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Author: Vincent Hazenboom
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I share the raw, messy truth about navigating addiction, loneliness, and finding real connection. If you feel too much in a world that feels too little, you're in the right place. Welcome home.
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Classic episode.I reflect on an unexpected encounter at a grocery store that reminded me how powerful a simple human connection can be.It wasn’t planned. It wasn’t dramatic. Just a spontaneous conversation with a stranger. But in that short exchange, we spoke about uncertainty, about the future, about that subtle feeling that the world is shifting in ways we don’t fully understand.What struck me wasn’t fear.It was relief.Relief in realizing you’re not the only one thinking deeply about what’s happening around you. Relief in meeting someone who is aware, present, and willing to question.This episode isn’t about panic. It’s about presence.It’s about how small, real conversations remind us that connection still exists in a world that often feels divided.What you will learn:✔️ How unexpected conversations can shift your perspective✔️ Why staying connected matters in uncertain times✔️ The emotional impact of feeling understood✔️ How to stay aware without falling into fearSometimes growth doesn’t come from big breakthroughs.It begins with a five-minute conversation in the middle of an ordinary day.🦁 Vincent🚨If this helps, stay close. New episodes land every Thursday. 🚨
There’s a moment many men recognize but rarely name.Life looks fine on the outside, yet inside you feel disconnected, guarded, and quietly running from parts of yourself you never learned how to face.In this episode, I sit down with Paul Guyon for a deeply honest conversation about how unhealed trauma shapes leadership, relationships, and the way good men lose trust in their own voice.Paul shares how sex, drugs, and rock and roll once ran his life, how a deathbed promise to his father became a turning point, and how sobriety, faith, and servant leadership helped him rebuild from rock bottom.We talk about what it really means to let trauma live and then let it go.Not by pretending it never happened, and not by letting it define who you are today.This isn’t a conversation about perfection.It’s about honesty, ownership, and becoming the kind of man your family, your community, and your own heart can trust.In this episode, we explore:Why unhealed trauma keeps showing up in leadership and loveHow addiction and avoidance often begin as survival strategiesThe cost of living in fear while appearing “successful.”Practical ways to release the past without denying itConnect with Paul GuyonReflection Guide for Men: https://leadmachinegrowthshow.com/heartPaul’s work & podcast: https://leadmachinegrowthshow.comIf this episode resonates, follow the podcast and share it with one person who might need to hear they’re not broken, just healing.🦁 Vincent
🎙️ Episode 63: The DARK TRUTH About Video Game AddictionVideo game addiction, emotional avoidance, and fear-based escapism are at the heart of this deeply personal solo episode of the HowToHeartShow.🦁 For years, gaming wasn’t just something I did for fun.It was where I hid.I told myself I enjoyed it.The quests.The achievements.The sense of progress.But the truth was harder to admit.I was afraid of life.Afraid of pain.Afraid of stepping into the unknown.Gaming became my escape from everything I didn’t want to feel.I remember spending entire days behind a screen. Even in summer.Telling myself: just one more quest… just one more achievement… just a bit longer.But hours turned into years.What I didn’t see back then was this:Those achievements weren’t building my life.They were replacing it.Dopamine replaced direction.Virtual wins replaced real courage.And slowly, I disconnected from myself.This episode isn’t about demonizing video games.It’s about awareness.Because when gaming becomes a way to avoid fear, responsibility, or pain, it quietly takes control.And the cost is time, energy, confidence, and potential you’ll never get back.🧠 What You’ll Learn✔️ How gaming becomes an emotional escape.✔️ The link between fear and addiction.✔️ Why dopamine replaces direction.✔️ The cost of avoidance and distraction.✔️ How awareness creates freedom.🦁 If my story speaks to you, you’re not alone.Breaking addictive patterns starts with honesty, not shame.I’m offering a limited number of free 30-minute coaching sessions to help you reconnect with yourself and take back control of your life.👉 Book your free session here:https://calendly.com/howtoheartshow/free-coaching-calls🦁 Connect with Vincent🌍 All links in one place:https://linktr.ee/howtoheartshow🎬 Want to create live streams like this?Check out StreamYard 👉https://streamyard.com/pal/c/6044930370043904✨ Follow the HowToHeartShow a space for men ready to break free from fear and live a life led by their authentic heart.📅 New episodes premiere Thursday at 21:00 CEST
🎙️ Episode 7 (Classic): 𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐒𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐝 𝐋𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐨 𝐎𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐌𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐟𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐬.🦁 There comes a moment when living for others costs you yourself.In this classic episode of the HowToHeartShow, I sat down with Elvira Hopper, a heart-centered coach who shares her journey from rock bottom to alignment after years of ignoring her inner truth.Elvira opens up about the cost of suppressing creativity, the pressure of family expectations, and how choosing authenticity transformed her life, confidence, and purpose.This conversation isn’t about hustle.It’s about self-trust, emotional awareness, and having the courage to live from the heart.💬 “The moment you stop living for others is the moment your life begins.”🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ How expectations pull you away from your heart✔️ Why ignoring creativity leads to burnout✔️ The power of self-trust over validation✔️ What heart-led success really looks like✔️ How self-love becomes your foundation🎁 Free Gift from Elvira𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐥𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐄𝐥𝐯𝐢𝐫𝐚’𝐬 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭-𝐜𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞𝐬 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞:👉 https://elvirahopper.com/linktree🦁 Connect with Elvira Hopper🌍 Website: https://www.elvirahopper.com📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elvira.v.hopper📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evhopper/🐦 Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/evhopper🦁 Connect with Vincent🌍 All links in one place:👉 https://linktr.ee/howtoheartshow✨ Follow the HowToHeartShow a space for men ready to break free from fear, reconnect with themselves, and live a life led by their authentic heart.🚨 New episodes premiere Thursday at 21:00 CEST
🎙️ Episode 6 (Classic): The Moment I Stopped Being Afraid and Started Living.🦁 There was a time when I didn’t trust my heart.I trusted fear instead.Fear felt practical.Safe.Acceptable.But it also kept me disconnected from myself.In this classic episode, I reflect on what it truly means to live from the heart. I share how fear quietly controls our decisions, how intuition gets buried under conditioning, and what shifted when I finally started listening inward instead of outward.This isn’t about ignoring responsibility.It’s about reclaiming self-trust.Living heart-led doesn’t make life easier.It makes it honest.💬 “Learn to live from your heart. It will open doors you didn’t know existed.”🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ What heart-led living really means ✔️ How fear shapes daily decisions ✔️ Why intuition matters for men ✔️ Letting go of external approval ✔️ Choosing authenticity over safety🦁 If my story speaks to you, I’d love for you to join me on this journey. As part of giving back, I’m offering a limited number of free 30-minute coaching sessions to help you reconnect with your heart and break old patterns, no pressure, just an honest conversation.👉 Book your free session here: https://calendly.com/howtoheartshow/free-coaching-calls🦁 Connect with Vincent 🌍 All links in one place: https://linktr.ee/howtoheartshow🎬 Want to create live streams like this? Check out StreamYard 👉 https://streamyard.com/pal/c/6044930370043904🚨 New episodes premiere Thursday at 21:00 CEST✨ Follow the HowToHeartShow a space for men ready to break free from fear and live a life led by their authentic heart.
🎙️ Episode 62: Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse | Reclaiming Your Power After Emotional Control🦁 Narcissistic abuse doesn’t end when the relationship ends.It continues in your body, your thoughts, and the way you doubt yourself long after the control is gone.In this deeply confronting episode, I sit down with Anita Smith, founder of Meant for More, to unpack how narcissistic relationships actually work and why emotional abuse leaves such a lasting imprint.We talk about trauma bonding, emotional manipulation, gaslighting, and why strong, empathetic people are often the ones most affected. This conversation is about naming what happened, understanding the patterns, and reclaiming your inner authority without losing yourself.This isn’t surface-level healing.It’s about survival, identity, boundaries, and learning to trust yourself again.💬 “No one can take your power unless you hand it over.”🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ How narcissistic abuse operates beneath the surface✔️ Why trauma bonding keeps people emotionally stuck✔️ The real mechanics of gaslighting and control✔️ How emotional abuse impacts your nervous system✔️ How to reclaim your power and self-trust✔️ Why healing protects you and your children🦁 Connect with Anita Smith📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/anita.smith.448696📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mcdj.ome📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/asmith_m4more🦁 Feeling like this resonates deeply?Sometimes it helps to talk with someone who understands.I’m offering a limited number of free 30-minute coaching sessions to help you reconnect with your heart and take the next aligned step, no pressure, just honest conversation.🦁 Connect with Vincent🌍 All links in one place: https://linktr.ee/howtoheartshow🎬 Want to create live streams like this?Check out StreamYard 👉 https://streamyard.com/pal/c/6044930370043904✨ Follow the HowToHeartShow — a space for introverted men ready to break free from fear, rebuild confidence, and live a life led by their authentic heart.🚨 New Episode Every Friday📅 Premieres Thursday at 21:00
🎙️ Episode 61: Are You Passing Down Your Traumas to Your Kids?🦁 Some moments stay with you. Moments that quietly shake something deep inside.Conscious parenting and healing trauma begin with awareness. In this deeply personal solo episode, I share why unhealed wounds don’t disappear when we become parents they get passed on through tone, energy, reactions, and emotional absence.After witnessing a parent screaming at their child in public, I felt heartbroken. Not judgment. Because children aren’t small adults. They live in imagination, emotion, and discovery. And when we expect them to “know better,” we unknowingly place our unresolved pain onto them.This episode is about responsibility, love, and breaking cycles.About understanding that our inner child still lives inside us, and when that part is hurting, it will shape how we parent.If we don’t heal our trauma, our children will feel it.💬 “How can we give love to our children if we’ve never learned to give it to ourselves?”🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why children are not small adults ✔️ How trauma transfers across generations ✔️ The impact of words, tone, and energy ✔️ Why inner child healing matters ✔️ How healing yourself protects your children🦁 If my story speaks to you, I’d love for you to join me on this journey. As part of giving back, I’m offering a limited number of free 30-minute coaching sessions to help you reconnect with your heart and break old patterns, no pressure, just an honest conversation.👉 Book your free session here: https://calendly.com/howtoheartshow/free-coaching-calls🦁 Connect with Vincent 🌍 All links in one place: https://linktr.ee/howtoheartshow🎬 Want to create live streams like this? 👉 https://streamyard.com/pal/c/6044930370043904✨ Follow the HowToHeartShow a space for men ready to break free from fear, heal deeply, and lead from the heart.🚨 New Episode Every Friday 📅 Premieres Thursday at 21:00
🎙️ Episode 5 (Classic): How Vulnerability Strengthens YouWith Dr. Kris Belfry🦁 For years, men have been taught to stay strong, stay silent, and stay in control.But what if that definition of strength is precisely what’s keeping you disconnected?In this classic episode, I sit down with Dr. Kris Belfry, an embodiment coach with over 20 years of experience helping men reconnect with their emotions, energy, and inner truth.This conversation explores how vulnerability transforms relationships, builds confidence, and allows men to live from presence instead of performance. We dive into masculine and feminine energy, intuition, and how healing begins when you stop hiding.💬 “Vulnerability isn’t weakness. It’s what gives you strength to live fully.”🧠 What You’ll Learn:✔️ How masculine and feminine energy affect relationships✔️ Why intuition creates inner confidence✔️ How vulnerability strengthens men’s bonds✔️ The importance of presence and polarity✔️ How trauma impacts emotional connection🎁 Free Gift from Dr. Kris BelfryRestore and regulate your nervous system with this free guide:“12 Ways to Revitalize Your Nervous System”https://kris-belfry.aweb.page/p/67efb3db-ce16-4215-9d3a-aebc46aa4071🦁 Connect with Dr. Kris Belfry🌐 Website: http://belfrywellness.com/embodiment-coaching/📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kris_belfry/📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100054019490443💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kris-belfry-9570aa20a/📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5OkqVKFIeo87m3_63Oq2gQ🦁 Connect with Vincent🌍 All links in one place: https://linktr.ee/howtoheartshow🎬 Want to create live streams like this?Check out StreamYard 👉 https://streamyard.com/pal/c/6044930370043904.✨ Follow the HowToHeartShow a space for men ready to break free from fear, rebuild confidence, and live a life led by their authentic heart.🚨 New Episode Every Friday📅 Premieres Thursday at 21:00#MensHealing #VulnerabilityForMen #EmotionalAwareness #MasculineHealing #PersonalGrowth #HowToHeartShow
🎙️ Classic Episode 4: Vulnerability — Embrace Deeper Connections as a Man🦁 For most of my life, I tried to be the strong one — the man who didn’t break, didn’t feel, didn’t show anything that could be judged as “weak.”But the moment I finally allowed myself to be vulnerable, everything changed.This classic episode was one of the first I ever recorded, back when I decided to stop hiding and speak openly about my emotions, fears, and insecurities.What I discovered surprised me:People didn’t pull away…They responded with warmth, support, and connection.In this episode, I share the story of how vulnerability changed my life and why opening up is one of the most powerful steps a man can take.💬 “When I started being vulnerable, I was amazed by how people responded.”🧠 What You’ll Learn:✔️ The fears men carry around vulnerability✔️ How emotional walls keep you disconnected✔️ Why honesty strengthens your relationships✔️ How to open up without feeling weak✔️ The power of being truly seen🦁 If my story speaks to you, I’d love for you to join me on this journey.I’m opening a limited number of free 30-minute coaching sessions to help you take the first step toward emotional freedom, confidence, and inner strength.👉 Book your free session: https://calendly.com/howtoheartshow/free-coaching-calls🦁 Connect with Vincent🌍 All links in one place: https://linktr.ee/howtoheartshow🎬 Want to create live streams like this?Check out StreamYard 👉 https://streamyard.com/pal/c/6044930370043904✨ Follow the HowToHeartShow — a space for men ready to break free from fear, rebuild confidence, and live a life led by their authentic heart.🚨 New Episode Every Friday📅 Premieres Thursday at 21:00#MensHealing #VulnerabilityForMen #EmotionalAwareness
🎙️ Episode 60: Shed the Mask and Awaken Your True Voice.🦁 There comes a point when the mask you’ve been wearing becomes too heavy to hold.You try to be the strong one. The calm one. The man who never cracks.But deep down, something in you aches to be seen as something true and unfiltered.In this episode, I sit down with Michael Boothby, a conscious breathwork practitioner, comedian, musician, and transformational guide. Together, we explore what happens when you release old identities, reconnect to your breath, and awaken the authentic voice you’ve been hiding beneath the surface.It’s a conversation about remembering who you are not through effort, but through presence.💬 “You don’t awaken by becoming someone else. You awaken by removing everything you’re not.” — Michael Boothby🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ Why men hide behind emotional masks✔️ How breathwork supports deep emotional release✔️ The power of archetypes and myth in healing✔️ How humor and creativity open the pathway to truth✔️ How to reconnect with your authentic voice🦁 About Michael BoothbyMichael Boothby is a conscious breathwork practitioner, comedian, improviser, musician, and transformational guide. He supports people seeking deep, soul-level transformation, creatives, empaths, healers, and anyone who feels stuck or disconnected.His work blends ancient wisdom, archetypal psychology, humor, and creative expression to guide people into who they truly are beneath their learned identities.🦁 Connect with Michael Boothby🌐 Website: https://michaelboothbycreative.com📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaelboothby.creative/ https://www.instagram.com/lovewisemedia/📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MichaelBoothbyCreative🦁 If this conversation speaks to you…I’m opening a limited number of free 30-minute coaching sessions to support you in reconnecting with your true heart and taking the next aligned step.No pressure — just an honest conversation.👉 Book your free session here: https://calendly.com/howtoheartshow/free-coaching-calls🦁 Connect with Vincent🌍 All links in one place: https://linktr.ee/howtoheartshow✨ Follow the HowToHeartShow a space for introverted men ready to break free from fear, rebuild confidence, and live with authenticity. ❤️🚨 New Episode Every Friday📅 Premieres Thursday at 21:00
🎙️ Episode 59: What Happens When You Let Go of Perfectionism🦁 Ever felt trapped by perfectionism? In this episode, I share my journey of overcoming perfectionism, healing from trauma, and learning self-compassion as a man. We explore how the drive to be perfect often comes from fear and how letting go of control can bring real inner peace and freedom.Have you ever felt like no matter how hard you try, it’s never good enough?That constant push to be perfect, to say the right thing, do the right thing, be the right man, can feel like control. But in truth, it’s fear disguised as discipline.In this deeply personal solo episode, I open up about how perfectionism shaped my life, controlled my thoughts and work, and even how I showed up in relationships. I share what I discovered about the trauma behind perfectionism, and the freedom that came when I finally began to let go.Because chasing perfection doesn’t create peace — it kills it.💬 “You don’t need to be perfect to be worthy. You already are.”🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ The hidden trauma behind perfectionism✔️ How does control disconnect you from peace✔️ Why mistakes are part of real growth✔️ The difference between improving and overworking✔️ How letting go brings clarity and confidenceIf you’ve ever felt exhausted by the pressure always to get it right, this episode is for you. It’s time to breathe again, to be human again, and to remember that your worth doesn’t depend on performance.🦁 If my story speaks to you, I’d love for you to join me on this journey.I’m opening a limited number of free 30-minute coaching sessions to help you take the first step toward your own transformation. No pressure, just an honest conversation.👉 Book your free session here: https://calendly.com/howtoheartshow/free-coaching-call🦁 Connect with Vincent 🦁🌍 All links in one place: https://linktr.ee/howtoheartshow🎬 Want to create live streams like this?Check out StreamYard 👉 https://streamyard.com/pal/c/6044930370043904✨ Follow the HowToHeartShow a space for introverted men ready to break free from fear, rebuild confidence, and live a life led by their authentic heart. ❤️🚨 New Episode Every Friday📅 Premieres Thursday at 21:00
🎙️ Classic Episode 3: The Harsh Realities of Pornography Addiction | With Joshua Shea🦁 Pornography addiction isn’t just a bad habit — it’s a destructive cycle that steals energy, confidence, and connection. In this powerful classic episode, I sit down with Joshua Shea, an expert on overcoming pornography addiction, to explore how this hidden struggle affects men, families, and society at large.Together, we dive deep into the emotional, psychological, and chemical roots of addiction — and how breaking free requires more than willpower. It’s about awareness, honesty, and healing from the inside out.💬 “I was not going to be able to maintain a family life or be a quality father if I stayed in my porn addiction.” — Joshua Shea🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ The destructive nature of pornography addiction✔️ How addiction drains energy and rewires the brain✔️ The difference between chemical and process addiction✔️ Why self-awareness is key to recovery✔️ How to rebuild healthy habits and a real connection🦁 If my story speaks to you, I’d love for you to join me on this journey.As part of giving back, I’m opening a limited number of free 30-minute coaching sessions to help you take the first step toward your own transformation. No pressure, just an honest conversation.👉 Book your free session here: https://calendly.com/howtoheartshow/free-coaching-calls🦁 Connect with Joshua Shea 🦁🌐 Website: https://paddictrecovery.com📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paddictrecovery/🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/discover/Thatcorncoach💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshua-shea-7b9932194/🦁 Connect with Vincent 🦁🌍 All links in one place: https://linktr.ee/howtoheartshow🎬 Want to create live streams like this?Check out StreamYard 👉 https://streamyard.com/pal/c/6044930370043904✨ Follow the HowToHeartShow a space for men ready to break free from fear, rebuild confidence, and live a life led by their authentic heart. ❤️🚨 New Episode Every Friday📅 Premieres Thursday at 21:00#MensHealing #AddictionRecovery #HealingJourney #SelfCompassion #PornographyAddiction #BreakFree #HowToHeartShow
🎙️ Episode 2 (Classic): Breaking the Chains of Pornography🦁 For over 20 years, I was addicted to pornography. It shaped how I saw myself, how I connected with others, and how I avoided pain. It drained my energy, my confidence, and my sense of peace.This was one of the first episodes I ever recorded, the moment I chose to speak openly, stop hiding, and share my truth. It’s raw and honest. I share how I began breaking free from addiction and how self-compassion became the foundation for lasting healing.This isn’t about guilt or shame, it’s about awareness, honesty, and taking back control of your mind, your habits, and your heart.💬 “Breaking free from pornography addiction isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. Instead of turning to porn, focus on cultivating healthy relationships and finding better ways to achieve a healthier lifestyle.”🧠 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ The real impact of long-term addiction✔️ How to face and heal the root cause✔️ Why self-compassion drives real change✔️ Simple habits for emotional balance✔️ How to rebuild confidence and peace🦁 If my story speaks to you, I’d love for you to join me on this journey.I’m opening a limited number of free 30-minute coaching sessions to help you take the first step toward your own transformation. No pressure, just an honest conversation.👉 Book your free session: https://calendly.com/howtoheartshow/free-coaching-calls🦁 Connect with Vincent 🦁🌍 All links in one place: https://linktr.ee/howtoheartshow🎬 Want to create live streams like this?Check out StreamYard 👉 https://streamyard.com/pal/c/6044930370043904✨ Follow the HowToHeartShow — a space for introverted men ready to break free from limiting beliefs, overcome challenges, and live a life led by their authentic heart.🚨 New Episode Every Friday📅 Premieres Thursday at 21:00#MensHealing #OvercomingAddiction #SelfCompassion #HealingJourney #ReclaimYourFreedom #HowToHeartShow
I used to spend my life running away from addiction, gaming, and avoiding the messy truth of who I was. This channel is my wake-up call. It's the raw, unpolished journey of navigating loneliness and finding real connection in a world that often feels superficial. I'm not here to teach you "how to" fix your life. I'm here to share the messy truth of mine, so you know you aren't alone. If you feel too much in a world that feels too little, you're in the right place. Welcome home. — Vincent




