Seeing Other People

I’m joined by my longtime friend Sarah and her husband Ben to talk about what happens when the people closest to you don’t support your relationship. We start with how they met and their very different religious journeys, then get into navigating outside opinions, value clashes, and major life changes while choosing each other anyway. Sarah shares what it was like to trust her own voice when friends and family pushed back, and Ben opens up about staying grounded through it all. @sarahtaplin @bentaplin @exhibitivartALL links here (links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. If you’re looking for the perfect gift for your Valentine or yourself, the SKIMS Valentine’s Shop is now open.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Author and British Vogue dating columnist Annie Lord joins the podcast to talk about heartbreak, healing, and what actually happens after a long-term relationship ends. We unpack the pain no one prepares you for, why “moving on” isn’t about erasing the past, and how breakups can force massive personal growth. Annie opens up about identity loss, avoidant dating patterns, modern dating burnout, and what she’s learned from writing Notes on Heartbreak — a book that takes heartbreak seriously instead of trying to fix it.ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on Cohosts for Life, we talk about being in a season where friends are moving out of the city, buying homes, and stepping into new phases of life, while we’re still in New York figuring out what comes next. We unpack how friendships change with distance, how to stay close when you no longer share a zip code, and the mix of sadness and excitement that comes with watching people move on. Plus, adult hobbies, major gratitude, a big career update for Ilana, race sign-ups chaos, and more.ALL links here (links, submit a question, dating coaching, PP fundraiser & more) Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. If you’re looking for the perfect gift for your Valentine or yourself, the SKIMS Valentine’s Shop is now open.Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

TW: this episode includes discussion of disordered eating and body image. Please take care while listening. I’m joined by Alana Paris, who opens up about her experience with GLP-1 medications and how the changes to her body have deeply impacted her confidence, dating life, and relationships. We talk about food noise, body image, dating avoidance, navigating vulnerability with new partners, and what it looks like to show up for dating when you finally feel at home in yourself.Follow Alana's journey on Instagram @alana_paris and TikTok @alana_parisALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this solo episode, I answer a few listener questions that all point to the same thing: why dating feels so confusing right now. I talk about how to stop hoping potential will turn into effort when someone’s energy changes, how to figure out which dating “rules” actually matter, and how to tell the difference between needing a break from dating and giving up out of burnout. I also explain why sending texts to the group chat for interpretation often creates more confusion, how to create clarity instead, and what to pay attention to when you’re unsure.ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on Cohosts, we dive into a debate about which anniversaries actually matter once you’re married. We also answer a listener question about five great dates followed by sudden uncertainty, what it really means when someone says they “need to think,” and how to handle it without spiraling or settling. Plus: social media chaos, internet trends we don’t understand, surprise date planning for friends, and why timing and communication matter so much in dating and relationships.ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Liv Schreiber is back on the podcast, and we’re getting real about dating, love, and connection after the wedding glow fades. From meeting people IRL and surviving dating burnout to choosing the right partner when life gets hard, Liv shares the lessons that actually matter. We talk green flags, why opposites work, and why being yourself beats playing it cool—plus bold takes on weddings, money, friendships, and the pressure to do things “the right way.”ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m joined by Sunny, a Syracuse junior who’s doing it all — media, Greek life, friendships, and dating — and somehow staying deeply self-aware through it. We get real about college dating culture, situationships, exclusivity, and how proximity can blur the line between liking someone and just being attached. Sunny opens up about toxic dynamics, knowing when to walk away, and learning to choose herself before a relationship.ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on Cohosts for Life, Jake and I catch up on a very full week from our 20 week challenge updates to Barkley’s unexpected ER visit, my first real ski trip in years, and why I am now determined to get Jake on the mountain. We also talk content burnout, engagement slumps, and a listener dating follow-up. I'm matching donations this week for Planned Parenthood of Greater NY! https://fundraisers.nyrr.org/idsALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Brandon, from the episode “How to Not Lose Hope That Your Person Is Still Out There,” is back today to share what’s shifted since we last spoke. We talk about dating in your late 30s after divorce, dating app burnout, asking someone out in real life, and the quiet pressure of timelines around marriage and kids. Brandon opens up about holding hope while preparing for different futures, redefining success, and learning how to build a meaningful life—even when it doesn’t look the way you imagined.ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Chris Moore, psychology professor and author of The Power of Guilt, to unpack why guilt shows up so intensely in dating, friendships, and relationships, and why it’s not always a bad thing. We talk about the difference between guilt and shame, why women tend to feel guilt more deeply, how guilt can keep us stuck in dating situations longer than we should, and when it’s actually a signal for healthy relationship repair versus something to let go of. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

 Jake and I talk through our 20-week challenges, from ambitious reading goals to posting trial reels and what consistency actually looks like in real life. I open up about my ongoing social media identity questions, the pressure to “pick a lane.” Plus, we answer listener questions, including mixed signals after a first date, getting ghosted, deciding if you’re ready for a dog while single, and navigating a potential relationship with someone mid-career pivot. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Blair West joins me to talk about timing, chemistry, and what actually makes a relationship last. We get into slow burns, dating someone who isn’t “ready,” and how to protect your heart without closing it off. Blair shares her real-life love story—from college crush to marriage—and what partnership looks like beyond the honeymoon phase. This one’s about choosing someone who shows up when life gets hard, not just when it’s fun. Follow Blair on IG @_blair_west and TT @blairwest113ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I’m joined by Liz Woods to talk about love, long-term relationships, and what it’s really like to grow up with your partner instead of dating around. We get into meeting your person young, navigating years of long distance, and how friendships shift when you’re the only one not in the dating trenches. Liz shares what she’s learned watching her single friends date, why being “chosen” matters more than chemistry, and what actually makes a relationship last. Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this conversation will make you rethink how we define relationship success.ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this week's Cohosts For Life ep, we’re sharing a recent conversation about mental load, showing up differently in a relationship, and what it actually means to “step up.” Jake takes the lead on the mic as we talk about unlearning old patterns, sharing the doing, and why small, intentional actions matter more than big promises. We also introduce our new 20-week challenge: one hard thing each week, on purpose. From deleting social apps and waking up early to cooking all meals at home, journaling daily, and pushing ourselves out of autopilot. DM us or drop a Spotify comment of more challenge ideas you have. ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s the first episode of 2026 and we’re starting with a real conversation about dating, happiness, and letting go of the timeline we thought we were on. Stella Stephanopoulos joins me to talk about being single without spiraling, why wanting a relationship isn’t the same as needing one, and what dating actually looks like when you stop chasing validation. We get into red flags, confidence, approaching people IRL, and why building a full life comes first. If you’re entering the new year single and questioning everything, this one’s for you.ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In our annual end-of-year episode, Camila Vola turns the mic on me for an honest reflection on a year defined by slowing down. We talk about career pressure, burnout, marathon setbacks, marriage, and the tension between real impact and chasing numbers. I share what I learned about boundaries, growth, and choosing meaning over metrics, plus the dating advice I’d give my single self going into 2026.ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEHead to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this iconic Cohosts episode, we’re sharing your parents’ unreal meet-cute stories — from subway run-ins and blind dates to bars, churches, dorms, and everything in between. We also prep you for the biggest dating app day of 2026 with practical, low-pressure tips to help you show up intentionally without burning yourself out. Finally, we recap the first few days of our Florida visit with our parents and settling into vacation mode.Get $10 off your Brick with this linkALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLERedefine your standard of health. Secure 20% off your order and begin your intentional wellness journey today at Piquelife.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jen Lauren is back for an honest conversation about what really happens after the wedding hype fades. Jen opens up about the emotional side of wedding planning, navigating family dynamics, money, and boundaries, and why the process can feel more traumatic than anyone prepares you for. We also talk running, wellness trends that are overrated, and what actually matters when you’re searching for your person.ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEHead to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I’m joined by Lena Sisco, former military interrogator and author of The 13 Power Moves of Dark Psychology, to break down how to spot lies, manipulation, and red flags early—especially in dating. We talk about why confidence can be misleading, how manipulators control conversations, and the subtle signs someone is lying or withholding information. Lena shares practical tools for dating apps, first dates, and relationships, including when to trust your gut, what questions to ask, and when walking away is the safest choice.ALL links here ( links, submit a question, dating coaching & more) Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/seeingotherpeople #rulapod Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEHead to https://www.tryfum.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get your free gift with purchase, and start The Good Habit today! If you’re thinking about pregnancy or already on that journey, don’t settle for less than evidence-based support. My listeners get early access to Ritual’s Black Friday sale — 40% off your first month at Ritual.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.