Divorced Dads of America: The Rebuild

Anthony gets honest about the years he spent waiting for his life to change on its own — hoping, not building. He breaks down why "just be more disciplined" was never the real problem, and walks through The Vision Stack, the four-move framework that took him from vague hope to an actual written vision for his business, his time with his kids, and his exchange days. If you've ever fallen off a habit and called yourself undisciplined, this episode is for you.In this episode:Why waiting for things to just change on their own kept Anthony stuckThe real difference between being interested in change and being obsessed with itThe Vision Stack: the 4-move framework for building a specific, written vision before you touch a single habitWhy "10 habits" is the wrong goal — and what to build insteadWhat his kids are actually watching him modelStandard CTA links:1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fSkool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

A former family court judge who ruled on over 5,000 custody cases sits down to talk about the side of divorce nobody prepares you for — because she lived it first, as the kid in the middle of her own parents' split. Michele Locke spent decades on the bench before returning to private practice to fight the hardest custody and alienation cases in Texas. In this episode: what parents get wrong after divorce, the real mistakes dads make in and out of the courtroom, the new danger AI poses to your case, and what she tells good dads who are scared they've already lost their kids for good.In this episode:Michele's own story as a child of divorce and what it taught her about what not to doThe most common mistakes dads make in custody cases, with a lawyer and without oneHer BIFF communication framework, in plain language with real examplesHow AI can be used against you in a divorce case — and how it can be used to fake evidence against youWhat she tells good dads who are afraid they've already lost their kidsFind Michele Locke:Website: https://www.michelelocke.com/Podcast: lovelustlaw — https://www.michelelocke.com/podcastBlog: "The Lockedown" — via michelelocke.comInstagram / LinkedIn: @attorneymichelelockeStandard CTA links:1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fSkool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

My sixteen-year-old dropped a car off at a shop by himself last week, and something about watching him handle it broke something open in me. Patrick Bet-David said the line that's been going around — this episode is what it actually means to train a kid on purpose, knowing the whole point is that he leaves.In this episode:Why watching your kid succeed without you is supposed to sting — Peter Blos's research on adolescent "individuation"What the still-maturing teenage prefrontal cortex means for how long your job as a dad actually lastsDiana Baumrind's parenting-styles research and the difference between training and controlThe Stoic "dichotomy of control" and what it means for fatherhood specificallyThe Loose Grip framework — four moves for training hard without gripping outcomes you never ownedBowlby and Ainsworth's "secure base" research — why your calm makes his independence possibleProverbs 22:6 and Hebrews 12:11 on what training is actually supposed to feel likeApply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

Eleven years ago, Garry Junkuhn's girlfriend moved in with him — and that day became the last time he saw his two sons for three years. He found out how bad things had gotten from a school notification: his son had legally changed his last name to his mother's. Founder of 100K Fathers, Garry has since guided thousands of estranged dads through the same reunification process that eventually brought both of his own sons back — built on patience and inner work, not lawyers or court orders. In this episode: the Instagram message from his son that ended three years of silence, why fighting for access through the courts usually backfires, and the practical, day-to-day moves that actually draw an estranged child back.In this episode:Garry's own three-year estrangement from his two sons, and the school notification that changed everythingThe Instagram message from his son that ended the silence — and what he did nextWhy the "fight for access" instinct backfires, and the counterintuitive alternative that worked for him and thousands of the fathers he's since coachedPractical rules on text frequency, showing up unannounced, and working around a hostile co-parentThe "silver bullets" — false allegations, protection orders — he sees in roughly 40% of the fathers he's worked with once they push legallyHow to know you're actually ready to reconnect, versus just desperate toReal reunification stories, including a father who hadn't seen his kids in 5 and 7 yearsFind Garry Junkuhn / 100K Fathers:Website: https://www.100k-fathers.com/Note: he said directly on the recording that he hasn't built out Instagram/YouTube much yet — the website (and booking a call from it) is the real destination, don't oversell social links you can't back up.Standard CTA links:1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fSkool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

I waited years to tell anyone about a habit that was quietly running my life — and it didn't die until I did. This episode is about the pattern I now see in dad after dad who reaches out: crisis, relief, silence, and a worse crisis later. What's actually happening underneath it, and the exact process that breaks it before it gets 10x harder.In this episode:Why the urge to hide something is actually the clearest evidence of where your real problem livesKahneman and Tversky's research on why pain — not opportunity — is what actually moves most men to actJames Prochaska's stages-of-change research and the exact point where people mistake feeling better for being doneJulian Rotter's locus-of-control research and why gripping outcomes you never controlled burns you outPierre Azoulay's Harvard Business School research on founder age — why real success takes far longer than it looks from outsideThe Chop Wood, Carry Water framework — four moves for exposing what you're hiding before it gets 10x harderSheldon Cohen's research on social support and why accountability is a measurable stress buffer, not just a feelingAngela Duckworth's grit research and what it actually predicts about who sustains changeAlbert Bandura's Bobo doll studies — what your kids are actually learning by watching youGalatians 6:9 — the timeline promise behind doing the hard thing anywayApply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0fJoin the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica