The Power of Choosing

In this episode of The Power of Choosing Podcast, the hosts explore the impact of trust and the science behind how it can help change your life. They describe trust as a felt sense of safety and relaxation. They discuss cultivating trust as a practice, especially when it feels difficult, and frame trust as both trusting yourself and trusting the universe (or God/source) as working for you, not against you.Through stories of grief after losing a parent, and a client doubting her ability to move to London despite past successes, they highlight the importance of using evidence from your life to remember you can do hard things.They also critique how marketing and parenting culture can erode self-trust, explain the nervous system benefits of trust versus threat-focused mistrust, and share a house-move example of trusting setbacks as “not meant to be”. They end with the idea that what you look for is what you see and encourage you to look for “the helpers.”Why this matters?: There is a noticeable, science proven shift when you look at things from a "trusting things will work out" mindset Challenge: use the phrase "what's the best that can happen" to help train your brain into seeing all the great things that are available to you.

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire go straight at a muscle most people don’t use nearly enough - the ability to question everything.Most of us walk around living stories we never chose. Careers. Beliefs. Roles. Parenting choices. Even what we eat for dinner. If you don’t learn to question what you’ve been handed, you’ll keep living on autopilot.In this episode:~ Why Claire left a “safe” sales career at 26 and what happened when she stopped following the expected path~ The “boiling frog” trap and how it keeps people stuck in lives they’ve outgrown~ How small questions (yes, even “What music do I actually like?”) build the muscle to question bigger things~ Why most people can’t answer “What do you want?” and what that reveals~ The power of questioning parenting advice and tuning into your own intuition~ Why starting with tiny choices builds real self-trustWhy this matters: The more you practice questioning, the more you wake up to what’s actually possible in your life and stop living someone else’s story.If you would like to get in touch with either of the hosts, you can reach us at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you.

In this episode of The Power of Choosing Podcast, the hosts talk about what to do when you feel stuck. Trudi shares how she is currently in a stuck season after a major move, life changes, and the stress of unpacked boxes while also supporting a dog through recovery.They explore the contrast between being in flow and feeling blocked, frustrated, or overwhelmed, and emphasize self-compassion, focusing on one thing at a time, and taking small, low-pressure steps to create movement.Using examples like the Camino de Santiago, going to the gym (even if it’s just showing up), writing a memoir through consistent practice, and building the podcast by recording one episode at a time, they highlight how progress comes from starting before you feel ready and letting the path unfold.They also caution against overplanning and overload—suggesting the brain can focus on one task at a time (e.g. starting with one healthy meal before aiming to overhaul your whole diet)—and remind listeners that everything they’ve achieved started with a first step.Why this matters: Because it is really easy to stay stuck but a small step can get you moving again.Challenge: Think about what a small step for you could be, and take it!If you would like to get in touch with either of the hosts, you can reach us at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you.

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire delve into the complexities of change and the emotions it can bring up.They discuss their personal experiences with major life changes, such as relocating to a different state or country, and the accompanying stress and excitement.They address the challenges of the interim period between the old and the new, emphasizing the importance of patience and giving yourself grace.Through their stories, they illustrate the power of perspective and the necessity of choosing how to respond to change.The hosts also touch on the influence of external opinions and the importance of setting up supportive boundaries. They conclude by affirming that despite the difficulties, embracing change is a necessary part of life for personal growth and a fulfilling life.Why this matters: Change is an inevitable part of life, bringing with it both challenges and opportunities for growth. By understanding and embracing the emotional journey that comes with change, you can navigate it more effectively, ultimately leading to a life that brings you joy and fulfilment.Challenge: This week, acknowledge the changes happening in your life and make a conscious choice about how you will respond to them. Take moments to breathe, reflect, and trust that on the other side of change is the life you desire.If you would like to get in touch with either of the hosts, you can reach us at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you.

In this episode of The Power of Choosing Podcast, the hosts delve into the topic of trusting your intuition. They discuss personal experiences and the journey of learning to trust one's 'gut feeling,' highlighting its significance in making life choices, from parenting to career decisions.Key points include:~ The importance of knowing oneself to better hear and follow intuition~ How societal pressures often cloud our intuitive judgment~ Personal stories of how intuition has guided meaningful life choices~ The role of coaching in helping individuals connect with their inner voice~ Practical tips on how to start tuning into your intuition~ The connection between blocking emotions and blocking one's intuitionWhy this matters: Trusting your intuition can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic life that aligns with your true desires. It encourages you to question societal norms and make choices that resonate with who you genuinely are.Challenge: Pause before reacting to anything, and ask yourself what you really want, paying attention to your body's cues and inner feelings.If you would like to get in touch with either of the hosts, you can reach us at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you. 

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire discuss how to manage when the world feels overwhelming. They explore taking in loads of information versus staying in a bubble, and how to balance these approaches.Claire talks about her preference for avoiding the news due to feeling deeply affected by it and relying on her husband for updates. Trudi reflects on their privilege as white women and the importance of staying informed about injustices. Together, they emphasize finding a balance between staying informed and protecting one's emotional well-being. They also discuss the importance of focusing on one area where you can make a significant impact, rather than trying to tackle everything.Additionally, they share personal strategies for creating happy and safe spaces to cope with stress, such as finding joy in everyday moments. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to find their passion, focus on making a difference in that area, and embrace self-compassion.Why this matters: You can't help anyone from a place of overwhelm, it is so important to look after yourself making you more available to be there for others if you choose to. Challenge: check in with how you are feeling often throughout the day and consider adding in some self care when needed. If you would like to get in touch with us, you can reach us at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com we would love to hear from you!

In this episode of The Power of Choosing Podcast, Trudi and Claire discuss letting go. Inspired by the poem 'She Let Go' by Sapphire Rose they delve into what it would be like if letting go didn't have to be overly planned or difficult.Discussing personal anecdotes and reflective thoughts, they explore how letting go of worries, control, and the need for approval can lead to a simpler, freer life.They share the significance of emotional release through personal experiences like the Camino de Santiago and the symbolic act of leaving rocks behind.The episode highlights the importance of showing up authentically and how that impacts our interactions and self-perception. Through practical insights and relatable examples, this episode encourages listeners to identify and let go of what no longer serves them, fostering a mindset of ease and authenticity.Why this matters:A lot of what we hold on to and worry about we don't need to. Our lives can be much happier and freer if we let go of things that are no longer serving us. Challenge:This week think of one thing that you no longer want to do or feel and try 'letting it go'. Assume it it possible to do so and see what happensIf you would like to get in touch with either Claire or Trudi, you can reach us both at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com we would love to hear from you

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire explore the essential practice of reflecting on past achievements to appreciate the moment you are in now. The discussion emphasizes how easily we forget our past struggles and accomplishments and the importance of celebrating these victories, both big and small.They share personal anecdotes demonstrating growth from past to present, highlighting how reflecting on these experiences can build confidence for future challenges.The hosts offer insights into finding joy in simple moments and maintaining a balanced perspective on life's journey.In this episode:~ Why it’s important to celebrate both little and big wins~ Personal stories of overcoming challenges and embracing achievements~ The value of being present and mindful in daily life~ How to cultivate joy in simple moments~ The pitfalls of always seeking the next big thing~ Practical steps for reflecting on past accomplishments and staying presentWhy this matters: Taking the time to reflect on how far you’ve come allows you to appreciate the journey and recognize your growth. This practice builds confidence and helps you to face future challenges with a sense of capability and resilience. Challenge: This week, take a moment each day to reflect on a past achievement and celebrate it. Notice how this practice impacts your overall sense of well-being and presence.If you would like to get in touch with either Claire or Trudi, you can reach us both at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com #ThePowerOfChoosing #Mindfulness #CelebrateWins #BePresent #ReflectOnGrowth

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, we delve into the importance of honouring yourself. We discuss why it's essential to know yourself and believe you're important enough to be the main character in your life.Through personal stories and practical examples, we explore how failing to ask for what you need often leads to frustration and resentment. We highlight the value of clear communication, particularly the difference between 'what' and 'why' questions, and how this shift can impact your relationships positively.Additionally, we touch on the importance of establishing boundaries and provide actionable advice on adding joy to your life by doing things that fill you with energy. This episode aims to empower listeners to stand firm in their needs and take control of their life choices.Why this matters: Honouring yourself and clearly communicating your needs are vital steps to living a fulfilling life. By knowing and asking for what you need, you build more authentic and satisfying relationships.Challenge: Take five minutes to write down things that bring you joy and things that drain you. Make an effort to incorporate more of the joy-bringing activities into your daily routine.If you would like to get in touch with us, you can reach us both at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you!

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, we delve into how to navigate the pressure and expectations of the festive season to find genuine joy and connection. We discuss the importance of learning to say no, ensuring self-care, and choosing how you want to celebrate to avoid overwhelm and keep your holiday season enjoyable.Key highlights include:~ The significance of saying no to avoid overcommitting~ Prioritising self-care during the holidays~ Defining your own festive traditions and ignoring societal pressures~ Personal stories of adjusting to new priorities with life changes~ Coping with grief and mixed emotions during the season Why this matters: The holiday season often comes with significant external and internal pressures. By being mindful of your choices and priorities, you can create a more fulfilling, less stressful experience.Challenge: This holiday season, practice saying no to at least one obligation that doesn’t align with your needs and preferences, and see how it impacts your overall festive experience.If you would like to get in touch with us, you can reach us at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com we would love to hear from you!

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire discuss the subtle yet impactful habit of over-apologizing with phrases like 'I'm sorry' and how it can manifest as playing small and people-pleasing behaviour, particularly among women. Sparked by an anecdote from a squash game, the conversation flows to the energy and consequences behind these phrases.Key insights include:~ Why phrases like 'I'm sorry' and 'Does that make sense?' can undermine your confidence and presence~ The difference between a genuine apology and a superficial one~ How over-apologizing can affect your personal and professional life~ Strategies to reframe your language to be more empowering~ The importance of awareness in spotting and changing these patterns**Why this matters:** Over-apologizing and using minimizing language can obstruct your personal and professional growth by affecting how others perceive you and how you perceive yourself. Recognizing and shifting these patterns allows you to show up more confidently and authentically.**Challenge:** Pay attention to when you say 'I'm sorry' and other minimizing phrases this week. Practice replacing 'I'm sorry' with lighter phrases like 'Oops, my bad' or ask directly, 'Are there any questions?' to foster a more assertive communication style.If you would like to get in touch with either Claire or Trudi, you can reach us both at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com#emotionalintelligence #SubtleShifts #WomenInBusiness #Empower #PeoplePleasing #LanguageMatters #OwnYourPower #ConfidenceBuilding

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Claire and Trudi explore how effective communication and clear expectations can save your marriage. They discuss the significance of open communication in relationships and how unchecked expectations can lead to unnecessary conflicts.With personal anecdotes and actionable advice, they highlight the importance of understanding your own needs, the value of love languages, and practical exercises to align with your partner. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their marriage or improve their relationship dynamics.If this resonates with you, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com.

What if the biggest critic in your life isn't out there—it's the voice inside your head? In this episode, Claire and Trudi get honest about the internal commentary that tells us we're being judged, that we said the wrong thing, or that everyone is watching our every move. Sparked by Claire's real-time experience of her brain critiquing her while recording, this conversation explores how our inner voice keeps us small—and what to do about it.Inside this episode:~ Why you think everyone's watching you (and the truth about what they're actually thinking)~ Why someone who looks confident might actually be panicking on the inside~ The conversation that proved everyone's too busy judging themselves to judge you~ Why vulnerability triggers the harshest self-criticism—and what to do about it~ The simple practice that stops your inner voice from running the showThis is for anyone who's ever walked away from a conversation replaying everything they said, or held back from being fully themselves because of what others might think.Main takeaway: Your inner voice doesn't have to rule the show. When you pause and question those automatic thoughts, you realize most of them aren't even true—and the ones that are don't matter nearly as much as you think they do.If this resonates with you, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at: thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com.

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire dive into the struggles around commitment. Brought about by a client's question, they explore why people often avoid putting events in their diaries and how the word 'why' keeps us stuck.They share personal stories and insights on shifting from 'why' to 'what' to open up new possibilities. Key points include the comfort of chaos, fear of lack of freedom, and the role of self-doubt in avoiding commitments.They also emphasize the importance of grace, compassion, and self-love in overcoming these barriers.In this episode:~ The pitfalls of constantly asking 'why' and the power of asking 'what' instead~ Real-life examples of avoiding commitment and the underlying reasons~ The comfort found in chaos and the societal pressure to stay busy~ How fear, self-doubt, and a need for freedom can hinder commitment~ Practical ways to practice self-love and compassion to move past these barriersWhy this matters: Understanding why we avoid commitments can help us break free from limiting patterns. By shifting from 'why' to 'what,' we open ourselves to new opportunities and more fulfilling choices.Challenge: This week, when you find yourself avoiding a commitment, ask 'what's going on?' instead of 'why.' Notice how this changes your perspective and ability to act.If you would like to get in touch with either Claire or Trudi, you can reach us both at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, recorded from sunny France, we discuss the importance of shifting away from blaming others for our unhappiness and instead focusing on our own needs and emotions.The conversation was inspired by a client who struggled with her husband's drinking habits. We delve into why it's easier to blame others, the significance of understanding our own needs, and how taking radical ownership of our emotions can transform our lives.Key takeaways include recognizing emotions as indicators of unmet needs, understanding the difference between control and connection, and the value of self-awareness in improving personal relationships.Why this matters: Blaming others for our problems leaves us powerless and disconnected. By focusing on our own needs and emotions, we reclaim our power and improve our relationships and overall well-being.Challenge: This week, whenever you feel the urge to blame someone else, pause and ask yourself, 'What do I need right now?' Reflect on your answer and take steps to meet your own needs.We'd love to hear from you! Reach us at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com and let us know how this episode has helped you. #ThePowerOfChoosing #StopTheBlameGame #SelfAwareness #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalGrowth #RelationshipAdvice00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:19 Client Story: The Blame Game01:17 Self-Reflection and Personal Needs04:58 The Role of Emotions in Relationships09:59 Control vs. Connection14:22 Conclusion and Key Takeaways

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire delve into the essential topic of self-love as the foundation for achieving personal and professional goals. They discuss the challenges of loving oneself in a society that often promotes self-criticism and consumerism.The conversation highlights experiences with clients who struggle with self-worth and explores practical ways to embrace and celebrate oneself. Topics include the importance of compliments, the impacts of societal pressures, and actionable steps to build self-love, such as positive affirmations and acknowledging personal achievements.In this episode:~ The importance of loving oneself as the foundation for success and happiness~ Real-life stories from coaching clients who struggle with self-love~ Societal pressures that discourage self-love ~ Practical exercises to boost self-worth, such as accepting compliments and listing personal strengths ~ Why sharing genuine compliments can create a positive ripple effectWhy this matters: When we love ourselves, we set the stage for a life filled with joy, accomplishment, and meaningful connections. By starting with self-love, we can approach our goals and relationships from a place of strength and confidence. Challenge:This week's challenge: Write down three things you love about yourself and if you're feeling really brave email them to us at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you! Bonus challenge: practice saying 'Thank you, it is true' when someone gives you a compliment. #ThePowerOfChoosing #SelfLove #PositiveAffirmations00:00 Introduction to Self-Love00:11 The Importance of Loving Yourself02:13 Cultural Influences on Self-Perception05:26 Practical Exercises for Self-Love14:17 Sharing and Spreading Love19:03 Conclusion and Homework

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire explore the idea that it’s okay for people to have differing opinions and why it’s important not to seek constant agreement.The discussion delves into how societal and evolutionary pressures make us want to fit in and be liked and the freedom that comes with accepting that not everyone will agree with us. They touch on topics such as people pleasing, the impact of social media on opinions, and how respecting differing viewpoints can lead to richer, more authentic relationships. By Listening to different perspectives while staying true to oneself you can live a more fulfilled life.Why this matters: Understanding that you don’t need everyone to agree with you can lift a tremendous weight off your shoulders and allow you to be more authentic in your relationships and interactions.Challenge: This week, focus on allowing space for differing opinions without feeling the need to conform or persuade others. Pay attention to how this openness impacts your interactions and personal sense of self.If you would like to get in touch with either Claire or Trudi, you can reach us both at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:15 The Pressure to Conform01:02 Embracing Differences01:53 The Evolutionary Need for Acceptance03:48 Personal Experiences with Divergent Beliefs05:01 Respecting Different Viewpoints06:53 The Importance of Open-Mindedness08:30 Balancing Agreement and Individuality10:50 Final Thoughts and Takeaways12:39 Conclusion

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Claire and Trudi discuss the philosophy behind the podcast's name. They explore the concept of choice in every aspect of life and emphasize how making conscious decisions leads to a more fulfilling and aligned life.They share personal stories and insights on how choosing instead of defaulting to societal or external expectations has transformed their lives. The episode aims to empower listeners to recognize their ability to shape their experiences through intentional choices, ultimately leading to greater happiness and life satisfaction.If you loved this episode, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com.Main takeaway: Your life is a series of choices, and by making conscious decisions, you can lead a life of fulfilment and alignment.#emotionalhealth choosing #lifecoaching #powerofchoice #personaldevelopment #consciousliving 00:00 Introduction to The Power of Choosing00:16 The Essence of Choice in Everyday Life01:38 Choosing vs. Default Living04:14 Personal Stories of Choice07:31 The Impact of Conscious Choices14:12 The Power of Choosing: Final Thoughts

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire delve into common phrases that may no longer serve us. They explore how phrases like 'this is just who I am,' 'boys don't cry,' and 'be a good girl' can limit personal growth and authentic expression.They also discuss empowering phrases like 'the universe has your back' and 'you can be anything you want to be.' The conversation aims to help listeners question these ingrained beliefs and choose phrases that push them forward rather than hold them back. This episode encourages self-awareness and the power of choice in shaping one's mindset and life.If you loved this episode we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com.#limitingbeliefs #personalgrowth #empowerment #selfawareness #mindset 00:00 Introduction to Common Phrases01:32 Dissecting 'This is Just Who I Am'04:25 Exploring 'Boys Don't Cry'06:23 The Impact of 'Be a Good Girl'08:42 Positive Phrases: 'The Universe Has Your Back'09:38 Limiting Beliefs: 'This Always Happens to Me'17:11 Challenging 'Everything Happens for a Reason'22:27 Debating 'Fake It Till You Make It'25:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode, Claire and Trudi tackle one of the most misunderstood topics in personal development: the difference between healthy positivity and toxic positivity.They don't entirely agree going into this conversation, which makes for an interesting clash of perspectives. This episode explores how to embrace joy without bypassing the messy, necessary parts of being human.Inside this episode:~ Claire's journey from emotional avoidance to vulnerability and why it changed everything~ Trudi's perspective on energy shifts vs. forced positivity~ The "someone has it worse" trap and why it keeps people stuck~ A real story about stolen travel clothes and why Claire needed to cry about it~ How gratitude can be a genuine tool (not a band-aid)~ The difference between nice and kind - and why it matters~ Why allowing yourself to feel sad doesn't make you negative~ A simple gratitude practice that actually works (when you're ready for it)This is for anyone who's been told to "just be positive" when what they really needed was permission to feel whatever they're feeling.If this landed for you, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com.Main takeaway:True positivity isn't about avoiding difficult emotions—it's about building yourself up enough to handle whatever comes while still allowing space for the full human experience.#toxicpositivity #lifecoaching #emotionalhealth