Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace

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58: 3 Steps to Manage Your Thoughts

2026-03-0510:01

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Attempts at managing your thoughts can be an exercise in futility. Yet it’s essential to maintain healthy emotions when dealing with estranged relationships. If you’re like me, you’re well on the trip to nowhere before you discover your thought process was hijacked. Have you ever started reading and all of a sudden, your thoughts have taken off in a completely unrelated direction? Well, you aren’t alone. Distractions do th...

57: Grit and Grace - 2 Steps to Conquer Estrangement

2026-03-0212:53

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Grit and Grace are two key components when you find yourself navigating an estranged relationship. Often these two attributes come later in the estrangement when you’ve suffered through many negative emotions. What if you could learn the biblical principles of grit and grace early on and shorten the cycle of emotional pain? Would you be willing to sit with God and allow him to change your perspective? Grit is the constant ...

56: Healing Brokenness

2026-02-1913:37

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Healing brokenness in an estranged relationship is a lengthy process. Today I’ll talk about three-steps that center around these attributes. Reconcile. Restore. Rebuild. You already know that reconciliation requires two parties and not everyone arrives at this decision simultaneously. Consequently, many women give up far too early. While one may not be ready right now, it doesn’t mean you can’t continue to pray...

55: Transformation and Estrangement

2026-02-1911:29

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Transformation is a beautiful word. Changing something so that its appearance is completely different and noticeable. You may wonder what this has to be with estranged relationships but stay with me. It’s a foundational principle you won’t want to miss. We’ve recently relocated and the gardening beds were unsightly. Grass had grown up into the river rock; shoots were sprouting where they weren’t supposed to and it was evident th...

51: Estrangement - Reconnecting with God

2026-02-0405:28

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Good morning, this podcast today is to introduce a slight shift in focus in my estrangement coaching podcast. There are many that deal with estranged relationships with an adult child. My experience certainly included an adult child, but it was more than that and I'm finding that many of you struggle with it too. Next generation relationships such as daughters-in-law, sons-in-law, grandkids, great grandkids and other complex fam...

21: How to Have the Hard Conversations in Estrangement

2025-01-1913:36

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement You’re hurt by words spoken to you by a close friend or family member. It’s a recurring thing. Pain permeates your soul. You may regret words you spoke or hurtful and vulnerable emotions you shared. Where does the relationship go from there? Do you walk away for good this time? Do you keep trying and reaching out? You feel like your heart can’t take much more. You’re stuck. Conflicting emotions rage inside. You love this person,...

54: Hope When Your Child Walks Away

2026-02-1709:35

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement It’s hard to have hope when your child walks away, but that is exactly where your strength lies. Without hope you’re lost. Thoughts go awry and that leads to a slippery slope you want to avoid. But it’s hard, right? When phone calls and text messages go unanswered. And they believe you are the enemy when your heart is breaking into with love for them. For me, estrangement lasted several years and more than once I lost hope...

53: A Valentine's Message for the Estranged Heart

2026-02-1310:11

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Today I have a Valentine’s Message for the Estranged Heart. If you’re listening, then it’s for you. Love is worth celebrating. And for those with an estranged relationship, it may be feelings of sadness as you reflect on love lost. Well, cheer up my friend, I have a love message for you today. No matter what you are feeling today, there is one that loves you deeply. Who has promised to never leave you. A rock that where yo...

50: Discover Peace in Estrangement

2026-01-0609:49

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement I’m one that never thought I could find peace in estrangement. Estranged relationships were on my mind constantly. Over the holidays I heard from an abundance of women who struggled with their emotions and self-worth because of estrangement with a loved one. I’m betting that you, like many others, are elated the holidays are behind you and the emotional pain goes dormant until the next trigger such as a birthday. My friend...

49: How God Works for you in Estrangement

2025-11-0307:46

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Do you wonder how God works for you in estrangement or whether he is even aware or cares? You feel like you are in the crucible with pressures mounting, emotions melting and triggers exploding. And you wonder how God could allow something so painful to linger with this person that you love. Why is their heart so hardened? These are questions that I’ve asked and I’m sure you have as well. Today let’s consider what God is sa...

48: Move on in Estrangement

2025-10-2010:28

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Move on - how many times have you heard that phrase? Wouldn’t it be easy if we could just flip a switch and close the door on hurtful relationships? For so many, the estranged relationship involves a family member, and it isn’t so easy to just walk away and close the door. So, how do you move on? I feel your pain and if you’re like me you’ve closed that door so many times, only to crack it open now and then. My husba...

47: Impacts of Estrangement

2025-10-0212:43

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Have you ever considered the impacts of estrangement in your life? Sure, you feel disappointed, resentful, angry even. You miss the person with whom you are estranged. Feeling deeply wounded, you struggle to find your footing some days. Seeking to follow God, you try to forgive only to be reminded of the wrongs and once again you deal with those negative emotions. Today, I want to go a little deeper to share the impa...

46: Surrender and Cooperation in Estrangement

2025-09-2209:05

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Surrender and cooperation are two words that helped me discover the peace I was seeking as I experienced estrangement in a relationship. Admittedly, these are not two words we readily think about. Surrender conjures up the thought of giving up control. Cooperation may not be as fearful depending on what we are being asked to cooperate with. Whatever you are struggling with today, I want to encourage you and help you discov...

45: Healing your Emotions

2025-09-1013:45

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Healing your emotions is critical when you are estranged. And its hard work that will take time and commitment. Take a moment to think about the emotions you’ve experienced in the last few days when you think about the person with whom you are estranged. Do you feel disappointed? Sadness? Anger? Resentment? Bitterness? Do you feel the need to defend yourself? Do you wonder why it happened? Do you have imaginary conve...

44: Why You're Struggling with Forgiveness

2025-08-2711:27

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement If you’re struggling with forgiveness, you aren’t alone. The truth is most everyone does. Oh, you may give lip service like I did and say you forgive, but the emotions linger. The pain comes and goes. You replay the hurt over and over so much the record is warped and scratched. Yet you really want to forgive – or you don’t. But you know that you want to get unstuck and move on. How? That’s the question that I struggled wit...

43: Learning to be Vulnerable in Estrangement

2025-08-1612:25

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Learning to be vulnerable is daunting in the best of circumstances. But when you have estranged relationships, it can be downright paralyzing. Vulnerability is akin to giving someone access to your innermost thoughts and emotions. And for good reasons, it isn’t wise to give everyone that privilege. Wisdom and discernment are critical. Timing is also a key component. You must be ready emotionally when you are re...

42: Blended Families and Estrangement

2025-08-1211:14

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Blended families and estrangement often go hand in hand. But are they more prone to estranged relationships? Research says not necessarily. However, they do face more unique challenges and that can morph into estrangement. Are you part of a blended family that is facing difficulties and even amid estrangement already? Today we’ll dive into some of the challenges you face, how to successfully navigate them and what to do when it ...

41: Limiting Core Beliefs and Estrangement

2025-07-2010:55

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Limiting core beliefs affects your mindset and your overall health. And these core beliefs in estrangement can keep you stuck and unable to get into a healthy place. Think in terms of whether I can’t, I will never, or I should. When you are in an estranged relationship it’s easy to let your mind go to extremes. If you were talking with a friend, you might notice and assure and reframe their issues. But it’s harder to do wh...

40: Who You Are Becoming is More Important than What You Do

2025-07-1311:08

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement Who you are becoming is vital in discovering peace in estranged relationships. And estrangement can lock you in a mental prison so that at times you don’t even know who you are anymore. Triggers create a response that you later regret and you are mired in guilt. At times it feels as though you take one step forward and two steps back. You wonder if you will ever get over the pain of separating from your child, sibling, or ...

39: Top 3 Causes of Estrangement

2025-07-0811:28

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement The top 3 causes of estrangement based on research studies help you understand not only why it happens but the impact on relationships. Estrangement is something that many just don’t talk about. You may perceive it as a stigma as many do. The concept of family evokes illusions of happy times, gathering for holidays and celebrations and giving and receiving support. And yet with 70 million people estranged in the western wo...

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