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A Cambridge PhD sociologist's intimate, no-BS talk about love, family and everything in between.
Join Dr. Sandy To, marriage and family sociologist and author of the acclaimed book, China’s Leftover Women: Late Marriage among Professional Women and its Consequences (Routledge), featured in TIME, CNN, BBC, and more, for no-BS conversations about the stuff that really matters: dating as a high-powered career woman, finding a marriage partner over 30, who's doing the work in the marriage, what's the catch on motherhood and fertility etc.
Whether you're single and skeptical, married and mystified, or parenting through chaos...Let's sort life, one chat at a time! ✨
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Send a text In this special Chinese New Year episode of Love & Life Sorted, Dr. Sandy To sits down with Edith, who has lived harmoniously with her mother-in-law for over 5 years — sharing the same home and working in the family business! While many dread in-law conflicts, especially during family gatherings like Chinese New Year, Edith shares her practical secrets: understanding generational differences, minimal compromise to keep peace, treating in-laws like your own parents, having enou...
Send a text Join Dr. Sandy To on "Love and Life Sorted" for a heartfelt Valentine's Day special featuring her first-ever male guest – her husband Justin! In this intimate episode, they celebrate their 10-year wedding anniversary, coinciding with the rare overlap of Valentine's Day and Chinese New Year. From their whirlwind romance and quick decision to marry, to the joys and challenges of early parenthood, shared adventures like skiing in Finland, and discovering new sides of each other. Just...
Send us a text Welcome to the Year of the Horse 2026 – a powerful, fast-moving, fiery year that brings massive forward momentum, especially for women over 30! 🐎🔥 In this episode of Love and Life Sorted, Dr. Sandy To explains why 2026 is not just another zodiac year — it marks the beginning of Period 9 (2024–2044), the 20-year Feng Shui cycle ruled by Fire energy that strongly favors mature women, emotional intelligence, soft skills, work-life balance, and authentic human connection in an incr...
Send us a text Join Dr. Sandy To on Love and Life Sorted as she dives into the secrets of astrological sign compatibility to help singles find their ideal partner in 2026. With Chinese New Year ushering in the energetic Year of the Horse on February 17, discover why "opposites attract" is a myth and how matching elements (earth, fire, air, water) in astrology can lead to lasting harmony. From sun signs like Virgo and Cancer to deeper insights on moon, Venus, and Mars placements, learn practic...
Send us a text In this inspiring episode of Love and Life Sorted, host Dr. Sandy To chats with Maria, who shares her uplifting story of finding love again after ending a 23-year marriage. Maria shares her journey of finding love again on Bumble, the importance of self-awareness and low expectations in online dating, and how she reinvented her life with a new career in executive coaching. Discover practical advice on attracting positive relationships, navigating blended families, and embracing...
Send us a text In this heartfelt episode of "Love and Life Sorted," host Dr. Sandy To sits down with fellow mom and high school friend, Julia to dive into the world of making friends as a full-time mom. From the challenges of forming new connections after having a family to the joys and pitfalls of "school mom" friendships, they share real stories and insights on why it's tough to align life stages with old friends and how school becomes the prime spot for new bonds. Julia opens up about her ...
Send us a text Kick off 2026 with powerful manifestation techniques to turn your dreams into reality! In this uplifting episode of Love and Life Sorted, Dr. Sandy To shares her personal story of manifesting love, career success, and more over the past decade, inspired by books like "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne and "SynchroDestiny" by Deepak Chopra. Reflecting on the 10-year anniversary of her book "China's Leftover Women," Dr. To reveals how she wrote down her top 10 desires in 2015—and watch...
Send us a text Join Dr. Sandy To, author of the groundbreaking book China's Leftover Women: Late Marriage Among Professional Women and Its Consequences (now celebrating its 10th anniversary), as she launches her exciting new podcast Love and Life Sorted! In this special bonus episode, Dr. To shares her personal journey into podcasting after nearly two decades of research on highly educated, accomplished women facing challenges in finding suitable partners. Discover why more women than ever ar...
Send us a text Ever wondered what happens when a high-powered career woman quits her 20-year job in investment banking to become a full-time mom of three—and relocates to Australia? In this raw and inspiring episode, my high school bestie Kitty shares her drastic life transition: from thriving in auditing and legal/compliance roles with helpers handling everything, to hands-on parenting, learning to cook, and navigating postpartum challenges abroad. We dive deep into mom guilt, missing career...
Send us a text In this episode of Love and Life, Sorted, Dr. Sandy To dives deep into one of the most debated dating questions: “Should women make the first move?” Drawing from classic advice in "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider (why letting men pursue women matters) and modern insights from "Date-onomics" and “Make Your Move” by Jon Birger (why empowered women need to be more proactive in today's competitive market), Dr. To shares a balanced "yes AND no" approach. Learn practic...
Send us a text Are you feeling stuck in your job, drained by overwork, or wondering what’s next in mid-career or as you approach retirement? In this episode of Love & Life Sorted, Dr. Sandy To shares her raw experience attending the exclusive pilot “Designing Your Work Life” workshop in Hong Kong – based on the New York Times bestselling book Designing Your Life by Stanford professors Bill Burnett & Dave Evans. You’ll discover: Why the end of the year is the perfect time for a total l...
Send us a text Which type of woman are you when it comes to love, career, and marriage? In this episode, Dr. Sandy To breaks down the 4 female archetypes in today’s dating world: Traditionalist, Maximizer, Satisficer, and Innovator – and reveals exactly how each type approaches finding a partner, money, career, and family. Discover why some women happily become housewives only if the husband is the breadwinner (Traditionalist); the proactive “Maximizer” women who are more strategic and proact...
Send us a text In this eye-opening episode of Love and Life Sorted, Dr. Sandy To dives deep into the rise of women as primary breadwinners in modern relationships. Explore the challenges of gender role reversal, including resentment, housework imbalances, and emasculation fears. Learn about "deviance neutralization techniques" from classic sociology research, real-life stories of boss wives, and the difference between involuntary and voluntary breadwinners (aka, Satisficers). Discover practic...
Send us a text In this episode of Love and Life, Sorted (formerly Date Right 4 Your Type), we dive into the controversial question: How old is too old to have a child? Drawing from a real Hong Kong case of a 58-year-old woman welcoming her second baby, we explore the challenges of late pregnancy, including declining energy levels, limited time with your kids, and the emotional burden on children. We discuss fertility journeys, biological clocks, egg freezing, adoption options, and why waiting...
Send us a text On this Singles' Day (11.11) episode of Love & Life, Sorted (previously Date Right 4 Your Type), Dr. Sandy To reveals why matchmaking is the most successful way to find a lifelong partner—outperforming random encounters, dating apps, and rom-com "meet-cutes." Discover the R.A.E. framework: Reliability (vetted character to avoid frauds like the Tinder Swindler), Accuracy (matching exact criteria like height, income, or zodiac signs), and Exclusivity (headhunter-style intros ...
Send us a text In this heartfelt episode of "Date Right for Your Type," Dr. Sandy To dives deep into the raw realities of motherhood for career women. From the long journey to finding a partner and starting a family, to the shocking loss of self-identity when you're suddenly just "someone's mom," Dr. To shares her personal struggles with mom guilt—from hyperthyroidism in pregnancy and breastfeeding challenges to the loneliness of full-time caregiving and the tough decision to return to work. ...
Send a text In this episode of "Date Right 4 Your Type," Dr. Sandy To dives into the age-old debate: Is it wrong to go for the rich guy? Exploring popular romcoms like "The Materialists" starring Dakota Johnson, and "Sweet Home Alabama" with Reese Witherspoon, we uncover why women often end up choosing “love” over “money” in relationships, and why they never seem to coexist. Contrast this with classics like "Pretty Woman" and "Maid in Manhattan," where marrying rich is celebrated. Learn about...
Send us a text In this eye-opening episode of "Date Right 4 Your Type," Dr. Sandy To dives into the age-old debate: Who should pay on a date? Sparked by a recent viral Hong Kong story where a man abandoned his date with a staggering $10,000 bill (including a $9,000 bottle of Krug champagne) on their very first meetup, we explore the controversy surrounding dating etiquette, splitting the bill, and traditional values in today's world. Dr. To argues why men should pay for initial dates to demon...
Send us a text Discover how to approach dating as an undercover mission with Dr. Sandy To on "Date Right 4 Your Type." Learn why downplaying your accomplishments can help you build genuine connections and avoid intimidating potential partners. In this episode, Dr. To shares expert strategies for accomplished women to let their personality shine first, drawing from real-life stories and practical tips like the Maximizer approach. Tune in to unlock the secrets to meaningful relationships and av...
Send us a text Have you ever been on a date that you thought went really well and you were 89% sure it was heading toward something meaningful? Except he didn’t ask you out again… The reason is - you were too accomplished for him! Struggling to find Mr. Right as a highly educated, successful woman? In this episode of Date Right for Your Type, Dr. Sandy To explores why accomplished women face dating challenges, including how men’s intimidation can derail promising connections. Learn why ...
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