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You're a successful woman who's got a lot of things going right in your life (dream job, cozy home, amazing friends)...but relationships are a different story. On Becoming Secure, we talk all things dating, healing anxious, avoidant, & disorganized attachment styles, and healthy relationships - so you can feel as amazing in relationships as you do in every other area of your life 💕
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***Additional Notes/Correction*** Around 16 minutes, Emily says that dismissive avoidants don't trigger as much of the *anxious* side of a fearful avoidant's attachment, but she meant to say they don't tigger the *avoidant* side as much because there's not as much emotional closeness. When fearful avoidants, who have both an anxious and avoidant side to their attachment, date a dismissive avoidant, they will often present more anxious in their relationship and even believe they are anxiously ...
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On this episode of Becoming Secure, Emily welcomes anxious attachment coach Valerie Rubin to discuss common mistakes anxious attachers make in dating and relationships and the importance of doing somatic work in healing anxious attachment! Find Valerie's instagram here Valerie's podcast is called: The Anxiety Recovery Podcast. Apply to work with Emily 1-1
Common things women say when they're trying to justify red flags! Do you ever find yourself doing or saying these things? If you do, don't worry - Emily has been there, too! But it's time to make the decision to walk away and stop settling for red flags! The Art of Secure Dating starts THIS Saturday, December 13th! Read more and register here! Apply to work with Emily 1-1
If you're frustrated that a guy led you on and wasted your time, this episode is for you! Emily provides a helpful reframe on how to view situations like this with more peace and less frustration! The Art of Secure Dating is currently enrolling now through Dec. 12th! Read more and submit your application here! Apply to work with Emily 1-1
Emily breaks down 9 subtle ways you might be self abandoning in dating in this episode! The Art of Secure Dating is currently enrolling (orientation call Dec. 13th!). Ready to date more securely & attract men who are emotionally available? Read more & apply for TASD here! Apply to work with Emily 1-1
In this episode, Emily invites Ana Eve back on the podcast to talk about why we attach so quickly and common mistakes to avoid that cause you to attach more quickly! They also announce the re-opening of the Art of Secure Dating with Black Friday bonuses! Read more via the link below! Read more and register for the Art of Secure Dating Here Apply to work with Emily 1-1
Do you ever feel like your anxiety is the problem? Like your life would be better if you didn't have it? Believe it or not, this perspective may actually be hindering your healing & making your anxiety worse! In this episode, Emily breaks down what it looks like to learn to work with your anxiety, to stop seeing it as the enemy, and to learn to actually love - yes love - your anxiety. Free training on self soothing here Apply for Attachment Alchemy here Apply to work with Emily 1-1
Not sure how to tell if it's your anxiety or your intuition talking when a voice tells you to run, to end the relationship, or that you're going to get hurt? Emily breaks down why this happens and how to tell the difference. Apply for Attachment Alchemy: https://mailchi.mp/de14c807829a/j109p21a14 Apply to work with Emily 1-1
Do you ever feel like you become a different person around guys you're interested in? Emily unpacks why this happens in this episode of Becoming Secure! Want to work with Emily 1-1? Apply for Attachment Alchemy here: https://mailchi.mp/de14c807829a/j109p21a14 Apply to work with Emily 1-1
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Have you ever completely missed it when someone lovebombed you? Today, Emily is talking about why this happens & how to catch it in the future! Apply for the Art of Secure Dating Get me free masterclass How to Attract Emotionally Available Men Apply to work with Emily 1-1
Keep attracting emotionally unavailable men? Here are some common mistakes when it comes to *how* you date that lead to attracting emotionally unavailable men! Ready to Attract Emotionally Available Men? The Art of Secure Dating starts soon! Read more and register here! Apply to work with Emily 1-1
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You've done therapy or counseling or coaching - you're super self aware...and yet you're still attracting emotionally unavailable men...In this episode Emily unpacks why that is and what the key is to shifting it! Links mentioned in podcast: Free Masterclass: How to Attract Emotionally Available Men Read all the details & register for The Art of Secure Dating Apply to work with Emily 1-1
Emily and Ana talk about where the good men are and how you can find one in this episode of Becoming Secure! Want to learn to attract an emotionally available man? Come to our free masterclass on May 31st at 2pm US Eastern Time! If you came from Emily's audience, register for the masterclass here. If you found the podcast through Ana, register for the masterclass here. Join the June 2025 cohort of Art of Secure Dating Apply to work with Emily 1-1
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