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Nick and Amy are the creators and owners of the Ultimate Intimacy App and brand. They dive into all the tough topics regarding sexual and emotional intimacy, and discuss the things that most couples deal with regularly in marriage, that are seldom talked about on other podcasts. They are raw, unscripted, personal, and Nick will most likely say things he will regret ;)
They have been married over 22 years and have 4 kids, 3 dogs, and share their own life experiences and trials that have helped them transform their own relationship. They are on a mission to help couples not just survive in marriage, but thrive in marriage.
Their podcast is focused on helping you find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your relationship both in and out of the bedroom. Also, for a great resource to help transform your relationship, check out the Ultimate Intimacy App at ultimateintimacy.com
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A while back, we shared a video on social media about the importance of making time for intimacy, dating, and connection in marriage. One man responded strongly, explaining that he, and many other husbands, simply did not have the “time” and felt we did not understand the realities of busy life. What followed was a conversation that went back and forth for nearly three hours, centered on his belief that there was truly no time available to connect with his wife. At one point, Amy gently point...
Ever wonder if your marriage can be fixed and repaired… or if it's too late? You’re not alone. The great news is... it's never too late, and repairing your marriage is much easier than you think by implementing the right tools and strategies. Tons of couples, and even just the spouses reach out to us asking how to repair and improve their relationships. That’s why we brought in Austin Ellis, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, to provide "the gold" on how to mend a relationship, eve...
Is curiosity the ultimate love language? On this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive deep into the power of staying curious in marriage, and why it might just be the key to emotional and sexual connection that lasts a lifetime. When you remain curious about your spouse, you notice the qualities that first drew you together, and you keep discovering new ones even if you've been married for a long time like we have. Curiosity and genuine interest prevents emotional stagn...
Nick is flying solo in this episode and dives deep with Austin Ellis, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, into what it truly means, and more importantly how to become a better man, husband, and father. This conversation is packed with insights every man and can apply. This is also a great episode for the wife to listen to as well. Austin shares actionable advice and thought-provoking perspectives that will challenge and inspire you. This is a roadmap to building stronger bonds, deeper i...
We talk about this all the time on the Ultimate Intimacy podcast — emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy go hand in hand. You can’t expect a strong sex life if you’re not emotionally connected first. For most people, especially many women desire doesn’t start in the bedroom. It starts with feeling heard, valued, and emotionally safe. If that connection is missing, sexual intimacy often disappears right along with it. That’s why when couples say, “Our intimacy isn’t where we want it to be,” w...
One of the fastest ways intimacy erodes in marriage is through assumption. We assume our spouse knows what we need. We assume they understand how we feel. We assume love means they should just “get it.” But marriage doesn’t work on mind-reading as we have talked about before, it works on communication. When we assume things, we stop asking questions. And when we stop asking questions, we stop truly knowing our spouse. Over time, those assumptions turn into unmet expectations, and unmet expect...
In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy break down how couples can stop “trying harder” and start creating real, lasting change in their marriage and good marriage goals couples should set for 2026 to help them find Ultimate Intimacy in their relationship. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1...
In many marriages, the higher-desire spouse ends up being the one who always initiates sex. Over time, that dynamic can leave the lower desire spouse feeling pressured, and the higher-desire spouse feeling unwanted or unseen. But here’s the truth: when the lower-desire spouse initiates, it can be incredibly powerful. It communicates love, desire, safety, and “you matter to me” in a way words alone never could. In this episode, Amy and Nick dive into 12 fun, flirty, and confidence-boosting way...
In most marriages (whether done intentionally or unintentionally), the lower desire spouse typically has complete control and say so when it comes to sex. They determine "if" a couple is going to have sex, "when" they are going to have sex, and everything related to sex in the relationship. Many husbands have expressed to us that they are the higher desire spouse and are scared to initiate sex with their wife for fear of rejection, having it cause an argument or conflict, and many othe...
In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we (Nick and Amy) sit down with world-renowned author and counselor Dr. Gary Chapman, best known for The 5 Love Languages. With over 20 million copies sold and translations in more than 50 languages, Dr. Chapman has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. We talk with Gary about why it’s so vital to know and speak each other’s love languages, how to keep your spouse's “love tank” full, and why listening to understand, not jus...
Even the strongest couples can fall into trap of making "common" mistakes that can slowly erode connection and intimacy. These mistakes often happen when we get complacent and think things are going well. In this episode, Nick and Amy share the top mistakes couples make, and the practical steps they used to rebuild trust and strengthen their own marriage. Whether you’re newly married or have been together for decades, this episode is packed with insights, stories, and actionable advice ...
How often do you tell yourself, or hear from your spouse the phrase "I will try harder" and things never seem to get better? Things don't get better just by trying... you have to have a game plan and start doing. In this very impactful episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we interview Nate Whitson where he reveals how to finally stop "trying" and actually start "doing" when it comes to breaking bad habits in your marriage, or in your personal life. He share the 4 things you can start doi...
Is your daily life starting to feel like a copy-paste loop? Wake up, work, errands, dishes, Netflix, sleep and repeat? Feeling like the movie ground hog day? Do you feel bored in your life and marriage. You’re not alone, MANY couples feel this exact same way. In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into a wonderfully practical and hope-filled conversation based on a fantastic blog article written by our good friend Nate Klemp, co-author of The 80/80 Marriage. Whether y...
Are you unknowingly putting your marriage on hold while you pour everything into parenting? In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy break down the 7 signs that your kids may be taking priority over your relationship. Are your decisions centered around your kids’ schedules and activities? Do date nights rarely happen because you’re “too busy”? Do you feel guilty spending time alone together even though it hardly ever happens? Is there no time or energy left for your spou...
We have discussed in previous episodes the impact social media and our addictions to our screens is having on our marriages and relationships. In this episode, Nick and Amy interview Nate Klemp who is in the process of writing a new book titled "OPEN: Finding Freedom in a Screen Addicted and Divided World" which was released in 2024. We discuss many of the damaging effects our screens are causing to our marriages and to society. If you want to get a copy of this book, you can find it on the a...
DESIRE DECEMBER is here and this is exactly what your marriage needs. I don't know what kind of write up to do to explain what this episode is.. so you will just have to listen to the podcast episode to find out :) If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings an...
Do you find yourself getting jealous because your spouse gives more attention to the kids, their phone, or even the dogs? Does everything else seem to take priority over your marriage? Or are you feeling jealousy due to some of the things that your spouse does? Jealousy in marriage is more common than we admit, and it can quietly erode even the strongest relationships. Jealousy causes resentment and frustration which can continue to grow. In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we e...
Ever wonder why you and your spouse feel distant by the end of the day? It might have nothing to do with big issues and everything to do with your evening and bedtime routine. In this episode, we share some very simple things that our audience shared from our Instagram survey, like spending 30 minutes talking, putting phones away at 8, cuddling, or praying together, small habits that can be marriage changing. These intentional moments help you connect emotionally, spark intimacy, and en...
A video of ours recently went viral showing husbands sitting in their cars after work, and it sparked a huge conversation, why do some men need these few minutes before coming inside? Sometimes home can feel heavier than work, and that moment in the car gives a pause to transition from stress to family life. In this episode, we dive into how wives, and husbands, can create a peaceful, positive home environment that encourages connection, calm, and intimacy. We also discuss how the oppos...
In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we’re diving into a topic we honestly never expected to cover, but It’s one of the most vulnerable, painful, and confusing issues couples face, yet it’s far more common than most people realize. Over the past year, we’ve received countless messages from both husbands and wives who feel distressed, ashamed, or completely lost because their attraction toward their spouse has changed, or they say they aren't attracted to them anymore and don't kn...
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Being that me and my wife didn't kiss until the altar we are 100% kissing more now than when we were dating but I won't say it's a ton. After listening to this I think I will be adding to the quota lol