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Parenting advice on-the-go, with fun episodes that will make you laugh, cry, and feel better armed to be the parent you want to be! No punishments, rewards, or ultimatums required. (they’re actually discouraged).
Join your host Andee Martineau, founder of the breakthrough parenting framework Connect Method Parenting, as she helps parents discover why their kids don’t listen and shows them the step-by-step process of regaining influence and building relationships that will last a lifetime!
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This week, we are exploring what it really means to practice gratituding in the moment you are in. I’ll show you how shifting out of “life will feel better when…” into “this moment matters right now” can change your entire emotional experience. Together, we will look at why it doesn’t get better than this, not because everything is perfect, but because the present is the only place your brain can regulate, create, and feel steady. This episode is full of practical, science-backed ways to use ...
This week, I'm talking about one of the most important emotional skills we can build as parents. I call it Uncertainty Tolerance. After a long Thanksgiving trip, a shut-down freeway, a surprise snowstorm, and a mountain of homemade pies, I found myself thinking about how much of parenting happens in the middle. The middle is the space where we have planted seeds and are waiting for results. The space where we want to feel calm and capable, but instead find ourselves worrying, predicting disas...
In this episode, we’re talking about something that sits at the heart of connected parenting: your emotional capacity. Your ability to feel your own emotions directly shapes how you help your children navigate theirs. I’m sharing the exact moment a client realized why she kept snapping at her kids, and how one shift opened the door to calmer, more connected parenting. We’ll walk through what emotional capacity really means, why it matters so much, and how to grow it in practical, doabl...
In this episode, I’m diving into something you probably didn’t realize is shaping your parenting every single day…the quiet questions running in the background of your brain. Most parents think the problem is their kids’ behavior. But so much of what we experience as “hard parenting moments” comes from the questions we’re unconsciously asking ourselves—questions like: Why can’t they just listen?What’s wrong with me?Why is everything so hard?And here’s the kicker: Your brain will always answer...
In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most powerful tools you already have but probably aren’t using enough: redeciding. Redeciding is the moment you pause, question the default, and choose again—on purpose. It’s how you reinvent yourself, your parenting, your routines, and your reactions… without blowing up your whole life. I share a few recent moments that pushed me to look at my old stories (like “I’m bad at tech” or “I can’t learn new things”) and what changed when I stopped bel...
The people who transform their lives? They're not smarter than you. They're not more motivated. They're not reading more books or listening to more podcasts. They're the ones showing up every single week to get coached on their real life. Here's what I've discovered after seven years of teaching Connect Method Parenting: you can understand every concept I teach and still find yourself yelling when your kid won't put their shoes on Tuesday morning. There's this massive gap between knowing what...
This episode is one I've been wanting to do for a while because thought work is truly the foundation of everything we do in Connect Method Parenting. And I know "thought work" might sound intimidating or like some woo-woo concept, but I promise you—it's the most practical, life-changing tool you can have as a parent. The biggest problem isn't that we go into fight or flight. Nope...it's that we never come OUT of fight or flight. And that's exactly what thought work helps us change. I'm sharin...
Today we’re talking about what it really means to guide your child through big emotions. Not fix them. Not rush them. Just guide them. Think of yourself as the traffic director for your child’s emotions. You’re not trying to stop the traffic. You’re not trying to control it. You’re there to help it move safely in the right direction. In this episode, we’ll talk about: Why your child’s emotions aren’t problems to solveHow to know when to help them change the situation or when to help them chan...
Today we are talking about one of my favorite topics ever, the roots of attachment. Nature’s answer to separation is not independence. It is connection. Deep, steady, invisible roots that help our kids and us hold on even when we are apart. In this episode, I talk about the six layers of attachment that Dr. Gordon Neufeld describes, from the first root of the senses all the way down to being fully known and loved for who we are. We talk about: How attachment deepens each year of a child...
We talk a lot about emotions, regulation, and connection—but underneath all of it is belief. What we believe about ourselves, our kids, and what’s possible determines everything that follows. In this episode, I dive into the discipline of belief—the conscious, daily practice of choosing thoughts that align with who you’re becoming instead of who you’ve been. We’ll talk about why your nervous system clings to old stories, how to rewire it with kindness, and what it really takes to believe some...
This week we’re talking about weakness. The parts of us we try to hide, fix, or wish away. But what if weakness isn’t bad? What if it’s actually where our strength grows? In this episode, I talk about how being hard on yourself never helps, how to see your weak spots with kindness, and why loving all parts of you makes you a calmer, happier parent. You’ll learn how to: Stop beating yourself up when you mess upSee your weakness as a teacherFeel strong even when you don’t feel perfectThis one i...
If attachment (or togetherness) is the ultimate need, then facing separation is the ultimate threat. Wild, right? In this episode, I’m diving into what that really means, why connection is the invisible gravity holding us (and our kids) together, and how the brain’s built-in systems for pursuit, alarm, and frustration kick in anytime that togetherness feels shaky. We’re talking meltdowns, clinginess, people-pleasing, all of it, through a totally new lens. You’ll start seeing that what looks l...
This is one of my favorite topics to teach: the powerful emotional journey from mad to sad. In this episode, I talk about what Dr. Gordon Neufeld calls the path of adaptation, the incredible shift from frustration and resistance to sadness and surrender. I’ll walk you through the “traffic circle” of big emotions, how our brains look for exits when things don’t go our way, and why the second exit, the one where we change ourselves instead of the situation, is where emotional growth actually ha...
Parenting isn’t tidy. It’s muddy, unpredictable, and sometimes really uncomfortable. In this episode, I’m talking about what it means to come alongside your child, especially when their choices, emotions, or beliefs stretch you in ways you didn’t expect. We’ll explore how to stay close when everything in you wants to pull away, how to listen with curiosity instead of control, and how to build a relationship that can hold steady through the chaos, confusion, and change that come with raising g...
What if everything you've been doing to become a better parent has been backwards? In this raw, real episode, I share a powerful revelation from my kitchen reorganization weekend (and a real-time call from my sick daughter) that changes everything about how we approach parenting goals. You'll discover why your to-do lists and behavior strategies keep falling short—and the inside-out approach that actually creates lasting change. The Do-Have-Be Trap: The exhausting cycle of trying to prove you...
I've shared these ideas across 100+ episodes, but I wanted them all in one place. These are the concepts that make Connect Method Parenting different, the foundation of everything we do inside League and what I teach on this podcast. I'm going through them fairly quickly in this episode, so if you want to go deeper on any of these, search the podcast or come ask me inside League during office hours. In this episode: Connection is your most powerful tool (and your child's most essential need)W...
What does it mean to be a compassionate alpha as a parent? It’s not about being harsh or domineering, and it’s not about being passive or permissive either. It’s about finding that steady, sturdy ground between strength and warmth. In this episode, I unpack the term Compassionate Alpha (learned from Dr. Gordon Neufeld) and share why kids need a parent who can lead with both firmness and kindness. You’ll hear why being “too soft” spikes a child’s anxiety, why being “too hard” erodes trust, and...
Most parenting advice skips straight to tactics: new charts, new scripts, new strategies. And for a while, they might work. But if you’ve ever thought, “Why did I yell again? Why did I get so frustrated even though I promised I wouldn’t?”—you’ve bumped into the truth: behavior is downstream of being. In this episode of the Connect Method Parenting Podcast, I’ll show you why strategies only work as well as the state you bring to them. Change doesn’t last because you tried harder—it lasts becau...
Most of us don’t realize it, but we slip into getting attention from our kids — measuring our worth by their cooperation, moods, or so-called “good behavior.” When they listen, help out, or show up happy, we feel validated. When they resist, melt down, or push back, we question ourselves. In this episode, Andee unpacks the crucial difference between getting attention and giving it — the kind of steady, present, high-quality connection that doesn’t depend on how kids are acting. You’ll hear wh...
Today’s vibe: totally different—and kind of wild. I pressed a little “Create audio summary” button inside NotebookLM (after loading my CMP book + Pivot material), and it generated a 20-minute conversation distilling Connect Method Parenting using only my sources. I listened and thought: ok, parents ask me for this kind of quick, clear overview all the time…so I’m sharing it with you as a bonus episode. You’ll hear: The core pain point from thousands of parent notes: “I hate yelling. It feels ...
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