You, Me and the Family Tree - A Family Constellation Podcast

Episode 10: The Knowing Fieldwith Bertold UlsamerWhat is the Knowing Field — and how do we stay grounded in the presence of something we cannot fully understand?In this final episode of our five-part series with Bertold Ulsamer—author, teacher, and direct student of Bert Hellinger—we explore one of the most intriguing aspects of constellation work.Bertold reflects on why he still calls it a mystery, as Bert Hellinger did, and how the term “Knowing Field,” later introduced by Albrecht Mahr, gives language to something many facilitators experience but cannot fully explain.We dive into questions like: Is this field inside us or outside us? Do we use it—or does it use us? Toward the end, Bertold shares a powerful reflection on searching and longing: when we search for answers, teachers, or even gurus, what are we really seeking? Knowledge—or it is actually deeper longing, connected to our parents?This conversation is for therapists, facilitators, and anyone curious about what moves beyond the personal in constellation work. I hope you find it meaningful and supportive.Guest: Bertold UlsamerHost: Iris Shaham🔗 Links & ResourcesBertold UlsamerWebsite: https://www.ulsamer.com/startseite/Email: bertold.ulsamer@t-online.deDigital CourseIntegrated Trauma Therapy (facilitated by Bertold Ulsamer)https://iris-savir.systeme.io/integrated-truma-therapyBooks by Bertold UlsamerHow to Heal Old Wounds and Draw New Strengthhttps://www.amazon.com/Heal-Wounds-Draw-Strength-Constellations-ebook/dp/B0DMSNFZLVMake Peace with Your Parentshttps://www.amazon.com/Make-Peace-Your-Parents-Reconciliation/dp/B08FP9R4TKHost – Iris ShahamWebsite & Podcasts: https://www.irisconstellations.com/podcastsEmail: iris@irisconstellations.com© 2026 You, Me, and the Family Tree. All rights reserved.#FamilyConstellations#KnowingField#BertoldUlsamer#BertHellinger#SystemicConstellations#SystemicTherapy#FacilitatorDevelopment#TransgenerationalHealing#TherapeuticPresence#SearchingAndLonging

Episode 9: When the Facilitator Feels Lonelywith Bertold UlsamerPart four of a special five-part series with Bertold Ulsamer—author, teacher, and elder in the field of Family Constellations, and a direct student of Bert Hellinger.This episode speaks to anyone who holds space for others—therapists, facilitators, teachers, guides, and helping professionals. Together, we explore the loneliness that can arise from the role, the risk of burnout, and what supports us in staying grounded, human, and present in the work.Bertold and I reflect on the inner life of the facilitator, the roots of these challenges, and how doing our own work helps us stay resilient while holding space for others.This is one of my favorite conversations, and I warmly recommend it to anyone engaged in relational, therapeutic, or facilitation work.Guest: Bertold UlsamerHost: Iris ShahamBertold UlsamerWebsite: https://www.ulsamer.com/startseite/Email: bertold.ulsamer@t-online.de2026 International Seminar (Bucharest)Men and Women – Love and Strugglehttps://bertold-ulsamer.ro/Digital CourseIntegrated Trauma Therapy (facilitated by Bertold Ulsamer)https://iris-savir.systeme.io/integrated-trma-therapyBooks by Bertold UlsamerHow to Heal Old Wounds and Draw New Strengthhttps://www.amazon.com/Heal-Wounds-Draw-Strength-Constellations-ebook/dp/B0DMSNFZLVMake Peace with Your Parentshttps://www.amazon.com/Make-Peace-Your-Parents-Reconciliation/dp/B08FP9R4TKYou, Me, and the Family TreeHost: Iris ShahamPodcast & Website: https://www.irisconstellations.com/podcastsEmail: iris@irisconstellations.com© 2025 All rights reserved.

Episode 8: Professional Success, Money & the Family Treewith Bertold UlsamerHave you ever wondered how much of your professional success—and your relationship with money—comes from your family system?In this episode, I’m joined by Bertold Ulsamer, author, teacher, elder in the field of Family Constellations, and a direct student of Bert Hellinger, for part three of our five-part series.We begin with professional success and allow the conversation to unfold into money, family roots, inner conflict, responsibility, and becoming an adult. Together, we explore why success can feel blocked or unconsciously sabotaged, and how constellation work supports the movement from victimhood into adulthood.You’ll also experience a guided exercise for integrating two inner voices in conflict, along with reflections on Bertold’s own professional journey.If you’re curious about the deeper systemic roots of success and money, this episode is for you.Bertold UlsamerWebsite: https://www.ulsamer.com/startseite/Email: bertold.ulsamer@t-online.de2026 International Seminar (Bucharest)Men and Women – Love and Strugglehttps://bertold-ulsamer.ro/Digital CourseIntegrated Trauma Therapy (facilitated by Bertold Ulsamer)✨ Special January discount available — reach out to me to receive the coupon codehttps://iris-savir.systeme.io/integrated-truma-therapyBooks by Bertold UlsamerProfessional Success and the Family Rootshttps://www.amazon.com/Professional-Success-Family-Roots-Constellations/dp/B085RS9N63Make Peace with Your Parentshttps://www.amazon.com/Make-Peace-Your-Parents-Reconciliation/dp/B08FP9R4TKHost – Iris ShahamPodcast & Website: https://www.irisconstellations.com/podcastsEmail: iris@irisconstellations.com

Episode 7: When Love Carries More Than Two People with Bertold UlsamerPart two of a special five-part series with Bertold Ulsamer, author, teacher, and elder in the field of Family Constellations, and a direct student of Bert Hellinger. In this episode, we talk about couples and relationships—what we carry from our original families, what matters when working with couples, the role of timing, different pacing between partners, relationships today and a beautiful short meditation at the end.I hope you’ll find this conversation meaningful and beneficial.Guest: Bertold UlsamerHost: Iris Shaham🔗 Links & ResourcesBertold UlsamerWebsite: https://www.ulsamer.com/startseite/Email: bertold.ulsamer@t-online.de2026 International Seminar (Bucharest)Men and Women – Love and Struggle https://bertold-ulsamer.ro/Digital Course Integrated Trauma Therapy (facilitated by Bertold Ulsamer)Special January discount availablehttps://iris-savir.systeme.io/integrated-truma-therapyBook The Art and Practice of Family Constellations:Leading Family Constellations as Developed by Bert Hellingerhttps://a.co/d/fy5GLRVHost – Iris ShahamPodcast & Website: https://www.irisconstellations.com/podcastsEmail: iris@irisconstellations.com© 2025 You, Me, and the Family Tree. All rights reserved.#FamilyConstellations#BertoldUlsamer#Couples#Relationships#SystemicTherapy#AncestralHealing#LoveAndRelationships#IrisShaham

Episode 6: This episode opens a special 5-part series with Bertold Ulsamer — author, teacher, and elder in the field of Family Constellations. A direct student of Bert Hellinger, Bertold is a world-renowned scholar and practitioner whose work has helped shape the field internationally.In this opening episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with Bertold for an open conversation about stations of his life journey and how he was found by constellation work, as he himself describes it. We speak about the experiences through which the work entered his life, how it began to guide him, and what has continued to orient his path over the years.I truly hope you’ll find this conversation meaningful and beneficial.Contact & ResourcesBertold Ulsamer Email: bertold.ulsamer@t-online.deWebsite: https://www.ulsamer.com/startseite/2026 International Seminar (Bucharest)Men and Women – Love and Struggle: https://bertold-ulsamer.ro/Digital Course: Integrated Trauma Therapy (facilitated by Bertold Ulsamer): https://iris-savir.systeme.io/integrated-truma-therapyBook The Art and Practice of Family Constellations:Leading Family Constellations as Developed by Bert Hellinger: https://a.co/d/fy5GLRVHost: Iris ShahamWebsite: https://www.irisconstellations.com/Email: iris@irisconstellations.com© 2025 You, Me, and the Family Tree. All rights reserved.

Episode 5: HOME with Suzi Tucker.Welcome to the fifth episode of our special 5-part series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and one of the most influential voices in the world of Family Constellations.In our fifth and final conversation for this round, we explore the theme of home — not just as a place, but as a deep sense of belonging. What does it mean to come home to ourselves, to others, and to life itself?Enjoy listening — I would love to hear from you, what is home for you, where do you feel at home, and anything else you would like to share.Connect with Suzi Tucker:https://www.suzitucker.comConnect with Iris Shaham:https://www.irisconstellations.com© 2025 You, Me, and the Family Tree. All rights reserved.

Welcome to the fourth episode of our special 5-part series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and one of the most influential voices in the world of Family Constellations. Today we dive into the profound role of language — how we speak, how we listen, and how our words shape what unfolds in the constellation field.This episode is especially valuable for:• Family Constellation facilitators• Therapists and counselors• Group leaders of any kind• Anyone curious about deepening their presence and clarity.Suzi shares practical insights on:Hosting groups and working without judgment You’ll also hear a lovely short story about Suzi’s contribution to one of Bert Hellinger’s books.Enjoy listening — and I’d love for you to share your own family phrase — that special saying or line that’s unique to your family.Connect with Suzi Tucker:https://www.suzitucker.comMessengers of Healing book: https://www.amazon.com/Messengers-Hea...Connect with Iris Shaham:https://www.irisconstellations.com© 2025 You, Me, and the Family Tree. All rights reserved.

This is a special 5 episodes' series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and a true pioneer in Family Constellations.In this third episode, I sit down with Suzi to explore the five elements that appear in our lives.This is one of my favorite episodes — we explore the elements, core fears, and I share a personal story from growing up in a kibbutz.This episode is an invitation to reflect on your own life story and notice what resonates with you. Feel welcomed to share.Don’t forget to watch Episodes 1 and 2 if you missed them.Contact Suzi Tucker:⁠Suzi Website⁠⁠Contact Iris Shaham:⁠Iris Website© 2025 You, Me, and the Family Tree. All rights reserved.

This is a special 5-episode series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and a true pioneer in Family Constellations.In this second episode, we explore what it truly means to acknowledge what is — not to fix, not to escape, but to meet reality exactly as it is. This is one of the more challenging conversations in our series, a profound dialogue that invites you to slow down, breathe, and listen fully.Before diving into the heart of the topic, Suzi shares the story of how she met Bert Hellinger, founder of Family Constellations.A gentle exploration of mindfulness, awareness, and the quiet strength of seeing things as they are. This episode is deep and thought-provoking, best listened to when you have time to sit with it fully.Enjoy!© 2025 You, Me, and the Family Tree. All rights reserved.Contact Suzi Tucker:⁠Suzi Website⁠The Gather Enough Fireflies BookContact Iris Shaham:⁠Iris Website

This is a special 5 episodes' series with Suzi Tucker, author, teacher, and a true pioneer in Family Constellations.In this opening episode, I sit down with Suzi to explore the intricate process of decision making through the lens of family systems. Together, we reflect on how our choices are often shaped by unseen loyalties, inherited patterns, and the deep connections that bind us to our family stories.This conversation is an invitation to pause and ask yourself: What part of your decision-making truly belongs to you — and what might you be carrying for someone else?I truly hope you’ll find it meaningful and beneficial!© 2025 You, Me, and the Family Tree. All rights reserved.Contact Suzi Tucker:Suzi WebsiteThe Gather Enough Fireflies BookI recommend you to hear this beautiful exercise with Suzi: Finding Context for Your IssueContact Iris Shaham:Iris Website