The Healing Childhood Trauma Podcast

In this episode of The Healing Childhood Trauma Podcast, we explore five subtle but powerful signs that unresolved childhood trauma may still be affecting your emotional wellbeing, relationships, and sense of self today.You’ll learn how early experiences influence adult self-worth, emotional reactions, and recurring life patterns - often in ways that are easy to miss.By the end of this episode, you’ll:Understand how childhood trauma can show up in adult life and relationshipsRecognise 5 key signs of unresolved or unhealed childhood traumaLearn why focusing only on present-day symptoms doesn’t always create lasting changeGain a simple, practical healing reflection to start breaking old patterns______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this episode, we explore why slow and steady pacing in psychotherapy often leads to deeper, safer, and more lasting healing, and how moving too quickly can sometimes make things harder rather than easier.By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to:Understand why going faster in trauma work can sometimes slow progress or increase symptomsRecognise how the nervous system responds to overwhelm and why pacing mattersLearn what titration is and how working in small, manageable doses supports healingIdentify signs that your current pace is helping - or quietly getting in the wayDevelop a more compassionate, realistic sense of how to find a pace that prioritises safety and regulationWhether you’re in therapy, considering it, or doing your own inner work, this episode offers a grounded framework for understanding how fast is actually helpful in trauma healing.______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this episode, we explore how childhood trauma affects adult relationships, and why the patterns you struggle with in intimacy, friendship, and connection often didn’t start in the present.From attachment styles and nervous system responses to people-pleasing, avoidance, and fear of abandonment, we unpack how early relational wounds quietly shape the way you love, attach, and respond to others today.By the end of this episode, you’ll:Understand how childhood trauma shows up in adult relationshipsLearn how early attachment experiences shape your attachment style todayIdentify common trauma-based relationship patterns, including anxious, avoidant, and disorganised attachmentRecognise why your nervous system reacts so strongly in moments of conflict, distance, or intimacyBegin separating past wounds from present relationshipsDiscover how healing childhood trauma can happen in relationship - not just alone______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this episode, we explore how childhood trauma creates deeply ingrained cycles of thoughts, emotions, and behaviours that can follow us into adulthood.By the end of this episode you'll be able to:Understand what trauma cycles are and how they form in childhoodRecognise why patterns that no longer serve you once had an important protective roleIdentify how these cycles show up in your nervous system and relationshipsLearn practical ways to pause, notice, and gently interrupt trauma-driven patternsBegin breaking cycles with more awareness, self-compassion, and choice______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this episode, we explore how the core beliefs we carry about ourselves in adulthood can often be formed in response to childhood trauma - not because they were true, but because they helped us survive.By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to:Understand what core beliefs are and how they form as adaptive survival responsesReframe beliefs like “I don’t matter” as protective strategies rather than personal flawsRecognise the environments that made these beliefs necessaryIdentify clear steps to help you form new core beliefs______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this episode, we explore emotional numbness - the quiet, often unseen trauma response that can shape how we think, feel, and show up in the world.We break down how numbness forms, why it once protected you, and the ways it can quietly shape your adult life today.By the end of this episode, you’ll learn:the neuroscience and psychology behind emotional numbnessthe key signs and patterns to help you recognise it in yourselfhow childhood environments contribute to itwhy numbness interferes with needs, identity, and intimacygentle, practical strategies to begin warming your emotional world back to life______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this episode, we dive deep into one of the most misunderstood trauma responses: freeze. If you’ve ever gone blank in conflict, shut down in conversations, or felt disconnected from your own life, this episode will help you understand why.By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to:Clearly understand what the freeze response is and why your body uses itRecognise how freeze shows up in your day-to-day life, from subtle shutdowns to full dissociationSee how the freeze response can be rooted in childhood trauma and shaped by early survival patternsLearn practical, gentle steps to help thaw the freeze response in your own nervous systemBegin connecting back to your body, emotions, and sense of safety. ______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this episode, we walk through the five key steps that help you finally understand how trauma has shaped you.By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to:Identify which type of trauma you’ve experiencedUnderstand the core wound that experience left in your sense of selfRecognise how trauma shows up in your body, emotions, and beliefsSpot the protective patterns that were once survival strategiesNotice your triggers and what they’re actually pointing you towardIf you’ve ever wondered “Why am I like this?” - this episode will help you connect the dots.______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this episode, we explore anger as a trauma-based fight response, helping you understand why it can feel so intense and how to begin working with it rather than against it.By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to:Understand the difference between everyday anger and a trauma-based fight responseRecognise how your body and nervous system communicate through angerIdentify the underlying wounds or unmet needs that anger may be protectingPractise four simple steps to regulate and heal your relationship with angerBegin transforming anger from a reactive defence into an informed protector______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this episode, we dive into the fascinating world of the human nervous system and why our bodies sometimes overreact, get stuck in survival mode, and how trauma can shape our nervous system responses.By the end of this episode you'll be able to:Understand the basic structure and function of the human nervous system.Recognise how trauma can impact nervous system responses.Understand your personal triggers and how these affect your nervous system.Use simple tools like the polyvagal ladder to track and understand their nervous system states.Move toward greater flexibility between nervous system states instead of being stuck in survival mode______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this episode we explore how early relational trauma shapes our sense of self - and what we can reclaim as we begin to heal.We dive into how protective adaptations like people-pleasing, perfectionism, withdrawal, or over-achieving often feel like “who we are,” and how to start reconnecting with the authentic self beneath the layers of survival.Alec also shares practical insights from therapy, including narrative and parts-based approaches, and a simple daily practice to help create space for your authentic self to emerge.This episode is for anyone wanting to understand their patterns, reclaim their voice, and reconnect with joy, creativity, and self-worth.______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this episode, we explore what it means to move from contraction to expansion after relational trauma.By the end of this episode, you’ll know:How relational trauma can show up as contraction in your body, emotions, and relationships - from slumped posture to emotional withdrawal.What contraction looks like in everyday life and why it’s often a protective response.How small, embodied moments of expansion signal that your nervous system is learning it’s safe to reconnect.Practical signs that you’re beginning to expand and healing, including noticing patterns sooner, tolerating connection, and reclaiming authenticity.A simple “Expansion Check-In” you can try at home to gently practice opening up in safe, manageable ways.______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this episode, we explore one of the deepest dilemmas many of us face after relational trauma:How do we form meaningful connection with others - when parts of ourselves are still protecting us from getting hurt?You’ll walk away with:A clearer understanding of why you relate the way you do.Insight into your own protector parts and what they might be trying to keep you safe from.And a practical healing step to begin building safer internal connection - so you can feel safer in your external onesIf you’ve ever felt lonely, stuck in patterns of disconnect, or unsure how to trust again - this episode is for you. 💛______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this episode, we’re breaking down a common misconception about trauma - that it only “counts” if it’s something dramatic or extreme. By the end of this episode you'll:Know the difference between Big T and little t traumaUnderstand how the more subtle, everyday experiences - like emotional neglect or inconsistency - can quietly shape the way we see ourselves and relate to others. Understand how unmet emotional needs in childhood can lead to long-term patterns of disconnection, self-doubt, and difficulty in relationships. And finally, we’ll end with a gentle, practical healing step that you can be integrating into your own life. If you’ve ever felt like your pain wasn’t valid because “others had it worse,” this episode is for you.______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

In this foundational episode, we unpack one of the most important questions at the heart of this series: What is relational trauma?By the end of this episode, you’ll understand:The difference between relational trauma, developmental trauma, and attachment traumaWhere and how relational trauma often develops - from families to adult relationships and workplacesThe common signs and symptoms that may actually be rooted in relational trauma (even if you didn’t recognize them as such)How relational trauma shapes our emotional patterns, attachment styles, and sense of safetyPractical healing steps you can begin to integrate into your own lifeJoin us as we unpack this important question, and begin the healing process.______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy

Episode 1: Welcome to Healing Relational TraumaIn this very first episode of Healing Relational Trauma, host Alec Williams, a psychotherapist and relational trauma specialist based in London, shares the inspiration behind the podcast and what you can expect from the journey ahead.You'll get a sense of why he created this podcast - to explore what it means to heal, connect, and live more fully after relational trauma - and what listeners can look forward to in future episodes, including expert conversations, therapeutic insights, and practical tools for everyday healing.You'll also get a sense of Alec's background working across mental health settings, his passion for trauma-informed care, and how his own experiences of growth and healing shape the way he works with others.Whether you’re curious about relational trauma, or exploring your own healing journey, this episode sets the stage for what’s ahead.______________________________🌐 Visit my website to learn more about working with me one-to-one or in groups:www.alecwilliamstherapy.co.uk✉️ Get in touch:Contact - Alec Williams Therapy📰 Join the mailing list for updates, reflections, and new episodes:Mailing List - Alec Williams Therapy