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Becoming You Again is the podcast for women who are going through divorce wanting help navigating grief, guilt, and the challenge of rediscovering who they are. Divorce Recovery Coach, Karin Nelson offers compassionate guidance, practical tools, and powerful mindset shifts to help you rebuild self-trust, reconnect with your intuition, and create emotional resilience. Each episode is a safe, supportive space that reminds you: divorce isn’t the end of your story; it’s the doorway to becoming the most authentic, confident version of yourself and creating the best of the rest of your life.
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In this episode I share a simple somatic self-holding practice that you can use anywhere to calm anxiety, quiet a racing mind, and remind your body it’s safe. This isn’t about forcing yourself to relax; it’s about giving your nervous system the cues it needs, like gentle touch, longer exhales, and compassionate words to settle into presence and rebuild trust from the inside out. We start by reframing where safety comes from and why that matters so much when you’re navigating grief, leg...
Sleepless nights aren’t just exhausting; they can make every text from an ex, every budget decision, and every co‑parenting handoff feel harder than it needs to be. I dig into why stress and rumination hijack your rest during divorce and how cortisol and adrenaline surge right when you want to drift off. Then I’ll shift to practical, evidence‑informed tools that restore a sense of safety in your body so falling asleep and staying asleep becomes more likely. I walk you through 6 steps t...
One of the most disempowering things that we do to ourselves is let everything outside of us be in charge of our emotional life. This conversation is a guide to taking your emotional life back after divorce without minimizing the hard parts. I start by untangling the thought–feeling–action loop and why confusing thoughts with feelings keeps you stuck. You’ll hear how naming a single emotion can calm your brain, what healthy detachment really looks like, and how to process emotions in yo...
A single look, a familiar tone, and suddenly your chest tightens and your jaw clenches. That immediate trigger and reminder of your ex is your body doing its best to protect you. I explore those charged moments when a child reminds you of your ex and help you figure out a path away from reactivity to reconnection, so you can parent as the parent you want to be rather than from your past wounds. You’ll learn how to realign your nervous system so clarity can return. Then you can de...
The holiday season can feel like a pressure cooker after divorce: new custody schedules, money stress, old traditions that no longer fit, and the unspoken rule that you must make it magical for everyone else. In this episode I’m offering you a different way forward. It’s one where you center yourself, protect your energy, and create a simpler, calmer season that actually feels like you. I’ll break down the difference between performance mode and centered mode and why so many of us mist...
Your brain keeps saying “you should have known better,” but your body is tired of carrying the pain from that story. Let’s get you out of the loop of replaying the past. In this episode I walk through why our minds cling to the past after divorce, how “shoulds” fuel shame and self-blame, and what it actually takes to let go in real life. I start by exposing the sneaky logic of replaying old arguments and decisions, then shift into a practical, compassionate method for release. Most imp...
When your nervous system won’t switch off, doing more rarely helps. I'm going to slow everything down with a gentle, guided windshield wiper practice that brings safety back online, one breath and one side-to-side motion at a time. This practice blends simple movement with mindful attention so your brain and body can start talking again. You've got enough bullsh!t to deal with during your divorce. Give yourself 5 minutes to center, calm and feel peace while using bilateral stimulation throug...
Control promises certainty, but then pulls that certainty right out from under you. In this episode I’m talking about the power of letting go of needing to control others and instead putting your focus on what you can control – you! You’ll learn how to stop outsourcing your emotions to an ex, stop trying to fix your kids’ feelings, and start responding with clear boundaries, reframes, and values you can rely on under pressure. I break down why the urge to control spikes after a split a...
Divorce can make it feel like your whole life is on display and everyone is talking about it. I walk you through why this judgment feels so hurtful and how it mirrors beliefs you already have about yourself. From the “good girl” script, you know be agreeable, keep the marriage at all costs, never ask for too much, to the social myths around single motherhood, we carry with us the hidden rules that fuel shame and people pleasing. I’ll teach you a simple five-minute exercise to surf...
The comparison spiral gets louder after divorce, and it can feel like your body is sounding an alarm you can’t switch off. I talk about why your brain compares in the first place, how that survival tool gets misapplied to emotional pain, and what to do when your nervous system treats a hard feeling as a life-or-death threat. Using clear examples from everyday life and social media, I’ll unpack the cultural scripts that tell you a “real family” looks one way and success only counts if it fits ...
What if the story running in your head after divorce isn’t the truth but a habit? In this episode I’m exploring how a single thought can change a feeling, reshape an action, and ultimately rewrite an outcome, then walk you through a simple, repeatable method to make that shift real – the thought ladder. You’ll learn how to build believable rungs between where you are and where you want to be, especially around pretty common topics like co-parenting and how the divorce will ...
Feeling the overwhelm of divorce? Here are nine essential practices that reduce all that unnecessary suffering and help you heal as you go through your divorce. There are nine ways to lighten the emotional load of divorce without adding more pressure, from reclaiming capability and worth to grieving well, caring for your body, and making calmer decisions. You’ll learn tools, mindset shifts, and gentle reminders help you move forward with less overwhelm. • remembering you a...
Have you ever noticed how the quiet moments hit hardest after divorce? When the kids go to their dad's house or when night falls and you're left alone with your thoughts, your mind can start spinning with memories, logistics, and the weight of your new reality. The Slow Body Swivel practice introduced in this episode offers a gentle alternative to the distractions we typically reach for like social media doom scrolling, checking out, or having that extra glass of wine. This powerful gr...
Feeling lonely after divorce can seem overwhelming and endless, but what if your loneliness isn't actually about being alone? In this deeply personal episode, I unpack the true nature of loneliness and why it feels so heavy when we're navigating life after divorce. The truth might surprise you: loneliness isn't caused by the absence of people. You can be physically alone without feeling lonely, and conversely, feel profoundly lonely while surrounded by family or even while married. Wha...
The emotional rollercoaster of divorce can leave us feeling like we're constantly in survival mode, reacting to every text, comment, or situation with immediate emotion rather than thoughtful response. This heightened state keeps us stuck in cycles that prevent healing and forward movement. I’m talking about this common struggle by exploring the difference between being consumed by emotions and being healthily connected to them. When we're constantly reacting from a place of ange...
Standing in your kitchen at 8 PM, staring at unwashed dishes and feeling completely overwhelmed by the simplest decisions? You're experiencing what many women face after divorce which is decision paralysis. Even when you absolutely knew ending your marriage was right, the decision fatigue that comes after can leave you questioning your ability to choose anything from breakfast options to career moves. One of my clients said, "I feel like I used all of my decision-making energy just get...
Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I guess this is just how my life is now," or "There's nothing I can do to make this better"? That's the trap of black and white thinking or all-or-nothing thinking. This is a mental habit that convinces us we have no control over our life, especially during divorce. In this episode, I dive deep into how black-and-white thinking keeps us feeling powerless and stuck in patterns that no longer serve us. When we believe there are only two options, u...
Are you constantly making excuses for your partner's behavior? Walking on eggshells in your own home? Pretending to be asleep when they come to bed? Your intuition might be trying to tell you something important about your marriage. Society conditions us to believe marriage should last forever, that we must honor our vows "for better or worse." But what happens when that conditioning keeps us trapped in relationships that harm our wellbeing or prevent us from creating genuine happiness...
Feeling like the ground beneath you has shifted after divorce? You're not alone. That sense of instability, of losing your foundation, is one of the most challenging aspects of divorce recovery. But what if reconnecting with your body could help you find your footing again? This episode of Becoming You Again explores what it truly means to feel grounded after divorce and introduces a powerful practice called "grounded sway" that can help you rebuild trust in yourself. Many women tell m...
Self-love shouldn't come with conditions, yet so many of us hold ourselves hostage to impossible standards. I’m tackling this concept of "transactional self-love" in this throwback episode. Transactional self-love are the unconscious bargains we make with ourselves, promising kindness and acceptance only after certain benchmarks are met. We've all said it: "I'll love myself when I lose weight," "I'll be kind to myself once my divorce is finalized," or "I'll accept myself when I find so...
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