Ready For Love with Hilary Silver

Think you’re “too much,” “too independent,” or “too intimidating” for love? You’re not. You’re just done playing small! In this episode, Hilary Silver sits down with Ready for Love grad Kara Judd, a powerhouse executive who finally got honest about what was really holding her back in relationships. Kara opens up about how she stopped blaming her success, her height, and her “strong personality,” and started doing the deeper work, rewriting the stories that kept her settling for less. Now she’s in a healthy, equal relationship built on respect, communication, and growth. This isn’t a fairy tale, it’s what happens when you heal your patterns and show up as your real self. Episode Highlights: Why accomplished women still feel insecure in love How subconscious beliefs shape attraction and dating patterns Kara’s process for rewriting old stories and showing up differently What a truly equal relationship looks like after doing the work Why being “too much” is actually your greatest strength The difference between being chosen and choosing yourself Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Kara’s Love Story and Dating Breakthrough 03:10 How Childhood Beliefs Sabotage Love 05:26 The Wake-Up Moment That Changed Everything 08:45 Attracting a High-Quality Man After Healing 12:30 Boundaries, Space, and Real Connection 15:22 From Self-Sabotage to Self-Worth 18:44 How Confidence Changes Love 21:10 Real Love Starts with Self-Honesty Tune in and find out what really changes when you stop settling and start showing up fully. ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply Connect With Kara Judd: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kara-judd-4477a01/ Cozy Earth: Luxurious Bedding Up to 40% Off + 100-Night Sleep Trial Use Promo Code: READYFORLOVE AirDoctor: The Trusted Air Purifier for a Healthier Home Use Promo Code: READY Up to $300 off + Free 3-Year Warranty Exclusive Podcast Offer

When a man keeps you half chosen and half confused, the real problem isn’t his hesitation but the part of you willing to wait for it! Ever been strung along by a man who gives just enough to keep you hopeful but never enough to give you certainty? One day he’s all charm and chemistry, the next he’s conveniently unavailable? You start analyzing his behavior like a crime scene. Does he have trauma? Is it timing? Is it me? Hilary calls BS! In this episode, Hilary dismantles the obsession with figuring him out and asks a better question: Why are you waiting for someone who won’t choose you fully? Mixed signals are signals. If it only feels good when he’s present but wrecks your peace when he’s gone, that’s not romance — that’s chaos dressed as potential. And if you’re tolerating crumbs, playing it cool, or bending your boundaries just to keep him around, you’re accidentally auditioning for the role of “almost enough.” Hilary’s message is blunt but liberating: stop chasing clarity from him and start demanding consistency for yourself. You don’t need closure, you need standards. So ask yourself, are you in a relationship or just holding space for someone who hasn’t decided? And if you stopped waiting on his decision, what would yours be? Episode Highlights: Why “understanding him” is just a distraction from reclaiming your own power What mixed signals in dating are actually telling you How pick-me energy sabotages real commitment Signs you’re emotionally unavailable too The mindset shift that ends situationships for good Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Women Stay Stuck in Non-Committal Relationships 01:34 The Trap of Overanalyzing His Mixed Signals 03:18 Emotional Burnout from Chasing Clarity 04:21 How to Evaluate a Relationship Beyond Chemistry 05:24 The Hidden Cost of Self-Betrayal and Pick-Me Energy 07:31 When You’re the One Afraid of Commitment 09:17 Shifting from Waiting to Self-Ownership 10:00 Final Call to Stop Settling ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

When you’ve been single for 13 years, “I’m fine” starts sounding a lot like “I’ve given up.” Kimberly was successful on paper, but she was quietly miserable off it. Between perimenopause, work burnout, and pandemic isolation, she’d convinced herself she was too busy (and too jaded) for love. Then she found Ready for Love, and everything shifted.  She thought she was signing up to find love. Happily, she found herself in the process. In this episode, Kimberly gets raw about forgiving herself after an affair, dropping decades of shame, and learning what real emotional maturity looks like. She shares how doing the work helped her move cities, meet her partner (again), and launch her own consulting business with actual self-trust. Now she’s living proof: self-love isn’t a backup plan, it’s the whole plan. Episode Highlights: Why independence can be emotional armor in disguise The real reason self-forgiveness changes everything What “doing the work” actually looks like when it sticks How loving yourself first changes your love life and your career The secret to attracting love that feels calm, not chaotic Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Finding Love by Loving Yourself First 00:22 13 Years Single and Ready for Change 05:53 Healing Shame and Rebuilding Self-Worth 07:58 How Attachment Styles Impact Relationships 11:40 Meeting Her Partner and Creating Healthy Love 16:02 From Self-Love to Career Confidence 17:50 Why Investing in Yourself Always Pays Off ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

If you’re a woman who can run circles around most humans — yet still finds herself scheduling her partner’s appointments, tracking his moods, or generally keeping his life stitched together — congratulations, you’re unofficially in man-keeping mode. Hilary is calling it out the silent epidemic of high-achieving women accidentally becoming their partner’s project manager instead of their partner. Spoiler: nothing kills attraction faster than turning romance into a daycare. But rather than blaming men, she hands the steering wheel back to us. How much of this dynamic exists because we keep jumping in? What happens if you stop over-functioning and let him rise,  or reveal that he won’t? This episode is a wake-up call for every woman who’s tired of being needed more than she’s cherished. Because you don’t need another job title. You need a partner who carries his own weight without being micromanaged. Episode Highlights: The real reason competent women keep ending up in mothering roles How “helping” becomes control disguised as care Why boundaries are sexier than over-giving The one-liner that stops you from taking on his “we should” ideas How to instantly shift the power dynamic without drama or nagging Episode Breakdown: 00:00 What Is Man-Keeping? 01:09 When You Start Feeling Like His Mom 02:33 The Real Fix: Change Your Own Patterns 06:25 Stop Overfunctioning and Set Boundaries 07:27 Flip the “We Should” Script 11:08 Love Is Partnership, Not Parenting ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

If you’ve ever rejected a man because his name annoyed you… this episode is for you.   Hilary sits down with award-winning interior designer and unapologetic former love-skeptic Meryl Stern, who admits she once dismissed perfectly good men for crimes like “bad vibes” and “unfortunate first names.” (Her words.) But beneath all that discernment? A woman hiding behind a beautifully curated emotional wall.   Inside Ready for Love, Meryl didn’t just “work on herself” — she resigned from decades-old childhood roles, stopped earning love by overgiving, and rewired her identity from martyring do-it-all to woman who actually receives. Now, she runs a luxury design firm with her daughter, just completed a 12,000 sq ft project featured in Architectural Digest, and treats dating the same way she treats client selection: You don’t pick me. I pick YOU.   She’s single, self-possessed, and fully uninterested in settling, which, around here, counts as a success story. Episode Highlights: When “I’m just independent” is actually code for I don’t trust myself to choose well Why nitpicking men is just fear in fancy clothes The homework assignment that broke her identity wide open How healing self-worth bleeds into business, leadership, and money Dating rule #1: You don’t get picked—you pick   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Meet award-winning designer & RFL alum Meryl 02:00 The moment she realized her “independence” was actually a wall 05:40 How journaling cracked her open 08:10 The resignation letter that rewired her self-image 12:30 Building a business with her daughter (without killing each other) 16:45 Her three-year AD-featured dream project 18:50 Current relationship status? Selectively single 20:30 The real measure of success: Would the old you tolerate this?   ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.   ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?    🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass   💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Ever seen those videos promising to “make him obsessed with you in 5 texts” or “7 tricks to make a man worship you like a queen”? Yeah… Hilary’s not having it.   This week, she’s calling BS on the toxic, clickbait dating advice flooding YouTube. From “dark psychology” tactics to straight-up patriarchal conditioning, this advice is designed to manipulate women, keep them second-guessing themselves, and—let’s be honest—get them to buy something.   Hilary breaks down four reasons why these tactics are not just wrong but harmful—and why they’ll never lead to real love. Instead, she gives you the only dating advice you’ll ever need: trust yourself. When you stop twisting yourself into a pretzel to please men, you stop attracting the wrong ones and start naturally attracting the right one.   If you’re tired of playing games and ready to finally show up as the woman you actually are (and be loved for it), this episode is your wake-up call.   Episode Highlights: Why “clickbait” dating advice is built on manipulation, not empowerment The four major problems with toxic, prescriptive dating tactics How inauthenticity sabotages real connection (and yourself in the process) Why advice centered on him keeps women stuck in patriarchal conditioning The simple, powerful truth: trusting yourself is the only dating advice you’ll ever need   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Worst Dating Advice for Women 01:39 Dark Psychology Tactics in Dating Advice 03:05 How Manipulation Backfires in Relationships 04:20 Prescriptive Advice vs. Trusting Yourself 05:14 Why Man-Centered Dating Advice Hurts Women 06:08 The Only Dating Advice You’ll Ever Need 06:39 Ready for Love’s Authentic Approach   ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?    Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass   Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Lori Young, a Ready for Love alum, decided she was done settling for crumbs of affection, heartbreak, and controlling men. Instead of buying the couch she’d been saving for, Lori put that money into herself—and it changed everything. In this conversation with me, Lori shares how she broke old patterns, stopped confusing drama for chemistry, and learned to ask for what she actually wanted. Today she’s married to a secure, steady partner, thriving in her career, and bold enough to run for city council. If you’ve ever found yourself replaying the same relationship story and wondering why nothing changes, Lori’s story will challenge you to ask: when are you going to stop playing small and finally invest in yourself?   Episode Highlights: The Saturday night moment that pushed Lori to finally say “enough” Why investing in yourself is smart money The Chinese finger trap metaphor that freed her from control games How to stop chasing fireworks and start choosing safe, steady love   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Meet Lori Young 02:53 The Journey to Self-discovery 05:55 Investing in Yourself 08:52 Lessons from the Ready For Love Program 12:09 Embracing New Opportunities 14:57 Navigating New Relationships 17:49 Finding Authenticity 21:04 Celebrating Growth and Success 23:57 The Power of Community 26:58 Fearless, Unafraid, Unintimidated   ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.   ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

You can spend thousands on a matchmaker or swipe until your thumbs go numb, but if you keep running into the same disappointing patterns, the real question isn’t “where are all the good men?” The real question is how are you showing up when you meet them? In this episode, Hilary unpacks why so many smart, successful women struggle in love even when everything looks perfect on the outside. Ghosting, mismatches, and one-sided relationships aren’t the problem themselves—they’re signals of something deeper. When self-doubt, fear, or insecurity color your energy, the wrong men move closer and the right ones step away. So how do you stop chasing quick fixes and instead become the woman who naturally attracts the kind of love you want? Hilary shares why identity work—not dating hacks—is the real key, and what changes when you finally treat yourself as the priority first.   Episode Highlights: Why spending money on a matchmaker rarely fixes the real issue The “tree” metaphor that explains dating struggles at the root level How self-doubt and fear act like a magnet for the wrong men What high-quality men actually notice (and what makes them turn away) Why identity work is more powerful than any dating tactic   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Matchmaker Myth 01:05 The Real Problem: Who You’re Being 02:31 The Tree Analogy of Dating Patterns 06:01 Why You Attract the Wrong Men 09:09 Identity Work and Self-Worth 10:54 Why Matchmakers Fail 13:00 Becoming Your Future Self   ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.   ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

If you’ve ever blamed your single status on men being “intimidated,” it’s time for a reality check. That story might feel good at the moment, but it’s keeping you from the very connection you want. In this episode, Hilary calls BS on the idea that your success is the reason love hasn’t worked out. With 25 years of experience coaching powerhouse women, she breaks down what’s really going on when you hear that “intimidating” feedback. Spoiler: it’s less about men being scared and more about the energy you’re putting out. Hilary shows how many women hide their softer, more vulnerable sides behind achievements, creating a vibe that feels aloof or unapproachable. The good news? You don’t have to shrink your brilliance to find love—you just need to integrate the strong and the soft so you can be powerful and open.   Episode Highlights: Why “men are intimidated by me” is a story that keeps women stuck What’s really happening when you hear that feedback on dates How success can become a shield that hides your softer side The vibe that comes across as guarded or unapproachable Why you don’t need to shrink your achievements to attract love The key to integrating strength and vulnerability so connection can grow   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The “Men Are Intimidated by Me” Myth 01:50 Why Mainstream Advice on Intimidation Misses the Point 03:57 The Tootsie Pop Analogy: Tough Exterior, Soft Inside 04:29 Hiding Behind Success and Achievements 05:41 How to Integrate Strength and Vulnerability 07:15 Breaking Free and Inviting Love In   If you’re tired of hiding behind your résumé and ready to let love in, this episode is your wake-up call. ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass

Wanting love and being ready for it aren’t the same thing. You might be on the apps, going on dates, even hiring a matchmaker—but if you keep finding yourself in the cycle of “hot and heavy” followed by fade and fizzle, the problem may be pacing. In this episode, Hilary unpacks the anxious dating behaviors that push love away and she lays out five concrete ways to date with emotional security rather than a sense of urgency. From keeping your schedule intact, to knowing when to hold back on texting or intimacy, Hilary shows you how to stop spiraling into fantasy and start building real connection—without losing yourself in the process. If you’ve ever skipped Pilates to wait for his call, or decided you were all-in by the third date, this conversation is your reset.    Episode Highlights: Wanting love vs. actually being ready for it — why they’re not the same The role of pacing and how falling too fast sabotages connection Matching his effort, not his potential, to avoid heartbreak   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Are You Really Ready for Love? 03:27 The Pitfalls of Falling Too Fast 04:52 Five Ways Women Date with Confidence 05:03 Tip 1: Stay Focused on Your Own Life 06:05 Tip 2: Keep Early Dates Short and Intentional 07:08 Tip 3: Match His Effort, Not His Potential 07:51 Tip 4: Delay Physical Intimacy 09:15 Tip 5: Don't Build a Bond Over Text 10:08 Attracting Emotionally Available Men   Healthy, emotionally available men are attracted to confidence, patience, and balance—not eagerness or desperation. Date from security, and you’ll naturally filter out the wrong men while attracting the ones who are truly ready.   ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.   👉 Watch Hilary’s free masterclass: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass Or apply for a free breakthrough call with her team at https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Most women I talk to over 40, 50, and 60 say the same thing: “I never thought I’d be here, dating at this stage of life.” And let’s be honest, midlife dating often gets a bad rap. But the truth? It can be the BEST time in your life to find real love… if you know how to approach it. In this episode, we talk about why dating now can be easier, more authentic, and more fulfilling than ever—and how shifting your perspective can change everything.   Episode Highlights: Why dating now can feel easier and more authentic than ever The freedom that comes from wanting—not needing—a partner How showing up as your true self changes who you attract Why self-acceptance is magnetic How trusting yourself shapes every choice you make in love   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Dating Over 50: Why It’s the Best Time for Love   00:53 Meet Hilary  01:47 Midlife Dating Truths   02:07  Reason 1: Maturity & Clarity   03:44 Reason 2: Desire, Not Need   05:08 Reason 3: Authentic Self   07:06 Reason 4: Confidence & Magnetism   08:52 Reason 5: Self-Trust & Boundaries 10:28 Why It’s Never Too Late for Love     Dating now isn’t about chasing chemistry or proving your worth—it’s about finding a true, equal partnership that adds to your already beautiful life.   ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. 🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

Blind spots can quietly wreck your dating life long before you realize they’re there. And for high-achieving women, they’re sneaky. You can be doing all the “right” things on paper and still keep ending up with the wrong men—or no men at all. Hilary’s breaking down the four biggest ones she sees over and over again. Are you sending mixed signals without realizing it? Mistaking career confidence for genuine self-worth? Letting yourself be chosen instead of actually choosing? Or telling yourself you’re “working on it” when nothing has actually changed? Each blind spot comes with a hard truth and a way forward. And once you see them, you can’t unsee them—which is exactly how you stop getting in your own way.   Episode Highlights: Why mixed signals can repel the kind of partner you actually want The difference between situational confidence and genuine self-worth How “being chosen” keeps you stuck in relationships that don’t fit The myth that dating is a numbers game (and what really works) Why self-awareness is the fastest way to change your love life   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 How Blind Spots Block Love 01:04 Hilary Silver and Ready for Love 01:36 Blind Spot #1: Ambivalence in Dating 04:15 Blind Spot #2: Low Self-Worth in High Achievers 07:04 Blind Spot #3: Waiting to Be Chosen 09:23 Blind Spot #4: Hoping Love Just Happens 12:22 How to Attract the Love You Want   Ready to stop being your own biggest obstacle?  Apply for a call with Hilary’s team to see if Ready for Love is the right fit for you: hillarysilver.com/apply

He disappears. No explanation, no closure, just gone. And you’re left questioning everything: Did I do something wrong? Was any of it even real? In this episode, Hilary calls out the emotional whiplash of ghosting and gives you three power moves to shift out of helplessness and back into your worth. And no,  it’s not about getting answers from him, it’s about giving closure to yourself. If you’ve ever been left on read and spiraled into doubt, this conversation is your emotional reset.   Episode Highlights: Why ghosting feels like betrayal, even if it wasn’t serious The trap of psychoanalyzing him (and how it keeps you stuck) Three power moves to stop the spiral and reclaim your self-worth How to make peace with the ending, without needing his permission   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Pain of Being Ghosted 02:53 Why Trying to Understand Him Keeps You Stuck 05:11 Power Move #1: Take Inventory Without Self-Blame 06:17 Power Move #2: Detach Your Worth From His Behavior 09:02 Power Move #3: Redefine the Experience and Reclaim Closure 11:20 How to Heal and What Comes Next   Being ghosted doesn’t mean you’re not worthy. It means he couldn’t meet you where you are. And thank God he’s gone before you invested any more of yourself. 💻 Watch Hilary’s free masterclass:  https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass/ 💖 Apply for a breakthrough call: http://hilarysilver.com/apply

You’ve got your life together: thriving career, financial independence, emotional intelligence, and yet your love life? A hot mess of emotionally unavailable, underemployed, or unstable men. What gives? In this episode, Hilary calls it like it is: this pattern isn’t about the men. It’s about you. More specifically, your subconscious beliefs, unresolved self-worth issues, and fear of real intimacy. Hilary breaks down 7 brutally honest reasons smart, successful women keep dating down—and how to stop. From choosing men who need you so they won’t leave, to settling for “projects” instead of partners, she gets to the root of why high-achieving women sabotage their own love lives.   Episode Highlights: Why you freeze (or flee) when a high-quality man actually shows up How caretaking can be a way of earning love when you don’t believe you’re enough The hidden fears that drive you to choose men who feel “safe” but drain you Why identity work, not another dating strategy, is the real key to change   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Smart Women Keep Dating Down 01:25 What “Dating Down” Really Means 03:10 Reason #1: Feeling Not Good Enough 05:06 Reason #2: Tying Your Worth to Being Needed 07:03 Reason #3: Fear of Abandonment 10:15 Reason #5: Fear of Real Intimacy 14:29 Reason #7: Dating from Loneliness 16:03 How to Break the Pattern for Good   Hilary doesn’t just name the problem, she offers the way out. Because when you stop outsourcing your worth, everything shifts. Want the kind of love that matches the rest of your success? Start by becoming the version of you who actually believes she deserves it. 🔗 Learn more about Hilary’s Ready for Love program: http://hilarysilver.com/apply

Everyone’s suddenly an expert on attachment styles. Anxious, avoidant, disorganized—it’s all over your feed, and maybe even your therapist’s office. But here’s the truth: if you’re trying to use attachment theory to decode every date and relationship, it’s keeping you stuck. In this episode, Hilary is  breaking down why obsessing over your (and his) attachment style is doing more harm than good, and what actually matters when you’re looking for real love. If you’re a smart, self-aware woman who’s done the work but still isn’t seeing results in your love life, this might be why. Because knowing better doesn’t automatically mean doing better. And the answer isn’t more information—it’s radical self-trust, embodied confidence, and knowing how to assess how a relationship feels instead of overthinking why someone acts the way they do.   Episode Highlights: Why therapy, books, and expert advice often lead to “knowing better but not doing better” The trap of over-intellectualizing your love life What to look for in a relationship that actually matters How long-term love evolves, and why labels won’t help you grow it   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Attachment Styles Are Keeping You Single 02:21 Information Doesn’t Equal Transformation 04:46 The Problem with Overthinking and Intellectualizing Love 06:06 The Danger of Labeling Your Partner (or Yourself) 08:02 What a Healthy Relationship Actually Looks Like 09:16 Stop Fixating on Him, Focus on You   If you're ready to stop psychoanalyzing every text and start showing up as the woman who knows what she wants and how to get it—this episode is for you. 🎧 Watch the free masterclass: https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass/ 📞 Apply for a call with our team: https://hilarysilver.com/apply/ 🔗 Ready for More Membership Waitlist → https://hilarysilver.com/waitlist/

You’ve got the career, the confidence, the killer heels… so why are all the men you're meeting either emotionally unavailable, totally underwhelming, or gone after two dates? Here’s the hard truth: It’s not about them. It’s about you. Not because you’re broken or “too much”, but because there’s a disconnect between the woman you look like on the outside and the one you’re being on the inside. And good men? They can feel that.   Episode Highlights: The subconscious beliefs sabotaging your love life (yep, even if you’re “putting yourself out there”) Why men aren’t intimidated by your success, they’re turned off by your walls The hidden ways your self-talk is killing your vibe And what it really takes to attract a healthy, high-caliber man   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why You’re Not Meeting Good Men 03:04 The Myth of the Secret Place Men Are Hiding 04:17 Reason #1: Limiting Beliefs Are Repelling Love 05:31 Reason #2: Fear of Intimacy and Vulnerability 08:01 Reason #3: Looking High-Value on the Outside, Not Inside 10:08 You Must Become the Woman Who Can Receive Love 11:44 Real-Life Stories: When Good Men Start Appearing 12:26 Stop Searching. Start Showing Up Differently   There’s no underground speakeasy of good men you haven’t been invited to. They’re all around, you just can’t see them until you become the woman who’s ready to meet them. Door #3 is waiting. But first, you’ve got to stop playing defense and start playing real. 💥 Apply for a breakthrough call: https://hilarysilver.com/apply

Ever feel like you're on date #200, with the same guy? In this episode, Hilary breaks down emotional unavailability for what it actually is: a lack of real intimacy. If you're attracting men who can't go deep, there's a reason. And it may have more to do with you than you think. For high-functioning women especially, this is a sneaky blind spot. You might be warm, flirty, and fun—but still totally guarded. You might talk about your emotions, but not feel them in real time. And that performative intimacy? It’s what keeps real connection out of reach.   Episode Highlights: Why emotional unavailability isn’t just a “man” problem The two biggest reasons people avoid true intimacy The subtle difference between being expressive and actually being emotionally available How to finally break the pattern by turning inward   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why “200 First Dates” Is a Red Flag 01:51 What Emotional Availability Actually Means 02:45 Fear of Vulnerability and Rejection 04:19 Emotional Expression Is a Learnable Skill 06:06 Why Surface-Level Connection Isn’t Enough 08:04 How to Break the Pattern for Good   If you’re done settling for surface-level connections—or being the one who always “catches feelings” first—this is the episode for you. 💥 Ready to stop the cycle for good? Watch Hilary’s free masterclass for high-achieving women who want real, lasting love → http://hilarysilver.com/masterclass 🔗 Ready for More Membership Waitlist → https://hilarysilver.com/waitlist/

You saw the red flags. You felt the gut punch. And still, you stayed. If you’ve ever looked back on a relationship and thought, “How did I miss that?”, this episode is for you. Hilary breaks down why smart, high-achieving women override their instincts—not because they’re clueless, but because they want love so badly they talk themselves out of what they already know. The chemistry was strong. The checklist looked good. And he did have potential. So you minimized, rationalized, and convinced yourself it wasn’t that bad… until it was.   Episode Highlights: What happens when logic wins out over emotion (and why that’s not always a good thing) The quiet ways high-functioning women betray themselves in love How “I see the good in people” becomes a self-sabotaging mantra Why your discomfort is more trustworthy than you think The link between intuition and emotional fluency How to stop brushing off the ick and start paying attention to it   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Recognizing Relationship Red Flags 02:29 Reason 1: Desire for the Ideal Relationship 04:15 Reason 2: Disconnection from Emotions 06:05 Reason 3: Seeing Only the Good in People 08:09 Understanding and Trusting Yourself 09:23 Finding the Sweet Spot in Relationships   Whether you're single and hopeful or already in a relationship, this conversation will challenge how you listen to your instincts, manage discomfort, and define what “being a good person” actually means. Ready to stop turning the wrong man into the right one? Start by learning how to trust yourself again. Watch Hilary’s free masterclass for high-achieving women who are done ignoring red flags and ready to choose differently.  👇 Get it Now! 🔗 Free Masterclass for Single Women → http://hilarysilver.com/masterclass 🔗 Ready for More Membership Waitlist → https://hilarysilver.com/waitlist/

If you’ve been told to "just be more feminine" to attract a high-quality man—this episode is your permission slip to roll your eyes and delete that advice forever. In this episode, Hilary unpacks the real meaning of feminine energy for strong, high-functioning women who are tired of being told to play small. She’s calling BS on the idea that you need to be more “demure,” wear more pink, or act helpless so a man can feel useful. (Spoiler: You don’t.)   Episode Highlights: Why the “let him take the lead” narrative is secretly sabotaging your love life What feminine energy actually looks like when you’re powerful, grounded, and self-sourced The childhood beliefs that locked you into over-functioning and under-receiving One 30-second shift to move from drive into flow (no crystals required) Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Feminine Energy Myths 01:37 Misconception #1:You need to Let Men Help You 02:15 Misconception #2:You Need to be Demure 03:31 The Deeper Truth About Feminine Energy 05:20 Becoming Magnetic in Love 06:36 Queens Don’t Chase   Ready to stop playing damsel and start sitting on your damn throne?  👇 GET STARTED: 🔗 Free Masterclass for Single Women → http://www.hilarysilver.com/masterclass 🔗 Ready for More Membership Waitlist → https://hilarysilver.com/waitlist/ 🎥 Watch Next: The Over 40 Glow Up → https://youtu.be/9tcA0E1uFAE

They run companies, manage households, juggle a million responsibilities—and still find themselves accepting the bare minimum in love. Why? In this Summer of Love kickoff, Hilary calls out the quiet epidemic of high-achieving women settling for less in their relationships. From doing all the emotional labor to accepting the bare minimum in return, Hilary spells out what “crumbs” really look like, and why so many women accept them without even realizing it. The truth? Starving women eat crumbs. If you’ve spent a lifetime feeling emotionally underfed, even the smallest scrap of affection can feel like a meal. But that won’t get you the love you want, and it’s not your fault. The fix? Stop looking outward, and start filling yourself up from within. If you’re ready to quit the chase and start receiving real love, this episode is your wake-up call.   Episode Highlights: The subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs you're accepting crumbs Why blaming men misses the point entirely How emotional deprivation starts early—and shows up in dating The difference between chasing love and attracting it What it actually takes to become the woman who won’t settle   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why Strong Women Settle for Crumbs in Love [00:56] Signs You're Settling for Less in Relationships [02:10] How It Feels When You Accept Less Than You Deserve [03:01] The Real Problem Isn't Him—It's You [04:07] How Early Experiences Shape Your Standards [05:32] The Solution: Heal, Fill, and Stop Settling [07:10] Learn How to Get What You Want   Stop chasing scraps and start receiving the whole damn cake. Hilary shows you how to go from starving to self-fed—and why you are the only one who can do it. 🔗 Ready to quit settling and attract real love? Grab Hilary’s free masterclass: https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass