Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Is your dating confidence low? Do you ever ask yourself if it's really possible to reinvent your love life at your age?  In Episode 428 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Confidence at Any Age with The Golden Bachelor's Edith Aguirre" dives deep into the concept of confidence with her special guest Edith Aguirre, Season One star from The Golden Bachelor. Together, they explore what it means to cultivate "second act charisma"—the confidence that blooms not from perfection or external validation, but from genuine self-connection, presence, and embracing where you are in life.   The conversation illuminates how confidence isn't just an internal feeling; it's experience, repetition, and self-expression on multiple levels—inner, outer, and social. Kimmy shares her charisma formula, detailing how each type of confidence interacts, and Edith reveals her personal journey to self-acceptance, from embracing her gray hair to putting herself out there in real-life dating scenes. If you've ever wondered how to gracefully transition into dating after 40, how to stop hiding and start radiating your authentic self, or simply how to attract more positivity, this episode will give you practical tools and heartfelt stories to spark your own reinvention.   You'll hear: What "second act charisma" really means for confidence and dating. Three key types of confidence—and how to build each one. Authentic, actionable tips to meet people in real life (without dating apps). Why clear intentions and boundaries matter in mature relationships. Strategies for breaking old dating patterns and loving yourself first. If you are wanting to feel more confident inside and out and maybe need a little nudge to reinvent your love life, join Kimmy's co-ed Authentic Dating Workshop. Learn how to express yourself, build real connections, and conquer dating fears. Register here www.stophatingdating.com and grab your spot.    Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Are you tired of feeling like you're starring in your own dating version of Groundhog Day? Do you wonder why you keep attracting the same partners, or why your relationships keep ending in familiar heartbreak? What if breaking those old patterns and creating the love life you want is less about finding a different person—and more about becoming a different you? In Episode 427 of The Charisma Quotient, "Break Your Dating Patterns: Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong Partners" Kimmy dives deep into the cycles that keep you stuck in frustrating dating loops.   Using real-life client stories, Kimmy explains how childhood experiences and past relationships unconsciously influence who we are drawn to in adulthood. She shares actionable strategies to increase your emotional IQ, set healthy boundaries, interrupt self-sabotaging habits, and shift your mindset toward authentic, intentional dating. Whether you're newly single or a seasoned dater, you'll learn how to rewrite your relationship script, attract emotionally available partners, and turn the coming year into a breakthrough for your love life. You'll hear: Why dating can feel like "Groundhog Day"—and what's really behind those repeating patterns. Actionable exercises to flip your dating autopilot and start new, healthy habits. Why setting micro-boundaries on dates can jump-start your confidence and attract better partners. The difference between chemistry and familiarity  If hitting refresh on your dating game is part of your 2026 resolutions and you're ready to break your old dating patterns and show up more confidently, join Kimmy's co-ed Authentic Dating Workshop. Learn how to express yourself, build real connections, and conquer dating fears. Register here www.stophatingdating.com and grab your spot.  Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Do you want to find love in the new year? Maybe you have been repeating old patterns and feeling stuck not knowing what to change to attract a healthy relationship.  It's good to reflect upon what worked and what didn't this past year to make new year dating resolutions for yourself!   In Episode 426 of The Charisma Quotient, "How to Attract New Love in 2026" Kimmy looks back at some of her most popular and poignant episodes of 2025 that can help you find love in the new year.   This special Charisma Quotient holiday compilation dives deep into the small, magical shifts that add up to real, lasting change. Kimmy invites you to ponder the moments in your own journey that have moved you closer to confidence, connection, and self-love—and explores what can happen when you finally start driving forward, instead of staying in the passenger seat.   In this episode, you'll hear Kimmy reflect on her experiences coaching clients through their toughest dating challenges, from overcoming people-pleasing habits and the fear of rejection to embracing visibility and authenticity in both dating profiles and real-life interactions. The episode features heartwarming stories—like a message from a "Golden Bachelor" contestant who rebuilt her life after divorce, and clients who realized they could finally break their limiting beliefs and attract available partners.    You'll hear: The "settling paradox" and how fear impacts your choices Why storytelling makes you more memorable in profiles and real-life conversations Stories about overcoming rejection, introversion, and people-pleasing habits Tips on building authentic connections online and in person Kimmy's roadmap for taking bold action and resetting your dating strategy for the new year   If hitting refresh on your dating game is part of your 2026 resolutions and you want to start putting yourself out there to be more flirty and open, then join Kimmy's FREE 12-Day Dating Challenge for daily fun challenges and prompts to get you moving and meeting people!  Go to www.kimmyseltzer.com/now to start and win a chance for her popular Dating On Demand program and other surprises!   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Did you know dating in the way you know it is changing as we head toward 2026? What if you could decode the trends, ditch the overwhelm, and finally feel confident navigating love in this new world? In Episode 425 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Trends 2026: What's Really Working Now" Kimmy walks you through what's in and what's out for dating in 2026.   In this episode, Kimmy tackles the burning questions and anxieties that so many later-life daters are quietly asking: How do you date confidently when the "playbook" keeps changing? Are there actually new dating skills you need, or is it all just noisy hype? She shares a candid story from one of her clients, walking listeners through mindset shifts and practical strategies that empower real connection—whether you're fresh out of a long relationship, fed up with online fatigue, or just craving authentic romance in an era that feels crowded and confusing.   You'll hear: Why endless swiping, ghosting, and "situationships" are on the way out—and what's replacing them. How in-person interactions ("IRL dating") are becoming the hottest trend, especially for later-life daters. How learning about the latest trends will help your dating success Actionable strategies for shifting mindset, getting out of scarcity, and slowing down to build confidence. What it means to date "smarter, not harder"—from micro-moments of connection to authentic flirting.   If hitting refresh on your dating game is part of your 2026 resolutions and you want to start putting yourself out there to be more flirty and open, then join Kimmy's FREE 12-Day Dating Challenge for daily fun challenges and prompts to get you moving and meeting people!  Go to www.kimmyseltzer.com/now to start and win a chance for her popular Dating On Demand program and other surprises!   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever wondered why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, even though you seem to have it all together in your career and personal achievements? What if the secret to meaningful relationships isn't about doing more, but about truly connecting to how you feel and who you are? In Episode 424 of The Charisma Quotient, "Emotional Healing for Deeper Connection: Interview with Rebecca Silence" Kimmy welcomes renowned emotional healing expert Rebecca Silence to explore the powerful shift from achievement-driven living to deep emotional alignment.   In this episode, Kimmy and Rebecca delve into the hidden patterns that high achievers—especially women—face in dating and relationships. Drawing from personal experience, Rebecca Silence shares how her own journey through trauma, success, and a life-changing cancer diagnosis helped her uncover the true foundation for authentic love: emotional alignment and vulnerability. The conversation moves far beyond typical dating advice, revealing how taking inventory of your emotions, owning your triggers, and prioritizing boundaries can radically change your relationship patterns.   You'll hear: Why high achievers often struggle in relationships, despite their "success" The hidden connection between achievement, childhood trauma, and love patterns What it means to attract partners from your "healed self" instead of your "survival self" The 3-step "Make Your Triggers Your Bitch" process for emotional freedom How women can embrace feminine energy, receive more, and create healthy boundaries in dating    If you're ready to move past survival into joy and excitement, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Have you ever sat across from someone on a first date and wondered, "Why does this feel so awkward? Why isn't there any chemistry?" Are you stuck in your head, anxious about what to say and worried if you're coming across as interesting or fun?  In Episode 423 of The Charisma Quotient, "ICYMI: Creating Conversation and Chemistry: Coaching with Kimmy" Kimmy dives deep into these common dating dilemmas and explores how you can take control of your energy, spark chemistry, and break free from repetitive, boring conversations. In this episode, welcomes Kay, who's struggled to move past dry, fact-based interactions on dating apps and in person. Together, they unpack what keeps conversation stuck at surface level, why being "in your head" creates barriers, and how shifting from reactive to proactive – bringing emotional context and playfulness – can transform your dating experience. Kimmy coaches Kay to open up, share feelings, and weave personal stories into her chats, making connections more lively and authentic. You'll walk away with actionable strategies for loosening up and injecting true connection into any date, even if you think your interests are a little offbeat! You'll hear: Why first dates often feel boring—even with "nice" people How your mindset and body language influence date chemistry The difference between fact-based and emotionally connected conversations Practical exercises to help you move from reactive to proactive dating How to be less "in your head" and more present on dates If you've been feeling discouraged about dating — burned out by apps, not feeling the connection with your dates or awkward small talk, sign up for Kimmy's Co-ed Love Is Blind Dating Game Virtual Experience — so you can build connection before chemistry and confidence before commitment.  Think: old school dating game meets Love is Blind series! This is a virtual experience that is guaranteed to change YOUR dating game.  Go to www.stophatingdating.com for more information and to register.  Spaces are limited! Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever wondered why old anger or resentment keeps resurfacing, even when you think you've moved on? Are you curious how forgiveness—not just for others, but for yourself—could change your relationships, your dating life, and your sense of peace? In Episode 422 of The Charisma Quotient, "How Forgiveness Frees Your Heart: Interview with Dr. Dravon James" Kimmy dives into the transformative power of forgiveness with renowned transformation specialist, Dr. Dravon James.    Throughout this honest and heartfelt conversation, Kimmy and Dr. Dravon James unpack the many barriers to forgiveness, including emotional exhaustion and lack of self-awareness. You'll hear real stories of clients weighed down by past resentment and discover why forgiving yourself is often the missing key to healthier, more intimate relationships. Together, they explore how practicing self-love and open communication builds trust, how codependency attracts unhealthy partners, and why leaning into conflict is essential for true healing. Ultimately, this episode shows how forgiveness isn't just about letting someone "off the hook"—it's about setting yourself free.   You'll hear: How unresolved anger and resentment can leak into your dating life and relationships Why forgiving yourself is just as important as forgiving others The link between self-awareness and emotional healing How codependency can attract partners with narcissistic traits Strategies for processing and moving through emotional exhaustion   If you're ready to work towards forgiveness, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Why are dating shows so wildly popular? Do you ever wonder if those wild moments from reality TV have anything to do with your real-life dating struggles? What lessons—good or bad—are these shows teaching us, and how do we handle the ever-evolving swipe culture and its endless options?  In Episode 421 of The Charisma Quotient, "Swipe Culture, Dating Disasters & Reality TV with Zack Peter" Kimmy Seltzer and Allison Melody sit down with pop culture expert Zack Peter to tackle these big questions, blending reality TV drama with practical, real-world advice (and lots of laughs).   The conversation kicks off with stories from Zack's own journey through podcasting, his show "Disaster Daters," and his own dating mishaps. The trio dives into the nuances of modern dating, bad dates over coffee to decoding signals like hair flipping and the infamous "resting bitch face."  The three of them play a game dissecting wild moments from "Love is Blind," "The Golden Bachelor," and more.  They dig deep into why meeting people in real life feels so daunting, the pitfalls of dating app culture, and why commitment can feel so elusive.  Tune in to hear Kimmy coach Zack on his dating blunders and gives him some challenges for an upcoming date. Throughout, Kimmy jumps in with her expert advice, challenging Zack and Allison to shift their approaches, embrace playful flirtation, and build authentic connections—both on and off screen.   You'll hear: How subconscious signals like hair flipping and body language influence flirting (and what to do intentionally!). An honest discussion about meeting people IRL vs. on dating apps, and why both can be equally daunting. What makes a "promise ring" such a hot topic—and why it might be better to skip it altogether. The impact of swipe culture and the myth of finding someone who checks every box. Kimmy's practical, therapist-approved tips for flirting, building approachability, and meeting people outside your comfort zone.   If you're ready to step out of your comfort zone, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Have you ever found yourself wondering if your spark has faded? Do you think it's possible to feel sexy, confident, and truly alive—no matter your age, your relationship status, or the life curveballs thrown your way? What does "age gracefully" really mean beyond creams, serums, and green juices? In Episode 420 of The Charisma Quotient, "Rediscovering Your Spark: Renee Halverson's Golden Bachelor Journey" Kimmy and her co-host Allison join pop culture guru and podcast host of So Bad It's Good, to peel back the layers of pop culture, personal stories, and hard-hitting dating advice.   In this episode, Kimmy is joined by Renee Halverson, a standout contestant from the first season of ABC's Golden Bachelor and former NFL Chicago Honey Bears cheer captain. Together, they dive into the real meaning of sexy confidence and aging vibrantly. Renee shares her whirlwind experience on the Golden Bachelor and how, even when stepping out of comfort zones, she learned the importance of self-focus, sisterhood, and maintaining her sparkle. Kimmy and Renee unpack not just the glamorous moments, but also the doubts, personal reinvention, and challenges faced when dating later in life—especially after years spent caretaking and putting others first.  You'll hear: What "sexy confidence" and aging vibrantly mean—beyond physical appearance and beauty routines Renee's personal story: transitioning from caretaker to Golden Bachelor contestant The behind-the-scenes reality of casting, preparation, and life on the Golden Bachelor Honest revelations about comparing oneself to others and dealing with self-doubt The importance of female friendship, sisterhood, and support systems in later-life dating   If you're ready to rediscover your spark, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever wondered what actually happens behind the scenes at a dating retreat inspired by reality TV? How can you bring more excitement and authenticity to your dating life, especially as you navigate dating later in life? Can reality television actually teach us meaningful lessons about forming connections? In Episode 419 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Lessons from the Golden Bachelor Mansion Retreat: Golden Bachelor Recap S2 E8" Kimmy and her co-host Allison are live in the Golden Bachelor Mansion in Temecula. They give you the full tour of the place before diving into episodes on the latest episode and Kimmy's retreat! In this lively episode recorded Live From the Golden Bachelor Mansion Retreat, hosts Kimmy Seltzer and Allison Melody invite you into the heart of their dating retreat in Southern California—where the glitz of reality TV meets the depth of personal transformation. They kick things off with a whimsical walk-through of the mansion, sharing behind-the-scenes details and honest vibes, all while prepping for the arrival of retreat guests. The conversation weaves through reflections on the latest Golden Bachelor episode—breaking down on-screen chemistry, emotional availability, and the real-world parallels to authentic relationships. Kimmy draws insight from her experience as a dating strategist, therapist, and image consultant, while Allison keeps things raw with practical suggestions and witty commentary.   You'll hear: A candid mansion tour revealing the setup for a transformational dating retreat. A recap and analysis of the latest Golden Bachelor episode—did Mel choose chemistry or compatibility? The importance of balancing playfulness, relaxation, and deep connection when dating later in life. Why emotional availability and boundary-setting are key (and how not to be boring on dates). The power of friendship and camaraderie in the dating journey—especially when facing life's transitions.   If you're ready to rediscover your spark, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

How does confidence play a role in dating, reality TV, and the way we present ourselves to the world? What really separates genuine connection from fleeting chemistry, especially in the sometimes surreal world of reality dating shows? In Episode 418 of The Charisma Quotient, "Golden Bachelor Recap: Real Talk on Reality with Ryan Bailey" Kimmy and her co-host Allison join pop culture guru and podcast host of So Bad It's Good, to peel back the layers of pop culture, personal stories, and hard-hitting dating advice.   This episode dives deep into the intersection of entertainment and life as Kimmy, Allison, and Ryan discuss everything from the psychology of reality TV contestants, the allure and pitfalls of influencer culture, to what "sexy confidence" really means—especially for later-life daters. With honest, often hilarious storytelling, you'll hear candid confessions about personal struggles with confidence, lessons learned from coaching both real-world singles and reality stars, and the true magic that comes from leaning into your quirks, mistakes, and vulnerabilities. Plus, the Golden Bachelor gets dissected, from its friendships to its controversies, and we even get the inside scoop on Ryan Bailey's own romantic journey—including the baby news and his take on dating apps.  You'll hear: Why reality TV makes confidence both easier and more complicated—and what happens when the cameras shut off. The truth behind pop culture's influence on dating trends and the rise of influencer-first attitudes. Kimmy's four Cs of dating: how being compelling, having chemistry, being compatible, and compromise are essential for a healthy relationship. Insights from the Golden Bachelor: friendships, disappointments, and what really goes on behind the scenes.   If you're ready to unlock love, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

What does it really take to open your heart after heartbreak or divorce? Why do we attract certain types of partners, and how can we break free from guardedness to find authentic connection? How much should we share about our past traumas, and when is the right time to get real about what we truly want in a relationship? In Episode 417 of The Charisma Quotient, "Unlocking Love After Loss: Real Talk with Real Bachelors," you'll get a special look at Kimmy's new show Dating Real Talk where Kimmy and her co-host Allison Melody, and special guests Doug and Mark—two real-life bachelors sharing candid insights.   This episode explores the heightened emotions and drama of the "Golden Bachelor," but quickly goes beyond TV to extract powerful lessons for anyone dating in their second act. Kimmy Seltzer leads a lively discussion with co-host Allison Melody and two real-life bachelors, Doug Bass and Mark Primiano, about body language, pressure in dating, and the pitfalls of seeking commitment too soon, connecting reality show moments to what actually happens in the world of dating after divorce. The group tackles the differences (and surprising similarities) between men and women when it comes to vulnerability, attraction, and the pain of love lost. Plus, Doug and Mark reveal what it feels like to date post-divorce, how trauma and guardedness affect their desire for openness, and the lively banter around authentic connection versus superficial "fun."     You'll hear: The real-life male perspective on dating after divorce (what's different, what's hard, and what's hopeful) Insights from watching and dissecting "The Golden Bachelor"—and what applies to your own dating life How to recognize body language cues that reveal true feelings (and the risks of ignoring them) Candid discussion on when (and how) to share your past traumas with a new partner The power of authenticity, self-love, and real energy in attracting the right relationship   If you're ready to unlock love, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever looked in the mirror and questioned whether you're still desirable or wondered if finding love later in life is even possible? What if everything you've been told about aging — especially when it comes to love, relationships, and sensuality — was wrong? In Episode 416 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Over 50: Why Aging Is Your Superpower with Golden Bachelor's Natascha Hardee," Kimmy dives deep into the powerful truth that aging isn't a decline, but a dynamic redesign and a superpower for living vibrantly..   In this episode, Kimmy welcomes Natascha Hardy, a pro-aging advocate and one of the standout stars from The Golden Bachelor, for an honest and joyful conversation about reinvention, visibility, and reclaiming joy and flirtation in midlife. Kimmy and Natasha share transformative stories from their own lives and the lives of their clients—like the 85-year-old woman learning to flirt at a bar or the transformational moment when covering mirrors turned into rediscovering beauty in oneself.  You'll also hear funny behind-the-scenes moments from the first season of the Golden Bachelor. They explore why so many feel "past their prime" and reveal how you can cultivate radiance and confidence, rewrite your story, and connect meaningfully with others regardless of age.   You'll get expert insights on mindset, navigating the shifting landscape of relationships, and breaking free from societal expectations. From revelations about dating as a skill and tackling emotional intelligence, to actionable advice on self-love and setting boundaries, every moment is geared towards showing you how to live life large at any age.    You'll hear: Tips for reinventing your dating life, even after decades away from the scene. Why aging amplifies your wisdom, confidence, and sensuality, not diminishes it. The skill of dating: how it's learned, practiced, and why it matters more now than ever. Real talk about emotional intelligence and the differences between how men and women approach relationships in midlife. Actionable ways to prioritize self-love, set boundaries, and cultivate community in your second act.   If you're ready to redefine sexy, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Ready to transform your dating life—whether you're just jumping in, coming back after a hiatus, or navigating dating's "second act"? In Episode 414 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Real Talk: Where Reality TV Meets Real Life Love," Kimmy shares episode 1 of her new live show "Dating Real Talk - your destination for all things love, attraction, and confidence, blending the juicy drama of reality TV with actionable, empowering advice for today's singles.   In this episode, Kimmy is joined by her friend and fellow podcaster Allison Melody. Kimmy kicks off the series by introducing her own transformation story: from a "frumpy" newly single mom in LA to finding her confidence (and style!) again after divorce. Allison and Kimmy dive into how themes from pop culture—specifically, The Golden Bachelor—mirror the real-world dating experiences of those "in their second act." Together, they unpack why taking action trumps simply "doing the work" in dating, the importance of first impressions (and the surprising science of the red dress!), and how to balance authenticity with making a memorable entrance—especially on a first date. The hosts debate the do's and don'ts of sharing your personal story early on, discuss the concept of "trauma bonding," and offer practical advice for both men and women navigating modern dating norms.  You'll hear: The key first impression mistakes people make (and reality TV examples to avoid) How trauma bonding shows up in dating—and what true vulnerability looks like The difference between "pink flags" and "red flags," and how to spot them early How to break the cycle of overthinking and show up more playfully on dates Real talk on where to go for a first date and why "coffee isn't flirty" If you're ready to get fun and flirty, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns in your dating life? Do you find yourself pulling away when things get close, hiding parts of yourself, or confusing sexual attraction for true intimacy? What if old trauma or hidden shame is quietly running the show without you even realizing it? In Episode 413 of The Charisma Quotient, "Healing Trauma, Releasing Shame & Embracing Your Sensuality: Inteview with Veronica Clark," Kimmy explores some of the deepest—and most common—blocks people face on their journey to love and connection.   In this episode, Kimmy sits down with celebrated intimacy coach and somatic healing expert Veronica Clark. Together, they shed light on how past experiences of trauma, sexual shame, and people-pleasing behaviors can create invisible barriers, shaping the way you show up in dating and relationships.    Kimmy shares powerful stories from her own coaching practice, including clients who unconsciously sabotage connections, avoid vulnerability, or chase unavailable partners out of old, unhealed wounds. Veronica shares her remarkable personal journey, moving from trauma and self-judgment to becoming an advocate for embodied sensuality, authentic connection, and sexual healing.  You'll hear: How hidden trauma and shame silently sabotage your love life—often without your awareness. Why people-pleasing, caretaking, and chasing unavailable partners are signs of old wounds playing out. The difference between real sexual chemistry and seeking validation or a "fix" from others. The transformative power of somatic experiencing, mindfulness, and embodiment practices. Practical tips for reclaiming sexuality, building body confidence, and healing shame—in and out of relationships.   If you're ready to unlock your true capacity for intimacy, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Welcome back to one of our favorite segments on The Charisma Quotient: Where are They Now? In Episode 412 of The Charisma Quotient, "ICYMI: A Real Golden Bachelorette Finds Love: Where Are They Now with Leslie," Kimmy sits down with former client Leslie, a widow who embarked on a journey to find love in her second act. Leslie's incredible transformation and her ultimate love story will leave you feeling inspired and hopeful. Leslie joined Kimmy's coed dating retreat program after attending Kimmy's workshop about flirting and sexy confidence.  She was a relationship person with little dating experience and was finding herself feeling lost and not knowing how to put herself out there.  The thought of flirting horrified her and she realized that she was closed off, guarded and in her head a lot.  She also didn't realize that she was hiding in her clothes and didn't like bringing attention to herself.  YOU'LL HEAR: The key mindset shift that helped her go from outcome-focused and burnt out to open and present in her dating life. The importance of vulnerability, self-care, and expressing your needs in attracting meaningful connections. How Kimmy's style makeover and group retreat experience empowered Leslie to feel seen, sexy, and confident. Lessons on flirting, body language, and stepping into your femininity without feeling like you're "trying too hard." The turning point moment when Leslie stopped judging and allowed herself to date with curiosity—even giving men a chance she'd usually overlook.   Through undergoing a style makeover, learning dating and flirting skills, Leslie became more open and vulnerable, leading her to start dating men she wouldn't have considered before.  Eventually, she met someone who brought happiness into her life and is in a beautiful relationship today! Exciting announcement to join Kimmy in launching her livestream podcast Dating Real Talk premiering Sept 26 at 5:30pmPST/8:30pmEST.  Go to YouTube Channel @kimmyseltzer or www.datingrealtalk.com to join live! If you're ready to be the next Golden Bachelor success story, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Watch Kimmy's dating retreat and later dater success stories featured in Inside Edition https://www.insideedition.com/media/videos/these-women-prove-its-never-too-late-to-find-love-91871   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever wondered why dating feels like a high-stakes interview or why the pressure to "find the one" can be so exhausting? What if there were a way to approach dating that feels lighter, more playful, and actually attracts better connections? In Episode 411 of The Charisma Quotient, "What Is Quantum Dating? Why Everyone's Talking About It and How to Try It," Kimmy invites you to rethink everything you know about modern romance.   In this thought-provoking episode of Charisma Quotient, Kimmy Seltzer introduces us to "quantum dating"—an emerging dating philosophy that flips traditional expectations on their head. Drawing from her years of coaching experience and referencing a viral term, Kimmy explains how quantum dating is less about chasing commitment and more about curious exploration. She dives into real-life stories of clients who transformed their love lives by loosening the grip on outcomes and letting each interaction become a valuable, self-revealing experience.    Kimmy goes over how quantum dating helps reduce burnout, expand potential partners, and ultimately attracts more aligned, lasting relationships by focusing on connection rather than pressure. Kimmy also addresses common concerns, busts quantum dating myths, and shares her top five actionable tips to help you put this game-changing mindset into practice—whether you're casually dating, returning to the scene later in life, or seeking something real.    You'll hear: What "quantum dating" really means (and why it's not physics, but it is revolutionary). How rigid expectations and checklists create dating burnout and anxiety. The tangible benefits of quantum dating—like increased self-awareness, resilience, and a magnetic vibe. Kimmy's answers to common listener concerns: "Isn't this just casual dating?", "Isn't it wasting time?" and more. Five practical tips for dating with curiosity, intentionality, and presence (plus, why it'll help you attract the right people!).   If you're ready to experiment, have fun, and put this theory into practice, join Kimmy's virtual speed dating event on September 23rd.  You'll get real-time feedback from hand-picked dates by Kimmy and meet new people. Sign up soon at www.stophatingdating.com.   Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you felt self-conscious or anxious on dates, unsure how to break free from the constant chatter of self-doubt and body image worries? What if emotional eating and your food habits weren't just about the food, but were actually acting as shields keeping real, intimate connections out of reach? In Episode 410 of The Charisma Quotient, "Emotional Eating & Dating Confidence: Interview with Amber Romaniuk" Kimmy sits down with emotional eating and body confidence expert Amber Romaniuk to unpack how emotional eating, body image struggles, and self-worth are entwined with your ability to show up powerfully in love and dating.   Amber bravely shares her own story—starting with childhood trauma and family patterns, leading to a battle with binge eating, bulimia, and a search for self-acceptance. Together, Kimmy and Amber explore why food and weight often become "love shields"—protecting you from rejection but also keeping you from intimacy, joy, and playfulness in relationships. Through personal anecdotes, client stories, and practical strategies, they reveal what it really takes to break free from emotional eating cycles and step into self-love and magnetic confidence. Kimmy and Amber don't shy away from tough questions about worth, fear, and vulnerability. Instead, they share helpful steps to spot your triggers, get honest about your habits, and move from victim mode to empowered action—both with food and with love.  You'll hear: How emotional eating and body image anxieties can sabotage your dating life—and what to do about it. The concept of "love shields"—how food and weight can become unconscious protection from vulnerability and intimacy. Why control, people-pleasing, and perfectionism often hide deeper wounds that affect relationships. Practical steps to identify emotional eating triggers and start healing from the inside out. How building self-worth creates real change in your relationships—and why dating is actually working on yourself. How control and rigidity creates masculine energy when dating. If emotional eating or body image struggles have been holding you back in love, join Kimmy's virtual speed dating event on September 23rd and get unstuck in a fun, supportive environment.  You'll get real-time feedback from hand-picked dates by Kimmy and meet new people. Sign up soon at www.stophatingdating.com. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Have you ever wondered what it truly means to date with intention—and not just to find a partner, but to rediscover playfulness, joy, and your own self-worth?  In Episode 409 of The Charisma Quotient, "Intentional Dating at Any Age: Coaching with Kimmy" Kimmy does a live coaching session with  Joni, a vibrant 69-year-old woman embarking on a new chapter after a major life transition—moving to a new country and reimagining her relationship with dating.   Kimmy delves into the common blocks that can make dating later in life intimidating: fear of rejection, comparison to the past, negative self-image, the myth that it's "too late," and the tendency to take dating way too seriously. Through honest coaching and playful perspective shifts, Kimmy helps Joni explore and reawaken her inner "Pixie"—her fun, flirty, confident self who's ready to be seen, connect, and have fun. During their candid conversation, Kimmy helps Joni unpack the roots of her old patterns, including childhood wounds, self-limiting beliefs, and habits of prioritizing others at the expense of herself. Together, they outline simple, actionable steps for Joni (and listeners!) to practice playful, pressure-free flirting, embrace visibility, and lean into joyful social experiences. Whether you're dating again after a long relationship, navigating new cultures, or just looking to shake off dating dread, this episode shows that it's never too late to embrace connection with intention—and that dating, at any age, can (and should!) be fun.  You'll hear: Kimmy's framework for intentional dating and "dating yourself" The five common obstacles that keep people from enjoying dating later in life How childhood experiences and limiting beliefs shape our approach to love Practical advice for reigniting your playful, flirty side  The importance of self-image, confidence, and loving where you're at—now If you're ready to start dating with intention, join Kimmy's virtual speed dating event on September 17th and get real-time feedback and meet new people. Sign up at www.stophatingdating.com. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com  

Do you ever wonder why first impressions spark connections—or cause instant shut-downs? Are you struggling to translate your real-life personality into your digital presence?  In Episode 408 of The Charisma Quotient, "Communication Secrets That Spark Attraction: Interview with Jess Jensen" Kimmy welcomes executive communications strategist Jess Jensen, founder of Copilot Communications, for a dynamic conversation that bridges the worlds of business and dating. Together, they break down how your presence—online and offline—makes or breaks first impressions, and why charisma is the secret edge in both arenas.   Together, they reveal how presence, energy, body language, and authenticity matter just as much—if not more—than the words you say when you're aiming to connect with others both in love and business. Kimmy opens the episode with a powerful story about transforming a socially anxious executive's networking and dating life, setting the stage for practical tips everyone can use. Jess shares how the evolution of social media has reshaped communication and highlights the similarities between building a strong professional brand and making heartfelt connections in dating. The duo discusses the most common blunders people make with their online profiles and digital presence, stressing the importance of storytelling, approachability, and vulnerability—skills that captivate both clients and potential romantic partners.  You'll hear: Why first impressions matter even before you say "hello"—and how to control the story your presence tells The science and art behind making judgments in just 7 seconds (yes, the research is in!) Real stories of transformation: how a wardrobe change and a charisma boost led a client from boardroom nerves to romantic sparks Jess's 5-step framework to shape your online and offline presence (with actionable tips at every level) If you know your online and offline presence needs a little help, download Kimmy's style guides to get started with your wardrobe.  Go to www.kimmyseltzer.com/style  Then book a private session to get more personal help with some presence coaching here https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com