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Marriage can be really tough, especially when it feels like you are struggling alone.
Welcome to the Marriage Unmasked Podcast where certified marriage and life coaches, Adam and Cara Nitz, share real, raw, honest conversation about topics you are dealing with in your marriage.
We want to help you take your marriage from painful to peaceful, get deeply connected to your spouse and live fully loved by God and each other.
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Marriage isn't just to "make you holy." It's also designed for pleasure. Too often, marriage becomes about responsibilities, routines, and keeping peace rather than cultivating joy. We learn to manage pain but when do we intentionally pursue pleasure? In this episode, discover why pursuing pleasure isn’t optional; it’s a vital ingredient in building a marriage that lasts. If your marriage feels more like a partnership than a passion, or if you’ve ever wondered where the spark went, this...
What happens when physical closeness no longer feels natural or even welcome? When hugs feel forced. Kisses fade. And the space between you grows quieter and heavier than either of you ever expected? In this episode, we talk honestly about what it’s like when a couple drifts out of physical connection, not with shame or blame, but with compassion for both hearts involved. For wives, it may feel like pressure, overwhelm, or exhaustion have slowly stolen affection. For husbands, it may feel lik...
"I'm blamed for everything." "Nothing I ever do is good enough." "I'm the only one trying." When marriage gets painful it feels like survival mode and the thoughts and stories we repeat in our heads can cause us to feel stuck and hopeless. In this episode we identify a common problem in hurting marriages: The victim mindset. We unpack how victim thinking subtly steals power, intimacy and responsibility from both spouses and why healing doesn't begin with assigning blame, but with ...
Every marriage has tension. Every couple has conflict. But many couples wonder is this "normal" or a "red flag?" In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we talk honestly about the difference between normal marital challenges and true red flags that need immediate attention. If you feel confused about how serious your marriage struggles really are, this episode will help you slow down, gain perspective, and respond with truth, courage, and hope. Even having "red flag" struggles in marriage doesn...
Many wives carry a quiet ache in their marriage over needs that go unmet and hopes that go unrealized. And many husbands want to love their wives well and meet those needs, but feel confused, overwhelmed, or discouraged trying to do just that. In this episode, we’re unmasking five core needs wives have that often go unmet not because a man doesn’t care, but because he may not see the deeper layer beneath her emotions, her reactions, or her silence. This conversation is for women who feel unse...
Many husbands walk through marriage carrying unspoken needs, and too often, their wives are left confused, wondering why he pulls back, shuts down, or says he's “fine” while something deeper is going on underneath. In this episode, we unmask five needs every man often carries quietly. It's an honest, compassionate look at what’s really happening inside a man’s heart and how inner healing and shifts in understanding can reconnect a marriage in powerful ways. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood a...
Why do our differences feel magnetic in dating, but maddening in marriage? Have you ever had thoughts like, "Why are we so different? This shouldn't be this hard." "I feel unseen, misunderstood, and exhausted by our differences." Or "Maybe we're just not compatible anymore." There is hope! In this episode, we dive into the truth behind the phrase “opposites attract.” Is that really true? Find out how differences don’t have to pull you apart, they can help grow you for deeper intimacy, m...
Have you ever had a simple conversation suddenly turn into defensiveness, shutting down, walking away, or a full-blown argument? Maybe you've been feeling unheard or unseen for a long time or maybe your spouse says you’re “too sensitive" or it seems like every explanation you give seems to make things worse, not better. Most couples aren’t “bad at communicating.” They’re just missing one essential skill that creates safety in every hard conversation: validation. In this episode, we’re unpacki...
You love your family. You want peace, but every time your in-laws overstep, you feel that knot in your stomach tighten. You start wondering, "How do I honor parents without betraying my spouse? How do we draw lines without a blow up?" This episode is for every couple caught in that tension. We unpack what healthy boundaries look like with in-laws, why it’s so hard to set them (especially when guilt or fear of rejection is involved), and how to communicate them wisely. You’ll learn how to prot...
You did the “right” thing. You waited. You honored God, you went into marriage believing that obedience would lead to awesome intimacy. But now, after months or years, you’re realizing that sex can still be complicated, confusing, or even painful. In this honest episode, we dig into why sexual connection isn’t always automatic, even when a couple has honored God with purity before marriage. We explore the physical, emotional barriers that can show up and how God can use even this struggle to ...
Have you ever looked at your spouse and thought, “How did we get here?” You’re in the same house, but it feels like you’re miles apart. You reconnect for a moment only to have it fall apart all over again. Chronic disconnection is incredibly painful. The spark is gone. Conversations feel forced. You wonder if you'll ever feel close again. In this episode, we’re unpacking the top 7 things that cause disconnection in marriage. From emotional shutdowns to hidden resentment, from u...
What do you do when you realize you just don’t like your spouse right now? You still love them. You’re still committed. It's just that what they say and do rubs you the wrong way. You feel disconnected, irritated, maybe even repulsed. You’ve prayed, you’ve tried to fix it, or ignore it, but the feeling lingers. Every marriage experiences times and even seasons where the dislike settles in. This episode will give you some insight into what's going on under the surface and how to he...
You're bending over backwards trying to "keep the peace" “do whatever it takes to make her happy,” or "trying to beg or control him so he gives you the love you crave." But when your sense of worth, peace, or identity rises and falls based on your spouse’s emotions or approval, you’ve crossed from love into idolatry. You're trying to fill a need or a hole that only God can truly fill. In this episode we talk through how you can identify this dynamic, move out of it and stay focused on the onl...
What do you do if your spouse refuses to budge? It can be incredibly aggravating when compromise seems impossible. In this episode of Marriage Unmasked we dig into why your spouse might be digging their heels in and refusing to compromise. What deeper issues might be driving this apparent stubbornness? We offer several ways to navigate this with wisdom so that this dynamic can be an opportunity for a deeper bond instead of a battle for control. Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.com ...
Conflict can either break you down or bring you closer. In this episode, we share five powerful lessons we’ve learned through the struggles, arguments, and tensions in our own marriage. These lessons have reshaped the way we approach disagreement and helped us create a healthier way of handling conflict. Whether you’re in constant battles with your spouse, or you just want to sharpen your skills for the next hard moment, these lessons will give you hope and practical steps. Grab f...
The weight of managing the home can feel like an endless cycle of stress, frustration, and burnout. One person often feels like they’re carrying more than their share, while the other may feel underappreciated or misunderstood. Learn why unseen emotional and mental burdens matter just as much as chores, how to start communicating about this dynamic in a healthy way and practical ways to navigate the stress together. Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.com Free Leadership S...
Do you have what it takes or not? Every man knows the sting of wondering if he’s measuring up in his marriage. Maybe you’ve felt the pressure of your wife’s expectations, the weight of your own failures, or the constant nagging voice that says, “You’re not enough.” In this episode I'm talking directly to the men. I’ll share 7 powerful truths that every husband needs to hear when shame, doubt, and discouragement try to take over. Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.com Free Leadership ...
Have you ever felt like the more you give in your marriage, the less you’re respected or valued? Maybe you’ve been told that being a "good husband" or “good wife” means saying yes no matter what, sacrificing your needs, and keeping the peace at all costs. But instead of creating connection, it’s left you drained and resentful. In this episode, we tackle the lie that boundaries are unloving or unbiblical. The truth? God designed boundaries. They’re not about pushing your spouse away, the...
Many marriages today are stuck in a quiet tug-of-war, wives stepping up because they feel they have to, and husbands pulling back because they don’t know where they fit in. The result? Both end up in exhaustion, resentment, and a disconnection that no amount of “date nights” can fix. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of “I’ll just do it myself” while longing for your husband to step up, OR if you’re a husband who wants to lead but nothing you do seems good enough, this conversation will ...
Money fights in marriage aren’t really about dollars and cents, they’re about control, trust, and fear. In this episode of Marriage Unmasked, we’re getting to the heart of why finances can feel like a battlefield in your marriage and how to start creating safety, teamwork, and unity, even if you don’t agree on every purchase or budget decision. Grab free marriage resources: thewayforlove.com Join REFINED Adam's online men's community Cara's Free Masterclass: 5 Ways to Communicate Your N...
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