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Becoming You Again is the podcast for women who are going through divorce wanting help navigating grief, guilt, and the challenge of rediscovering who they are. Divorce Recovery Coach, Karin Nelson offers compassionate guidance, practical tools, and powerful mindset shifts to help you rebuild self-trust, reconnect with your intuition, and create emotional resilience. Each episode is a safe, supportive space that reminds you: divorce isn’t the end of your story; it’s the doorway to becoming the most authentic, confident version of yourself and creating the best of the rest of your life.
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When divorce blows up the labels you’ve lived with like that of wife, partner, the one who holds it all together, what’s left can feel confusing and unknown. That's when insecurity rears it's ugly head. In this episode, I talk about why insecurity really is...spoiler alert - it's not a feeling, but instead a belief system wired by impossible, contradictory standards. Instead of chasing confidence by changing jobs, bodies, or relationship status, I make a case for something deeper: emotional s...
Sharing a home with your soon-to-be ex can feel strange, lonely, and oddly practical all at once. We go straight at the discomfort and unpack why so many women make this choice for a season and how to support yourself emotionally and mentally through the transition period. If this conversation helps, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick rating. Want deeper support? Learn about one-on-one coaching at Karinnelsoncoaching.com. Your next chapter starts wi...
What if the fastest way to feel better after divorce wasn’t to push through and ignore the painful emotions, but to allow what’s already here? In this episode I’m going to be teaching you the most useful skill to make all of your divorce healing possible. I start by breaking down the three common ways of dealing with emotions - resisting, avoiding, reacting and explain why they keep you stuck. Then I’ll introduce the fourth option: allowance. This practical, compassionate skill teaches...
The stories we believe about divorce can keep us stuck for years. In this episode I’ll cover four of the most insidious lies that we believe about divorce. These are four lies that permeate society and typically show up due to the social systems and structures that we live in. I unpack the four common lies about divorce and replace them with grounded truths about kids’ well-being, self worth, failure, and “selfishness.” Then I offer practical tools to build stability, repair trust with...
Does making decisions make you feel anxious and confused? In this episode I go straight to the heart of decision‑making after divorce which is how to stop spinning, center your own opinion, and choose with clarity even when certainty doesn’t shows up. I give you a simple way to decide which will make your decision making after divorce oh so easy, every time. You’ll learn to replace pros and cons with personal definitions, read your body’s signals, and trust yourself to have your own ba...
Heartbreak and rejection hurts and when an ex chooses someone else, it’s easy to fall into the trap of “I wasn’t enough” or “she’s better than me.” In this episode I get honest about the stories we tell ourselves by helping you understand the brain’s need for certainty, recognizing emotional capacity as a driver of choices, and building thought ladders that replace shame with self-trust. I share practical reframes that shift the focus from comparison to clarity. Instead of reading his decisi...
Big goals feel exciting until they demand a brand-new you by Monday. I'm teaching a different route: minimum baselines which are basically tiny, consistent actions that build real momentum without solely relying on your willpower. If you’re navigating life after divorce, this approach respects your bandwidth while still moving you toward the life you want. I unpack why traditional resolutions collapse after two weeks and how the brain’s energy-saving design sabotages overnight reinventions. ...
In this episode I share a simple somatic self-holding practice that you can use anywhere to calm anxiety, quiet a racing mind, and remind your body it’s safe. This isn’t about forcing yourself to relax; it’s about giving your nervous system the cues it needs, like gentle touch, longer exhales, and compassionate words to settle into presence and rebuild trust from the inside out. We start by reframing where safety comes from and why that matters so much when you’re navigating grief, leg...
Sleepless nights aren’t just exhausting; they can make every text from an ex, every budget decision, and every co‑parenting handoff feel harder than it needs to be. I dig into why stress and rumination hijack your rest during divorce and how cortisol and adrenaline surge right when you want to drift off. Then I’ll shift to practical, evidence‑informed tools that restore a sense of safety in your body so falling asleep and staying asleep becomes more likely. I walk you through 6 steps t...
One of the most disempowering things that we do to ourselves is let everything outside of us be in charge of our emotional life. This conversation is a guide to taking your emotional life back after divorce without minimizing the hard parts. I start by untangling the thought–feeling–action loop and why confusing thoughts with feelings keeps you stuck. You’ll hear how naming a single emotion can calm your brain, what healthy detachment really looks like, and how to process emotions in yo...
A single look, a familiar tone, and suddenly your chest tightens and your jaw clenches. That immediate trigger and reminder of your ex is your body doing its best to protect you. I explore those charged moments when a child reminds you of your ex and help you figure out a path away from reactivity to reconnection, so you can parent as the parent you want to be rather than from your past wounds. You’ll learn how to realign your nervous system so clarity can return. Then you can de...
The holiday season can feel like a pressure cooker after divorce: new custody schedules, money stress, old traditions that no longer fit, and the unspoken rule that you must make it magical for everyone else. In this episode I’m offering you a different way forward. It’s one where you center yourself, protect your energy, and create a simpler, calmer season that actually feels like you. I’ll break down the difference between performance mode and centered mode and why so many of us mist...
Your brain keeps saying “you should have known better,” but your body is tired of carrying the pain from that story. Let’s get you out of the loop of replaying the past. In this episode I walk through why our minds cling to the past after divorce, how “shoulds” fuel shame and self-blame, and what it actually takes to let go in real life. I start by exposing the sneaky logic of replaying old arguments and decisions, then shift into a practical, compassionate method for release. Most imp...
When your nervous system won’t switch off, doing more rarely helps. I'm going to slow everything down with a gentle, guided windshield wiper practice that brings safety back online, one breath and one side-to-side motion at a time. This practice blends simple movement with mindful attention so your brain and body can start talking again. You've got enough bullsh!t to deal with during your divorce. Give yourself 5 minutes to center, calm and feel peace while using bilateral stimulation throug...
Control promises certainty, but then pulls that certainty right out from under you. In this episode I’m talking about the power of letting go of needing to control others and instead putting your focus on what you can control – you! You’ll learn how to stop outsourcing your emotions to an ex, stop trying to fix your kids’ feelings, and start responding with clear boundaries, reframes, and values you can rely on under pressure. I break down why the urge to control spikes after a split a...
Divorce can make it feel like your whole life is on display and everyone is talking about it. I walk you through why this judgment feels so hurtful and how it mirrors beliefs you already have about yourself. From the “good girl” script, you know be agreeable, keep the marriage at all costs, never ask for too much, to the social myths around single motherhood, we carry with us the hidden rules that fuel shame and people pleasing. I’ll teach you a simple five-minute exercise to surf...
The comparison spiral gets louder after divorce, and it can feel like your body is sounding an alarm you can’t switch off. I talk about why your brain compares in the first place, how that survival tool gets misapplied to emotional pain, and what to do when your nervous system treats a hard feeling as a life-or-death threat. Using clear examples from everyday life and social media, I’ll unpack the cultural scripts that tell you a “real family” looks one way and success only counts if it fits ...
What if the story running in your head after divorce isn’t the truth but a habit? In this episode I’m exploring how a single thought can change a feeling, reshape an action, and ultimately rewrite an outcome, then walk you through a simple, repeatable method to make that shift real – the thought ladder. You’ll learn how to build believable rungs between where you are and where you want to be, especially around pretty common topics like co-parenting and how the divorce will ...
Feeling the overwhelm of divorce? Here are nine essential practices that reduce all that unnecessary suffering and help you heal as you go through your divorce. There are nine ways to lighten the emotional load of divorce without adding more pressure, from reclaiming capability and worth to grieving well, caring for your body, and making calmer decisions. You’ll learn tools, mindset shifts, and gentle reminders help you move forward with less overwhelm. • remembering you a...
Have you ever noticed how the quiet moments hit hardest after divorce? When the kids go to their dad's house or when night falls and you're left alone with your thoughts, your mind can start spinning with memories, logistics, and the weight of your new reality. The Slow Body Swivel practice introduced in this episode offers a gentle alternative to the distractions we typically reach for like social media doom scrolling, checking out, or having that extra glass of wine. This powerful gr...
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