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Jon Foreman of Switchfoot says songs like "Meant to Live" are a huge part of him, but never the whole story. In this conversation, he tells Miles about the rest of it.  In this episode, Jon and Miles talk about the gap between who we are in front of people and who we are at home: the parts of ourselves we keep out of view, what our kids reflect back to us, and how remembering that life is short changes what we reach for.  YOU'LL HEAR "Part of me feels this" and the myth of the monolithic personality How we end up yelling at ourselves through our kids Why Jon “plays the music for free” and what he’s really paid for Why your worth is intrinsic, whether the applause comes from a crowd or a phoneWhat your 14-year-old self would think of you Elliott Smith by candlelight, and what a broken string makes possible EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Welcome Jon Foreman 08:00 The myth of the monolithic personality 14:00 The face of the band vs. who am I 28:00 The songs were more honest than I was 32:00 Yelling at ourselves through our kids 43:00 Would your 14-year-old self like it? 48:00 We're not around death enough 1:02:00 "I play the music for free" 1:05:00 "My job is to make people clap for me" 1:14:00 If today was your last day  At Onsite, much of the work looks like what Miles and Jon describe here: meeting a younger part of yourself, before the world told it who to be. Onsite offers a range of experiences to do life-changing work around your story and what your body might be holding onto. Learn more: https://hubs.la/Q04CV_nX0  CONNECT WITH JON FOREMAN Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jonforeman/ Website: https://jonforeman.com Switchfoot: https://switchfoot.com Forever Now is out now. The Forever Now Tour runs through November, with Europe in early 2027.   STAY CONNECTED TO HUMAN SCHOOL Follow Miles on Instagram: https://hubs.la/Q04CV_Rv0 Follow Human School on Instagram: https://hubs.la/Q04CV_XZ0 Subscribe on Substack: https://hubs.la/Q04CV_JX0 Learn more about Onsite: https://hubs.la/Q04CV_nX0 

“Suffering is inevitable, but I think misery is pretty self-inflicted.”From the outside, MŌRIAH looks like she has it all together: Grand Ole Opry performances, a role in The Chosen, a spot in CMT’s Next Women of Country. What you don’t see is the nearly ten years she spent feeling unseen, believing that if something wasn’t hard, it didn’t count.She tells Miles what finally changed: learning the difference between suffering and misery, building her music around her Mexican heritage and her family, walking into therapy convinced it was a joke, and how she and her husband stay close while both work in film and music.YOU’LL HEARWhy ambitious people mistake difficulty for valueWhat building up resentment cost her, in time and relationshipsComing home to her culture, her family, and herselfWhy she spent her last dollar on a short filmFrom certified therapy skeptic to advocateThe one thing she does to make sure someone feels seenEPISODE CHAPTERS00:00 Welcome MŌRIAH06:00 Finding her music in her own backyard11:00 Suffering vs. misery23:00 Family, heritage, and the strawberry photo shoot36:00 Her dad, and spending her last dollar on Nice Life48:00 Being invisible, then the spotlight1:01:00 Therapy skeptic1:20:00 Marriage as two sovereign nations1:29:00 New film, JIMMY, and her last wordMŌRIAH showed up to Onsite a 10 out of 10 on skepticism. If that’s where you are too, Onsite offers a range of experiences to do life-changing work around your story and what your body might be holding onto. Learn more: https://hubs.la/Q04C8B--0CONNECT WITH MŌRIAHInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/holamoriah/Website: https://www.moriahofficial.com/“Home to Me” plays over the end credits of JIMMY, in theaters November 6.STAY CONNECTED TO HUMAN SCHOOLFollow Miles on Instagram: https://hubs.la/Q04C8CgT0Follow Human School on Instagram: https://hubs.la/Q04C8CXV0Subscribe on Substack: https://hubs.la/Q04C8Dtf0Learn more about Onsite: https://hubs.la/Q04C8B--0

How do you rebuild your life after the crushing wreckage of betrayal? In this powerful episode of Human School, Miles Adcox sits down with Carl and Laura Lentz to explore the raw reality of surviving infidelity, breaking free from codependency, and choosing radical personal ownership when your world falls apart. What You'll Learn: The profound, isolating loneliness of betrayal trauma and why finding safe, grounded support changes everything. How to break the cycle of codependency by choosing your own healing and health, regardless of your partner's choices. The critical psychological difference between staying trapped in the comfortable hiding place of shame versus taking total personal accountability. Practical emotional tools for managing triggers, shortening repair times after conflict, and navigating gut-wrenching family conversations with your children. Episode Chapters:00:00 Welcome Carl & Laura Lentz00:46 The Reality of Healing After Infidelity07:05 Choosing Ownership Over Shame15:47 The Loneliness of Betrayal21:51 Seeking Help & Finding Hope37:02 The Decision to Stay and Fight42:18 Forgiveness vs. Safety51:00 Eradicating Shame1:15:58 Navigating Triggers & Practical Tools1:31:32 Looking Back & Words of WisdomReady to take the next step in your own healing journey? Discover how Onsite's transformational therapeutic intensives and emotional health retreats can help you move from survival and betrayal into deep, lasting self-discovery. Learn more about Onsite here: https://hubs.la/Q04BhNwh0 CONNECT WITH CARL & LAURA Follow Carl on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/  Follow Laura on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/  Get your copy of Overcoming Infidelity: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Overcoming-Infidelity/Carl-Lentz/9781668230497   STAY CONNECTED TO HUMAN SCHOOL Follow Miles on Instagram: https://hubs.la/Q04BhP9b0  Follow Human School on Instagram: https://hubs.la/Q04BhPlj0  Follow Human School on Substack: https://hubs.la/Q04BhFwQ0  Learn more about Onsite: https://hubs.la/Q04BhNwh0  

What is procrastination actually costing you? Turns out, almost everything.In this episode, Miles Adcox welcomes author and speaker Jon Acuff to Human School for an honest, practical, and deeply encouraging conversation about procrastination, overthinking, and the strange ways our minds block the lives we want to live.  Jon opens up about his own struggles with anxiety, the danger of old "soundtracks," and why the hardest part of a new goal is often the weight of past failures. Packed with humor and tactical wisdom, Jon and Miles break down how to retire broken soundtracks and finally give yourself permission to be remarkable.  Looking to shift the way you think? Onsite offers transformational experiences to help you live the life you deserve. Learn more: https://hubs.la/Q04zCzKf0⁠ In This Episode, You'll Learn: The real psychology behind why we avoid the things we want to do most.  How to shift your internal soundtrack using the "Retire, Replace, Repeat" method.  Why optimism is a daily practice, not a personality trait.  How to separate fear from decision-making so you can finally cross your finish line. Learn more about Jon and grab a copy of Procrastination Proof: https://jonacuff.com/Stay Connected to Human School: Human School on Instagram: https://hubs.la/Q04zCFsz0 Miles on Instagram: https://hubs.la/Q04zCBRJ0 Learn more about Onsite: https://hubs.la/Q04zCzKf0 Follow Human School on Substack: https://hubs.la/Q04zChTr0 Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Welcome Jon Acuff – Author of Procrastination Proof02:00 - The 34-Year Delay06:00 - Growing Up Anxious and Running Hot09:30 - Scars as Lighthouses & The Power of Going First13:30 - Mental Health, Rumination, and Mindset16:00 - Live Coaching: Unpacking Miles' Book Goals & Resistance22:00 - High Performers and Changing Your Fuel Source27:00 - Repetition, Symbols, and Soundtrack Cards31:00 - Experiential Healing, Empathy, and Feedback Loops35:40 - Writing for Teenagers and Handle-Making44:50 - Why We Procrastinate: The Bad Solution49:30 - Jon's Corporate Exit & The Birth of His Blog54:30 - The Internet, Online Anger, and Identity Follows Activity58:45 - Finding Peace in the Storm & Practicing Optimism01:04:00 - Tactical Tools: Paper Shrinks Fear & Owner's Manuals01:08:50 - Success Hang-ups & The Fear of Being Remarkable01:14:00 - Unpacking Money Scripts and Celebrating Wins01:22:00 - Growth is Non-Linear: The Reality of Healing01:26:40 - Writing Brave & Jon's Upcoming Book on Optimism01:30:00 - Counseling, Faith, and Following Overreactions01:36:30 - Writing vs. Rewriting & Fear Gets a Voice, Not a Vote

"They said, 'We need you to stop.' And I said, 'I need me to stop, too.'" Grammy-winning country artist Ashley McBryde joins Miles for a deeply moving, unfiltered conversation as she reflects on her roots in the Ozarks, the complexities of generational trauma, and what it truly means to be seen.  Ashley opens up about her long relationship with alcohol, the terrifying night that led her to treatment, and how getting sober allowed her to finally hear her own voice and recognize the person in the mirror. This is a powerful discussion on unlearning old programming, re-parenting your younger self, and why true art doesn't require a dark place. If you’re ready to begin a new chapter, Onsite offers transformational experiences to help you live the life you deserve. Learn more: https://hubs.la/Q04zdx0K0 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Introducing Ashley McBryde05:00 – Growing Up in the Ozarks & Early Musical Roots17:00 – Nervous System Responses, Childhood Trauma, and Inner Child Work44:00 – Generational Trauma, Religion, and Re-framing Family Dynamics56:00 – The Reality of "High-Functioning" Addiction & Stepping Into Recovery1:18:00 – Finding Pure Joy in Sobriety and Making Art Without Suffering Stay Connected to Human School Human School Instagram: https://hubs.la/Q04zdtB60 Miles Instagram: https://hubs.la/Q04zdw7Z0 Subscribe on Substack: https://hubs.la/Q04zdt6t0 Onsite: https://hubs.la/Q04zdx0K0