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Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE

Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE

Author: Steve Moore & Mark Kastleman

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Two sex addicts in long-term successful recovery are ALSO world-class Counselors who specialize in porn and sex addiction recovery. Drawing on 40 years of combined personal and professional experience, Mark and Steve get RAW and REAL about HOW to overcome addiction, heal betrayal trauma and save your marriage. If you're struggling with addiction—we get it. Recovery is hard. We've been there. We'll help you take the fight to your addiction like never before. If you're married to an addict—we KNOW what it's like to nearly destroy a marriage! We'll help you understand the world of your husband's addiction and begin healing your betrayal trauma, regardless of what he decides to do. You don't have to stay stuck. You don't have to keep suffering. We've made all the mistakes so you don't have to. Take back your life. Take back your marriage. Let's do this together! This is the PBSE podcast.

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My Mother & Friends Think I'm Naive & Stupid for Staying with an Addict—Am I?!

My Mother & Friends Think I'm Naive & Stupid for Staying with an Addict—Am I?!

2026-09-2842:38

(Episode 352) A betrayed partner wrote to us because, although her addict partner has recently become more proactive in recovery, she worries that her mother and friends now see her as weak, naive, or stupid for staying. Her mother previously left an addicted husband and later built a stable relationship, while her friends have traditionally held a strong “if he treats you badly, leave” position. That history creates enormous pressure, but another person’s path doesn't have to become he...

He Spent Decades Secretly Lusting—Now He Says Other Women Repulse Him—Should I Believe Him?

He Spent Decades Secretly Lusting—Now He Says Other Women Repulse Him—Should I Believe Him?

2026-09-2244:17

(Episode 351) A betrayed partner wrote to us about her husband’s roughly 33-year history of hidden lust addiction and a specific sexual fixation involving women’s bodies that remained secret throughout their 15-year relationship. Since D-Day about five months ago, he has thrown himself into recovery—attending meetings, working with a sponsor and therapist, completing disclosure, doing daily check-ins, eliminating old acting-out outlets, and practicing “custody of the eyes.” Yet what tro...

"I Choose You" Means Nothing If His Eyes and Actions Keep Choosing Others!

"I Choose You" Means Nothing If His Eyes and Actions Keep Choosing Others!

2026-09-1642:26

(Episode 350) For a betrayed partner, few things are more painful than hearing, “I choose you,” while continuing to discover that her partner’s eyes, attention, sexuality, and actions are still being directed toward other women. In this episode, we address the experience of a partner who believed her addict partner was genuinely recovering from pornography and sex addiction. They studied recovery together, discussed scanning and objectification, practiced check-ins, and talked repeatedl...

His Relapses Hurt, but Ongoing Lies and Manipulation of Reality are the Real Crisis!

His Relapses Hurt, but Ongoing Lies and Manipulation of Reality are the Real Crisis!

2026-09-0841:08

(Episode 349) Relapse in pornography or sex addiction absolutely matters, but it is often not the most fundamental threat to a relationship. The deeper crisis is what happens when relapse is followed by secrecy, lying, minimizing, withholding, or manipulation of the betrayed partner’s reality. Addiction thrives in secrecy and avoidance, which is why genuine recovery must involve much more than simply stopping pornography, masturbation, or other acting-out behaviors. Sobriety without honesty c...

Is it My Job to Educate My Addict Partner about My Betrayal Trauma & My Boundaries?

Is it My Job to Educate My Addict Partner about My Betrayal Trauma & My Boundaries?

2026-08-3144:18

(Episode 348) A betrayed partner who has a history of neglect, abuse, people-pleasing, or self-abandonment may find it especially difficult to identify and defend her own wants, needs, and boundaries after betrayal. She may feel compelled to logically justify every boundary, educate her addict partner about betrayal trauma, remind him to work recovery, and provide affection even when she does not genuinely feel safe or connected. But recovery requires a healthier division of responsibil...

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