before having to dip into material. Speaking to audience members after was a dream--everyone was courteous, no one overstayed or understayed their welcome. I’ve always been happy with my audience. They aren’t a massive bunch, but those who show up tend to be kind people and good laughers. There was a man in the crowd who told me and my feature Killian he was a camera man for gay porn in the 90s, and we ended up talking to him for an hour.As I went to bed later, a thought swam through my head that 24 hours before I would have never anticipated having: I need to come back to Pittsburgh.Whistler is not all Sunshine and Rainbows. (Whistler is not the actual city this happened in, don’t go after any Whistler venues.)People have been perplexed with the delusion and apparent stupidity of stand-up comedians in recent months. Comedians with podcasts have been bringing on guests that are war criminals, sex criminals, or reanimated German dictators who assure the audience they no longer want to take over the whole of Europe and only want to promote their supplement brand. These guests beg the question: how could these comedians be so deluded to think their actions will be received positively? Well, I have an answer, and it’s one I got in Whistler. I learned, on two cold nights, in front of even colder audiences, that a comedian needs to be delusional almost to the point of psychosis in order to make it through the part of their career I am currently trudging through. Those delusions don’t necessarily need to be the evil, self-aggrandizing kind, but they do need to exist, ferrying you through the rough waters of reality on a ship of fantasy.My first show in Whistler was so poorly sold that we had to do it in the smaller upstairs room, which was still too big for the tiny crowd that showed up. People were seated so far away from one another that there was no chance for them to form a real audience, just a patchwork of infrequent chuckles. The worst thing about shows like this is that when you don’t sell a lot of tickets, the club sort of ignores you. Servers are less excited because they don’t have as many tables, and therefore expect fewer tips. The manager of the club will sort of slink around, and sometimes not even show up at all. It feels like you failed an entire group of people that you didn’t know existed before your plane landed, and it’s hard to be funny for an hour when you just walked through the kitchen and heard a waitress’s forlorn sigh. You need delusion to get through these shows--the kind of delusion where you tell yourself, “It won’t always be like this--some day I’ll sell enough tickets for people here to be excited, some day the manager won’t roll his eyes at me. Some day, I’ll sell so many tickets the servers will be on rollerskates and the manager will carry me into the green room like a newborn.”I had three shows before my

The demographic of young, lonely men has been endlessly speculated on. Why are there so many young, lonely men? We need to save these young, lonely men! Honey, come quick, I think there's a young, lonely man under our bed!I was member of this demographic for the better part of my early to mid-twenties.If there is any consolation for those depressing, isolating years, it is that I now have firsthand experience in a matter of important public discourse. As a second consolation, I’m now really good at positioning five screens all playing separate podcasts around me while I eat so it feels like I have friends."Lonely" is a very broad umbrella. Lonely men sort of have ranks, much like the volunteer militias many of them eventually end up taking part in. I was a gymcel: someone who sublimated sexual frustration into exercise. I didn't know I was a gymcel until I heard the term when I was twenty five years old. Sometimes you spend four years thinking something is a personality quirk that ends up being a diagnosable mental disorder--go figure. What interests me about my time as a gymcel was my media intake. I read several books and listened to countless podcasts during this period, and looking back at it, the degree to which I was reinforcing my isolated and emotionally-stunted lifestyle was shocking. The material I was drawn to at the time is what I want to write about here. There is an entire subgenre of self-help geared towards isolated young men that does not actually serve to help them round out their lives, but instead sends them deeper down the road of alpha brain, testosterone replacement therapy, and morning routines so constrictive they rival the schedule prisoners have in offshore enhanced interrogation facilities. It's a genre I refer to as Militarized Self-Help.When you look at David Goggins, it almost takes a moment to register him. There is an uncanniness about the width of his shoulders coupled with the comparative narrowness of his head, it's like the statue of a head put on an exceedingly wide pedestal. An easter island head on an endless beach. He almost has a monk's disposition, but where a monk's face is calm and serene, David’s is always somewhat angry and aggrieved like you just told him there was no estimate on how long his connecting flight would be delayed. David is a holy man of sorts who pushes a brand of asceticism to the youth of America. Instead of walking on hot coals, he runs for hundreds of miles at a time and does thousands of pull-ups in the span of a day. He speaks very little about relationships and friendships, and when he does, he usually advises that you should not allow them to take time away from your pursuits as a high achiever.In college, I loved David Goggins. I was already working out excessively, but he gave me the license to work out more. I was already isolated, but he told me isolation was good. David Goggins seemed to be a kindred spirit, which should have been concerning because he never seems to smile, laugh, or exhibit any of the normal human emotions one would associate with joy. Goggins and his supporters praise this lack of emotion, seeing happiness as frivolous and ultimately meaningless. To them, one should sacrifice happiness for the extremely meaningful pursuit of running really far and doing a bunch of pushups. There is this resentment in this sentiment that always comes through so clearly in the comment section under a David Goggins video. Basically, men who feel like society has given them no outlet can only find comfort in physical exertion to the point of self harm. Here are a few I found all under the same video.David Goggins wasn't the only man I listened to for advice at this time. Jocko Willink and Tim Kennedy were also integral parts of my descent into cynical, self-flagellating destruction. Each of these influencers are ex-military, they all preached similar doctrines, and they were all extremely popular with young men like me. Each one has the body of a super hero and will often recite war stories with the mix of self-aggrandizement and false humility which is a hallmark of this sort of influencer. I don't use influencer as a pejorative here; that is simply what they are, and understanding them as such helps to understand their rise and popularity. There is an attempted smokescreen used in the self-help influencer space which is both common and effective: denying that you are a self-help influencer. These influencers do this because they want to separate themselves from the earth-mama yoga influencers who tend to be women and push Yoni Eggs instead of creatine and Black Rife Coffee. Both groups spend a lot of time preaching to people who already share their mindset, both groups offer a feeling of superiority through the acceptance of esoteric principles, and both groups can really ruin a gathering by getting five beers deep and telling everyone “No, you need to read this book with a clearly insane person on the cover, it changed my life.”Jocko Willink and David Goggins have untold numbers of YouTube videos with titles like, "Building Unbreakable Discipline" and "Do It Yourself," which are primarily watched by men who already have ample discipline and already do everything themselves. These videos are not primarily for the slovenly, unmotivated hordes who need a guiding light to direct them out of their hedonistic lifestyles. They are made to reinforce the tendencies of overly rigid young men who see empathy as a feminist-marxist curse which will bring about a pagan apocalypse. They also reinforce the idea that people who are not hyper-motivated, regimented, and willing to crawl through broken glass at a moment's notice, are ‘soft.’ This idea hurt me most of all, looking down at people who took time to enjoy their lives. I saw students at my college who got together and had a few beers as weak, and that made me the perfect audience for Militarized Self-Help. I mean, do you think someone who doesn't already have a rigid mindset is going to buy a book with this kind of cover?What I'm trying to say is, reinforcing your own world view isn't a strategy for self improvement--it's the opposite. It entrenches you deeper in preexisting patterns and tendencies. What most of the people who are purchasing books like, “You Can't Hurt Me” actually need is fiction. They need to get into the minds and lives of characters who aren't hotdog-skinned 50-year-olds fighting male pattern baldness brought on by massive steroid cycles. Reading books about how you're a bitch is actually a cowardly thing to do if you already think that about yourself.Pushing yourself to read something that you think is frivolous is actually an act of bravery, because you’re pushing past mental boundaries set not only by yourself, but by society as a whole. I'm not saying things like discipline are bad--I have a morning routine and a workout regimen, and I've been doing Jiu-Jitsu for about ten years (I’m not that good, but I’ve recently started to hold my own against this 15-year-old in class who's been giving me problems.)My issue is with a specific type of discipline being peddled like a supplement to men who don't need more of it. I was given the message that solitude, exercise, and hard work are what life really is, and if you stray from them you're being lazy. For me, that turned out to be completely untrue. Solitude and hard work came easily to me, because I never had to interrogate how I was feeling or deal with other people on an emotional level, which is what I was actually afraid of. If you think deadlifting 500 pounds is hard, I wonder if you've ever talked to a stranger at a party and tried to find something in common with them. Both are just as strenuous, though I’ve yet to see if the latter is helped by wearing a weight lifting belt. Anyone spouting that friends are a liability because they get in the way of your plans to conquer the world is a weird idiot. Do you know why people try to conquer the world? Because they don't have any friends. Friends are the whole point to this stupid life we're living, and no amount of push-ups or hack squats is going to make that less true.Underneath all of these concepts of machismo and solitude is something even darker. The majority of these materials serve as a recruitment tool for the military. There is a reason most of the military influencers were in the special forces, even though the special forces make up a comparatively small portion of the military. Their recollections of specifically-targeted missions sanitize the reality and scope of war. Hearing Tim Kennedy recall his team killing Abu Musab al-Zarqawi is a story which is wrapped in a tight bow, and doesn't mention the countless civilians killed by less targeted American action in the Middle East. I only became aware of the nefarious undertones of these influencers material much later, but it still leaves a bad taste in my mouth when I think about it. The American Military Industrial Complex has many clandestine tools for recruitment, but I didn't know one of them was being used on me. At the time, I was already firm in my stance that American involvement in the Middle East was unjustified, and wrote off the actions of these men as good deeds done in a bad situation. But if I’d been younger when I was exposed to these messages, who knows what I’d have felt. The influencers I mention both directly and indirectly espouse the idea that the American Military is the gold standard for personal development. That’s not true; it's a specific organization with the specific goal to train soldiers. Looking at it as anything other than that is a patronizing fantasy.I am now thirty years old, so I'm about five years removed from what I would refer to as self-imposed solitude. I try not to regret the days I spent listening to and reading material that reinforced my most harmful qualities, but it's a tall task. Recently, I've become an avid fan of fiction, and I've even started writing my own,

I met Rick in Boston at an open mic. At the time, I lived in western Massachusetts, but ventured to Boston once or twice a week. Two hours there, two hours back. The drive to Boston always made me feel the kind of excitement only the naive have access to, their nerve endings yet to be ground down by years of disappointment. My mood on the drive back from Boston would vary depending on how my set went. If I did well, my head would be swimming with fantasies of becoming a professional comedian. The thought would soak in my brain like a narcotic; not a good narcotic, but one of those awful homemade ones like krokodil or jenkem. The euphoria was always tainted by its delusional basis.I was not good at standup at the time, so when I did well it was generally due to an overly receptive audience--a type of audience that does far more harm to a young comedian than a hostile one. When an audience is mean, you may feel bad for a few days afterward and consider quitting, which is as healthy to a young comedian as a brisk jog is to a marathon runner. When an audience is too supportive, and you're showered with waves of ill-gotten laughter, you risk wandering through the bowels of open mic comedy for the rest of your life. You will become a derelict bottom feeder, shambling from stage to stage with your tawdry material, trying to get laughter out of crowds like a man tries to get nicotine from cigarette butts on the sidewalk.If my set went poorly, I would always have a mind-numbing, soul-deadening drive back to Amherst, Massachusetts. The scattered rows of tail lights in front of me would blur and grow into orbs of red like the auras of twin demons, and my thoughts would sink into hopelessness and suicide. These weren't the kinds of suicidal ideations that would make a therapist concerned, they were just the defense mechanism of an artist who wasnt quite there yet in terms of talent. It was my brain saying, "well, either we have a lot of work to do, or we could kill ourselves…and doesn't the latter sound easier?" Every time I’ve seen a therapist, they always ask, "have you ever thought seriously about harming yourself or others?" and my answer is always something along the lines of, "Obviously…but not really." I wonder if there is a single person on earth who answers that question with a simple "no." Maybe the Dalai Lama, but if I had to wear that robe every day I might have some second thoughts about the everlasting tranquility of mindful existence.The night I met Rick in Boston was an anomaly, because I had a bad set, but I still drove home with that buzzing narcotic feeling that usually signaled success. My success that night was not on stage: it was in the parking lot of a bar called "Tavern At The End Of The World," when I made Rick laugh.That night, I had shown up late and was number thirty five on the list. Luckily, my friend Killian was there, and he introduced me to a group that would become my friends for the year and a half I lived in Boston: Zack, Jack, Kitra, and Rick. I was intimidated by all of them, but none more than Rick. I had seen him crush in a way that up to that point was unthinkable--by just being naturally funny. I clung to written material, and wouldn't dare deviate from it. Rick wrote jokes, but didn't need them. He had this ability to stand onstage, seemingly completely comfortable, and turn whatever the crowd gave him into something funny."Where are you from?" Jack Burke asked me cordially."Oh, western Mass. Not much of a scene out there, but there are a couple of good mics. Well, not 'good' like the mics out here, but they have a lot of normal people in the crowd. Well, not 'normal,' like you guys aren't normal or something. The scene out there is fun," I said, flinching and recoiling at each inane word that dropped out of my stupid mouth."Cool," Jack said, kind of being an asshole but also just moving the conversation along. Jack, Kitra, and Zack kept talking, but I noticed something to my right and turned. There was Rick. He was slight and wiry, with an intelligent, almost reptilian smile. He put his hand on my shoulder and said, "Western Mass, lots of Oxycontin out there.""Yeah," I replied, a little uncomfortable that someone was actually choosing to speak to me."You know, the thing about Oxycontin is, it's great, but you always keep having to trade these sexual favors for it."I laughed, not just at what this strange, small man was saying, but at the way he was saying it. He was in his mid twenties, but sounded like a grandfather at the sweet spot of senility where he can still form thoughts and sentences, but is no longer fettered by the social contract."Yeah," I said when I looked up. "And when you want more than one pill, you have to use both your hands.""Or your feet.""But not your mouth," I said, "You need your mouth to talk and remind everyone that you're straight."Now he laughed. Hard. Too hard for what the joke was, but God knows I was happy to take it. "I'm Rick," he said, extending a frail hand."Dan," I replied, shaking his hand with extreme care, like I was handling a rare bird.Then, Rick turned to the group, interrupting them mid-conversation. They were happy to stop talking. I gathered that they respected Rick and wanted to know what he had to say. "Hey, this is Dan," Rick said.I waved awkwardly, and they returned the greeting with warm smiles."Dan just said something really funny..."Rick said, and proceeded to recant our conversation to the group as I stood there awkwardly. As I expected, the punchline about using my mouth didn't hit as hard with them as it had with Rick. "...Well, I thought it was funny," he concluded, then turned back to me.We talked until the sun went down and the streetlights clicked on with their buzzing, yellow glow. Shabby men with thick coats began to congregate outside the liquor store next to us as if drawn by some natural internal compass, like salmon returning to their spawning ground. Rick told me about other mics I should go to, and which ones I should avoid."Tomorrow at six, you should really check out Ed's basement. It's...really cool, lots of cool people go. It's like a salon of expression, or some other dumb shit like that," Rick mused, in his tone that was simultaneously sarcastic and sincere in a way I have never heard reproduced by another human being. I then followed him back into the tavern, which was loud and boisterous in a way that harkened back to a time where bars were for construction workers and alcoholics to blow off steam, and not built to appease tech job lackeys in Patagonia vests who have one and a half IPAs and call it a night. I would come to learn that Boston had several premiere mics with the same set-up the tavern had: a stage simply placed in the middle of an extremely loud bar. Can't get the attention of the alcoholics in the first fifteen seconds of your set? Welcome to hell, where you are resigned to perform three-to-five minutes of standup comedy to a room of people who seem completely unaware of your being there. I don't know what it feels like to be a ghost, but I do know what it feels like to look at a table full of people directly in front of me and ask them, "Hey how are you guys doing?" while my voice is amplified by two separate speakers, and not have a single one of them look up.Rick was completely unfazed by this set-up. He got everyone's attention milliseconds after taking the stage, and held it for the duration of his set as he talked about suicide and 9/11 (in millennial alt comedy, those are now looked at as two deeply hacky premises, but back then they were still on the table.)Watching this little man entertain a room full of people who seemed to be nowhere near his target demographic was incredible. After my set, where I managed to lose just about everyone in the room, I hopped in my car and drove the two hours back to Amherst. I already knew I would be driving the same route back to Boston the next day, to find out what was going on in Ed's Basement.Every famous scene that had a significant cultural impact had an equally-famous central meeting spot. The comedy boom of the 70s and 80s had the Comedy Store, the American punk explosion had CBGBs, and pedophiles had Epstein's Island. What is talked about less are the equally-fascinating meeting spots for scenes that never had a cultural impact. These scenes rise with the intention of nurturing a new generation of talent, and wither and die without seeing the light of day. Nevertheless, people's individual lives are forever changed by incubation in said scenes, and for me and about thirty other people, that scene was Ed's basement.The following night, I drove into Allston at about 6 pm, cruising slowly through its tangled, illogical streets to try and find parking. In 2017, Allston was in a transitional phase. It had a reputation for being a grimy enclave for would-be artists, which it wore with pride. Old brick buildings, standing three or four stories, housed the unshaved, unwashed future bass players of a generation. But prices were going up, and many of the dirtbag writers and musicians who would have lived there were relegated to other more obscure parts of Boston.For a few years, before almost everyone without family money was pushed out, there were two predominant camps of young people who lived there. Either college students whose parents could pay their rent on a halfway decent apartment, or real, honest-to-goodness city rats willing to hunker down in soon-to-be-condemned apartment buildings. The rich kids were numerous, and generally pleasant. They were young men who would try their hand at painting until they realized a job at their dad’s hedge fund might suit them better, and young women who wanted to be poets until they got treatment for their BPD and realized they just wanted to be happy. They lived similarly to everyone else, with one or two incongruities that you would figure out pretty quickly after meeting them. Why does this guy who we

Hank was lumbering back from the shotput circle when he saw a news truck with a big number three on its side. He watched as the crew piled out, two heavy set long haired men with goatees, and a small woman in a pants suit that was still somehow suggestive. She had a waterfall of blond hair gleaming in the morning sun. Hank thought it was funny how easy it was to tell who was the crew and who was in front of the camera. Even if they were all wearing the same outfit it would be easy to pick out the anchor. Hank would have loved one of the fat goateed men to deliver the news. "Ya hey, this is Frank with the news. A whole bunch of shit happened in Fairhaven today, let's go to Mike on the scene.""Ya hey thanks Frank, anyway ya, whole bunch of shit happening, ok back to you."Hank smiled at this thought as he made his way back to the shed. He then thought about how it was almost like the crew was assigned to their positions at birth. Sure you might see a small pretty woman in a film crew, but you never see one of those slobs delivering the news. They were like the guys he worked with at the DPW. Hank would sometimes try and picture them as anything other than what they were. He tried picturing Joey, his dumb racist boss, as a professor or a librarian. He pictured Rodger, the geezer of the crew, as a lawyer or a politician advocating for open container laws or universal basic lottery tickets.Sometimes Hank would look at himself in the mirror and try to picture himself living a different life. All he saw was a cumbersome body that felt like a burden to be dragged around and an ugly face full of crooked teeth. He even had an unfavorable view of his own brain which was always slipping into day dreams and could never process what someone told him the first time. He imagined himself out on a sale boat like some other boys in Marion, in one of those stupid polos or a pair of those ugly salmon colored short shorts that made you curse god for creating legs. He pictured himself at parties, talking to girls, one of them taking interest in him, going “I actually have a thing for ogres, do you want to go in another room and I can make out with you insane style?” Hank didn't know how girls talked.He would get fleeting images of a different life, but it would never stick, and he'd always find himself back in the office bathroom, or behind the shed at the Old Landing cemetery with Rodger shouting "Hey! Gentle giant! How long does it take you to piss?" Hank thought about Rodger, and if he'd still be working this summer. Rodger was close to seventy, but something in Hank knew he would be there. The other guys would always joke with Rodger about how he was going to die soon. Hank suspected the reason they had Rodger work groundskeeping at the grave yard was so all the other guys could laugh and say "Hey Rodge, instead of going home why don't you just claim a plot now?"Then Hank's mind slowly started to slip into daydream about the peace and quiet of Old Landing, when Bill screeched the gator to a halt in front of the shed. Hank flinched whenever he was brought back to the real world.“What are you doing?” Bill asked.“What?” said Hank, even though Hank was trying to say 'what' less so he could come off as less stupid.“I said what are you doing, just standing around.”“I, uh, I was waiting for you to tell me what to do.”Bill studied the kid for a moment before saying “good answer, at least you're not on your god damn phone. Hop in the gator were going to fill the water dispensers.” Hank nodded and hopped into the passenger seat. Bill wasn't the first adult to praise Hank for his unusually unplugged lifestyle. The truth was Hank was never on his phone, because he and his mother couldn't afford for him to have one, but Bill didn't need to know that.The sun was warm and gentle, and as the gator puttered along at eight miles per hour, the breeze cooled the light layer of sweat on Hank's face. They took the paved path up into the parking lot, and beyond the pavement, the tree line produced jack rabbits that grazed on the soon to be mowed greenery, looking up in suspicious intervals.“What are the news crews here for?” Hank asked, taking another peak at the crew, all of whom were leaning against the van, looking down on their phones at what Hank imagined were three very different versions of the internet. Bill glanced over at Hank incredulously. “You know why, don't you? They're here to see Abby.”Hank was embarrassed. He often found himself in situations where everybody but him seemed to know something. “I, uh, no I don't know who that is.” Bill stopped the gator in front of the athletic trainers office. He got out and grabbed one of the big orange water dispensers and Hank grabbed the other. He followed Bill to a spigot with a three foot hose attached, and Bill began to fill his dispenser. “Abby is a distance runner on the verge of breaking the state record in the mile.” Bill spoke in a way that made Hank feel this was something very important. Bill motioned for Hank to place the second dispenser next to the first.“I haven't heard of her, what grade is she in?” Hank asked.“Yours, she's a Junior, but she's homeschooled now. I don't think she could go to normal classes in school because-” Bill looked up at Hank, like he forgot who he was speaking to. He quickly finished by saying, “Well, she takes running pretty seriously, you'll see. Now grab your dispenser and load it in the back of the gator.”The water dispensers were ten gallons each and weighed about 80 pounds a piece. As Bill screwed on the lid of his respective cooler, he thought to himself that this was a way to show the kid he still had some strength in him. Bill had been filling and loading the coolers for so many years, his body, which should have been too old and brittle for such exertion, could somehow still handle the weight of the awkward heavy load. Bill prepared to heave one of the coolers onto the back of the gator. He stood tall to do some twists as a warm up, when Hank reached down with one hand to grab the side handle of the cooler in front of Bill, then grabbed the other the same way, and without so much as a grunt, lifted both up and into the back of the gator. The rear suspension compressed and squeaked to bear the weitht. Hank then lumbered back to the passenger side of the gator, while Bill, wide eyed, inspected the coolers.Bill thought there was no way they were full, water must have leaked out of them or something. But upon opening the lids he found them both to be filled to the brim. He looked at the kid, the width of him in the gator almost spilling into the driver's seat.“How the hell are you so strong?” Bill said, testing the heaviness of the coolers and finding he had to strain to budge them. Hank looked back over his shoulder with an embarrassed smile. “Oh, thanks. I like to lift weights, and I guess my dad was strong.” Bill nodded, and got into the gator. Hank sat quietly as Bill drove, he felt stupid for bringing up his dad. He tried to never do that out of fear of follow up questions. But Bill just drove, and they shared the silence men often share, each wanting to say things to each other, but deciding not to. This is a public episode. 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Dylan Saccone was looking down at his phone as he crossed Santa Monica Boulevard. He was trying to see if LaSorted’s had cheaper pizza than Triple Beam, so he never saw the westbound 3 bus coming. The bus driver, who turned her head momentarily to see who was blasting what sounded like pornography from a Bluetooth speaker, didn't see Dylan crossing the street with his head down. They were both made aware of one another at the same moment, when the bus made contact with Dylan, and Dylan's body, after flying through the air, made contact with the pavement. The bus driver's central nervous system immediately performed a number of involuntary responses: her pupils dilated, her heart pumped an amount of blood to her muscles that would be appropriate if she was being chased by a tiger, her bladder voided slightly. Dylan's body, in sharp contrast, performed no involuntary responses, because he was dead.Dylan felt no pain. One moment he was walking along looking at his phone, trying to imagine how different his night would be if he got a square pizza rather than a round one, and the next, his consciousness was reconstituted in a total void. His awareness returned slowly, and the feeling was pleasant at first. He was free from his body, which was nice because his immortal soul and body had often been at odds. His immortal soul tended to crave the unbridled peace of being one with the fleshy vessel it inhabited, while his body tended to crave slouching and vaping.Dylan, or the dissociated consciousnesses that was once called Dylan, felt great hope. Reality on earth was simply a blip on eternity's infinite radar, sweeping forever and ever. All the mistakes he made were forgotten, everyone who wronged him was forgiven, that time he was offered a threeway with two exchange students but couldn't achieve an erection…that one somehow still hurt, but he felt better regardless. Then, suddenly, his soul experienced an odd, sinking feeling. Just as he began to feel as though he was being assembled again in an earthly form, he saw sheet upon sheet of rock pass by. He was in some sort of a hole, and he was going down. The speed of his descent increased dramatically, until it felt like he was falling, then he descended faster still, as though someone, or something, was holding his ankles and dragging him down, down, down.Finally, he looked down, and saw the bottom of the tunnel. It was bright red and yellow, and he felt as though he was getting hotter. No, he thought to himself, no, this can't be happening. I didn't sin that much! I only kissed that one guy! And I only did it again to make sure! But he plummeted like a stone until he reached the bottom of the tunnel and was shot out into a world of fire and pain. He heard shrieks and wailing. There was one woman who was loudly moaning and seemed to really be enjoying the experience due to some sort of kink, but the rest of the screaming voices were having an awful time. He floated over all forms of torture: men on a flaming see-saw that would send the lowest man into a pit of snakes, women who were cursed with an unquenchable thirst and forced to drink water with shards of glass in it, and a man in a room looking for his keys, but no matter where he looked, he just couldn't seem to remember where he had put the damn things.“Nooooooo!!!” Dylan screamed, as he floated through the labyrinth of pain. He was unable to change his course–he was pulled through hell as if he were being given a preview of the suffering which would soon befall him. Finally, he was led to a large flaming door, five stories high and forty feet wide. On it was carved every insignia of evil: a swastika, an inverted cross, a perfect rendering of Ted Cruz’s side profile. The door opened, and out stepped the towering inferno of evil.“Satan,” Dylan gasped. He was red and massive, almost as tall as his door with a sharp, whipping tail and a forked tongue. He had a pitchfork in hand, but wore no clothes, and, okay, not to be graphic, but…it was big. Like, distractingly big–like, you would think if you were the Lord of Darkness maybe you would choose to be Ken Doll smooth down there. At least, that's how Dylan had always seen Satan depicted, and it didn't make him less scary. Now, looking at him, Dylan found it sort of distracting. Dylan thought, I mean, you’re Beelzebub and you're four stories tall, so I get why you wouldn't want it to be a thin five inches, but this thing was out of control. Was God’s as big? If not, you could see why they left that out of the Bible. Dylan realized he hadn't said anything, and began to feel awkward. He felt like maybe the Devil should speak first; it seemed a little rude of the devil to be this inhospitable, but that’s the Devil for you.“Hey,” Dylan finally said.“What's up?” The Devil replied, in a deep, dark voice that carried with it every shriek and cry of pain in the history of humanity. But even with the booming, cutting evil of his tone, Dylan could detect a bit of impatience there.“I–I was sent to hell, I guess.”“Oh, right, yeah, sure.” The Devil looked around, and the movement of his massive horns created wind that blew hot air on Dylan's face. He then looked down, and immediately covered his…third horn. “Oh my god, I’m so sorry! This is so embarrassing, one second, let me put on pants.”The Devil disappeared, then shot back through the door in a pair of strangely billowing harem pants–the kind a male yoga teacher wears while he hits on your girlfriend in class.“My bad man, I've been getting high for the last few millennia," the Devil said.“You’ve been getting high?” Dylan asked.“Uh…yeah I’m the Devil, you think the Devil is sober?”“I just thought you'd need to be alert and focused to run hell.”“Yeah right. I’m the Prince of Evil, I literally invented OxyContin, but I stay straight edge? I mean, come on man, use the brain that God gave you.”Dylan thought about this, and realized his preconceived notions of the Devil were based on what the church had told him, and in all likelihood, they had painted a pretty false picture. “So, why am I here?” Dylan finally asked.The Devil shrugged, sending a swarm of bats that were nesting on his shoulders flying in every direction. “I don't know. Honestly, it's pretty random.”“Pretty random?” Dylan asked incredulously.“Yeah. God does all the Goody Two-Shoes logistical work, and I just get whoever he doesn't want to send to heaven. Sometimes it's a pedophile, sometimes it's a guy who ate shellfish at the wrong time. Yesterday this guy came in who dedicated his whole life to charity work–rebuilt schools in post-Katrina New Orleans, never cheated on his wife–but he took one longing look at his neighbor's ox, and BAM! One way ticket to getting kicked in the nuts by a giant spider every day.”Dylan recoiled. Could he be in hell for something that silly? Would he be subjected to eternal torture for eating shellfish at the wrong time or taking the Lord’s name in vain?“Can you check why I'm here? My name is Dylan Saccone.”“Sure, let me check,” the Devil said, as he pressed his finger to his temple. His eyes suddenly produced images like two jumbotrons, projecting endless pain and hellfire, whipping through images of men up to their necks in pits of lava, women being hacked to pieces by cleavers moving on their own, and that one guy who just for the love of Pete, could not think of what he had done with his blasted keys. Finally, an image of Dylan flashed across the Devil's eyes. Then the eyes closed and reopened, revealing the black-as-night orbs that were once there.“Dylan Saccone, you know why you are here. It was told to you by one of my prophets,” the Devil boomed.Satan’s eyes once again projected images, but these ones were from Dylan's past. He was fifteen years old in them, smoking weed out of a pipe in Josh's room, his friend Chip’s older brother. Chip had gone to the bathroom, so Dylan and Josh were passing the pipe back and forth.“For smoking weed? Really?” Dylan exclaimed to the Devil. “You can go to hell for smoking weed? What is this, Alabama?”“Do not compare hell to Alabama! It's bad down here, but don't be an asshole,” The Devil bellowed. “Keep watching.”Dylan watched again as a younger version of himself turned the pipe over and emptied it into the trash. Josh looked into the trash, then stared at Dylan with serious eyes.“I see green in there–don't waste weed, dude,” Josh said to younger Dylan, shaking his head. “There's a special place in hell for people who waste weed.”Then Satan’s eyes flashed black once again, and Dylan was left flabbergasted. “He was serious!?" Dylan blurted."Of course he was serious! The most divine of messages are passed down from your friends' older brothers. You should have picked that weed up from the trash and smoked it anyway. That's what George Bush did, and that's why he's in heaven dating Whitney Houston.”“I’m not even going to touch that one,” Dylan sighed. “So, there's nothing I can do now?”“No. Now come with me, I'm going to take you to your confinement,” said the Devil, stepping out of the doorway and shrinking himself down to Dylan's size.“You can control your size?” Dylan asked.“Yeah, the size of my body at least, but there's one thing I can't control the size of,” the Devil mused, nudging Dylan with his elbow.“Ew, gross. Can you just take me to my eternity of pain and suffering?”“Sure,” The Devil said, shrugging and releasing infinitesimally small bats directly into Dylan's face. The Devil began to walk, and after Dylan shooed the mini bats away, he followed. The Devil led him past a number of different chambers, which were all marked by placards that indicated which groups were being tortured inside. One placard explained that “Adulterers” were eternally tempted by alluring figures of their affair partners from the mortal realm, but as soon as they got too close, the figures would change into disgusting, rotting zombies that would eat their flesh feet-first. There was a plaque that said “Warmonger

The groundskeeper for Old Rochester Regional High School rambled towards the track in what he called "the gator", a small four wheel vehicle with a three foot by four foot truck bed, like a working man's golf cart. He had been the grounds keeper at ORR for years, but the gator was new. The school had decided to make a number of updates to the school's athletic facility, due to the amount of attention the school was getting in recent years. In fact, the school decided their desired level of upkeep was too much for one man to handle, so today Bill would meet his new assistant.‘All these changes for one girl.’ he thought to himself, shaking his head in disbelief.His name was Bill Tilden, and he had worked as the school's groundskeeper since 1987. His duties remained shockingly similar from his first day to now, cutting grass, raking the baseball diamond, and painting over graffiti left by young men pretending they were gang members rather than future trust fund recipients. Recently he had to start making some changes.He had to start putting out three times the trash barrels due to the influx of onlookers, which really pissed him off because no matter how many trash barrels he put out, he would always find wrappers on the ground. He also needed to set up sun covers, like tents with no sides, for the news crews that had been showing up to track meets. As Bill dragged one of the tents from the big stand alone garage that the shot puts and high jump mats and javelins were stored in, he thanked god the school finally agreed to hire him some help.By 8AM the tents were set up, and most of the trash cans were in place. Bill was ahead of schedule and decided to have his one cigarette for the day now. He had promised his late wife, Jamie, that he would only smoke one cigarette a day, and as unsentimental as Bill was, he kept with the tradition after she died. Bill didn't keep many personal affects to remember his late wife by. Instead, he remembered her by living his life in a way that he felt she would approve of. Sometimes he felt like he was practicing a one man religion, the rules of which were passed down from Jamie to him, and only him.Jamie told him she didn't like it when he got drunk, so after she died he limited himself to one drink a night. Jamie told him she wanted him to exercise, and after her death he would walk along the beach at sunset every night, even when there was snow covering the sand. Jamie told him she didn't want him to watch pornography, that one was hard to follow, but Bill limited himself to pornography where the two or three people engaging in sex seemed to enjoy each other's company, he thought Jamie would approve of that more.As Bill smoked, he wiped his wrinkled brow and looked out on the track. It had changed over the years, going from cinder to a fresh rubber substance laid over a hard surface for maximum traction, but in many ways it was the same as it had always been. Bill looked down at himself, and considered that he had also changed substantially over the years. He was handsome before, in a general way. He used to have a square looking head that was accentuated by his flat top hair cut, but now with age the sharpness of his jawline had dulled, and he even felt like he was getting shorter, reckoning that he stood 5 '10 now when he used to be 6 feet. The flat top was all that remained from his youthful days. He brushed a hand through it and little flicks of sweat came off.Another car pulled up. Bill checked his watch. The kid was five minutes late. Bill cupped his hand over his eyes instead of going to the gator and grabbing a hat. He saw the car was a blue Toyota Avalon, but the front two doors were white, and one of the back doors was black. An evil black smoke trailed from the tail pipe. Bill was sure it would take out an entire flock of seagulls if they flew above it at the wrong time. Finally, the kid got out. 'God he's built like a linebacker' Bill thought. The car puttered off and the kid, holding a gym bag, walked down towards the gate."Hey there!” Bill offered, walking towards the gate. "You must be Henry!""Ya, nice to meet you, Bill right? And you can call me Hank." Bill was opening the latch on the gate, seeing the size of the kid it felt like he was opening an enclosure to let in a wild animal. Hank wasn't absurdly tall, maybe six foot one, but it was his bulk that was notable. His shoulders were set wide and his chest was broad. The muscles of his shoulders rose and looked to reinforce his neck."So you're a wrestler huh?" Bill said, extending his hand and taking Hank's paw."Ya, uh, ya right now I'm just working on conditioning. Did you wrestle?""No, not me. I was a football player, always thought about it, but I could never bring myself to wear the singlet."Bill smiled at his little joke, but Hank stared at him with grave seriousness and said. "I hate the singlet."Bill just nodded, feeling he had somehow hit a sour spot, and changed the subject. "So you're gonna be working with me this spring, I'll be fair with you, but I believe in teaching kids hard work. I know your generation might be a little opposed to the idea, but I think it's best to show you an honest day's work for an honest day's pay."Hank looked down at his feet, it was funny to see that a boy of his size could be bashful, but Bill supposed a 17 year old was a 17 year old. "I...uh, I guess they didn't tell you, Mr. Duval let me work for you because I've been working for the Wareham Municipal Maintenance department since I was 14.""Fourteen?!" Bill said, shocked and a little embarrassed, that was two years before he had his first job. "How the hell could you work for the town when you were fourteen?""Its a work program. The city lets you have a summer job with the Department of Public Works if your family is...well if your family qualifies."Bill was thrown off completely. He had always assumed young people lacked work ethic. The fact that a seventeen year old had a more robust work history then he had at that age made him feel disorientated, like his footing was off. He tried to move past the line of questioning."Alright, first order of business. While I finish setting up cones, I need you to take the throwing implements out to the far end of the track." Bill pointed to the three designated throwing areas. "Shot puts over there, discus over there, javelins over there. All of them are in the shed, I'd take three or four trips. Got it?"Hank nodded, he walked into the garage as Bill hopped into the Gator to put up cones, when Bill turned to look over his shoulder, he stopped what he was doing completely. Hank grabbed the wooden storage box containing every shot put and discus, and had several javelins under his arm. Bill almost yelled after him to put them down because there was no way he could carry all that without hurting himself, but instead he watched in amazement as Hank slowly made his way to all three throwing areas, dropping off all the equipment in one trip. 'Jesus, that box weighed one hundred fifty pounds' Bill thought, as he made his way around with the cones. 'What the hell am I gonna be dealing with this Spring?' This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dandonohue.substack.com/subscribe

"And another thing," Hubert Price said, staring into the camera with a well-practiced expression of righteous indignation. "If you want to come into this country, you need to do it legally, that's what these snowflake liberals don't understand. We love immigrants in this country… legal immigrants. The law is the most sacred thing there is, and it must be upheld at all cost. That's what this administration understands."Herbert then clicked the space bar on his laptop, ending the livestream. His basement, which had been converted into a studio for his biweekly broadcast, was completely soundproof. As Herbert closed his laptop and began to shut off the lights that moments ago shone brightly on his makeup-covered face, the room didn't feel dead silent to him. To Herbert, the cheers of the hundreds of thousands of people listening to his broadcast echoed in his ears. Herbert had worked for Fox News until six months ago when they let him go because he was speaking the truth too much on air, and also got in the habit of accidentally brushing against the breasts of young blond interns a little too frequently.As he shut his basement door, he took a moment to appreciate all he had accomplished. In the six months since he had been let go, he had a studio built inside his home and amassed enough listeners to surpass his salary at Fox threefold. He didn't need them, he thought, smiling to himself, as he walked into the kitchen to pour himself a celebratory glass of scotch. He never really liked scotch, but he had surmised it was what serious men drank by watching Mad Men. It also paired well with the painkillers that he would pop intermittently off camera.Painkillers solved a massive problem in Hubert's life. Hubert, above all else, hated crime, but unfortunately, he also hated being sober. Alcohol only did so much to fill Huber's desire for freedom from his senses, and that's when he found painkillers. They were prescribed to him by a doctor, making them safe and healthy, even though the doctor would write the prescription to Hubert without asking him any questions about his health.Now, Hubert was able to become as intoxicated as possible, without resorting to the lowlife narcotics of common street thugs. Hubert would often drive his jeep through downtown and see junkies who lived in tents, while thinking to himself, "Look at them, they not good like me. I'm good, good me."His thoughts were jumbled because every time he would drive through downtown, he had taken enough painkillers to treat an NFL team for a full season.Tonight, Hubert drank more than usual. He had a date with a woman who messaged him on Twitter. He took a long time discerning whether this was a real woman or another catfish. He had been tricked before, but it seemed like she was the real deal. She was blond, conservative, and didn't seem to have any children. If there was one thing Hubert hated more than abortion, it was women with children.He tried to grab his keys off the counter, but they slipped out of his fingers and dropped to the ground. He was unable to find the coordination to pick them up on his first two attempts, stumbling and reaching for the counter so he didn't fall to the ground. 'Wow' he thought to himself, 'I'm a little tipsy, I better play it safe tonight'. He grabbed a Red Bull out of his massive fridge and headed to his jeep.On the way to the young woman's house, he decided to engage in one of his favorite activities. He opened YouTube at a red light and played back his live stream from an hour before. His voice rang in his ear like a stranger's, and he did his best to remember what he had said, but most of it was a surprise to him. He had two college students write most of his monologues now. He skipped to the end of the broadcast, when he had a rare moment of speaking off the top of his head."Legal immigrants," he repeated to himself, speaking along to his own voice. He squinted to focus on his own words, and his grip on the steering wheel loosened. Suddenly, his senses slipped away. He was only vaguely aware of the abrupt jostling of his body, and the impact of his car skidding off the road and into a telephone pole. He began to regain consciousness when he felt a strong grip under his arm pits. Two paramedics dragged him from the wreckage."What happened?" He managed, as a paramedic used a bright flashlight to inspect his eyes."You were in a car accident, but it doesn't look like you're badly injured. There is a police officer here and he's going to ask you a few questions, ok?"His vision was still blurred, but he saw a large, corpulent figure wandering in front of him. He had spent much of his time as a broadcaster praising police bravery, so there was a chance this officer might know who he is and let him go with a warning.One time, Hubert was caught in a sting operation soliciting a sex worker. He maintained that he was following the woman back to her apartment to give her a stern talking to about her life choices and the virtue of Judeo-Christian values. When the arresting officer recognized Hubert, his story was accepted and the charges were dropped in exchange for a signed book and a free premium membership to his Patreon.When Hubert saw the breathalyzer, he realized this wasn't going to be so easy."Blow into this, please." The officer said matter-of-factly."Well, I believe I'm in my rights to refuse a breathalyzer." He said in his snarky broadcasting voice. The officer shook his head solemnly before taking out his handcuffs.“The Supreme Court just waived that right,” The officer said, "you're coming with me.”"Hey!" Hubert screamed, "What are you doing, you can't arrest me!" But it was no use.Two more officers flanked him and wrenched his arms behind his back. The suddenness of their handling of him sent a jolt of pain through his arm, causing him to yelp and spasm."He’s resisting!" One of the officers yelled."I'm not! I'm not! I would never resist. I hate resisting!" He protested, as he was carried into the back of a cruiser, and the door slammed behind him.He was left sitting in the interrogation room for over an hour before his lawyer showed up. That lawyer was Ralph Murrow, arguably the greatest lawyer in the country. He was in constant demand. In one high-profile case, Ralph defended Hubert when he said, on air, that people should "Kill Bernie Sanders" Ralph argued that the word “kill” is subjective, and the case was thrown out.Finally, the door to the interrogation room creaked open, and Ralph slid through. He was a thin, balding man who wore thick glasses which were secretly non-prescription."Ralph, sorry for the late call." Hubert said, reaching to shake Ralph’s hand before remembering his hands were cuffed to the desk."It's ok, how are you holding up?" Ralph replied, taking the seat next to him."Good now that you're here. I think it would look bad if we went after the cops for police brutality, so I think we should just try and get this whole thing thrown out."Ralph sighed, "It’s not going to be that easy, I'm assuming you haven't heard the new addendum to the drunk driving laws?"Hubert shook his head no, and Ralph explained that evangelical lobbies, which were pushing for a total ban on drugs and alcohol, had convinced the administration to levy harsher punishments against drunk driving. When he finally got around to saying what that penalty was going to be, Hubert's mouth hung open in disbelief."The death penalty!?""Afraid so, they want to make an example of drunk drivers to deter future law breakers." Ralph stated."But...I follow the law! I love the law!" Hubert exclaimed."Well, law’s got you by the balls on this one, buddy."“But,” Hubert stammered, “It doesn't make sense, the punishment doesn't match the crime.”Ralph put his hand on Hubert's, which felt awkward because Hubert was in handcuffs.“Listen, budd, I know it looks bad, but I think I can reduce your sentence to deportation.”“Deportation!” Hubert screamed. “How can I get deported? I'm an American citizen.”“But your great-great-grandfather wasn't, remember a year ago when you argued we should deport that college student with the sign that said "don't indiscriminately murder Palestinian Children” Well, the administration took that to heart. It’s called denaturalization. It's not great but I think it's a whole lot better than death.”“So, they'd be sending me to…”“That’s right, Scotland.”“NOOOOOOOOOOOO!” Hubert shouted, bashing his fists against the table.“Calm down! Scotland isn't all bad, they have decent food, have you heard of Cullen Skink?”“Just get me the death penalty.” Hubert said, with tears in his eyes.He and Ralph spoke throughout the night, until an interrogator entered the room to join them. The questions were basic, following the new administration's interrogation protocol “Were you drinking tonight? How many drinks did you have? Do you accept Jesus Christ as your personal lord and savior? Do you agree to follow no other gods but the one true God?” And so on.Finally, Hubert was led to his cell. He walked past a few police officers who were at their desks, filling out paperwork. One turned his head and quickly said, “Big fan.”As the door slammed behind Hubert, he noticed that the officer was listening to his broadcast from earlier. The last thing he heard were his own words.“The law is the most sacred thing there is, and it must be upheld at all cost. That's what this administration understands”If you liked reading this, please like, share, comment, and consider joining the paid tier! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit dandonohue.substack.com/subscribe

As I sat on the Orange line southbound from the Dallas International Airport to my hotel in Deep Ellum, my predominant emotion was dread. I was going to perform at a wonderful comedy club, and it was the first headlining gig I've had in a while (so god knows I needed the money,) but I couldn't shake the memory of the last time I visited the Dallas area six months ago.Six months earlier, I performed at a comedy club that has since closed down in Plano, Texas. It was a nightmare--big room, small crowds, and the few people who did show up didn't seem to take very kindly to me. Before the late show on the Friday of that weekend, I looked out over the scattered audience and thought to myself, there's no way they're going to do the show with so few people. I went up to the manager and asked, "What's the lowest amount of tickets you can sell where you'll still do the show?""Ten," He replied shortly."How many are sold tonight?" I asked.He turned and walked away, presumably to perform some clerical function of a club manager, like filling out paperwork or doing coke off a knife. Over his shoulder he snorted, “Ten.”That show went as well as you would expect. In the middle of a joke that had nothing to do with politics, a woman in the crowd started screaming "Trump 2024!" over and over again. I made an insinuation that she wanted to have sex with Trump more than her husband who was sitting right next to her. This was a miscalculation. The manager had told me earlier that if there are less than fifty people in the crowd, the security guard gets sent home. I didn't remember this little exchange until her husband was at the lip of the stage pointing at me and telling me to get down and see him face to face. Maybe he wanted to fight me, or maybe he wanted me down there so I could give him a hug and tell him everything was going to be okay. His wife, like many women, just loves two men at the same time. I stayed on stage and tried calming him down, not wanting to take any chances.I ended up getting a pretty big laugh by simply informing the audience that I didn't sell enough tickets to have security. Even the man who walked up to the stage started chuckling and returned to his seat. It's not a good sign when the biggest laugh of the night comes from you just making an accurate assessment of the situation you're in.Now I was back in Texas, headed closer to the heart of Dallas, and my nerves were activated like I was going to have to deal with that politically-cuckholded man all over again. It didn't help that I was on the train. I love trains, but often the public service posters that are displayed on them don't give you the biggest morale boost. The most prominent posters on that particular train were for suicide prevention. If you find yourself in a space where the primary message is look, we know you want to kill yourself, but please dont do it--you have no idea how hard it is to clean that up, your mood may suffer. I love public transit in general, but the experience of taking a train can sometimes be unpleasant, which is why the posters were there. I’ve never seen a suicide prevention poster at a waterfall.The train slowed to a stop as we approached a college campus, and a tall, wiry man with glasses stepped on. He looked thoughtful and intense, like he might have a manifesto on him. He looked at my bags and asked, “You in from out of town?”He looked friendly, so I said, “Yeah, what is there to do in Dallas?”He thought for a moment and replied, “Barbecue.”"What else is there to do in Dallas?" I continued.He took a very long pause then, and finally said, "You can see where JFK got shot.”That's option number 2? I thought. What kind of city is this? The man got off the train, and after more consideration I went on the 6th Floor Museum website to buy tickets for Saturday. It seemed like a morbid endeavor, but I didn't want to stay in the hotel all day Saturday, and I’m not a fan barbecue.I got off the train and had a quick 0.8 mile walk to my hotel. I was sweating like the devil had spit on me after the first quarter mile, but I was too stubborn to get an Uber, so on I walked. I have the uncanny ability to make any trip a simulated death march, but walking can be a valuable way to get to know a city. By the time I made it to my hotel, I had come to the genius determination that Dallas was humid. I wasn’t sure if anyone else had made this observation, but by the way sweat was dripping off my face and onto the counter of the unfortunate concierge’s desk, I think my findings were conclusive.My two shows on that muggy Friday night were wonderful. The host literally brought me flowers, saying, "I wanted to be the first one to give you your flowers this weekend." I informed him that he was the only person who had given me my flowers any weekend. My feature was Colton Dowling, an outstanding stand up comedian, and when he heard I was going to the JFK museum he and his husband bought tickets immediately. The crowds that night were lovely, there wasnt a single heckler, and at the end of the night I felt so good I didnt even need a train poster to tell me not to kill myself.After the late show, I walked up and down the streets of Deep Ellum. There are a number of night clubs, and the streets are so packed that certain sections of them are blocked off by police. I saw a man walking up and down the block in an extremely realistic alien costume, I saw a body builder carrying a kitten into a nightclub, and I saw one of the funniest examples of a man hitting on a woman in public I’d ever seen.I walked into a Halal restaurant, and there were two men there enjoying a meal together. I was by myself, and I picked up from overhearing their conversation that they had gone out that night with the express purpose of finding a woman to go home with. I've found this to be the best way to assure you have a bad night and go home alone, but when a woman walked in by herself and stared at the menu, one of the men saw his opportunity."Can I help you with the menu?" he asked her as I tried to contain my laughter. I understand that when you're starting a conversation with a stranger, whatever you say initially is going to sound stupid, but what does helping someone with a menu mean? He might as well have said, "Excuse me, do you know how to read?"Just then, an enterprising gentleman burst through the doors and announced to the four of us in the restaurant, "Anyone want to finance a luxury car? I have Ferraris, Lamborghinis, Cybertrucks; whatever you want."The man who was in the middle of hitting on the woman looked at the car salesman and, speaking loudly to make sure the woman could hear, said, "Yo, I was just thinking about buying a Ferrari, let me have a card." He proceeded to have a loud conversation with the salesman, speaking through him and at the woman, where he talked about how he wanted to pay cash for a Ferrari and that he already had a Bentley and an Aston Martin. Then, when the woman hurried out, with the man calling after her, "wait, what’s your number?" he told the car salesman that he was actually broke. I went to bed soon after; I would have to get up early for the JFK museum.The next morning, Colton, his husband Chip, and I crammed into the elevator that only travels to the 6th and 7th floor of the Texas School Book Depository. It was Saturday, and the museum was packed with tourists. There were a number of exhibits about the life of the 35th president of the United States, which were placed on a path in chronological order all the way through his life and to its demise. But Colton, Chip, and I had no intention of taking the normal route through the museum. We did what I’m sure many dumb guys who visit the museum do. We made a straight line to the window through which JFK was shot. We looked out at the spot where the two bullets hit him, and all remarked, "there's no way."It’s hard to believe a gunman could make the shots that Lee Harvey Oswald was said to have taken, and oddly enough, the museum didn't seem to believe it either. We soon went back to the entrance and walked the line of photos from JFK's life and presidency. There were little paragraphs describing each event, and when it got to the Bay of Pigs, where the CIA urged JFK to take bold, and--as it turns out, ill-advised--military action towards Cuba, the plaque said something to the effect of: "This soured the relationship with JFK and the CIA. Did that lead to his assassination...who knows?" Overall, it was one of the most inconclusive museums in history. There were a number of qualifiers on the Zapruder film and the report by the Warren Commission that suggested the museum itself didn't believe the official narrative. It really shows how hindsight leads to more frank conversation about historical events. Maybe someday the Freedom Tower, which stands at the site of the 9/11 attacks, will have a plaque that says: "I mean, does jet fuel really burn hot enough to melt steel? Who knows?"The other thing that stood out to me in the museum is how the somber tone affected by the exhibits seems completely lost on those who go to the museum. There were young boys chasing each other around making gun noises, couples kissing by the window where Lee Harvey Oswald was said to have taken the fatal shot, and a number of disgusting, tone deaf jokes were made by me. I'm sorry, I couldn't help it. There is something about a somber environment that makes me want to crawl out of my skin. It feels repressive to me, and the only way I cope with that feeling is by making jokes. When I reached the point in the tour where the assassination was first mentioned, I loudly exclaimed for everyone to hear "What!? No, he got shot?! When?" Some people laughed; a lot didn't.What the exhibit taught me above all else is that you can't fight the passage of time. Try as you may to evoke somberness, if enough time has passed, levity will always prosper. Many hate this fact, in the same way they hate it when the ocea

"Do you want to meet Norm MacDonald?"This question was posed to me by a strange man named Eddy, who I had met the night before at an open mic in the Valley called Liquid Zoo. It was one of the worst setups imaginable, loud bar, finicky microphone, and every comedian got ten minutes of stage time, which was way, way too long. Eddy saw me go up and came right over to me after my set. He was wrinkled beyond his years, and wore a fedora that seemed to scream from atop his head, “I was in show business! I'm balding and I was in show business!”He told me I had a good set, and I could immediately sense there was something off with him. Maybe it was because he stood too close to me when he spoke, maybe it was because I definitely did not have a good set, but I had yet to build up any defenses to deal with predatory Hollywood types. This happened in 2018, the conversation about unhealthy work relationships and the imbalance of power dynamics had already gained household recognition, but unfortunately, the message hadn't gotten through to me yet. As Eddy did all he could to assume a position of power over me by saying things like, “I know everyone in this business” and, “Let me introduce you to some people I know,” I thought to myself, ‘Well, this is strange, but he certainly isn't trying to take advantage of me. That's girl stuff!’He told me to come to a different open mic the next day, and I agreed. Someone who said they had the inside track to Hollywood had told me they could introduce me to some people. I might as well have been barefoot in a straw hat and overalls saying, “Gorsh, this Hollywood thing is a piece of cake.”I looked Eddy up online and, while he was clearly exaggerating his accomplishments, he also seemed somewhat legitimate because he had been in popular TV shows in the 80s and 90s. Now that I've been in this city for a while, I can tell you there are Sudanese warlords who would recoil at the abuse of power exhibited in Hollywood by people who were on TV shows in the 80s and 90s. The fact that Topanga from Boy Meets World isn't running a paramilitary operation in Santa Monica shows a high level of restraint and poise on her part.I was working at an LED screen factory at the time, a job that allowed my mind to wander. If I didn't have anything to think about, I would have grown painfully aware of the damage done to my eyes by checking about 700 LED screens per day for imperfection. On that day at work, I constructed a five-minute set of my best jokes to impress Eddy and his friends. I most likely signed off on dozens of faulty LED screens so if you saw Bruno Mars in the spring of 2018 I'm sorry. I'm the reason why you couldn't make out his entire fedora on the Jumbotron.When I got to the mic, my nerves were replaced by a strong sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach. This may have been the strangest, sleaziest, most pathetic assortment of washups and has-beens that I'd laid my eyes on since moving to LA, and that's saying a lot. It was in the smoky side room of a restaurant called Trots Deli and the bar was filled with people who were exactly like Eddy. People who used to be successful, or at least constructed a reality in their heads where they used to be successful. Everyone knows Hollywood isn't a meritocracy, but there's a result of the wildly random nature of Hollywood success that people don't talk about. We all know about people who are hoisted into super stardom who have questionable talent, and I wish the best for Gal Gadot, but there is another, more tragic figure bouncing around the roulette wheel of the entertainment industry. There are people who get a single taste of success and are then cut off for the rest of their lives.I've met people who have great careers with no talent and it's not as great as you'd think. Either they're so delusional it renders them unenviable, or they're somewhat aware of their situation, which is its own kind of hell. Comedians who get to play the biggest stages in Hollywood only to be shunned by their more discerning peers, are forced to reconcile what success means if you don't have the respect that's supposed to come with it. It's far worse when you have a moment or a period of success that withers on the branch, and you're staring down the barrel of several more decades of life. There is a way to accept this stoically and allow it to influence your understanding of ephemerality and impermanence, but few take this path of integration. Most walk up and down Fairfax or Sunset Boulevard, wearing the same style of clothes they wore back when they meant something, telling anyone who would listen, “I was on an episode of Mork and Mindy.”Everyone in Trots fit that bill. It had tables full of cheap vests and loud shoes. Women who almost sang when they spoke, like they were trying to show everyone in the room they were still a triple threat. I parked on a stool at the bar and watched the dead-end networking unfold in front of me when I felt a hand rest on my shoulder. I turned quickly, and behind me, looming like a specter, was Eddy.“Cool place huh?” He said, smiling a strange, conniving smile.“Ya, it's cool,” I replied, shifting away from him to get his hand off my shoulder, “Where do I sign up?”“Don’t worry, I know the host.” Eddy assured me, as if that was something to brag about.He asked me more questions about where I was from and what I wanted out of comedy. I caught people glancing at us, maybe because they had seen Eddy do this same trick with other young men, maybe it was just because I was the only person in the room under the age of 58, but it made me uneasy.Finally, the host took the stage. He was a man by the name of the Hollywood Swami. He was a white guy who wore a turban and if you think for a second he wasn't doing a deeply offensive Indian voice, you're not picturing this room correctly. He called up Eddy and, when Eddy started doing stand up, I wished the Swami was back on stage. Eddy was loud, annoying, and irredeemably unfunny. He got little gusts of pity laughter, and you could tell he thought he was crushing. He got off stage, and I was called up.My set went fine considering the circumstances. I think at a place like that, people appreciate it if you tell a joke that was written after 1994. When I got off stage, I received several nods of approval from people in the crowd and that was about as good as it got there.Eddy came up to me and said, “Hey, good job, want to meet Norm MacDonald?”Norm was and is one of my favorite comedians. Between his standup and podcast, I don't think any comedian has made me laugh more. Was this Eddy's way of luring me to a second location? Is this the 21-year-old comedian equivalent to telling a child you have a puppy back in your van? If it was, I can say I really empathize with the children who ignore the warning signs of a man wearing a trench coat and a van with no license plate, because I said, “Sure I would!”My thought was, he's probably exaggerating, and will most likely bring me to a place he knows Norm will be, like a green room or outside his bedroom window, but that was enough for me. He wanted me to ride with him, but I insisted on driving my own car. If he was going to bring me to a remote location to touch me inappropriately, he would at least have to engage in a high-speed chase to get his wish.I followed him from SantaMonica to Thai Town. He slowed down when we got to the Netflix building, a large imposing structure that seems impenetrable, especially by the likes of Eddy. I thought it was sort of funny how far Eddy was taking this charade. I wondered what his move would be when he was inevitably turned away from the gate. He seemed to talk to the security guard for a long time, then the gate lifted, and he drove through. I was shocked, and my shock doubled when the security guard waved me in.Even in the elevator on the way to the top floor, my skepticism wasn't fully dispelled. I was unable to wrap my head around why a guy like Eddy would get access to what I learned was a wrap party for the taping of Norm’s show. I wondered if he gave a fake name or convinced the security guard I was a Make-a-Wish kid. If that were the case I would happily start coughing because this was the closest I had gotten to the heart of showbiz, and would be for years to come.The elevator doors opened and we stepped out into the beautiful outdoor seating area of the top floor of the Netflix building, which looks over Los Angeles. I'd love to say I didn't stare out at the skyline and think to myself something along the lines of, ‘This is my city’ but I was 21 and unbearable. Eddy made a bee line to a circle of people who were talking on the far end of the patio. It was a couple of producers, a younger man, and looming above all of them was Norm Macdonald.I shuffled behind Eddy, who walked right up to Norm in an overly familiar gesture of friendship. He extended his arms and said, “Norm! Buddy! How are you?”Norm took a step back, and extended his arm. “Eddy, what the fuck, I didn’t know you were coming to this shit.”Eddy was a little deflated to not get the embrace he wanted, but we stood in the circle of people and, for a few minutes, I was there, standing where everyone imagines they'd be standing if they moved to LA.I was so wrapped up in the moment, I couldn't track any of the conversation happening around me. The bits and pieces I caught were about filming the show and I stood there and nodded along. This has happened to me a few times. You finally get in a room you want to be in and you can't get a word in because it's like everyone is speaking a different language. My first time at the Comedy Store Main Room I was in the green room with several famous podcast hosts and comedians who I respected immensely, but the conversation drifted into shared stories of when people have hopped over the fences of their respective estates. I listened silently. It didn't feel like the right time to interject with, “Well, one time, a g

Much has been said about family members monopolizing conversations at holidays like Thanksgiving and changing the mood of things from festive to combative. Many people will say that they hope their uncles don't get drunk this year at Christmas, because they’ll start talking about crime statistics and keeping Muslims out of NASCAR. Some people go to family gatherings like they’re preparing for battle when they know they will see their less-desirable family members, coming up with retorts and rebuttals to inflammatory statements that will almost certainly be made by an aunt who has fallen down some strange internet sinkhole. I was lucky--the person in my family who would take pleasant conversation and make it their own was not a conservative uncle or a crackpot third cousin, it was my grandma. I would drive to family gatherings excited, not because I particularly like the formality of those kinds of get togethers, but because I knew my grandma would do something to make everyone uncomfortable, and that made all the strange handshakes and mindnumbing platitudes worth it. I was a little disturbed as a kid, and there's an old saying about art that applies to my relationship with my grandma perfectly if you replace the word “art” with “grandma:”“Grandma comforts the disturbed and disturbs the comfortable.”When I was about 14 years old, I saw a copy of the book Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas. I've grown to really like Hunter S. Thompson, but at the time I had never read a word of his work. It was the cover that interested me. The cover depicted two psychotic, vaguely human-looking characters in a car driving down a stretch of road to a city in the distance. The image is trying to evoke the erratic, unyielding psychosis drugs can induce, but it didn't have that effect on me. When I first saw the book cover, I thought this reminds me of when Grandma would pick me up from the bus. The only difference being that one of the characters is throwing a beer can out the window. My grandma abhorred many things, littering being towards the top of the list.From what I understand about grandmothers, mine is fairly unique. First off, she's still alive. The women in my family have two things in common: their husbands die, and they live to 100 years old. I think if a doctor were to study my family and give me health advice, they would probably tell me to start knitting and get a husband. The second thing that sets my grandma apart is that she functions as more of an uncle at family gatherings. On holidays or celebrations, it's usually an uncle who gets too drunk and too political and is talked about in hushed tones by the rest of the family as the leftovers are scraped into tupperware. My grandmother shows a woman can do anything a man can, and she could do it sober, or at least off of only two white zinfandels.My grandma is also staunchly political, but not in the same way most elderly people are. Her opinions oscillate between center left and far left, but she's militant about all of them. For example, she has what I would call an "abortion first" protocol when it comes to hearing about someone getting pregnant. If you tell my grandma "Oh my god! I just found out my sister is pregnant," my grandma will say, "is she going to get it taken care of?" And when you reply, "Um... no, she and her husband have been trying for a baby for months," my grandma will go "Oh, well that's wonderful dear, congratulations." It may sound dark to some, but to me it’s sunk in and is sort of a hopeful thought. Whenever I see a woman who gave birth, my thought isn't “she had a baby,” it's “she didn't have an abortion.” It puts a little more agency on the side of the mother, and it lets the baby know it was lucky.When I was twelve, I transferred to a school in Barrington, Rhode Island that catered to special needs students. There was a van that would bring us back and drop us off in Dartmouth, MA, but that was still about a fifteen minute drive from my house. Both of my parents worked, so often my grandma would pick me up. Those fifteen minute spurts of dialog constituted my formal introduction to politics, history, and true crime. I would be sitting in the bus on the way to Dartmouth, thinking of what subject I wanted to bring up to Grandma in the car. This was still before the internet flooded the formative experiences of America's youth and caused a flattening of information. Much like the internet, I could ask my grandma about any subject, and she would answer quickly and succinctly. “Why are we in Iraq?” I would ask, and my grandma would answer, “Because the president is an evil piece of shit who wants to give all his friends who work for Lockheed Martin and Blackwater a taste of blood money.” She would say this while driving the car directly in the center of the median. I think the things my grandma said stuck with me because I was in a life-or-death situation in the passenger seat every time she would answer my questions.My grandma didn’t only talk to me about politics. When I was 11, I asked her, “Where do babies come from?”Without hesitation, she responded, “A man gets an erection, and has vaginal intercourse with a woman. Once he ejaculates--”“Woah, woah. Slow down, Grandma--let me get a pen and paper.”You might be uncomfortable with the idea of a 75-year-old woman describing to her 11-year-old grandson what sex is, and you might be right, but let me tell you from experience that I think it's a great way to ensure that your sex talk doesn’t lead to your child becoming interested in sex. I didn't have sex until my much later teens, well after all of my friends. I think it's because when the subject of sex came to mind I thought, “what, that thing grandmas talk about? No thank you, ma’am.”A lot has been said about people being “unfiltered,” but I think that's a misunderstood term. When someone is said to be “unfiltered,” it usually means they will say a few rude things if you go out to dinner with them. From my experience, these people actually tend to be extremely filtered. They just filter out kind or generous thoughts and tell you the negative ones. My grandma was truly unfiltered--you got the good and you got the bad in equal parts. I would be in the passenger seat of her car and she would tell me about her vacation to Algeria when she was 35: the stunning architecture and beautiful food, the enchanting history and mesmerizing music. Then suddenly, she would say, “but one night, we got a meal at a restaurant on the outskirts of town and had diarrhea for five days. I thought I was going to waste away and flush all my internal organs down the drain.” I thought to myself, as she swerved, barely missing a man who was crossing the street, someday I’ll go to Algeria and bring my own food.Maybe it was because I got to experience my grandma one-on-one over many years, but I always felt like I took to her personality more than many members of my family. I remember one dinner, after she’d had her maximum allotment of white zinfandel, she started talking about notable murders that happened in New Bedford, the city she lived in her whole life. I believe the dinner was a celebration for my mother, who got her bachelor's degree after decades of having to put it off due to life obligations, but when Grandma starts going she has an uncanny ability to shift a conversation to her own agenda. My cousin, aunt, uncle, and mother all tried diverting the conversation away from death to anything else, but Grandma wouldn't have it.“--and that's when he took her body to the attic and started to dismember her. This all happened on the south end of New Bedford, so the houses were more spaced out and it was harder for people to hear her scream,” she said.Then my uncle tried to interject by saying something like, “The south end has really good fishing; it's hard to launch your boat though, because there are so many jagged rocks.”My grandma then immediately grabbed the reins back by saying, “You think that's hard? Try dragging a body into an attic. I mean, why would you not take it into the basement? Was he making a point?”Eventually my family gave up, replacing conversation with knowing conspiratorial glances with one another, their expressions conveying frustration as if to say here we go again. I, on the other hand, was enthralled. My grandma would often speak to me about historical events involving death and atrocity, and it impressed me that she could keep so much carnage in her head at once. Her intent was certainly not malicious--she simply did not have the barriers in her brain that separated horror from the rest of life. To her it was all the same thing; a dismembered body and her daughter's graduation occupied the same plane of existence.We drove home with my aunt and cousin. My cousin, Rick, barely waited for the car door to close before saying, “wow, that was a lot from Grandma, huh?” Everyone in the car agreed, but I stayed quiet. The reason I appreciated my grandma's interjection of blood and guts was because to me it perfectly encapsulated the issues I've always had when it comes to the sterility of my east coast, tight-lipped upbringing. I suffered through so much boring conversation when I knew in my heart there were so many more interesting things bubbling below the surface, if only they could be addressed. I'm not saying you should browbeat people with your harrowing life events, but you also shouldn't ignore them completely. My grandma would kick open the door of pleasantries and say, “look! Look at all this stuff we aren't talking about! Isn't that interesting?” And it was--to me, at least.I understand when people are made uncomfortable by their inflammatory family members, but I pose the question: what else would you be talking about? Say what you will about my grandma, but when she's at the table the question of “what else do we talk about?” has never come up. She's in her 90s now, and has lost a bit of her zeal for conversation, but she’s still all t

Brian sat at a far table in Bar Bandini, and waited for his date. Brian felt Bar Bandini was a perfect spot to take a woman when you're meeting her for the first time. It was dark and sexy, but cheap enough where he could buy the first round and not have to run into the bathroom to check his bank balance after. Brian reached for his phone, then remembered he told himself a week ago that he was going to try and be more mindful. He resigned himself to looking around the bar. He felt that it was odd to not look at your phone in a place like this when you were by yourself. The only thing he could do was look around the room and judge people on dates, which didn't seem much better than just playing online poker. He saw two women on a date arguing loudly, and wondered if their disagreement was over who would pick up the check. He wondered who would customarily pick up the check on a date between two women. Maybe the one with the shortest hair, he thought. He imagined one of them going, "see, 1/4 inch long, drinks are on you tonight." He then immediately felt bad for thinking that and looked away. He saw a large, lurchy man on a date with a small woman who looked like she wanted to be anywhere but across the table from him. The man was leaning over imposingly, his face lit from below by the candle on the table like he was telling a ghost story. By the expression of the woman across from him, it seemed that whatever tale of vampires and werewolves he was spinning was too much for her. It looked like she wanted to run to the bathroom and lock herself in there until daylight came.To Brian's immediate right, there was a man who looked about fifty and a girl who looked about 18. He tried listening to their conversation, but when he heard the girl say "Yeah, I really love horses and I used to ride in high school, so not too long ago," he immediately tried turning his attention elsewhere. He hoped his date would go better than the ones happening around him. He thought of an excuse to look at his phone, and he took it out and went on Violet's profile again. His excuse was that he needed to remind himself what she looked like in case she walked in without him noticing, which was nonsense because if she was as striking as her pictures it would be impossible to miss her. She was tall, with long black hair and tattoos down the length of her arms all the way to her hands. He stared at one particular picture of her in a white tank top smoking a cigarette outside a coffee shop. She looked beautiful, but also intense, like her eyes could look through objects. It was hard for Bryan to look away from the photo. Finally, his attention was pulled from the picture by a loud noise behind him. It was a groan of disappointment.They had set up a television on the back patio so people could watch the Dodgers game. The Diamond Backs had just hit a two run homer, and things were looking bleak. Brian didn't care about baseball, so he turned back to the bar, and there, scanning the room, was Violet. He forced himself to look back at the television in a panic. Violet probably hadn't seen him yet. He didn't want her to think he was just sitting there staring at the door waiting for her, even though that's exactly what he was doing. He pretended to watch the game for a second while he formulated a plan. He would look at the TV for about five more seconds, then turn around and walk up to her. She would probably be turned away from him facing the bar. He could approach her from behind and say something cool like, “looking for someone?” This seemed like an excellent plan to Brian, but when he turned to execute it, she was standing right in front of him."Hey!" he blurted, standing to greet her. He got up clumsily, bumping his hips against the small table in front of him, and when he stood at full height, he realized they were eye to eye with one another. She wore a black dress that came down to her knees and wrapped tastefully snug around her waist. She extended a long arm, and he shook her hand. They both sat down. Brian couldn't think of what to say, so they just sat for a moment. It was hard to read her face--it was calm and observant, like she could see into him and read how flustered she made him. He noticed there was a light sheen of sweat on her face and neck from the unseasonable humidity, but it just made her look glistening and angelic. Brian still hadn't said anything after his stammering introduction."Im glad you picked this bar," Violet said, putting her purse down on a chair next to her. "I was right by here so I was able to walk.""Oh, that's why you're a little sweaty?" Brian asked."What?" Violet responded, her brow furrowing and a look of concern falling over her face."No, no--not in a bad way!" Brian stammered, shocked at his stupidity to throw off a date before it had even really started. "I just mean it's pretty humid to walk right now. Being sweaty isn't a bad thing, you look…good sweaty."There was a terrible silence. Then, all of a sudden, Violet laughed, and Brians's nerves released like a shot of morphine."Wow, what a compliment," she said."More where that came from," Brian said, impressed with his own smoothness. "Do you live near here?""No, my friend does, we were doing some political organizing." Violet said. She seemed a little shy to say it. Brian thought she was probably just trying not to grandstand."Oh, that's cool! I've been trying to get into more of that kind of stuff since I moved here.""Really? What kind of activism are you into?" Violet asked."Well, back in Boston I was in a student organization that was focused on health care reform.""No way!" Violet said excitedly, "That's what I'm into!"Brian was exaggerating a little--he went to a couple of meetings and fell off. He never took part in any of the student protests or fundraising drives. But when he saw Violet light up like she did, he thought that a little exaggeration on a first date wasn’t the worst thing in the world."Oh that's cool, yeah I just think it's awful that we don't at least have single payer healthcare, while those insurance companies make billions," Brian said. He didn’t know exactly what single payer healthcare was, but seeing Violet’s eyes light up let him know he was on the right track."Exactly," she said. "I mean, the CEOs of insurance companies are no different from murderers.""I agree," Brian said. "Mass murderers.""Mass murderers, right," Violet replied, leaning forward. They spoke of the injustices of the American for-profit healthcare system for about half an hour. Brian was out of his depth for most of it, but Violet's passion guided him through the conversation. He always tried to avoid talking about politics on dates, but this might have been the exception to the rule because he’d never had a date go better. At one point, while Violet was talking about the price of HIV medication being increased, she met his eyes and said, "can you imagine how hard that must be for those patients" while touching the top of his hand. He nodded and agreed, but the way she looked he would have agreed even if she’d made the point that HIV medication was too cheap--she was magnetic in her resolve.By the time she excused herself to the bathroom, Brian had to exhale to release the tension that had built up in him. He really liked her, and he felt like she liked him. Finally something was working out in his dating life. He looked back out at the bar and had a new perspective on the dates happening around him. Maybe those two women loved each other so much they didn't care who bought drinks. Maybe the lurching guy was saying something the small woman was interested in. Maybe the old man who was on the date with the extremely young woman...well that one continued to seem a little weird, but still. He suddenly realized that the young woman next to him was showing the old man something on her phone. “Look, someone got shot outside Dodger Stadium,” the young woman said, turning the phone to the man, who shook his head in disappointment. Brian considered how close he was to Dodgers stadium, but his train of thought was interrupted by a loud, shrill beeping noise. It sounded like an Amber Alert, but when Bryan turned he saw that it was an emergency broadcast on the television. The screen had gone black with white writing on it that read, "Suspect of terrorist attack at large in Echo Park. Be on the lookout for--""Hey!" Violet said. Brian turned abruptly to see her standing in front of the table."Hey? What's up?" Brian stammered. She did not take her seat, and her eyes scanned the patio. The game was back on but the crowd shifted nervously now, looking from side to side and talking to one another."Do you want to get another drink?" Brian asked.“Attention everyone!” The music stopped as the bartender suddenly shouted, “Were closing early, Police have declared a state of emergency. Sorry for the inconvenience, settle up your tabs and please file out the front.There was a commotion throughout the bar, people who were watching the game booed, but all the same they shuffled up to the bar and paid their tabs. Brian was deflated, but it was typical. He felt nothing ever worked out for him when it came to dating, and now, just as a genuinely beautiful woman was starting to take an interest in him, there was a state of emergency. Brian reached for his wallet and put thirty dollars on the table.“Well, that was a quick date. Wanna call it?”"No, I want to go somewhere else. Back to my place?" She said, smiling, “did you orchestrate this terrorist attack to try and rush the date along?”Brian swallowed hard. He didn't know why they were evacuating, Bar Bandidi was an unlikely target for anything except a pop up spoken poetry night, but the thought of taking Violet back to her place excited him so much he could start doing cartwheels."Want me to drive?" Brian asked."Yes, yes I do, let's go."Brian fumbled to put his wallet back in his pocket as Violet grabbed her purse, turned, and mad

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